The fact that this is the first mother I seen on this show take accountability of her actions

Her children were her purpose. Without them she feels she has no purpose. Also it feels like she endured some trauma being pregnant at 16 and clearly feels she didn't have a support.

she needs to realize that her kids are growing up and becoming independent

She may have an anger issue, but her sense of accountability is very healing. I believe that this family will do well.

To everyone in the comments that are speaking positive.. I really appreciate you guys .. I’ll be starting my channel soon .. I’ll be updating you guys on what’s going on in our lives🤧 I love ❤️ my kids ‼️

My children are grown 35, 27 and 26. When my oldest moved out, she moved to another state. I was devastated but eventually realized it was time for her to live her life. As parents, we want to keep them near to protect them. Trust that you poured into them the ingredients that they need to succeed. I am so proud of my children and the life that they carved out for themselves and their children. Trust them...

Generational curses is a real thing. This is a prime example.

She’s having empty nest syndrome as well. It happens when parents base their whole and entire lives around raising up their children. Not knowing that one day their kids will grow up and have a life to live on their own. Parents aren’t prepared for their children to leave. I pray that mother works on her healing and put in place the people places and things she will need for this next chapter and transition in their lives. Because whether she like it or not. It’s going to happen. ❤

This woman needs to accept the fact that her kids are now grown and they are leaving the nest. They aren’t kids anymore and They’re doing what they’re supposed to be doing and that’s growing into young, responsible, independent adults.

My mom acts like this. She started having kids at 15 so she used to us needing her but everybody grown.. it’s like they need ppl to rely on them to feel good.

The mom is deeply insecure and has abandonment issues.

IDK but I kept sensing a little resentment from the kids and I also think the real reason she feels"alone" and they "won't need her anymore" sounds more like "I can't control them anymore"

My mom is like this. She pushed us all away. I moved states away and haven’t seen my mom in 3 years because she’s like this. Parents need to realize that children are supposed to grow up and become independent. It doesn’t mean we love you any less. We are supposed to forge our own paths. Her behavior is going to push them away. Kudos to her for acknowledging that she has flaws and hang ups.

I love how well that audience member articulated their self

that momma love her kids..

Be happy that your children are independent and strong enough to take care of themselves.

we need more conversations like this with black mothers. Not judging her as a mother but if you know then you know how it is especially with us daughters

I don’t think it’s a matter of them growing up and are becoming adults it’s about the nurturing part of her relationship with them that was lacking. She was so busy trying to keep them away of this and that and being the disciplinarian that she forgot the hugs, listening, celebrating etc.. My girl is 16 and I’m proud and happy that I made sure all parts of our relationship has been explored. As your kid gets older your relationship should change a bit.

This reminds me of the talk my mother and I had, and I had to remind her multiple times, “You raised me! And you did a damn good job. Trust in yourself that you did a great job, and trust in me that I will hold on to what you taught me.” From henceforth we’ve been great. It’s sometimes a very necessary conversation to have.

Mom needs friends and hobbies for herself.

It’s sad to see her blinded vision; she says her kids can come and communicate to her but they claim they gotta walk on eggshells. She just needs to do some inner work and heal so they can all have a healthy dynamic

The mom looking like their big sis❤🔥

This woman did a very great job with accountability taking the truth with grace and poise she never interrupted them or got hostile with them for their truth.

The first thing that I thought of when I heard her say at 0:31 “I feel like I’m losing them”, is that she meant she was losing control of them.

We have to stop passing down ish from massa. Get up clean up no time to rest. Sometimes we act like our kids are slaves and we are massa. We have to stop these generational curses. We have to stop raising our daughters so hard and loving our sons like the girls don't need love too. Then wonder why he is dusty. I am proud of them.

My inner child is crying. This story sounds so personal🥹 I hope they can all heal.

I love how patient, calm & encouraging you are Karamo with your guest.

Why would anybody wanna be honest with a parent that acts like this when you open up .

As a mother she just wants the best for her children. She is very receptive of constructive criticism and realizes that she has a barrier up when it comes communication to certain degree. For those saying the daughter is grown she is not she is yet a child. Even though she has poured so much good energy into those positive beings. I absolutely love the way they spoke about each other. Moma bear everything will be a okay, trust in God, and trust in therapy as a unit.

The best flattery of knowing you did your best as a parent. Is when your children don’t need you anymore because they have become independent. Parents don’t live for ever, so it’s a blessing to know that the children can fend for themselves. Parents should have organic conversations and not constantly lecture. Let the children talk, so you can understand where their mind at because a parent isn’t always going to be there to fix everything. Children will be in situations that they have to be able to navigate through

Her daughter will be 18 soon. Let her grow up.

She’s upset she’s losing control over them. If they become independent, she wont have anyone to take her frustration out on anymore or to boss around.

Mom you are pushing them away 🎉 Claiming you all heal🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

“who’s mmm’n & ummm’n” 😂😂

This was the most beautiful episode ever because mother reminded me of me … she’s so beautiful all around

ughhh this one brought tears to my eyes lowkey and i never cry but when the girl said that when everyone is gone from the field her mom is the only one gonna still hold the sign and be there for them that had me woow that felt very touching oof

she doesn’t want them to leave because she doesn’t want to feel abandoned like she did as a child

I love when Karamo Says “mmmmm!” I’m like where’s my notepad this is about to be good like some great food !!

You have to let the young adults go so they can grow live learn let go let God

U have grown ppl living in their parents home up until they’re 40 sometimes , You know you did right as a parent that your kids can spread their wings and fly high in greatness and not destruction . I can understand her worry of being alone but it’s time for a man hehehe . Because they seem to be raised right . Blessing to them tho ❤

There is way more to this story. So whatever is going on will likely continue. Hopefully she goes to anger management. I’m not understanding why kamaro did not say anything about the boy in the house. Any mother would be upset about that. And we didn’t get clarity on her reaction so idk.

I love what young lady in the blue said , that was exactly what everyone needed to hear

As a Teen mother and passing down trauma is real . Because the moment you become Teen mother is Like you have to work hard as you let the family down and an embarrassment coming from a strict African house hold and teen mum , I knew how to get my self into therapy quick because is a lot . .

Like what do parents like this actually expect? You're hard on your children and want them to be independent. Done ✅ DO NOT expect them to come running back or to be close to you when you did not create a warm environment for the relationship to thrive. Also, stop projecting your past/fears on your children. Nobody is perfect but therapy is a necessity to help us through the lows in life. It's not easy but it's a step in the right direction. Break generational curses and childhood trauma. Parents do not realize that their children become a product of their environment. Children may not feel free to express themselves, they'll bottle things up, isolate, feel anxious, dwell in negative thoughts, overthink, have low self esteem, experience depression, etc. Parents, you do not know it all (vice versa). Remain open minded, teach each other, and grow.

Can COMPLETELY RELATE! Your kids don’t have anything to do with ur issues..go to therapy! How are you gonna fear losing someone but continue to do negative things to push them away?

Its all good this means she truly loves her kids hopefully she can let them spread their wings

I've learned to let kids do what they want to do , guide them and let them know the consequences

I’m sorry but I’m not that parent that’s gonna cry bc my kids don’t “need” me lol

Keroma: “when did you notice the change in regards to you and your children’s relationship” Mom: “when they got older” Guys, children think things are normal and that’s why they do as told. When they get older they eventually learn what is actually supposed to be and lash out. That’s why things change

Mama you are so beautiful,you have raised beautiful and well articulated children,I promise you,they will remember what you have taught them. It's now time for you to go to bora bora,meet someone amazing and go enjoy yourself.The almost 18 want to be an adult,let her, very soon she will realize what you have been saying. Go enjoy your life Mama 🤗🤗

You’re not gonna lose them. But you have to let them grow up and be their own person. They have their own lives and she doesn’t want to be alone.

I pray Candi (mom) gets to a place where she understands her behavior and how she treats them is going to make what she fears most become real. Right now, she is all in her head and I think she is protecting herself as well based on what she been through. They are becoming young adults and can only tolerate so much and if the relationship she has with them today doesn't change she will lose them little by little. It is hard to let go when all you have been about is your kids. Trust that you have given them all they need to face this world and let them find themselves. They will come to you when they need you..trust me. My "adult" children and I are closer now than ever and it's annoying sometimes because its always something, but I wouldn't change it for the world. #loveisthemedicine

I understand mom completely.. In our community you have to keep a tight grip on your kids. It’s from the trauma. Mom did a great job.. but some boundaries and some balance are needed. I hope they can work it out

My mom had 5 kids by the time she turned 22. She would ride us so badly. She would beat us for even looking at boys or talking to boys. It was even worse when she became an addict. Her moods and paranoia were thru the roof, she didnt trust us with any man. She even accused my sister of having an affair with her husband. I was so terrified to even date that I was in my 20s before i lost my virginity, and when my mom found out, she cussed me slam out and called me a hoe. I tried to commit suicide after that, but I was unsuccessful. But after that day I chose peace. I stopped going around her and my family and withdrew further into myself, always afraid to come out of my shell. Im older now, and I recently started trying to repair my relationship with my mom. It's not easy because sometimes im a little resentful, but im trying.

I was raised very sheltered in a strict single mom home and even though I moved 3 hours away at 17, I spent a long time being on my own but not feeling independent even though I was. It was because any problems I always had to check in with her before making any decisions. It took me objectively hearing I need to set boundaries with her for both of us to finally have an adult mom and daughter relationship. She resisted at first but has become so respectful of my boundaries over time. I had to learn to do the same too.

GREAT mother and GREAT children you can tell she has their best interest at heart and they know she does they love each other very much but EVERYONE has to learn to be independent including Mom. you will always be a team but their is a “m & e” in team choose you learn to love yourself as much as you love them❤️

This also why it’s so mentally important to wait for kids . Not even just the financial part but at 16 even up until 25 it’s hard to even just support yourself. It’s not impossible to raise a child that young but you wanna build a foundation your kids can be proud to come from so that you aren’t passing generational trauma onto them.

My sons are 28,27,24 and 16. Even though they move out and have a family of their own trust me they will need you more than ever, you may still argue, fight and have problems but it will all work out in the end. At the end of the day you will always be a mother from day one and afterlife has ended.

I would go to the BEST AND FARAWAY COLLEGE THAT I CAN GO.. RUNNNNN.. THAT'S A MOMMY DEAREST.. THE ABUSIVE MOTHER.. THOSE GROWN CHILDREN CAN'T EVEN WHISPER.. THAT'S SAD.. YOU CAN SEE THE ABUSE THEY'VE ENDORED

Awww 😢 What a beautiful family, I just want to hug them. I pray that they stick together and work through these issues❤. I also hope mom gets some therapy for her control issues… let them grow Mom, you did the best you could, they love you and will return home… just gotta let them fly freely a bit ❤

I think it’s an identity crisis because as mother’s they’re are our babies and when they reach the age of moving out and going off to college, we struggle to find our identity and what should we do with ourselves now. I went back to school and earned my AA, BS, and MS back to back. At the end of the day they’re starting their lives and we as their parents have to continue on with our lives, wants and needs. They will still be there but not the same as when they were babies and teenagers. Sending light, love, and support to the mom and her children.

She done a great job with her children. I'm so proud of her she's got a strength she taught her kids That and let them move forward. Proud of your kids too, they're so amazing. 🎉

You guys must not forget what the bible says ,a mother tender care cannot seize towards the child she bares

This is one of the best mothers. She brought up her children the right way, I believe the mother is afraid of lisinf her children

Trust what she instilled in them..and now that they learn by failing.

I say you kids are so blessed to have your mother while she's still living, all I can say, love ❤️ your mother 👩🏾 while she's still living!!!

MAMA NEEDS A MAN THAT'S ALL..... 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 BUT SHE DID A GREAT JOB RAISING THEM🙏🏿❤️

I love that this mother is genuinely trying and able to see herself ! She loves her kids lol

Idk. I get this evil vibe off the mother. Like she’s thinking about how she’s going to torture her kids after.

I totally get this family. I'm 55 years old and grew up the same way. My mom had me when she was 16 years old; she expected the home spotless, and was very strict on me. I couldn't keep company until my senior year...I literally didn't like my mom until much later in life. She told me that she was that way, not wanted me to repeat her mistakes.

Thank you bunches Karamo; definitely hit home. I seen myself in this episode no doubt. I have to young men 31 & 26 and did the samething without realizing. Please, continue to help families like us see that there is another way.

The statements from the two audience members were amazing!! ❤❤ She def has a fear of being lone, momma gotta find a man or something cause your kids are going to leave the nest no matter what. Her behaviors are only going to push them further away.

She has Empty Nest Syndrome

Beautiful comment by the daughter and the son mom you did a beautiful job loving

I have 3 23 21 and 17 and I was strict and my children thanks me for being the way I was with them because together we've broken teen pregnancy we have all high school grads no felons and no gang ties. So everyone family is different

There is nothing wrong with being sad about your kids leaving. This is also a different phase in moms life. We don't get a manual on how u navigate thru the feelings. I know for me it's also about just missing my boy and although I'm so proud of the man he's become, I miss him being under the same roof.I miss seeing him every day, he's such a great person and i miss knowing a lot of what goes on in his life. This new role of parenting from a different position is something to adjust to. It's new to the parent and the child.

I love how they talk to each other , like the love is there and the want to grow

You are a great Mom! Just let go and trust what you have instilled into your beautiful young adults and you all will be fine. Totally trust God ! Amen 🙏

Such a beautiful family!

The way people act as if their kids will never have s3x or do anything “wrong” is crazy. We all were that age before & we all did sh*t. Your kids are gonna GROW UP‼️ It’s your job as a parent to teach & guide them. Of course discipline is needed at times but for every little thing? Be fr. They seem like good damn kids just going through life as we all do.

Probably my favorite episode. They hit it right on . I know exactly what it’s like to feel suffocated by strict parents and just wanting to become who you are as a young adult . I hope she’s continuing to let her kids grow and be their own individual person and she’s finding her own life outside of being just a parent ❤. No matter what they’ll never be strangers !

he does a pretty good job of helping his guests & i love that his heart is in actually helping ppl… hopefully the budget next season will allow for a consistent therapist to be present & for lie detector tests instead of unlocked phones..

With the mom saying to her daughter, “I can’t trust you anymore”, I feel like mom was trying to part ways from her daughter early so that it would hurt less if it became reality.

Kids seemed scared of mom😢

Fear = False evidence appearing real… She raised very bright intelligent kids she now has to let go and live her life not saying to forget her kids bc they will always need her no matter what age they are she just needs to understand there young adults and cut the cord and be a supporting loving mom and be proud of her kids ❤

Omg this episode hit home for me. I'm sat here crying like a baby 😢

I understand being strict. But being mean, bc you’re going thru something internally and you’re taking it out on your kids is not ok. That’s why her kids want to get far away from her. Plus they’re older anyway. But kids don’t forget those little things

My mom the same way. Like baby I’m an adult now love lol 😂 So I can relate this this video 💯 It’s an ego and pride thing with parents that feel like we need to stay with her for the rest of her life. Nah baby! It’s called being controlling, manipulative, narcissistic behaviors she trying on her kids but they ain’t having it. Lol 😂 I can tell the mom does love her kids and the kids love her but the mom has learn how to trust her kids. ❤🥰

Yes parents out there!! Believe that you raised your kids right! Let them show you what they got because as parents, you never stop parenting even after 18. Help them when they fall just like when they were babies but let them make their own mistakes

What a beautiful family. I’m not a crier but the mom was making me tear up you can tell she loves her children so much she’s just struggling on how to show it

Very accountable woman!🙌🏾

People, stop been ignorant to the fact that this woman loves her children. Which mother wants to be separated from her children? It has nothing to do with controlling. If you all experiencing motherhood, it’s very hard to see your children moving far away from you. They love each other, but it’s life and all she had to do it to try and live up to it and ask God for guidance and protection for them. It hurt no matter how old they are. Mom, you have to let go and let God do the work. You’re going to miss them, but gear up yourself to bear it. Blessings to you.

“F you, f him and f y’all baby”😂😂 shi crazy

This episode made me cry bec this is my entire situation with my kids I’m trying hard to fix this

Momma, you did good honey. You did good. Now it’s time for them to go and make their decisions. They will learn from their mistakes as they get older, but honey, you did good 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I,2 when I came a empty nester. I didn't kno wat to do with Self. I was in fear to move on in life for not having the children n had locked out ppl for being hurt n misunderstood.

Damn Lord made me be that kind of mom who can acknowledge when she not acting well. Oh Lord this is beautiful to see

I’m going through something similar. I have an 19 year old, and 16 year old, i keep telling myself that my baby boy is going to be 18 soon and I’ll be left all alone. I also feel not needed anymore, my 19 year old never really wants to do things with me anymore. Like going to the movies, or out to eat. My youngest still do those things but i know it’s only cause he’s still young. I fear when he turns 18 all that will soon stop too. having children that their whole life they needed you came home from school with the biggest smiles hugs and kisses you feel so much loved where they’re smaller 😢

I’m a empty nester also but I want the best for my children to be able to live the life God gave them is my comfort ❤

My mom was here . She still is . I love my momma through it all ..