One of the things I say to myself when I see an outfit on Instagram is - “do I want the outfit or their body?” And it gets me every time
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
😭😭😭😭😭
@tiffanynichol77653 ай бұрын
Lol me to my husband when he says I would look good in something he saw online
@May04bwu9 ай бұрын
When I was in uni, I used to buy clothes once a year and threw away only the pieces that fell apart lol. I used to buy fast fashion and even that was too expensive for me. As I got older I became very interested in slow fashion, sustainability, the influence of fashion industry on the environment, all of that. I've been working full time for 2 years now and can finally afford to buy clothes according to my ethics. It's wonderful.
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
So so happy for you! ❤ I used to save up every spare penny and I’d blow it on fast fashion, I did this for years 😭💔
@sophiegavroche9 ай бұрын
Not following trends is a great tip! In my teens, I was super influenced by youtubers to buy tons of things I didn't even like! 😅
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
🙋🏻♀️ meet your sister 🙈 Even in my 20s!
@juliegreen999 ай бұрын
Melanie is so right about old clothes being better quality because my (60+ year old) aunts started giving me their trousers from when they were young and they are so nice and are made of such nice materials 💗
@bethanyhalliwell60169 ай бұрын
Tip: Invest in a fabric shaver! It de-bobbles your clothes (jumpers, coats, leggings etc.) and makes them look brand new!💚 Game changer!
@D.C.6269 ай бұрын
My mum had a mini one when we were growing up, and de-balling clothes and socks was my preschool age chore. Now we each have big ones and my pants dont have little lint balls on the thighs 😂
@victoriamather22679 ай бұрын
As a minimalist and DINK with a capsule wardrobe, I love seeing others pursue intentional fashion.
@BizarreAvenir9 ай бұрын
Had to Google this. Can u confirm that Dink = double income no kids?
@emmaa.21579 ай бұрын
Hi Melanie! When you mentioned thinking of rehoming your wedding dress-of course it’s up to you, but a piece of advice I’d give would be to hold on to it! I’m having my Mother’s wedding dress altered to fit me for my own wedding, and having that option has made me so happy and created such a lovely bonding moment between me and my mum. ❤ Of course I know this isn’t for everyone and many people like to get their own dresses, but I thought I’d throw it out there in case! Love your content, and I can’t wait to follow these tips to be more sustainable. 😊
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
🥹 this is so so beautiful 😭
@thelostpumpkin41469 ай бұрын
Watching this while making a Christmas dress for myself :P I will say, though, re: donating clothes- don't donate everything! If it's torn/stained/worn/etc - all you're doing is putting the burden of disposing it onto the charity shops! If you wouldn't buy it, don't donate it. -sincerely, someone who used to volunteer at thrift shops
@charlottehardman36699 ай бұрын
I’m definitely getting better at buying less impulsively, and charity shops have been my saviour whilst my husband and I have had very little money- I spent the whole of my university graduation telling people that my dress was only £4 in the charity shop! I also recently got my favourite old pair of boots re-soled at the cobblers- I’ve worn them every winter since I was about 13, and they had literal gaping holes in the soles 😂 But I took them to the cobblers, and for literally £20 he put brand new soles on them and re-stained and shined up the leather! The new boots I had been eyeing up to replace them were more than double what it cost me to get them fixed up, and now my boots are ready to brave their 11th winter! 💚
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
😍 omg I haven’t even HEARD the word ‘cobbler’ in so long 🥹✨
@constructingadditionalpylo85979 ай бұрын
I could never justify buying fast fashion when I was super broke, so I would spend hours in chariry shops. It was very time consuming. Now I make my own clothes so I can decide on the fabrics and every other aspect.
@abby15779 ай бұрын
Sat watching this in my fourteen year old jumper ! I love it when an item of clothing becomes you, if i was a barbie I'd come with this jumper! Hahaa I've been selling /donating all my low quality clothing and using that money to buy better, my wardrobe is smaller but sooooo much better.
@surlespasdondine9 ай бұрын
I have never followed a trend, don't even know what is trendy at any given time. A few of my clothes date back to my teen years, more to my twenties and I'm turning 42 soon. It never occurs to me to ask if something is still "in fashion".
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
🙌🏻 love it ❤ I feel like all of the micro trends that pop up do so much damage. SO much waste. So many people buying a certain style in cheap fabrics to wear once or twice 😩
@heatherdalton47259 ай бұрын
Still obsessed with how gorgeous your wedding & engagement rings are!
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
Me too! 🥹❤️ They feel so old fashioned I adore them ❤
@shhbabygirl42679 ай бұрын
Thank you for this Mel. As someone who is approaching 30 a little bit to quickly and has also suffered with a shopping addiction (both with fast fashion and shopping secondhand), being sucked into trends and is really trying to nip by bad habits in the bud - this came at the perfect time 💚💚
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
So sooo happy to hear it 🥹💖
@D.C.6269 ай бұрын
💚 I have a few things I do to keep from acquiring too many clothing items: 1) Clean out all clothes (down to socks, shoes and undergarments) AT LEAST ONCE A YEAR (usually every 6 to 8 months). Basically I vaccum my floor, take everything out on my bed, and make categories (pjs, dresses, short sleeve, long sleeve, things to hang, jeans, etc). I have a couple of clear bags at the ready for anything I dont want to keep. 2) If I've not worn it in the last 6 months, and it isnt a) a special event item (dress for weddings, funeral or interview attire), and b) doesnt have sentimental value (ie. Wedding dress, red wool coat I want to save for my children), DECLUTTER IT 3) For me, decluttering involves a convenience of proximity. I live with my sister (smaller size than me) and mum (similar size to me) who I will offer clothes I'm ready to part with, but are still in good condition (my mum did this with me growing up, and I actually wore an old leather blazer of hers to Buffer Fest when I met you in Toronto). If no one in the fam wants it, I donate the clothes (nothing stained or ratty). I live about 15 mins away from a Salvation Army store, but sometimes research charities call and ask if you have any clothing to donate (they use proceeds from selling the clothes to fund research for Parkinsons and Diabetes). You just arrange a pickup date, leave the bags marked with some symbol on your porch, and they'll come get the clothes for you. 4) If theres a clothing item that I see shopping, take a picture, check my closet first (sometimes you like something not even realizing you already own something similar, because its familiar 😅). If I am still thinking about the item after 3 days, and it fits in my budget (my gage for needing something is would I be willing to skip eating out for a month to acquire said pricey item), then I can buy it. 5) Buy breathable underwear that actually fits and dont hold on to ALL the ratty ones to be "period panties". I've found that the right underwear completely changes how the tummy and bum of certain trousers/bottoms look. 6) Bags and Shoes. The bane of most peoples closets. At 30 years old, I own exactly 20 pairs of shoes (this includes flip flops and snow boots). Compare with my mum who has 50+ pairs of shoes that she doesnt wear on the basement shoe rack just to store them (this doesnt even amount to 20% of the shoes she owns). I've only got 2 feet, and as much as I adore the sexiness of a strappy 90s heel, I would actually like to be able to walk in my shoes for more than an hour. My shoe/bag rule is if I can't pair at least TEN outfits with it, I do not need it. I believe in an earlier video with Jessie you spoke about considering the cost-per-wear, and it blew my mind. 7) FINALLY, do not keep more clothes than you have space to hold them. I have a closet with a good built in organizer (not a walk in), a chest of drawers I refurbished myself (though only 1 drawer is being used for undergarments, the others for other item storage), and 2 shallow bins I store under my bed for seasonal items (swimsuits, hats, scarves, gloves, fake tan clothes; much more durable than fabric bags when you have carpet in the bedroom). I live at home with my parents so the space that is "mine" is limited. But as a result I've gotten really clever about how i store things, and how much I actually need. Watching some clothing folding techniques and organizing videos on KZfaq were a great help. And THINGS DO NOT NEED TO BE ASTHETIC. If you've got the time and money, sure, have at it. But at the end of the day, any streamlined organization system that I will actually stick to after a long day is better than the floor puddle next to the "pretty closet". Hope these tips help! 😊
@D.C.6269 ай бұрын
💚 As a longtime viewer of yours, YOU are actually the one who inspired me to not follow trends and to dress for happiness. Im a plus size girlie, and still trying to save where I can as a student, so larger clothes plus sustainable fashion hasn't really been an option (yet). And I do definetly have a clothing box for items that are a bit snug right now (as we often acquire some protective winter fluff 😅), but they're good quality clothes that I still love and have invested in. Many of your clothes are comfortable with classic silhouettes, and have fun colours and patterns (I constantly lust over your wardrobe 😍). Before you, i went to a Catholic secondary school with a uniform resembling a golf caddy, and started uni with a closet containing nothing but "slimming" black and burgundy. And while I still enjoy a bit of a vampy look now and again, my closet now has loads of colour and patterns. It's like wearing happiness outside your body, and even if I'm feeling down, the colours give me a sunny feeling inside. My grandfather was trained as a tailor, and my mum knew how to sew when she was young, but ive always wanted to learn myself. Before closures were announced during the pandemic, i actually enrolled in a beginners sewing class at a local art center, and although things closed down halfway through, I had a sample shirt and some very cute Dumbo pj bottoms made for my sister done (also found a wonderful book with tonnes of details on fabric and stitching). I dont have a machine at home yet, but am saving for one to practice. If you do find time to learn, I'd recommend trying to make/modify clothes for your babies first. My mum did a number of homemade Halloween costumes growing up (I have photos where I'm an excellent Sailor Moon, 🌙 down to the tiara and hair pom poms). Most beginner sewing classes have you work on stiff fabrics like cotton and linen, so you could also try at making a simple collared shirt for Thomas or your dad. And as someone who finds all kinds of handicrafts therapeutic, I learned a bit of crochet when I was about 8 years old. I'm by no means proficient, but found it easier than knitting (especially since the knitting needles can be sharp and very long).
@Karen-DeMars5 ай бұрын
Such excellent suggestions! No matter what age or stage a person is in, there are ideas here that can be applied today. Thanks, Melanie! ☺️👚👏
@diverninja39 ай бұрын
I've been a subscriber for a good few years now and I remember one of the reasons for following you were your fashion videos. As someone now also in my 30s and also trying my absolute best to make sustainable choices this video is absolutely wonderful to see! I think there isn't enough information about not only buying less/sustainably but caring for your clothes to make sure they last as long as possible. Thank you so much for this!
@tvbrain228 ай бұрын
my mind is open, i watched it, some things i didn't quite understand, but what i did, made a lot of sense. lol
@lucy-tf1ur9 ай бұрын
I know that you’re following your own style, but I think you might have a warm undertone, because warm tones suit you
@pialupa9 ай бұрын
I‘m pretty sure one colour theory person on KZfaq used Melanie as an example for a Bright Spring, so yessss
@marinavivian93839 ай бұрын
Could you do more of those habits videos. Those videos are so helpful❤ Some content insperation: friendship habits, parenting habits, family habits, career habits, marriage habits........❤😊
@sometimewithrosemary9 ай бұрын
i adore the weird endings hehe! and wearing the things you love is such a good challenge - we can get too precious about things... but they're meant to be worn! if clothes are like a second skin then think of all the skins we're not letting live by just hanging them in the wardrobe!! lets your skins reach their full potential ehehheh
@SophiaTallulah9 ай бұрын
At the moment I’m just so excited to buy clothes for when I’ve finished breastfeeding. Such a faff trying to get breast feeding friendly clothes 😫
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
I know 😩 My 10 month old doesn’t latch as often now so I feel like I can actually wear something nice even just for a couple of hours 😂😭❤️
@anavidreader2779 ай бұрын
Good on you is a great app/website for finding out how ethical,sustainable and animal friendly brands are :)
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
Ohhh amazing! I’ll check it out, thanks for the recommendation 😍💚
@mindyp72569 ай бұрын
Thank you SO much for this video, Melanie! I don’t buy clothes often (1-2x per year) and what I do have I wear forever (I am 28 and have items in my closet from when I was 14!) but I actually just recently ordered some new clothes that are probably not sustainable… 😅 and your video is such a great reminder to try and NOT do that. I have a full cart on thredup of clothes I have been eyeing and yet I have never actually bought anything from them and instead chose the fast fashion option. I’m disappointed in myself, but all I can do is try to be better next time! I am a grad student so I don’t have much money at all, but I hope one day to buy from brands like Lily Silk if I do have a hankering for something new! For future videos, I would love something about any furniture, tableware, etc. thrifting and sustainable buying advice you may have. Maybe some recs for vintage shops in Dublin? I don’t live in Ireland but will be visiting next year and would love to visit some vintage shops and snag some small items like tableware to double as souvenirs!
@wyrdwitch139 ай бұрын
Super great tips and so pleased you are sharing this with the world! Earth friendly fashion choices are the future!
@marywinsor8 ай бұрын
ugh your habits series is my absolute FAV!!!! loved this vid xx
@joannaloza11489 ай бұрын
Really good advice here. And I hope we see the singing dress again in another video, best guest ever 😂
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
Hahshahaha I’d just been listening to How The World Works by Bo Burnham 😂❤
@rNeyshabur7 ай бұрын
FANTASTIC video!!!
@hadassahm30169 ай бұрын
I used to have to dress modestly and formally almost every day for work, since starting uni I've been basically living in workout clothes because I go to the gym a lot now. I hated being forced to wear a skirt and tights but I do admit... I actually prefer how I looked back then. Skirts cover more of my insecurities like my stomach and short legs. When I thrift new leggings I'm going to prioritise cotton because omg my new synthetic leggings are not breathable at all. And always looking for pockets!
@alysffion80959 ай бұрын
THE STRANGE ENDINGS ARE MAGNIFICENT
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
I can’t even remember when they started hahaha but it’s been going on so long now and I love that more people are discovering them! 😂😂 It’s so rare to sit and watch all the way to the end of a video so I guess it’s like an Easter egg for returning viewers lol
@millijames9 ай бұрын
I’ve found with my changing postpartum- pregnant again- all over the place body that Vinted and charity shops have been my go-to
@jorees60209 ай бұрын
Would love a video when you get there of you sorting out the new wardrobe, current clothes you love, organisation you’ve got planned etc
@athenahiggins45699 ай бұрын
I love you Melanie ❤️ these are really great ideas, thank you for sharing! Your videos always make me so happy. So grateful for you!
@lindaauld54239 ай бұрын
i love vintage clothing because the quality and the work put into them is impossible to find today , all my coats are vintage . Gonna have a year just styling the clothes i have and see how i get on 😀😀
@helpfulcommenter9 ай бұрын
Polyester isn't necessarily unsustainable. Some companies use primarily recycled polyester
@iuliac30879 ай бұрын
Yees! We want more videos about clothing❤
@liamodonovan66109 ай бұрын
You are beautiful inside and out you have beautiful clothes love you're style you are stunning you are a good person
@judimcdonnell19719 ай бұрын
Love these tips, I’m very conscious of buying new clothes, I love clothes but I do stick to basic colours.. I’ve always been the same 🤣 a lot less f little black dresses in many styles and lengths.. if I haven’t worn something in the season it’s bought for I give it to charity.. I get a kick out of giving clothes to charity because I love charity shopping .. go figure 🤣❤️❤️❤️
@SpringSpark9 ай бұрын
It's also very important to buy things that you *actually* like. I have this weird thing: when I look at an item, I ask myself: does it look like I already own it? Meaning not "do I have the same thing already", but "does it belong in my wardrobe and will I wear it a lot". I'm very picky with clothes, but when I see one that I actually like, I buy it. I've worn one pair of sneakers for 3 years now because I really liked them. And they are still going strong. Also, it's OK to have repetitions in the wardrobe. At some point, I realized that 80% I wear either white or black t-shirts with prints. At first, I tried to fight it, buy more colorful ones, but then I figured that it's pointless. So now I have a bunch of similar items that I'm constantly wearing, always feeling comfortable and confident in them.
@nono2727nono9 ай бұрын
The endings of your videos will always be my fav lol ❤ also watching lucy moon’s video after this yay love watching u both
@KB-bx9ui9 ай бұрын
living for the hilarious endings Mel! 😂💚
@beaucrawley11919 ай бұрын
I have a charity shop problem and almost everything I get from there ends up back there 😅 the things I’ve really saved for ie my max mara cashmere jumper I’ve had for 3 years now and I treat it like royalty 😂 I’m so messy but the things I really love and are quality I take much more care of them xxxxxx
@aeolia809 ай бұрын
The only "trend" that was short lived that wish was still around was tapered mom trousers, lol, but no, seriously, I was so happy when it was in style for those few short years recently, and the reason is that is my best cut for my body. I hate low rise, I hate flared or wide leg or boot cut, it makes my legs look like balloons and too curvy, lol, the tapered mom look slims out my calves and is just loose and baggy enough to be comfortable to not be swimming in fabric. And I'm really sad the cut is already going out of style again because I only bought a couple pairs in this cut and I wear them so much they are starting wear out and I've mended them so much already, lol.
@stephanieshanonn3669 ай бұрын
Well said Melanie
@BethEades9 ай бұрын
Lots of good advice here, but most of us don’t have a walk in wardrobe with space for clothes that don’t fit/may never fit again/someone we know may one day want. It’s ok to sell/donate things you won’t use to make space for things you will
@Charlotte-hv6ll9 ай бұрын
Leaving a comment for the algorithm
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
✨a legend✨
@christyfig8 ай бұрын
I love those kind of clothes, the sweaters and stuff, but they seem so hard to wash cause you can’t just through them in the washer machine..
@nicoletaelor2798 ай бұрын
One thing I’ve learned is that when I start hating all my clothes, I more than likely just need a new bra. Undergarments make a huge difference in how your clothes fit.
@judimcdonnell19719 ай бұрын
It is a hobby of mine to shop.. I do it seasonally.. it’s a joy of mine .. but I donate things I haven’t worn to charity and do not waste clothes
@Jessie90ish9 ай бұрын
I don’t get anything tailored because nothing is worth tailoring. I’d end up spending more on that than the item itself! 😂 I’m your age and in this transitional phase of figuring out what I want my look to be. But being pregnant again and knowing what that means for my body afterwards….it’s hard to not feel like you’re in a holding pattern.
@TaylorSwiftGleek9 ай бұрын
Loveee lilysilk
@marloesk97539 ай бұрын
💚💚
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
💚💚💚💚💚💚
@lollsazz9 ай бұрын
Sometimes I buy polyester, as some of the polyester things I buy are good quality, and I use them for many, many years! An example is my underwesr, and another one are my tops from Tefron. I've owned those tops for 5 years and used them hundreds of times :)
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
That’s what my caveat was about! I think buying something you will wear a LOT regardless of the material/where it’s from is a much better thing to do than to frequently buy things that you don’t see as finding a real HOME in your wardrobe ❤
@riianiu9 ай бұрын
😊 thanks
@SamarkandChan9 ай бұрын
I work at a theatre, so paying the costume makers to tailor my clothes is a yearly ocerance. 😅
@Nidhi_Maheshwari5 ай бұрын
🙆🌆💜💜
@jkat39117 ай бұрын
I don t know if u know this but there is a barbie doll that I think it looks like you and it is called vanessa. I was in the toy section with my niece and she chose this doll.
@deborahostmo9 ай бұрын
Im a Deep Autumn :)
@gregorious1119 ай бұрын
But Melanie Murphy how do you wear your dress?
@femcelgirlfren9 ай бұрын
nothing you or i can do will save the planet.
@melaniemurphyofficial9 ай бұрын
But if everyone makes small changes, it massively impacts the industry. But yep as I said governments hold the power ❤️
@May04bwu9 ай бұрын
That is so not true. Either way, having a defeatist mentality and adding to the problem is not helping.