We’re all here for you! My heart is with you. I’ve been divorced from mine for 7 years, but we have a child so I’ll never be rid of him. Much love!

Got me wanting to be a better person 🥺🫶🙏🏽🫂

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Powerful interview. I think I speak for everyone when I say we are so proud of how you turned things around. Wishing you and your daughter nothing but the best ❤

@@teeners8889 Thank you so very much 💖

Your statement is profound wisdom. As a narcissist magnet, I see the wisdom of your words and the survivalist truth of what you are saying. Thanks, elizabethann3117.

I married one. It was the worst 5 years of my life. I didn’t see the way I was being controlled or staged managed by him. He used to Grope me and violate me all the time. When I told him to stop. He would be like “you’re going to be sad when it goes away and I don’t want you anymore”. Total bullshit manipulation. I used to have to lock myself in the bathroom to change my clothes. So, I wouldn’t be molested by him. He told me “I never lie to you. I always tell you the truth”. If a man tells me that again, I’m going to run the other direction. Because when his affair came to light. All the sudden all his Lies came to the surface. He lied all the time. If his Mouth was moving he was lying. It was the worst time of my life. I want to work with women in similar situations get their voice back.

Yes . That’s what I did. I agree with you.

Yes. Sadly it’s that last ditch plea for remorse on their part to renounce their ways. Which ain’t ever going to happen (at least not without some sort of life event UNordained by you).

Did.

Thank you so incredibly much. I honestly never looked at it from that perspective.

Say it sister.

How is being "weak" and excuse? She deserves everything she got for her bad decisions, she had several people tell her to leave including the first wife he had which she knew and stole him from her, they went to a professional counselor and told her to leave him, she refused.....no no no, women once you're an adult woman and make the choice of staying with an abuser even after multiple people warned you and offered help....you deserve what you get.

@@cristohvThe fact that you would leave such a vile comment like this says a Lot about the kind of person you sadly are. To say someone “deserves” abuse because they made bad decisions is absolutely disgusting. But guess what? Without those bad decisions I wouldn’t have my beautiful daughter, I wouldn’t have an amazing friend like his “first wife” who wasn’t his wife but you missed that part and I would be the incredibly strong woman I am today who is sharing her story and trying to help others. I learned from everything I went through so I can teach others not to make the same mistakes. I’m thankful for every lesson and I’m thankful for the life I have today. I want to help and be a light to others. What kind of legacy do you think you are leaving behind with this behavior? Do better

@itsjust_deanna I never said you deserved to be abused, but nice play on words. You consciously made choices that affected your life in a positive or negative way. Repeating those bad choices throughout "Adulthood" and then using the excuse that you were "weak" and that's part of why you didn't leave is no real excuse. Any man that goes through what you went would be called a dumbass plain and simple. But when a woman does it she can always hide behind the fact that she got kids and those are blessing, meanwhile ignoring the point which is as an ADULT you made bad choices so own up to them, all I heard was I was abused, no you were abused as a child and that is terrible, but once you grew up honey ain't no more excuses for picking a horrible guy and say but he was a charmer....but you're right I'm sure I'm a horrible guy for pointing out what I see.

I’m so sorry you had to grow up with that type of parent. I completely understand how you felt when she passed. I hope you have been able to heal ♥️🙏🏼

Malignant narcissism is not an illness. A psychiatrist cannot treat it. Still, I am sorry what you went through.

​@@sloftyIf you don't mind...What do you think or know narcissistic personalities to fall under then? If not a mental condition? Deliberately Abusive? Intentional Harm & Hate ? Just Simply Evil? That sure is what it feels like ... just curious...

@@sloftyit is a mental illness… what do you mean it’s not an illness? Some cancers are malignant and aren’t treatable

It’s sad my mother just passed this year and I found out a few months before she passed that she was covert and she didn’t even know why she was the way she was…. I believe it is a demon.

I've actually learnedand listened to God. He does not forgive narcs and neither should we. Some unintentionally hurt others. They can be forgiven. Narcs seek to destroy you. Ask me how I know

@@rppope1006 god forgives everyone.......god is beyond human and not bound by the same petty rules. Human find it hard to forgive, god does not. Do not make god out to be as petty as the average human...... You can just as easily be a narc and not know it, thats how being a narc works....

​@@rppope1006facts

💯💯💯💯💯💯RS

@@jacobus57…that’s reconciliation, its different. Forgiveness isn’t transactional at all. From God, it is freely given through Christ, when we do it, it is with humility and to imitate Christ….and it usually takes a lot of blood, sweat and tears.

Agreed.

It’s so hard not to get emotional & frustrated then in* anger etc you yell out everything you’ve been planning then said plan is ruined & you have to start all over & try even harder

Karen Rollins: I agree! And people after you leave, Never look back entails NOT calling them, STAY AWAY!!!! Many blessings to you🙏

Yep

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Thank you so much! Yeah having a child definitely makes things harder and more complicated. I’ll never regret having my daughter as she is my entire world. But I never recommend having a child wish this type of person.

so you do have a narc husband? leave!!!

I did! Thanks!@@gamigam2718

@@gamigam2718it's not your place to tell someone to leave a relationship.

You describe it so accurately. You definitely aren’t alone. There are so many in these situations or healing from them. You will get there in time, just keep moving forward and never look back. Wishing you the best.

​@@itsjust_deannaThank you so much for giving me strength throughout your story. You are a wonderful human being that didn't let her terrible experiences overshadow everything awesome you had inside. I will try my best to use my own trauma to become the best version of myself too. Wish you and your daughter the best, you deserve it ❤❤

I just away from mine, same situation. All my teens and early 20s. She’s a soulless monster

I was privately adopted. Records sealed. Decades later my mother said if I was a boy, the doctor would keep me, if a girl, he'd give me to them.

This 👏 there is something deeply wrong with this system.

Amen

​@@christonpo2336 yeah MONEY!!! ALL FOR THE MONEY!!!!!

Couldn’t agree more 🙌🏽

Omg, that is so beautiful! Will you please marry me?

@kyliebaby1391 Before reading your comment I was going to write something similar; then I said nope; Your comment/words are the most beautiful..and poignant. I hope Deanna reads your comment.

You don't know her. You watched an hour of a story that she told you only her side of.

@@grottoserpentina9342 they came to mind watching her. She could be so angry at the world but instead shows her beauty.

@@hitzoneproductions7858 I’m sorry was there a video with all the ppl who abandoned and abused her? I must’ve missed it. I’d almost think this channel was for us to take a glimpse into someone’s life. It’s easy to show outward beauty but hard to come across as authentic when your faking internal beauty. I stand by my initial thought and if I’m wrong I’ve hurt nobody. Here’s a hug you obviously need it 🤗

Thank you! Sending you lots of hugs as well ❤

I’m sorry you ever had to deal with anyone like that. You are smart because you got away and now you know what to look out for. ❤

I really hate when a person tells me I lack common sense it's really the deepest dig

Facts... because it's NOT just the narcissist... the system continues to re-victimize those of us who have already endured more than what most would imagine is "too much". Hence suicide uptick which isn't just about the biased idea of "mental issues" or "addiction". Victims of narcs don't inherently have mental issues. Crazy world... but I love this channel because it SHOWS from personal accounts, the veracity of variables.

You're absolutely right. I ended a 5 yr relationship with a narcissist and moved back to my home town. He had never met most of my family so he couldn't find me. I haven't dated since. It's been 9 years.

That's the truth, you're lucky if we can even explain everything we have went through etc she did an amazing job but her story is barely even half of it you're absolutely right

True

So very true

That’s what I tell everyone now. Never let them know your plans.

That's what my mother had to do and my cousin's mom

Thank you so much for listening to my story and for your kind words ♥️😊

I like how you worded that. I cannot type what I think because I am very empathetic for adoptive children although I am not. Good job. 😂❤

I’m sorry you experienced that too.

Professor Sam Vaknin breaks it down very well.

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Amen! My ex wife did massive damage to my mental state and I’m still working on putting the pieces together. The scars she left behind will last a lifetime. It’s difficult to imagine you’d ever be in that place until you’re in it. Then you wonder how you got there.

Thank you for that statement... I was married to a narcissist for 10 years. It was hard, and still is.

I’m trying to 🙏🏼

​​@@itsjust_deanna nothing in this world is going to stop you. I'm sorry about so many things. I hope one day you get to know the true Christ. A toxic church can be very destructive and a good one can be very healing. You are so intelligent and beautiful. I hope one day you can use these horror stories to help others heal. Thank you for sharing.

You can do this your so beautiful and God has a plan for you

It's hard

​@@itsjust_deanna ❤❤❤

This is exactly why I wanted to share. I want people who are going through similar things to know there is hope and you can make it out. Stay strong and keep going 🙏🏼♥️✨

Yesss same!!! ❤❤❤

Thank you I appreciate it so much 🙏🏼❤️

I appreciate your kindness 💖

Melania Trump?

I dated a narcissist when I was 18-21back in the 90's. I was very naive and also low self-esteem. He was handsome, outgoing, told me I was pretty, etc... but he was very possessive, took my virginity, played games, always accused me of lying (when he was the liar), threatened to commit suicide if I left him, hired people to watch me, etc... He made me believe that his happiness was wrapped up in me. I was able to get out of the relationship finally when some friends did an intervention. It's a miracle that he didn't show up with a gun to kill me because he was capable, I shudder to realize. I was so naive. My friend took me for group counseling at the battered woman's shelter. That's how I began to heal from it because I was learning that this is not all that uncommon for people to suffer from abuse in relationships.

@@HeedGodsWord thank God you got out! Best of luck to you. I really hope you can finally find some peace and contentment now that you are free. Just keep going, keep believing in yourself and never give up on yourself. Try to remember the manipulative ploys that were used to gain favor and get things, whatever it was that he took from you. Whatever it was, you can get it back and more. Take care of yourself. First. 💛🥀💜

@@teressamckinnie6878 Aw, thank you for your kind words! That is so true that I should not forget the manipulative ploys because I have encountered it a few times in people and my red flags go up. Thank the Lord, because I am very happy to say that I have found healing in Jesus Christ. Took me 20 years to finally surrender to the gospel that saves. I never knew I was lost until the Lord convicted me by His word and He delivered me....I mean, He really delivered me from all the junk I was carrying for years that cost me a divorce and never having kids. Now, I have a godly husband who knows he has to answer to God for how he treats me. (And the same for me too!) God's been very good to me. You seem wise, I bet you've experienced a few things. Take care!

So are 100% right!

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Narcissist = a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. I guess I’m an narcissist. This word is used by bitter women who couldn’t control an man

@@johnpeters1053 That’s exactly what a narcissist would say. Congrats on exposing yourself 😘

@@itsjust_deanna 🤣😂😂🤣😂 Exactly

Everything you said made so much sense! You are so right and I was always so confused and felt crazy. I didn’t understand how this person was so nice and charming to others. But treated me horribly in public. How he could provide us with a nice lifestyle, gifts and vacations. But cheated, lied and destroyed my self esteem constantly. It wasn’t until I learned about narcissists and heard other people’s stories that it finally all made sense. Now I want to pay it forward and help others too. Thank you so much for your insightful response. ❤

This is soo true. I have spent the last few years of my life OBSESSIVELY researching narcissism, sociopathy and psychopathy, in a desperate attempt to understand what was done to me. To say I have an online PhD would be an UNDERSTATEMENT🙌 I could be a substitute for Dr Ramani at this point😂

Been there. Just coming out of it….

This is so true thank you for sharing that ❤️

Being with a narcissist is like dating identical twins. You never know which twin you are dating at any given moment,the good one or the evil one.

Thank you so incredibly much for those kind words 🙏🏼✨♥️

I couldn’t agree more.

Was your abusive ex partner formally diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder? Or are you just making this up?

@@rv706 Are you speaking to me or the person who left the original comment?

​@@rv706noone gets formally diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder unless they seek out therapy themselves AND their narcissism is objectively ruining their own lives (that they can't keep a job, they mess up their finances, they're unable to sustain relationships with other people etc). Most narcissists will never admit to being "the problem", as being unable to even think of that as a genuine possibility is part of the diagnose. They will not seek help for their own sake. They will only use therapy as a weapon against their "loved ones" if they ever decide to go. They will also easily manipulate psychologists who are not specifically trained to spot narcissistic traits and spot narcissistic abuser-victim dynamics in couple's therapy. Check out Dr Ramani on youtube if you'd like to learn more about narcissism from a clinical point of view.

Right 😔

Thank you. Most importantly I’ve learned there is so much more than that. ❤

@@itsjust_deanna Absolutely there is, your inner strength is the most beautiful thing about you, it shines through and makes your surroundings lighter. Congratulations for getting yourself through everything, it sure wasn't easy.

@@monysugardogs8959 Thank you 🙏🏼

Everybody tells me this too, but I disagree. That's what men like that do. They always pick the most beautiful, strong, intelligent, creative, and talented, good hearted women. That's their specialty. And they play mind games, gaslight, and twist all we say because they can't communicate, and tell us we're the problem. It's all our fault. They hate our whole family and we're just like them but they only love us. I never was taught that people can and will do this to people they"love". Nobody taught me, that the one person you trust me than anyone else, and are supposed to be protected by could do things like that. Now I know the truth. And you can only recognize these things in others if you've been through it all yourself. I hate this world, not just because of the greed, the hate, and the broken systems. It's because for some reason, a person can be screaming at the top of their lungs in a crowded place and nobody cares to help. They only point, laugh, and judge, and join in with the abusers. Treat us like we're crazy. And he always used the word, "dillusional", which was not in my vocabulary. Now I know, the only people that do have that word in theirs and use it, are the type that traits attention from themselves, and then it to others. 😢 There are famous women this happens to also. Sharon stone. Shania twain. Sandra bullock. And they also cheat and bring stuff back to us, when we're being loyal and not cheating. 😢 it's the hardest thing to keep yourself, I'm but a shell now. Just because the outside is gorgeous, doesn't mean we're not tainted. Please remember this. ❤❤❤

@@WillBlindYouWithLight I completely get what you are saying. It’s all so true especially the part about people watching instead of helping. That’s why I keep speaking out about all this. I want people to be aware of what is going on and how deeply it affects people. The more educated people are the more they are willing to help. Unless they are part of the problem too of course.

Thank you so much, I’m glad you are as well 🙏🏼

Thank you so much for sharing and your kind words . I’m sending you so much love and continued healing ♥️🙏🏼

@@itsjust_deanna right back atcha! 💖😊🙏

Absolutely spot on

💯% and she seems like a beautiful person who's been through some of the ugliest things.

I've been there and I think her brain was pretty much scrambled. I left after being in her situation. I got through it by hanging out with positive people and watching comedy. I filled my time with laughter. I still don't date because a narcissist will never stop

I had an affair w/ someone I believe to be narcissistic. I feel for you just as I felt for his wife. He made me feel like we had a special connection but really when push came to shove he wasn’t going to leave his wife. I feel u r that wife and I am not in competition or envious of u. I pray from both of u to grow…. To know when people r loving u in a possessive way vs a unconditional way. And for the narcissist, to know the difference between attention and true love.

This is so key!

She is seriously so gorgeous

Same, this is one of the stories that hit every single one of my traumas, raised by narcissists, married a sociopath, divorced and now I’m married with a beautiful family, a peaceful home, a college education and a job I love. Going back to school too for a doctorate’s since it’s always been a dream of mine.

@@Lowdermoomoo I’m very happy for you. Congratulations, honey. ❤

Isn’t it…

It seriously is. I hear you about marrying a sociopath

Thank you so incredibly much ❤🙏🏼✨

Thank you so much ♥️🙏🏼

@@itsjust_deanna Wow...that is extremely thoughtful. I sent you an email

Can people just have traits of narcissism? Sometimes it rubs off from The narcissist who is in your life. That's what happened to me! It took a long time to heal however, I did pick up a lot of his narcissistic traits and I have to be very mindful because that's not who I am.

@@winros Absolute everyone can have narcissistic traits. But the difference is that a true narcissist has almost all the traits and it’s the core of who they are.

@@itsjust_deanna Thank you! ✌🏼

@@winros everyone can have symptoms of most disorders, but for a diagnosis, the person has to have a certain number of symptoms/criteria that the DSM-V lists. Also, what most don't know is that cluster B personality disorders, like npd, are usually a trauma response from childhood and sometimes is treatable. The therapist, though, almost always has to be very skilled in DBT before progress can be made

If not you will never be able to move forward.

This made me cry when she said it but it’s so hard

For me that seems impossible. But the older I get, the more this statement is true

Easier said than done 👍

@@maryelyearick7572 For sure.

Thank you so much for taking the time to listen to my story. The thing I have found is that everyone who has dealt with a narcissist can relate because they all act exactly the same. I hope you are in a place of healed happiness today ❤🙏🏼

Some of us are DA’s stay isolated and away from the risk of being a magnet

Everything you said is 100% true. It’s clear you have experience dealing with a true narcissist. People throw that term around so much that it’s lost all meaning. But you know what the real deal is like. So we can spread the word and warn others what to look for. Thank you so much for commenting 🙏🏼♥️

@@itsjust_deanna Unfortunately eh🫤. You are right, that word gets thrown around and watered down so much to where it takes the true meaning out of the word. Narcissism is an art. I did not grow up the way you did, but there were DEFINITELY similarities such as the put downs which contributed to an extreme lack of self respect and confidence. I say true narcissism is an art because it is not by mistake that they find people like that. They can point them out in a crowd and they prey on them! They never search for those who have strong foundations. They are like energy vampires. The only way they get their strength is to siphon it from the weak. For example, they may lack self confidence. Instead of doing the necessary steps to build it by working on themselves, oddly the quick fix is to damage someone else’s, then compare. A narcissist’s thinking afterwards-“See, I have self-confidence issues, but they really have issues, so that means nothing is wrong with me because I’m doing better than them.” The constant need to compare and compete is wild. No one is above competition. Immediately they get a boost. It’s an instant fix! They need you to always feel needed, because truthfully they need others/ you. That’s the only way they can cope with what is going on inside themselves. Then there is isolation. They isolate you from every facet of their lives because you know the real them, NOT THE CRAP THEY HAVE TOLD OTHERS AROUND THEM. They’ll make you feel unworthy around their friends or whoever, or make up a reason of why you don’t need to be around. Truthfully, you will put a hole in every lie they have told. They siphon what they need from you, charge themselves up, then deal with the world outside. Let me make clear for those on what punishment is. It isn’t physical at first. The physical only comes as an intimidation when you corner them and they can’t run from the truth. They study you to see what you like first. Say you love talking to them on the phone. If you don’t do what is asked, they don’t answer or call your for days. Another example, say there is somewhere you always wanted to visit and you’ve made preparations to go together. If they are upset with you, they’ll still go. They just choose someone else to go with and brag about it to you…. Later on when you do something right, they’ll take you. It makes you believe that they aren’t that bad or that nothing is wrong because they still did something nice for you, but the rationale behind it is, I MADE THEM MAD or I’M THE PROBLEM because if they were truly bad they wouldn’t have taken me. Same for the phone calls. Once they do call, it’s excessive, so you develop the same rationale. The only way I can describe it is as an in-house human pet.

Tell me about it its absolute madness 😫

Currently there are no issues because I haven't started dating and trying to heal first. But I know once I do start dating it's gonna go downhill

But you CHOSE your partner!

@@PardonMyPresence maybe look up info on narcissists

@@ms.drenay621It always takes 2. You should look up vulnerable narcissists as well.

Me too 😂

OMG girl yes, she said they lived on a lake too. Seems like they were in a better situation. “Mama, save me”.

no but same! lol! Deanna is such a sweetheart! Thinking of everyone but herself!

😂 Right! And I’m bringing ALL the receipts too 😤….TF lol

Thank you so much ♥️

The most important thing is that you recognize it. Seek therapy, work on being better. You can do it 🙏🏼

Being aware is a great start and admitting it even on here is good too. My mother was a covert… she didn’t know what had her so f’d up. If I were you I’d go and get delivered at church… it’s the demon Jezebel. It’s demons that are controlling your body and your God given soul is pushed down so they can live the way they want to. My mother couldn’t handle what I was saying about it she will herself to die. 2 weeks later. I revealed things she did and didn’t realize I was able to put the story together. She definitely had a demon and she had been tormented many years. She was an orphan at 14yr had to sleep with men to survive, her 3 sisters joined a cult… lots of demonic influences. And soul ties. Get delivered baptized and read the Bible everyday all day. Good and evil can’t exist in the same body. ✝️🙏🏽 Mankind aka society doesn’t have the final say about something they didn’t create. Go to God he’s your owners manual!! Society belongs to Satan so of course they will say you can’t be healed. They have no clue about JESUS!

Therapy, maybe medication and don't get 8nto another relationship until you get better

Seek treatment and stay out of relationships

Mental healness is a self aware narcissist and has been in psychotherapy for 7 yrs. His name is Lee Hammock, and he's on youtube. He's doing well despite his disorder. Seek psychotherapy, it helps.

I would say GOD!!! Just like everyone no the difference between night and day! Just like Satan exist GOD does as well. He created everything and everyone. He has no beginning or ending. The Alpha and Omega. Jesus is coming soon.

it might be pessimistic, but tbh I think she's a narc. She shaped the story to avoid certain things you can infer she was doing. The same way she describes the husband and mother doing when talking to others. A key to me is looking from the daughter's perspective. Did she ever do what was best for her daughter? f no. Oh I'm staying with this abusive narc because of my daughter? Remember before the daughter was born she used a different excuse? She cares about her daughter in so far as it affects how she looks to other people. She wanted things from that relationship and didn't care if it affected someone else so long as she could make it appear she wasn't being selfish. Like any narcissist. So the answer I would guess is she's not such a nice person.. she is a narc, a product of other narcs, and unless she is self aware and counteracting that behavior she is as bad as any of them. The irony on narcissism is that narcs hate other narcs more than anything, and they completely miss the irony because everyone believes they're a good person. That's why there's so much evil in the world, all humans are innately blind to their own evil. Even if people claim to want to be good, how can they be.. as far as they know, they are.

Nah . Don’t bring a sky daddy into it

@@brwynn Daddy God has and continues to help me through so much. He got me to safety from a narcissist. A junkie who had physical abused me.

Because you don’t want to be anything like the son of a bitch who abused you. But in the end it screws you to be so empathetic and you have to learn a bit of the coldness that you’ve never wanted to be or have in your life again. And you honestly feel sorry for the miserable ppl who do this to you because you know they are sick. It’s a real weird dynamic. All you want to do is give & feel love that you never got.

Thank you 💖

I know, such a heartbreak of a story. I hope she finds happiness ❤ She is such a sweet person and gorgeous looks

same here, you are so strong and I hope that you stay with with people who make you happy 🥰🥰🥰

@@itsjust_deanna that moment when you mentioned not hurting your biological mom really hit home. I have a good relationship with my mom… and I would never want to be cause of her pain. Like her ended up with a narcissist and thought abuse was normal. To this day I just want to protect her and not let her know any hurt.

@@FlowerGrl20 No matter what we always get to protect those that we love ❤️

Thank you so very much. I love the life I have now and I’m grateful every single day ♥️🙏🏼

Thank you so incredibly much though ❤

This is the comment I was looking for. I agree. Love her

Nobody is perfect that’s the only thing i disagree with

Yes, she is very well read and seems very articulate in her speech to have not been educated. I see her parents hiding them inside to cover up the abuse...not wanting the kids to speak to anyone. I don't think it was "racism", or why adopt kids of other races? In this case it sounds like the boyfriend and his parents were the ones who were the racists..

Yes because if not they will make u react record keep track of your reactions and use it against u

Agreed

Thats how i left w 6$, i realized i dont need nothing just me alive for my son

❤

Don’t tell him that your daughter told you things.

Thank you so incredibly much ❤

Thank you! I agree and I celebrate them so much!

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Well said. 👍🏽💯💝🌹 Sadly, you only know this when you know the abuse yourself. For you to recognize the absolute beauty in this means you’ve probably experienced it yourself. You are probably a badass woman warrior too, Ruby.

She’s dressed like a soldier and she is a hero to her daughter.

Thank you 🙏🏼

Thank you so much for taking the time to listen to my story. I’m sorry for everything you have also endured. But I’m glad you were able to relate to my story. I think knowing you aren’t alone helps with healing too. That’s why I wanted to share my story. Sending you love ❤

Yup the right wing Christians are the real groomers despite them screaming that word at everyone else

Can you please explain how?

@@sweetcaroline7107 most times we marry people with similar characteristics (unconsciously) because it feels familiar & we grow comfortable with the feeling quickly

@@theshytshow2159 You hit the nail on the head. It wasn’t until I was out of it and looking back that I realized how normal the dysfunction was.

You put it perfectly. Her childhood did groom her to be abused. I have lived that life a thousand times and I still struggle. It’s the utter disbelief that your flesh and blood could be your biggest enemy and downfall. It’s a hard pill to swallow and a heavy load to bear.

It is! It’s a vicious cycle that will never end until we break it.

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On the same note its crazy how other people learn to be predators that pick out the vulnerable prey. And how they can be so evil

This needs to become a popular quote, and to end with something like "don't tell what trauma you've been through, they could use it to hurt you more"

I swear!!

Why cant i do it alone

I’m so glad you got out of it though. I hope you are able to heal and have love and happiness in your life ♥️🙏🏼✨

I hope Deanna's story can inspire you the way she inspires me. Stay strong.

DITT0 !!!!❤❤❤❤

Me too. I thought I'll check it out for few minutes but I watched her whole story.

Thank you 🙏🏼

Thank you for listening ♥️

I’m so glad you recognized how you were hurting people and made the decision to change. That’s not easy for a lot of people to do. You can’t change the things you did in the past. But you can continue to do better today and people will see how much you changed. Wishing you all the best ♥️🙏🏼

Thank you so much for your kind comment. Because I knew both my parents had substance abuse problems I always had a fear of becoming addicted myself. The odds of it happening are very high when you have addicted parents. So I always stayed away from substances.

my narcissistic husband blames my drug addiction for his behavior… I use BECAUSE of his behavior!! but a narcissist will never take accountability for their actions. my husband’s abuse has scarred me for life.

No lie

​@Deanna You were super smart to avoid substances, but I currently still struggle. I'm trapped, but planning my escape 🙏🏾

​@@ab7523 Same here, Sister! We will preservere! Please start working out a master plan & escape! It's what I'm doing

Hahahahahahahahahaahah you are so stupidly naive 😂

She is absolutely stunning! Serious natural beauty. The assholes in her life were most definitely jealous. 💯

Thank you so incredibly much. Wishing you all the best ♥️🙏🏼

You are so right. People don’t understand the toll it takes on your mental health. You stop trusting yourself because they make you feel like you aren’t seeing what you are seeing and experiencing what you know deep down you are. It takes so long to heal and find yourself again. I hope you are doing much better now. Thank you so much for the kind words 🙏🏼♥️

Thank you so, so much for your encouraging and kind comments. They are so appreciated and mean so much 🙏🏼

@@infinitejest.4994 Thank you so much. That’s one of the reasons I wanted to do this interview. When I discovered this channel and ones like it and heard other people’s stories I didn’t feel alone anymore either. I sometimes felt like I was the only one with a story like mine. But hearing from others who went through the same and made it out and are happy and healed inspired me so much. I wish you so much love and continued healing ❤️

Thank you! I love interacting with everyone and so many people have shared their stories with me as well ❤️

Or maybe shes a narcissist too

@@ismaelsantana4238Really, how so?

@itsjust_deanna since u asked I'd say your more of the vulnerable narcissist.

@@ismaelsantana4238No I asked how so. I am a complete stranger who you don’t know from a hole in the wall. So what evidence do you have to support such a claim?

Thank you so much for your kindness 🙏🏼♥️

Thank you so very much! We definitely are ♥️

Thank you ❤️

​@@itsjust_deanna I can relate to all this, in one way or the other.

@@itsjust_deanna your welcome 🙂 we loved it

Thank you so incredibly much. It takes a lot to build yourself up and break free, to be able to handle everything they will throw at you once they realize they are losing control of you. But it’s so worth it, to be so strong you do things you never imagined 🙌🏽❤✨

Congratulations on getting out and on the chance for a new and better life.

Wow I can’t imagined. I’m pleased with you I tend to substitute the word ‘proud’ with please bc of my faith. I’m happy for you tht you got out

why do you women choose men like that then? is it hard to just choose a guy who is nice? smh, always the same with women.. you admire k1llers as well. it's pathetic

At this point I hope he kills me, 9 police reports with photos, tro and all and it still won’t end. I’m tired. My heart sings for your happy ending.

​@@hollig9963 Im sorry to hear that, don't you have someone you can reach out to? Move somewhere else or such... what is stopping you from leaving? if police doesn't do anything, contact organizations that work with such cases, as well as churches or politicans - so they may give you shelter or help. No man should act like that towards their partner.. or don't you have those type of organization in US?

I think its unfortunately both. Lackluster foster parents are accepted at this point because our society has gone through such moral decay, more and more (women especially, which is sick) are caring less and less about babies and children..Which creates broken adults who bave no good coping skills. So, we end up with a world full of instant gratification wrapped addiction just trying to feel better at all! If you didnt have abuse, you cant truly understand why someone would throw obvious warning bells out the window just to have a break from your head.. This is how we create addicts, abusers, murderers....Its infrastructure gets built between 0-5 yrs, then crafted through the rest of adolescence...Its a moral and family unit issue. But look... We've pissed on the truth and value of family unit roles and angrily ripped God from everything. Its pretty clear what the problem is. But, have we become too selfish to change it?

@itsfreshitsanne I completely agree. My brother and I were adopted and we were the very lucky few who got a great home and loving parents. It breaks my heart others weren't given this opportunity, but its due to many factors including what you stated. I hope to one day adopt children and give them all the home they deserve.

Correct. I was in foster care back in the 70s, and my foster father always had his hand down my pants...

I work in social services. Social workers are overwhelmed, there isn’t adequate funding, many of the people drawn to fostering and adoption have ulterior motives, and the few people that really care for the wellbeing of the children are quickly burned out.

@Alexis H I believe it...there needs to be a fully funded system with extremely high oversight. It can happen if you have the right people in place...

Thank you, I truly appreciate the kindness and encouragement ♥️🙏🏼

Thank you so incredibly much! I hope you also know how much more you deserve and have happiness and love in your life ♥️🙏🏼

Thank you so much for those beautiful words. They mean so incredibly much 🙏🏼♥️

Thank you 🙏🏼 ❤

❤❤❤❤

/Marcus

​@itsjust_deanna What a beautiful woman you are! Don't listen to the lies that have followed you. You are a beautiful, amazing, creative and imaginative soul and you are worth it. I am so glad that Jesus made you. Keep living one day at a time❤

Same, we even look alike

For myself it was emotional neglect. Took me a long time to understand td and parental rejection sets you up to meeting narcissistic people.

True. I did this myself

You are so right!! People don’t realize how damaging it is to people who are already in such a bad place mentally.

Thank you I appreciate the kind words 🙏🏼

Thank you so much! ❤

You like what you like..may god give you a man you can handle.

Sending ❤

What is the 1 thing you can suggest to stop attracting narcissistic men to me?

​@@vt1764 I've dated narcissists and they often manipulate you into thinking they are "nice" guys . I've even had them put me in a pedestal. Read about the characteristics and when you see the first red flag ....run . They tend to run after you and stalk but just keep running and get a restraining order if need be .

@VT, learn to love yourself. I believe this is key. We may be magnets to this disordered kind, due to being raised by them. But you will no longer fall prey to these predators once you begin to have boundaries, and self love and respect the minute they try to cross your boundaries or disrespect you. Another thing I’ve learned to do is, watch and see if a persons actions match their words. If not, that’s enough for me to move on.

Thank you so much for your kind words ♥️🙏🏼✨

I’m so sorry you also experienced this. I hope you are at a place of happiness and healing now.

I hope things are going good for you. you deserve it. get yours.

I so get that. Both my bio parents are dead and there's not a day that oes by that I actually miss their presence. I was abused, gaslit and conditioned into constantly trying to connect to them and tolerating their spirit crushing abuse until the day they died. It took years after their deaths to even begin the "deprogramming" stage of life and start to see them in their truth... a process that is excruciatingly painful to go through. Imo, there's no shame at not feeling sad, and even feeling legit happy, when an abusive parent (finally) dies.

@@movingonandup322I felt every bit of this in my soul. I’m so sorry for what you must have endured. I wish I could give you a hug ❤

@@itsjust_deanna Awwwww... thank you so much Deanna! That means the world to me. If what I posted resonated with you due to your own abuse and/or neglect, then I am sorry for what you have gone through as well. In any event though, big virtual hugs to you Deanna and thanks again for your loving and supportive post to me!💗💟😊

Thank you. I just wanted to share so I can help bring awareness about these things.

​@@itsjust_deannayou did a great job. Very relatable

@@lisapizza6494 Thank you ❤️

@Broski Snowski how do you tell

@@janiahhill7758 Brosick Sosick is Trolling, just ignore him.

Thank you so incredibly much! So do you ❤

Even as a man, it can be so damaging. Worst experience I have ever been through.

Thank you so very much ♥️

SOOOOO DEEP 😢UGH

this is so true and my reality 😞right now 😊

@@cupcakesimbamoyo ❤❤❤

True facts

That’s what people don’t understand. That’s why it’s so damaging when people victim blame or say Why didn’t you just leave? To domestic violence victims and survivors.

So many of us share the same story. I hope you are happy and healed today ❤✨🙏🏼

Same

It was the first time for me to hear someone else's experiences so hurtfully relatable to my own

Thank you so incredibly much! I definitely discovered who I truly am much later in life than most people. But I’m proud of who I am today, what I’ve learned, overcome and how I can use those experiences to help others 🙏🏼

Thank you so much for sharing this. It’s all so relatable. You truly feel like you are crazy at times. I have the same regret of not protecting my child more. But all that matters is that we are no longer in those relationships and we have better lives and relationships with our children. I hope you continue to grow and be happy 🙏🏼♥️

Thank you so much ❤

Absolutely! I was thinking the same. Such a beautiful and resilient lady.

Wow she is in her 40’s!?? I thought she was 27. Genetics no matter the race always plays a factor. And not living a fast life. Eating right and going to bed at a decent hr. You’re beautiful Deanna!!! I hate that you had to endure a lot of this. Or any child for this matter.

​@DeAnna omg! Your story is so riveting, sad, and brave. I pray for continued strength amd confidence.

Yeah I thought she was 25 too! She’s my age!

Thank you so much! I think I’ve become an expert on their behavior now. That’s why I want to speak out so that people know they aren’t alone and aren’t crazy. Listening to other survivor’s stories helped me immensely and now I want to to my part to help 🙏🏼

The way you describe your mom is exactly how my wife's behavior is. I've tried hard to protect my kids. Very hard to leave a person

EXACTLY! I went thru lots of the same with my EX. All I can say is THANK GOD he's dead! Yep, I found out he O.D'd/Suicide about 4 years ago. He was up on charges for another DUI and had struck his elderly mother (he was mad because she wouldn't give him money and multiple witnesses saw he do it) so he was up on charges for Elder Abuse. He can't stalk me any more!

I just finished watching your interview. I don't know how I ended up with a narcissistic husband the first time around, because I grew up with parents who treated me VERY well! They were so proud of me, and let me know how precious I was to them; that they loved me dearly, (despite the fact that initially, my mother wanted to abort me. I was "Oops baby" #3). I didn't know what a Narcissist was, but I knew I was in a mostly miserable marriage. I was emotionally and verbally abused for over 20 years. I didn't even know I was being abused, because the abuse was insidious and covert. My self esteem dwindled down to very little over the years but it's back, and I'm re-married to a man who values me, treats me right and is NOT a Narccissist ~:0). I didn't have to deal with my husband having multiple affairs, but I dealt with his jealousy, manipulation, and insecurities. I lost myself as I was guilted into giving up friends, activities and jobs that I loved. Then one day a parent of a child that I cared for gave me the book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship, written by Christian Author, Patricia Evans. We seemed to be on every page! Thank you for sharing your story. I want EVERY young girl/woman to watch it and learn from it. Narcissism and abuse should be discussed in schools, starting at the Middle School Level. And in regards to your childhood, SHAME on Social Services for allowing those so called, "Parents" of your's to adopt at all! They didn't deserve you, nor your siblings. Your daughter is blessed to have you for her Mama. And your boyfriend is blessed to have you for his companion. I pray you get to enjoy the rest of your life and that you NEVER end up in a similar situation again!

Thank you! Your kind words of encouragement mean more than you know ♥️

​@@itsjust_deanna Thank you for inspiring me as I walk the road back to myself. When you said how many times it takes a woman to leave a narcissist on average, I felt that deep in my gut, there aren't any stats for men but I don't know how many times I tried to leave. If you listen for even 1 second, they've got you again. I'm so happy you found support and love and that you got to have a loving parental relationship with your child.