Mustard For Punishment? A Blind Girl's Bumpy Adoption Journey

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Mustard For Punishment? A Blind Girl's Bumpy Adoption Journey

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5 жыл бұрын

Sometimes the path home isn't as rosy as we would like it to be. Every adopted child has a story to tell, a past with memories. Some are good, some are bad, some are traumatic. In this episode, Bethany, who is 19, and was born blind due to ROP, shares a bit about her adoption journey.
Disruptions in adoption are more frequent than most people expect. One in four adoptions of a child over 3 years old is either disrupted or dissolved. In other words, it fails. There are stories on all sides.
Bethany was adopted from Thailand when she was seven, and joined our family after that initial placement didn't work out.
We had applied to adopt Bethany directly from Thailand when she was three years old, but we were rejected by the Thai government because we did not meet their standards. We were "too old" and had "two many kids".
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@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

We would like to thank everyone for your kind words of support and encouragement for Bethany tonight as well as keeping the comments very respectful. We appreciate all of you so much! Bethany really is ok and has moved way past these issues. She is an incredible young woman with a remarkable history and testimony. We are very proud of her and love her very much! 😊❤❤❤

@aliamissy 5 жыл бұрын

Bethany is an inspiration. She's had to overcome a lot of obstacles & has done so with such grace.

@rebeccakalyani2486 5 жыл бұрын

SixBlindKids I appreciate that she was willing to share. I’m sure it will help someone else. Karen you did such a great job of handling that. I also appreciated the back-and-forth conversation. She asked some good questions.

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

@@rebeccakalyani2486 Thank you Rebecca. This means a lot. You wouldn't believe what we go through as a family before posting every video. We just never know how these sensitive topics will be received. ❤

@hannahgoforth2722 5 жыл бұрын

I love miss Bethany! She's turned out to be an amazing girl! So proud of her bravery to share her story! Thank you for doing that Bethany!❤️

@barbarabarrera6148 5 жыл бұрын

SixBlindKids Bethany is an amazingly beautiful young lady. I just can't picture this sweet human being ever getting in trouble

@Tiffany-hj8cf 5 жыл бұрын

Putting a small child that had accident in a cold tub of water that’s cruel I’m sorry that’s not discipline in any way😢

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

Yeah....it amazes me sometimes. I really want to believe it was just a misguided attempt at discipline, but man....❤

@ReadObituaries 4 жыл бұрын

Tiffany Jones speaking from experience- it’s far better to be thrown in cold than hot. You can get used to the cold. Can’t get used to the hot. These are reasons I want to be a social worker. If only my social workers knew what was happening in my foster home. Most foster children are sexually or physically abused (usually by other foster children- but still, it’s the atmosphere altogether). They have what is called guardian etlitem (I have no clue how to spell it- I just know how to say it. It’s pronounced eh-T Lie-tuhm) who is supposed to be an interpreter between the child and the courts but I only ever seen mine while at court- only talked to her a few times. Foster children need more people to stand up for them. A lot of the times, it’s not our faults we are where we are. I wasn’t in foster care because *I* done something wrong& I shouldn’t be punished because of it.

@shahanibraga7498 4 жыл бұрын

@@ReadObituaries social workers don't fucking help. I've been in situations where I had to deal with social workers regarding abusive family member and THEY DONT FUCKING HELP. They're in it for the job security or money or something that makes them feel better. I genuinely believe there's only a handful of social worker who actually genuinely care about people. Sorry, this is just coming from someone with a horrible experience regarding domestic violence and abuse with social workers who don't care

@ellaova 4 жыл бұрын

Its not 'misguided', its intentionally cruel! You dont need to make excuses for these people. Forgiveness may be noble, I suppose, but not when its gives awful people a pass to do awful things. We need less forgiveness and more reform!

@irishcanuck9489 4 жыл бұрын

I had a friend who had CP, she worked and she asked me to babysit her son, he was 3 then. I did this for several years, sometimes I took him for sleepovers, as he got older about 8 she was having behavioral issues with him, so I kept him for awhile (maybe 6 mths). I wanted to keep him, and let him visit her. He had bonded with us and called my sons his brothers. She decided not to. When he was about 9 she placed higher m with another family, I found out later. I still managed to see him once in a while, I kept in touch as much as possible. He wet the bed, but we would wake him up around midnight to go pee and he never wet the bed when with us. Fast track to 18, he showed up at our place and asked me why we didn't keep him. We were crying, I told him I wasn't in control of the situation. He told me about the sexual abuse he endured at the hands of his mother's boyfriend and both sexual and physical abuse in the other home. He said, you were my family and I thought you gave me away. Sad story, heart breaking!

@nishawilliams8745 5 жыл бұрын

I love how you say “when you came home” instead of when you got here or when we adopted you, I’m glad she got away from that horror and eventually found her way home ❤️

@shahanibraga7498 4 жыл бұрын

Fr!!! 🥺🤧😩😔😭 BETHANY WE LOVE YOU

@khanbibi 4 жыл бұрын

Nisha Williams yes and Bethany is at a lovely home where she is really loved and she is at a happy place

@brittanyduckworth4037 5 жыл бұрын

Aww mustard and cold baths for punishment?! Jeez that’s really unkind. I’m sorry they did that to you Bethany. That’s so sad..I feel horrible that they did that to you. :( :( :( it sounds like it was merging on abuse though. I’m glad she is with your family now though and she’s very well treated and loved.

@vonnieb3257 5 жыл бұрын

Merging on abuse??.. that definitely is abuse!.. there's different types of abuse..

@brittanyduckworth4037 5 жыл бұрын

Yvonne 1820 yes I know that there are different types of abuse. I have experienced a couple of them

@vonnieb3257 5 жыл бұрын

@@brittanyduckworth4037 ..yeah me too..but it's the word "merging" that made me think you didn't fully comprehend that this clearly is mental and physical abuse.. using food for punishment and using cold water for punishment is really just torture.. I'm sorry you had to go through any yourself,. Please have a good night xx

@loisgriffinreal8876 5 жыл бұрын

@@vonnieb3257 Yeah, I'd see how'd that set anyone off. I completely agree. Got a bit offended, myself.

@jaqoyirene4990 5 жыл бұрын

Sadly parents who foster children are like that. My mom would have to stand for hours at a time when she was little in foster care for a punishment. Not saying all foster families are bad but most people just do it for the money and not care about the children. My mom told me out of 20 foster family's she had only 1 of them actually loved the her and treated the kids right.

@stankatbarrell9878 5 жыл бұрын

This is why I am going to foster and adopt when I get older. To stop kids from going to bad homes and to allow them to feel safe and loved like this family provides.

@Fragrantbeard 5 жыл бұрын

Good on you! What a fantastic goal.

@shynncat9647 5 жыл бұрын

That’s good! But remember that it happened in Thailandia

@cynwashere6940 4 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏👏💟

@ambergreenwald879 4 жыл бұрын

That’s exactly what I said and I’ve been doing it for about 18 years now ❤️

@tamkumi.180 4 жыл бұрын

Lindsey Cline Me too. I am REALLY scared about being pregnant, so I don't want to go through the pain. I do want to adopt a kid that can talk and do some things on their own (like go to the bathroom) because I can't stand the thought of having to change diapers every day. I'm only 15, but I still want to adopt in the future due to my fear of getting pregnant.

@alexjordan8838 5 жыл бұрын

bethany is so mature to be able to eat her sandwich even with the mustard and the bad memories associated with it, and so grown up to share about her experience, i’m so sorry that happened to you darling! thank you for opening up bethany, it was so brave!!

@annausf3887 5 жыл бұрын

"I'm all grown up now." Bethany is a very strong individual, well, matter of fact, you all are, reminds me to keep the Faith.

@SpookyGhostHippy 5 жыл бұрын

Broke my heart seeing that Bethany had to go through that...nobody deserves that I’m glad she’s in a much loving home and situation.

@TheStigmawarriors 4 жыл бұрын

She wasn’t disciplined. She was abused!!! I’m so heartbroken hearing about this! I’m crying! Who does this to a child let alone a child who goes from their home country into an unfamiliar place!? Oh my god poor baby! I’m seriously freaking crying! They should’ve been put in jail for this. Bethany, I’m so sorry honey. I’m so sorry. No child should ever have to go through what you did.

@powderandpaint14 3 жыл бұрын

You're totally right, what she went through was physical abuse. I wonder if social services and the adoption agency involved in her first adoption were ever made aware of what those people were doing to the children in their care.

@amanda5889 5 жыл бұрын

You should do a mini series of each child's adoption story. Of course if they are ok with it.

@alyssam8550 5 жыл бұрын

I'm not usually one to get emotional, but when Bethany was talking about putting her in a cold bath I got teary eyes. That's absolutely horrific.

@alyssam8550 5 жыл бұрын

It's not fair the situations that so many of our kids come from. I am a caregiver for special needs people. So many of them have been through awful things like that. I don't understand how people can do that to others, especially vulnerable people. I have a hard time wrapping my head around how you can treat another human being like that.

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

The statistics of abuse in the special needs community are astounding. Scares the bejeepers out of me! ❤

@IloveJesusandPillows 4 жыл бұрын

Alyssa M I did too and I’m like not emotional at all

@pamelawiggins9131 5 жыл бұрын

What a sweet, tender heart Bethany has. It's really painful to hear she was treated poorly.

@OliviaLeaf 4 жыл бұрын

I adore how respectful of her boundaries you are. “I don’t have to include this, even though we’re filming, that’s totally okay”. It’s her choice, and you respect that! I love the dynamic

@micaiahhendrickes471 4 жыл бұрын

I love how you explained to her how that was inappropriate. That was a fantastic way to explain it!

@hellosunshine305 5 жыл бұрын

I’m glad she can laugh now about the mustard. Those experiences are so terrible and traumatizing for a child who was ripped from her home country, forced to speak a different language, and made to live with strangers. ESPECIALLY for a child with no vision. She has grown into a beautiful and incredibly sweet young woman❤️ She is such a blessing!

@yvettembele3570 5 жыл бұрын

Bethany deserved better. Stuff you do to your kids can really stay with them for the rest of their lives and not necessarily in a good way. I'm glad you guys found each other in this lifetime ❤️

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

Me, too Yvette...it was meant to be. 😊❤❤❤

@ananigma7 5 жыл бұрын

Sweet Bethany, I'm so sorry you were abused in that way but I'm so glad you now have the best forever family in the world! 🥰

@melissakelson332 4 жыл бұрын

Bethany is literally the sweetest person in the entire universe, how could any adult treat her like that? Thank god she came home to Mom and Dad xx

@SMartypAntsPants 6 ай бұрын

Bethany is the sweetest, most caring young lady. I'm so glad that she found a loving home with this fantastic family. I love you all!

@progressivepagan5575 5 жыл бұрын

Bethany, you're so brave to share your story to such a wide audience. As a survivor of child abuse myself, I've found that talking about things not only helps me heal my own wounds, but can sometimes help others heal and understand as well. I'm glad you've found your family and have grown into such an emotionally mature young woman. Always keep being you.

@lifeofaphotographer213 4 жыл бұрын

I lost it when you said you were given the “gift of infertility”. You are the most special people! I can’t wait to beginning fostering children when I’m older

@OperaticEngineer 5 жыл бұрын

From a fellow adoptee, the conversation you had with Bethany was very touching! It reminded me of how my mom would explain my adoption to me and how I was meant to be in my family. It’s nice to share this adoption positivity with people who aren’t familiar with adoption!

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Megan! This means a lot coming from you...😉😊❤❤❤

@Genna.K 4 жыл бұрын

Aw mom, "I am glad you are my daughter", every girl needs to hear that.

@kgotabody13 5 жыл бұрын

Bethany is so beautiful and always smiling! Love her! ❤️❤️❤️

@micutulstrumf7870 5 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry *hugs* I wish I can hug her bless her heart.💙❤😭😭🖤🧡

@saibisureddo5657 4 жыл бұрын

She went through such misguided punishments and still came out so strongly caring and brave and kind. Bethany is a wonderful example of a human being on this Earth. If everyone had a Bethany in their life they would be a lot happier and stronger for it.

@jessicastratton8839 4 жыл бұрын

I love that mom and dad spend time with each child individually. This family makes my heart smile!!!😁❤ I also want to express how impressed I was that mom NEVER spoke ill of the past "parents." I would have had disparaging comments to say of those people, but she just remarked on their actions as "inappropriate and misguided" but did not insult them as people. That so speaks to her integrity.

@SpookyGhostHippy 5 жыл бұрын

You’re such a loving mother!❤️

@souixaan 5 жыл бұрын

well done Bethany for moving forward and actually managing to eat that sandwich. you grew today. you are smart, you are brave, you are beautiful. keep growing and keep moving forward.

@anninginlove170 5 жыл бұрын

I am an adoptive parent too. South Korea. I would never in 10 million years use food to punish a scared child into submission. So horrible. Thank you for sharing Bethany. You have grown to be an exceptional young lady. I love watching you and your family. What an AMAZING channel.

@julietravis6451 4 жыл бұрын

I admire you so much. People like you and your husband make this world a better place. Thank you.

@SixBlindKids 4 жыл бұрын

Awww...thanks Julie! We really appreciate your kindness, too! 😊❤❤❤

@violaquilter6561 5 жыл бұрын

Everyone’s road home is different. So sorry for the detour on your road, but happy you made it to the right place.

@Elizabeth-ih2ff 5 жыл бұрын

Poor Bethany, Cold Water Baths and Mustard in food. Bless her heart ❤️ You guys are a great and loving family! Sending blessings and lots of love! 🥰💖

@JC-kb2qg 5 жыл бұрын

Bethany, you've become such a wonderful and wholesome individual that radiates kindness and understanding! You're inspirational!

@Hazeydaze92 4 жыл бұрын

Poor baby girl, I'm glad she found such a wonderful family in her forever home. Every child deserves love and respect. That was no way for them to treat a child, and I'm glad you taught her that this was wrong.

@andrealuvshouse 5 жыл бұрын

That’s so sad that you had to go through that as a child, Bethany. That’s abusive. Thank god you have such loving parents to help you recover. You’re such a beautiful young woman.

@Rabbitorzo 4 жыл бұрын

I have such an overwhelming love for this family. Tears will not stop streaming down my face. SO much love and healing to your beautiful children.

@susanlewis9351 5 жыл бұрын

How could someone torture a child like that! Thank God she has such wonderful parents now!

@EgbertWilliams 3 жыл бұрын

Such a good-hearted, sweet girl. No one should have ever deliberately bruised that heart.

@lovemrs.g Жыл бұрын

I am just glad that she is home. She is such a sweet girl.

@vonnieb3257 5 жыл бұрын

That definitely was abuse!.. I'm so very sorry that Bethany went through that!..💔

@DiannawithtwoNs 5 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad Bethany felt comfortable enough to share those events from her past with us. I've heard horror stories of kids going through the foster system and ending up with awful families, so I'm happy you were able to adopt her! My home life was stable growing up, however I was in an abusive relationship about ten years ago, but finally managed to break it off. I very recently came to terms with the trauma from it (I had blocked most of it from my memory), and finally came out and told my parents what had happened. I'm in my mid-twenties and my current boyfriend has been nothing but respectful and supportive of me as a person. Honestly I believe that God has a plan for all of us, and that was for Bethany to be with your family and for me to come to terms with my past.

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this, Dianna. I am so glad you were able to get out and that you were smart enough to tell your parents. Abuse is rampant, especially in the disabilities community. Scary stuff. ❤

@user-ly4wt9xp4i 5 жыл бұрын

I really don’t understand how people have the heart to do such horrible things to innocent children. I just love how Bethany smiles. I’ve noticed a lot of the girls and obed are constantly smiling. It’s really contagious

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

The kids are all remarkably happy and well-adjusted! They inspire me, too....Obed is the happiest most laid back kid despite everything he's got going on. It is humbling to be their mom...😊❤❤❤

@tanyabatley5086 5 жыл бұрын

We forgive those terrible people Bethany...you have a wonderful mummy and daddy now..we love you all xx

@TheDemon3666 5 жыл бұрын

Bethany is the sweetest soul ever. She was punished with mustard, hadn't had it in years then by accident, has it and STILL praised the subscriber for being sweet enough to send the mustard. She's such a pure, sweet and innocent light and has the most BEAUTIFUL moonbeam/galaxy eyes I have ever seen :') thank you for being so strong, Bethany and sharing your past traumas with us. You did not deserve ANY of what you went through as a kiddo, that wasn't fair... We have had trauma as well, so we know how all that can effect someone. We have D.I.D ( dissociative identity disorder), at a very young age (3) trauma was so intense that the mind split into other personalities. Currently, I live with 70+ other people that are in my head but can come out into the body just as a normal person. They have different ages, genders, religions, etc. One of our Alters is named Val and he too, is blind :) he's one of the sweetest people just as all you wonderful guys are. He loves to listen to your videos from time to time, as he's not co-conscious or fronting often. My point is, trauma happened yet you pulled through and became such a strong and beautiful young lady. We are all so proud of you, Bethany, and your siblings as well :) hellos from all of us to you, sweetheart 💝 👋 -Alex and The System

@junbh2 5 жыл бұрын

I know, it was so thoughtful of her to thank the person for the generosity of the gift, even though it happened to he something she didn't like too much herself.

@shoshannafachima1306 5 жыл бұрын

Thank God Bethany is your daughter and NOT with the previous family.their disciplinary techniques were very inappropriate and cruel.hus and live to you all

@fruitypatchouli 4 жыл бұрын

You sweet girl. I'm so sorry those people were terribly misguided. You seem very wise for your age, Bethany. Much love! Sorry this is way too late. I've been binge watching SixBlindKids videos all week! I adore these kids😍 And I adore you two for adopting and being the best parents you can be. It's refreshing to see a genuinely loving family dynamic. I have no experience with adoption, but I have experience with misguided and inappropriate punishments. As well as straight up abuse, unfortunately. I just turned 30, and I gotta say life truly does get better. You just gotta find your tribe! Biologically or not!

@SixBlindKids 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, Liz! God bless you..😊❤

@sueewood3004 5 жыл бұрын

This is the one that got me! Tears in my eyes and amazed. I have worked with children in a counselling capacity for many years prior to my retirement and i never had the experience of watching parents, and especially you, Karen, connecting with their kids emotionally and exploring their pasts so gently,, loving them and protecting them from harm, and giving not just a home, but the very best of a home - a gorgeous house that reflects that you give everyone the very best of everything. You and your family shine like beacons to the rest of the world. Bless you all, and especially Bethany for this brave video. You are an amazing family and although I am sure you have some really tough days, the love gets you through it. Love and respect. xxx

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

I can't begin to tell you how much your kind words of encouragement mean to me, Sue....Thank you. It is especially meaningful coming from a professional like yourself. We are winging it most of the time, so thank you for this confidence builder!! So appreciated! 😉❤❤❤

@sueewood3004 5 жыл бұрын

@@SixBlindKids Well, truth is you are doing a brilliant job. The evidence is your kids and the way they relate to one another and yourselves, you make it look easy, but I know it's anything but. Good days and bad probably to varying degrees but no one could do it better even on your worst, so never ever doubt yourselves!

@cominatrix 4 жыл бұрын

its only in odd situations like this that you realize that bethany is always smiling and you only realize it cause its a little jarring to see her a bit upset. ive heard she reads this so ill just say keep smiling girl! im really happy youve been allowed to find and make a life that has you smiling so much.

@tdoonerdooner8268 5 жыл бұрын

Im so sorry that happened Bethany. That was absolutely horrible. Children need to be loved not abused. You are where you need to be. They are awesome parents.

@JulianaMeows 5 жыл бұрын

There’s a very popular family on KZfaq who is doing the cold water bath to help potty train their youngest daughter (and advocating for it) and I wish they’d watch this sweet girl get emotional all these years later from it. It is traumatizing and I hope Bethany knows how brave she is for telling us so we can all learn from her.

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

Someone else just brought that to my attention. I went over and left a comment, but some of the big channels like that rarely read them. I hope they do and I hope they stop. She is an adorable little girl. It would be a shame to lose her emotionally. It seems like they mean well, but my goodness! As a parent, I would be more interested to know why she does it....that's just me. I told her about the backwards pajama trick- that WILL prevent access to the diaper and keep her safe from it's contents until she can be fully toilet trained. Maybe she would stop on her own...no parent is perfect, including us, but these types of practices make me a little crazy.....

@xBumblebee7x 5 жыл бұрын

If she's so open to sharing, im sure a lot of us would LOVE to hear Bethany's life story! 🖤

@joserosiles8091 5 жыл бұрын

Bethany never ceases to amaze me ; to experience such horrific events and not allow her spirit to be broken in the process is amazing ! She’s so kind and nurturing .

@lukemonahan1687 5 жыл бұрын

Dear Bethany, My heart hurts to know that you went through such punishment. No one should ever be put through that. But I am glad to see that you are happy and feel safe now. You are a strong girl! Such a precious soul. You are so lucky to have such dedicated parents and the absolute best siblings! I wish nothing but happiness and success to you and your family! You guys are the best! 💙 Sincerely, Luke

@lifesong8484 4 жыл бұрын

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@gmbs8384 4 жыл бұрын

Poor baby girl... Some ppl can be so cruel. These unique beautiful children should always be protected and nurtured.

@SimplyAbsurd-j8i 5 жыл бұрын

If you're thinking about becoming a parent and cleaning up accidents is that horrifying to you, I recommend getting a tomato plant.

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

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@Reiyunah 5 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad Bethany is in a way better situation, She deserves nothing but the best.💕

@morganbudreau8957 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being brave enough to share your adoption trauma, Bethany. I’m glad your current family doesn’t abuse you. You are where the Lord wants you to be.

@a7c777 4 жыл бұрын

With this video I hope more adoptive families and heads of foster homes learn to control their frustrations on children who dont know any better. I cant see how this form of discipline can properly curb misbehavior for most children and could really cause confusion and toxic self identification for kids growing up. I understand that people who adopt/foster are typically eccentric as adoption isnt a common occurrence, but this type of punishment can be lazy, misguided, traumatic, and not effective. I’m super glad and thankful Bethany was able to share her story to give awareness for all the new parents out there to be more mindful for the children’s sake. It might be small, but its an amazing gesture for her to be able to be open about this and I’m so happy Bethany grew up as such a sweet, kind and grounded person despite this little parenting mistake. So glad to see such a great person is now in such a loving, safe and caring home. Thanks for the vids guys! I love your family you guys are great!

@SixBlindKids 4 жыл бұрын

It is not just adoptive or foster families who use this type of discipline...❤

@IloveJesusandPillows 4 жыл бұрын

Situations like these get me all mad and upset at anyone who could even for a millisecond think about treating a kid wrongly whether intending to be or just misguided. I could NEVER forgive that offense If I could get ahold of the people who think doing these things to a kid is okay. I’m afraid it won’t be pretty my salvation only goes so far blind or not I’m afraid I might light into somebody if I ever come across anyone mistreating a child On a happier note I’m so grateful that Bethany and all the kids made it to a family where they are dearly loved and get told so and shown often

@mayraflowers9888 4 жыл бұрын

Omg the fact that she’s blind and they do that to her is horrible.Good job Bethany for being so strong and resilient

@katiepie3009 5 жыл бұрын

I’m literally in tears! I just want to hug her so much! Thank you for giving these beautiful children loving homes and wonderful lives!

@sofiasousapires 4 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear how Bethany was treated but handled it with grace and is a wonderful young lady!!

@bryannab7566 5 жыл бұрын

The look in her eyes when she was explaining that stuff made me so sad. My best friend was a foster kid and has very similar stories and so it was unfortunately not surprising, but really sad. I'd be Bethany's friend in a heartbeat if I weren't... you know... Canadian. Lol.

@blackkpenguino21 5 жыл бұрын

I'm glad she's in a better place with your family... But it hurts my heart knowing other children are going through this kind of discipline. :(

@jorgieWrestles805 5 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭😭so sad...I’m happy that Bethany is with you guys and not anywhere else 🙏

@wiserthanyouweretold6164 4 жыл бұрын

my child has autism and I cannot imagine someone in this world being so cruel to them or to hurt them in any kind of way on purpose out of frustration or whatever it may be. having a child cry out by being put in a stressful or uncomfortable situation is just despicable to me. I'm glad your babies found true love with you guys it doesn't happen very often that they turn out so wonderful After experiencing anything negative you've done an amazing job

@rebella8898 4 жыл бұрын

Poor girl! She is so sweet! She didn’t deserve to be treated that way. I hope that she got the therapy she needed to move past that traumatic time. She seems well adjusted now. Poor thing.

@justmythoughts7381 5 жыл бұрын

I'm not a overhuggy person, but I really wanted to reach through the phone screen and give you a big hug Bethany. It was also such a privilege to hear some of your story. I hope by people commenting today you realise what a much loved special young lady you are. I truly can see you being a great comfort to other people in the future who have or are going through similar situations. You have a very big heart. Mom and Dad must be very proud of you. ❤

@juliewagner8417 5 жыл бұрын

Aww that was awful!!! Bethany is a precious girl...All the kids are Great!! Thank the Lord they have wonderful parents now.

@ronadoyle3158 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you to you Mom for talking to Bethany. What a wonderful example you are. Thank you for sharing Bethany and Mom.

@mercedeskeneston5405 5 жыл бұрын

My heart is heavy watching this, but I'm happy Bethany and all of the children are in a better safer space.

@rosehipowl 5 жыл бұрын

Have any of the kids (who can) spoken to someone? It has really helped me to have someone impartial and nonjudgmental to talk to. The things Bethany is describing are awful, and it might be useful for her and the other older kids to help any bad memories or experiences. I am a massive proponent of therapy and anyone who reads this should look into it, regardless of whether you have a mental illness or not! Everyone needs someone neutral to talk to sometimes :) I'm so glad that Bethany is doing better now! It's great that you found each other, even through the twists and turns! 💕

@familyofthree2020 5 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry bethany that you went through that with that other family . That is not love . Telling and showing a child love is 2 different things. You can tell a child you love them as much as you want but if you dont show them then how do they know.

@lifesong8484 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. In fact, to abuse a child & then tell them you did it out of love this is just further abuse. It is emotional abuse. If those previous foster carers actually believed they were doing it out of love, they are deluding themselves. Excusing their own abusive behaviour.

@rachelb.2014 5 жыл бұрын

So sorry those things happened to you. I'm very glad you ended up with your perfect forever family ❤

@Jilliiette 4 жыл бұрын

Bethany is resilient. I’m so glad she is with you and acknowledge what she’s gone through.

@jens9782 5 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry that someone tormented you. I give you a big hug from my heart 🤗. Mom way to go to help her overcome that part of her life.She knows now how much shes loved. I hug you too mom! ( I cried over her story) But my tears turned to joy knowing she is safe now and forever. 👸👸😘😘

@PossumWrangler 5 жыл бұрын

It’s heartbreaking to here that those are her first memories from coming to America, however it’s amazing that she has enough compassion to forgive.....sounds like Momma and Daddy have done an amazing job at helping her heal❤️

@BlindtoBillionaire 5 жыл бұрын

We are always here to offer support in anyway we can! We love the six blind kids family! All of you are such great people.

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Matt! 😊❤

@dawnschnack3576 4 жыл бұрын

THIS MOTHER IS SO CALM LOGICAL FULL OF LOVE POSTIVE. IM CRYING MY EYES OUT EVEN AS A ADULT OF A SURVIVOR OF ABUSE PHYSCIALLY MENTALLY IM CRYING BECAUSE SHE SPEAKS TO ALL HER CHILDREN LIKE THEY ARE EQUAL AND THAT BRINGS CONFIDENCE... BETHANY IS SO CALM LOVING AND RADIATES LOVE. I am still full of care and love and i was the person who would say hello to someone who is autistic or blind ect. My mother took us to church and after church i was beaten or hit over the head with a metal spoon just if i couldnt remember the lords prayer. Or got a math problem wrong. Im a adult now but i have to tell you these scars live on but this mother heals the wounds and it may sound stupid i listen to her to helo me. And tbe children are full of wisdom also. THANKYOU FOR YOUR FAMILY DAY 2 IM WATCHING EVERY VIDEO....

@SixBlindKids 4 жыл бұрын

Dawn...I am very sorry for all you have endured. You are right about abuse leaving permanent scars, but you CAN learn to overcome these things and turn all those negative lessons around to your own advantage. You have a clear idea of how NOT to parent. You clearly understand the effects of words and actions on a child. They say that the abused will abuse, but it does not have to be like that. You can break the cycle and I believe you will! God bless you, Dawn...❤

@EarthboundMistfitAmI 5 жыл бұрын

My GOD IN HEAVEN IM SO SORRY!! You've sure grown into a inspiration and blessing!! You are a BEAUTIFUL PERSON! THANK GOD for Mom and Dad

@cricket47222 5 жыл бұрын

Bethany it would be a honor and a privilege to have you for a daughter! You're a smart, beautiful young lady that deserves only the best in the world. GOD BLESS YOU sweet girl😍

@taybaye 4 жыл бұрын

God bless Bethany and her willingness and openness to share with us. She is so amazing! and beautiful!!! I hope I can raise my 3 year old to be as strong and courageous as her 💕

@draculena 4 жыл бұрын

it warms my heart to no end knowing that bethany was safe and cozy with a loving family in the end. makes me feel like all is right in the world 😢💗 bethany is an absolute sweetheart. her smile makes me so happy, but hearing her story made me sad. :-(

@heidihokes7789 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Bethany, for opening up and sharing a little peek into your past, when you were transitioning, until you finally made it home to your loving family. I'm SO HAPPY for you that things worked out the way they did, because you have such an awesome set of parents & siblings you can relate to. I'm sorry you had to go through some rough times to get there, but SO GLAD you made it!! I guess we all go through rough times in our lives, which makes us REALLY appreciate when things go to good. I always enjoy seeing that big smile you always have on your face!! You seem to be a VERY HAPPY person! It's always nice to see how loving, kind and helpful you are with your family. I know you have a very special bond with your brother, Obed & that is SO AWESOME!!! Thank you, again, for sharing some of your experiences. You are such a wonderful, special gal! 🙂💞

@brittanystacey1895 5 жыл бұрын

Her story has me in tears. Im so sorry Bethany. Just always know you are beautiful, and you are with your true family that loves you dearly.. Always stay positive sweet girl. You are a rockstar!! 😊

@haleighdavis418 4 жыл бұрын

Bethany is the most amazing young lady ever. It breaks my heart that her sweet soul went through this... She is so strong and caring to have gone through that. I’m so proud of her.

@natalieadams1469 5 жыл бұрын

Omg! The cold baths! I just want to reach through the screen and give her a big hug. So glad she decided to share this, so people can hear how these “punishments” effect kids. ❤️🥺

@SuyinA 5 жыл бұрын

I'm glad thats in the past, Bethany deserves nothing but the best and lots and lots of love!

@autumng5143 5 жыл бұрын

Oh my god!!!😭😭😭😭😭 that poor poor sweet child! Thank you Jesus for giving Bethany a home to love her and guide her with compassion and a pure of heart❤️

@ronadoyle3158 4 жыл бұрын

Bethany I'm so thankful for you that you are where you truly belong.

@meganlovesdisneyandcrafts4780 5 жыл бұрын

❤️ I’m so sorry Bethany. No one should EVER mistreat anyone. You’re such a strong woman along with your sisters and brothers( who are boys lol). Thank you for sharing and here’s a hug.

@alyssam8977 5 жыл бұрын

My goodness! Not a good form of punishment, indeed! She was definitely brave to tell her story! I had a classmate who was adopted and she had very similar “punishment” stories from her days (years) in foster care. Definitely a good reminder to treat everyone nicely and especially children!

@ameliaferguson3213 4 жыл бұрын

Bethany is so strong and such a special girl. I’m so glad she has y’all and she’s in such a loving home 🥰🥰

@beckinana-n.2103 4 жыл бұрын

Bethany , you are such an awesome, smart and beautiful young lady! And you are very brave!

@jordyng6 5 жыл бұрын

Bethany there are no words. So much respect for allowing us a small peak into your life. I am extremely honored you chose t share with us all. I hope we can all be an safe space for you to share and even if you don’t we are all still here :)

@delwyngugich4066 5 жыл бұрын

Bethany, you are such a sweet soul, I felt your pain behind your forgiveness of that other family. It is the first time, I have been able to see your beautiful eyes, because when you smile, it catches people’s hearts. I think you found the right family, so that you can be the big sister to Obed, and I hope you enjoy school this year. I live in New Zealand, and it is the end of winter here, and summer at Christmas time, so our school year runs from February to December.🥰

@bobbi543 5 жыл бұрын

My heart breaks to hear what happened to Bethany .... But God took her out of there and put her into a loving home, where love is everywhere and she had to go through some bumpy stuff, but that made her stronger, and even more of a powerful outspoken person and caring.... and she bonds so well with Obed .. she has such a sweet spirit about her.... I am so glad she was taken out and put into a loving home, and God protected her from further harm... So glad you guys got her.. everything in Gods time..

@Ryan-rp2ry 4 жыл бұрын

So strong of Bethany to forgive, we can all use a reminder of the power that has in healing for ones self and great comforting words from mom. Misguided is the perfect word to describe this kind of punishment from someone who's supposed to care for and teach you. I feel it's all too common for some parents who are not ready for children to think a form of punishment will teach kids not realizing the lasting impact instead of just sitting down and talking with them. I'll tell you my story from childhood when I would get sick a lot from certain foods so I was scared to eat dinner sometimes, If I didn't eat I would get a small spoonful of cinnamon or the family would have candy for dessert now and then and I would only get to smell the wrappers.

@SixBlindKids 4 жыл бұрын

Making you only smell candy wrappers or giving cinnamon for punishment are very similar tactics this first family used. I wonder if they read the same book...what a horrible thing to do to kids! Just learn from those misguided things and move forward. I'm so sorry..❤

@momzillainnova 5 жыл бұрын

Bethany I hope your mum reads these loving comments to you. Please know, my daughter and my son were both older than 7 and have always lived in a very loving home here in the US and still had accidents. Its a common thing. Im so so so very sorry that this happened to you. This has everything to do with THEIR character and nothing to do with your own. You are a beautiful spirit my dear dear Bethany. I love watching your videos about your family and feel honored that you trusted us enough to share this with us.

@SixBlindKids 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your lovely comment! ❤ Bethany reads the comments herself. We don't let her reply yet, but I think she is almost ready for that..😉😊❤