Navigating the Pain of Feeling Betrayed by Family Members

Navigating the Pain of Feeling Betrayed by Family Members | Eckhart Tolle

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2 ай бұрын

In this insightful video, spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle addresses the painful experience of feeling betrayed by family members. He explains how our thoughts and interpretations of their behavior can perpetuate unpleasant emotions. Eckhart encourages viewers to question whether their feelings of betrayal are based on facts or largely fueled by mental reactions. By understanding the nature of these thoughts, we can begin to find peace and a new perspective on family conflicts. Eckhart's wisdom offers a path to healing and inner freedom even in the face of challenging family dynamics.
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Eckhart Tolle is widely recognized as one of the most inspiring and visionary spiritual teachers in the world today. With his international bestsellers, The Power of Now and A New Earth-translated into more than 50 languages-he has introduced millions to the joy and freedom of living life in the present moment. The New York Times has described him as “the most popular spiritual author in the United States,” and in 2011, Watkins Review (now Watkins Mind Body Spirit) named him “the most spiritually influential person in the world.”
Eckhart’s profound yet simple teachings have helped countless people around the globe experience a state of vibrantly alive inner peace in their daily lives. His teachings focus on the significance and power of Presence, the awakened state of consciousness, which transcends ego and discursive thinking. Eckhart sees this awakening as the essential next step in human evolution.

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@CaminoAir 2 ай бұрын

Anthony de Mello said in 'Awareness' that we see people as we are, not as they are. This has always been a great help to me. They don't see or know me. They see and know their own perceptions.

@williamlovett619 2 ай бұрын

I had that book

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I do much appreciate it.

@CaminoAir 2 ай бұрын

@@BVIAS I love your account name.

@marypaulosky2214 2 ай бұрын

Awesome observation!

@randomelvis3359 2 ай бұрын

My Family have “betrayed me”and this led to my conscious awareness. Psalm 27:10 ✨🙏🏻 I chose to forgive them for they know not what they do… I am that I am, I exist … I’m at peace ✨

@joelmichael777 2 ай бұрын

Same here. When I was in the spiritual phase of perceiving becoming my higher self, I had to allow the lifelong programming of my parents go. At that point I had completely let go of worrying about what others thought about me. Their judgement was the last and hardest to allow to be. But it was absolutely necessary to get me to I AM consciousness.

@randomelvis3359 2 ай бұрын

@@joelmichael777 Hey Joel, I liked your comment earlier…. Your story resonates, it’s been tough but the reward is plentiful from a place of service in the eyes of consciousness… observing the ego, being “response-able” instead of reactive and existing with a motivation of being our best version sending unconditional love (with healthy boundaries) to all! ✨ Sending you blessings my friend…Namaste 🙏🏻✨

@dantheman5826 2 ай бұрын

Forgive them for they dont know what they do. One of the wisest sentences in human history.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. Much appreciated.

@TJ_PowPow 2 ай бұрын

@@joelmichael777So.. What happens after forgiveness? If you forgive, then they keep doing the same things, what does that accomplish? Forgiveness needs to be accompanied by another action, so you are not constantly having to forgive bad actions by other people.. Your whole life can't be consumed by forgiving other people.

@Toccataceotto 2 ай бұрын

Everyone is fighting each other on this planet in some way or another. I'm tired of all of this, people are not playful : they are dead serious with everything ! Love, Grâce and ... Thanks solitude 🌸

@stephenflood3463 2 ай бұрын

If you feel like you've been betrayed by family members don't fall into victim consciousness and instead try to use it as a spiritual practice by simply letting their unconscious behavior's make you more conscious. Forgive them and let the feelings of hurt go. Thanks Eckhart.🙏

@beingfullyme 2 ай бұрын

And look at… “I betrayed me”… in trying to fix their actions…

@luluramos2981 2 ай бұрын

I've been trying to let go after forgiving but it's hard. My narcissist family is not the kind to let you live in peace. Constant bullying and badgering from all sides.

@pinkifloyd7867 2 ай бұрын

I said thank you for taking my bad karma from me. May you be well and good luck to ya 😂

@freeflowing1111 2 ай бұрын

@stephenflood3463 Thank you for your comment, I had to take a screenshot of it so that I can remember to remember✨🙂

@ananda9327 2 ай бұрын

When house is burning you must go

@josdurkstraful 2 ай бұрын

The story of my life.... let it go, don't forgive if you can't, just let go.

@ADAMULELOMUNYAIMUNYAI 2 ай бұрын

Spot on❤, one could say, there is nothing to forgive. Forgiveness is about transcending the narrative of the mind, that’s it

@randomelvis3359 2 ай бұрын

@changingthelawsofphysics You also become an enabler of their behaviour… forgiving always is more of a virtue signal from ego. Intuition lets you know when to authentically forgive ✨

@joelmichael777 2 ай бұрын

Letting go IS forgiveness and visa versa. These are simply 2 perception points of a singularly. It’s all just allowing what is to be without resistance.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. Much appreciated.

@beautifullyaligned 2 ай бұрын

I feel "betrayed" by this snippet 😅. I'm sure the editor cut Tolle off too soon

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

It’s important this “snippet” occurred. Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him.

@chhuntley5616 2 ай бұрын

@@BVIAS I think the medical condition Gynomasta ( had surgery) was caused by the stress and beatings. He wouldn't understand.

@michaelgusovsky 2 ай бұрын

@@BVIAS you don't know what you're talking about. eckhart had a very difficult upbringing with an abusive father, among other things. as long as you continue to cling to the story of your victimhood, you'll continue to be a victim.

@SusanaXpeace2u 2 ай бұрын

I'm going through this. They have behaved so disgracefully but they blame me for having a visibly hurt reaction

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

You are not alone. Thanks for your thoughtful reply. Much appreciated. 🫶🏼

@kennethmalafy503 2 ай бұрын

You can use any challenge as a boost to your spiritual practice, just remain present, unattached and work through it.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. Much appreciated. 🫶🏼

@SusieAspen 2 ай бұрын

Indeed, my half-sister's unexpected introduction of antifreeze into my life provided a profound awakening. It catalyzed a heightened state of conscious awareness akin to that of a vigilant martial artist. Through this experience, I've come to recognize the importance of acknowledging and confronting the depths of betrayal and abuse, rather than bypassing or glossing over them. It's through such confrontations that true healing and transformation can take place.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Omg. Antifreeze?! Hope you are ok. Thanks for your thoughtful reply. Much appreciated. 🫶🏼

@joelmichael777 2 ай бұрын

I have gone through this and continue to, but I can see it as a blessing for my spiritual practice and progress. Waking thoughts are no different than meditative thoughts. We may simply observe them and allow them to pass by. When memories/thoughts of betrayal come up, I use them as a reminder to send unconditional LOVE to ALL, including those who have “betrayed me”. I spend time each day sending LOVE to all those who the ego would say do not “deserve it”, as unconditional LOVE has nothing to do with what someone deserves based upon the ego’s perception (and all perceptions that we know what someone deserves IS the ego). There is an upside down perception in mainstream western thought that loving those who are behaving atrociously will empower more terrible behavior, but the opposite is true. All parts of the ego must be observed without judgement in order to complete their journey and return home💜🙏😇

@randomelvis3359 2 ай бұрын

Perfectly put ✨🙏🏻

@joelmichael777 2 ай бұрын

Forgiveness/letting go as a perception of choice that takes effort and involves suffering fades as we awaken. Eventually, we realize that letting go is our natural state and it literally takes no effort or thought. We are simply observing a process. It is our natural state of being.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. Much appreciated.

@MrFeelBo 2 ай бұрын

Somtimes its ok just to feel the anger and let it go through you. But dont get consumed.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Amen brother

@dida079 2 ай бұрын

What if it is actually the truth though? That family would choose to have the person present who hurt you the most. And they know how you feel but disregard you.

@user-qx2ek6hd1v 2 ай бұрын

Yes exactly. How do we cope with the horrible emotions of utter betrayal and still have to be around them as they're family?

@acceleratorulz4105 2 ай бұрын

You cope by accepting them. You cannot change reality. But you can alter your reaction to it. @@user-qx2ek6hd1v

@orladowdsroddy3983 2 ай бұрын

I've found moving away from them all to start over helped and also sitting down to have difficult discussions with them about our differences and opposing views on past events also helped clear air and trauma

@Livfree33 2 ай бұрын

It’s ok to set boundaries with family ❤ your feelings are valid. Valid doesn’t mean your feelings are the “ultimate truth” but just that there is value and information in what you’re feeling.

@ArtLoverScotland 2 ай бұрын

@@user-qx2ek6hd1v I was betrayed by a daughter and sister. I cut them out of my life and moved on. I et them go with love, and wished them well. But I have no intention of them being part of my life now.

@midnightblue2893 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing Eckhart 💜

@stephenflood3463 2 ай бұрын

Hey sweetie, good to see you here in our spiritual community as always. Hope you have a nice evening and I'll call you tomorrow for our daily chat. Love you! xo💜xo

@BEEaTREE 2 ай бұрын

The "betrayal" pain comes from our expectations that those close to us need to be/act/think/behave a certain way. Mostly, it comes from pivotal formative experiences in our lives where the affective care we needed was absent and from there stems the feeling of being abandoned, misunderstood or not cared for. We feel hurt when we believe we haven't been loved the way we "should have been". We want others to be more like us and to express love the way we do, and when it doesn't happen, we feel "betrayed". And therefore we tend to want to demonstrate or to project onto others the way we think love "should look like". The more we do this, the more we become blind to the myriad other forms of love that are always present in our lives. As we go within and face the pain, it becomes apparent that what we are seeking for is our own way of expressing love. Our unencumbered self-expression. We are seeking for own permission to express our loving nature in our own way, freely, uninhibited, uncensored. Others' response to our loving expression or their own DIFFERENT ways of showing or suppressing their own lovingness no longer matters. Having said this, things aren't always black and white... Sharing, expressing, showing love DOES matter, especially when parenting... It can save a lot of people from having to do the deep, painful inner work of healing from emotional neglect or domestic abuse...

@sp-gw7zl 2 ай бұрын

Tale as old as time and it's usually over money 💰 I'm old enough to have witnessed betrayal many times and it doesn't get any better it's a very painful experience and I don't care how enlightened you think you are 😢

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

I really appreciate your reply. Thank you, my friend. You’re not alone.

@a.g.7239 2 ай бұрын

Wow I've never seen Tolle gaslight victims of narcissistic abuse this way. What a bypasser!!!!! Yes, I was betrayed and almost physically killed by my family. Only when I accepted that, I started to heal. This video is sooooo misleading for those suffering.

@sunshine-qk8qe 2 ай бұрын

Spot on 100%.

@helensid6670 2 ай бұрын

I can't understand why Eckhart Tolle doesn't listen to the warning voices about spiritual (somatic) bypass. Because of his peaceful presence this can be more pernicious than positive thinking.

@GoldenImpNotorious 2 ай бұрын

Richard Schwartz from IFS, which is an amazing shamanistic healing philosophy has said that some people who are really great at meditation & non-attachment struggle to heal & integrate their deepest trauma because they are so used to letting everything just go. That was so interesting to me, that this level of mastery, which I think is beyond ordinary spitrtual bypassing which is so obviously about their discomfort with difficult truths & feelings, can also be a way of numbing out. Those of us who have been through narcissistic abuse and family scapegoating don’t need yet another person telling us it is just our interpretation!

@helensid6670 2 ай бұрын

@@GoldenImpNotorious regarding to IFS (to me a wonderful tool for connecting) I have this "Self like" parts that can silent my thoughts and my emotions at will (unless I'm highly triggered), to the point I stayed "enlightened" for 5 months (body completely relaxed, sleeping like a baby, the joy) and of course the whole childhood trauma was still there when I came out of that state.

@GoldenImpNotorious 2 ай бұрын

@@helensid6670 Oh wow, what a good example of how self-states as ‘enlightened’ can create a kind of peace, that gives good outcomes while the trauma remains hidden. It is amazing how hard our protector parts work to keep that exiled deep pain from entering conscious awareness. When I first started working with IFS I played a game called spotting Sneaky Pete’s. Because so many of what I thought were my good parts, being flexible & endlessly forgiving of people who were acting out because I knew they were in pain…ended up being Pete’s a sneaking. They kept me connected to people who worked to keep me small & reactive, yet connected, as I was to my dysfunctional family in childhood. What would get you out of these ‘enlightened’ states, did this part-created state end up causing its own shift, either through greater understanding or some kind of crash due to the hidden trauma? I keep thinking about that IFS idea that protectors don’t protect. They are designed to fail, to keep you working by creating problems & distractions to avoid the exiles.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

It’s truth. Stop gaslighting, Eckhart.

@pdelaprimm 2 ай бұрын

I am the only of my generation (in my family) roped into narcissistic abuse, sabotage, betrayal and so forth. I have done the work to “figure it out”, resolve, “heal” - and still seeking answers. It has taken eighteen years. Many answers found, none with this clip, however.

@dantheman5826 2 ай бұрын

Let me give you some advice. I am sure you know that you are good as you are and you dont need external approvement. If you feel like your life situation is not acceptable, there are three ways: change it, accept it, or leave.

@dantheman5826 2 ай бұрын

Keep it as simple as that. If you are trying to help others, then keeping yourself in a bad situation wont change anything. Dont underestimate the knowledge and the powe that you could gain by leaving for a while as you listen to your own feelings and become able to forgive.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Amen

@buildsbest 8 күн бұрын

Good luck Ditto

@GilliMarieMoody 2 ай бұрын

It’s the truth. I keep working on myself because I still rock!

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

You do!!! 🫶🏼❤️

@tomtom2030 2 ай бұрын

Osho said: the people in the west are feeling guilty because they are traumatised in their family. First heal your trauma on a psychological level and after that you can meditate and become spiritual. Not viceversa.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Shhhh

@Livfree33 2 ай бұрын

lol so he blinked a lot and said the feeling of betrayal is likely just an interpretation - some might call that gaslighting 🤷‍♀️ I have trouble with how so many gurus tend to invalidate feelings. Like we’re just supposed to know our feelings are lying to us and transcend them, but really what’s happening for most people who would take advice like this- is emotional suppression and shame around the way they really feel deep down. That doesn’t actually lead to spiritual progress. We gotta feel it to heal it.

@devolutionone 2 ай бұрын

Kinda agree with you.

@helensid6670 2 ай бұрын

Yes, the deep emotional healing I've done (plus nervous system regulation) is what has made me trascend betrayal. And my Self feeling compassion for my-self (how I let that happened? Why couldn't I defend myself?). I've just done an imagination exercise: I betray someone, and when this person comes to tell me how I hurt her or how much money I owe her, then what I say is "Are you sure or is just your interpretation?". No way.

@asbjorgvanderveer5050 2 ай бұрын

"We gotta feel it to heal it." That is what E.T. tells us to do is to take in that emotion, by feeling it inside ourselves. Which does not require reactive behaviour or shame does it?

@banupriya6278 2 ай бұрын

Well said💯

@Livfree33 2 ай бұрын

@@asbjorgvanderveer5050I’m glad he clarifies this. Maybe this is just a clip taken out of context but being told betrayal is “just an interpretation” is pretty invalidating and can cause people to feel ashamed of how they’re feeling hurt & betrayed.

@claudiapaulini2216 2 ай бұрын

Is there a continuation of this video, please?

@grandthanatos 2 ай бұрын

This video was way too short.

@michaelnurse9089 2 ай бұрын

That seemed too short to be useful.

@KlammeKarlo 2 ай бұрын

Yes, - take a look at the many "confused" comments here. What Tolle says is fine, but there is a lot more to it, than he can say in 60 secs.

@tamanawilson9265 Ай бұрын

I don’t think that was the finished answer

@mokuho 2 ай бұрын

Is a interpretation…thank you Eckhart! I feel the same from my family!😢

@JJNow-gg9so 2 ай бұрын

Forgiveness is freedom 🤗✨🦋

@firstnamelastnam3 2 ай бұрын

Thanks Eckheart✨This is helpful in seeing things as they are. The people in my life aren’t always the way I sometimes think they should be, yet I can love them for who they are instead of who I think they should be.

@shanefowler3504 2 ай бұрын

No one is perfect life is a constant learning process and my family has taught me many things good and bad

@debtfree_2023 2 ай бұрын

a lot of men silently suffer with this, even while continuing to prove themselves as "good men" to the very family that pulled the rug out from under them, I've seen this a lot

@zovalentine7305 2 ай бұрын

Consider that anything appearing "against" one is ultimately going to turnout to be in favour of one My entire life from the day that I was born is a testament to same That's my story and I'm sticking to it ✊

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

I support you!

@sankarakrishnan8707 2 ай бұрын

This one felt like a real bait for free trial and subsequently to paid trial. Interpretation- who are we kidding? Some people get really betrayed, like crazy.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Indeed.

@michaelgusovsky 2 ай бұрын

betrayal isn't something that happens to you, it's a circumstance you create. as long as you place importance on what others do, you'll always be a victim.

@andrehopeadefranco 2 ай бұрын

Emotions are a tool of measurement for our soul to lean lesson in/of self creating reality we desire 💗

@amethystdream8251 2 ай бұрын

Can we stop holding people in suspicion just because they've disconnected from family? That would help with the healing

@marianfrances4959 2 ай бұрын

I definitely accept how our brains work and how we create stories. This is not to say family members are all or always considering us with good intent. I needed this today. I need to forgive my son...👍😎🇨🇦🙏💘⚘

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

What did your son do? I’m sorry for whatever happened. Just let me say this. You are fortunate to even have a son. But still. Hang in there. Promise me.

@sage9836 2 ай бұрын

"Those who target, TARGET. " YES.!

@bilgegumus9849 2 ай бұрын

Türkçe altyazı seçeneğini lütfen tüm videolara ekleyebilir misiniz ? Bu seçenek olmadığı için katıl butonunu aktif edemiyorum🙏💙

@mikeolsen6927 2 ай бұрын

Yes, it's perspective

@Msenlightened1 2 ай бұрын

Well?? What happened to the answer?

@randomelvis3359 2 ай бұрын

It’s within ✨

@williamdixon4936 2 ай бұрын

@@randomelvis3359 I would have liked to hear more of what Eckhart said about it.

@Msenlightened1 2 ай бұрын

@@randomelvis3359 lol

@himanshurai9408 2 ай бұрын

Please upload the full video...i am trying to search the way to "let go" the action of my close person but unfortunately...the pain body is coming again and again

@esmegreen3145 Ай бұрын

Thanks!

@carmenr.r.8112 2 ай бұрын

Gracias 🙏 💜 🙇🏼‍♀️ 🌈

@amin_abdollahi_369 2 ай бұрын

Thankyou❤❤

@devolutionone 2 ай бұрын

Well, that was very diminutive..

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Yup. Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him. I’m sorry for your pain.

@Misslotusification 2 ай бұрын

Is it true? Can I absolutely know that this is true?" "Reality is kinder than your thoughts about it." Byron Katie

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

No. Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him. I’m sorry for your pain.

@Misslotusification 2 ай бұрын

@@BVIAS No one denies the trauma. However, "Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do." Reality is kinder: The abusers were unconscious, themselves being the product of trauma. Here's the opportunity to break up the cycle, by giving up the victim identity that many of us carry around like a burden, reliving trauma again and again in our heads ("He/she/they shouldn't have done that." "Argue with reality and you lose, but 100% of the time." B. Katie) Reality, in the sense of what is really going on here and now, is kinder than our stressful thoughts about the past revolving around the trauma, keeping us in a prison of our own making, where we are miserable, sad, angry and revengeful.

@hdspacechic 2 ай бұрын

Maybe it's all about Perspective ,if we change our view we change our life❤

@caracarolina732 2 ай бұрын

Truth

@Breakpattern 2 ай бұрын

Rejection turns to self pity

@jenniferwells9032 2 ай бұрын

The truth from one person

@TunTuni25 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for THIS! Was hoping,waiting SOMEONE would state this...the not so obvious to Gurus As much as i like,admire & appreciate Eckhart...almost lost respect after this no smoking gun Gaslighting So im Not crazy & certainly not alone in sharing these very Identical sentiments verbatim Thank God!

@Seven-Planets-Sci-Fi-Tuber 2 ай бұрын

They pushed my bother to suicide and it work. They tried the same with me and they failed.

@Seven-Planets-Sci-Fi-Tuber 2 ай бұрын

brother..

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss. Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him. I’m sorry for your pain.

@Seven-Planets-Sci-Fi-Tuber 2 ай бұрын

@@BVIAS Thank You 💚

@naveenvellalar9496 2 ай бұрын

Well.. Indian philosophy has answer for this. Instead of having fond on family members only have love on them. Fond- is a personal bond that creates a ego(self mind) which creates emotions and try to give happiness and hurt in cyclic way Love- is a non personal bond on every living beings which eliminates the ego without hard way. Have compassion on every living beings equal to ur family members. Its call jeevakarunayam(soul compassion ) in tamil.

@Ariel-T-Friesner 2 ай бұрын

The question is too brief to answer. Maybe the question is detailed but not presented here. My experience may help the questioner. I adored my family but they didn't have the ability to form loving bonds with me in return. Each done me wrong countless times. My error was following Christian advice to be forgiving and long-suffering. At the end, with only one of the narcissists living, I know that I should have left home as soon as I graduated from high school and ended contact entirely. I hadn't done that because I had hope that they would become loving. I advise anyone with indifferent, abusive family members not to give them opportunities to create more bad memories for you.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him. I’m sorry for your pain.

@LUPITA-_ 2 ай бұрын

Claro que hay que responder para aclarar y dejar en claro que a uno no se le trata de ésa manera. !! Usar la prudencia antes de hacerlo, si es el momento o lugar adecuado, pero si se ve qué hay toda la intención de dañar y enfrente de todos, entonces si, lanzar ladrillo envuelto en terciopelo

@paigedygert7051 2 ай бұрын

I know what betrayal is.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Me too. It’s ok. Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him. I’m sorry for your pain.

@Uncanny1111 2 ай бұрын

I can't get it mr eckhart, it must be easy to understand don't you think ?

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him. I’m sorry for your pain.

@luciehawaii Ай бұрын

People, this is just a clip and at the end of the video it says to subscribe to watch the full version! If you watch something, practice being present and pay attention to it, so you are not confused and feel gaslighted by E.T. 🌺

@LUPITA-_ 2 ай бұрын

Que corto video 😮😮

@TheLUCIANA63 Ай бұрын

🙏🏽

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

It’s important this “snippet” occurred. Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him. He has no clue.

@michaelgusovsky 2 ай бұрын

you don't know what you're talking about. eckhart had a very difficult upbringing with an abusive father, among other things. as long as you continue to cling to the story of your victimhood, you'll continue to be a victim.

@sharminiserasinghe3293 2 ай бұрын

I can't seem to find the logic in forgiving your abusers. They couldn't care less if you forgive them or not because they don't see anything wrong in what they do to you. They say forgiveness is for your own peace of mind but it hasn't for me, because the abuse continues.

@tomtom2030 2 ай бұрын

Forgive yourself. You don't change evil.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Amen. Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him. I’m sorry for your pain.

@sharminiserasinghe3293 2 ай бұрын

@@BVIAS Eckhart had a traumatic childhood and was on the verge of taking his life.

@evadebruijn 2 ай бұрын

❤️🙏

@adamslosar5574 2 ай бұрын

i guess i imagined 23 of severe abuse. i have a silly mind….

@rubendez 2 ай бұрын

Doesnt really matter if its true or his interpretation, thats how he feels, deal with that first.

@kosmickizurnal 2 ай бұрын

Maybe it’s taken out of context, but it sounds toxic and not helpful. Someone hurt you by using you and abusing you… Abuse is not just an “interpretation”, it should be validated, acknowledged, and possibly let go in order to heal. Feeding once ego is another thing but when there is a valid betrayal and abuse, please don’t advise that you doubt yourself first.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him. I’m sorry for your pain.

@icascone 2 ай бұрын

This video in it's shortness makes Tolle sound like an arrogant answer and almost insulting, but of course it is my ego speaking...

@darinsmith2458 2 ай бұрын

111.. It was before I commented..

@SAFFIA444 2 ай бұрын

If you want to find out what he’s actually talking about, you’ll need to buy the chest reduced course offering about being with your family. Nice bait and switch, Eckhart!

@wrenjacobs9392 2 ай бұрын

There is a difference in being betrayed and feeling betrayed. If i want to be forgiven id start with an apology and a contrite spirit .

@tomtom2030 2 ай бұрын

Forgiveness is another state of being.

@TJ_PowPow 2 ай бұрын

@@tomtom2030Nonsense.

@tomtom2030 2 ай бұрын

@@TJ_PowPow Find it out.

@TJ_PowPow 2 ай бұрын

@tomtom2030 Forgiveness without change is just bypassing. You can't just be in a constant state of forgiveness. Zen is very misunderstood I'm afraid.

@poltorn4580 2 ай бұрын

Thus is all great and all that, but how do we get ourselves ready for the fight against the wef?

@ibexy 2 ай бұрын

Just what I needed now

@nevisionx 2 ай бұрын

What kind video this Ekse

@friedaholmes3782 2 ай бұрын

It's Both...The Glass is Half Empty and Half Full. Yes, My Family Among Other Supposed Friends and Loved Ones Have Betrayed Me But, How Do I Choose to Handle Said Scenario Also Makes All the Difference in the World. Thanks. Mystic Star Seed 777

@dantheman5826 2 ай бұрын

Betrayal is of course hard to work on because there is no real understanding. However in the end you can always choose to create bad feelings because you have been betrayed. In the long run and often that only occurs when people are so fed up of thinking about the betrayal anymore, maybe then or earlier you have the choice to just accept it. You have the choice of dealing with the feeling of beeing betrayed for the rest of your life, or choose to accept it, or rather choose my way: try to form all that negative energy into something positive. Dont accept it but turn it into something good. Release all that negative energy that you build up and try to create something useful out of it, maybe help some people in need, that you would have never thought if if it wasnt befor this betrayal. Just dont try to let all this negative energy hit you, release it, turn it into something good, accept it.

@Sandra-fc8pc 2 ай бұрын

This is on your youtube channel, Eckhart, so this is your message! It’s not good enough! And your family did betray you, and they could not do anything else, because of their mental level. Even if they are evil and have no empathy, you can’t change them. And they move on as if nothing happened. So you have to forgive their behaviour as if they are children, not knowing better! It’s like a video game, and they play a different game, or they are the bad guys in your game with no understanding of doing wrong. They can move on as if nothing happened. You are stuck in trauma. I have just come to the understanding that forgiving them because they do not know what they do!! Lol.. is the only way. They don’t know, that is why they are not sad, they don’t feel bad about what they did, and nothing bad happens to them!!! You are the one stuck in this trauma and they don’t care. So!! Forgive and find your peace and find your people, with love in their hearts, and people that have an understanding of being kind towards others. This is a very tricky game to play!! 🙏❤️❤️❤️

@nanetten6238 2 ай бұрын

Sorry Eckhart, but your advice on this one is a little bit lame, or should we blame it on bad editing?

@PaigeSquared 2 ай бұрын

I mean. At some level, there is a definition of family, and a person can behave in a way that is counter to that definition, without any prodding or sort of incident they are reacting to. When a family member is malicious, do we allow them to exhert control, simply because they have misidentified us as a threat? I dont think these are the same conditions under which the cross was accepted. At some point, there ARE life giving and life denying actions. We can't simply reframe those truths. I worry when people hear "is that the full story," that they do not understand the full teaching. They do not understand that they are meant to take on their power to walk away, and instead think that reframing is more of a way of justifying continued self abandonment. We often believe enabling is kind, when we are doing it.

@Jda4160 2 ай бұрын

Betray doesn’t necessarily have to be emotional

@user-tr7yg7zo3j Ай бұрын

I feel grateful to be betrayed by my family. I don’t have to pretend I like them. 😂😂😂😂😂😂

@starlightsky655 2 ай бұрын

I need a bit more 🤓

@snakehuang9804 2 ай бұрын

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@pinkichoudhary8973 2 ай бұрын

🌺🙏💗🛐💥🙏Family platform is live platform .Feeling comes through actions not from emagination. SO gives focus to actions ( within/without) 1...WITHIN...If SELF is WRONG then try to change self towards more positivity. 2....For ( without)....Think carefully about situation ( calmly).If Self actions is right and positive that means another is in negative vibration ...wait...when other comes in calm situation...pull (him/her)..from negative zone by giving ( him /her)....**UNCONDITIONAL LOVING POSITIVE VIBES KNOWLEDGE ** 🌺🙇MAY MOTHER NATURE KEEPS HER ENDLESS BLESSINGS ON ALL...ON US🌺🙏RADHEY RADHE.

@MrBoosta 2 ай бұрын

I just went no contact and blocked everyone now I’m hearing about it from my mother and sister to be honest I don’t care about the collateral damage who deserves it and who doesn’t whole family blocked end of story only family I talk to are the ones why value my time just as much as I value theirs

@Uncanny1111 2 ай бұрын

I don't understand, do we still have to talk materially or do you mean only on the spiritual level? 🤔

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him. I’m sorry for your pain.

@devonrexcatz 2 ай бұрын

I sense he didn't really know how to answer the question.

@BVIAS 2 ай бұрын

Bingo. Why? Eckhart never experienced severe childhood trauma like many of us. We must forgive him. I’m sorry for your pain.

@briechilli4496 2 ай бұрын

Spiritual bypassing ?

@rogerlin9602 2 ай бұрын

1:05 Your feeling isn’t pleasant. Is it the truth or interpretation? Thanks Eckhart. 11 April 2024. 🚗🍕⛈🏄🏼🏃🦒🏃🏃🐳🪴💪🏻

@dylanrupprecht4031 2 ай бұрын

Naw, sometimes people you relied on decided drugs were more important. They set you up for a life of unfulfilled dissatisfaction. It was a betrayal. Call it what it is. You can interpret it however you want to feel better I guess, but let's not sugarcoat existence with "superior consciousness"

@yavuzseyhan6516 2 ай бұрын

Turkish subtitle please

@conqueringego6226 2 ай бұрын

do you ever just want to humble the ego and live in the present moment without doing all this ego stuff of trying to teach people something you can never actually teach them? Nobody can help people touch the present moment so do you just enjoy talking about the ego or is it all about the money or what? I'm struggling myself trying to figure out if talking about a million different forms that all points to the one thing you can't teach is even worth it when consciousness doesn't depend on the world of form at all..

@kaatkate9270 2 ай бұрын

This is too short .....🤔

@thewoundedhealer4950 2 ай бұрын

Spiritual bypassing, enabling, victim blaming and shaming is what this is.

@michaelgusovsky 2 ай бұрын

way too many whiny people in the comments wanting to talk about themselves and insist that they are victims and everyone ought to feel sorry for them. like walking into a room full of crying kindergarteners.

@chongqingdiscovery4222 2 ай бұрын

@Eckhart Tolle: needs your attention here. 谢谢

@michaelgusovsky 2 ай бұрын

@@chongqingdiscovery4222 every moment needs your attention. don't get distracted by trivia.

@chongqingdiscovery4222 2 ай бұрын

@@michaelgusovsky alertness raises from within. Non judgmental. This is why, attention is lost, where the mind starts complaining.

@michaelgusovsky 2 ай бұрын

@@chongqingdiscovery4222 what is the mind, when there are no complaints, no judgements, no thoughts?

@chongqingdiscovery4222 2 ай бұрын

@@michaelgusovsky freed of dysfunction

@buildsbest 8 күн бұрын

It would be good to have a transcript for deaf people like me. ✍🤨 Please don't exclude. I can't sign as only just gone deaf.

@michaelmaniloff9297 3 сағат бұрын

He just said nothing.

@puzzleoyster 2 ай бұрын

Luckily I am no ones victim😂 although both birth family and created family members have attempted the poleaxing of my being so no not an interpretation an actual verifiable ipso facto It's not pleasant its what humans do If they THINK they can 😂😂😂😂