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Lefie

Lefie

3 жыл бұрын

Getting super meta today: making a video to make me make a video... Below are some resources that might be of some help!
What is CBT? General overview. - bit.ly/3xj5jie
This is a CBT book I found useful (note, this is NOT an affiliate link): amzn.to/3iA8HkB
I source my royalty-free music from the rad dudes at Epidemic Sound: share.epidemicsound.com/tssCR

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@tundranone8366
@tundranone8366 3 жыл бұрын
"This is the worst I'm ever going to be at this. It's all up from here." I really needed that one.
@djdeejdj
@djdeejdj 3 жыл бұрын
Yes
@whitrobinson
@whitrobinson 3 жыл бұрын
Same!
@adeadgirl13
@adeadgirl13 3 жыл бұрын
Here's a trick I've learned from The Huberman Podcast and I'm trying to implement it. Let these thoughts come as they may. Instead focus on the behavior. As long as you control your behavior to do what you want to do, the thoughts don't matter. Trying to control the thoughts is hard. But controlling actual movement of your body and where your eyes focus is easy. Just make yourself sit down at the task and focus your eyes on it. Not your mind, just your eyes. Your mind will follow. That voice will be like: "am I a joke to you?" Don't answer. Just control your actual physical actions. I think this is what Jocko Wilink means when he says just do it.
@hugofontes5708
@hugofontes5708 3 жыл бұрын
Another trick that is actually what led me to Huberman is to move your eyes repeatedly side to side. He explained how that tricks your brain into believing you are moving and kick-starts your fight or flight response to overcome anxious feelings and fear
@adeadgirl13
@adeadgirl13 3 жыл бұрын
@@hugofontes5708 Yeah. I found that one fascinating! What an accidental discovery! Maybe if you're not working coz of anxiety or fear then it can work for you.
@kumaSOevl
@kumaSOevl 3 жыл бұрын
The huberman podcast is amazing
@ingridelknermusic
@ingridelknermusic 3 жыл бұрын
That's great. I do something that is the opposite - I start imagining doing the task, until I feel like I'm already doing it. It shifts me out of feeling like my current state and task is homeostasis, gives me a drive to switch to that task. For example, if I say "I have to write today," it may feel like an incredible chore. But if I stop thinking about what I'm doing and my surroundings, and instead start thinking of my story's characters, what they look like, how they interact, who they love, what they fear, suddenly they've come back to life for me and I can't wait to write them more. It's kind of like rapidly tunnelling into the inside of a task mentally to remember the reality of it, rather than looking at it ultra-externally.
@ingridelknermusic
@ingridelknermusic 3 жыл бұрын
Also, just looked up the Huberman pod and subbed. It looks amazing! Cheers!
@JenniferGarcia-pv5sv
@JenniferGarcia-pv5sv 3 жыл бұрын
The Lefie nap-burrito is precious.
@KawtharAk
@KawtharAk 3 жыл бұрын
oh i laughed so hard to that
@keganarmstrong1724
@keganarmstrong1724 3 жыл бұрын
Lefie tiny-voice is now my new internal monologue I've decided to adopt.
@NanoNutrino
@NanoNutrino 3 жыл бұрын
I procrastinate to avoid my productive procrastination
@TheRiyazAhamad
@TheRiyazAhamad 3 жыл бұрын
It seems Very productive
@Emiliapocalypse
@Emiliapocalypse 3 жыл бұрын
How do you always send out the right videos at the right time
@tenielles4623
@tenielles4623 3 жыл бұрын
Yes I agree! It’s bizarre
@katherinekier
@katherinekier 3 жыл бұрын
Cause she’s real and she gets it. It’s so refreshing.
@mariaisabelrikkersdeborst1481
@mariaisabelrikkersdeborst1481 3 жыл бұрын
Something I have learned as well is that the best way to reduce the anxiety around something I need to get done is to get some of it done. It sounds weird but when I'm thinking "this is so much work how am I ever going to get it done" I tell myself "Do some of it and you will feel less anxious" and once I've done some of it not only is there less to do it FEELS like less cause I've wrapped my head/hands around it.
@sendnoodle5
@sendnoodle5 3 жыл бұрын
Keep in mind that chronic depression is a thing, and not being able to get up and do things is a symptom. If this is a daily thing, please talk to someone about your concerns. Your brain chemistry might be wonky.
@Antonina81
@Antonina81 3 жыл бұрын
Today everybody have depression. That becomed big excuse for everithing! The most of all for layziness. How people didn't have depression in I & II WW when they was fighting for thair life and their familys, when they was starvig? Centryess before in history when people was working hard on their land from morrning to evening, makeing their own fabics for garments, then they had to make that all garments, cooking, cleaning, and have a bear new baby every year? Today we are living in abudance, we are eating 3 times some of us 5 times per day, life is munch easyer but ever in history before, so we get spoled, unmotivated, no adrenalin, run or figth, survive or die moments in our lifes... So we have depression!
@shannonh9218
@shannonh9218 3 жыл бұрын
@@Antonina81 I think it you take a look at a lot of art and literature from all sorts of time periods you will see people were dealing with depression… famously like the blue period of Picasso, the works of Edvard Munch, Van Gogh… Chagall’s during WW2… those are just the ones I’m familiar with but art is filled with memory of suffering of the mind… with literature Poe and Kate Chopin come to mind but again these are just off the topic of my head… depression is not new except in the way general society is diagnosing and speaking of it
@najathanice4183
@najathanice4183 2 жыл бұрын
@@Antonina81 things arent as trying as many decades ago but people still suffer inside to their own individual degree based on their emotional response to traumas they’ve faced in their lives, especially in their childhoods. People act accordingly based off their past because we learn from experience. Sometimes how we react to what we learn isn’t always in the best way, and that’s why ppl continue to suffer
@AmyNaylorMusic
@AmyNaylorMusic 3 жыл бұрын
When I heard the words "licenced professional" I braced myself for a better help ad 🤣
@simplewithmoney5314
@simplewithmoney5314 3 жыл бұрын
Me too haha! It would have made the video less real though!
@silvanasuarez3124
@silvanasuarez3124 3 жыл бұрын
Here I am “taking a break” from the task I’ve been procrastinating for a week. I needed this, thank you ❤️
@DarioCruzII
@DarioCruzII 3 жыл бұрын
That bed burrito technique at 2:38 was impressive.
@littleripper312
@littleripper312 3 жыл бұрын
I like this girl, she's very relatable for me right now. My apartment looks very similar to hers. I started about a year ago and it was slow the first few months and then suddenly my brain switched and I was able to throw everything out. Having a minimal apartment has fixed my over-spending also because now I don't want items in my apartment cluttering it up. I'm saving so much money and feel so good at home now. I didn't realize how much the clutter was stressing me out and wasting time.
@ingerfalch-jacobsen1717
@ingerfalch-jacobsen1717 3 жыл бұрын
This is crazy - I was just thinking about you, and then this video popped up in my feed! I was also just thinking about what happened when I adopted a "winner mindset" - I stopped thinking "how much can I manage to do?", and instead I started thinking "how little can I do to solve this problem, without creating more, and larger problems?". Gamechanger.
@sameenaarr9595
@sameenaarr9595 3 жыл бұрын
Well here we are... One video was in my recommendations now I’ve successfully binge watched every single one of your videos ☺️ a new firm fave! can’t wait to see more ✨
@debrawhite5894
@debrawhite5894 3 жыл бұрын
This is one of the best videos! Thanks and, yes, I wrote down the statements. Stay cool, Lefie. 🌸
@Meinonenie
@Meinonenie 3 жыл бұрын
Nice timing. It's currently 12:55am and I feel overwhelmed with what I have to do. So my ball of sunshine 🤗
@Lefie
@Lefie 3 жыл бұрын
Go get 'em, Michelle!
@michelemoneywell8765
@michelemoneywell8765 3 жыл бұрын
This is excellent advice. Thank you! You have no idea how many people you are helping. For every person who leaves a positive comment, there are probably 10 more helped who didn't comment.
@jessielewis6980
@jessielewis6980 3 жыл бұрын
Your videos often have unexpected twists that I really appreciate. I've tried making videos on productivity and whatnot and often overcomplicate it. But "maybe just quit"--oh. OH. That's a part that so many people don't realize is actually an option, and can be a healthy one. Thanks for another great vid 🙌
@marcellamaragno
@marcellamaragno 3 жыл бұрын
This video felt like a hug, thank you
@jehamburg3110
@jehamburg3110 3 жыл бұрын
Love how real your videos are - no bla bla bullshit and no fancy glimmer. :-) Absolutely refreshing - thanks for offering that "real life style" and your great advice!
@oneorangesuitcase
@oneorangesuitcase 3 жыл бұрын
This is so awesome! Thanks for breaking it down.
@cmellowdee
@cmellowdee 3 жыл бұрын
I love your videos. They’re informative and soothing.
@yanhongli5207
@yanhongli5207 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Lefie! You and this video make me feel life is so beautiful! I got reminded again that I am good enough and I should be kind to myself. I wish you all the best.
@KaylaMoorcroft
@KaylaMoorcroft 3 жыл бұрын
This is the first time I heard about this. But it seems like a really good approach! Thank you for sharing this with us, Lefie.
@elizabethwoodworth1155
@elizabethwoodworth1155 3 жыл бұрын
Fantastic video Lefie! You always inspire me. I’m a minimalist & I dig the way you do it. I’ve been in therapy for over a year now & CBT is game changing. Thank you for the links. Have a wonderful day!❤️
@AmandaJYoungs
@AmandaJYoungs 3 жыл бұрын
Fabulous video. Thanks, Lefie.
@sayingoodbye4
@sayingoodbye4 3 жыл бұрын
I'm both afraid of failure and success. Could you make a video about that?
@whathappenedtomyyoutubehandle
@whathappenedtomyyoutubehandle 3 жыл бұрын
Oof, same here I think. It may be fear of change or responsibility? Idk
@hazelroderic6915
@hazelroderic6915 3 жыл бұрын
I love your voice, your sensible advice and your nap, caterpillar style. Greetings from Spain 💜
@jas2sounds
@jas2sounds 3 жыл бұрын
Solid gold, Lefie. Thank you for putting this out into the world.
@InvitationToTreat
@InvitationToTreat 3 жыл бұрын
Just stumbled across your work yesterday. Productivity + minimalism + meditation? Catnip. I love your vibe.
@faithsimpson2309
@faithsimpson2309 2 жыл бұрын
I just found you and I'm literally in love! So simple and such a different take from what most people do. I love it
@silviaespana747
@silviaespana747 3 жыл бұрын
Hello Lefie, Thank you for the video and the best practices 😉! I'm actually not that far from moving out of the appartment I'm currently in and I'm procrastinating a lot 😓. Thank you for the motivation 🤓! This is definitely a great KZfaq channel 😊! Have a great week 🤗
@ingridelknermusic
@ingridelknermusic 3 жыл бұрын
I love these tips!!! I also like doing rewards. Parenting style. I chuck a tantrum about a thing I don't want to do, and switching to parent mode, I tell myself - out loud - that I can do the fun thing after I've done the un-fun thing. The child me stomps its foot, and adult me doesn't budge. Child me gives in and we do the task. And like a real kid, my kid brain secretly loves the discipline. After the task, dopamine awaits!
@nouha23k
@nouha23k 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you l🥰😍 I get easily overwhelmed and starting a task can be so hard but sometimes even after starting it I find it hard to focus or get into the "zone" ☺☺😘 thanks alot ps: your home is amazingg
@victorianaztec555
@victorianaztec555 2 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate many of your helpful videos! I've been posting on my Twitter page and think the index card idea is much better then doing a Visualization Board! Tks for being inspiring! Hope your summer is going well.
@AliciaMarkoe
@AliciaMarkoe 3 жыл бұрын
Excellent video! Thank you. I totally do this at work. When I'm resisting, I open a blank text document and start "talking to myself" and writing out the steps. It works like a charm. I need to do that for my home projects also. Thanks again 🦋
@harshitjoshi571
@harshitjoshi571 3 жыл бұрын
Oh shit..crap... Lefie, u get me every time! Your videos are like a mirror....the picture you paint of yourself, the way you move, the way you perform your chores...everything... The correlation is bonkers! (is it for all you guys..???) Nothing but love and respect for you :)
@harshitjoshi571
@harshitjoshi571 3 жыл бұрын
I mean.... just after this video... I was watching another video of your.... and then again... things thoughts intersected... DAMN!
@palesaneo3817
@palesaneo3817 3 жыл бұрын
This was so helpful. Thank you xxx
@Ppppriscila
@Ppppriscila 3 жыл бұрын
Im so happy that I found this. You're awesome 💜
@isagallego3496
@isagallego3496 3 жыл бұрын
Ma'am, your content is great, you talk about all the topics summarized in one video, thank you
@jayathome2898
@jayathome2898 3 жыл бұрын
Very very good advice Lexie! I am really enjoying this new content. One thing I have heard is that for those negative thoughts we should watch them, as if they were clouds in the sky. The clouds do not stick to the sky, they do not damage the sky, they just keep floating on past. So we notice them, and we let them pass like clouds, and just focus on self, breath, and staying in the moment.
@PeterGMcDermott
@PeterGMcDermott 3 жыл бұрын
Lefie--I don't know how you learned to hack nearly every aspect of life, but I'm grateful for your videos which always seem to help me solve a problem I'm facing or answer a question I've always wondered. Thanks for sharing your accumulation of life's lessons and shortcuts for everyone else to enjoy. Keep the wonderful content coming, it is greatly appreciated.
@katherinekier
@katherinekier 3 жыл бұрын
This is great. I needed this.
@catcox7267
@catcox7267 3 жыл бұрын
I really needed this thankyou.
@rizkhinz7795
@rizkhinz7795 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, your tips help me to out from unmotivated.
@freeschoolin6793
@freeschoolin6793 3 жыл бұрын
This is amazing. Thank you.
@kathawonka214
@kathawonka214 3 жыл бұрын
Nice video!! I think I really needed to hear this! ;)
@Delala
@Delala 3 жыл бұрын
I love how down to earth you are!
@Jaichbinhier
@Jaichbinhier 3 жыл бұрын
What about when it's just really warm? 🤔 It seems like motivation wanes When the temperature outside is so extreme that lethargy fills the veins. 😅
@hugofontes5708
@hugofontes5708 3 жыл бұрын
@@UtahGmaw99 we do? I didn't know it was about the sun, I thought it was just because of lunch and digestion making us sleepy (which is why I occasionally skip lunch or grab a light snack instead)
@ChrissieL
@ChrissieL 3 жыл бұрын
@@hugofontes5708 It's the heat-lunch combo that is deadly!
@hugofontes5708
@hugofontes5708 3 жыл бұрын
@@ChrissieL this is all kinda funny to me because I was told at school a decade back as a teen that this "heat causes lethargy" thing was an excuse from rich, colder, countries on why we are still poor. something how the excuse went from "they are lazy" to "they live in a hot country" anyway, gotta go grab my lunch before my class at comfortably hot 27 ºC, let's hope coffee does the trick to keep me awake
@hugofontes5708
@hugofontes5708 3 жыл бұрын
@@UtahGmaw99 native people here have been doing that before Europeans first showed up and called them lazy over it; maybe the heat is to blame, maybe it isn't. We don't all have that napping habit, though, so I'm just as unsure
@ChrissieL
@ChrissieL 3 жыл бұрын
@@hugofontes5708 The "rich" countries will always find an excuse on why the other countries are (kept) poor.. Anyway in my area summer noon temperature varies around 30-35+ so it is impossible to stay productive or even move during that time 😅
@Aurora-rs9lj
@Aurora-rs9lj 3 жыл бұрын
I love your thoughts on this, and they're articulated so well. You talk about things I've heard before many times, like "be kind to yourself" but you do so in a way that provides a fresh perspective and feels relatable! I really appreciate it.
@claudia4578
@claudia4578 3 жыл бұрын
You have such good replies to the objections your mind makes!
@minimalperfekt4522
@minimalperfekt4522 3 жыл бұрын
Honestly...I procrastinated watching this video for 6 days because I knew it would fulfill its purpose perfectly. It did. Kicked me out of procrastination mode instantly. Love your content Lefie ❤
@anno-fw7xn
@anno-fw7xn 3 жыл бұрын
Great video and its funny how i use many of youe tricks :) Therapie realy help me with it and to finde the reson why i procranate so much.
@poonehkakhki8579
@poonehkakhki8579 3 жыл бұрын
thank you, I really needed to hear this.
@jennifreesjourney9817
@jennifreesjourney9817 3 жыл бұрын
Opposite actions excellent!!!
@JohnNathanShopper
@JohnNathanShopper 3 жыл бұрын
I really needed this
@tnijoo5109
@tnijoo5109 3 жыл бұрын
You are cool. These videos are excellent.
@dupor42
@dupor42 3 жыл бұрын
i needed this really really badly
@eirenenap235
@eirenenap235 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you❤ i need this
@melissaehlers4785
@melissaehlers4785 3 жыл бұрын
A professional??!?? But I'm so good at internet psychotherapy!
@gurucharanchundi
@gurucharanchundi 3 жыл бұрын
xD
@AKonnichiwa
@AKonnichiwa 3 жыл бұрын
Watching this in burrito mode also, what a timing haha, great vid!
@sunfvalley
@sunfvalley 3 жыл бұрын
thanks i really needed that 😭
@SuperClare
@SuperClare 3 жыл бұрын
Perfect timing!!!
@curtischong2459
@curtischong2459 3 жыл бұрын
gotta love the double column technique :)
@noshimoshi
@noshimoshi 3 жыл бұрын
this is the perfect video for me now. thank you
@TheFifthWorld22
@TheFifthWorld22 3 жыл бұрын
Much love 🌟🌟
@SteveAbrahall
@SteveAbrahall 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Lefie! That's a good one - now about the cat ! :-)
@Lefie
@Lefie 3 жыл бұрын
Hiiiiii, Steve 😸
@SteveAbrahall
@SteveAbrahall 3 жыл бұрын
@@Lefie I'm getting cat food adds on my youtube and this vid! How did that happen LOL
@Lefie
@Lefie 3 жыл бұрын
@@SteveAbrahall Bahaha, they must be tracking your comments... gasp!
@user-kp1sn9jw5y
@user-kp1sn9jw5y 3 жыл бұрын
That`s was what i needed t hear rigththth no. Thank you) Greets from Belarus!
@PhiloftheMetaverse
@PhiloftheMetaverse 3 жыл бұрын
Hey Lefie - I agree, giving myself a pep talk before doing something hard makes the task less excruciating 😂
@Getthinmegan
@Getthinmegan 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you ❤️
@neto2654
@neto2654 3 жыл бұрын
Damn I needed this
@annaalm18
@annaalm18 3 жыл бұрын
Love it so much I watched it 3 times
@Simplyluvly
@Simplyluvly 3 жыл бұрын
I'm in a situation that no motivation now. I'm gonna try this.
@NakuDark
@NakuDark 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Lefie. Time to get stuff done! :D
@zackareef
@zackareef 3 жыл бұрын
Great video👍
@kaniiniyael
@kaniiniyael 3 жыл бұрын
I'm gonna reread uncle Burns' books, thanks for this! 😗
@ANNtique
@ANNtique 3 жыл бұрын
I hope you are ok. Missing your awesome content ♥️
@electrocumbias
@electrocumbias 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@siddhijjk3378
@siddhijjk3378 3 жыл бұрын
Lefie, it's 3:30PM and this video made me I step out of my bed.
@dianeaishamonday9125
@dianeaishamonday9125 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Queen Lefie 👸🏼💖
@Lefie
@Lefie 3 жыл бұрын
Thank YOU for watching, Queen Diane 🙂
@Bitcolorina
@Bitcolorina 3 жыл бұрын
One thing I can't get myself to do is to wash my face before bed. It takes me 2 minutes but I just don't do it. Thinking "I will feel so good after doing it" is helping.
@rospiya
@rospiya 3 жыл бұрын
the way these 5 minutes have been more helpful than years of therapy 😳 thinking...
@tenavosi6882
@tenavosi6882 3 жыл бұрын
hey I really needed this after inside
@enkromelleandrew
@enkromelleandrew 3 жыл бұрын
Negative self talk is a real thing, I had to learn to give myself more grace and speak more kindly to myself and started to see a shift!
@SuperMeiMei
@SuperMeiMei 3 жыл бұрын
3:16 immediately subscribe~ this KZfaqr is a real human~
@monaliiiiiiiza
@monaliiiiiiiza 3 жыл бұрын
once again Lefie giving us all
@simonachkar4409
@simonachkar4409 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this...
@ratherbfishing455
@ratherbfishing455 3 жыл бұрын
I'm not a self starter. It's difficult for me to get started, as most of my relatives have housekeepers and gardeners once a week. Some have personal secretaries. I'm resentful that I do not have money to do things that others take for granted. I miss being around nice, motivated, normal people! In the past I liked trimming trees and cleaning house, until a couple of customers called me Cinderella when I couldn't afford to go on a trip. Random thoughts
@annarodriguez-astrobusiness
@annarodriguez-astrobusiness 3 жыл бұрын
So helpful! Thanks! (a procrastination queen over here... 😅)
@music2012pink
@music2012pink 3 жыл бұрын
I have literally planned time before my work to do things I do most when I procrastinate (KZfaq, food, research, mental health and organising) KZfaq with meals every 3 hours, fruit to pick at, do MH activities (preferably creative to work through stress/emotions instead of numbing) after research so can absorb/recharge. Then deal with physical stresses/remove obstacles/setups. Then I don't fool myself into thinking that I've done work. I've been productive in some sense but missed the most important part. Like going out to a restaurant with all the build up and starters only not to get a main meal but saying you did/ still paying for it.
@Pooty_With_A_Fat_Booty
@Pooty_With_A_Fat_Booty 3 жыл бұрын
She looks like a classical painting. Most certainly a face in a Botticelli painting.
@ANNtique
@ANNtique 3 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@happytrails.
@happytrails. 3 жыл бұрын
So... Make Friends with The Resistance. I'm curious what would happen if you did. But of course you can't make friends with The Resistance just to get favors from them (ie doing what you want) because they would feel used... Hmmm. I may experiment with this. That is a challenge because would know or expect my end goal is to control or undermine it, and that would make me not a good friend. A good friend is compassionate, listens, and is supportive. So basically find a way to establish boundaries, and not sink into power struggles. "Yes, and" the Resistance!
@decemberdreamaudiovibes481
@decemberdreamaudiovibes481 3 жыл бұрын
Hi, I see you use a standing desk. Could you please talk about this in one of your vids? Thank you. Love your videos!
@user-gj1br2tg9d
@user-gj1br2tg9d 3 жыл бұрын
💜
@EllisBell
@EllisBell 3 жыл бұрын
❤️
@zijing9548
@zijing9548 3 жыл бұрын
Watching this video is my productive procrastination :)
@noorqadri3507
@noorqadri3507 3 жыл бұрын
half way during the video. Excuse me while i go finish what i need to. Ill be back im sure.
@TheRiyazAhamad
@TheRiyazAhamad 3 жыл бұрын
I wish i had such biceps 😣
@laksh_ayy
@laksh_ayy 3 жыл бұрын
0:39 i am at a loss of words 😳
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