Nice guy habits you need to stop NOW

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Being a nice guy doesn't mean you should allow women or people in general to walk all over you. There are habits that are keeping you from reaching your best potential. Kick those habits to the curb!
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00:00 - Intro
02:52 - Habit 1
05:15 - Habit 2
06:38 - Habit 3
09:46 - Habit 4

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@jossell911 Жыл бұрын

As someone whose been called too nice. I’m learning to change. Mission: Put yourself first. Value yourself. Have self respect and set boundaries!!!! Very crucial vid💯

@kevinsekete1765 Жыл бұрын

Very good.

@richluetoure5386 Жыл бұрын

Good. Me too.

@cleophasnamayiotenyo4845 Жыл бұрын

Good, i have learned, am going to change

@JohnDoe-nm5le Жыл бұрын

Just because you put yourself first doesn't mean you wouldn't be a little bitch. e.g. "I'm about to be in a stressful situation so I'll just put myself first and not do what I should do because it's safer and feels better. I won't walk up and talk to that attractive woman." Or... "I value myself so I'll just stay at home and play video games or watch T.V. because I don't want to get hurt or die." Nice guys are nice because they're cowards and have no other choice but to be nice. If you want to not be a coward, then you should do things despite being afraid to do them even if it means putting yourself at risk. Men who aren't nice and are capable of speaking up against the group or whatever are men who have proven themselves capable. In other words, men who have been through some hard shit that was tough, challenging, grueling, or anything difficult and lived through it and gained valuable experience from it to the point they can inspire others to push themselves to those limits and beyond as well.

@henshawosong5469 Жыл бұрын

I think that a lot of people don't get that some people are genuinely nice. I am not a people pleaser. It actually pleases me to be helpful. Some of us were raised to be selfless like Jesus and put others needs before our own. Self sacrificing. Some of us simply do not have the energy to start a fight. Not because we are scared but it's not how I want to spend my day. So if I tell a woman what wrong and we fight about it sometimes I just want peace. I know I can hurt her with my words and it can take her to a mental institution if I was honest and trying hurt her the way she try to hurt me. So I'll rather allow the disrespect because I don't want to be the reason for someone elses trauma. Best thing to do is to abandon disrespectful women... Out of empathy no not because I am scared of fighting. So I am usually conflict avoidant with a woman that is headstrong. So I come off as a push over with these type of women. I simply have a very high tolerance for bullshit. Empathetic to a fault. I have dealt with my anger issues so much that I can't remember the last time I was angry because my anger can drown me. I can get angry to a point where I can feel the bitter taste in my throat. So from a very young age I knew my anger could either kill me or hurt someone else so I changed from one extreme to another extreme. All of these set me up to be taken advantage of with the wrong woman.

@LebronNOTJames1300 4 ай бұрын

I remember in high school I use to hear girls say this about me out loud to people “he’s weird, he so nice, and text me good morning beautiful every morning.” And those same girls that treated me like that now got 5 to 6 kids and a few baby fathers who don’t even help them. I lost the battle but I won that WAR 😌

@nurhayat81 2 ай бұрын

Amen brother 👏🏽

@boxoffisa 25 күн бұрын

In the end nice guys win. I can’t change myself and taint my character in need to win a narcissist heart.

@LebronNOTJames1300 23 күн бұрын

@@boxoffisa fa sho 💙

@Comic_control 3 күн бұрын

Yes it's not about losing the battle but wining the war

@johndasilva2686 Күн бұрын

That’s right good for you.

@Raj-cl7he Жыл бұрын

Setting healthy boundaries will automatically make you seem like a bad boy. What changed for me is that I started noticing how much my qualities of being nice to others was actually affecting my self esteem, my confidence, my opinions, even my right to speak up. Once you see how it affects you will start making steps to better your self

@legion1630 Жыл бұрын

many don't recognize how it affects them

@ernestbannerman9868 Жыл бұрын

Thanks Very much my Dear ❤️❤️💯💯💯

@XPOSEAFRICAMEDIA 7 ай бұрын

Hi sis... You were talking about me, I was in that category for many years, and trust me it is killing me until I learn to say no, I learn to look after myself. Being a nice guy will never make anyone love you more instead you are being used. Thank you!

@soladah432 6 ай бұрын

The best video I have watched in a long while...thank you Jessica.

@princeeleanyakalu7960 Жыл бұрын

I love this,I've been a nice guy and has been used and stupid to some friends and families, trying to please people has been my greatest problem. Today,I turn a new leaf

@rondavid7413 Жыл бұрын

Forget that stay blessed Anyone who doesn't like nice is EVIL Matthew 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Maintain a nice peaceful atmosphere around you I've seen evil mean women desperately in need of what the nice guy has been abundantly blessed with So Being nice is a position of strength that comes with being blessed just keep an uncompromised vision of what u want The being nice part irritates the evil ones when they can't manipulate you Being nice myself with abundance I see many mistake my kindness for weakness they're predictable a mile a way & I win every argument by what makes the most sense

@isazaki3056 Жыл бұрын

As a former nice guy. I would advice most guys to become a gentleman instead of being a nice guy or a bad man.

@solomonighede7133 Жыл бұрын

Yes, thank Jessica you helped me on the topic relating to my past relationship with a girl I know feeling guilty of my self for not put myself out for her , 0

@kerronewen3162 Жыл бұрын

Great advice 👏

@Kats_ronnie Жыл бұрын

Bad guys carries more weight coz it loads more weight

@carlosverde-datingtips7001 Жыл бұрын

I hear ya - Isazaki! A lot of people get it twisted, they think they actually need to be a “bad boy” in order to get the benefits bad boys get. And that’s not true at all, all you need, is to do some of the things they do that come off naturally to them. Such as being “independent”. Bad boys are rarely ever clingy and needy, they don’t constantly need a woman, they’re ok either way - they march to the beat of their own drums… and this is what you may need to do if you want to start being successful with women as well! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

@isazaki3056 Жыл бұрын

@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 Well thank you for your reply. I totally get you. What you have mentioned in your reply is something Jordon B. Peterson usually encourages most guys to do. To become a gentle monster and learn to integrate our shade. Hence it's important for a man to have a good balance between his good and bad self. Choosing the former over the latter in most scenarios would make him a gentleman or/and a gentle monster. These character traits will attract women.

@niiadomnortey Жыл бұрын

Learning how to say "No" and not feeling guilty about it is the best thing that you can do for yourself

@text3plexfinderoninstagram97 Жыл бұрын

This message is to recognize your contribution to the team's success. Your commitment had been exemplary and your hard-work is an inspiration to everyone around you You're a truly a professional

@KNByam Жыл бұрын

True. Especially in my element in the gym.

@mrshinrillaify Жыл бұрын

💯

@joemiller8482 Жыл бұрын

I agree

@Sammie551 Жыл бұрын

Especially to women who use these emojis....."🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺"

@edemlawe2430 Жыл бұрын

The accuracy of the points you raised in this video is astonishing, Jessica. I'm subscribing to your channel because of this video. Great job.

@fawohelvis397 Жыл бұрын

Wow this is a great eye-opener to me. I have spent almost all my life being a nice guy trying to please everyone and ending up being the most used, most abused and most unrewarded. I'm changing this with radicalism!!!

@antonyndegwa6265 Жыл бұрын

The 4 Nice-Guy Habits to STOP are: 1. PEOPLE PLEASING thus living by IMPOSSIBLE standards. 2. Too much AGREEABLENESS, which kills your INDIVIDUALITY. 3. SAYING YES to everyone's requests thus allowing EXPLOITATION. 4. Failing to STAND UP for yourself when insulted/harmed/threatened. Adios.

@antonyndegwa6265 Жыл бұрын

@Hutton Patricia May all be well in your second try of the relationship.

@loszhor Жыл бұрын

Thanks.

@carlmaslow1870 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the summary 👍🏽

@RealNzlord Жыл бұрын

Don't get that last point I'll fight who ever pisses me off or my family treating people how I want to be treated shouldnt be a sign of being nice I'm also quiet so respect me I'll respect you don't give it out

@sosososwaggva Жыл бұрын

My man saved me enough time to watch another video appreciate you my guy.

@Baruch994 Жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong with being a nice person... your not meant for everyone! We are just living in a hateful nasty world!

@donnelladams8362 Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@malanmashilipa2662 Жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same

@muritalaakande69 Жыл бұрын

Being nice has to be moderated.

@OmniTheAlchemist Жыл бұрын

But if you keep doing it you look desperate and it feels forced

@earrth911 Жыл бұрын

So true, its evil vs god.

@mayowaokunoye6522 Жыл бұрын

I swear Jessica you are just too correct.All this points you made from point one to point six are just exactly the point. I in most cases find myself in this kind of habit/attitude.

@smangankosi5124 Жыл бұрын

Thank you I was also that nice guy putting people first and helping everyone when they come seeking for help. Thank you❤️

@jonathanv8305 Жыл бұрын

Never change who you are for nobody, if she don’t appreciate who you are she don’t deserve you. Let the trash stay in the trash can. 💯

@earlgoodlett7593 6 ай бұрын

sure you right let the trash stay in the trash

@JosphAdams-vd5nq 6 ай бұрын

More gracias

@deontuigamala 5 ай бұрын

Facts!💯

@snOags 3 ай бұрын

Good words. Thanks

@michaelchilaka3113 19 күн бұрын

Exactly 💯

@edecyprian2809 Жыл бұрын

The truth is that people see nice guys as people who are weak. Sometimes it's really very difficult to change from the real you, but I think is high time I start being nice to myself too than that way I do to people. Thanks a lot Jessy

@LoveInTheMiddle Жыл бұрын

Be nice! It’s fine, just also take care of yourself too. BOTH can co-exist…

@alexfletcher1492 Жыл бұрын

Yea bro, because being nice is wah I am I can't change

@simuspot Жыл бұрын

same

@millyrock4455 Жыл бұрын

Hey its been easy for me in the last year I've disowned everyone close to me and I don't do anything for anyone ever thats all I've learned from videos like this and the world lately

@teiloojukwu231 Жыл бұрын

I'm telling u o...

@zichibobo Жыл бұрын

Love your page. Your videos have really cleared up some blurry areas in my life. Thank you 🙏🏾

@dennisgounden682 Жыл бұрын

Thank u Jessica.U are amazing and you comments are so true and absolutely good and true.I cannot stop watching your channels.

@douglasmusamba4673 Жыл бұрын

Somebody tipped me about the badness of being a nice guy. My previous relationships all ended in tears. Since then I transformed myself to a different person. Below are my principals which I follow either in a relationship or at work. 1. Do the right thing and never do things to please your boss at work or a lady u are with in a relationship. 2. Do not agree everything your partner says. 3. Don't be scared to lose her somebody who truly love u will never pressurize u. 4. Always be a big thinker.

@ebenezerdonkorx-ray4561 Жыл бұрын

Good

@tangaafrica1155 Жыл бұрын

I salute number 3

@loszhor Жыл бұрын

Thanks.

@charleslsledgeiii3683 Жыл бұрын

Very informative and helpful

@alvinsimba734 Жыл бұрын

One thing for men. Do not date women that you work with and the reason why I'm saying that as a man is because it only takes one move and those women that you think may like you , may end up sabotaging you and your job. For example, accused of something that you clearly didn't do. So you are better off dating someone that no one knows that you as an individual that you only know.

@sinethembasibiya4327 Жыл бұрын

Being a gentleman, setting boundaries & putting yourself first is always the best option

@michaelmungu3339 Жыл бұрын

Jessica!! My tears are flowing inside, I love this.!!!

@jammer0856 6 ай бұрын

You really hit me Jessica!! This is my first time to watch your video and I felt everything in my heart what you said!! Put your self first is a great answer because my bff I met 10 months I met her online and she lives in the Philippines and she inform me to put my self first cause she said I'm so nice and don't let anyone take advantage of you!! I finally start saying NO and you are right!! It feels better but sometimes I still feel guilty but I'm changing from that!! Again thank you Jessica!!

@jacoblantei1540 Жыл бұрын

Sometimes as a dude it’s actually very important to stay quiet. Even if you know the solution to a problem that’s being discussed in your presence. As a guy you should be able to analyze and pick up energies around you without staring 👀 or opening your mouth

@feloniousmonk321 11 ай бұрын

This is a great comment

@johnwest6977 17 күн бұрын

Completely agree you just gotta read the room sometimes

@kinchcherry5227 Жыл бұрын

I politely slightly disagree. It's the people pleasers that don't win...a person can be kind and compassionate but with boundaries. We should not mistake people pleasing with being kind or nice

@advils12 Жыл бұрын

100% concisely spot on! Personally, there's a lot of these social media people being psychoanalyst to every life situation. Ergo, I SAY...Never, ever mistake kindness for weakness! Assumptions are the Mother of all Fu..ups!!

@user-sk9sp7pe4y Жыл бұрын

Underrated Comment

@opimpibar4438 Жыл бұрын

@@advils12 Omar sterling fan?

@toborismattox3163 Жыл бұрын

Exactly you treat people with decentcie They take that for nice bullshit funny thing is everyone has a mean side

@captainkeyboard1007 Жыл бұрын

Jessica Opare-Saforo did criticize people-pleasing, and so does the Holy Bible. The Bible describes it as "being a respecter of persons." This trait is not good to possess. People are not perfect and do make mistakes.

@fistonmugisho7106 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for this wonderful advice,I was a victim for being too nice to many people and been used but I changed and got my respect back.

@peterpn3215 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much I have been a prisoner of being nice to everyone but have now been delivered may God richly bless you

@kingsleynwoke7338 Жыл бұрын

Well done Jessica. You said it all. When I started to say no to my family members because I felt being used , I became an enemy . So much emotional blackmail and criticism but I stood my ground.

@modikiramaisa4619 Жыл бұрын

I’m going through this now I’m living for my mother and I want to live my own life now

@antonyndegwa6265 Жыл бұрын

It might be worthwhile learning about NARCISSISM too. Users can be narcissistic abusers.

@limitlessfelh1109 Жыл бұрын

I'm proud of you. Going through the same issues.

@richworldba Жыл бұрын

Great, am in ur shoes

@user-rn4tt9gw2p Жыл бұрын

Ditto for me…they told me f my chip on my shoulder…when I grew up without my brothers and a broken home

@amosokilong6917 Жыл бұрын

After reading,a book by Corey,"how to be 3% man",it opened my eyes,just as Jessica has said, being a people pleaser especially if you are are yes person in regards to relationship,she will be see you as weak and a trap for manipulation, from that moment have learned to be me,to comfortably say no,and stand on my grounds, no more "nice guy", for me,I have now the freedom to be me.

@nqobilenyathi7699 Жыл бұрын

may i kindly have that book too friend. the 3% man you mentioned

@marvingrinage5423 Жыл бұрын

Jessica. You are on point. I can relate to your advice roughly seventy percent. I really like the fact that you speak about subject matter from your heart. Alot of advisors need work in this area.

@andrewkoech1646 Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Jesica. That's all I can give you. you've really transformed me.

@nerdi3984 Жыл бұрын

My first time watching your video and you've won me over. I hit the subscribe button before you even ended the video. People took my "nice guyness" as weakness for a long time. When I eventually stopped tolerating certain people who used to take advantage of me, I became an enemy to them. Thanks for making this video.

@nzangaanthonyjacob8832 10 ай бұрын

It's worse when you are dealing with a gas lighter

@princepacifico1512 Жыл бұрын

A polite man and a people pleaser are 2 different things. A people pleaser aka "nice guy", has no boundaries and is a doormat for everyone. He's afraid of losing friendships and relationships and does everything even destroying himself to keep those relationships. That's the difference.. it's not difficult to be polite and not be a doormat for everyone just have boundaries thats all

@abwizzybaby 10 ай бұрын

Am so happy for you Ma Jess. Am proud I saw you subscription grow from 120k followers to 1 million followers and more, keep it going Ma Jess, you're the best😘.

@olatundeowodimilehin827 Жыл бұрын

You simply made this specially for me, dear Sis.! More wisdom and God bless.

@anthonyokonkwo843 Жыл бұрын

From all you've said, I find myself in between. I am neither a nice guy nor am I a bad guy. I am just a guy that please people when it's needed and right and don't when it's not necessary. Know yourself and feel free to be yourself anytime and anywhere

@thokozanid Жыл бұрын

One of the best decisions I ever took in my life was to subscribe to your channel. 🇿🇦

@kofiappiah7034 Жыл бұрын

She’s really great at what she does.. 👌

@audaciousmona1310 Жыл бұрын

So true, if you aren't being yourself and always trying to live for people, you'll always go through the worse in this, for a lot of people are on their personal agendas, being too nice won't benefit you anything but hurts and disappointments most of the time... You'll always wonder what you doing wrong and find nothing, but what really do wrong is the 'too much' of Mr Nice guy. Thanks for the lectures, you really play a great portion in our lives, especially the fact of being a woman and bringing the facts and truth to the minds of men... It makes you a significant blessing unto us. Thank you so much Jessy ❤️

@sexikenny09 Жыл бұрын

Great ministration, I am aware of this treat in me and I have to do better. Thanks so much. It is my first time seeing your post and I enjoyed it already.

@Raptured_and_back Жыл бұрын

I think its also a good thing to be able to defend yourself and hurt someone taking the initiative to hurt and take advantage of you. It makes them learn. There's no nice girl term because women are only nice/submissive the more attracted they are to a man.

@babyluvjr Жыл бұрын

That's some of the realest shit u ever spoke, pimpin!! Women that really aren't feeling u like they SAY, will ALWAYS SHOW u their TRUE feelings!!

@Nwokwulevictor Жыл бұрын

Jessica. I've watched your videos for sometime now and I must say you've really helped me improve my social life and game at large..I used to be this soft inferior dude but now,I am confident and I have had the most attention I've ever had in my life these past months thanks to you..you always give me content I need even before I think of it..I like me now because of your videos thanks a billion.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@L.LuckyMokea 6 ай бұрын

Thank you Jess.. I just love it. It's different, and unique content and amazing having to hear this now. My friend has been showing me this for and I took lite. I suppose I had to hear it from you!❤

@kingsleygodson3219 7 ай бұрын

You are talking directly to me These are facts and it's affecting my business.

@bigq1977 Жыл бұрын

This video definitely hit on the nice guy stigma. This has to be your best video to date. Thank you.

@samuelagyeman1644 Жыл бұрын

This is exactly what we need in the Social Media space. Love your videos. Keep up the good works. God richly bless you for sharing your wisdom.

@Preciousguyrocks Жыл бұрын

I love you Jessica, you are such an intelligent and wise speaker. You speak with so much wisdom. When I listen to your or appears you speak my language most times. You tend to cut across cultural and racial barriers. Most of what you say is applicable in most cultures. Keep up the good work.

@kobinaforson992 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing! Very informative video

@daudakamara728 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so kindly Jessica Your channel is not only an encyclopedia but addictive as well Your presentations are out of this world

@nwokochabright1995 Жыл бұрын

I found myself in all of this and i think this video is speaking directly to me. Am grateful, finding this channel have helped me so much. Thanks Jessica

@NefariousDreary Жыл бұрын

I like to tell people that if you're a nice guy, don't only be a nice guy. Show people that there's more to you than nice and that there are consequences for mistreating you.

@plumduff3303 Жыл бұрын

Spot on...I'm the product of a narcissist family...been used by most people my whole life...

@maxwelltsipoaka3654 Жыл бұрын

I feel this video was made for me 100% Thanks very much, Mad. Jessica.

@tonyeentertainment5292 Жыл бұрын

You are so brilliant the way you articulate on every issue. Thanks for keeping it real Jessica.

@peteradeleye5713 Жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for this. You are on point. I am learning to put myself first and to voice out my opinion too.

@thomasacheampong2862 Жыл бұрын

Fantastic video, full of common sense that worth listening . The content is one of the best that any KZfaqr could offer. Many thanks Jessica, I stick my both thumbs up.

@abongderic8565 Жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot for reminding me that I've been making a mistake by trying to please everyone around me which is an impossibility, worst all this thing of a nice guy has totally destroyed and ridiculed my relationships both with friends and family not forgetting the romantic one's, but thank God I've learned my lessons and this reminder from you again!

@lekasville Жыл бұрын

Timely Message! Thank you, Jessica 🤎

@MojoSun1 Жыл бұрын

This video is me. I'm 65 years old and have been single for over 20 years. After watching your video, now I have to change myself again. I wish I saw a video like this one, year ago. Thank You for creating this video. Many Blessings To You. Blessed Be

@robertb7529 Жыл бұрын

I really needed to hear this. I love your videos. I'm from the US and your advice is needed here too

@benovarner9945 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for topic miss Jessica I needed to hear this . This sums up my whole life. Being tool for granted. Being silent about stuff now I must change this to change my life. I feel this is the only way to become more happy about myself and what I do keep the great topics coming peace n luv

@Kenzo_254 Жыл бұрын

Bless your soul. The message struck home.

@Shypoet1 3 ай бұрын

Good video. Describes me, and more importantly, it describes my 20 year old grandson. Sending it too him!

@lawalabimbola9639 Жыл бұрын

Wow! this video has really been helpful, saying "NO" has always been my problem cos i don't just want to let anyone down and oftentimes it comes with dire consequences i had to bear all alone. Thanks so much @least i know i'm not a bad guy by saying No

@godwingabriel3775 Жыл бұрын

So far this is best video of Jessica I've watched!OMG!😮,she was talking to me directly...I love this video,it spoke to me deeply, all these years I've been the "Nice Guy" and I've seen what comes with it... Thanks a lot Jess, you're awesome

@justjoe9208 Жыл бұрын

This is a beautiful piece of advice for men who always want acceptance by everyone!! Just stop it already coz it never works. Just be who you are. Stand by your principles always!!!! BIG up Jessy👍

@angelarutoh1791 Жыл бұрын

True

@dalisobanda5575 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. I will be who I am. A nice guy...

@mrluvit8232 Жыл бұрын

@@dalisobanda5575 fully agree 👍 let's all do our part 2 help make average nice guys 🆒️ 😎 again!

@ZFlyingVLover Жыл бұрын

You can't make everyone happy so stop trying, be a gentleman but lookout for number one, YOU, and if you have time to help other then do so. But don't put yourself second.

@Mwesi 5 ай бұрын

OK, you got me. I subscribed today. FUNNY you said I would in the first video I saw of you yesterday I was like NO! Here I am. Thank you.

@DeLegacy_tv 7 ай бұрын

Can i give you more than one like..the video was so comprehensive and encompasses all aspects of Misdeeds done to nice guys out there I was also planning on making a talk show on this but coming across this now made me know that you have done a good job and did even better by put the full message I had in mind out there for the world to see and for every nice guy out there to brace up and know when to say “No” but the issues still remains that nice guys like us would always remain nice and even after knowing that we are been used in most occasions may still just want to remain nice and let things sly God help us

@isaacnigare6302 Жыл бұрын

It's never easy to change the real you to a new you, but I think it's high time we accept changes in our lives

@evanthomas1859 Ай бұрын

If you change who you are then who are you? See we don't get to choose much in this world. Choosing who you want to be.

@arincollins3920 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Jessica. This video is timely dear, I feel I was the culprit here and you have rescued me by the way.

@synalidiarra5138 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much. This is me 100%. I learned from It

@mukondelelic.mulaudzi8357 Жыл бұрын

You are truly a caring Sister Jessica, helping your Brothers out like this. Please continue with this great work, some of us need it. It provides great insights into Self.

@NejiHyuga961 Жыл бұрын

Thanks to this channel I’ve found where I’ve been going wrong with things. Now I no longer am blaming the other person.

@robertgeorge177 Жыл бұрын

Yes, you are right that when you face bad behaviour, it's better to let the person know that you don't appreciate it. And most of all, as you said, learn to say 'no' firmly but politely. Thank you!

@peterodekina4369 Жыл бұрын

This is probably one of the best of your videos to me. I was so blessed. Such wisdom! Thank you so much JessicaOs

@adonismache Ай бұрын

Thank You mem,,, nice stuff, I actually benefited

@chishimbabc4004 Жыл бұрын

Indeed truth lives here. Point number three 🔥 🔥 well explained. Thanks Jess for that point. 🙌

@Mind-H-Walk Жыл бұрын

This was a great watch, and a helpful reminder for me, I had the tough exterior initially bc I realize the manipulation and fake persona ppl had. Decided to change that to be a better Christian Left me at war with myself while everyone around was at peace. Had to change after a few years bc I realized I had the wrong understanding. There’s nothing wrong with boundaries or standing for what you believe in, be a man have a back bone, hunker down on your principles. Notice there’s no such thing as a nice girl or nice girls finish last Lol

@stevenb5385 5 ай бұрын

you are marvellous - insightful, direct but still very human - you are impressive!

@bensonsikolia5260 Жыл бұрын

you are a great mentor indeed,the knowledge you impart to the nations is great!

@sylvesterese466 Жыл бұрын

Jess ', the moment I picked up my boot from the straps, I discovered that am now quick to see a manipulative attitude from both genders, particularly the women . Am at peace, with myself now... Its Bs, pleasing people. You're 101% right, Jess' Those that will love you will and those that don't won't...

@jerryabe2972 Жыл бұрын

Always thankful for your videos . Helpful

@kirondesamuel1013 8 ай бұрын

Thank u so much for sharing this U have been talking about me jesca

@josephngalamulume1635 Жыл бұрын

Great video! Important life lesson! Thank you, Jessica.

@edemogachristian8749 Жыл бұрын

Jessica I am speechless right now, but the truth is you are pointing out my weakness. Thank you darling Jessy ❤️

@johnmikiladilufu6890 Жыл бұрын

SHE'S ABSOLUTELY RIGHT, NICE SHOW MRS JESSICA, I LOVE THIS

@mlungisimabuza595 Жыл бұрын

wow his message was Powerful, i'm glad i followed you. Thank you.

@malineli3266 Жыл бұрын

May your week go as smooth and respectful as the personality you present 🙏🏽💯🇧🇧

@bettybless1764 Жыл бұрын

When you stand up for yourself by not allowing people to insult you, disrespect you, take you for granted or take advantage of you as said you're named "difficult " arrogant, proud among others . Its not easy where to strike the balance.

@johnharpin8039 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for this advice. Have been a typical nice guy all my life, have suffered on a personal and professional level but now, I hope, that I have the knowledge to set boundaries.

@jumaamiri8804 Жыл бұрын

Thank you very much sister jesica !

@mickofoxy1117 Жыл бұрын

This is my thing and I'm thankful for listening to this one.

@josephosagwanel-heart41 Жыл бұрын

You just described me. I feel satisfied though that people are comfortable around me.

@maslahali8729 26 күн бұрын

Well for sure you have got my subscription and well said Most if not all of what you have said is true.

@danielmusinguzi1029 11 ай бұрын

Thanks a lot Jessica Is. You just described me and gave me a way forward

@lekasville Жыл бұрын

Nice guys stand up for everyone else, but themselves.

@RicardoLopez-ty4kn Жыл бұрын

100%.

@usenlance1574 Жыл бұрын

Your channel actually helped me so much I love listening to your topics thanks for helping me be nice to others finished me i lost confidence and selfe-estine on myself, I must confessed to you, it finished my selfenstine and confident but I'm a little bit getting little confident on myself now. Thanks once again.

@user-jp8xr3ni8m Жыл бұрын

Jessica, you have really made my day and suffice it to say that this has been my experience from childhood to present, trying to be seen as Mr Right and yet have never satisfied everyone to the point of being considered as an optional person. Thanks so much for sharing your story with us.