Man this is me 100% it's 3 months into college and everyone already has their friend groups and I'm just sitting here in my dorm on a Saturday night watching KZfaq. Making friends is hard haha

the worst thing is that everyone in college loves to pretend to be so chill and nonchalant, so when i’m trying to actively pursue a friendship (friendly texting, asking to hang out, blah blah) people interpret me as coming off “too strong” or looking desperate. which is so ridiculous because the only way to become close with people is to constantly talk to them!!! it’s so frustrating to text people and either get ignored or not get a response until 3 days later...do people in college just genuinely not care?? i seriously don’t get it.

i literally don't socialize with anyone outside of my family lmao

Everyone tells you "You'll make friends and meet people and fall in love" and it just.... never happens. All you ever get is silence. Stares. Half-assed hellos in the hall. As though you're some kind of alien trying to be a part of society and failing miserably to fit in. I just don't understand how it works.

I'm so depressed right now for this very same reason. Even though I'd love to hang out with people and spread love, no one wishes to spend time with me. I don't understand why I'm so worthy of all their ignorance and hate. For now, I'm just gritting my teeth and holding on

I relate to this so fucking much it's scary. I had a lot of friends in high school but now I'm going to college across the country and I'm struggling to make friends and I see everyone else making friends and I feel so left out. It makes me feel even worse seeing all my hs friends making friends and adjusting so easily

It is SUCH a relief to watch this video and read the comments and realise that other people are experiencing this too. I went through this my first semester of university. I'm also really picky and I never tried to pursue relationships that I didn't feel I could develop a strong and deep connection. I definitely struggled to find people that were like minded and that I got along with really well so I felt pretty lonely and unhappy at times. Still going through this but thanks so much for making this video.I'm starting to learn that this is actually quite common, especially if you move to a new city where you don't know anyone.

I relate so much. I have barely any friends now that im in college. Glad im not alone. ily

I was surprised by how much I could relate to this. I used to have a lot of acquaintances in High School and only 2 or 3 people I considered actual trustworthy friends, one of them I had been friends with since Kindergarten lol. I feel it's more about the quality of your friendships and not the quantity. I have trouble getting to know new people because I do have some social anxiety. This is gonna sound cliche but you aren't alone.

I’m in senior year about to graduate and I started out college with no friends. I didn’t party and I only talked to one person in my freshman year only because she was in my group from class. I felt really lonely so in my Sophomore year I decided to get friends and I went into the wrong crowd, I ended up in a cult, drugs, loosing my virginity and getting kicked out of my major. I had to cut off all my friends, I only kept the one good friend I made that I don’t even talk to frequently, but now I got my grades back up and I’m doing an internship in the government. Guys don’t be like me be happy with who you are, it’s better to have no friends than 1000 bad ones, don’t force friendships choose your friends wisely. If friends don’t come it’s okay just focus on you.

I'm in my freshmen year of college right now and I relate to this so much. fuck. I really have NO friends.

literally me. sitting alone in my room😅

Hi we're the same person. Let's just be best friends now okay.

Tiiiifff, omg I'm in college and I totally feel you. I want genuine friendships, but everyone has their friend groups. It sucks :( I hope you have an amazing time in France tho!

ok i though i was the only one who felt like that...

3 years in uni and no close friends.

I graduated college last year and I think I managed to not make any friends I actually hung out with or hang out with regularly. I lived off campus, but I also tend to feel like talking to most people is like holding a weight above my head for the whole conversation hahaha When I meet people that I click with though I hold on for dear life and make them get fries with me

apparently no one likes me but then again it's not like they reached out to know me in the first place

Second year in uni (its almost over ) and I still don’t have friends

This is literally one of my biggest fears about college next year... Everyone I know is rooming with their best friend from high school and I'm gonna be chilling 14 hours away.

i miss when you made these types of videos. they’re so amazingly human. the vulnerability and authenticity is beautiful

I don't even have friends at home to miss

i 100% relate to everything you said. i transferred to another school this year, my sophomore year, and i have really struggled with making friends too. i also felt like everyone already established their friend groups and i havent clicked with many people. i try not to get sad about it because i also love to be alone but it does suck to spend every weekend alone. im hoping we both can get through this! it's nice to know im not so alone !!

I’m in this situation 😭 It gets so lonely when I actually want to do something but I have no one to call. Something as simple as going out to the movies or getting a milkshake. I’m a sophomore and it’s definitely hard to make friends now because everyone is already in their groups and I find it hard to infiltrate the spaces. I mostly keep to myself but it’s really lonely sometimes. From South Africa 🇿🇦

i am literally so glad you posted this! im a freshman and everyone has their groups already and no one seems willing to add someone else (me) into their group and i pretty much stay in my dorm all the time and its starting to suck but im the worst at meeting friends and opening up to new people :(

Its my third year in university and I still feel like I have no friends. I meet people and connect with them easily but when it comes down to it no body really ends up sticking around. When high-school ended I was going through a friendship breakup and I feel so sad now knowing that I lost these friends and they all continue to be friends. I made a few friends in first year and kept 1 friend from high school but ever since covid hit it was so hard to keep friendships going. Now im at a place in my life where I desire more friendships and I want them to be genuine but I find it hard to find like-minded people. I'm struggling but ill be okay.

Hey tiffany!! I had suuuch bad anxiety in my first year of university, so i made no new friends outside of the people i was living with. I relate to your story so much because i relied so heavily on my boyfriend rather than pushing myself to be social. HOWEVER, we broke up recently and the experience really influenced me to want to go out and make my own friends, so I joined 3 sports teams and soo many art and political societies on campus, and i've met more people and made more friends in the past 2 weeks than i had in my past 2 years here. Just letting you know, just because people have already 'found' their groups, it's never too late to get out and try new things

Studying abroad is such a great way to meet people you really get close to the people in your program !

The whole hot or cold thing with people I feel too. I only have two close friends that I talk to regularly and then everyone else is just acquaintances. I just can't seem to make new friends!

I’m in my last year of uni & I have zero friends. I had a few my freshman yr but they all transferred/dropped out. I stress walking and attending graduation and having no friends.... Joining clubs/on campus jobs has not helped with making friends either. Like how do you make friends frfr?? But thanks for your video! 24K magic is a banger

i am in the same boat as you are and this has made me feel a bit better about my lonesomeness

Wow that's so weird I was just thinking about this topic. For some reason I feel like I am out growing my friends and it's not that we don't get along anymore I just feel like I need to be around people that inspire me to be a better person.

24k magic is a BANGER

I do have friends, but they either go to university 5 hours away or they’re pursuing local careers that require most of their time (fire/police). I also isolated myself in my first two years of college at community college... and now I’m a transfer, commuter junior at a university I don’t really care about. I have totally lost the ability to make new friends. Sigh. Feel like I’m kind of wasting away the “glory years” I’m supposed to be having... it’s depressing. Glad I’m not alone though.

I relate to this so much! Seriously how do adults make friends?! I need to start a youtube channel because that seems to be the best way

Wow listening to this made me realize that when it comes to making friends I am the same way!

I relate to this so much! My problem is that I'm very social and I constantly reach out to people to try and become friends, so I end up having a variety of very different individual friends (mainly all just very goodaquaintances), but no close knit group where all of my friends and I are friends with each other. I've always wanted that, but since its never happened, I always feel like I have no friends, since I don't have any "best" friends who I can call up any time to do everything with.

iiiiiit's crazy how much i #relate to this struggle dude like..... meeting new people and going out of my way to hang out with ppl i'm not instantly in love with is sooo hard for me, but at the same time.... i'd like to not be alone all the time? like you, i enjoy alone time a lot but some weekends i'm like is this??? how college is supposed to be?? i feel like i'm doing it wrong?? and like i forget who said this (was it you? LOL) but i heard somewhere that ppl i'm gonna really vibe with are gonna be similar to me and i'm a shy kid in most social situations with ppl i don't know well so like, obviously itll take time for me to find those similarly shy/quiet cool ppl. ANYWHO good luck to us?! lol i hope we find our ppl in these new places soooon

It's lunch break in college and I'm hiding in my dorm room...I think that explains everything 😂😂

i think you just need to find others who are more introverted like yourself to chill. investing in anyone is taking a chance but you just wont ever know how the relationship turns out unless you give an inch. love you girl. excited to hear your study abroad opputlrtunity. will be looking out for your vlogs 🐺

Love that honesty ✊🏼 thanks for always keepin it real and being RELATABLE

I’m so lonely in college, anyone want to be friends ._.

this is why I love your channel, you're a real person, so honest, so yourself.

Thank you for making this video. I also only hang out with people from high school, somehow I didn't manage to make serious friends during 5 years of uni... How do adults make friends? That's a really good question, one that I ask myself too.

My two best friends from my hometown go to college together and are even closer now and i get left out and never see them on top of that i moved for college and because of covid have not had the chance to make any friends. I just watch everyone having fun in college and i spend every day alone in my dorm :( plus I’m going through heartbreak which makes me feel even more lonely

Thank you so much for making this video! It’s reassuring to know that I’m not the only one finding it difficult to get out there and be social because you don’t want to be a nuisance.

omg this video has completely summed up what I'm going through right now. and i feel like i've been completely alone in my feelings so its so nice to hear this from you.

I can relate, Im in college and kinda like being on my own. I cant deal with hanging out with people who I cant have stimulating conversations with or a deep connection with. p.s. 24k magic is a banger.

ur vids r the best and u deserve so much more cred girly !!!

I really needed this today. Just broke up with my boyfriend that I had all throughout college and all of my friends were his friends from his childhood. I didn't make a real effort to make lasting, good friendships the past 4 years. Now I have a full-time job, no boyfriend, and no close friends. Making friends as an adult is going to be tough, but at least I know I'm not alone in how i'm feeling.

Wow thank you for making this video. I'm sitting here crying and not even because I'm sad; it's just refreshing to hear someone be vulnerable and explain that they're feeling the EXACT way that I am. I don't know why this video popped up on my feed but I'm so glad it did and completely changed the shitty way I've been feeling lately.

dude i struggle with all of this to!! what really helped me was a continuous reminder to just appreciate people in general. They are all so cool and intricate.There isn't any expectation that you have to know them forever.But just making people feel loved along with you feeling connected to them even in small ways.. is ultimately what its about for me anyways. tiffany it'll happen for you dont worry !!

Woah I wish I had seen this video 2 years ago already! This is so relatable down to always having wanted to be more open/social even though I also already had friends. I also thought that having "just friends" everywhere and all the time was the best & normal thing to do, but I'm so relieved to hear that you & so many commenters have the same experience. Why do we judge ourselves so much for these things that are apparently so normal...

I am so glad you made this video, it is so reassuring to know I'm not the only one struggling to make close friends in college. There are so many expectations that it will be the best time of your life socially and when that's not true it can be extremely disappointing. But at least we are not alone :)

you will make friends in France. No one is coming in with a clique and that will make everyone more willing to open up. Plus, youre an awesome person so you will connect with some great people :)

I mentioned this on your twitter page, but I really think you're doing great. I totally relate to that because while I was in College, I did join a sorority (freshman year) and I came out of college with two good friends from that and three good friends from classes. But I love all of them so much. Keep going! Study abroad in France! Go to a UC! Do you and when you look back, you'll see who was there and who was a true friend :). Thank you for this PSA- I think its so important for people to hear.

having no real friends CAN be a good thing, seeing as we take on many characteristics of the people we are constantly surrounded by. but me too, tiff. me fuckin too

Thank you so much for making this video. I'm a first semester freshman and met like a few people in each of my classes so far but made no friends or hung out with anyone. This was super encouraging :) love you and thank youTiffany!!

this is LITERALLYYYYYY me except I'm going to college in my hometown with everyone from my high school and my best friend goes to another school and I've just always been a loner haha I love death

p.s. I like how honest you are on your channel!

If you have in mind that you're gonna leave and that's the reason you don't make friends you'll never have fun gurl!! Go out there and suggest to ppl you like to hang out even if they already have a friend group. Don't get bored! You may be not that social, but not let it get yourself isolated and if they don't want to hang out with you they lose the company of a great personality. Don' t get disappointed and go on cheerful and positive like that!! Love from Greece 😘

Tiff thank you for this video! I just started university and in the past have found it super easy to make friends but I've been struggling all of a sudden. So just thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

204k is a banger? idk. i loved this vid. love you. keep doing your thang

Also, thank you for bringing a positive attitude to this subject because so many people complain about not having friends and make it sound like such a horrible and unsolvable issue! You don't seem like you give up, girl!

I 100% relate to everything you said, and it's nice to see someone who's just ok with not having friends. I hate myself so much some days because I can't push myself to make friends and I moved to college with nobody. So it's helpful to hear that you've made it through so far with no friends.

This is me right now and me last year. Made a bunch of friends around orientation, lost a lot after fall quarter because thats what happens. Come winter quarter, I was miserable but managed because I was semi close to my roommate so I'd literally look forward to dinner time where we could walk to the dining hall and eat: that was my social life. Now I'm a returning student and I have about zero friends and zero confidence to make any. I'm not into drinking or parties so I have slim options. People often say: join clubs and meet people but that's easier said than done. I've learned class friendships and club friendships are a different ball game, you pretty much only have that ONE thing in common and after the quarter ends or summer comes and the club shuts down for vacation; back where you started. My advice? Come to terms with it and work on being comfortable alone. Ive done great in school in terms of academics and I'm meeting my standards there but I was genuinely disappointed about my social life by the end of freshman year. High schoolers have preconceived ideas when it comes to college: I thought I'd make my BEST friends. I thought I'd meet my future husband or my bridesmaids. Thought id have amazing memories or crazy nights, just didnt happen for me. It's not a fun situation and I finally learned to accept it and stop the pity party. It's a sucky situation and I feel for anyone experiencing it. It's embarrassing to young adults. My schools all across the country and I literally lied to my parents about making friends in order to ease their worries.

ive been watching you for like 6 years and im so proud of u tbhngl

Thanks for sharing something that can be hard to talk about for some people. I can relate and I'm in high school. I'm going to college next year..maybe and this is one of my worries for college.

I think that your videos are so underrated

I totally get you sometimes you just cant find the right people at college and thats totally ok as you said its fine if you find at least a small bunch that are enjoyable human beings haha .. I stick to my highschool friends :)

I feel the same way. I have mostly acquaintances, and I spend a lot of time alone. Anyway, I go to a UC, so if you have any questions, let me know. :)

Hope that studying abroad in France is an amazing experience for you!!! That sounds so exciting!!!!

thank you so much for making this video!! v comforting to know you're not alone. 24k magic is a banger

Last semester, I joined a club that I heard was supposed to be fun out of blindness because I was desperate to make friends. I wasn't really even interested in the club. I'm still in the club right now but I don't fit in. There's a ton of people in it and I do better in making friends in smaller groups. Since I'm not too interested in the club, I am leaving it soon and going to pursue what I am genuinely interested in.

I am an awful person, I actively seek comfort in alll avenues which is ruining my life

Im a senior in college. About to graduate in half a year and i got no friends whatsoever. I had friends but they left or graduated. Tbh, i really dont care at this point. All i care about is graduating and running away from my hometown

i skipped too many classes and thus lost contact with most of the people i met in the early stages now first semester is over and i pretty much got noone

ugh i've been watching so many of your vidoes tiffany!!! been a subbie for a while but not watching your videos regularly. but thank you for making all these hella real and personal videos because i definitely relate and it's amazing that you are so open and vulnerable on your channel!

i literally have the exact same worries about making friends on exchange! i know everyone says you'll definitely make friends but i still feel super nervous about it, and i'm already hyping myself up to put myself out there to make friends! i'm reassured by what you've shared and i can see from later videos you have had no trouble making friends :D

this is really similar to what i'm going through, i'm leaving my school after this semester so i'm not exactly going out of my way to meet new people and hang out with people i don't already know

So much I can relate to here :/ I tend to isolate myself a lot, and as much as I do value my alone time I really do wish I had friends (well I have one friend and we don't see each other too much). I can also relate to the idea of not wanting to seem desperate or invite myself places. I especially hate this cause I have a fear of people hanging out with me out of pity so I don't want people to just be begrudgingly letting me hang out with them

Ugh I relate so much!!!! Ps congrats on France and also hanging out with Reed :-)

wow this is so comforting. i've never related to anything so hard.

Exact same person! I was so unhappy my freshman year, it was better sophomore year but I decided to transfer to my boyfriend's school because he makes me happy and I knew I would meet new people through him! luckily one of my friends also transferred here so I at least have two people to hang out with now. I still get sad sometimes that I have yet to create my own friend group, and not just tag along with my boyfriend but I just feel so unlikable and shy and awkward. I'm so quiet, I don't know how I could get anyone to enjoy my company

Wow ok I don't think I have ever related to another video so much in my entire life. I absolutely know what it feels like to get in the habit of isolating yourself, especially if you're in a relationship. Glad to know I'm not alone xoxo

It feels really good knowing that I'm not the only one who hasn't made friends in college. I'm also in my second year and it's been really hard for me to make new friends because I don't know how hahaha it really is a hard thing to do but by pushing myself out of my comfort zone, I'm getting to know people little by little. I wish us all the best of luck at finding friends lol ❤️

i can relate to this so much! i moved high schools my sophomore year and i'm currently a junior and i still haven't really met anyone who i've become "best friends" with besides one or two people..i talk to a good amount of people in my classes but i'm not really good friends with them..

Wow I didn’t realize that this was an old video! I’m glad it popped up on my feed though because I’m going through such a rough patch with not having any friends at my college and it’s really nice to hear you went through the same thing as well. Just thought I’d drop this comment in the mid of the vid before I forget lol. If you don’t mind, I’d really like to talk to you about how you got over this hump in the road because I’m really having a hard time feeling happy because I feel so lonely when I shouldn’t feel that way.

When I got to college a semester late everyone had pretty much buddied up and was set in their college ways already seeming to know who they were and what they were all about. It was even harder for me because I don’t subscribe to being a “type” of person. I’m fluid through many different friend groups but you could never find me hanging out with “THIS” particular group of people. College was so lonely and heartachingly long. If I could do it again I would just tell myself to get my degree online.

I just moved to a new city in a very small state. it's on the east coast where people aren't that friendly. It's such a small state a lot of people already know each other already. It's like going to a giant high school and everyone already has their own clique. It's nice to find someone I can relate to. But unfortunately I live in a family full of extroverts that would never understand this video😒

a sophomore. have spent 99.99 % of my time at college completely alone. still have noone just to talk to. coursemates prolly think I'm crazy, in good case they think I'm just an introvert (I study cs and it'd not be illogical). but I'm not one. I love communication but I just cant start any. getting enrolled i thought i would myself become better with interacting with those clever nice kids at my uni, because there study such and i chose it for that reason. but i've been wasting so much time since then and instead i got totally degenerated with so severe isolation. realising this is too painful. god I've only one life. i will never be of this age anymore. being a freshman is cool i've heard. i missed experiencing it at all. god please i don't want to live like a retiree any longer. i can't deal with this pain any longer. fuck

This is might whole entire life omg thank you so much for this tiffany!! (Also 24k magic is a banger)

No one calls me eveer:(

this is literally me oh my gawd. maybe I’ve just grown to accept the fact of being alone forever, but I think I have to put myself out of my comfort zone to meet new people. Because otherwise I’ll just stay inside all day till I get insanely lonely and isolated

I know how that feels.It's Saturday and I'm just chilling and watching youtube.

i can relate to this so much. i've had the same friends since 5th grade and all of them have so many friends out of our friend group except me, and it makes me feel like a total loser but i just can't connect with people, every new person i meet is immediately attracted to my other friends because i'm shy so they tend to not pay any attention to me and i also intentionally avoid situation where i'll have talk to anyone i don't feel completly comfortable with even people i've known for years. and i'm going to college next year and i'm sooo terrified i probably won't make any friends

haha, im 27, just started college (been in 2 before but quit), aaand the struggle is real with making friends...gosh so hard :D

I'm kind of in a similar situation because I moved away from where my friends are and haven't made any new ones at the new town knowing that I'll be moving again in a little while. Making new friends is difficult for me too but you've just got to put yourself out there. :)

this video is like you read out every single one of my thoughts ahhhh i relate to this so much

It is very enlightening to watch this video but it is also just so sad.. I personally don't have trouble with making friends but I find it so sad how this is under "Painfully honest" where you shouldn't have to feel pain just to open up and say how you feel. I understand that some people call that "Trauma dumping" but I can't stand them.