Some people think you have it made when you have your business, but they don't realize the sacrifices you make to get that business to be successful.

My POV, married 12 years, 4 kids, very similar relationship issues starting the business. I recommend you schedule your life to a T, plan date nights, family time, I schedule it in my CRM. Tell her no sometimes, canceling work for a day puts you behind, you now work the weekend and she’s complaining because your working to much. Your so used to trying to please her but she wants you to be in charge, fill your masculine roll and establish boundaries. It’s taken me a long time to figure this stuff out and I’m by no means perfect, spent a lot of nights lying awake wondering how to manage everything. I’m a huge advocate for sticking it through the tough times, just remember “this too shall pass”, a relationship has seasons, just like your life. Things will be great and then you’ll fight for a while, that’s just how it is, those tough times are what build the relationship. People jump around from partner to partner chasing that puppy love feeling when it wears they find a new one. What they don’t know is that there is great fulfillment in getting through those tough seasons together. Best of luck.

I think this video was phenomenal. Man the media team is really starting to kill it on the way they produce and showcase

I'm in a really bad place as well but my heart goes out to this guy. This is sad and hope everything works out for all of us.

Before starting a business one really needs to make sure they are on the same page as their spouse. If they will hate you working 12+ hour days, need a good income immediately, will hate you being stressed etc. starting a business may not be the right decision. I had to have conversations with my wife to help her see the vision. There was a time I offered to sell my business because it was a big burden. We pushed through and it has all been worth it. We are extremely happy we pushed through and that we are where we are now. Good luck mate!

You show up when you say you will. You communicate when you have a delay. You don't over charge. You do the job even if you don't need it for a good week. Stay out of the bars. Wear good shoes. Invest in good equipment. Do the job better then the other guy. Network. Don't treat your biz like a 40 hours a week gig. Have professional invoices. Smile. Look people in the eye when you talk to them. Learn customer's names of their cats and dogs and use them. Have a clean and organized truck. Emphasis clean. Get every dead leaf. I had a good plumbing biz for 35 plus years and I think what helped me in the long run was doing that last drain clear at the end of the day when I already had a good day. Those customers calling me in the slow periods helped immensely. Treat complaints and mistakes as an opportunity to cement a customer for life by satisfying them quickly. Mistakes happen, fixing them quickly not as much. 😂

Tiwana we appreciate your transparency and your courage to open yourself up to work through your hurdles and to help others with similar hurdles. Thank you!💪

I think the best way to approach the subject would be opening with"Hunny, I want to take the family on a cruise. But this is what we need to do finacially to do that." Then bring out the big conversation. Putting a positve goal in her mind will be the start of getting her on board.

Huge props to Tiwana for sharing this with everyone. I’m sure lots of people are dealing with similar things in their life. Hope everything works out for him.

I started mine out of a Dodge Caravan & with a Craftsman push mower but the deck was made out of aluminum . My blower was a electrical corded one and a Ryobi weed eater.

This one is painful to watch. I don't think he should build a business until he sorts out his family life.

Mike you’re a stand up dude. When you were talking to that guy about his marital problems it felt like you were talking to me as well. You’re 100% right, brother. No wonder you’re successful you got a great head on your shoulders

BUSINESS BOOTCAMP IS BACK!!! Let's go baby!!! Tiwana is a STUD!

I love that guy's integrity and his strength to keep going

Amazing video! Major kudos to him for being so vulnerable, and kudos to you for your awesome coaching. Media team is getting stronger everyday.

What has worked for me is scheduling my off time. Maybe it’s a day when I make sure I’m home at 5 pm. It only needs to be about twice a month which is completely doable. However I need to treat those like I would an appointment with a new client. I will not cancel or be late on those nights. I have a custom woodworking business and trust me the constant hustle is the same. The late nights, deadlines, & headaches are the same. The stress of supply costs, machine breakdowns, and employees is the same. At the same time I need to remember I am also a wife, and my husband has been extremely supportive of the business. I don’t think that it’s too much to ask for me to make sure he knows our life together is important too. I think if you want both you can have it, but it takes work. Ive had to learn delegate assignments so I can be home at a decent time once in a while

Great job, Mike! A very moving story. I wish this young man and his family all the best.

Stay strong and keep on pushing forward young man! Your business and life will be truly blessed! Keep on keeping on! Don’t stop ever!

This definitely is the truth. Mike couldn’t said it better. My relationship was like “Gold” talks about it. One day I couldn’t do it anymore and I sat down with my wife to go over numbers and to talk about goals and what we want. After that my relationship got better and now I have support from my wife. Mike definitely gave great advice to anyone that is married and struggling.

Tiwana: I’m in 100k in debt Tigran: AWESOME!

God bless this guy. Your wife/partner needs to be a support. I couldn’t imagine running my business with someone who didn’t invest in it as much as I do. She would never have me stay home from work to watch one of our kids out of her inconvenience, Never.

Under common/default circumstances for everything, if you were to divorce, your wife would inherit half your net worth aka she would inherit half your debt being $50k. On top of that, as you have 0 or negative income, she would have to pay you child support. So confront her on these facts that if the business goes under and she divorces you she's screwed as well. What you need to do is set aside a budget for bare minimum of living, meaning rent + food + essentials, and use all remaining surplus cashflow to pay down your debts asap. You need to reduce your interest burden. Best of luck

I would close the business is a heartbeat to keep the family together. Business and money are good things, but there is no way they compare to keeping the family together.

wow man what an amazing episode. Enlightening to say the least. Thank you Mike Andes and the young man in this video for sharing.

Fantastic video Mike! Very well articulated and thought out responses. To anyone that finds this helpful, I would like to greatly encourage everyone to prioritize their families first. Especially in the case of marriage. If you don't honor the vows that were made on your wedding day, perhaps the most important person to you at that time in your life, then how can your customers, employees or coworkers expect any different? When contemplating your decisions, please imagine your life years down the road. The return investment into a family will far out way whatever money has come and gone during that time. My prayers go out to Tiwana and his family. Love you guys!

I love the beef between you and T not a huge fan of your content but this video is amazing! Kudos!

I wish more landscapers were familiar w native gardening. It's less time consuming and so much easier to care for.

Mike, this is better than some TV shows. Holy crap ! The music, the emotion !!!!!!! Great job Media TEAM !

Great video Mike I wish that young man the best .

My favorite episode by far

Man my heart goes out to that dude. I hope he doesn’t crash and burn out. I’m so glad I have a solid marriage and no kids.

This was awesome and hopefully it all works out for him I know exactly what he is going through in the marriage I went through it. It gets rough but fight through and it will slowly get better that’s how it’s going for me

Wow. Deep stuff. Cannt say i agree with his choice. Best luck to him

My boyfriend owns a lawn care business. Started from the bottom and we did 1.2 million last year. No business debt but This year will be a challenge but gotta keep going and grind.

I know so many guys that own a lawn service that were married and after many years got a divorce because the women are not on board. Also all my customers are pre pay, if they don't pre pay I don't need them, If they do pre pay I do the work. Keep being strong. And always be there for your kids. Girls always want all your money and all your time, its one or the other.

Dang! This Was An Amazing Video! Thanks For Sharing 👍 👍

You have to have those uncomfortable conversations with your spouse. They’re difficult but it’ll drive the wedge deeper between the both of you if you’re not in the same page about the goals and finances. My wife and I had that conversation a year ago. It was bad until we had the conversation and we both spoke and laid everything down. Now we have been hitting huge strides in life our debt is down 60% and have been making profit in our concrete business. We are proud on what we built for our kids.

Before you call it, go to relationship counseling. You both are right. She and the kids deserve to have your attention but on another note, you have to work no matter what to cover the bills. You guys may never fully see eye to eye but you can find a common understanding.

I was in the very same postion as this you. I had lost my family because of stress and debt. Best thing to do is sit down and explain it to her

This made me cry

not in the same spot but with me and my brother trying to run a lawn care business it does make it a little bit tougher mentally to make time for my girlfriend after a full day of working then having to hop on calls with my brother to figure out more business things and we haven’t even reached the complicated path yet , but on the other hand she also builds me up when i’m in a bad mental space and not feeling it , she falls back when she knows it’s getting serious , and our goals don’t align at all besides wanting to not struggle , she works hard which lets me know she isn’t just waiting for me to provide so it really depends on the state of the relationship and getting your significant other to understand that some risk must be taken for long term success and happiness

Movie star smile, good looks, good selfie camera angles. Might be a player, that wrecks everything.

best of luck brother, dont give up

I've been in a similar postion and while it may seem that the women is just wanting to be around him because of love, that is not always the case. In my case, my ex was very controlling and at one point, it was clear that she did not want me to thrive. The more successful I became, the more threatened she felt. Sometimes we outgrow our loved ones and thats okay. I see many parrallels between myself and Mr Gould. I believe that he really has tried to communicate but as he said, nothing seems to register. I tried many many times to explain to my ex what the bottom line was for the business and she never seemed to even try to understand. She had no interest or care about the business despite everything it was doing for us.

I need some business Boot Camp💯💯👍🏽 don’t let the nice truck and my set up fool you it’s a lot to keep up with everything working by myself

Tiwana, keep your head up dude.

I will watch your kids and take them wherever they need to go for a $1000 a day 😂😂😂 She might be crazy, or just needs to wake up. Good luck bro, you do really good work.

I had the same problem with my ex together 8 years and would constantly throw me off balance. She would constantly compare our life to what she saw on instagram. I tried to make it work and I would think we were on the same page and she would change her mind out of left field. Thank god I didn’t have children with her but man I couldn’t imagine trying to run a successful business while trying to please a partner that wants one thing but doesn’t want to make the sacrifices to attain it.

How does @MikeAndes know so much???? This guy is epic...NGL

Best advice I could give him is tell his wife to get a JOB! If she won’t get one then her money flow gets cut off.

Mike Andy's is just a genius

I want to say this to encourage you and motivate you in your life goals, and by no way is this meant to be demeaning to you or your relationship, but you need to put your big boy pants on. The story of how she made you stay home because it was an inconvenience for her to take your child to the doctors with her so you could work was incredibly selfish, immature, and financially crippling to you and your family. Be the man in the house she and your children need, but the one she wants. For a household to work, a business to be successful, there can only be one head of the household and right now, you are allowing her to be the decision maker. I'm not talking about being a douchebag or tyrant. I'm talking about the conversation should have been "Hunny, I know this is not going to be convenient for you, but this is what needs to done so that we can continue to progress towards our financial goals and the lifestyle we want to have". It's harder for women to understand the types of sacrifices that need to be made for men because we have to constantly choose to be away from the family more than we want or like. When kids are involved though, there needs to be a provider role and a nurture role. You can't be both while she is only one, and in most cases both parents playing both roles fail as well. I think you have a very hard decision to make, but deciding what you want and where you want to be needs to happen. Then present the plan to your other half (which is sounds like you love very dearly) and make sure you guys are on the same page. This will never EVER get any better if these things don't align. Best of luck Tiwana, and please don't take any of this advice as me telling you how to live your life or that I'm heartless. It is a struggle in my relationship with me as well with balancing home life and financial pleasures with my family being in business myself. I just know for myself it gets better when there is a game plan, discipline, and one person in charge of the final decisions. God Bless!

Children are the most important thing, more important then working every second. Later on when his kids are all messed up emotionally I hope he regrets leaving them. It costs more to leave your wife and kids because now you have two households to pay for rather then one. Him thinking it will be better is wild.

We have to have follow up

I would suggest redefining what you view as "successful." When you have 3 kids, you forfeit the opportunity to just walk away, or you are part of the problem. When the people closest to you in life respect you the most, that's success. If you're really making $1,000 NZD a day and $100,000 in debt, that's your fault. What is your debt on? Not equipment. There is no reason your debt should be going up. When your kid is in the hospital, all that money "lost" doesn't matter. Take care of your family first, then your business. Your mindset is the issue. The hunt for your dreams is costing you a life and family that's worth fighting for. I've been self-employed since I was younger than you, and I've got 5 kids. I always talk to my wife about our personal and business finances. The problem is your relationship with yourself and others. It's frustrating to see someone who doesn't man up, who runs to solitude when your family needs you to be there.

They are driving on the wrong side of the road😂

It blows my mind how little communication people have with their significant others.

women in general love money but don’t care how its made. you can’t changed some one like that . good luck

Mikes my Dad 😂💛

Kill that relationship. Most women today are more concerned with lifestyle and competing with other women on who has the best man. Focus on yourself and your business, not that woman. They are dream killers.

As someone working in lawn Care in hamilton new zealand, most of your adive is wrong, no one owns customers here it's all verbal contract, you can get gone real fast at any time unless you have big commerical jobs. This dude has done everything backwards and literally turned left every time he needed to turn right. There is so much unservixed worked in this town we need heaps more operators so how he doesn't have work is beyond me other than trying to reinvent the wheel, there's a reason we all stay solo in the lawn game here

need an update..

I’m gonna be honest, this guy might regret having this put online down the road. It’s unfortunate that he is in this situation. I hope he’s no longer in it and I hope he’s figured out things with his wife. This man must choose his family over his business making as much money as possible. He has children, his personal desires must come after his children and wife. His wife must understand that time at the house costs money, I hope they talk these things through.

hi mike i want to ask james franchise is a subscription model here in Australia 110.00 a week plus 28.00 a week for I.T for 5 years is it viable as its 28k over 5 years instead of other majors 35k plus trailer truck and being the only one in melbourne Victoria gor james i will be the first they are bigger in qld its a the same job but not money upfront .

You may need to go to therapy with your wife which can help y’all out with talking to each other and understand where each one of y’all are coming from.

Three words... Be The Man. That means providing, protecting, being willing to sacrifice your LIFE for your spouse and your children. as Christ sacrificed His life for the church. It ALSO means being the leader and head of the body as Christ is the leader of the church!! Step up young man, and may God bless you! Take control.. Have courage!! That's a manly trait BTW. I KNOW it's not easy. Best of luck to you!!

I've noticed this a lot we money, but they get butt hurt when you work long hours to make all that money. Damned if you don't damned if you don't.

She’s gonna work that poor guy into a grave and then move onto a new man . Ditch the dead weight bro

People always see the end result but either are totally ignorant or don’t realize just how much hard work goes Into being successful.

$100k in debt and not much to show for it as far as fixed and liquid assets go. Yikes. I wish the kid the best of luck.

Put the camera down, put your nose to the grindstone, success will come. OK a little more then just that. But all these landscapers making money off of you tube kinda ticks me off. Lol, I'm jealous. I would have made a great channel. I self taught my self to be a plumber in ca back in the 80's when I had to use the customers phone to call into the office for the next job. My freind started a drain channing plumbing Co and hired me. I went from college drop out waiter to plumber in one day. I rode with a guy for one day and he showed me how to clear a kitchen sink. And fix a running toilet. Then I was on my own. He ran adds out of a local shopper paper. I turned my hatch back into a plumbers car. When I needed info,I went to a supply house and asked questions. I retired with the best drain cleaning plumbing truck that was the envy of every guy who had a rig. I worked hard and never gave up. At the end of my career 30 percent of my work came from other plumbers who didn't have the equipment to get er done. But I digress. Thanks Mike for your content.

i'd really hate to tell someone this, but, this guy needs to get a job with the big landscape company in town, hes a worker. 100k debt at 22, crazy, then he wants a shop space, while he's driving a 30 year old minivan with a tiny alu trailer, his priorities are way off. gucci bag? let me tell you about this mowing route and my subcontractor deal, lol.

Child suport payments are more than a 1000

I've been there bro! The first year of starting my tree service almost broke my relationship with my wife. Man up, your kids need you, your kids are best in a two parent household. Paul Friedman of The Marriage Foundation saved my marriage which in turn saved my business. Sign up for the course for men today! It's not marriage therapy, over 90% of couples that go to couples therapy end up in divorce. These are lessons on how to be a husband. 100% money back guarantee and a claimed 95% success rate. Get started on his free YT vids today but sign up for that course, don't screw your kids up by breaking up your family! You too Mike. Having never been married you should take the course for men before taking the plunge and you'll be all the stronger for it.

really hope he actually had the convo with his wife, but he seemed set on getting that garage and just bouncing. not sure where hes getting 100k debt unless hes counting the house payment and other bills side of things , cuz no way a beat up old van 2 push mowers and string trimmers and a blower and small dump trailer running him 100k. Sounds like more of a convo with his wife spending more then hes making. tell her to get a job or lower her blowing of money. i feel for the guy hes trying his best. She would prob be more understanding if he was 100% transparent with things

I’ll work for you for 28 an hour. I’ll pack my bags right now.

This guy need to watch the Dave Ramsey podcast

When I was in the military one of my buddys lost both his legs… stop feeling sorry for yourself and go to work, being a victim is a CHOICE.

A Young Tony Robbins ? yes ? lol

8:01. DUDE! WTF YOU DOING BRO? 🤦

Did he leave his family?

I must have missed the part… but where is he 100k in debt???

Leave her please

If a woman is not your partner in life and business in good and bad times, then she is not the one. Walk away and focus on your business and yourself.

Guys Western Nations laws are NOT in your favor when it comes to marrying and divorcing. The divorce rate is over 50 percent and it's all no fault divorce, which means just one party can get out of the marriage with no real reason. My ex wife's reason was I was too boring. Lol. Busting my tail to build a lawn treatment business. Working 12 hours a day, 6 days a week. Churning all the profits back into the business. She got the house and kids, I got the business. Fast forward 12 years, our business does 1.5 million a year and I might work 2 hours a day. We are growing at an extra $300,000 year now for last 2 years. My grown children will inherit a decent chunk when I leave this avatar. Good luck out there!

Dude's gotta cut that girl loose. She's obviously not willing to sacrifice for what he's trying to accomplish for HER and their family. She's selfish and will bring him down.

i worked 16 hours a day or years in steel fabrication and went into a lawncare business I now have time with my 2nd child where as I missed all the time with my 1st earn more money now you either wanto be a father or not mate. my kids come 1st always will. you obviesly have stupid debt. but why are you towing a trailer you have a van man utilise it. price a skip bin into your quotes if you need greenwaste rmoval. if your not happy be a man and own up to it...

Sounds like a typical women! “You don’t earn enough money!” Man works harder bringing in great income “YOU WORK TOO MUCH YOU ARE NEVER HOME THATS WHY I CHEATED” he needs to ditch her and just be a father to his kids….

Dude needs some Dave Ramsey 😁😆 and a shaman 😭🤪😜

Go to couples therapy. Get financial peace university. (I didn’t believe in either but they worked)

I'd say if you are making money like that already get you a nanny of some sort lol

Frick girls: Buy shop space, sleep in shop, work in shop 24/7. Lots of money, NO GIRLS, peace.

That woman's imature , not the one

Beta males go through this all he need to do is step it up show her he is the alpha male

$120 hr is very good money in America 🇺🇸, hard to believe you can't make that work there. Move to America lol

I've been broke for 51 years and counting ✌️...count your blessings, not your money.

Bro needs to get “red pilled” ASAP💀

a jewish business' man said to me years ago its the business' or the family two dont mix well different thoughts made me mad not easy

Sorry brother, but if you're trying to be Gucci, but living out of your Chevy Geo, u need to focus less on the materialistic things and focus on you're family bro. GL

Earning $120/hour but having to sleep in car. $100k in liabilities but i can't see what assets you have that are close to that value. Sorry but something is or has been going horribly wrong in your business, both on balance sheet and P&L. If your employees are losing you money you need to retrain them or if they still fail cut them out asap. Are they even applying Mike's best practice principals for doing the job I wonder? Clock each job and have them videotape it, review each job that was too slow. Best of luck