It's because our hair is exotic.

Sometimes they're just mad you have the audacity to wear your hair. They don't even want it, but they can't understand why you do. I had a preteen biracial ask me, "You really like wearing your hair like that?" When she found out I was going to cut my afro, she was so excited. I was indecisive for a few months, and she would be disappointed when I'd come back to visit and still had my fro. When I finally did get my low cut...Chile the disturbingly, relieved, smile that crept across her face 👀

When a whole group of women assimilates (forced or otherwise) to your aesthetic, I imagine it inflates one's ego. You can say "I'm the best in the world. Everyone loves me or wants to look like me" what a jarring experience when that same assimilating group starts to say, actually no, I love my look the best in the world, and that look happens to be something that cannot be duplicated and is the antithesis of the status quo. So many people's ego boosts are predicated on deflating or keeping in check blk women's self worth/esteem.

Has anyone ever had non Black women start playing and tossling their hair when you are around? I have gotten the masculina comment when Im minding my business, nothing masculine about me..they feel intimidated and want to humble you.

I’m a black American woman who has always wore my natural 4C hair texture. My inspiration was taken from watching 1970s black American culture. I loved the femininity, grace, and beauty of black American women in that era especially the natural 4C Afro.

I believe there is jealousy towards black women who wear their natural texture hair because they stand out compared to other races of women. Sonia Barbie Tucker truly radiates exoticness, femininity, grace, elegance, class, and pride with her natural textured afro. She is the woman who encouraged me to embrace my natural beauty. There is an earthy and ethnic beauty that radiates when a black woman wears her natural hair. 🖤

Our natural hair is a connection to nature

I have long thick 4a natural hair and I dealt with a lot of nice nasty hair stylists in the past. They will make comments about my hair being too long, too thick, and blamed me because it took them a long time to do my hair. They would often overcharge me as well. They would also cut a lot more than what I asked for off. I also had a really bad experience with a stylist earlier this year where she not only talked bad about about my hair being too long and thick, she braided my hair too tight to the point that I was in pain and couldn’t even sleep at night. I was getting faux locs but she put my real hair in cornrows before attaching the faux locs to my hair. I took the style down and some of my hair came out. It wasn’t a lot but I literally cried when I saw that some of my hair came out after a DAY of wearing faux locs. Fortunately I started going to my sister in law to do my faux locs, twists, and braids. I wash, detangle, and trim my own hair now. I can do plaits which is what I do to my hair after I wash it but I can’t do other braid hair styles so that’s why I go to my sister in law. I also came across nice nasty strangers and ex friends who would ask me if my hair was real or if it was a wig. I have also been denied jobs in the past for wearing my natural hair. When I first did my big chop, I got nothing but nasty comments of people comparing me to Side Show Bob and calling me “ bald headed “. I was literally bullied when my hair was a TWA and I use to get a lot of stares and people would laugh at me with their friends. That motivated me to grow my long hair and now I just get nice nasty comments. I still get stares now after I grew my hair long and often times I’m the only one rocking my natural hair when I walk into a room.

When I'm around other American Black women who usually wear weave, false eyelashes, and chemical covered nails, they never make any comments about me wearing my natural hair in twists up in my natural hair protective style. So I continue to wear my natural hair, make DIY hair care products, and wash, dry, and set my own hair without giving a damn who likes or dislikes me for embracing how the Natural Organic Divine Source Creator and Mother Earth created me.

The naysayers will realize one day that weaves,braids ,wigs, and perms will be their detriment!

Girl, no matter I’m gonna show up and shine in my natural hair that’s in my DNA..look or not look, compliment or not, I really don’t care. I love complimenting my beautiful sisters rocking their natural hair. Walk in confidence with any style you wanna rock. Keep your head held high and embrace your crown. Enjoy the journey.

Blk American n proud to rock my 4c I can careless about these haters . Y’all cannot ever shame me with god blessed me with a head full of super thick king 4c hair .

Hairstylists are the worst. Like you said go to a stylist who knows what they are doing. Also long thick hair is very enviable. Regardless of texture.

I am a Black woman. I am everything.

19 years old here. I stopped wearing weaves in 11th grade. I wear my hair in an afro basically everyday if not then it's twist. Tell me why every now and then at my job I have mostly foreign African black women who have in weaves majority of tims coming up to me saying "oh you wear hair natural, yknow I can do braids, lace fronts, crotchet, etc" or when I keep my twist in for a long time and it gets into the dreading phase (which I personally love) some older black women come up to me saying stuff like "Oh don't dread up that pretty hair". It's really disgusting tbh, I guess to them wearing my hair natural means I can't afford or find anybody to put a weave in it and if I want my hair to look like locs it's my business.

My puff is HUGE AND BEAUTIFUL. I don't like when certain people touch it. Don't let me straighten it ...they think that I'm a sucka! Til I open my mouth. I rocks ruff and stuff with my afro puff. Straight up 😶

In my city they want you bald. I stopped letting anyone touch my hair here. " I have to cut your hair or else I cant do it" Me:🖕🏾

I have small size locs that I have been taking care of for 5 years 5 months now I started with ear length hair now my locs are armpit length & still growing I get stares some ask if my hair is real I guess because I am Carmel brown skin tone I’m not supposed to have long hair it is ridiculous

I remember 2004 to 2006, in Seattle at a Black church I faced bullying from our pastor wife the first Lady. She was light skinned and wore perms and sow in weaves with occasional wigs. During those years I was wearing short dreads in a bob,, two or 4 inch afro that I pinned into a French roll. It was a women's night service and the first lady was preaching in the pulpit talking about. She made remarks like , " some of you all wo dwr why you haven't met you husband yet. You need to do something with your hair. I'd you can't afford to get a perm from the salon go buy a box perm" I was like what is going on. She talking about me. It was not an issue of money, but I wanted healthy natural and to preserve it. I had 2 grandmother's both lived beyond 90 years one never permed her hair. The other permed her hair and heat pressed it too. The one with no perm ever but pressed it for occasion She had hair . The other grandmother who used excessive heat and chemicals did not have any hair on top. I didn't want to be bald in the top in the age of 40's from relaxing hair. I stop perms in 2002. Thank Jesus I been 20 plus years without a perm

The woman in the visuals of this video are BEAUTIFUL 😍

I can definitely relate to the people constantly accusing you of having weave. Women typically know but black men and nonblack people constantly be trying me lol. I don’t know if it’s envy but people definitely don’t expect black darker skinned women to have long hair.

Okay they say natural hair is childish but usually when a woman wears her natural hair she tends to look younger, like if you always wear wigs and stuff you tend to look older than your actual age

My own mother spent the first 3-4 years (I went natural in 2013) of me being natural calling it ugly, messy and ghetto in order to bully me back into the creamy crack. My mom suffers from self hate and absolutely hates being a dark skin black woman (which I understand because people around her made her feel ugly by bullying her due to her features. It took her to stop using relaxers due to major hair loss for me to have peace about my hair. Most of the time when I wear my natural hair out, women tend to glare at me, no matter the race. Natural hair jealousy is definitely real

Trying to humble black women by downgrading our hair will never work. Our hair is definitely our antenna/connection to spirit. As Halle Bailey said in her song “Heaven wears your halo. They know you’re an Angel.” 🤎

I learned how to do my own 4c hair and it has saved me money!!!!

Yep. Don’t go to hair stylists with dry heads. They will cut all your hair off.

My hair is better. My puff is huge huge and my hair is longer than most of these white girls in my area. I like my hair more than rhan i like most people

On natural hair being “childish”… My hair is so “childish” that when I am out and about with my 23 year old son, I’m mistaken for being his sister rather than his mom. Considering that I am in my 50’s, I’ll keep on trekking with my “childish” natural hair because it’s doing me right, as far as I’m concerned, if I’m mistaken as being decades younger than I actually am on the regular. 👍 I do believe the youthful look that natural hair is giving is a source of jealousy both in and outside the Black community. For those inside the Black community it’s their unwillingness to explore natural hair for themselves or to explore the versatility of natural hairstyles on their own hair. So they get mad when they see another naturalista sista pulling it off. For those outside the Black community, jealousy of standing side-by-side with another of a different race who is the same age but the Black person looks decades younger has always been something that can and does happen. It can happen the other way around, there are always exceptions. But more often than not, it doesn’t happen the other way around 🤷‍♀️

Thank you for your bold commentary & what a great channel! Today my natural hair is in menopause but making a comeback. When I was working, I had a black woman urge me to straighten my hair for a promotion! I didn't get the job, but I kept my pride, dignity & afro!

Yesss! I recently began wearing my long, type 4 hair out again and I feel the most beautiful and confident with my own hair. I think this says a lot because I feel beautiful and confident most of the time, regardless of how I wear my hair (I thank my upbringing and family for this) 😂😂 I do think our hair can easily make those close to us a bit jealous. Our hair is an attention grabber, and if you’re around people who crave attention… you know the rest. It’s all good though. Just don’t let anyone dim your light, because they will try. ✨

When I did the big chop in the early 2000s, I was surprised at how many black beauticians said they didn't do natural hair. Many just didn't want to switch over. I, now, see more and more naturals and I think it's due to seeing these natural styles more on tv. Truth is, what is often shown in the media is what people gravitate towards.

Since going on a hair health-and-length journey in 2016, my hair is now a little past hip length. I do not normally wear my hair straightened. The last time I got a silk press was in 2020 and I was at tailbone length at the time. I got a LOT of hateful looks with my long straightened hair from white and other non-Black women. In my experience, long hair on a Black woman, especially if it is also dense, shiny, and healthy looking, PISSES them off! In their minds, long hair is *just for them,* not for US. They hate seeing us with long hair, but they are perfectly happy seeing us in wigs and weaves. I wear my natural hair in plaits under a head wrap most of the time. Every now and then I will wear it in two “Indian” braids hanging down and sometimes I pin the braids up. I will get mean stares from white women and other non-Black women then too. Whether my hair is straightened or in its natural state, they HATE seeing very long hair on a Black woman. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Yess! That's right, you better tell em' ! Get some sunglasses bc we're SHINING over here!!

African girl here, I started my hair journey last year July 1 and it’s been one year. My Afro has gotten bigger!!!? 😊😊❤ I was shocked when I saw my Afro.

I been knew there was jealousy of long, type 4 hair.

I love this community. In the age of technological advancement it is great to see black women utilizing the resources and tools to promote our image and representation.

Since 2020…..I retired……No more Relaxed hair,…..so liberating,……I love it I wear it in twisted Style,,,..it is growing,,,.and I’m loving it,…..and yes it is Growing,….,❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Y’all this is real because I wore my hair out a lot during school and my “friends” would say the most questionable things like why do you keep wearing your hair like that, or even this other girl said your hair kind looks bad.. and YALL MY HAIR DOES NOT WVEN LOOK BAD it’s beautiful curly hair don’t ever think your natural hair is ugly yall

That’s right!! Exposure is also sharing information!❤❤❤💯💯🥰🥰

I used to hate my natural hair I wanted to have straight hair so bad now I love my hair I love myself I feel like people want to keep us down including some of our family because they can't Embrace what they truly are everybody wants to be black but they can't and that's okay they should just love themselves for who they are hating us it's not okay and trying to put us down for what we are and who we are doesn't change who they are and in fact it makes it worse for them

Love this video. Very true.

Thanks for this video. Our hair issues need to be in our talks all the time.❤❤

Keep shining bright! 😎

Thank You,😍 Coffee Cuties With Blessings Overflowing.

I had a jealous stylist burn my hair on purpose. Killed my curl pattern.

Love the video. Such beautiful images.

I agree with you 💯💯

Beautiful ‼️🙌🏽🙏🏽💜

Absolutely love this video.🤎

Hi I'm new to your channel but I'm glad to hear you talk about this topic I had a experience just the other day I was out running errands I had just done my hair in a twist out it😊 was full and fluffy and difined yt women walk past me look at my hair i glanced back and caught patting and running her fingers through her hair it was clear to see she was insecure after she saw my hair i love showing off my hair so theres not many natural women where i live so alot of people are shocked to see me with long natural hair

Quite frankly, people aren't jealous of short type 4 hair, only when it's big and/or long.

The woman who said white and asian women come up to her and ask if her hair is real. I cannot help but laugh. They probably are genuinely concerned but it comes off as funny.

Coffee Cutie, I absolutely love and adore your community even though I consider myself to be a healthy divested black American woman. See my image uplifted brings me joy, peace, and happiness.

Another excellent video

My friend said I’m fake when I wore my big puffy ponytail after taking my wig install out??? Confused me.

I feel like bc im a light skinned alt black woman, the wildness of my semi free form locs is celebrated, but my dark skinned sisters and sisters with more african phenotypes don’t get such grace.

We are speaking of all black women,no matter what complexion, right? I hope so, because my family has a lot of skin colors. But I think I get the point.

Natural hair is only hard when ur trying to do other hair texture styles and methods. Do what ur hair can do.

No lies told in this video.

I stopped relaxing my hair two and a half years ago and started routinely trimming my ends. To put away the relaxing cremes and straighteners may have been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I finally am able to retain length compared to when I had relaxed hair. I’ve been told by my mother whose always done my hair that my hair is “too hard to manage now”

Omg YES! 😭15:20 - 15:39 Okay here’s my similar story on that. Last summer ago I had got my first sew in in the month of June to August and after that first time I realized when I washed my hair the front of my hair was longer and straight from the rest of my original hair texture and It was heat damage and then I have gotten a second sew in from last August to October I didn’t get that much heat damage and now recently I just took out my sew in and….I had more heat damaged so I just decided to stop getting sew ins, bc the tracks I had was called Empire and my hair wasn’t even matching with the tracks that’s why I was always putting heat everyday to blend in the tracks, but I also put heat protection on it but I guess that ain’t work so now I’m just gonna let it grow to its texture that is supposed to be. And I have a head full of hair as well and ppl was jealous of my hair especially other black girls when I was in school. Also I subscribe to your channel ✨🤎

Thank you love your content 💖💖💖💖💖💖

I can’t count how many times I’ve gotten dirty looks, stares and snarky remarks from black women about my hair. Even when it was straightened because it’s very thick and always has been long.

I have an unpopular opinion when it comes to the “Don’t touch my hair.” situation. When I was a kid, I wore a completely virgin Afro from 1970 to 1974. I grew up in racially diverse but predominantly white communities in Southern California. A Jewish family came to live with us for two years from 1970 to 1972. When we moved from Santa Monica to L.A., they came with us. The daughter was my friend and classmate. My mom’s best friend was another white woman married to a Mexican man and their four kids were the same age as my siblings and me (there are three of us). That family gave a lot of get-togethers and we spent a lot of time at their house. There were no Black people in their neighborhood and we were always the only Black people at their parties. One day, in about 1973, one of the daughters, who was my age, asked if she could touch my Afro. I said, “Sure.” and she commenced to squeezing my very dense, tightly-curled ‘fro. I don’t remember any adjectives she might have used to describe how my hair felt. I think she may have said it felt “neat” or “neat-o”, which we used to say back then. After that, her siblings took a turn caressing my hair. I knew even at that age that Afro-textured hair was often considered undesirable. But many Black people, mostly adults and boys, wore Afros. I refused to feel ashamed of my hair or apprehensive about anyone touching it or fearful of what they may say or think. I agree that people should ask permission to touch another person’s hair, regardless of ethnicity. But I don’t agree that someone’s desire to touch a Black person’s hair is always coming from a negative or judgmental place. I remember as a kid, little Black girls always wanting to play in white or Latino kids’ hair. If a Black, mixed, or bi-racial girl in the neighborhood or friend group was thought to have “good hair”, the other girls were constantly combing, braiding, and touching it. Why can’t we assume that maybe, just maybe, other ethnicities really do admire our hair, it’s look, it’s feel, and it’s texture? After all, when the Afro and Jheri curl were at their peaks, white people were running to the salon to get tightly-curled perms. Everyone from Barbara Streisand to the Brady Bunch dad was rocking a faux ‘fro. Look at these Asian kids today getting perms to make their hair kinky. There was a white boy in my Jr. High school with stick-straight super-fine hair who came back from a Christmas break with a freshly-permed Afro. He wore a cake cutter in it like the Black kids did, but they didn’t have the techniques they have today and his ‘fro was bouncy and blowing all over the place and the comb 🪮 didn’t stay very well, but he was trying, HARD, to be like the Black kids. What I’m trying to say is, when we proudly rock our natural hair, when we act and think like *BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL,* other ethnicities see it and feel it. They envy and admire us because no other group of people is like us or looks like us. No one else is as graceful or dignified as Black people. I grew up in the days of Black pride. White people were copying us left and right, even more than they do now. In the aftermath of the Civil Rights movement, there was a unity and sense of community that disappeared somehow. I’m not saying we should let people touch our hair if we don’t want them to. But we should be proud of our beautiful, natural locks and tresses and not be afraid of what anyone thinks. We need to “normalize” our natural hair in all places and spaces.

I thought i was the only one that noticed that i have 4b but when i wet it its around 4a its crazy how jealous they be of your curly hair ...

They Be so bothered.

New here 🙋🏾‍♀️. It’s sad we even have to have this conversation in 2024. I’ve been natural for 20 years now…loose and now loc’ed. I can careless what people think especially when they rock their insecurities on their shoulders. Life is too short to entertain ignorance.

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ they jealous. The end. This video should have been you saying just that.😂. 2 seconds.

The next time someone comes “side ways” about my God Given Hair, I’m going to tell them to take it up with the creator!

FACTS👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Can you make a video on locs please??? Because...girrrrrlllll...i don't even know where to begin. I had a fro beginning in 2008 and then locked it up in 2014. I rock freeform locs. It fits my lifestyle.....i love it! However, the people...

I think that's black issues in general. Whenever the conversation is about black people, you always see the "what about us?" brigade come out. We saw this with the whole black lives matter movement and people wanting to change the conversation to All lives matter. Yes we know that, but right now we're specifically talking about black lives. I'll never understand why its ok for everyone else to have their spaces, but when black people try and do the same its always a problem.

African and it was a culture shock being ostracised by both Black and white Americans for my 4C hair in social and corporate spaces. I’m glad we are shifting perspectives.

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When we cover up our hair as much as we do, people are simply shocked to see it 🤷‍♀️

6:26 ; the Tignon law was enacted in the U.S. in 1786 to force Black women to cover their hair with a scarf known as a tignon. Previous to that, similar laws were enacted in the Caribbean. White wives were so jealous of the attention that their husbands were giving Black women due, in part, to the attractiveness of their (Our) hair. They probably had massive hissy fits! Perhaps some wife of a lawmaker or judge forced him to create such a self-serving restriction of Black beauty. I've read that it was a classist as well as racist attempt at control, although the Black women often turned the scarves into elaborately attractive adornments.

The comments makes me so sad! This is what Black Women deal with on the daily? No wonder we suffer from high blood pressure, heart disease and fibroids. The daily stress is real.

It's very different than there's

Right they Jelly

If they can't wear their hair natural then that is a problem! I mean if they don't have any diseases or anything such as chemotherapy that causes their hair to fall out. Natural hair of all kinds is beautiful hair! Buying all these wigs cost a lot of money!

Nothing wrong with wearing your hair out but these days covering it either with wigs, weaves, or whatever is projection. Its better than allowing someone with an evil spirit into your hair. They won't only cut it off or damage it they will put something on you. Do what is best for you. If you know how to do your own hair, then wear it out as much as you want, but I don't like people touching m, period. I don't care if they admire my hair or not. DO NOT TOUCH ME! Also, pray over these wigs and weaves, too.

👑 Song of Solomon 7:5 👑

Meh,I think jealousy is the wrong word maybe ill-informed but most of it is curiosity. My hair has been natural and relaxed and I weird questions mostly from black women but never felt like they were jealous of me smh 🙄

Track test? Wth is that

The Tignon Laws of 1786.

There used to be human zoos.

White women get jealous of my hair! Black woman would start wearing there's but will have resentment though because mine looks better

SEXY RED HAIR IS VERY THINNNNN

three words : societal beauty standards