Well said

Very true, accept yourself for who you are and be confident in yourself. Many don't realise how valuable this is, not just for friends, but literally everything in life

Exactly. And if you love yourself, it'll be harder for people to take advantage of you because you'll be more willing to walk away from a toxic friendship, even if that is the only "friendship" you have at the moment.

talk like u er talking with tym an knowledge others.😰😰😰😷😷😷

Great point 👌

jujuju Nobody really needs anyone. If those individuals act all snobby when you try to hang, screw em. You just got to keep looking for new people, and it WILL be awkward. Embrace the awkward and learn each time, and you most definitely will make wonderful friends

Literally me ^^

jujuju Cliques can difficult to breach, especially in teens. However in general I think it is important to not cling to ppl and demand/expect loyalty until they have become actually close. I grew up with few friends, a while really none I met outside school, then few. I’ve realised I’ve been sad or pissed by ppl not giving me the same priority&loyalty I gave them when younger, despite them getting that out of lack of others not actually out of alikeness and mutual growth into that tight kind of friendship. Just because they’re currently few doesn’t mean they are my ”bff”. It makes me more relaxed around them and I can appreciate them for who they are and the time we do spend together so much more. I think it makes it easier in short to make friends if you’re not ”clingy” as the ppl making most friends seem to be those who allready have friends and don’t need them but can enjoy casually getting to know someone new. Maybe they’ll stay an acquaintance and nothing more , maybe they’ll be a true friend someday.

How i feel all the time

same haha

Depends on what you mean by the word "normal". If you mean by that "able to use himself in a useful way to lead a balanced life", that is unfortunately not ORDINARY possible, for precise reasons (so people will always need productivity and motivational videos, luckily for Thomas :D ). According to P.D. Ouspiensky and G.I.Gurdjeff, human being has three different "brains", three main centers: intellectual, emotional, and moving. Since they continously steal each other work (for example, the intellectual center incorrectly takes the place of the moving center to perform a dance step, and that movement will appear slow and not very natural) and because of three main problems that are difficult to notice in ordinary life: the change of I, the lack of knowledge of one's own machine, (body+emotions+mind) and the Sleep (the lowest level of the four types of consciousness, in which a man can spend even 90% of his life), an ordinary man is very far from functioning in a balanced and harmonic way between its parts. Only if a man starts to study how the machine works, he could make some actual progress in his life: as Socrates said, "Know yourself". You may try to read "In search of the Miraculos" or "The Psychology of Man's possible Evolution" by P.D. Ouspiensky for more informations. Those books gave substance to my desire to improve myself.

i would very much like that please

Haha i can relate so much

That's impossible in this day and age

Caron Torliak me relate 😂

pendulousphallus Same. I have a really bad reputation in my school because I went back to my home country for Visa work and so many people think I got deported and that I’m too poor to stay.

dude, it took courage to seeek this out and learn. Be kinder to yourself. :)

OMG THIS IS LIKE 2 YRS OLD BUT I DID THE SAME TODAY ;_;. NOT BECAUSE I M LONELY PER SE BUT IM DEF LOOKING FOR NEW INTERACTIVE CONVERSATIONS

HMU !

_sigh_ I wish everyone in this comment section including me good luck :/

this is literally my life

Honestly same I can talk to people at work because it was my job as a first responder but can't out of uniform

@@StephenAlexanderVideos Wear your uniform out of work, Easy lol

@@Tbessix220 I wear the jacket out sometimes it definitely helps haha

​@@StephenAlexanderVideos Great, Now you can take it to the next level and imagine that you are an undercover first responder. Take the jacket off

champion

Impossible for me😔

Corona said nope

Great summary! These are nice tips! The 3 second rule may be a little stretch and difficult to accomplish but it will certainly push you to take action!

What if you live in a dangerous city, do you still go out and do stuff

Lol

This guy, my brother

So cringe

@@ChadKirk Live a little.

Sounds like a thing girls deal with in bars!

I think some dating apps actually do that. I think grindr does it

Bumble has bumble bff for finding friends

Yubo was made for that

@@sebastiannieves5472 being live on camera takes masses of confidence tho dude .

@@parkusmarker1299 yes omg and they're so mean

Any tip on how not to be that type of person? I get so nervous that instead of really focusing on the conversation my brain just froze

Amaryllis ., if theyre asking you questions that means they want to hear about you. Talk it up, you don’t have to start some big story just talk and eventually they’ll expand on what you’re saying with their own input and the conversation will keep going!

Hiiiiiiiiiiiii

@@pineapplezz5076 honestly, learn to LISTEN not think! And for god sakes SMILE! 😂 dont be stone dead in the face with zero emotion when talking to strangers, if your giving out good energy you'll start to see people do the same back. You only get as much as you put in.

Well I personally hate rambling mindlessly like Americans do 😆😆😆

Move if you don’t enjoy living there! :)

I have exactly same problem. And at least for me moving is not an option. I haven't really had any luck online either.

@Blaz yes, online is where I made lots of friends from other countries.

Gol D. Roger Same! Good to see someone with the same thing

Gol D. Roger Just go out to the sea you‘ll find enough nakamas there

Ree Sa Embrace the awkward my mans! Your mistakes were meant to be learned from, I think with more practice you can overcome that feeling.

Ree Sa be more passionate about having conversations and be more confidence in yourself

If it's of interest I've done a video about social anxiety. Understand what makes it awkward and you can take steps to try and improve this

@@Georgiana216 thats what i mean, i know its wong but i can't help it, i have quiet severe anxiety disorder and currently i'm looking for help. Remmember that 'power from within' are hard to obtain if you're suffered from mental illness.

@@simariocrossing definetly, i tried my best with my anxiety to socialize no matter how mind try to trick me that "oof everyone is awkward around me" I do really want to said to myself one day when i'm out socializing that "today, not a single fuck shall be given"

Me also watching this in quarantine Any I would like be a friend with you Do you like

Aha lol same

Anyone wanna be friends

@Jaylen Samson hey there stranger !

@Jaylen Samson are you there in discord cuz if your there hit me up

I hope you make new friends soon. I suggest joining a club or something where you can meet people with the same interests as you. Also see a counselor they can really help with social skills

I have Autism too. I know how hard it is to socialize, especially, when lacking the social skills. Join certain clubs you like and try to find someone there.

how much does a polar weigh? ummm.... enough to break the ice amiright

MightyCat This fat penguin, as you call it, is a so-called „shy guy“ from the game Mario Kart

If i said that i’d be publicly ridiculed

I will be your friend if you want

Hey I'm a random internet creep, I'll need your "friend"

Same

did any of this workout for u? I know it’s been 3 years but would love to hear what worked i’m in a similar situation

Wow! I had a college commuter experience for the 1st two years and the 3rd i moved closer to campus and i can say that my circle/ network of friends didn’t expand the way i thought it would. And continued to limit my social life since it was what i was used to. So it really all depended on consciousness of free will in my case

yeahh, I wish I was his friend

Ikr? He lookin like a snackkkkkkk

did he not always look like that?

adriana I will be your friend if you want

yeah i was thinking the same thing! so handsome. think he has a bi-side?

Thenkss❤️

How did it go?

What city are you in? Where do you look for free drama classes? I've always been interested too

@@MangsyBoBangsy I live in a small town in Sweden! Found it by looking at my town's Facebook page. Recommend checking on Facebook, your library's website etc! Hope you find something :)

Elin Hedin how did the drama classes go?

Elin Hedin did you find any new friends?

I'm gonna try that!

You're actually taking the right steps. In a video I've done on social anxiety I talk about how exposure is genuinely helpful. Make a game of it, start off simple, like ask a stranger the time, then maybe ask where they got something they're wearing as you like it (you'll be complimenting them too), then move onto other challenges, like making a little small talk (eg nice weather today) when paying for items in a shop. They help get exposure and build confidence

BE MY FRIEND

@@PracticalInspiration like this idea.

"I have a lot of friends in my head, me very social"

Ok boomer

Reiley Martell as an 18 year old it’s true lol

talk to who? a random guy thats weird

Doesn't work

Talk to who

Eyes don't make you talk to other people. There is no excuses.

They looked so sad in this video..

I agree 😭people want to talk to him regardless

Even looking at those eyes is enough for me. No talk necessary....to begin with. Spiritual sentimental likes nice good girls....

When in Rome, do as the Romans do. Maybe have to look and do similar stuff to them. Ask around or through working like in a pub.

@@TheShamuraja when they do the CRB check they arrange for people to beat me up. Every single person talks anout highschool 78 hours a day, when i explained in a job interview that i wasn't able to go highschool due to being in prison the employer asked me if i am Jon Venables. The only job I've been able to find here was selling coke

Sounew like Fairy tail plot

Kamusta kababayan!

Polar Apple I’m this plus I’m not working. It’s torture.

Its so weird i know allot of people that their job is the only thing they do only hobby just wasting your life away being a slave to society

Me too

Victosity same😌

Why i got so many likes ?😂

@@ilkezilkez8069 maybe because you are not the only one :)

IlkeZ IlkeZ me too. Hi I’m jacky!

Totally understand the anxiety part Thomas. Relax & remember your not alone. Be a Friend first

...that's a Shy Guy.

Omg. I'm dead. Did you just call a Shy Guy a ghost?

No need to break the ice if u can just walk thru

Yeah lol, also have the same problem 💀💀

Yeah... same. In college specially.

Lemme be your friend then lol

Also my family is super happy I’m out of that toxic relationship too, so I’m optimistic about the future. Makes me feel better reading this comment section knowing I’m not the only one who experienced stuff like this. And if other people can start from scratch and build healthy relationships again then I know I can too

Thats sad. :(

Hi. I'm nawal from Morroco

💯

go be friends

Me too. Idk. I think it's easier to just not now.

I can relate to that. As we speak. I am trying to find more friends right now.

yooo hahahahaha dm me ^^ im into making friends

I believe they are not friends right away. So they cannot be supportive right away. Just see that thing as being in the long run.

What do you like to do with friends? Go to the places where potential friends are hanging out. Even if just online for now. I found my friends through men's groups and martial arts. It's cliche but it's true! I think that's how a lot of people make friends in their twenties.

@RIDER 123 sure!

@RIDER 123 unfortunately I deleted all my social media a few months back

What uni if you don't mind me asking? I'll be on my second year in Edinburgh.

Serina T I miss England, used to live in England when I was younger.

lets to talk!

I know it's hard but I'm sure you have alot to offer to others. Believe in yourself:)

Also, such a smooth transition to the publicity at the end of the video

Jason Keene hello

Hello Makayla how was your day going I like making new friends

Hi. Where do you live?

@@mouradname6569 switzerlanh

Same! Nice, I live in Sweden.😊

Hiking, snowboarding, taking pics, visiting a farm, biking, Enroll in some activity or group