I would not listen to him. He is just another prosperity gospel preacher.

@@Star-dj1kw leave abigail alone. Your advice is trash.

@@Star-dj1kw Point of correction, Dr. Myles Munroe of blessed memory preached about purpose of life, marriage, divorce, single life and leadership. The next time, you want to spill your ignorance ...just Google. It helps😊👌🏽

@@abigailaddo2034 I've learned a lot from Dr Myles...and I'm in a healthy marriage...I know my role as his helper and I realise I'll be accountable to God one day. Truth from the Word will never be anything else

Too late! I lived it and I learned from it!

Thank you so much for this 🤍

Ohhh yes you just said it sooooo true

You are very right. This guy was not worthy at all. The proverbial woman should not make us be slaves to men who don't deserve us

Wow well said

TEACH

For real! Black women should avoid men who can’t afford to even take care of themselves. What a mess, but I hope she pulls through.

This is awesome, I have made bad choices most my life, my bad habit is marrying the potential man.

You right, and proverbs 31 should never be the ONLY scripture you go by when it comes to getting married. Actually that scripture was taken out of context. We as Christians women must read the whole passage, the whole book and the whole Bible. Because the Bible let's you know what is not Godly, and we have the power of the Holy Spirit that leads us to all truth.

I have been there but never married was in garage

@@1obedience that's not an example of proverbs 31 wife No as we begin relationship there was a problem before people marry they should enquire to know who they are marrying.The red flags are always there but we have a love is blind excuse.Sometimes people around us tell us but we are blinded with what we think is love then we fall in the ditch and making matters worse we get hoes and dig deeper instead of calling for help to get out.we should seek counsel you get such a husband and you even think about having children.Am talking out of experience I also lost it all at one time but I can't say I didn't get warning God has always communicated we just don't listen in the name of love and thinking people will change. People rarely change we love them as they are and if you can't take their faults at first don't commit because it sometimes becomes lifetime frustration God gave us brains to think and choose for ourselves but we tend to make wrong decision.Jacob loved Rachel but she wasn't the appropriate woman after all that God did for Jacob Rachel stole her father's gods and went ahead and lied and after all the 14 years Jacob worked to get Rachel she gave him to Leah for a night because of mandrakes.God took Rachel at an early age because he knew she would frustrate Jacobs destiny.we choose our partners it's not about proverbs 31 it's about who you choose so we need wisdom and God's guidance while choosing

Which is why I’m concerned how she makes it sound like God told her to do it.

That is not what she is saying. She said I thought because if God allowed it, her mistake is thinking that since God is silent means he is with it.

Amen to that

We keep learning.

@@nomathemba8688 Amen as much as I'm a Christian, my goal is to own my own home so I can have something before getting married

Hmmmm...this is serious

PRAISE THE LORD SISTA TNK U FOR THAT!!!!THIS SHOULD BE EVERY WOMAN'S ANTHEM! !!!!👍✊💟💞💝💘💗💖

This is exactly what I was thinking 🤔. Women should not be the "men" financially in a marriage. She would have been better by herself!!!

Lol, rewrite the sentence but swap the genders

@@tshepoblom716 lol

Zimi Mizi & @ New Dawn Relationships have NO guarantee since God created us with the Power of Choice. Just like we have the power to say No & leave an abusive relationship so in their sinful minds they Choose to behave in an ungodly way. God is the The Fairest Judge and is not to be mocked. What a man/woman sowsso' shall they reap. We women need to stay connected and keep God as our No.1 Partner in life. He understands, will lead and guide us if we Trust Him each step of the journey. He promised to provide a way of escape. We must also be careful not to Generalise and paint All men with the same brush. There are loyal, committed and Respectful men out there. It depends a lot also on what behaviours we as women allow coz that's How we will be treated and it becomes the norm for the kids growing up witnessing the behaviour and so the cycle gets repeated. The Proverbs 31 womanis portrayed as independent and yet interdependent. Not to be trampled on and play mind games with.

@@janemuller2066 I respect her honesty. And she understands that her tale is a cautionary one. Successful women, who marry after they've become successful need to use even more discernment, and be very pragmatic and practical in how they protect their assets and finances, using the laws of the courts. Once those laws are in effect, God's laws can reign over the marriage. Oftentimes what we hope people will do and what they actually do, are two different things. Those that don't think like this beforehand, will surely feel.

AMEN!!!

Amen

Amen

EDIT: I hope this is not on here to bash anyone. We all have strengths and weaknesses. Remember we are helpers one to another. I'm all for encouraging the next person to rise above disappointments in life. However, we need to first sweep around our own front doors. Are we feeling superior, etc. Make sure you check yourself out first. Forgive yourself first, then forgive others even before they ask. Well one thing about it, one will never prosper if they didn't pull him/herself up be it with help from a mate or not. It's the love of God in a person you look for first. We fail if we don't learn anything. God will bless you with double for your trouble. Whenever you do things out of love, whether it's reciprocated or not, you WIN! BBlessed.

Amen

True

True

Facts! ✔️

Perfect

Beauty you are spot on. Man is the head of the house as Christ is the head of the church. Men should love their wives, women must submit, the biggest question to women, what kind of head are you choosing to submit under? Problem many face is believing that they can change men for being what they want them to be. Its so wrong. Marriage isnt a Gospel crusade to convert people. Thats the worst foundation to build a marriage on. Its the biggest lie. One cant be a queen and settle for hobo. Its not practical. You can never trust a word of a homeless man with no shoes when he promise to provide shoes for you.

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In my opinion ,Rotten is the right word for him.

Agreed

@@lorrainemadure2837 God isn’t going to give you a man who can’t manage his finances. When the Lord talks about a husband it’s someone who takes responsibility, is a leader, and is like Christ. The issue is we teach black women to settle for men who have glaring issues and get into marriages with them instead of checking their character and making sure the man does not only loves Christ but is an imitator of Him too. “For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.” Ephesians‬ ‭5:23‬ ‭NIV‬‬ There’s a terrible “I can fix him” culture in the world and the black community-specifically amongst women-that is NEVER taught in the Bible. God isn’t uniting people to fix each other. That doesn’t even sound right because only God can heal people and he knows that. “I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow.” ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭3:6-7‬ ‭NIV‬‬ God isn’t going to put us in a life long convenant with someone to help them with finances. That can be done outside of a marriage. We should be pleased in marriages and that’s exactly how a God intended a Godly marriage and family to be, love, peace, and celebrates Him. Let us women be set free from expecting little from spouses and seek Godly partners who want to glorify God with the convenant of marriage. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying things can’t go wrong in marriages, but terrible financial issues BEFORE marriage 🚩🚩🚩 Goals not adding up 🚩🚩🚩 God was giving her warning signs.

@@sweetxjc well said, when will we stop defending the man. God is not dull to give you a man nit fit for you. Problem is marrying for wrong reasons like societal pressure. The society never cares about you happiness all they do is congratulations, no one asks even if you are happy with the union.

What about when its the other way around. My ex told me that God told him that I was the one.

@@lorrainemadure2837 Personally, I don't believe God would confirm a husband that is not prepared, maybe he would, but not send him at a time where it could lead to disaster, meaning you know it's that person, but that person or both of you are not ready yet. That said, Godly marriages, relationships will still have ups and downs.

@@mzparker4591 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 it shows he will be lying. Talking the talk if he sees you are religious. Why would your God talk to him only when you are also there. Does he need a middleman . You could have told him i will ask him too. Not just believing his statement

You said it all👌

You took the words right out of my mouth

Hello!!

Blame everyone except the person who made the decision. God is so fair, he says lady choose the man you submit to

Please explain point 2

Oh Lord it seems like we’re a generation that is supporting men, raising man-children. It will take our generation to break this cycle because if we don’t this pattern will repeat on our children. We just need to pray more to break this cycle!

The worst thing that can happen to any woman is getting an unambitious and childlike husband

Is he really a Christian man or is he pretending to be one so he can prey on Christian women?

@@newbeginnings3603 let's just say he goes to church 🤫

Y’all still doing this? It’s call being desperate.

From my own background and knowledge. Christianity does not encourage one to stay in an abusive relationship or marriage only people who practice religion will make emphasis on stay and hope for a chance.

There are Christians that would tell a woman to stay in a physical abusive marriage. The disciples suffered, so we should too. 🙃

My dear, my heart really really goes out to you. You are really strong, don't let the critics get to you. They criticise because they are hypocrites. You are a real Christian woman and God really really still loves you so don't ever doubt that because of the storm blowing now. It'll take God to see you through this and so I want to encourage you to turn to God for strength at every point in time. Our sanity can only be found in God. Please fight for your sanity, for the sake of your children. If losing this house with your ex-husband benefitting from it will give you sanity, please do it and any other thing that will give you closure. Money will come, trust me. It'll come more than you ever had. Keep trusting God.

u sd d way xtians interprete Bible can cause trouble. u are right. Atleast u admitted to wrong interpretation which did not mean that is exactly what d bible says. This lady here did not go by d tenets of d bible b4 marriage like many xtian ladies do. If bible is well followed n interpreted she wdnot marry a man without vision. Infact listening to Real African Psts n marriage talks, she wd not marry him. we shd learn to tk responsibility n not lie against God. If you reflect well, you will see where u ignored God's warning. Tnk God u r out n u can retrace ur steps bt not God. So sorry abt d divorce. The best is yet to come

Truly, God understands more than we think n his thoughts for us are good..

You divorced him before the ink got dried🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Thanks for being wise.

Gurrrlllll! Preach!

No man where and why do you guys go for these useless broke men, why???

You are wise, and just saved yourself a lot of heart ache

At 29 your eyes are open, good for you!

It's not 12 wasted years, it's 12 years of evolving, learning and living to mature. Life is a gift and I pray that you get all the blessings God has in store for you.

Sending you Love & Peace ♥️😇

@@rekkya1000 Well said ♥️😇

Girl, am almost similar, as you say, God will provide, it's just ti make us stronger, and being with the kids is most important, they are the ones that lose out, imagine not caring where your children could end up, they show their true colours, Never to return, God bless you

Sorry that you went through that..ALL things work together for good nothing is wasted. God will restore it all.

My mother use to tell me, "never let your right hand know what your left hand is holding."

I am 23 from today onwards I am doing this. Some of us don't have mothers for this you know. 💜

What is a knipple?

@@kata7742 a secret stash of money that no one knows about. You never know when you might need it.🌹🙂

@@thetestament15 thanks Helen i will take that

My husband wants the house sold. I will have to scrabble to find a place for myself and three children that we had in the marriage.

32 years old not married no kids. My mom always teaches me make sure you have your own things, but make sure he has his own

Yes, very helpful and informative 💕

Go for antenuptuals girl without accrual. Then everything is not dependent on material things when things fall apart.

Wow! Descernment is what we all need I agree my mother was married to y father for 25 years , and my mom always worked sometimes even two jobs, my mom always taught me get their own things before marriage, but make sure he has his own too

Preach

Yooooo i tel ppl this metaphorrr ALL THE TIMEEEE

@@pikachuzap223 imagine. She shouldn't place the place on being a Proverbs 31 woman, but on the fact that she married him before cleaning his mess

Some of us were brought up to believe this way. You lack compassion and maybe intellect.

God bless..pray that would be many men like this

It doesn’t work because it’s not the natural order of YAH. He set things for the man to lead. How can you truly do that if your wife is the provider?

It's tough and they want marriage

That's absurd!

That's absurd!

God is great

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There's something called karma. He will get it. Courage to you. You will get through this.

Real Christianity is not blinding, the Bible is very clear of what the duty of the man is, it has financial verses, conduct verses, etc, etc, but the Church has been muddled with worldly concepts of what is love and that that is all that is needed to make it work. If it's the love mentioned in the Bible, then yes, it will work, but if it's the "love" showed in this world, it won't work.

Uyanya wenja...this kind of mindset it's reason why men can't speak up and commit suicide when they can't afford anymore...stop putting pressure on men in the name of men are providers while this so called independent women are talking about 50/50....so when women divorce a man it's okay for women to share his property but when it happens to woman it's wrong?liyanya....double standard narcissists

I agree totally, if you can't take care of yourself, you can't take care of others, We as women have been blinded by that, it only stresses us out,

Christianity is not blinding anyone, we have to be awake spiritually to be able to make conscious decisions in any area of our lives. And it’s not about doing things for the next person, it about you being fulfilled in what you are doing. Whether or not you will come and cry about what you lost then I think it was not for the glory of God hence it is what it is

You just cannot feel sorry for these men. It will bite you. God made Adam 1st not Eve.

I disagree with you. She was not walking in faith. She was walking out of fath in ignorance of the Word of God, and that's a costly mistake.

Only the strong survives. Please protect yourselves! There are evil and deadly monsters among us. Stay alert!

Amen in Jesus name

A beautiful blessing. Amen!

Everyone dies alone unless your at the end of the movie The Notebook 📓📓📓📓 ... Stop with the shenanigans wth

@@EnchantedLove30 yes and no. Its different if you have family around or you are alone on streets because everybody hates you

This is so flippin true! I’m not doing that no more!

Hi do you draft prenuptial agreements? I'm actually looking into having one before I say I do because the lobola process is almost done and I came in with my own assets. What would you advise. BTW my hubby and I already had the conversation and we agreed that it's necessary to marry outside of community of property.

@@keepitfrankwithfentse Hi sis, oh no not yet. I could draft it but I would need a notary for that, so I would have to refer you to someone else. So it’s better to find an attorney that is already a notary for that. Congratulations on your marriage and big ups for Out of Community.

@Malefa Dlamini I agree. Being a Law student, myself. What you are saying is, absolutely, correct.

@@leegaleaglenombo9430 This proves that people should live in reality and not on faith.

I get you. I think that discretion and discernment should be applied

What has she lost that needs replacing? We must encourage our selves to learn to start over with our lessons as northern stars.

Rent out the house and let the money pay for the flat you want to move into.

Amen

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Amen Yessssss

I absolutely agree with you here. The Proverbs 31 woman was respected by her husband too and she wasn't working for him. It's easy to misinterpret Scripture, especially when it's mixed with our Southern African beliefs where a woman is usually seen as a commodity to be used, not as a person to pour into.

@@rumbyalxprogramteam6812 Bless You 🙌 🙌💯💯💯 FACTS UPON FACTS. LADIES PURCHASE YOURSELF A GOOD COMMENTARY BIBLE. READ WITH UNDERSTANDING AND STOP MAKING UP YOUR OWN PERSONAL BELIEFS/ INTERPRETATION.( EMPHASIS)✌✌✌❤❤❤

Amen! 🙌🏾

Thank you for stating this truth. I was cringing every time 😬 when I kept hearing b’cz I am a P 31 woman or Christian. P 31’s role is to nature the family and also do her own work BUT never to pay 💰 for a man, buy the home… has nothing to do with Christianity but just bad bad financial decisions & understanding of a man’s role in a marriage. All that said… I feel so sorry for my Sister as it could have happened to me too. It’s painful when your kindness is taken for granted.

All the time

Tell them because people are so obsessed with being married that they end up with any Tom around

If you are opportuned to get a suitable man to marry,fine go ahead if not stay on your own. It's more progressive often limes doing it alone

@@omojevweuzezi8711 absolutely.

Yes, amen ✋🏾

True. Woman should be ok with being single. Whether u got pregnant bf marriage don't marry for the sake of a child .woman tend to be ignorant and try to sugar coat men's shortcomings with the Bible. don't even date a jobless guy some are employed but still lack the ability to make things happen

A king... Can we please emphasize that? Most of us are behaving like an eavesdropper in a conversation. The problem with eavesdropping, is that you never get the FULL context of what you hear. And you just go making life-altering decisions based on half information. Who do we blame for that? Here we all are reading an advise a Queen Mother is giving her son the King about women, and the next thing some of us do is gather these pearls of wisdom, only to caste them to swines. You do not give children's bread to dogs. You want to be a Proverbs 31 woman? Then make sure you found by a King first, for goodness sake! If you have raised yourself a Proverbs 31 woman, make sure the man YOU CHOOSE to be with has the characteristics of a righteous and Godly king.

Right @Ade-OLUWA's POV the good book says read to show thyself approved. We gotta seek God and His wisdom for ourselves.

@@ade-oluwaspov206 ✅

@@ade-oluwaspov206 Simple and short.

That would be good also 4 healing purposes. No one is alone in such experiences

As a traditional African man, a Christian and well educated, it’s not just about meetings, shine your eyes when a man ask you out… ASK QUESTIONS before you fall in love. It’s a two way street: He requested, she had an option of backing out or proceed… and as you can see from this analysis, she is more than the man in a lots of way.. this alone deters successful relationship in most African homes. - Share the blame game equally BUT shine your eyes women, the Bible says test all spirits!

Can you please get this group started and hurry ⚡️

Yesss!!! We need private meetings for our people

Women don't listen. Everyone thinks they are the exception. They label people who warn them "men haters". The journey to unlearn the misconception of marriage is individual and personal. I appreciate her transparency but I she wouldn't have listened to other women if they'd warned her before. The chokehold that is culture and religion should not be underestimated. I'm 29 now, my friends who are 25 ignore everything I tell me. Women just want to be partnered. A lot of us are still going to learn the hard way.

Women have been doing it for centuries. Now that the tables have turned men are seen as monsters. Get a taste of your own medicine

So sad really and I am sure when family talked you never even listened

I am happy for you. You made it out alive.

@@Hannah-jk3dk I didn't meet him off the streets I knew his family and worked with his stepmother for 13yrs. He chased me for 2 years prior to me dating him. He appeared as a down to earth and well put together, presented himself well to my parents in the beginning. I was already 7 yrs into my marriage and that's when he started changing.

@@iyabowaledaudu thank you soo much. I thank God every day 🙏 🙌.

@@ChantalesprettylittleDIYS Sorry dear

What about a man who doesn’t want to be a traditional provider? Like his mindset is doing just enough financially and doesn’t value money and the protection it gives. Expects you to go 50/50 for the whole marriage. Any thoughts on this?

@@futuristicvibes2643 Then that's not a true man. A true man should provide for his family. He's the head of the family according to the Word of God .

@@tendanipelaelo6293 I’m finding more and more men are fighting this in my part of the world. I’m a Black American and these men over here often have a huge issue with this. They want traditional wives, but they themselves don’t want to traditional men. Listening to this story shocked me because I assumed all African men sought to provide for their families rather than take advantage of women. I love learning through experiences of others from different cultures and/or parts of the world and this was an eye opener listening to this story time

@@futuristicvibes2643 The woman mist times contributes more in most marriages. For one she always takes care of the children house chores etc, so she should get 70 ND him 50

@@tombimashri8149 Do South African men not help with house chores or the kids even if the woman is working?? 👀

But dear what about 4 men. They go through situations where they lose assets which they bought for their wives that they lose their families. Men also fear us. Lets just seperate assets then. We need a solution. Any ideas???

Don't be afraid of marriage... pay attention to the red flags, ask the right questions, and don't lie to yourself about what you find.

Do not be afraid my sister, because God said, Fear Not! Your situation may be different than ours. Already you know these things, which should not make you hyper suspicious, but wiser! Your journey will be different in Jesus's name!

you didn't hear both side of the story so you jump to conclusion about men! THAT'S WEAK. Men go through same has you experienced so what should they have the same opinion? certainly not.

Sad an true

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Well put kudos

@Rochelle Dames I like the lesson you share of the Proverbs 31 Woman. I am in agreement of the unequally yoked statement. I think she uses the Reference of Prov. 31 Woman to say she tries by God's grace to uphold her marriage vows as a "Christian" woman, not perfect, but having those Values as a coping mechanism for herself in her marriage. I can relate to her story in many instances and I empathise with her. No one has arrived yet. We all die daily coz we in need of the Saviour for the mistakes we make daily and the consequences of the poor decisions we made in life. Yes many are fooled by the unequally yoked verse, based on their understanding at the time. What I have learnt is that, as another comment suggests the importance of PROFESSIONAL Marriage Counselling. One can marry a christian, BUT as YOU say STILL BE UNEQUALLY yoked spiritually. When we are young our minds don't comprehend all the nitty gritty details of marriage. Marriage is a school where you are guided as a Christian by the Holy Word of God and Holy Spirit and you Do/accept things according to your limuted understanding at that time. So you MAKE the BEST decision YOU THINK at THAT TIME and sadly we ALL make mistakes in life. I admire though her for the COURAGE she has of sharing her story and from the comments one can read How it's affecting the viewers in DIFFERENT ways. Many are GRATEFUL for the LEARNING EXPERIENCE and will TRY their best to make informed decisions. Sometimes things change once people get married eg. Old habits come to the fore or people lose their 1st love for God's Word and lose their Spiritual interest. I always in the past felt inadequate whenever I read Prov. 31, BUT I have learnt that those are merely the characteristics God wants us as women /His precious Daughters to aspire to, BUT He KNOWS we as sinners will NEVER be able to BE the Prov. 31 Woman 100% ALL the time. He as our CREATOR blessed us with Different gifts/skills and wired us DIFFERENTLY. We also come from DIFFERENT BACKGROUNDS so He PROVIDES the Strength and Wisdom DAILY if we COME to Him for WHO we KNOW He IS and His CAPABILITIES. I'm sure there's MANY of us who thought we had it all together, but sadly out of ignorance and lack of Spiritual guidance, the enemy comes and attacks our marriages/homes in DIFFERENT ways and we find ourselves in these UNPLEASANT & DEVASTATING situations. I've learnt that God allows us to go through these challenging storms to prune our characters and DRAW us CLOSER to Him so that WE CAN spend eternity with Him, when He comes to fetch the REDEEMED, Who called upon Him in their times of trouble. Thank you for the Prov. 31 lesson you shared on this platform. We serve a FAIR and RIGHTEOUS God. His strength is PERFECT when OUR strength is gone 🙌💖

Maybe, if any woman identifies or sees themselves as the Proverbs 31 woman, it might be a good idea to also study the character/characteristics of the Proverbs 31 husband! Just a thought! Proverbs 31 gives a good insight into the type of husband that matches her.

What are the characteristics of a proverbs 31 man, please explain?

@@greenstar6092 my dear it is there in that same verse. We just choose to focus on the woman’s part… it says the man has FULL CONFIDENCE IN HIS WIFE AND LACKS NOTHING OF VALUE( It shows the husband is pure loving and trusts his wife) HE IS RESPECTED AT THE CITY GATE( The issue is, we think we are the ones to make them respected; that’s where we are wrong) The man already is one of noble character. HE PRAISES HER ( We all know selfish people don’t know how to be grateful. A man who praises his wife shows he’s selfless). Then the word in the last part says, HONOR HER FOR ALL THAT HER HANDS HAVE DONE… It takes humility to honor!! Again it shows the man is humble. So you see, it is very balanced. We are very concerned about the women we are and rightly so, but please be also conscious about the man. Marriage is a balance not to make one to suffer. I hope the Lord restores you dear sister but more so, I hope you are taught by the Spirit so that, this wouldn’t be repeated. You came with a beautiful and open mind. The only problem is, your husband wasn’t submitted to Christ and knew nothing about what loving and dying for another is; probably you had seen it but thought God let it happen. We should remember that God still gives us the right to choose. Just because something happens doesn’t mean God approves unless, He clearly told you not because you think so. God is a restorer, He will restore.

Same here

Same here

Lol there are a lot of good ones out there, you just have to be clear what you will or will not tolerate. Most women walk into these going "nowhere married with the hopes that the loser husband will change", marrisge. God steps away from that bullshit lol

Exactly my thoughts!!

When they ask why I’m divorced, I’ll send them this video.

Hmmmmmmm

"People will show you flames when they have nothing to lose" your comment stood out for me🤞🏾 the realest thing I've heard in a while.

Problem is we marry 100% and invest 100% unfortunately the other party doesn't

The day women stop being emotional and start using logic when coming to relationships, most of their problems with men will disappear.

@@dimakatsokatso7805 so true. Even also be honest with ourselves and recognize once the relationship is over that there were red flags we ignored. I lost everything and learned my lessons, and it was my fault.

@@dimakatsokatso7805 true but alot of women growing up aren't taught that... it's only when women already entered the marriage that reality sets in but that's already too late

@@dimakatsokatso7805 Amen. That is what I'm learning to do.

Same here 😍😍..

Same here

You know, mh

You are blessed

I hope you’re not already having problems after just a couple of months.

Am glued to her beautiful skin talk about it.

Amen to that, God will make a way for you lovin, just trust in him fully

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Are there no laws to protect women (especially mothers with kids) who pay for these debts but are being PUNISHED or DISADVANTAGED by such inconsiderate men?

God will intervene, one day it will end in praise .

@@dorisokoye7604 what do you mean?

, my dear sister, God will restore you in ten folds, everything you have lost .

Counseling U said it yesssssssssss Don't marry without it

Exactly premarital counseling saved my life literally. The pastor told me I would be in trouble if I married him. I listened and broke it off and God gave me a wonderful husband after that.

Sorry to hear about your losses. Keep Strong.

Amen!!!! This is my testimony

I would love to learn more from you, thank you for sharing

Uphole sisi❤❤❤

Sorry sisi, stay strong and God will see you through. 🙏

Ube right Sisi, this is sad

And having peace of mind is priceless ❤️

You have Peace of Mind, that's very important

I almost did the same mistake.

Aikabi Sisi, don't coz it hurts and this man are aware that you are financial ok. I learned the hard way nami and ngathi, I will never again.

you were very smart!

@@WanderlustDoc Thank you!

Yes yes, God is great, he sees and knows all things

You are not alone!

Well said, furthermore, precounselling in finances, psychological and social issues is vital

Prenup i would say its essential now a days

We learn everyday but yes we need prenuptial for real.

Kabelo, just pay attention. When we are in love we don't see the red flags. I have been there, and after I looked back and be honest, I accepted than I wanted the relationship more than my ex and when he didn't want to stay ,he walked away. Pay attention. Be with someone who loves you more than you love him.

@@pheladishaks6226 prenuptial does not cover any assets and investments that was bought and acquired during the marriage. It belong to both of them by the law

Love it

I been through same and I lost money im just glad the marriage was only two years it could have been worse.Yooh I lost my child home but God immediately restored it.

Never ever marry down.

Don’t blame it on Christianity please, take accountability for your own actions, you didn’t do what you did bec of Christianity, you did it bec you want to stay married and have a man so please do not blame God for your mistakes

Oh yes yes, they are destroyers by any cost

Yhoo talk about Narcissist, I know exactly what it means to date a Narcissist. For them a partner is only seen as a SUPPLIER once used it gets discarded and a new Supply is pursued 👎👎👎

Thank you for stating this. God showed me in his time but whew weeeee. They take advantage and beyond and use scriptures to guilt you. He never intended on having a partnership. The pastors doing our marriage counseling did the most damage excusing my pleas saying something aint right and he needs to be held accountable. He is still making a mess to this day. Divorced as of last November THANK YOU JESUS and his mistress just found me on FB this weekend (NO CONTACT) saying she's sorry for breaking our marriage up and he has been cheating on her. HE STILL GOES TO CHURCH the weekend he has the kids. Those narcissists are of the devil. I always told the counselors this man IS NOT SAVED. They boast, they lie, they cheat, they steal, and I know capable of murder. So glad God opened my eyes. Spiritual abuse is the worst.

@@newnew-mv1uj Destroyers and Misusers.

@@GodsChosenMekAmoR 😂🤣😂 Looks like the mistress is starting to get a good ole taste of humble, karma pie. Now she wanna reach out and talk because he’s transferring the pain to her. I bet she thought she had his nose open. Glad you didn’t respond. She is not your friend!!! 👍🏾

They are just mad because you recognized the game and dipped out on them. I’d be singing ‘Celebration’ 🤣🤣

@@Girlintheewild 🤣🤣🤣 I may already do this every morning I wake up but who’s telling😉😁😁😁

Oh my goodness, that is ridiculous!!! And the whole freakin family??? The freakin nerve! Glad you're in a better space

@@hellostorm7661 thank you so much. I appreciate it

God is watching you. You are a blessed strong woman. Remember to thank God for what He is going to do for you. It will all be history. I went through the same ordeal. My ex was a covert narcissist. He wanted to destroy me big time. My God fought for me. Miraculously I won the battle. God will take care of you in the middle of this storm. Remember you are being prayed for.

Amen, All the time, they think they win, they lose out, You can Never go wrong with Family

Right. God hats divorce He can't separate anything He put together.

Yes yes

Assuming one is Christian, if you read and study your bible carefully and ask God to guide you according to His truth religion can never cause your death. The young lady, relating her experiences made a very bad choice in choosing her spouse. You CANNOT be a proverbs 31 woman to an indiscipline, irresponsible, childish man and expect anything better. You cannot get a man out of a boy. Now I am truly sorry for her and understand her pains. My heart goes out to her but she must accept her role in the down fall of her marriage as well, and learn from it going forward.

Not really religion. God gives us signs, some come as genuine red flags such as the man's financial immaturity and poor character. The Holy Spirit can even reveal the heart of the one you're dating, to help you discern if he's a wolf in sheep's clothing. What happens to us as humans is we let our hearts choose over what God may be warning us. I pray for the lady, that God gives her grace and provision for her wellbeing and her children. And that He may reward her hundredfold for what the slimy man has taken from her life, most being peace of mind...because this is stressful🧡

You can’t blame TMH for poor decision making with the free will YOU we’re granted. Red flags are usually very much visible but due to emotion over logic most people are blinded. Also most lack accountability, and aren’t equally yoked with partners they choose to marry.

It's taken me 33yrs. Red flags always there and knowing what I must do, but always hoping things will change. And this being a Proverbs 31 woman is my undoing, because I've felt I need to live out my vows. Sadly, the reality of it is something else. I blame myself for being stuck in a rut. But am resolved to finding my way out and living my truth!