yes!

Much respect in this comment, just remember that investment goes both ways if you’re not investing in them in their eyes they may not invest in you in a way that you see it. I believe in investment and communication and truth and the ability to have difficult conversation with compassion and understanding.

this is something I learned a couple weeks ago with a girl. I tried a little too hard and things weren't escalating. Since she didn't put in as much as I did, it's a telling sign that things wouldn't work out.

That's great if you really like her too.

I tried too hard with this one guy then he turned sour:( so never again would I try so hard.

THIS was a hard lesson to learn.

@@Chris-0113 Amen....

I learned that on dating sites.

@@hydra1854 You 'swiped it' in other words....

@@atticstattic. Sounds like you're calling me a hypocrite, and I get that. But, no, its nots the same. And if you don't get that, you're either still in your ho phaze, or have very little experience on dating sites. Either way, Good look brother.

Fact

@@nataliegilbert9122 Yes

wisdom

Nailed it

Wow. This hit me hard. Thank you!

don't work harder work smarter

Truely correct. So many of us do relate.

Life doesnt become any easier, we just get stronger and more resilient

This made me think of the person I’m seeing

@@krispy770 think I'd rather it be a tad easier lmao but I agree with you

Guts theme starts playing Anyways it's true To live the life you must struggle

Equality

Some of you are confused.

@@pierrebernard7665 Well. Considering that neb are often the ones investing more into females than the other way around, yes, she should be the one to treat you like a king first, then you reciprocate

@@susuilu How so? 🤔

@@pierrebernard7665 So how do relationships work, then? Enlighten me. If you don't invest into your partner in some way, then...they're not a partner, they're just a roommate at that point. I think you're looking at this from an emotional standpoint, not a logical one

Bulls*** you just not that attractive for them thats why

Shining ❤️

copium

No. If you are constantly rejected you are probably the problem

Is this a sunburn analogy?

the other way round is better. if not just let it be.

It sucks because a man feeling comfortable with a woman is viewed as boring or weak

An amazing and frank true. Valuable bravery you had on sharing it

i totally dissagree! I see plenty of women/girls being taught how they should be treated by men! 'he should be ready to do everything for you because you exist!' is being repeated to death pretty much at this point to any girl that is willing to open her ears.

I wasn't taught how to treat women. I was taught how not to treat women. Whilst women are taught to have zero accountability by using emotions to escape any critique.

Someone is bitter lol

@@SYSLOVE someone is entilted & felt the pinch, lol. Your games are being exposed. Haha

Yessss!!

Kind of but not really. Men and women grow but in different ways. That needs to be recognized and it’s not here, which will always lead to a failed relationship.

@@dr.winstonsmith That's a good point but I don't think this video was suggesting we grow in equal ways. For me, I simply need to know that my partner is invested in their own growth. Complacency is an all-too common death knell for any relationship.

@@dr.winstonsmith That's a good point but I don't think this video was suggesting we grow in equal ways. For me, I simply need to know that my partner is invested in their own growth. Complacency is an all-too common death knell for any relationship.

Now that's what I'm talking about

Success isn’t given it’s earned. But yes keep grinding!!!🤙🏼

@@jick7407 love that!

thanks LeBeouf

Lets be real. No suger coating it. Reality is, in modern day, life is gotten fast paced and more people have become self centered narcissists. A narcissistic society (lovers of self) can't recognize it because it's all about themselves. Caught up in their own lies of backwards thinking. The very few have the intelligent insight to see this reality as it really is. It's sad that society has blinded it self from truth.

Yes brother! hustle grind never sleep grind follow dream and hustle live best life never quit! 💯💯🔥🔥

Best comment I’ve read today.

💯 man, was going to say exactly this. ‘Nice guys’ aren’t nice, they’re manipulative and think they will get rewarded for acting nice and then turn completely when they don’t get what they think they are owed. Good guys treat themselves and others with respect and are nice to people because that’s who they are, not because they expect something in return for it.

Good people Still get used by everyone else even if you are "good" so do you just expect good people to just take it and move on or?

@@adambaker6794 Being a good guy is about having respect for yourself. Not being a pushover.

@@joshua5857 ahh so it's more of a difference of definition at this point that's where my confusion stems

I urge everyone to start somewhere now no matter how small, this is literally the time for that, forget material things, don't get tempted,i became more better the moment i realized this.

You're right, but any Investment without a proper guidance and experience is suicidal.

Profitable Investment one can do now convenantly at this moment are. : Estate : forex : Stocks market

Forex trading is really profitable, investing in it now will be the wisest thing to do especially with the current rise in bitcoin.

Obviously often times we just look for what to invest in and usually encounter these problems. It's either the money is too huge for what I want to invest or it could require more than expected.

I agree

I feel the exact same way. And it's so freeing.

That’s a good mindset to have

So true.

Good man. What languages are you learning ?

@@alexanderfield3935 currently Greek and Dutch. Most of my family/ ancestry are both.

I'm claiming and speaking today that I will, God bless🤞🏿

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Going back to school boys.

Chain breaker

nope. lots of poor families out there

I feel like social media exposes us to greater people who can command greater admiration than we most likely could feel towards the common people around us. This begs the question: can a "queen" still notice us average people since everyone is so desensitized to feelings of admiration/adoration?

You as a male shouldnt get involved with a women until you've 30 and achieved something. Listen to fresh and fit, Rollo....etc

This! Average looking 20 something yearold chicks have as many or more options than a alpha chad. How many options do you think a pretty 21 year-old physical prime chick has? Endless! Guys dont hit their peak til after 30. Reason being, our looks mean very little comparison to a chicks. We start out with no value, and have to earn. Women are born with value and lose it with age and poor life choices. If I can go back 10 years with the knowledge I have today, I would be a high value millionare. Instead, I'm a good looking 30 something with a weak career and limited options. Chase money, not women.

I am not happy just alone a lot. I’ve had 3 marriages. One passed away. I crave good connection with respect and care. I give out quality love and like to receive it. No shame in being real

@@robertrichards4930 I wish I knew that 40 years ago🙁

Facts. I left my abusive home life at 17, as soon as I had graduated HS, and I haven’t looked back. But a decade later I’m still discovering breaks and bends in myself that I didn’t know existed. Some people should never be parents.

Yeah, my dad died when I was 14, and now at 33 I still can't get a girl to save my life. One crappy relationship a decade ago, still haven't figured it out. You're definitely not wrong.

@@jacobk5451 my story is similar, left home with 18, no HS diploma, no money, got a creepy job at a fast food restaurant. Moved to a sales job, finished career parallel HS, later college, moved up in ranks and today I’m far ahead in career & money. However, there is the feeling I missed out so much in life because of bad upbringing. My mother is a train wreck, even today being 75… 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

@@danieldpa8484 I definitely feel for you. It helps to remember that we're lucky, and at least we get to experience those freedoms and challenges as our own persons. I know my mom will never be as happy as me, and while I'm still struggling, at least I'm doing much better than her. Just how I've come to look at it over time.

Funny this video talked about entitlement of blaming your partner instead of looking at yourself. And here you are, blaming your MOTHER for you personal relationship issues. Unbelievable. How arrogant and insecure. It's on YOU.

The previous generation screwed over the world by trying to get rid of "toxic masculinity". Unfortunately, this led to a generation of unmasculine men. And it turns out masculine men are needed as fathers for society to not implode.

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I totally agree with you brother. Feminism has allowed women with twisted mind behave ridiculously and its accepted with todays society's norm. And some women nowadays are just beautiful on the outside. - But my quest is over as im engaged with a wonderful woman who has respected every aspect of my individuality and I couldnt help but reciprocate it even more to her. - I hope you find that wonderful Queen who will treat you as her King! God speed to you man

I thought I was the only one who thought like this

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Eh, honestly I think there's a problem with that whole line of thinking. It's not about being a 'nice guy', but about being a good person. If you hold open doors because you're being considerate to whoever comes after you, that's a very different thing than holding open a door because the next one through is a woman. And, if you're doing either of those things to broadcast what a nice guy you are - and not because you like it when people do that for you - then you're not offering anyhting, you're demanding it: "Look at me, I held open a door for you. Aren't I great?" No, you're not. All the 'nice guy' behaviours should have nothing to do with sex. They should not be manipulative or trying to get you something. Do them if you want to, and if it's a good thing to do. Or don't, but don't change your behaviour for women because they're women. It might be shocking but women are also humans, their brains work just as well as mens' do - albeit they're conditioned a little differently most of the time. So, treat her like a person. You're horny for her now, but you won't always be, and you still need to be good together then. You need to actually like each other, admire something more than each others' bodies and not have it based on some kind of code of conduct about how gentlemen should treat ladies.

@@tSp289 whoever you are my friend you've got some wisdom. I appreciate the comment

Dont be toxic because you think women like toxic. It breaks my heart when I hear men become toxic because that's what they think women want..... Good people are rare...Women and men both should be themselves... If you need to force or overdo it...odds are it is not going to last....

Being toxic is never good. Just don’t be afraid to hurt her feelings.

@@ms.flawed that right there is the one

@@ms.flawed A lot of women are attracted to toxic men. They always complain about not getting any good guys but will never date them. It's a true fact and you can't deny

I’ve _learned_ to focus on me.

Yet most of the man underestimates woman by complaining them. Women are better.

@@vishnuk67 Women aren't special

@@vishnuk67 A true man doesn't need a Woman and focuses on his money and purpose. Women can buzz off

@@spookyshark29 same goes for women. A true woman dosent need a man either. And the thing is they never complaints or cry about it. Unlike men crying and complaining about women most of the time.

@@vishnuk67 kzfaq.info/get/bejne/juCoipqgqNzPkXU.html Say that again?

There is a difference between a nice guy and a good guy, the nice guy tends to be ingenuine with his nice acts, which he does for validation and because he thinks its what they want, he panders with little boundaries. A good guy is doing good things not just for them but for himself, but has boundaries and doesn't get walked all over.

Healing takes time, take it slow and try to enjoy everyday. Don't force yourself, a human mind and body has its limit. Slowly but surely u will shine once again 😊 Cheers!

@@KaustavNemoSen Thank you so much, I will do my best and move forward. Cheers!.

+1

I’m 2 months out of a 5 year relationship with the girl I thought was going to be my entire future. The first month was awful. We are now 3 weeks no contact and it does get easier, just try not to think too far ahead and focus on right now. Day by day. You’re not alone

@@dommorley9743 if you focus on helping other people, it will take your mind off your problems. You’ll still hurt but you won’t be focusing on it 24/7. I hope you heal

True. How do you feel now ? Are you seeking out other women?

You will get better bro.

Why you lost her?

@Cristofer 024 probably another guy, this guy is more interesting because is new.

Niceee! I like what you've said

yeah this advice sounds like divorce few years later....you cant hide everything forever

Yea, nowadays, communication is constant, it doesn't let things to sink...

This was my marriage back then and we was making more time together.it doesn't end well you get tired of each other.

I tried this in my marriage. Didn’t work. Got divorced. Not because this concept doesn’t work though. I still believe it works. But both people have to embrace it to make it work. Missing someone has a lot of power to change your attitude about them when you see them. Like coming home to a dog that’s wagging their tale and jumping around. It excites and brings you together.

@@jasonroberts9243 Indeed, both partners have to communicate with the same intensity.

How was dating like back when you where younger?

@ David The problem is , women today cannot like a guy anymore since she is mentally above him ( on behalf of the equality lie ) . She cannot like him , she cannot respect him because she does not regard him as the head anymore .

Gen X here. Dating was very easy when I was coming up.

@@konspiracy9953 It’s horrific now

i actually dated her 5 months, and she starting ghosting me, i pushed her a lot messsaged her like 6 times , and send a letter to her apoloigised for being a bit mean, then i went to her apartment and tried to talk to her but her roommate was there, 5 mins later i got blocked from her, she said i made her roommate and her uncomfortable and went too far, do i have a chance to message her from a mutual friend or another phone and casually say sorry i just wanted to talk to you, as a friend at least. theres no big deal or hard feelings, and say wont msg youl anymore. i can bump into her anytime as i have few mutual ( guy friends) , but i acted pushy and creepy after she said she liked me a lot, now its all dead and been 2 weeks. i can send a message to her from my 2nd whatsapp. or try to bump into her, because i never got to talk to her in person. it hurts. i hurt her first without knowing ,then i got needy and tried to apologise and msged her if i could say sorry for my behaviour etc. then sent a letter to her, then went to her place and got blocked, couldnt even see her WAS out of town . wellllll it was all good intention jjst wanted to try talk to her...

This. If you just do it because you wanna get laid, it won't work. Nobody likes dishonest manipulationg people that just act as nice but aren't inherently nice.

You've earned my heart mate Like why do girls have to be respected even when they are wrong? And why do boys have to be disrespected even if they are right or wrong ?

Sadly it won't work on modern woman. He would only get insult and animosity in return. Not worth it.

@@nolifeking9441 There are 2 things which I would disagree on 1) It is not meant to be used for manipulating women. I want him to be decent. 2) You have too little faith on humanity my brother. There are plenty of people who know how to appreciate others.

@@nolifeking9441 On the topic of getting women in your life, don't get hung over whether you should be nice or not. The focus should be on how to increase your own value. Your social value, your financial value, your moral value... etc. If you are a high value individual, you get attention. But don't confuse being nice with being needy.

Hell yeah dude! This is super solid advice. The funny part is when guys actually do this, women begin chasing them (dont do it for that reason though lol).

Dude I love this thought. I’ve gone through a lot of heartache in my previous relationships and have decided to invest in programs that are aimed at developing me as a person and it’s huge! Even within the past month, it seems like I’ve made an unbelievable amount of progress.

LOVE THIS

@@vedivyansh don’t reveal too much unless if asked about it.

aye, but you should be glad that you're seeing that now and won't do it again in the future, don't let past decisions bring you down you were only a teen

Maybe you just saw her that way, maybe she's not what you think she is, you never know someone until you actually be with them.

That's life we evolve.

Been there done that

Lol u're the common denominator sweetie

she taught you a lesson. Would you not return the favour? Dont be so greedy. When someone teaches you something dont just say thankyou. Teach them a lesson too. just dont get killed

@@marjiman_rts the hell you mean by "don't be so greedy"? And I didn't say "thank you" to her lmao, I made it clear to her that she handled it like an ass.

@@awkwardelevator220 the whole comment was sarcasm. To really understand what I said. You must read it like that

@@marjiman_rts haha okay I gotchu. It didn't seem like sarcasm at all to me and I know there are people who randomly comment super negative stuff so I thought it was unironic

i actually dated her 5 months, and she starting ghosting me, i pushed her a lot messsaged her like 6 times , and send a letter to her apoloigised for being a bit mean, then i went to her apartment and tried to talk to her but her roommate was there, 5 mins later i got blocked from her, she said i made her roommate and her uncomfortable and went too far, do i have a chance to message her from a mutual friend or another phone and casually say sorry i just wanted to talk to you, as a friend at least. theres no big deal or hard feelings, and say wont msg youl anymore. i can bump into her anytime as i have few mutual ( guy friends) , but i acted pushy and creepy after she said she liked me a lot, now its all dead and been 2 weeks. i can send a message to her from my 2nd whatsapp. or try to bump into her, because i never got to talk to her in person. it hurts. i hurt her first without knowing ,then i got needy and tried to apologise and msged her if i could say sorry for my behaviour etc. then sent a letter to her, then went to her place and got blocked, couldnt even see her WAS out of town . wellllll it was all good intention jjst wanted to try talk to her...

You couldn't have said it better people tell me go out but when I was down and hit rock bottom I became such a people pleaser a yes to everything I would never say a mean thing even I was told things I would never say cause words hurt more than anything. I always wanted to show loyalty always be there my car my expenses but when your dry everybody leaves again. No one cares about how you are how you feel or how they make you feel. I've been told be strong minded don't show hurt no matter how much it's eating you up inside. I'm like people have no feelings if they can hide it. I could never I just leave now. I live in my room I'm most likely going to erase my social media only talk to a couple of freinds but no one ever says I'm buying so since I know I'm buying for the event I just go if I want to or not. People take advantage of people like us. We can't change just know who deserves it and who doesn't. Also time money gifts anything I always see stuff at stores reminds me of a person freind coworker aquintace and will buy it as a gift. I haven't been able to recover financially for always putting everyone fisrt but it's time I lift my self up first and then I can help people. Just make sure the right people are receiving it.

@@RicardoLopez-ty4kn Be strong brother much love

@@superazula3722 thanks brother.

@@superazula3722 thanks bro I'm going off the grid work on my self to not let things bother me so much.

nice people get taken advantage of ask any prostitute who hands over her money to her pimp .the key is to be good to good people .boundaries and standards dude if u dont have them u're fair game for all the freeloaders

I wish i had seen this types of videos to have the guts to leave since boyfreinds. I knew it wasnt a good idea never cooked clean dress all ragedy just paying bills since i took the responsibilty of all her bills desires clothes to go with her mom. Just for some sex and boring miserable life but she would cry not to leave her. wich i had better girls and better sex with some freinds that did so much cause they wanted tonbe in her spot and when i was cutting out the last one she said she would by me a brand new truck and buy a house to move in. She take me out to eat and dance and pick me up ando watever i wanted as long as she was with me i can say we enjoyed son much and the biggest laughs ever but i chose the other one. And miserabl life brwad crumbs an only me workin. She just sleep all day or at her moms. After 2 girls and just ask for more money i said no more just for the girls and she left.

This is excellent advice Derek

Got to read the signs and know when enough is enough and get rid of her. It won't get better

Trying to be bad or trying to be someone we're not, changing ourselves superficially for another person or the prefered sex, is like putting on a mask, being toxic and inauthentic. Im a nice guy and i treat women nice, because that is me. If i were born a bad guy, maybe i would have a different life, but i learn to appreciate myself the way I am. So I encourage you to be nice or whatever way you are. The right person will appreciate you in the way you are, after you appreciate yourself the way you are. All this "Don't be too nice to women." is false indoctrination to hurt women. Please dont. You are only weak if you hurt others and not strong.

Its all cuz internet. You almost know for certain that he can be replaced there are people better than him in some aspects. When you know it's easier to say good bye.

It works both ways. Women often get 'chosen' for their nurturing and selfless characteristics that will make them good wives and mothers but often get cheated on or left for an independent carefree woman because after a few years of child raising and domestic duties she is too tired and boring to be of interest to her husband.

@@edenlass9062 the old works both ways bullshit argument...boring

Women want to have their cake and eat it too. They want to have the doting husband/boyfriend who will pay their bills while also getting fucked by the badboy/convict on the side. They don't even hide this behavior anymore.

Not all women want that, that's a very generic outlook. Never been attracted to a 'bad boy' in my life regardless of my relationship status and my female friends are all the same. I hear generic statements like this from women too like 'all men cheat'. Both genders would do well to take a look at the type of person they attract/are attracted to if they seem to be running into the same type of people and relationship issues. For example I have noticed that many PUAs advise men to look and behave in a way that is very attractive to narcissistic, superficial, gold digging women but is equally repellent to the ones looking for a loving relationship. The guys that follow this sort of advice often think they are attractive to all women and therefore get a skewed perspective of what all women are like. They don't seem to realise that different types of women are attracted to different types of men. It might help to view yourself as a business trying to attract customers - how would you advertise what you have to attract your ideal customer? Is your branding on point or is it misleading, does it attract the sort of customer that will not appreciate what you really have to offer?

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Trusting a woman is a mistake. And lol this dude (the speaker) thinks you can't build a castle on your own because he is still naive. He can keep believing that, still too young & native to realize that women chase guys who already built castles as well as castle builders. They don't want a partner; they want their Better.

women, usually, don't want to run the race with you (build the castle) -> usually they wait on the finishing line to join you when you finished your race/achieved the goals/built the castle already... then they seize you up and decide if you're worth chasing/trapping for what you've got... (that's majority of women -> ~80%+) 🤔🤷‍♂️

@@nicole1184 women initiate 70%-90% of divorce so that's not the case, and only about 20% due to male infidelity.

@@femimark5021 70-90% of the statistics people site on the internet are made up to justify their false world view

@@Legal-Ade well these are real statistics gotten from census of various countries (hence the range). I didn't infer anything from the statistics other than what they directly state. I understand it diverges from the public opinion.. Society is currently the one ignoring well documented science and statistical evidence in favor of ideology, idealism and self delusion.

Trying to be bad or trying to be someone we're not, changing ourselves superficially for another person or the prefered sex, is like putting on a mask, being toxic and inauthentic. Im a nice guy and i treat women nice, because that is me. If i were born a bad guy, maybe i would have a different life, but i learn to appreciate myself the way I am. So I encourage you to be nice or whatever way you are. The right person will appreciate you in the way you are, after you appreciate yourself the way you are. All this "Don't be too nice to women." is false indoctrination to hurt women. Please dont. You are only weak if you hurt others and not strong.

@@ryu7964Its not being rude to women but really being nice to women do not work….be good only. Do not be rude to women but yes do not be nice too otherwise you will be taken for granted.

These days u can't be down u can't have alot of emotions you gotta be strong as a rock for people n not to vulnerable.....but u wanna see the bad n the good....love these days it's confusing one minute is this than the next is something different or u get boring .....like omg....

@@ej13012010 I hear ya. It feels like, in my failed relationships at least, the other person doesn't love, they love how you make them feel. When they don't feel that anymore, they aren't "in love" anymore.

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I believe in God, indeed I do, and I know my faith has been growing a lot. But I would apreciate sone advice. I know only I can solve this problem, and I dont want to have my vision blurry... Soo I rn that I decided to have 2 weeks break from they bough. I'll put things this way, the first girl, I have been with her for 5 years, almost 6. She has vallues, a father figure, and catholic, always ready to help others. But I guess I started losing my interess in her because I was second guessing if she was/is the girl for me. Yes, she is consistent, she helps, and have only slept with me. But there is another side, were I got really disturbed. She has some ego problems -like the truth/logic is on her face, in a clear way, and she is soo proud... Keeps denying... She has entitlement issues... And the thing its a great issue, is the lack of critical thinking... I dont know I feel that I cherish her, I like her, but I dont know... her parents have spoiled her very much, Im not sure if even I like her, and we have a strong bond, if she has the capacities for a marriage, in terms of living a real life... Sometimes she gets hostile, and say passive agressive things to try to hurt me... soft.. But Its not nice...I am afraid that her ego issues, a litle entitulement, a bit lack of understanding others point of views, and her "princess" lifestyle may be a problem in the future. Sometimes I feel like its acting, or not 100% deep.. And the fact we sin easylly, And that is my fault too.. I mean, you must know how to clean, raise children, be smart, and feel faith We also have sexual sined for a lot of years.. And This is on me, but I cant or have extreme dificulties "controling my lust around" her Its a "At least we are in a relationship", "When we get marry it will stop be a sin" mentality I mean she is catholic but I dont know how to say, but sometimes I feel like she lacks some intelectual and deepness in some ways... But for real, she has values, understands (or makes me believe) that sex is not for any person, she cherish her intimacy, but its superficial in some ways... It the past she had showed some issues I trully didnt like, Ego problems, superficiality, some arrogance, two faces when we were with her family or friends... Sometimes I fear that I may have created a bound with a girl I should not And I gave her time because of that, but, even she is not super hot, she only slept with me, shes caring in her way, and has strong values... But somethings she doesnt have personal opinion? I feel like its missing critical thinking, and empathy in some ways... But she is resilient, and consistent, and dont let go easy. The second girl, I have met her while working. To be honest, I was tired of my ex girlfriend ego issues, that lead to strong fights, for stupid things.. And I swear that I have tried to stop looking at this other girl, trying to stop conecting to her... But as things went wrong my ex girlfriend, things were going fine with this other girl I respected the fact that she was working, she liked psycology, she was simple, always ready to help, sweet and nice in many ways. I tried not to, but indeed she melted my heart in some ways. Than, I found out she smoked weed, drinked badly, believed in astrology, piercings... welll, I did not judge her, because I have been there too... I had my past where I smoked, and grown a lot of weed, and got drunk sometimes, I had my past were I could not sense God. And was suposelly and atheist... But thanks to God I found my way out. And I wanted the best for her. Recue her in some ways. Some things were smart, intelectual, easy going. Others I was a little bit riscky and imprudent. For example, I was not even smoking, but I did one thing for her. I would smoke with her, if she promissed that we would not smoke for a week.Then I would smoke with her, then we do not smoke for two weeks... Then we dont smoke for a month... Then two months... Then 4 months... And now? We dont even want to smoke. And we had the chance, we just putted that asside and pray. Thanks God. I feel like, with the help of God, and its mainly God, I dived in the ocean of her problems. Of her issues... I gave her flowers, on the first day by surprise, when she showed me her face for the first time with no piercings. For showing her that the way God naturally made her is the most beautifull.... I made her understand that astrology is deceiving, and dangerous, and that makes more sense to love and be guided by the creator of the stars, that be guided by the stars themselves. In the beggining, I was craving my sexual sins and so did she, we slept togetter, had lots of sex. THAT IS A PROBLEM. The only thing I regret. But then we got above that sin. For my surprise we did. I cherish our intelectual, loving, funny godly talks. She doesnt fit with the world either. Now she does not smoke, nothing, not even tobaco. Not getting drunk.. She is studying. She is following God. Goes to the church and prays. She stopped sleeping around and seems to have better bondaries. Understands sexuality.. No piercings... And I love to see her happy, healty, with a future. She quited her social midia, and Im gona be honest, I trully wish her the best. We are similar, I could say I love her in some ways. She is very smart, inteligent, nice to people, empath most of the times expecially with kids and the ones in need. I feel like she feels things in a deeper way. And I am not joking. I feel very very bad for her, because its not her fault her father is not in her life, and that she has a extreme selfish narcissitic manipulative mother, who even though ther spiritisms... Its not her fault that she ended up in the world getting used by guys, and having fisical, emotional and spiritual damages... Trying to fulffil her heart with lust, pleasure, bad companies, psychedelic trips... And I have been there too so I trully wanted to help her... I feel that she is similar to me... And we have a" push to the right way efect" on each other. Even sexually and that amazes me. Sometimes i feel I grow in faith with her, we even pray the rozary. But for real, I also feel I cant ignore the signs. -50/70 minimum people she has had sex with before at 22years old Huge mother issues -Not a father figure -Having lots of guy "friends" -porn -Drugs -alcool -Emotional instability, mood swings -tantrums, and Anger issues. Trully anger issues -Self harm, she cutted her self in the past, beated herself -Avoiding responsability -Sometimes, unespectes selfishness, she has some issues understanding other points of view Im not dumb. I cant spot all the Red flags. I can realise that I may be blind to the truth. And probably even I find her -inteligente -smart -deep talk -understanding -helper, knows how to clean, and economically responsable -likes to read I mean I like her very very much... But I feel like she may be to broken.. She may not trully pair bond... Psychological damages... Traumas... I dont want my kids to know her mother had sex with multiple partners, sometimes at the same time... She is similar to me, I dont judge her, I dont make her feel bad, but I cant ignore she had 50/70 minimum guys with her, and the damage that that type of promiscuity makes... Most of all, I am afraid that she is a temptation between me and my ex girl? She still loves me, but I know she is getting tired too... And she may not be that smart, that inteligent, and have problems but at least I never question her love, and I know she only had sex and trully bounded with me. I wonder what Jesus would tell me... "You are right, the first girl is materialistic, and those ego problems are gona ruin you, in the future, she needs to seek god and put in practice genuilly. You were young and rushed in sex and its a bound you should break. And keep with the ex sinner girl because now she is redeimed, she is new and the bond of love will be stronger. The ex sinner girl makes you grow with her more than the other you know that" "Keep the first girl, who trully loves you , and always have been there for you, love her, start chasity values, lead in a example of god, do the right thing for her, dont follow tempation, you are blinded by love and you have lust the sinner girl, watchout for not loosing the love of your life. Dont be fooled, even if she seem to have changed be prudent and love the one who was here before" "Leave them both, not good for you" "Leave them both, regret your sins, you dont deserve neither one of them." Sometimes I feel more like the last one... Because I was divided in my feelings and that is messed up I dont want my insecurities to make me believe she is dommed because of her past. That is not what Jesus would do. If I dont forgive others, how will he forgive me? I also grow and feel way saint around her. I dont want to keep a bond that may not be trully good for me, of my ex girlfriend. What does it matter if shes only slept with me, but follows the world and God in practice is not the first priority? Material world I dont want to be decceived and ignore the fact that this girl is too damaged, broken, god forgives but will she sin again? We all do fall, with all those serious issues i know its almost 100% sure Im gona get hurt. I dont want to have messed up my pair bonding with my ex, and ahe really is the love of my life I dont know what to do. I want to follow Gods will. God knows its true. I may sin, I may not be perfect, but i seek him and ask for forgiveness. I want to submit to God fully. I wish and trully think that may be one of these girls. And I am soo afraid of not understanding the signs, or interpret bad, or even that even God loves me Im a sinner not in grace and he wont show me the signs... But I think its more about I understanding them Of these girls, I would like to marry the one God trully has for me. I dont know what to do... Thanks for your time. God may bless you, greeting from Portugal

It may not have gotten you anywhere, but that's the world's fault not yours. Your life should be defined by who you are, not who women want you to be. They're extremely flawed to think something is wrong with someone for being genuinely kind. I hope you regret nothing.

@@jocampos7002 0:02 Hi great dude. I‘m a 51 yo grown man and just want to let you know that i read your entire comment and it was very interesting and great from YOU to share those complex relationships that have/had. Thank you very much. You deserve this ❤. You asked for advice but I have the feeling that your own true self will give you the right answer. Call it your inner child which is innocent at heart and I am very sure that if you trust that innocent godly part of you it will decide for the grownup person which you surely are and by this comment have proven to be to make the right decision aligned to your faith, your past experiences and the hard times you have overcome till now. You are spiritually and intellectually to TRUST YOUR GUTS. Your instinct, after all your well written thoughts will lead you to the woman that God has prepared for you and maybe she will not be either of the two very complex woman that described very well. Easy to understand how hard it seems, but as advice I would say: Trust your inner child and also common sense that you have. ☝️👍🙏 A great human being you seem to be and you deserve the best and maybe the best is on the way to you soon. This is my wish for you and unusually I feel strongly to say this inspired by my Love to God and Christ our Savior that loves all of us unconditionally...maybe even your sinful girl more than the other. ☝️ We don‘t know but the Lord knows and with my love to human beings in general and inspired by my faith for my wonderful best friend Jesus Christ I would end this comment in his name - who is the Greatest of all. May God bless your caring and loving empathic soul with all that you deserve and once again: Thank you for sharing all the history and thought about your Ladies. Both seem to deserve good after all they have been through. You deserve the best and know trust your faith and yourself.☝️ I think you will get what God has prepared for you. Love & Greetings from the partly wonderful, but also confused City of Berlin/Germany.

Just came to this video to see this kind of comment💯💯

Nice.

Did you even listen to the video?

Why dont you watch the video at first?

@Tomislav Antic then they should never take his kindness as a weakness

this is bad advice always try to improve for urself while still loving who u are

@@lidiagizaw3828 You missed the point. Being who you are can include improving yourself. Pretending to be someone else for the sake of validation, sex, relationship, etc. is not being who you are.

what if all u wanna do is play video games and smoke weed

@@jakesamsoy1761 I would try to find a little more in life but if that makes you happy puff the magic dragon play away

Some of these people need to understand though, that’s not the same thing as working on yourself and evaluating yourself as a person

@@jocelynclay8095 working on yourself isn't thinking as oneself as an alpha or beta or any high archy it's realizing in human existence we really don't have these titles we are just people and men who put fourth theses titles as themselves are man children who cry over toys

I wish you the best on your journey on your own healing mate

i really hope you're mentally healthy and fine now🫂🫂

Thank you all. I’m okay! Getting through it slowly but surely. :)

Dont worry you will get use to it and enjoy the peace of mind love yourself again.

attached to someone ? not your wife or gf ? , who ? . i think i might have same scenario as you

Yep. My other party is always being undecided to invest. Everytime. Seems to let her go.

I appreciate ur words

This isn't his channel, his' is called Matteo... somthing I dont remember, anyways his name is Mathew

Yes, that one made me take notice too. I've over-invested before, for too little return.

like yourself do not love yourself

My current situation

Definitely

realistically some 95%+.

Me too but not anymore...

Same. People who base their relationship on the idea of mystery tend to become disappointed once they've learned everything about their partner. "There's no suspense anymore." "The butterflies are no longer there." "Everything is so predictable." I honestly feel like some people are incapable of being happy with that they have. They always need that "next best thing". Sad.

@@Calembunial true, and there's no way to ever please them because at some point you go so big you end up getting that jump the shark effect to the relationship.

Many guys want that...the problem is so many women become bored in those situations.

You’re right, there shouldn’t be any mystery between partners. He’s speaking garbage in that section. Date and marry non-Western women only if you want a good, healthy relationship.

Yep! Men want consistency, women want mystery. If a guy reveals all his cards at once, she folds on him. You hold your hand high, and reveal a few cards over time. She will be more likely to stay longer for the challenge of you eventually revealing your hand. For the record, I too wish it wasn't this way. However, reality doesn't adhere to what you want in life and if wanna stay in the game. We have to play a certain way.