My biggest pet peeve with this is when black women say “natural hair isn’t for everybody” because what?? Natural hair maintenance or preference may not be for everybody, but the hair that grows out of your scalp is most definitely “for you.”

Saying natural hair isn’t good for special occasions and classy events is crazy … meanwhile them wigs look plastic period. Recycle Recycle Recycle

Antiblackness is worldwide. Natural hair wouldn't be so hard if people weren't trying to make their hair do things it doesn't want to do. I hope more people learn to love all their afrocentric features.

I love seeing women with bad wings tell other women that natural hair is bad

The self hate in the 🖤 community needs to end. It's often 🖤 people (not only them), that have a negative reaction towards my short 4c hair.

The woman who said to not wear your natural to her event- I bet her natural hair looks way better than the wig she is wearing. I’m not trying to be mean or insulting but I just don’t think that wig looks good on her nor does it seem like a quality wig.

Change your mindset and the difficulty will cease.

I stopped watching natural hair videos during my natural hair journey because every few years, one of them admits their hair has been damaged for years, yet they were product-pushing and influencing the whole time.

This is extremely tiring though. Every other day its black women this and black women that. Im exhausted Lord im just so tired.

I honestly feel like once you let go of unrealistic expectations of your hair (and your looks in general) you will begin to have peace of mind. But this means you have to get to know your hair and spend time experimenting with it and caring for it so you know what it’s capable of and what it loves.

For about a year now I’ve been rocking nothing but my natural hair, for important events and just hanging out. And it’s really helped with my self image. This was great discussion 😄

I had a white person at work ask me if wearing my natural hair was a political statement 😮. I honestly think more of us need to wear our natural hair so that "others" can get used to our hair. Heck, even the black community needs to get used to our hair. It's too late in the game for how our hair grows to still be a shock and polarizing conversation topic.

Black women do like natural hair but don’t like all the work that goes into maintaining it

I have about 4 hairstyles that i cycle through ; round afro, braids, twists, and ive blown my hair out a handful of times in 15 years. I only consider my hair "not done" when i pull it back out of the shower bc thats me being lazy. Otherwise its done. Wedding guest- fro, interviews fro, dates fro. Its my signature hairstyle bc it takes the least amount of effort and I find it beautiful. only use water and grease and never attempt to define curls bc my hair just doesn't want to do that

Those are not the societal pressures I’m facing. I’m facing having to commute to work early, work late and get up early. Having natural stylists cost $600 just for me to get a simple natural style. Having zero days available to style my hair. But expected to be in the world. I’ve been natural my whole life, but when i was younger I was a “straight natural” getting hot combed by my mother. My hair on my own is completely overwhelming. I hate having to style it. i’m not a girly beauty guru girl. i want a bun and call it a day. I feel like there’s no space to say that. For career women or moms we just cannot keep up with life and doing what my hair expects me to do. it’s like having a kid lmao. so demanding.

TBH the natural hair movement never properly addressed the initial issue…..loving your hair the way it grows from your scalp, because 4c BW were effectively pushed out of the space. We are not honest about the texturism and featurism that plague non-ambiguous BW and the “love your self” rhetoric doesn’t fix the bigger issue. Self love is important but rebutting a black woman’s discomfort with her natural hair with love yourself is a keen to pull yourself up by your bootstraps. I’ve been saying for years that, until the removal of systemic and institutional racism is addressed, we will continue to have issues with our natural hair.

I’m white but I tried hard to embrace my curly hair. The point of looking and feeling “put together” really resonated with me. It’s so ingrained that textured hair isn’t as presentable as sleek and straight. All hair is good hair, but that deep seated feeling is hard to shake. I gave up and went black to the flat iron because it’s easy. I still support black hair care brands like Mielle for the health of my hair, and a lot of us white women owe our hair care knowledge to black women. Nobody taught us how to care for curly hair growing up, just how to straighten it.

I swear all of this is so tiring. I just decided to braid my hair. No extensions. Just grease and water. Works best for my scalp and my hair no longer feels weird.

6:47 - 7:26 -- I am a high maintenance to be a low maintenance girly. I have never worn wigs or weaves. I go to Michelin star restaurants with my afro hair. Makeup consists of lipstick, eyeliner and cheek blush. ❤ My makeup is minimal because I spend a lot in skincare and facials. I think black girls have to focus on clean, moisturized hair. ❤ Accept your hair in its natural state. When you accept your hair and love your natural hair, it seriously will not be stressful.

Natural hair is only hard if you fight how it naturally looks BUT wear it however u want like why does our community shame the girlies who wanna keep their hair straight ?

Thank you for sharing! I feel like Issa Rae is the only black woman celebrity that represents 4c natural hair and rocks it with beauty and elegance. She does have a stylist which makes it easier but I look to her for “grown” and stylish hairstyles to embrace what I have instead of relying on wigs and braids.

When they become hairless, they'll end up choosing difficult over baldness.

Nobody can build confidence for anyone; you have to be confident in yourself. I take all the praises and snide remarks as regards my natural hair but I don't allow it to affect me because I am more than just my hair. Ps. I live in a different culture from Americans.

This narrative is so negative and just another trend. I feel like the social media "natural hair backlash" conversation is super insular and does not reflect how a lot of BW IRL feel about their hair. I'm still seeing natural hair all day every day everywhere I go and the girls are thriving. Online you'd think it was a whole other world.

Another reason is that they do not know how to actually take care of their hair nor do salons know how to do 4b & 4c hair.

Loved your thoughts on this! Imho, i think a lot of people went back to relaxers and straighteners not as much for the convenience but bc they realized that they didn’t actually like their natural hair as it grows out their scalp. A lot of ppl love voluminous hair, but thick natural hair requires parting and patience. A lot of people love long hair, but long natural hair requires consistent maintenance and again, patience! Loving your natural hair as it is (without high manipulation) allows you do be gentle and kind and work with your hair, not against it. A lot of people just want hair that bends to their will w no pushback, they don’t really wanna learn to love and respect the baseline of their hair. What i’ve realized abt being natural for the last 10 years is that it took me half of that time to actually learn my hair fr, then more time to love it. Before, i wanted fast wash days, fast detangling, fast styling, more heat to lay it straighter, more products, etc. Now, i’ve watched my hair become more manageable, defined, and healthy by sticking to a simple routine, going slow and gentle, and leaving it alone. Final note: having straight or relaxed hair requires just as much upkeep as being natural, so there’s that part, too

Natural hair is hard to maintain when you don't know how or are too lazy to maintain it. It's really not hard at all. Good things like healthy hair take work to maintain. If you're not willing to put in the effort then it'll show in your hair. I think some black women struggle so much because we try to force our hair to do things it wasn't meant to do. We want our curls to appear looser or force the front of our hair to lay down. When our hair doesn’t adhere to our unreasonable requests, we blame our hair, calling it difficult when we should be trying something different.

It’s simple. If your hair curls have it curly. If you find that your hair haves curls but more Afro like then your hair will look better in Afro styles. Don’t force a wash and go on Afro textured hair. Rock your Afro girl because not everyone can do an Afro. Just shape it into a piece of art 😊

Bought a Rev Air and it changed the game. Can now silk press, length check, prep for braids, and wash frequently without dread or salon expense. It took years commitment and determination to love my natural hair. Finding ethnic haircare lines by black women for black women took it to the next level. I’m still in the journey but I’m never straightening my hair chemically again. Looks dead to me.

I stopped wearing my natural hair cause i dont like the attention. People asking me all types of inappropriate questions, touching it. Also, even getting braids, people touch my hair. The only time no one has touched or asked about my hair was when i had a sew in.

When I was relaxed I went to the hair salon every two weeks for wash and treatment and relaxed every 8 weeks. They would always finish under a hooded dryer or blow dryer. Now I’m natural I do the same. I wash at home every two weeks and do treatments. To style I blow dry or go under the hooded dryer so my hair is set. Then I wear a bun after it starts getting dirty. I feel like the no heat police just made things difficult my hair is done quickly and I don’t have heat damage. All this prepoo, overnight deep conditioning and air drying is unnecessary. Also the products too I can use generic products to wash and deep condition just black stylers like mousse, gel or a twisting butter. I just own shampoo, deep conditioner, oil, heat protectant, mousse and gel. That is it. Not difficult. People need to relax and get a grip. Also I don’t care about shrinkage I’m black that’s like caring about looking dark brown.

Relaxing my hair ,tore my scalp up,now the I am natural and keep it moisturize and greased ,with Blue Magic hair grease or Softee Bergamot hair grease, I am just fine

I think a lot of natural hair women also envy others with a different texture than their own hair. I get so many questions from people about my hair and how I get my hair to look like that.

I have natural 4C4/b hair. I still wear braids, twists, crochet hair ponytails..Basicly whatever I want! I’ve never felt limited by natural hair. Also, anytime I wear extensions I keep the texture like my own! It’s cheaper too! Me being a licensed cosmetologist all my life may have some to do with my take on creative styling. Ladies do what the heck you want with your hair! But please don’t neglect your real hair. I wear my real hair when I feel like it and it’s as simple as that. 😊

I'm natural 11 years, only on my account not because it was what someone else was doing. I love the results. Straight hair is not a interest of mine.

10:20 This! Why does the black woman character always have type 3 curls. I've noticed this a lot with animation. Especially animation for children/family. Wish doesn't count because she has box braids so we don't actually know what hair type she has. But for example Princess Tiana. Why does she have loose curly hair. It was kind of sad watching people do the princess tiana challenge on TikTok and being made to feel less than because their hair doesn't do that. Then you see latinas and mixed black women (sure they're black but it's not the same) with loose curly hair doing the challenge and being told they're the best and the embodiment of princess Tiana smdh.

Been natural since the 2000s after wearing it chemically straightened for 6 years as a teen. I rarely wear wigs and extensions. Just head wraps, turbans, natural braids, stylings and braid outs and the occsional twist outs.

I feel like one of the reasons why so many black women don't like wearing their natural type 4 hair is due to textursim which is something thatbis very much a issue in the black community black people still look at 4C hair as being nappy and not being "good hair" we have to learn to love and embrace our hair just the way it is.

Like you said, everyone is allowed to wear what they feel comfortable with, but there is something to be said for taking ownership of the hair that comes out of your head and finding styles that do it justice, outside of other peoples beauty standards. If you want to find hairstyles that deviate from 2 dimensional beauty standards one place you could look is the continent. There are some beautiful styles that showcase our hair and its history, outside of how we are now told to wear it.

One thing that I find “annoying “ is that people with 4c hair (especially the ones who say they are “4z”) act like they own type 4 hair groups, etc…. I am type 4, but not 4c. I joined several natural type 4 hair groups on line because I needed guidance when I first big chopped. The people in those groups literally attacked me and several based their attacks on my skin tone. I even had a hair stylist stop me at the shop’s door and say I couldn’t get my hair done there. I had a hat on. She couldn’t even see my hair but she said “I can just look at your face (complexion, nose, whatever…) and tell.” So, people cry about being discriminated against for being “natural 4c” , but then turn around and do the same thing to others. (Not “all” people of course, but I personally have experienced a lot.)😢

I made peace with my natural hair when I grew long, thin dreadlocs that I could style in waves by braiding when wet then unbraiding a day later. I had hair as long as I wanted it, cutting off about 6 inches every year to keep it from getting past my lower rib cage, or sometimes cutting it all the way back to my armpits. I loved how it moved and the styles I could pile it up or twist it into, though I hated how I could never find a hat that fit. I was popular with non-black men with that hair and also created, ran then retired from a successful business with that hair. I made my own terms. But I got tired of it. I like being able to play with my hair now. I like being able to go from a twistout one day to a blowout the next to a silk press the next, and so on. My hair isn't as easy to take care of by a mile, but I like the versatility. Enjoy your hair, sis! All women fashion there hair in various ways. They comb it, perm it (curl it), flat iron it (to get rid of their curls/waves), braid it (big French braids) and so on. Why can't we do the same? We have even more versatility than they do!

My experience has been "you're DAMNED if you do or DAMNED If you don't. Why do you wear hair like that? When wearing a natural afro, locs, or hot comb, do you ever relax your hair, or is it not professional? When I wear a wig, you don't need a wig. Are you ashamed of yourself? Oh, don't let me wear make-up and a wig--why are you wearing make-up--you feel ugly without it? Everybody feels entitled to dictate what a BW should and needs to do. The black beauty oppression is overwhelming and dehumanizing. It's all about controlling how we think, so others can benefit from our insecurity. I wear what the F I want; the system be damned.

Find two to three styles that fits your face and lifestyle. Know what products your hair love and keep your regime simple.

The natural hair movement was about trying to get type 3 hair, not accepting your type 4, it started out that way, but it became all abour defining your curls or make it look curly. Not shocked everyone gave up and went back to wigs, weaves , relaxers etc. We have to accept is type 4 people are the ones keeping texturism alive. Look under any type 3/mixed person video or post, "cant 4c my hair doing this". The power is in our hands.

Are we leaving dreads out of the equation? I combed mine out but I'll probably get them back. They made my hair grow SO FAST and they were so low maintenance. They give you the "length" that so many of us want... idk why more black women aren't doing it honestly! Great points being made❤

& laid edges I literally have to tell ppl my edges will not stay laid so I don’t even bother doing it .. for some reason it’s so hard for ppl to believe that but it is the truth lol

Natural hair is not a trend. Women who relax etc were going to do that anyway and treated going natural like a detour. Natural hair isn't that hard people just do extensive unnecessary manipulation because they dont like how their hair looks otherwise.

Many black women never liked natural hair. They might have played in it and joined discussions because it was trendy. I love my natural hair and I love seeing other black women wearing theirs. However, for may black women natural hair just did not fit their aesthetic, they want baby hairs, finger waves and sleek styles. Do you, but look inside yourself to understand why you don't like your natural hair.

The hair cortex is made up of 3 bonds. As long as those bonds are intact, no one should have a problem with anything a Black woman does

We say that we want to wear our hair NATURAL but then we spend 1/2 of a day or more, MANIPULATING it (adding this product to it and then another product to it, jumping in and out of the shower washing and rinsing it, adding more products to it, brushing it, twisting it, coiling it, drying it under a heated dryer etc etc etc), ALTERING it from its true ‘natural’ state. So I have to ask do we truly desire to wear our hair in its natural state? This is definitely something for us to think about. Why jump through so many hoops to MAKE our natural hair look different from its natural form? This topic has made me think about how did the folks in the 1960s and 1970s care for their natural hair when everyone was rocking large Afros? - Afrosheen grease, a couple of large plaits at night and a huge Afro pick come to mind. And we know that the 60s and 70s was an era when our people were PROUD to be Black and they wore their hair UN-SHAMELESSLY in its true natural state. I have been binge watching natural hair KZfaq videos lately, trying to figure out what products to purchase to maintain my natural kinky hair as I grow it out and I can’t believe all of the steps that hair influencers are going through to transform their hair and the long list of products that they are using. Life is far too short to spend so much of my time and money on trying to alter my hair from its true natural state. So I have decided today that I am going to simply embrace my hair just as it is. I am going to focus on keeping it clean and moisturized and getting it cut in a classy style - and yes, I intend to rock a big Afro inspired style. Writing this post was freeing - another step in my self love journey.😉

'My hair is not heat damaged' *not even a minute later* 'Is my texture compromised? Yes.' Sounds like heat damage to me 😂. Just wear your hair straight and go but don't lie. Heat will always damage your hair over time, no matter how much heat protectant, deep conditioner, and hair masks you use. Those things can minimize the damage but not prevent it altogether.

Yes I have struggled. But for the last 6 months I have stopped wearing wigs and weaves and worn my own hair out. I have gotten so many compliments from every race and every one loves my hair! But most importantly I love it! I take care of it and that’s all that matters ❤

Ive been a natural girl since 17 and im now 30. Never wanted to go back and i will wear braids, afro, twist out, two strand, etc whenever tf i feel like it. Bw really need to stop trying to appease everyone else. I find also that yt folks are generally not even bothered, its other blk folks that are

Simple answer people r very lazy now because natural requires effort. I love the versatility of black hair with some many different textures. If u love yourself and r secure in who u r ur hair is easy but if ur insecure and lack self esteem others can make u feel negatively about ur hair. It’s not so much a black as it is a female thing, I have friends from India that hate that their hair won’t curl and because it’s so thick if they don’t blow dry it it takes 3 days to dry completely . So it’s all a matter of perspective. Embrace what god gave and look beyond yourself, fulfillment will come🙏🏽

Love my hair. Wish I had never straightened it in the past

A lot depends on how you wear your hair. i think natural hair made my morning routine simpler. I pineapple at night. Take it down in the morning, spritz, fluff, done. When I was relaxed I had to plug up hot rollers and give enough time to heat up. Install, have time to let them be in my hair. My hair is fine and looks limp lifeless when completely straight. If I didn’t add volume it didn’t look good. Relaxers kill volume in fine hair. If I grew my hair long it looked awful too unless I got it layered.

Facts the struggle is real embracing your natural hair and dialing in love with it! It’s definitely a journey but I love it!!!

I really hate that natural has to mean afro or locs. I mean I get veering from Eurocentricity but I think emphasis in any protective styling (wigs/weaves) helps people feel less pressure. I've been free of relaxers almost 10 years now and last time I wore a straight textured wig I couldn't stand it. Styling I get exhausted after a few hours sometimes but I do love the beginning of wash day and seeing my hair health and loving my coils. I wear weaves and lots of braids and twists because I like lots of variety but getting older settling into permanent locs soon.

These natural hair gurus had us putting every berry, honey, and butter in our heads. We had a whole separate grocery list of natural products. My husband almost ate my shipped shea butter once. I've since paired it down.

“Straight Hair natural” is not new. Annie Turnbo, Madame CJ Walker, Marcel irons…. We have been safely straightening our hair for years and years

I’ve been wearing my hair natural for a year. All I do is shampoo and condition, put in a leave in conditioner and hair gel and put it into space buns. Or I will just let it be an Afro. That part it’s not difficult. What makes it difficult is people want it to be anything but an Afro. It’s difficult because people want to manipulate their hair into anything but its natural state. Which is an Afro.

Girl, I am tired 😂 Been natural for over 10 year’s and my arms are tired. Tired of high prices to get your natural hair done. Plus no one really knows how to do natural hair. The extra charge for 4 C hair is ridiculous as well. I am about to do my relaxer soon. Then once it grows out I will think about doing my locs idk… Just tired girl 😂 my arms and back can’t take it no more!! 😂

Thank you for being so honest about this. I wear my natural hair out now, but it took a couple months for me to adjust to the look for sure, so I definitely relate to that. In my experience, the better care you take of your hair, the fewer issues you will have with it. My hair used to feel so difficult to do when I was damaging it with braiding hair, but since I’ve been wearing it out in twists for a year now, it grows like clockwork and always feels moisturised and soft! I know that it can be aesthetically jarring at first, but I don’t regret it one bit. Learn and cater to your hair’s needs and she will bloom 🌸💕

Oh. And I stopped using heat years ago. My hair hates it.

I think people need to start doing what they need to do for themselves and stop trying to attain some sort of aspiration that's inappropriate for them. I think if people spent more time just living with their natural hair just trying to attain and maintain healthy hair, they would be a lot happier with how their hair turns out. I have a hair texture that people often look at and decide is easier and more attractive. But the reality of the situation is that I struggle just as much as anybody else with my hair because of my hair texture. When I stopped worrying about whether my hair was frizzy, when I stopped worrying about the shrinkage and when I started focusing on the health of my hair, my hair started to do and look much better. At this point I'm in a regimen where hydration is the goal. My hair never looked or felt better and I never felt more at peace with my hair

Why is everybody else’s natural hair acceptable and/or beautiful, but ours is not. I rebuke that woman that said I can’t wear my NATURAL hair to her event. I say goodbye to anybody who thinks my NATURAL hair isn’t professional or NORMAL. I have no f**k left for women the same skin tone as me or women whose MOTHERS have the same hair texture as mine and try to bring us down based solely on our hair!! Do you know how ridiculous you sound?! Stand down and grow up! Thank you for your video, very empowering and I felt a lot of what you said. In heart and experience. I hope for a better future for our children.

Black women can wear their hair however they please, I’m not judging them for making a choice they wanted. Yes we had and still have a natural hair community but still it does not make me want to actually be involved in it. I can still love my natural hair without it.

For the natural girlies, give locs or sister locs a try. There’s also Freeform locs for the wild spirits lol and micro locs for the girls who don’t have sister loc money lol

Thank you for this video, it has made me realise the struggles I’m having with my hair. To be positive and love the type of hair that i have.

I’ve been natural for 10yrs. After years of using gels, my hair was damaged and thin. I struggled for a while on what to do. I finally decided to flat iron my hair. Going natural has really been a journey-finding the right products etc. Personally although I wear my hair straight I refuse to wear wigs and weaves.

Saying black women no longer want natural hair is unhealthy propaganda.. I maintain my natural hair under wigs and between braid installs and when I do wear it out. I place 2 tracks of clip ins for fullness. And I love how long and luxurious my hair is. Our hair doesn't like manipulation, so protective styles are a must. I currently have 20 inches when blown out and it's very pretty and I love it 💕

I love my natural hair. And i have experienced the joy I have been able to spread to other black women who were once too scared to wear their natural hair at work who started embracing it once they saw me strut down the hallway with my fro or even my headwrap. And there is definitely something wrong with actively trying to damage your hair texture and call it “trained”.

From beginning to end of this video💯💯💯💯Accurate AF

I personally love my natural hair and wish I was never pressured by my mom to grow up hating it and hating being black, there’s so much beauty in being black that I’ll never go back to that fake Hollywood mindset sh*t lol. When I big chopped in 2017 it was for a good reason, it was a journey of self-discovery and rediscovering who I am as a black/Cherokee woman, also discovering that I was allergic to fake hair and relaxers. Now, all I do is I keep my hair banded and African thread my ends, put on my headwrap and I’m out the door. If people are taught to hate themselves they have to do the work of re-parenting themselves to learn to love and respect themselves unconditionally because it won’t come from anyone else.

I just learned about then tignon laws here😮 Thank you for bringing it up

Ive been natural for over 10 years. I have very coily hair. I recently decided to heat train my hair (mainly blowouts) because im tired of guessing. My hair would never completely be dry if i air dried it. Best decision ever.

I think people should wear their hair the way they want!!! I just have issues with people who talk about people natural hair but they are afraid to wear theirs…. I went natural in 2015. I cut my perm off because my hair would not grow… my hair has been growing like weeds since I’ve stop wearing perms. I have had twa to a big fro.. I had a whole loc journey.. and now I’m back to my twa now.. I’ve had my days like why am I wearing my natural hair.. but honey I can proudly say I’m good I’m gone rock my natural hair.. I want to stand out and I can encourage someone else who may be afraid to wear their natural hair.. people gone talk and once you know that God loves you no matter how you look that’s settles it lol ❤❤. It was not easy and we live in a world where natural hair is frowned upon on… but honey I’m free I’m saving money.. I be seeing these stylist charging $ 500.00 for braids yall crazy… I can go shopping and buy seafood with that money!!! I’m sticking to my blue magic and my hair regimen is simple!!! When I first went natural I bought a few different products I was like let go back to blue magic honey my hair loves blue magic… I got grease, oil, and gel for a wash and go… other then that I’m good..

It’s not hard. All you have to do is wash, condition, moisturize. The people who say that it’s hard just don’t like the look of their natural hair texture.

Beautifully well put video. Very articulate and elegant!

Hi ari, thanks for being so dang real about our hair. I would love to tell my whole natural experience story. But for now I would say it's not easy but it's doable, it starts in our minds, I had to learn to "like" my natural hair before I could love being a natural. I wouldn't go back to chemicals for nothing I'm this world.

I loved the way you laid this out. Very good think piece.

Great video! 👍🏾

Very well done!!

Tell it! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Women used to live in communities.... other women would do each others hair. It was social. Even white women would have the most elaborate hairstyles. Black women had various forms of braids...some black women had short hair. It seems white women adapted by doing more simple hairstyles as women began to work full time and not have as much time at home to look a certain way. Many black women want something quick and simple too ESPECIALLY when they work full time. Something quick that won't constantly change shape every moment of the day. For others, braids are too expensive. Just live and let live. The hair nazis sealed it for me, plus my hair grew quicker stretched.

At 15:59 Not you said “Your hair is DONE” I never thought about it like that🤣 it’s so true omg! Thank you for this video!

Your hair is so beautiful even with no products!! So happy to see you back on here! ❤

It’s so odd that people generalize an entire population based off of your limited worldview.

Girl glad i find your videos. Keep em coming please 😊

I relate to every single word, thank you for this conversation. Oddly and sad enough, I think I would fully embrace my short 4c natural hair better if I didn’t have a man and did not want to attract a man. My man loves my hair but his excitement and reaction is on a different level when I wear extensions. I just try to wear that mimic my hair texture.

I have always been more influenced by family than celebrities and not everyone in my family has or in the past had chemically treated hair. Some who don’t, keep our hair straight, some of us never straighten and some go back and forth. I also have older women in my family with locs. Even as a child I remember seeing people cut their hair short to get rid of relaxed hair. My great aunt did it but we never called it big chop. I stopped straightening my hair years ago because I don’t like it as much on me. I never straighten and that includes for job interviews, formal events or anything else.

Greetings. I've had locs for over 20 yrs. Got to calf length And I cut it off bald. 2017 Started my journey with bleached hair . The texture of the bleached hair was more manageable. But here I am 2024 . Stopped bleaching. I'm 54.. and most of the hair is grey. So I'm on a new mission.. presently wearing wigs because I'm learning to deal with my natural hair all over again. Love these chats .

I heavily relate to this video and I will be honest as a male even when I was a child I had wished my hair was like the other kids in my class… However I now fully appreciate and embrace my natural hair

This was AWESOME thank you for this subject matter, I truly believe we as black women number one need to stop worrying about what anybody thinks of our hair no matter how we wear it. WE ARE GROWN!!!!! mmmkay Next love yourself love your hair love your skin love your butt love your lips love your nose LOVE IT ALL, LOVE HOW GOD CREATED YOU!!! OUR HAIR IS SUPER IT LITERALLY DEFIES GRAVITY!!!! and lastly take care of your hair do what needs to be done for your texture so that it is its best self so it looks and feels like its supposed to how ever it grows out of your scalp. natural hair is alot of work but that is part of its beauty, and yes my arms get tired in the mirror and sometimes i dont have the money to buy certain hair or products so i make do and put on a head wrap. LADIES WE ARE NOT LIKE EVERYONE ELSE and that is BOMB!!💣💣💣💣

I’ve been natural for 10 years now. My hair is almost to my waist. I will not be relaxing my hair ever again. This is the strongest and healthiest and longest my hair has ever been.

It’s crazy our own don’t wanna accept ourselves. It’s giving insecurities

This is long. The title needs to say, ‘Some Black Women’. Being that I am 52 I think the biggest problem is that most of the girls and women born in the early 90’s didn’t even know what their natural hair looked liked when the “Natural Hair Movement" began. It was foreign to them. I got on my sister for slapping a perm in her 3 year or 4 year old daughter’s hair(she’ll be 25 this year). My niece’s hair was medium length dry, thick, and would be considered 4c. My sister didn’t want to take the time to deal with it and took what is considered, in my opinion, the easy and lazy way out. She had two other daughters but didn’t put a perm in either of their hair. But her oldest that had the perm at an early age does have issues with taking care of her hair. She hides it under a knit cap all the time. Being that I grew up with natural hair, along with all the other Black girls and women around me, I know that we can take care of our natural hair just fine with very little effort. Yes, I had a Jheri Curl in 1984(I was 13) and perms after that until 2013 or 2014. Honestly, it took me a minute after watching KZfaq videos to realize that they were and some still are doing too much. My mom washed, conditioned, greased, and either straightened or styled her four daughter's hair in its natural state. I went to school with girls who had various hair textures and various lengths. What I didn’t see from the 80’s- early 2000 we’re Black women and girls losing their hairline. I blame the wigs and braiding your hair with weave. Get with older women 40 and above who should remember how our hair was taken care of. We also didn’t have the issues that y’all are having with these stylists these days. Good grief. Yes, some are frustrated and ignorant of Black women's hair texture because they have never dealt with it in its natural state, to include their own. But like I said, our stylists dealt with mostly natural hair and they had natural hair. Perms weren’t a big thing until the late 80’s in my area.

Great video. Well done.

I had relaxers my whole life but went natural in 2021. Then in February 2024 I got a perm again and now I regret it. Both natural and relaxed hair takes effort!!

Great video!