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@gibraltabago 2 жыл бұрын

Before I got married, actually when I realized that the gentleman and I were heading towards a steady relationship, I told him let us open a savings account for the household. He said no. I decided to save for myself. Thirty years after I am now retired, marriage on the rocks, but I saved enough to last me for two lifetimes. I still engage in saving and have roped in the younger of my two sons in the saving habit. The older of the two has not been taking my advice. I would be wanting for nothing after divorce because I had the foresight to save my own money, just in case! Great advice Fumi! Don't depend on the man's money!! Set aside your own.

@Aoneify 2 жыл бұрын

But dont both parties have to split all assets upon divorce?

@cocobutterchin6768 2 жыл бұрын

@@Aoneify yes. You split assets that is made during marriage including retirement money after divorce. No other way. Unless he said that he didn't want anything from her.

@cocobutterchin6768 2 жыл бұрын

@@Aoneify in USA. That is the Law. Maybe she didn't know the Law. Whoever has more money/assets pays in USA Law.

@cocobutterchin6768 2 жыл бұрын

@@Aoneify or maybe she is not legally married to him

@chinenyeikechukwu5837 2 жыл бұрын

@@Aoneify if there is an asset to be divided.

@candicemiller9498 2 жыл бұрын

My dad was the provider. My mom stayed home. My father gave my mother money to go to the market every week for groceries. He gave her let's say $100. My mom clipped coupons like crazy. Well all those years the money she saved with the coupons is what she stashed away. I never knew about it until I was older. Mother had a nice savings account from those coupon clippings. Every little bit adds up

@nina_____9365 Жыл бұрын

I am 35 year old reading all the older ladies' comments and learning from you all. Thanks for the wisdom and sisterhood!

@katybug6572 Жыл бұрын

Same! Def some great advice up in here! Stay Safe fam! 💜🙏✨✌️

@katemiller7874 Жыл бұрын

Don’t listen to the bitter old ladies. I’m 54 have a great husband and children. Stayed home to raised them.

@fuyukazemi Жыл бұрын

Same! Listening, learning and taking notes!

@MicrowaveCheese33 Жыл бұрын

@@katemiller7874 Good on you Kate enjoy your home👍

@ItsKorenTV Жыл бұрын

Same !

@zinhlemkhize2332 2 жыл бұрын

She is juggling a make-up tutorial and advising on a serious topic, and killing both 🤧🤧🤧 Not even losing train of thought, get out!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@yolandafelix239 Жыл бұрын

Yes she is amazing!!!

@hilkkahirvonen4831 Жыл бұрын

I agree! So annoying

@cathydube999 Жыл бұрын

I'm in that situation. My ex left me after cheating with nothing. Took my son. And everyone was ok with it. I struggled a lot till l humbled myself to get a job as a maid.

@lucyawili6698 Жыл бұрын

She's amazing! Thank you Fumi.

@FOhlookajew Жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same! She’s lovely! 💖

@ikikeudobong9529 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 24 and I'm not even married or dating but this message has sunk deep into my soul....

@chidinmaezeilo3165 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot Aunty Fumi.. Such a wonderful piece. I really learnt a lot. Much love from Nigeria 🇳🇬

@abigailjantjies6506 2 жыл бұрын

24 as well, no kids, not married, not dating but i'm definitely listening. I will not put myself in a vulnerable position.

@queeniekoj 2 жыл бұрын

I am also 24, not dating or married but this also hit me hard

@keziahbrutus Жыл бұрын

Never forget it

@gerilois4591 Жыл бұрын

Is a blessing for all of you still young to have come across her on time so you have a life of no regret because you have being well guided.

@celestejacobs7386 Жыл бұрын

You are the epitome of Elegance. Your accent, your style, the way you talk. You remind me of royalty.

@brendarodrigues3046 3 ай бұрын

Real Talk. 👑🥰

@tashahatchett3189 2 жыл бұрын

I wish I had heard this a few years ago. My husband took care of myself and our 8 children. I was a stay at home mom while homeschooling. He decided he didn’t want our life anymore. He eventually left me and the children for another woman. I HAD NOTHING. I’m in the process of rebuilding my life from the ground up.

@angelgreen9945 Жыл бұрын

Bless you my sister

@devinejevinge3808 Жыл бұрын

The nice thing is that the kids are growing while you are rebuilding, it aint easy though.

@0230Raveena Жыл бұрын

I was going to comment and say I know what you feel and what you are going through. But that's a lie. I absolutely cannot imagine having to take care of 8 children and having to rebuild. I hope you are in a better place.

@peacefaith560 Жыл бұрын

wow 8 kids ?? always have a plan B...men do

@baphithi Жыл бұрын

@@peacefaith560 men do!!!!!! I know this.

@legacyhome1780 2 жыл бұрын

Dears...Fumi is SO right! I've been married nearly 30-years and nothing is ever guaranteed. We just buried one of my husband's close friends from an unexpected heart-attack. Expect the unexpected. You don't need the latest fashion that will eventually be donated to your local Goodwill or Consignment store. Take that $600 you're paying for Red Bottoms and put it into an investment plan. If not, we will be saying "Hello" to you as a Walmart greeter. "Prioritize".

@shanarobinson7672 Жыл бұрын

Facts!!!!!

@blessedone612 9 ай бұрын

I agree , can you reveal a excellent investment co.?

@NashvilleBraids 2 жыл бұрын

My grandmother always taught us girls to have our own money and never tell our husbands/boyfriends about it. Always always always. She is passed now, but I still think of this very much. This story time reminded me again of this.

@jackiebenjamin8772 2 жыл бұрын

My grandmother told us the account you acquired before marriage stays in your name because you worked for that money. When married start an account together, still keep putting in your own account. When you have to buy a pair of shoes, deodorant etc you buy them for yourself. I preach this advice to young women.

@jackiebenjamin8772 2 жыл бұрын

My bank manager's advice is to save 10% of any money you receive. He says if you lent money to someone and they repay you put aside 10% from that repayment even if that 10% is $2, it will add up.

@lenetteranger8327 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely right! Don't let your right hand know what your left hand is doing.

@KickinItWithTea1111 2 жыл бұрын

@@lenetteranger8327 my grandmother told me this too! & feed em with a long handle spoon!

@jennypotts2008 2 жыл бұрын

I taught myself that anything a man gives you are just extras . Keep your own bag because at any moment homeboy can just 🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏾‍♂️Or 🏃🏾‍♂️

@marthamac9741 2 жыл бұрын

You scared me with that title...thank God you're not talking about your marriage. Blessings always 🤗💕

@Flourish_today 2 жыл бұрын

Her topics are typically story time so not really her present day situations. Sometimes she gets letters from subscribers telling their story or asking for advise so that is where her topics come from.

@USNMelDaria 2 жыл бұрын

Girl.m me too, I was like 😳

@bellatalkssa405 2 жыл бұрын

😀😀😀 I knew it wasn't about her, that's how strong I believe in her and Ole. Amandla✊🏽 all the way from South Africa loves 😍

@marthamac9741 2 жыл бұрын

@@bellatalkssa405 I honestly felt that one in my chest and started to pray. I'm relatively new to her channel so I wasn't accustomed to her titles. I can not tell you how much I celebrate in her success. So I rebuke any negative news. Wishing everyone peace.

@Kari_Michele 2 жыл бұрын

Me too! I was like WHEWWWWW!!! 😅

@BB-rv2lc Жыл бұрын

I have tears in my eyes. I’m going through this. Mrs. Fumi you just made me stronger. Thank You.

@cgn30316 2 жыл бұрын

The best BEST decision I ever made was collecting skills like I saved money - and after my divorce, I started my own business. After 5 years divorced, my net worth was 7xs more than when I was married - and growing. Collect skills like you save money and you’ll never be broke.

@becuteforme Жыл бұрын

What kind of business is it? I am having trouble figuring out what to do.

@BubblySkittles14 Жыл бұрын

what kind of skills and business?

@ANTIMLMEXPOSED Жыл бұрын

@ymarrero23 do you live in the 1950s?

@DiamondsRexpensive Жыл бұрын

@ymarrero23 how to admit you lack comprehension skills:

@Hourglass9477 Жыл бұрын

How did you collect skills? How did you set up your plan? Did you go back to school?

@caramelandchocolate5195 2 жыл бұрын

Please have Life Insurance too people… it’s very important to have… if something happens to you or your husband/ partner, your child or partner is covered. I never understood what it was until I got a call from those companies and actually listened to them instead of hanging up the phone and saying “not interested”

@Deanna0456 2 жыл бұрын

My father always told me “your savings will save you”. I switched careers once before and I’m switching careers again so that I can get into more remote work. If I hadn’t saved even as a single woman none of that would’ve been possible. Always have skills and save money its important.

@lanapoulliot7682 2 жыл бұрын

I love that saying and it's so true

@lkofie6670 2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like your father and my father has something in common...INDEED. I've appreciated my career journey and with the influence of my father (and even my husband) and my own inner feeling, I do not stay stagnant and I answer the opportunity as much as it becomes available.

@cgn30316 2 жыл бұрын

@MegaLadylove2012 2 жыл бұрын

Yes. Have skills and save money. If you don’t mind me askin, what career are switching to, to have more remote opportunities?

@nataliegallon7186 2 жыл бұрын

Always have a Plan B in place when it comes to your personal life goals. Good for you and be Encouraged.

@chefreeree2286 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this talk. I make good money in oil & gas and my fiance wanted me to quit my job so he can be "The Man". I refused so I had to let him go plus he was a chauvinist and want me home to be the baby maker and maid. I would never put myself in a situation where I have to ask a man for money no matter how much he says he loves me and the kids. Mad day will always come ladies. Make sure you can take care of yourself and your kids when it does. You have the power when you don't need a man.

@elisamdo 2 жыл бұрын

THISSS!!! 💯 NEVER give up your independence!! Work and have YOUR OWN, maintain yourself so that when you meet someone you are with them because you WANT to be, not because you HAVE to be. And you can walk away (or show them the door) without worry, should it ever come to that. My husband and I both make 6 figures, but I make approximately 32% more than him so if something was to happen, my daughter and I would be just fine. My mother raised me to NEVER depend on a man, and my husband 100000% appreciates that about me. He is not treated like an ATM and his wife is his *partner*. And we are raising our daughter with the same strong sense of independence and smart financial management.

@lauraquinones1877 Жыл бұрын

So if I have a kid with my husband I’ll eventually be a single mother ?

@blueseptember2174 Жыл бұрын

@@lauraquinones1877 depends on the integrity of the man. My husband just left after more than a decade so he could sleep around😬

@sandi6818 Жыл бұрын

Well said!

@gracechristian1226 Жыл бұрын

Hey gorgeous ☺️ If you quit your job and let him provide, you’ll have more time and freedom to have another stream of income by your own

@peggymatthews2627 Жыл бұрын

My first red flag was when we stopped holding hands while watching tv. There were others to come, but I made a conscious decision to ignore them. I have always saved, so when the marriage ended I wasn’t caught flat footed. All it takes is for one partner to change his or her mind and the marriage is over. Great sage advice Fumi. Thanks for sharing.

@garnellwallace5594 2 жыл бұрын

One of the best piece of advice my mother gave me was to always have my own secret bank account. Her first husband passed away from a heart attack at age 26 leaving her with 4 small children. It was a lesson she never forgot and I've always followed. I don't care how small my money is. If I make a dollar I'm saving a quarter.

@brendarodrigues3046 3 ай бұрын

Facts!

@makeupbyife 2 жыл бұрын

I have been saying this for years. Save the money even if there are no red flags. Divorce is not the only incident in life. Many people never think about these things, but I do. I'm glad I'm this way, I'm always ready. Thank you Fumi.

@sleepingbeauty96605 2 жыл бұрын

thank you for this. so educational and eye opening even for those who are not yet married.❤️

@leahladybug4226 2 жыл бұрын

Guess what it ain't being negative either its just smart

@marriejames01 2 жыл бұрын

Right people don’t think about death. What if the husband never has a retirement account? What if he does but it’s not enough to sustain you for longer than a year or two? It’s best to have your own however I still believe the man should be the main provider. The women are always the main ones to handle take the majority responsibility for the children.

@NoemiGuerra-yp8gn 2 жыл бұрын

I had a male sociology teacher that said this. Not just divorce. Death. Illness. Tragic accidents. It’s always best to be prepared. He was married to a nurse and he encouraged both parties to have jobs for that reason.

@Tee-kc3pn 2 жыл бұрын

My mom taught me to put money to the side.... you can have a joint amount BUT ALWAYS keep a separate account in the event something happen.

@InRediscoveryOfMe Жыл бұрын

I'm a late citizen to FumiNation and never have I felt such a strong need to be in the presence of a stranger. I just want to hug your neck and tell you thank you thank you thank you! So much wisdom grace and love. I'm a STAHM and I've been feeling bored. I'm currently looking for WFH jobs in Healthcare after a situation played out while we were on vacay this summer. I told myself I need my own and never again be totally 100% dependent financially on my hubby.

@santasanchez6394 2 жыл бұрын

love it!!! You are so RIGHT! Before my ex-husband abandoned me, I had money saved in a separate bank account already. Thank God!!!!!!!

@angelgreen9945 Жыл бұрын

Yes 🙌

@jenniferbrown8568 Жыл бұрын

Smart lady

@heyitsmeCat 2 жыл бұрын

Fumi, we are the same age, but when I listen to you I feel like I have a loving big sister. Love you.

@mimoye1 2 жыл бұрын

Me too!!!

@veronalipka3597 2 жыл бұрын

Good for you! We can learn from just about everyone we encounter in life. PVEL.

@natashanuujoma 2 жыл бұрын

@NurseMomHopelessromantic 2 жыл бұрын

How old is she?

@joyvanlue8217 2 жыл бұрын

Wow. 5am

@lindad1582 2 жыл бұрын

Omg, you are so correct! My husband and I have been married for 19 years. I have always worked. I set up my accounts to automatically save and invest 10% of my monthly income from the moment we met. I have saved every bonus I get. Today, I can retire and take care of both of us 😆. I don't have brand name clothing but I have quality pieces that's are clean and tidy. My grandmother always say you must save for a rainy day.

@pangmoua3189 2 жыл бұрын

Love you! You are wise, loving, and gorgeous! “You don’t need 10 Birkin bags, You are not Cardi B -neither am I. I’m not Kimmy -neither are you. We don’t have that kind of coin” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@franklinstephen3268 Жыл бұрын

Hello how are you doing?

@brendarodrigues3046 3 ай бұрын

Humble Facts & A Profound Conclusion. 👏🏾🙌🏾🥰

@ladyj283 2 жыл бұрын

Fumi, when you said “I’m dark” I felt jealous for about three seconds. Your skin is so beautiful and striking. The makeup was nice too, but God did that!

@tw6873 Жыл бұрын

She's absolutely gorgeous 😍

@zaynab2085 Жыл бұрын

She is so beautiful 😍 her bone structure, internal and external beauty!

@tysteward545 Жыл бұрын

I stay jealous! 😍

@tamuz9633 2 жыл бұрын

Get insurance on your husbands, ladies! That way if he suddenly drops down dead, at least you get paid. Insurance is the way to go in a marriage. That's what rich folks do. They take out insurances on their husbands because it's usually men who die first leaving behind a wife, children, mortgage, debt and lots of bills. Get life insurance now not later, ladies.

@tshiamomahape292 Жыл бұрын

Definitely taking ur advice

@Alljono22567 16 күн бұрын

😮😮😮

@aalhdy 2 жыл бұрын

I love makeup and fashion, I buy wholesale,thrift stores, dress up beautiful always, and sell in ebay and other sites, sometimes my closet gets empty after I sell most of the clothes that I buy, this way I enjoy dressing up and making money at the same time.

@franklinstephen3268 Жыл бұрын

Hello how’re you doing?

@Shatradwife Жыл бұрын

Omg when u said he was just sleeping and you were so happy to see him, girl I was happy that nothing bad happened

@techielabteacher 2 жыл бұрын

Love your story. One time I said to my mom, daddy pays for everything and gives you everything. She said, There is a price to pay for this. My dad loved my mom so much and even when they split (not divorced) he still paid for everything and never remarried. But..she said every man will not do this. So prepare. I totally understand and appreciate her telling me this. You are so right Fumi! But we need to stay ready.

@2tayj211 Жыл бұрын

This was the best clickbait experience. You definitely turned a negative mindset into an open one. I was expecting to be horrified but instead I’m looking into my fiancé and I future and saving plans . Very grateful for what we have and our goals we are looking to accomplish.Your delivery and presence are both very beautiful.

@natashasmith1165 2 жыл бұрын

Fumi my first daughter father died when she was three years old and I was only twenty three years old. I didn't have anything to fall back on. Unfortunately, the same situation happened to me again. My second daughter died when she was eight months old. This time I was working and doing my degree. It's now eight years since his death and I have acquired a plot of land and build my house, bought a car and sending my two children to school. Those unexpected situations caused me to realize that in the blink of an eye your life can change. This is life changing advice you giving and I do appreciate you for it. I am always elated when you post because it is always interesting to watch and listen. You are my virtual big auntie and I love you dearly.

@FEMME_CHRONICLES 2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@Midelle_A 2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@ZawadiBirya 2 жыл бұрын

Your story is so inspirational. So proud of you sis. Wishing you and your kids all the very best.

@olaoluwaogunseiju9537 2 жыл бұрын

♥️

@stefaniemccoy7377 2 жыл бұрын

Dear Fumi, Thank you for the words of truth. My Uncle used to say ," It is a poor rat that has only one hole." He was a brilliant man. Ladies, life is ever changing. Fumi is right. Develop streams of income. Start small if you have to. There is no shame in that. Save $20 from your grocery money. Save birthday money. Save pay increases. God will bless it and increase it.

@FLOWERLBY Жыл бұрын

This is my first time watching you here. I just stumbled across this video. Who are you? I love you. I read the comments of your viewers, and I agree totally. Your mannerisms, how you talk, your TRUTH, and your beauty. You have got it all, sister. Yes, I have my own, and I have a great marriage of almost 30 years this December 2022. So happy that I watched your video in its entirety. What a gem. Golden. You love makeup from your soul..It is like you are making love to it with each brush stroke. This is amazing. Take Care.

@veronavb6858 2 жыл бұрын

When the money is great, get ur self a good education. Nothing beats knowledge, when he’s gone get a job and continue ur life.Always be a independent woman 👩 never depends on a 👨even in a marriage.

@Blossom_flourish 2 жыл бұрын

Super facts sis!

@MrLatinasongbird 2 жыл бұрын

I love you Fumi, my mom was widowed with 5 children when my father was murdered. She always saved and stretched her dollars and showed me how to survive. I'm so very grateful to her. Mami, as I call her is 84 years old now. She's still making me smile and her life story is incredible, Although she struggled, having lost her Mom to Cancer at the age of 12, and being the oldest of 9 (the baby was 10 months old in cloth diapers) she never gave up and passed that along to us. She helped raise her siblings and other children as well. My Dad did not want her to work or go to school. She went to school anyway, graduated with a nursing degree and shortly after my Dad was killed. Her strength and her faith in God, showed me who I wanted to be. Her example was a gift, I'm eternally grateful for. It's wonderful to see and hear you giving such gifts to all. So many people are lost in this world and you my darling are a sweet breath of fresh air. Blessings to you and your family. Gladys

@omahify1470 2 жыл бұрын

Your mom is a very strong woman ❣️

@honeta11 2 жыл бұрын

Your Mum is a angel. She is so strong. Amazing mom. May God keep her for you. Happy and blessed year!!!

@carlahart4590 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing story it’s so important to have your own

@Hellydragon Жыл бұрын

You sound like you need to write a book, or something showing your mom's life. Her story sounds incredible! Bless her and the fight in her - an inspiration

@pumpyourselfup7683 Жыл бұрын

@@Hellydragon Her mom's story is the story of many Black people

@cak8132 Жыл бұрын

Great advice, Ms. Fumi. I grew up as a daughter of Depression Era parents and they taught me to save money from the time I was a child. I can spend it with the best of them but I also saved. I’ve never been married, I worked hard for 47 years, and now I’m retired. My life style isn’t extravagant but, thank God, I’m comfortable. Your advice is SO important. I love how you were able to multi-task and not only tell your story so engagingly but also apply your impeccable make-up and look so fabulous. Loving your channel!! Bless you!!

@dianaprince9311 2 жыл бұрын

You are telling the truth. People are living beyond their means and have no savings for emergencies or even retirement for that matter. Married or not women need to save their money. New subby here.💖💖💖💖💖💖

@DAVESGIRL830 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for addressing this. So many are trying to live like they are royalty when they may be 1-2 paychecks away from poverty. We (women) have to make sure to save for the “what if” days. I love glam and expensive stuff BUT even if I was Cardi or Kim, I would still be a bit more frugal to secure my security.

@endtimeservant8531 2 жыл бұрын

Independence is key whether IN or OUT of a marriage. Never, ever leave it up to someone else to take care of you. Take hold of YOUR OWN LIFE and you will never be left out IN THE COLD.

@tshepisomoqobane8759 Жыл бұрын

Sister Fumi 🔥🔥🔥 the story telling, the makeup, the wisdom in everything ✨️

@edannerowe-taylor3152 2 жыл бұрын

This video is so helpful to hear as a young woman in her 20s and I had to click as soon as I saw the thumbnail I was thought how stunning this woman is ❤️

@izu-kanji 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this Fumi. I equally thought i didnt need to do anything concerning my finances since my partner had it sorted. But then he actually was the one to say i needed savings if anything should happen to him. And this was his idea, not mine. Thats how i knew he loves me deeply. Fast forward to now, i have savings and also a business he's invested in so i can be busy and make some money.

@islandgirl7281 2 жыл бұрын

Real talk, true facts i always believe a woman should be able to stand on her own two feet and not depend on a man for anything if he offers fine but to be financially independent is the most liberating feeling every woman can be proud of.

@0230Raveena Жыл бұрын

Wow, this video has resonated with me so much. I've felt so ashamed of the position I am in: broken marriage and I thought I had it all, the beautiful house, nice car, fancy vacation but at the end of the day I really had nothing to truly call my own. Now going back to school and will be finishing soon and I cannot wait for the day when I will feel liberated. I've already told him: his cheating will turn out to be the best thing that has ever happened to be because it would have forced me to truly be the woman I was meant to be. Thank You for Sharing...sometimes there is so much stigma attached to topics like these and it feels great to address it.

@MalkasGlowUP 2 жыл бұрын

Hi, Fumi, I came across this video of yours on 8/01/2022. I work from home and was tidying up my sewing area while listening to you and I absolutely love your spirit. I got the Fumi passport and I am now a citizen. Thank you for your Sister 2 Sister moments. You have great values and have a lot to teach your nation, you absolutely have excellent advice. I am hooked on your videos now believe me. Thank you again.

@rosemariebrown3177 2 жыл бұрын

Fumi you are so on point with this message. I've told my girlfriends over the years, that every woman needs to have her own savings. I've been independent since the age of 16, and my mother thought me the importance of saving. I got married in my 30's and have two boys. My husband has a very good job, and he has always provided for our family, but I work and contribute to our household as well. You never know what life has in store for you, and it's better to be prepared for the unexpected rather than the unexpected thrusting you into a tailspin. Love your channel, because you always keep it real.

@babygee.02.01 2 жыл бұрын

Make sure you are saving as much as possible in a separate account

@hanillegiolo3386 2 жыл бұрын

Taught*

@purposedriven5782 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Fumi. I appreciate your openness and how you love us to prepare us for the facts of life. You are a great Mom to many of us.

@shirleybereal4138 2 жыл бұрын

You are the best, I wasn't prepared when my husband died I was lost had to go back to work at 63yrs. Fumi is correct on every issue. Thank you Your Houston fan

@kwolokwolo5091 Жыл бұрын

What a woman!!! Such a mother figure to us all 💝

@anjelgunnarshaug4823 9 ай бұрын

I have now watched several of your videos and want to say how valuable they are to me and I believe to the collective. You are genuine, informative, funny and open up conversation that is real and raw.

@brendarodrigues3046 3 ай бұрын

Yes! Real & Raw. Much ❤

@kraftykell 2 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you posted this today ♥️ I am in quite a similar position. I am blessed to be A stay at home mom. I struggle with the back and forth of working and not working everyday. Even though I technically do work I don’t receive a pay check and sometimes I feel like I should be contributing financially. These past 2 months have been rough as far as my marriage goes. I hate that I don’t have the option to just leave because financially I am not secure. It’s a position I put myself in and if I could warn anyone I would say don’t ever get yourself in a relationship where you are dependent financially on the other. I love you Dahling! Have a blessed day!

@coolcat6341 2 жыл бұрын

Good luck 🙏🙏🙏

@lynfields 2 жыл бұрын

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

@ginad9935 2 жыл бұрын

It’s never too late to start working on your financial security. It might not happen as fast as you would like but you can still make steps towards that goal, and one day all these little steps will accumulate and will lead somewhere, maybe somewhere you didn’t expect 🤩

@aeiou0123 2 жыл бұрын

my older sis is in the same position married to a wealthy man and totally dependent on him. She worries night and day even though the marriage is stable married 19+ years but I told her to get a part time job atleast since her kids are off to college now and she has some time to spend outside the home. There is security in having some of your own funds - anything can happen to your spouse - not that we pray for bad things but it is good to keep your skills current and have some finances stashed away

@lflo8087 2 жыл бұрын

I have always been a stay at home mom but have always saved for a ‘rainy’ day. I made sure I could pickup and go if I ever needed to. I’m lucky enough to be in a position where my husband gives me whatever I want but it wasn’t always like that and things ebb and flow as we all know.

@geneviveross4234 2 жыл бұрын

I love you auntie Fumi…I am an imported wife from Nigeria, now residing in the States…I must say that you are so lucky to have a husband that pays for everything.. Most women have never experienced such, I know I have never.. When I first arrived in the States, my now ex wanted me to immediately start working to start paying bills. I told him I wanted to go to school, he said he didn’t bring me to U.S to go to school…. the rest of the 25 years of my life with him was SLAVERY..! I never did go to school… I have to actually divorce him for me to even have control of my own money…! But thank God, I’m free now. My kids are all adults and I’m basically FREE from his bondage and slavery and I’m very happy. Mine was no marriage, it was slavery.. I will say it once again, Auntie Fumi, you got a GOLDEN husband…! Some of us women are never that lucky..! Must I also add that the whole 25 years, the man never knew there’s a kitchen in that house, never cooked not even once..! Fumi you are very blessed 😇

@sweetspice9120 2 жыл бұрын

Wow so sorry to hear that 25 yrs of your youth was wasted with a cruel man. Wish you had left much earlier though. Congratulations on finally getting your life back

@Destroyandrebuild 2 жыл бұрын

You Igbo?

@9jah4lyf 2 жыл бұрын

Happy you're finally free

@quelquun2018 2 жыл бұрын

Imported wife??? Please elaborate

@abbyshorizon9234 2 жыл бұрын

Jeez...I'm happy to know you're finally free. ..Ladies should be very Careful...

@jaynewkhwatenge9375 Жыл бұрын

This is therapy, Fumi. Thank you for being so candid

@empressh6960 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story Fumi! I have 5 chronic illnesses and cannot work during the marriage. Still cannot. However, 6 years ago, I got divorced and sold we sold our house. -- no money was saved and I downsized my life. I am so so happy now. In my own studio apartment. For the last three years. However, I’m in love again and I will plan to do exactly what you said and suggested in this video. This 2nd time around! Thank you so much! I absolutely love and adore your personality and bubbly aura.

@Flourish_today 2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad I've never taken interest in brand names. For as long as it looks nice and fits me, I'm good to go. Growing up my parents always emphasized on how important it was to own land. In my small African country young women are buying plots of land. It's almost the thing there for young people to do.

@DAVESGIRL830 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! The same in the South. Land = $$$ and security.

@acosiak6191 2 жыл бұрын

Which country in Africa? My background is Ghanaian and I am considering purchasing some land myself. Starting small. I'm 32 and back in College so I have to b strategic and budget.

@tendanipelaelo6293 2 жыл бұрын

@PauI Barron Network advertise it on your own channel. We are talking serious business. We're not here to steal from innocent people

@missincognito9168 Жыл бұрын

Which country and how do you do it?

@missincognito9168 Жыл бұрын

Which country and how do you do it?

@GenuinelyGiGi 2 жыл бұрын

You are PREACHING!!!! This was a fabulous video (as always) and an excellent message! I’m 36 and I follow women of all ages… I see A LOT of women in their 20’s who spew this idea that “you should just depend on your husband, he’s a provider, so let him provide.” That’s all fine and well until life hits. I’m glad that you are here to share the truth. Hopefully, many more women will take heed!

@gailainsley6939 2 жыл бұрын

Honey, Any one with common sense knows that those ladies do not mean literally. Any woman born after a certain era already has their own bank accounts/ savings and know that they should have back up for a rainy day. When it comes to marriage, ive noticed that many of these women here who were left high and dry did not marry well or even insured that an alimony was discussed should anything happen.

@zikaenendu6214 2 жыл бұрын

@@gailainsley6939 It is not only for divorce. It is morally wrong to be a parasite or leacher depending on a man or even the woman to provide everything for the family. Such stress can kill the provider easily. I have seen it happen. No matter how small or how rich the partner one should have not only savings but contribute to family.

@ev6564 Жыл бұрын

@@zikaenendu6214 It's not a leech if the woman takes care of the home and children. In my opinion, men should provide 100% financially and the woman responsible for the home (even if she works as well). The higher class have this dynamic more often and the divorce rate is also lower. It's an even exchange.

@sc5868 Жыл бұрын

Yes I agree. I can never depend on a man, even my husband as much as i love him, i learned early on from my mom to always make sure i have something saved. It is essential all the time. Sometimes, its not even about your man. It is about you. Take care of yourself financially as much as you do internally and externally because there are always seasons. Seasons for plenty and seasons for less. Thanks so much for sharing Sis :D

@zinakilian7782 Жыл бұрын

Fumi your advice transcends to young and older women alike. I have to say this is my favorite KZfaq channel. I get great makeup tips, great advice and I LOVE story time. Thank you for sharing your skills, wisdom and knowledge! ❤

@masechabamdaka785 Жыл бұрын

Watching one year later and it resonates!!! Being a single mom since forever, ...it's overwhelming and life doesn't go easy on some of us. Be real with oneself - thank you Fumi💌

@Belle_K 2 жыл бұрын

Save more when the money is good. Life can change at anytime. This was a really good video and I need that Morphe complexion palette!

@stefaniemccoy7377 2 жыл бұрын

Farida B. That was an excellent comment about saving when the money is good. Many women say they don't know how to start. Maybe they never worked. Start with the grocery money. Save $20 a month. But just start.

@dt9244 2 жыл бұрын

I love you Fumi! you give invaluable advice. I'm graduating from nursing school in a few months. I 've been married for 8 years. Husband provides for everything. He's supportive of my dreams, as a matter fact he's paying for all of my tuition in addition to everything else, however It's daunting to solely rely on another person financially even if there aren't any red flags.I'm grateful I woke up one day despite challenges I've been experiencing and decided to make something out of myself because the future could turn at any given moment without notice.

@optimalscore 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!!! I've also made that decision and on the path to being a nurse one day.

@quelquun2018 2 жыл бұрын

I graduated nursing school, please get that temporary nursing license! I should have. I am a horrible test taker. TEAS, SATs, etc I’ve always had to retake. Get that temporary nursing license, you can work under it for 1 year. 3 months before it expires, start studying for NCLEX.

@MrFonvillem7 2 жыл бұрын

You’re so Smart my Sister!!!

@MrFonvillem7 2 жыл бұрын

BTW Congratulations!!!🎈🎉🍾🎊

@Somebodysomeone1 Жыл бұрын

Fumi, I discovered you today and am already obsessed aaah! My mom always tells me to not be too dependent on a man, to always have my own money. Even my dad always emphasized on working hard and having my own job because you never know of the tomorrow. I am 22 and I have also seen how my relatives' marriages were jeopradized and they had to go back to square one. People change, things change. Tomorrow isn't promised my sisters. Work hard and have your own money. Mtegemea cha nduguye hufa maskini ( One who depends on his siblings dies a poor person) a Swahili proverb.

@anselemtswend9984 Жыл бұрын

Ahsante kutuwakilisha from Tanzania also.love you

@marymukuna4769 Жыл бұрын

Wow Ni vizuri kuona watu WA kwetu wakiwa hapa kwa huu mutandao. 🇰🇪

@Ellemichelle2015 Жыл бұрын

This is a wonderful conversation. I just found you and I am so happy that I did. Thank you for focusing on women and especially women in their 50's.

@kirbiejohnson4475 2 жыл бұрын

Fabulous Fumi, you DROP SOME GEMS nobody can dispute. My parents were married for 30+ yrs and when my dad died, he left her a house and that was it ( I don't know the details of what went wrong, that was between them). The thing is my mom knew how to save and did not miss a beat after. She lived comfortably until the day she passed. Thank you Fumi for just stating the plain TRUTH, somebody got to say it!

@gloriabalumbi9451 2 жыл бұрын

This channel has changed my life,the least I can do to show my appreciation is by sharing your videos.love you auntie Fumi

@morayowills Жыл бұрын

This video popped up at a very critical point in my life and I am extremely grateful for you!

@lolalyons6357 Жыл бұрын

Fumi omg this whole video is GOLDD the makeup look is stunning the words of advice is very very very much needed

@rayniallday 2 жыл бұрын

This talk was so needed. Us Women need to learn to save. I've been saving for a very long time and I will never stop. Thanks Fumi, this was Beautiful.

@Indyghurl 2 жыл бұрын

@@neurodivergentpixi6736 it's crazy how much money we wasted or was spent coercively

@magdalenethomas7738 9 ай бұрын

Love love this story. Your the best Fumi ❤

@makeupqueenroo 2 жыл бұрын

This was much needed. I’m not married yet but it’s a definite eye opener to have your own especially when you have kids

@chantellewilson39 Жыл бұрын

Love your channel Fumi, your energy is just overwhelmingly positive ✨️

@leighjohn6968 2 жыл бұрын

I just LOVE your energy!!!! Keep being gorge inside and out!!!

@mimoye1 2 жыл бұрын

Every woman needs a big sister or a solid group of sister friends! The way it’s done home in Africa! That’s how we survive and thrive

@teresalee3567 2 жыл бұрын

You are a phenomenal storyteller. I have to say my heart was in my mouth when you were talking about your husband and not hearing him upstairs!! I am so glad he is doing well.

@sarahmueni2899 2 жыл бұрын

Uj90

@caribbeantigress 2 жыл бұрын

I felt like a best friend is taking to me 😍 keep spreading the wisdom queen 👑 may this new year come with an avalanche of prosperity, health, love ❤️ and kindness. I love you Fumi, and that laughter is soo contagious.

@asanabright538 2 жыл бұрын

Fumi you are so correct! Women must make sure to earn and save, save big!! You will feel so much confidence and no fear. Keep working and saving.

@faridahnakayemba1496 2 жыл бұрын

This was on point regardless your married or not even parents can pass away and you start taking care of your young bros and sisters saving is the key 🥰🙏

@nicoleflax3583 2 жыл бұрын

You are one beautiful woman to me Fumi ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. I love everything about you and this video was spot on. My mindset was like this when I was 11 years old. Long story short my dad was an alcoholic, wreck everything from car's, house and his marriage. My mom lose the house but I also gain a lot from experiencing that is that at that point it's not about sitting down and looking loss. My mom was a strong go getter. My mom stood up and didn't sit down until retirement. I am a jack of all trades from laying sewer pipes to having a degree in criminal justice. This video was perfect!!!!! Love you for this Fumi ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Happy holiday's and stay blessed.

@nickyranking398 Жыл бұрын

You are so beautiful inside and out. You are truly, truly transparent. Thank you !

@sherres8610 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for keeping it real with the facts we woman need in life

@misty4274 2 жыл бұрын

Love you Fumi!! Keep'n it real!! I lost my dear husband love after 34years of marriage and fighting through a six year illness before he passed away. What you're saying here is so true!! Tried as I might to be prepared when the wheels fell off my life I still wasn't ready!!

@calvthomas6153 2 жыл бұрын

I just lost my husband a few months ago unexpectedly. We were only married for 15 months, and he never got around to adding my name to any of his financial affairs ( like I did for him). When he died, there was nothing there for me to live off of. When I say nothing... I mean absolutely nothing. It all went to his previous family, because he didn't remove their names from his paperwork, even though he led me to believe he took care of things, and that I'd be provided for, should something happen to him. I could t believe it! If it wasn't for me having my own savings and assets, and very good friends that helped to provide the cushion I needed to keep me afloat, I don't know where I would be. I learned the following lessons: As a woman... keep saving your own money, even if you're married because tomorrow is not promised, your life can change in the blink of an eye like mine did, and most importantly, sometimes men screw up, and we're left to clean up the mess.

@nahambohilma8598 Жыл бұрын

@@calvthomas6153 thank u ma for the revealing sensitive issue and the timely advice 🙏💯❤

@lenetteranger8327 2 жыл бұрын

Great advice for every woman at any age! Always save your money put something aside for a rainy day, after 2020 this was/is the motto. When I was growing up my grandmother also made sure that she had Life insurance and burial policy she was only making minimum wage and she said that you can be here today and gone tomorrow.

@tita8202 Жыл бұрын

True. Wise woman

@ACCOMPLISHEDSHEIS Жыл бұрын

Yes. Please save like your life depends on it. Otherwise, celebrate the new adventurous you. ❤️

@graykathy 2 жыл бұрын

You are such a darling! Love your down-to-earth approach to life. Beauty, brains, and heart!

@ja.6203 2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂 it's always her laughter for me. Love the vibes it add to her videos.

@camrygirl84 2 жыл бұрын

Hi! So, I was on the edge of my seat with a racing heart listening to this amazing story and I became emotional for you…for other women and myself and I’m not married. This is the second time your page has popped up on my feed. I subscribed because you made me think and laugh. And your makeup is as beautiful as the energy you give to your subscribers. Thank you!

@stephanarobertswooden4379 Жыл бұрын

This one of the realest topics that I have heard on this platform. This is my first time watching you and I love how you give real world advice to women. Thank you and your makeup tips are fabulous. ❤

@eltonjohntorres8963 2 жыл бұрын

This was God sent, such perfect timing too. I found your channel a while back due to the Hermès video’s. I’ve been wanting to get one and so I thought I’d revisit your videos. Instead this video was the first one I clicked on. I really needed to hear this message. It’s like saying, hold on…it’s not yet time for you to get one, PRIORITIZE first and a save your money! The story with ur hubby, I can totally relate! I’ve also thought about that. My partner actually asked me the same thing. If he no longer could work, would I be able to financially take care of myself/us or keep the lifestyle we are used to. Definitely need to reset my goals. Thank you Fumi!

@carmenshirley4886 2 жыл бұрын

We African(Diaspora) Women are strong! I love you and what you are doing! Keep up the great work!

@tare4898 2 жыл бұрын

The face beat is gorgeous as usual, and the topic/advice is an extremely life saving one. 🤗

@evelyngibso1847 2 жыл бұрын

This was right on time! Towards the end of the story I was in tears! Just what I needed 🥰❤️

@naturedean3229 Жыл бұрын

I'm here for it!!!! A very real and true message. Thank you Mrs. Fumi. You have a way of telling a story and staying on beat.... and your makeup is fabulous. Thank you for this message. My boyfriend and I live together and are trying to start a family. I had a wake up call about buying things I dont need because I must save save save!!!! Peace

@elijoynerjoyner 2 жыл бұрын

My mother introduced me to your channel and I am so glad she did. You are the absolute truth! I love your personality and the wisdom you share. Whenever you put out content it has value. I appreciate your channel, your content and you. Thank you for sharing.

@JourneywithMrsMilan 2 жыл бұрын

This snatched edges!! Your conversations are always so real and uplifting and full of wisdom. Love ya Fumi! 💕💗

@oneflydivatv1564 2 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful message not just for married women but food for thought for all women. Love it💜 Be blessed😇

@candicemiller9498 2 жыл бұрын

I'm shocked that morphe did so well. Fumi you are gorgeous. Love your channel Queen 💖👑💖👑

@mejieyutuc110 2 жыл бұрын

You're the auntie that I have always wanted!!!!! when i watch your vids i really feel like you're talking to me alone and giving me guidance. You have a way of giving your opinion or guidance without malice or being passive aggressive. When other ppl tell me these things they make it seem like im doing something wrong or i should do what they said BECAUSE they're older, a im right and you're wrong aura to them.

@SM-gx3ho 2 жыл бұрын

please do more and more of sister to sister especially for young followers. Ive been following you all of my twenties... and I am 29 now

@Lovedis4 Жыл бұрын

I just LOVE your commentary and authenticity😍😍. You’re being helps me be Me 😍

@samanthabrown9716 2 жыл бұрын

I love the way how you storytelling & you are advising all women who are in a relationship for real. Fabulous! 👍🏾

@zasha9167 2 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate this FUMI!! You are the role model so many of us need. Thank you.

@xencoop2669 2 жыл бұрын

Oh my God thank you for your storytime today. I'm 57 and really needed this. My 1st husband died while serving in the military but my 2nd husband cheated every chance he got. I have 4 step children all born while we were married. I'm still struggling at 57 I don't have a large nest egg thank God I'm able and strong and have a decent job I will be able to depend on me. But if I could tell my 20 year old self anything. Don't tell your man everything, you bring You to the table and your heart is pure, and good and that's what you are able to share. 2 days ago I was asked what I bring to a relationship and I was at a loss for words. However my light shines and draws others in don't down play that. You deserve what you want stop allowing small minds to belittle you. I love you Fumi thank you for your love.

@joeroot9142 2 жыл бұрын

You’re so beautiful I wish you all the best🥰🥰🥰

@lkofie6670 2 жыл бұрын

Ok am I reading correctly? Are you saying your husband fathered 4 outside children being that he was married to you at the same time? I mean are the two of you still married? Otherwise, if you're not, although you feel you're struggling independently, at least your efforts and work is just for YOU. If you're still in the marriage, I mean...for what it's worth to stay, no matter what I'm thinking or what anyone else is thinking...I've since come to realize that everyone has to make their own personal choice to stay or go, use the moment of his financial contributions, (no matter how little he contributes), to hoard your own money. Also, you may need to consider getting a side gig or side gigs so that some or all of the side gig money can go to savings and some can go towards your daily livelihood. Good luck.

@sunshallrise 2 жыл бұрын

You are a good person you bring yourself your love your loyalty head up keep loving

@bettyjones6240 Жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear you went through this. That's why they say leave after the first time bc it doesn't get better.

@contentcapture3965 Жыл бұрын

Start a Creche Maa. My mum started a creche around your age and she's doing well now. its not easy but after some time you would be able to hire people and can be financially stable. You can also invest into a car washing bay at a vantage point. Or start a nanny, maid, or care giver agency. These are things you can do at your age which will require little to no Capital.