Hey guys! Sorry for the reupload. I'd had good luck using G2A in the past and didn't realize how many issues they had. That's on me and I'm sorry for promoting that to you guys. I couldn't edit the segment out without the video going out of sync, so I reuploaded instead. But let me know WHO'S YOUR MAIN VILLAIN ON THE SHOW!?

As someone from the premiere chat put it: "I have never watched a reality T.V show where I rooted for everyone to break up."

I think it’s disgusting that they allowed Mildred on the reunion to justify her dv/switch blame to Tiff. That should’ve never been allowed. And Yoly sucks nearly as much for taking Mildred’s side.

Learning the producers knew some of the contestants didn't use she/her pronouns and specifically didn't tell the other contestants or the audience explains so much about this show.

"She is 24 and ready to settle down." is an objectively frightening statement.

Honestly, the only take away is that Mal didn’t deserve anything that happened to them

I sincerely afraid of young people watching this show’s lack luster response to domestic violence and it shaping their worldview. Absolutely disgusting.

Okay, Amanda needs to host the next one of these, solely for her popping outta the bushes just to intervene on the drama

As a therapist I’m really concerned about the group Tiff is hosting and charging. I’m glad they are sharing their story and bringing awareness but running a group with people who are survivors with potential complex PTSD and mental health illness seems dangerous and very unsafe.

19:58 As an Intern Therapist, I can confirm that things have to be astronomically BAD for a client to be fired. Like, I've had clients ranging from cases of mild MDD to extreme BPD to clients that have multiple life sentences in jail, and the only client I've ever had to fire I did so because he literally threatened to stalk and menace me

$40 for a DV support group?? When finances is the reason so many stay in those relationships??? That's disgusting

I was so confused by everyone hating Vanessa and Yoly receiving zero smoke. Everything that went down with her was so villainous

Petition for Amanda to host another lesbian dating show!!

Throughout this entire show I was screaming how Rae and Aussie didn't need wives they needed therapists. And Tiff and Mildred 100% just needed to break up things with them just kept getting worse and worse

hot take, I dont hate Aussie. Aussie clearly has a lot of problems but they clearly stem from a lot of trauma. I dont think Aussie's a bad person tho, just someone who needs a lot of help. Sam still deserves to not be a therapist tho.

The weird bedroom cameras creeped me out too! I swear in a later episode you saw someone's areola and then in another episode, you can literally see Vanessa's blurred out backside and then a clip of Xander and her doing stuff under the covers!!! Like wtf, they had to agree to that, right? But I did NOT need to see any of that between these messy ass people 😭

yoly saying mal was pushing her to make a decision when YOLY is the one who brpught them here and now mal has an answer ro the ultimatum like she needed to be fr 😭😭

If the couple's therapist gives up on your relationship, maybe thats a sign

Has anyone on this show been happily single for more than a minute? Or at least content with it? That is equally important.

Justice for Mal.

I agree that therapists should be involved in these sorts of shows. It's clear that everyone involved has some issue they need to discuss with a professional, and if there's any desire to improve their relationships (which may or may not be the case), they need that help there.

Mildred and Yoky were awful. Aussie is not my favorite either. These 3 in particular really need therapy. And vanessa is so full of herself so i enjoyed seeing her humbled when Xander broke up with her

These people all genuinely seem like they would've been better off single.

i know it's a reality show so it has to have ''juicy drama'', but the choice to put Aussie's clear mental breakdown/panic attack in the show was such an odd decision to me. It felt weirdly exploitive? Aussie was obviously in a very vulnerable state which was extremely difficult to watch, it feels really gross to monetize that. They really need to have some sort of therapist on set.

As someone who was dating someone else who was more on the same page as Lexy - breaking up was better for the both of us. It's been 2 years, he is married, has a beautiful child and is staying here in the middle of nowhere and renovating a house. I'm moving to a big city next month, and have really gotten a kickstart on figuring myself out. People just want and need different things in life, especially in their early 20s.

Am I the only weirdo who gets slightly disappointed whenever watching an older video and Amanda doesn’t say, “I hope you’re having a fantastic day. I’m mostly OK.”?

Xander being ready to declare love after three weeks is so real though. I know a bunch of Uhaul lesbians, and so many get engaged after 1-3 months. I have a friend who got a "late" proposal at like 4 months, they got teased about it because they were ready like, after the first date.

I'm so glad you do these videos because I want the tea, but not to have to sit through all the cringe and excruciating second-hand embarrassment.

There’s something really off about the whole Mildred/Aussie situation. I feel like there was a lot that wasn’t shown. Aussie seemed on edge and passive aggressive when the conversation about the bathroom began. She reacted like I would if someone I was upset with was acting like nothing had happened. The comment about Mildred saying stuff on camera raises some questions as well, like was she shown footage of Mildred saying something bad that wasn’t put into the final edit? Even with Sam and Tiff things didn’t feel right, like there was producer meddling or something, because why was Tiff so upset about Sam not liking her dog, when she presumably never said that. The only thing she said that was shown was hesitation about the dog on the bed. This is why I don’t usually watch reality television shows because I can only think about the things that were cut out or manipulated.

High Ponytail Drama Queen (sorry can‘t remember the names) is the posterchild of someone who 1. cannot be alone 2. tells you whatever you want to hear in order to manipulate you 3. keeps her options open to the last minute 4. only choses people who she can benefit from in that moment 5. refuses to change or take any responsibility. This is a person to run away from. Fast. Don‘t date them. Don‘t be friends with them. Don’t work with them. Don‘t engage. Just leave.

Sam and Natasha were the real mvps this whole show. I also surprisingly liked Vanessa's Dad being as self aware as he was?

I would love to see you host a dating show where you're constantly checking in on the contestants and asking them if they're sure they want to do that 😂

i loved mal, and her friend.... mal was sweet, and mature, way too understanding, while her friend just saw right through all the b/s, and calledit like it was

It’s wildly inappropriate that Lexi brought up Rae and Vanessa hooking up in a group setting, and didn’t she do it more than once? Like fine, you’re hurt because Rae slept with Vanessa. Maybe I would be too if I was in a similar situation, but this is not how you handle those feelings. If you can’t let it go, break up with Rae and stop torturing her. Breaking up with someone is hard, but I think one of the most important things in a relationship is knowing when to pack it in, knowing when you’re at an impasse.

I love what you said about Lexi. I'm annoyed by the "you aren't here for the right reasons" bs. Lexi has been doing OF and immediately broke up with Rae after the reunion... her reasons aren't looking too hot either. I like that you pointed out that most of them have side gigs and want publicity.

Lexi was a psycho, she tried to turn everyone against Vanessa and got her perents to gang up on rae and emotionally blackmailed her over and over. Horrible

Okay so I got married two months ago, we had a two year engagement. And leading up to getting engaged i asked my then bf would he ever want to get married he said yes, then we went ring shopping and 6 month's after that he proposed. But we had quite a few convos leading up to it. 😅 so you know if your partner wants different things move on....

This show should just be called ‘Breaking Up: With Extra Steps!’

It’s very weird to me how Jackie from LIB 4 got out of the in person reunion for nebulous reasons but they had both tiff and Mildred in the same room….

I agree partially with your takes. I did see some bad takes from Mal. Don't blame her for them. Because they surely weren't intentional manipulation but I see a bit of that in there. Also, aussie and Sam are the best. Backing up tiff when NO ONE else did. Their relationship is a good level of trauma informed supportive love. Maybe it is, maybe it isn't healthy. We only saw a portion. But nonetheless. Also: Yoly is trash. Mildred is trash. Vanessa is less trash than initially thought. That's my thoughts.

YES as toxic as all the couples are, my lesbian ass is still happy to see them on tv bc we never see realistic sapphic relationships!!! Especially without any men around?? I think the show unintentionally did a great job of highlighting how unhealthy patterns can pop up in queer wlw relationships too and that is so so valuable to me!!!!

I enjoyed this show much more than the hetero version, but it did make me a bit uncomfortable that 1. There's a lot more intimate scenes than the straight version, at times it felt a bit fetishistic 2. Not acknowledging domestic violence as domestic violence during the reunion 3. How much Lexi slutshamed Rae for hooking up with Vanessa ESPECIALLY AT DINNER WITH HER PARENTS. Like, it's great that Lexi's parents were more reasonable than she was, but she honestly could've put Rae in an unsafe situation :/ in general, it was depressing that Lexi made her cry almost every time they had a scene after the trial marriage 4. Vanessa sucks, but they really dogpiled on her. It was a little intense at times tbh and i don't like her at all

Amanda: It starts with one... Me: ONE THING I DONT KNOW WHY DOSENT EVEN MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY!

I miss you, MistaGG and Kennie JD. And I would want to see you 3 talk about The Ultimatum: Queer Love, it would have been fun.

"Just because something was inherent to the way you grew up, it doesn't give you an excuse to be an asshole" Best line of the entire video

Out of all the reality tv shows I've seen, the Ultimatium (both queer and straight versions) gave me the feeling I was watching people be genuinely traumatized for life in real time. With other shows like this, there feels like there a awareness that its ultimately reality tv with the contestants - a disconnect if that makes sense. This show felt creepily honest in a "barely legal sociological experiment" kind of way.

Lesbians are so wild for falling in love in three weeks (relatable)

Netflix to my last brain cell: "would you be killed in your sleep, like an ailing pet? There's no shame in this, in a brain's death. A brain that could have had great thoughts."

I hope one day a couple who's 100% healthy and committed to the other goes on one of these shows as a joke. They pretend to have issues but by the end you learn they were making it all up and are solid. Half the show is just them reacting to all the other couple's bs and giving solid advice. Then we learn on the reunion that they've been good and did it for the hell of it At least it would mix things up

Watched this after a nap and dear lord what in the sapphic hell was this. People definitely need to know what their partner wants in life for a long term committed relationship.

This video has convinced me that not only am I not as big of a mess as I thought I was, but also I'm not as bad of a person as I think I am either. ಠ⁠_⁠ʖ⁠ಠ

Rae looked so miserable at the reunion I know she only proposed because she didn’t want to lose Lexi

OMG Could you imagine Amanda hosting one of these reality dating shows? That is the only thing that would induce me to actually watch one instead of just watching the entertaining recap 😂

Of all the Netflix dating shows this one by far has been my favorite (except for the creepy night cam stuff). I hope they do more queer ones. But man... It was still messy messy. Also I'm sad to know Natasha (Gay Guru) is charging $80 for "relationship advice". Ugh...

I need a shirt with ‘everyone needs therapy’ on it

Mildred got arrested for domestic violence and they let her come back for the reunion

“If it was Reba we’d allow it” hahaha idk why but that made me laugh so hard 😂😂😂😂

Being 40 and still dealing with mental health after years of therapy is highly relatable. Avoidance has got to be stamped out as a coping mechanism. You have to set a 30min timer and come back.

I honestly liked Aussie during the trial marriage phase but I think it's because Mildred reminded me so much of a toxic abusive person in my life that even the little things made me scream that Aussie should get out of there.

Always enjoy a good Amanda reviewsplanation. Gives me the story and details without having to sink the time. Plus getting great commentary. Hah. Seriously the best. I don't think I could have handled this one at all.

So Mildred and Tiff break up about once every two weeks if they’ve been together for two years and have broken up around fifty times. Oof.

On the comment about the show not having therapists, Rae said on the We're Having Gay Sex podcast with Ashley Gavin that they actually did offer free sessions to the contestants both during and after the show, so I thought that was cool.

Tbh the mustard blazer is giving me life and I need more of it.

Netflix providing representation by showing queer people can be just as toxic and messy as the straights. ❤❤ Also, man. There are a bunch of worse people on the show, but Lexi rubs me the wrong way. I get she doesn’t like Vanessa, but her constant harping on Rae is so toxic. I am not surprised they split up if Lexi felt the need to air a problem out to her grandpa unprompted. She simply looks better in the show by comparison to the many worse trash fires.

I wish people talked more about how therapists are really hit or miss, it just got to feel right, and you hardly will find the right one in the first try For me, it was my third try, because unfortunately, this is not easy, to open up, so you need to look for a therapist to whom you're comfortable doing so And also, there's simply bad professionals everywhere, this is not different, you might be unlucky to come across one of them 😬😓

LEAVING A COMMENT TO SAY HOW INSANE THIS SHOW IS BUT HOW GOOD UR HOSTING IS

rewatching this and virtually yelling at the screen with live chat what the catharsis I needed 😌😌😌

I actually think it makes perfect sense that Yoly & Xander would get swept away with each other so easily-because it's the whole question of, what do you really want the most, do you want to be with this particular person specifically no matter what that means your life together does or doesn't actually look like OR do you want a specific life for yourself / need to be with someone who also complements and wants a life together that looks the same as the life that you want for yourself?? Sometimes there really is a whole lot more to making a relationship actually work than simply whether or not you deeply like and care about each other. Not everyone just needs to have their person to be happy/content, and anything/everything else just come-what-may, as long as they're together; most people actually have other needs/wants that also need to be fulfilled in their life/relationship too in order for them to feel truly comfy and content or at-ease. And I think a lot of people neglect that side of things, just falling so deep into the love side instead, that once the other stuff starts coming up they simply don't know how to reconcile the two sides of things together anymore. But the fact that Yoly said "if I were choosing me, I feel like it would be Xander" and then said immediately "why do I feel like I'm making a mistake" after choosing Mal and walking away from Xander should have been the first clue. Like, giirrrll, if you feel like you're making a mistake-you're probably making the wrong choice for yourself! 😅😅🙃😶 I dunno.. maybe they wouldn't have worked out in the long-run either, I have no idea, but I do know that it was pretty apparent especially by the end of things that Yoly and Mal needed to just call-it and let it go and move on .. one way or another . . but they were simply too afraid of losing the familiar and/or facing the unknown. It is a terrible idea to stay with someone just because you feel obligated to not give up on it, because of all the history or the fact that you were the one who issued the "marry me" ultimatum so you'd feel bad about essentially just changing your mind and taking it back like that. SMH.

Happily watched the reupload! I've never voluntarily watched a reality dating show, but I will always watch one of Amanda's responses to them.

Legends were here before the reupload 💪🏽

I literally just finished watching the last episode of The Good Place and Netflix recommended me The Ultimatum… Then I got the notification about this video.

so fun to be able to watch this again with you Amanda!! loved hearing your outrage thru the series thank you for suffering for us! 💜

These reality shows would actually get so much better if a therapist was involved! Like on set around these people. I'm sure so many of us would be interested in watching the psychology behind people's behavior!!

This show left me feeling so let down and hopeless. They all let me down. I do believe that Yoly has some serious issues, but I don’t believe that she is evil and I don’t really believe that she was only interested in Xander’s bank account. I think she genuinely wanted to be a mom, and seeing that Xander wanted what she wanted and had the means to make it happen was just a bonus. I think people are harshly judging that detail, and oversimplifying the thought process with that.

I did the timeline thing. Ended up with a $6000 wedding, destroyed credit, and last name I hate😅. Yes, I could change it back but the amount of money that cost is not something I want to pay.

I haven't actually watched this show, only Amanda's and Jennie JD's videos, but I honestly feel really bad for Tiff. The fact that the show producers didn't take any sort of precautions to keep Tiff safe when Mildred admitted to getting violent in the past is disgusting. You could not pay me enough to be on one of these shows.

Oh my gosh I’m so glad you did a video on this. I saw this in my feed and was intrigued. Thanks Amanda!!

Thank you for calling out Lexi’s hypocrisy and treating everyone with empathy and acknowledging the nuance of each situation. People have been so scary and extreme in their reactions to this show, loving & hating contestants so intensely. Grateful for this video. ♥️♥️♥️

Thank you Amanda for doing this. After watching the first season I knew I couldn't do it again. It definitely leaves you emotionally drained and dead inside.

I cannot express how much of a trouper you are for sitting through all this Miss Amanda. Your sacrifice is so powerful (and so much fun to watch)

Thank you for your sacrifice in watching these shows and condensing them so others don't have to, I know I'd feel drained actually watching the show hhhh Also pls we need more gameshow host amanda, it resonates so much May the algorithms be in your favour 🏳‍🌈✨

I needed a score card of some sort because it was hard to follow who was who but it was very entertaining while also depressing but what the hell, I watched because I'm depressed and mad at various people and this helped so thank you Amanda. I don't know how to share it on instagram because I'm old but I put it on facebook.

This show had so much drama, way more than the season before. Vanessa DEF starts off as the weirdo who isn't taking this seriously, but I do believe she grows from the beginning to the reunion. I think she got a lot of hate, especially from Lexi, for stupid reasons. Everyone is there to get a following from the show.... like Lexi is literally a whole influencer now. So her accusing Vanessa of going there for clout is hypocritical and ironic. Lexi turns into a bully against her own partner, Rae, and just becomes a weird person by the end. Like WHY would you tell your parents that Rae had sex... She is SOOO out of pocket lol. Yoly and Mildred are the biggest villain's of this season. DV IS NOT REDEEMABLE. The fact that Yoly agrees with Mildred and doesn't care about Tiff's side is wild. Also, the way Yoly was nasty with Vanessa at the reunion, was so of putting. It isn't excusable because Vanessa was being SUPER tame. It's like... of course Vanessa is gonna bring up them (Xander & Yoly) seeing each other and planning a trip, it's sketchy AF and SHOULD be brought up. This season was so damn messy and I want there to be a new season tbh lmao.

I legit just finished watching this before you posted this video... Perfect timing because this show was wild 😅

😂😂😂 Deeply messy show. Thank you for watching it for us 💖

Rewatching while gaming with headphones on for the algorithm. Loved the video, thanks Amanda!

Bless you Amanda for watching things that suck to entertain us with your reactions.

I’ve been struggling with my anxiety for a couple of weeks due to an accident I had, where I severely injured one of my knees. I have had long and intense panic attacks since then, which makes hard to even stream series or movies, or listen to music to try to relax. Luckily! I ran into your channel today, and I’ve been binging your videos like there is no tomorrow. Your style, critical thinking wit, and personality just hit the spot in my brain to allow myself to have a break from my thoughts. Gracias totales 😊❤

Definitely not defending Mildred and I'm not a therapist but I have heard of therapists being so triggered by a person or couple's issues that they had to remove themself.

5:45 the Vanessa effect, making all the other shit people look better because she’s at least loud about her bs

I came into this video not knowing or carrying about any of this and left way more invested than I had any right to be. This is A+ content, keep up the great work

Got u fam, rewatching cus I love how you got more and more into these couples’ relationships

Finally! A good recap lol I might have to subscribe because you were so spot on!!! I've had so many convos trying to talk about the most obvious things but people are so wrapped up in other things I couldn't care less about. Well done 🎉

Back and watching again! You’re our hero, Amanda- the hero we need and deserve lmao

So insane how I have never seen any show or movie Amanda is talking about, but at times like these I am quite happy about it.

Yes! Have had this on my watch list for a while and was hoping for a review first!

I love commentary videos like this because they give me summaries of all the drama and horrors of reality shows, and I can stay relatively unaffected with only half an hour of my time taken up!

Netflix has a "where are they now" article that talks about how people are doing after the reunion. It seems as though Aussie is getting therapy.

Your videos always save me so much time in life, thank you!

This is.... one of the shows of all time.