It boggles me that the person who sabotaged the marriage is the same person that fights to drag out the divorce in order to stay tied to the one they mistreated and discarded.

As someone who is going through a divorce from a serial cheater… thank you. From the bottom of my heart. Thank you for sharing this. When it first happened, I didn’t think I’d survive. I remember watching your videos while you were going through it and it kept me going. Thank you so much.

For anyone going through a divorce. Please take one day at a time, please pray for peace, cry it out, talk it out, exercise and remember to eat and keep yourself busy and remember that even though it seems that no one is by your side. God is and He got you. Congratulations Toni and we are happy to see you coming through❤️❤️❤️

I was a fan of the Boy because of the way he portrayed his relationship with you. But what I’ve seen over these last two years is that you turned abandonment into an opportunity to thrive. Your cooking videos are a prime example of that. Congrats on the freedom! It’s Pisces season too! #thriving 💅🏾

He's the king of fuckbois. I know it was painful, but truth be told, the garbage bagged itself and trashed itself for you. What a blessing!

So happy for you, I'm in the beginning stage of mine. We have kids so that complicates things. I'm ready for it to be over now. I've been getting my own, 3.5 years later. He left us with nothing and part of that is my fault for not having my own stuff. Never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever solely depend on a person. NOT EVEN YOUR SPOUSE THAT YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED TO FOR YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He is a narcissist and a monster. You were his toy that he could do whatever with. I’m glad you decided not to take that abuse. You are very strong. You are a survivor

I feel you on this sis. Mine didn't want to sign the papers either...smh. It's much better to be alone than with someone that is emotionally unavailable and abusive.

The nerve of that man! Like, did he seriously believe that after all of that he had the right to ask "Do you want me to come back???". I am so proud of you and will continue to support. Mama Daley raised beautiful and strong black women. CHEERS!!!!

Little do you know Toni but you and I were going through a divorce at the same time in 2019! I actually ran across your channel with that particular video of when he left…I was balling my eyes out scrolling through YT and there you were. Girl, we cried together that day! I’m so happy for you and proud of you! Keep shining sis! Much love from Atlanta! 🥰

I personally want to thank Half, she and Kiesha stick by you through it all. NO BODY mess our Toni.

It’s The “Caucacity”for me!! 🤣😂 I’m crying with joy for you.🤩Thank God you never bore children with that loser.🤦🏽‍♀️. You are such an inspiration. You go girl!! Black Women Rock!!✊🏾

Toni I have to say the way you ended this video really hit home. You said if there is one thing you would like to leave with the ladies… is “Have Your Own”. That message is so true!!! I was a stay at home mom for 12 years with a high school diploma and no real work history or a big gap in my work history. And after and during divorce I was left with nothing. Now I find myself staring over with 6 children… trying to rebuild my life from the basement floor. It’s been 4 years and I’m still fighting to get established. So, yes!!! Have your Own!!! You never know what life is going to dish out.

The fact that you chose to be transparent and share this story with us is deep, you didnt have to, but you did. Thank you.

“You can’t hold a good woman down “ (In my Mary J Blige voice ) so proud of you Toni !

I went through a divorce in 2019 as well. WOW!!! Just the level of disrespect from him is overwhelming smh. 😮‍💨 Divorce is Not easy, especially when children is involved. You are a beautiful & strong woman! I too am still trying to recover with my 2 kids & it’s been three years now. Only God is our strength. 😭😩🙏🏿

I divorced my serial cheater husband after 25 (20 married) years. I was devastated emotionally and financially. My divorce was drawn out because he fought me every step of the way including the sale of our home. It was a struggle but God restored all that I loss. I am happy and at peace now. My advice to all women is to know your own worth, don’t settle for less than and don’t believe that you can’t survive without him.

“When life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate. And when life is bitter, say thank you and grow.” Happy Tuesday beautiful Toni, First of all, you look amazing. Thank you for sharing this with us. You are stronger and more wiser after having gone through everything you have gone through. Keep being the beautiful independent woman you are. You inspire so many others. Blessings to you always ✌🏽🙏🏽

I was unknowingly having an affair with a married man, he was cheating with me an multiple women. I left him and told the wife, she texted me back and said “ Thank you and God Bless”. I believe she knew and was ready to move on with her life! I also don’t believe it was the first time she found out, I’m sure she had suspicions. Women always need to follow their instinct.

I watched you go through all of the same Hurt & Distress I experienced in 2017-2018. I was married to a alcohol dependent, verbally & emotionally abusive Narcissist for 20 years13 legally married. No cheating, however all the other crap is just as bad!!! Divorce was finalized 1/23/18. I totally agree with your advice, “ladies have to hold their own” and get a prenup before marrying anyone stating you keep everything acquired prior to the Marriage. I’ve accomplished more for myself over these last four years than I did in the entire time being Married to him. New Homeowner, New Career etc. God is so Great, Bless you Toni!!🙌🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽💪🏽👊🏽🤗

Very happy that you’re finally out of the situation. 🎉🎊 My mom instilled in her 6 daughters to always have our own (“just in case”, as she would say.) BTW, you look really pretty!

I remember that was the time I subscribed to you. I was amazed at your strength through this situation. However I also have to shout out Keisha and Haf for being your support system they were amazing. ❤️

First off YOU LOOK GORGEOUSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They NEVER realize what they have until it's GONE because he should've been GRATEFUL to even have you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't wait for the next chapter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE GLOWING giiiiiiiiiiiiiirrrrrrrrrrrlllllllllllllllllll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I’m so happy for you Toni! Congratulations!!! Your advice was great but if I may also add if you don’t have your own or money, or nowhere to go, don’t be afraid to lean on your family if needed. I needed help after my divorce not so much financially but I had to move back home which was in a different state and my mom opened up her home to me for a while. I was blessed that I had a place to go. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if needed.

I can see the relief on your face. I'm happy for you. And I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

Divorce looks GOOD on you girl you look amazing. One thing about a Pisces woman we gonna be resilient and not look like what we done been through!

I'm so happy for you. Congratulations!❤️

Congratulations!! 🍾 You look so much happier. I can feel the positive vibes through the screen. I wish you an abundance of success, happiness and joy.

Congratulations Toni on finally been free from that toxic men and marriage. Now have that divorce party.🎉🎉😊

I been following your journey through this and you are one amazing women!! I am so proud of you and so happy that you had a great support system to help you through this emotionally and mentally! I’m glad to see you in a better place and happy! 💕💕

Seeing the way you evolved from being sad and depressed to thriving and glowing is such an inspiration. Congrats queen, be happy, enjoy your freedom, and take the world by storm.

I found your channel from the July 2019 video I remember it popping up on my watch list . We had a similar story I found strength through your journey and girl! Happiness!!!. I am so happy for you, thank you again for being so transparent wishing you an amazing future 💓💕💕. You have been my inspiration.

I’m so happy for you!!! Congratulations!!! I actually started following you in the beginning of all of this. I’ve cried with you & so happy I can now celebrate with you!! You walked this walk head held high and that is Black Girl Magic!! Thank for sharing this journey. You are truly inspiring!!

Your sista support was so fierce during all you went through . SO VERY Blessed !

Toni!!! I am beyond proud of you. You were a source of inspiration for me as I was too going through a painful divorce when you started to share your journey with us. Being able to overcome and thrive after a divorce feels like a new life has been given to us. Keep glowing girl!

Congratulations Toni!🥳🎉🎈🎊💃🏽🍾 Peace, especially in your home, is PRICELESS!!!🙌🏾 Sharing your story/experience helped more people than you will ever know. God bless you. 🙏🏾❤️

I loved it!!!! The journey of divorcee Toni begins!!! 🤩 Can definitely relate to the advice given, as my husband fell ill in August of 2021. I totally agree 💯

First let me say, KUDOS & CONGRATS Toni. Im so very happy for you. I've watched this channel and previous one for a long time. You're experience is a true testimony. Thank you. Idk why the audacity of men's actions still baffle me. I had to learn young, 23, that same message when my son's dad walked out on us and didn't care if we had a roof over our heads or not. I had recently lost my job and that was the 1st time I ever truly relied on him or any man and we were living together. The street life and chasing women had him. I struggled, even homeless living in my car at one point but GOD, hallelujah, brought us through. I went to school and earning my Bachelor's and Master degrees, worked hard and at age 39, I was blessed with a 6 figure job and was able to buy my own home for my son and I. I say this as a testimony that when Toni says have your own and you can do it, there's no truer statement. Stay bless all.

Congratulations!! Been with you and rooting for you! You look amazing and I'm wishing you continued success!! ♥

I watched you at your lowest point in 2019. It is so refreshing to see how far you have come since then. You are such an inspiration!!!

I remember watching your videos around the time he left. You're definitely evidence that indeed time heals all wounds. I'm happy to see you're doing well and I can't say thank you enough for sharing your journey ❤️

Toni your experience helped so many of us through divorce. I do not wish it on anyone! I am happy that this chapter is closed. I wish all the best for you and everyone else that goes through this.

I applaud your courage and authenticity Toni. I have been a long time subscriber, bought over 20 plus earrings, met you and your ex in NY. You were my good friend in my head. My heart literally broke to see you document your process of feeling broken……because in 2017 I too was going through the same thing. Twenty year relationship. As I am finally on the other side of healing, it gives me joy to see you are as well. There were times I could not watch because it made my own pain more real. You are an awesome soul who is ENOUGH and worthy of all the great things that have come and will continue to come in your life. #freedom #blessed #favored

Your glow shows how joyful you are! I remember your first video about this. I had recently gone through my divorce and I remember crying with you bc I knew it hurt. You started your journey with family, your circle, and water! I watched you rebuild without being bitter. I’m so thankful for you sharing your journey because it wasn’t any of our business. I love seeing you happy and smiling! I’m one of your biggest fans! Be Blessed Toni. YOU DID THAT WITH CLASS! ❤️

With so much bad news I’ve been hearing lately and dealing with myself. It’s so good to hear your great news and seeing you happy and thriving!

I'm incredibly happy for you, you look so renewed and refreshed, and absolutely "Have your Own" all day, every time.

Congrats!!!!! I watched you from day one with him leaving and your growth, happiness and glowww is Real and such an inspiration!!!!! You go Stella get your groove on 🥳💃🏾

Congratulations!!!! I love to see the peace radiating from you! God has truly blessed you and has kept you through this and I’m just happy to see you thriving!

I've been following you throughout all of this and I am so happy for you!

Toni, I am so proud of you! I can’t imagine how tough this situation must have been for you, but you made it through victorious! I’ve been subbed since the “Lajay” days and your growth and perseverance has taught me a valuable lesson. I wish nothing but the absolute best for you! You deserve it! 💕💕💕💕

I’m SO proud of you Toni and I admire your strength. I pray that you get ‘double for your trouble’ and continue to shine and succeed my sista. Much love.

Congrats! I'm so glad you're out of that situation!! He deserves to be in your past! 🖤🖤💜💜

You have displayed true determination over the last few years. I must say my heart broke for you when it all began, but you never gave up and pushed through. Hats off to Haf who showed up strong, as well as the rest of your support system. I am so happy to see you genuinely happy and wish you nothing but the best going forward. God bless 🙏🏾

I've been a silent subby for a few years now, before the divorce. It's been amazing to watch your journey, you are so strong and resilient. 💖

I've been away from social media lately so I hadn't seen this news but I'm happy for you. I haven't experienced this but you sharing how you unexpectedly had to live through this journey and come out stronger, more resisilient, and blessed has been an inspiration for so many who are/have dealt with the same and/or other forms of heartbreak. I'm glad to know you're in a beautiful space 💜

I followed your whole journey sis! Thanks for sharing and so open. You have helped a lot of us ❤️ your growth is amazing

I remember the 1st time I saw your channel, it was right after what's his face left. I felt your realness and admired how strong your sister circle was in your time of need. You've grown tremendously in the last couple years. I remember people were mean to you because you were using your platform to get through your unexpected journey but you pressed on and grew through it. Keep growing and inspiring people. Love to you from Trinidad girlfriend

Toni you look amazing! One never knows their power until they’re faced with adversity. I love that you took a painful situation and turned it around. Kudos to a happier, healthier you! 💕

I'm so stinking proud of you!!! You did so well. I have no words. I'm so sorry you had to go through it.

I'm so happy for you! I remember the vlogs around that time. Your strength and perseverance are inspirational.

BRAVO Toni. You handled this nightmare with grace, strength and confidence. Keep pushing, Queen. 🙏🏽 👏🏾 👑

Thank you for being so transparent. By telling your story, you have helped others. I am sorry this happened to you, but that is what made you stronger! God speed on another successful chapter in your life.

So proud of you. Look what you've come through. So great to see you triumph and shining 🖤

Girrrrrrllllll so happy for you. Peace over everything. I have just got over the separation period so will be starting my process now. All the best to you.

Congratulations Toni! I am so happy for you. Such a long, expensive process made much more difficult because of his behaviour. Thank you for sharing your story. It’s true what you say having your own is so important.

I'm so happy for you!!!!🥳 I know it's a huge weight off of your shoulders. I'm filing for divorce very soon. I also live in Ontario and 1 year has passed since i left my ex. It's a bit overwhelming to start the actual process but I can't wait to be where you are right now. Congrats🎉🎉 and it will make your birthday extra special this year !!

Congratulations! And thank you for sharing your story. Grateful to live in this period in time where we can share stories easily and learn from other people's experiences

Congratulations from the bottom of my heart ❤ Thank you so much for sharing your journey. Sometimes when you are in the thick of it you feel like you're alone. It helps to see other folks going through the same struggles and winning!

First of all, you look amazing! I'm glad you are able to share your story.

If I'm disgusted hearing about this dude then I can only imagine how you felt. I am so proud of you and happy for this next chapter of your life. Thank you for sharing your story with us!! Love you!!! 💜🎉🎊🥂

Great video. I started following you when you popped up in my recommendations with the thumbnail where you were crying. I had never heard of you but knew that I had to find out about you. You are a very strong and inspirational person. I have watched you blossom 🌼. Thank you for being transparent with us. I'm genuinely happy for you!!!

I followed you throughout your journey and I’ve been where you were. I’m sooooo happy for you and YOU LOOK AMAZING!!!!! Keep on glowing, growing and going❤️❤️❤️

So happy for you Toni you have been amazing through this experience and we appreciate how you’ve shared your journey. 💜

I remember the pain in your face and tears when you first announced he left you. I'm glad you're on the other side of all that now ready to break out into an even more beautiful butterfly. Keep your head up. Love you and let this be a time of healing. Divorce looks good on you. 💜💜💜🦋🦋🦋

Your glow is everything! Well done for getting through it all & may God bless you on this new chapter of life🥰👸🏾

Congratulations Toni! So excited for you to be done with this process, and looking forward to watching you blossom into your next chapter! ♥️

No he did not use your account to order UberEats!!! Is he okay? He clearly was trying to get under your skin because he couldn't control you. I remember the video when you logged into one of your accounts and he was looking for shoes for his "monster foot b****". Talk about manipulative. I'm happy for you Toni, you deserve to be rid of him. He did you a favour by removing himself from you life.

So happy for you Toni!!!

Toni, Thank you for sharing something so personal. I've followed your channel for sometime and have learned a lot. Much respect! from Brooklyn

Congratulations Toni! I've seen you go through the ups and downs over the years. Happy to see you in a better place. Blessings

Proud of you!!! Glad you did not give a pass to him FOR NOTHING, abandoning your family/wife is unforgivable. I hated to see you go through it 2 years ago…let him go, you won’t miss or regret him. CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR DIVORCE 🎊🎉🎈🍾 You made it through the hardest part. Wish you the best!

You are a strong example for all young women! I agree have your own! Great advice!

I’m so proud of your strength! You’re an amazing woman! You deserve all the greatness that is coming your way!!! 👏🏾❤️

So proud of you, and happy that you have this platform to share your story and to show us how you're thriving!!

Congratulations Toni on your divooorcce (in my Taye Diggs in Brown Sugar voice lol) 🥂🎉 I'm proud of you and happy that you are no longer bound to him in any way, shape, or form. I love the advice you gave at the end of the video because it is very important to have your own as a woman. Btw your makeup looks great!

I am so frickin happy for you. I've been there with a contested divorce so I get it. You look like a happy divorce woman. Fresh, bright and beautiful! Congratulations!

Yes! "God Bless The Child that's Got His Own" And I am so happy that you are happy. There's nothing more lonely and sad went someone takes you for granted! And there's nothing more liberating when you can finally get that behind you. God Bless and Good Luck on your new LIFE JOURNEY! ONE LOVE SIS 💕

Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉♥️♥️♥️ You've done a phenomenal job! And would say on to bigger and better things but you've been doing that already! Sometimes the things dragging us down have to be removed from us to allow us to become our better selves. ♥️♥️♥️

no person deserves this, glad that you are able to enjoy the rest of your life being fabulous and getting the love that you give to others.

I remember your walk on the beach when this first happened. And check you out now. "God bless the child who has his own"!!!!!!

I’m so happy for you, here’s hoping your next chapter is very happy and prosperous.

Congrats! I’m so happy for you for getting trough this process. It wasn’t easy and you made it.

Divorce are painful. I went through it. You are a strong woman.

So happy for you. I cried and cried with you while you were walking Marley in your adidas slides. I truly applaud you Tonie & wish you the very best💝

I have watched you through this, I cried with you, I watched you hurt, get strong and you are finally on the other side, you are truly an inspiration and AMAZING to watch, I found your channel 8 years ago for natural hair and you are 1 of 2 OG youtubers that I still watch, because you are truly an AMAZING Women!!!!!!

Aaayyyyee! Aaayyyyee! Turn up! It's gonna be a HAWT GYAL summer! Followed your journey and I'm so happy for your restoration. Live it up Toni!

Toni. Im so happy for you. Divorvr is quite a journey indeed and you handed it with class and dignity. Nuff Respect. All the best.

Very happy for you, Toni! Very cute look btw. TFS❤️

I’m so happy for you Toni!!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳And I’m so so sooo proud of you and you’re honestly such an inspiration! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

So Happy for you and so proud of you. So glad you choose to share this very personal journey with us. I'm in the same boat, 2 years in, covid delay, him delaying the process ect. You give me so much hope. " Have your Own" I hear ya loud and clear!!! Blessings to you❤❤❤