Run, girl... RUN!!!! Anyone finding themselves in a similar situation, leg it!! 🏃 It's rough, but if he can make that kind of a U-turn after three years of "agreement", he's capable of anything... and I don't mean that in a positive way!

So he wants traditional gender roles but wants her to continue working? Let me translate that: "I want you to continue working so that you can split the bills with me, but I still want you to do all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and childcare alone. I won't lift a finger as my free time is more valuable than yours, so I get to spend it in front of a TV while you handle all of the responsibilities. On top of this, as the man of the house I expect you to also bend to my will and never question me, since my idea of being the man of the house means being a dictator with his own personal slave. This includes having sex with me whenever I demand it, even if you don't consent to it. In return, I will pay half of the bills."

Ignoring your partner's needs is not traditional roles. Decisions should be based on what's best for the group. Both partners take leadership roles in different areas is traditional roles. But it's always important to acknowledge your partner's needs when making decisions. I agree that if both people feel the need to compete for the decision making process, that's an unhealthy dynamic. The goal needs to be to find the best possible outcome for the couple. But it's perfectly normal for both partners to have different strengths that if compatible, should complement each other. No one has all the answers. That's the whole point in my opinion of a relationship, to compliment each other and make a stronger whole. To use that stronger form to tackle the hardest challenges in life together. Life isn't easy, and no one can truly do it alone, we need family, friends, community and even a partner for some endeavors. A partnership is a deal like any other, there needs to be terms and conditions. Lay them out with your partner, if he loves himself, he also has things he can't accept. We all deserve to put our needs first, and if possible, find a partner who complements us and who's major goals line up with ours. That way, it's easy for the interests of the group to match the interest of the individual. But each person has to have a clear idea on how they want to live, and be willing and able to communicate that with their partner. Or you could just do whatever. 🤡🤡