Woody Allen POV:

Count Olaf vibes

You're everywhere...

Yes thank you I watched the video

I swear you are everywhere

Plus she got separated from her little brother..

@@apatheticsins8377 yeah

Proof that having kids doesn't automatically turn you into a good person

I would also rather be stabbed than have someone I loved and trusted was a creep to that level. I agree with her ratings

​@@romantic_hippie wait, people actually say this?? genuine question, not trying to be disrespectful

Istg her husband better be good

Her sister was with her iirc

@@ケインの王I don’t think she’ll ever even want to have one 😭 she needs a break

@@TheRealFurinaDeFontaine What does iirc stand for

@@S3YKOCH4N if I remember correctly is what iirc stands for

@@argarman09 Glad he’s an “ex” step-father.

@@PlayerTenji95 100%

What happened to your bf??

@@yourshoulderdevil5229 he put SD on his back. We eloped the next day. We just celebrated 16 years together this month.

The same thing happened with my mom's ex husband as well. He'd basically disown me every time I got a girlfriend. He overfed me and made me fat as a teen/kid so no one would want me (he never admitted to this, but I know that's why). My body is permanently damaged from how fat I was. I'm really fucked up from it. I have frequent nightmares still.

Im so sorry…. Hope you heal 💗

i’m so sorry to hear that. i hope you’re doing ok now ❤️ sending lots of love

I’m so sorry you went through that! I’m so glad your mom left him though and didn’t question it at all. So many moms choose to believe their partners over their children and their children are the ones left to suffer the consequences.

Great mum. ❤

yes absolutely so glad your mother cared abour you more than a sexual predator

Sameee

SAME 😭

I was so confused 😭

No fr

no literally😭😭

Yes I remember this and was thinking about it the whole time Her whole life 😭 she trusted that man

Having an unrelated female child around an unrelated adult male is a recipe for disaster. At some point he will look at her as a potential mate🤮. Not saying all stepdads are like this, there are some great ones, but they are outnumbered by the perverts. There are even studies proving that girls with stepdads hit puberty earlier that girls with bio dads, because of the psychological stress of having a unrelated male in the home and this early puberty is what often times triggers the abuse.

Slay

Stephanie soo did a video on that. It was such a culture shock and a half at that time but now every week news about another pdf file exposed I've become desensitized

if I remember that correct she was found guilty of murder and got in jail for it right?

That's the same thing I was thinking. He obviously didn't do a good job. Thank goodness.

Yep.

I'm pretty sure he didn't know all along he wanted to marry her, but that really changes little to nothing either way

I have an amazing Dad and amazing Husband and I still feel like swearing off all other men.

You'd be surprised

Nah the fact that theres good men on earth and nice people in general that gives me hope. Shes. A strong woman but yeah it would leave most women traumatized 😢.

@@glacousxx well of course but honestly they don’t speak out against these men nearly enough. Like when roe v wade fell and it’s even difficult to get a life saving abortion more and more now, men have been SO quiet. That’s just one example but the main response I hear from men is “not all men”, which means essentially they are taking it personally as an attack on them and find that more important to address than women being scared and assaulted. There’s good men out there, but the ones doing the crimes and the ones not sticking up for us are too big of a percentage.

​@@glacousxx Most *people traumatized. How would anyone even begin to heal that mess? All her support network failed her except for her friends and sister.

💔

There is also an unfortunate commonality of male and female predators marrying to create a "safe" environment and appear less suspicious. I did a whole study on it with a well known psychologist in college.

@motherofcats6494 adoption isn’t the problem, it’s just some of the people that decide to adopt (like the dad in the video)

@@merlinsmagic6061that’s so wild- 😭

I. AM. TRAUMATIZED!

It's truly heartbreaking

Your parents deserve a Nobel fucking peace prize

My daughter is 12 and knows ALL about that from a young age…. There’s literally no age that’s too young to have those horrible things happen to them so it’s good to teach them at a young age

💯 FACTS and excellent point.

She never actually left him though, she lied obviously

True. Just seeing this video with one person that doesn't think this is okay has made me feel alright. But no. This seems really common. Maybe it's just your point of view when your parents are like this. But the mom seems to look so hard the other way that they ignore it. Sometimes they acknowledge it when it's over the top in the moment. But really briefly. But never admitting the situation. And it blows my mind now being like 30 that the people you thought defended you a bit eventually give in to going along with them just out of pure avoidance of resistance. Like a few aunts/uncles that know the situation. And they just 180. It's alot to invalidate a kid to cope when you are fully aware of the situation. But I think if I can generalize this is just how ladies are treated in small towns. Not just on things like this but..if they say anything that makes you uncomfortable you can just invalidate you..after all. They don't understand women and you just crazy.

I didn't know how to describe it but yes definitely cathartic. Less crazy.

As a person with parental trauma and experiences of feeling like I'm not being listened to, same. I'm so happy we can heal together in this community and not do the pain olympics. I wish you healing and everything good in life. ❤️‍🩹

❤❤❤❤ love to you bubs. I'm so sorry xx

I agree with you

I've heard so many guys try to make excuses for this kind of behavior, that when I hear a man genuinely disgusted by this behavior I'm lowkey shocked. There's some really disgusted people out there.

not even hell is enough for this man 😭 he needs tartarus

He adultified her as a young black girl and that's not uncommon at all. Studies show that people believe that young black girls are sexual beings with sexual feelings are very young ages so they dehumanize them. So that when young black girls report cases to the police of sexual assault, the police say that they wanted it which results in under-reported cases of sexual assault because the victims know that if they go to the police they will be blamed for what happened to them.

Yep 😁 absolutely true

Nope….this happens all the time. There are many sick men and even women out there seeing their children every day and they still molest them. Don’t downplay how sick people (especially depraved men) can be. People get assaulted by their BIOLOGICAL parents more often than you think

​@@vixithespiderlingAgreed wtf

I’m so sorry. You should have been protected. You deserved that.

she was never a safe person period. Who the fuck finds out a man was assaulting his own daughter and suggests she may have ENJOYED it??? That's fucked up. She's fucked up. I'm so sorry she failed you.

You deserved to be protected I’m sorry the people you were supposed to trust failed you so horrifically

Wow...your mom suffering from BRAIN DAMAGE?? THAT was her RESPONSE to a dad graping his daughter?!! I once read a book how society progressed and people who wanted to be parents needed to go through simulation tests to see how they would react to a scenario, unware those simulations aren't real and that they are being observed. If only we had those simulations, your mom would've been weeded out I am so sorry you suffered like this

Did anyone find out about your abuse 😢

real

i wasn’t even safe in normal clothes. when i’d stay at my dads (every other weekend in highschool) we would try to stay in jeans as long as possible but my dad would eventually say “i feel uncomfortable know how uncomfortable those jeans probably are, you should go change” and we’d put on sleep shorts (nike pros, etc because he had no AC) but the final straw was when i went with my sisters and mom to see him for dinner on his birthday. i was wearing a sweater that buttoned in the front and was ever so slightly V neck. he stared at me chest all night. my mom sent us to go to his place for awhile and i texted her how uncomfortable i was so she followed us to his house pretending she wanted to also hangout. he’s been blocked on everything since i was 17.

@@kinsiebelleomg that’s terrible

This happened to me too and he also put photos on some "sites" for these kind of people. These photos are probably still out there. And now I can't trust men anymore. I met a good man but I'm not sure if I ever can have kids and I'm sure he is a good man but some voice in my head still goes "what if" and do I still know someone 100%.

They will never admit just how many of them are predators. It's mind boggling how fundamental abusing us is to them

For real, I'm very large-chested since my teens. Starting around 15, when I'd visit my father, he'd want me to bind my chest, ranting about how I could cause "immoral thoughts" and I'd be responsible for good men to "stumble from the righteous path." I also wasn't allowed to go swimming in his apartment's pool anymore. It was such a self-report that when I asked my mom about it, they had a huge fight, and from then on, I didn't spend summers at my dad's anymore.

@@SaintShion I’m so sorry you had to go through that ☹️ sending love and hugs, I hope you’re feeling better 💗

It was her adoptive dad not step dad

If this woman still doesn't hate men I'd be shocked. I've been the target of male harassment and violence since I was 12 and I'm 33 now with girls of my own and I really try to make them understand they can't trust any males. It's sad. I wish that wasn't the case but it's true. So many women trust their partners, fathers, brothers, etc. and they end up sexually or physically abusing their kids....

​@@SaintShion that's absolutely disgusting. I worked at a "Christian" business and I have a nice badonk lol anyways I dress very modestly but my butt still draws attention. One day my boss who always asked me on dates, called me into his office and on my way I passed an overweight woman whose breasts were popping out of her shirt and anyways when I got there he said I'm not allowed to wear form fitting clothes anymore because I could cause good, married men we work with to have immoral thoughts. I was mad af. I said, "No, the dress code doesn't say I have to wear baggy clothes. I'm going to keep wearing clothes that fit. It's not my fault if a man can't control his own thoughts." He was just quiet because he knew I was right and he couldn't enforce that. So disgusting. This isnt the Middle East. Women don't have to cover themselves because men can't exercise self control. If you can't control yourself because a woman isnt hiding her body under a bag, you're the problem.

Exactly!! Because why?!… WHY!? You know why, we all do.

Right, like damn! Leave him! And if you can't leave him for whatever reason, at the very least send your kids to live with someone you trust.

This is also a historical racist behaviour! In the past, ww also pushed for "Tignon laws" to be passed to force Black women to wrap their hair for similar reasons. Racist people will always attack Black women and girl's hair and never the w. men, who are targeting said Black women and children with sexual violence. 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ 💔💔💔

exactly and it’s disgusting bc it just shows that she was jealous of them. not even concerned for her daughters just jealous that her husband finds them more attractive

​@@Hopeydopery THIS

Im so soryy that it happened to you...I hope u are getting better

im so sorry how horribke

I'm glad to have a good father who isn't mess up..........but I do remember when I was 13. His friend visit our house one day and his friend started to touch me in a creepy way. My father and him have not talk to each other after my family moves to another town. If I ever see him again and he do that thing again I will send him to jail.

Have you told your mother?

red pill nonsense made them delusional, they think they get more attractive with aging, to younger women in their daughters age.

The worst part is he really believed it should be a chance.

WOOP WOOP 🚨 that's da sound of da beast

WOOP WOOP Assassin de la police

Lol nicely done whoop whoop

🚔🚔🚔🚔🚔

🚨🚔👮💅🚓

Holy shit bro 😭

Omg! I am so sorry ❤

I hope you and your mom are doing better now 💗

i hope you guys are doing better!!! that sounds terrifying!

so glad he went to prison, i hope youre doing better now! ❤

I have a cousin like that and I was feeling uncomfortable. I see him as my family member while he sees me in a romance way...........

My cousin was like 5-8 years old and she had a half brother who was 17 that I wasn’t related to and he had SA’d her and she told her and his dad and her mom (not his mom) the dad wouldn’t believe her, they went to court and got zero justice and the dad disowned him, she’s grown up and okay now tho

@@HTuanKsornot “romance” you mean deranged perverted way..

I’m astonished at how young men start hurting women.. they really are born monsters

I’m so sorry

When my mom and my stepdad went on their honeymoon we kids were watched by my grandmother and we were taking over to some dude she was seeings? apartment. My mom legit didn’t know for close to 20 years because I just told her one of my core memories was that apartment visit, and boy was she mad if she hadn’t already went no contact I’m sure that’d have done it.

Damn. Sorry. Did u ever find out who ‘Uncle Paul’ was? Maybe it’s just me, but my thoughts would be eating away at my brain until I knew who it was.

Period!

I wouldn’t leave my kids alone for any period of time with my mom for the same reason. If she wanted to see them, she had to be with me on my terms. She just stopped coming around. I knew what she allowed with me and they’ll do it to your kids too. Good call.

this is why we see so many women saying they hate ALL men. all the men in their lives failed them. you cant even blame them one bit. there is a sick and twisted power dynamic in the world that allows men to traumatize and humiliate so many women.

seriously like give this woman a pass already

Many women do live their lives terrified/hating men for those reasons. Women don’t hate things/people for no reason.

No fr bc I would too

@@gcldvnblytz I’m so sorry, I hope that you’re healing and doing better.

@@PlayerTenji95 ty I rly appreciate it

Im sorry you had to go through that, I was SA by my bio sis when i was 8 trust me you will never forget it but eventually you will learn to live with it. (Sorry if the last part where I said you will learn to live with it sounds rude, its not supposed to be.)

Yes. And you gaslight yourself into denying it or forgetting it, but your body can’t stop being terrified of them.

@@desireerose5960 I hope that learning to "live with it" as you put it has gone well for you, genuinely. You didn't deserve what your sister did to you and I hope you've managed to heal as well as you can.

I am so sorry you went through that. I hope you are doing well. ❤

It’s not your fault, its not fair to blame yourself for not saving them when that situation should’ve never been made possible in the first place. I hope your healing journey is filled with love

It's not your fault, you're not to blame. It wasn't your responsibility to save those children. You were a victim too. The people responsible for protecting them AND you were your mom and the other parent/s of his stepchildren. And by failing to protect you, these people failed to protect the other children. I'm sorry to you and those children that the adults in your life failed you. I hope they all feel ashamed of themselves for doubting you now.

Dear I hope you know and realise you're not at fault. It's on them for not believing you. THEY could've saved those kids if they had listened to you. I'm so sorry for everything you had to go through. You're a fighter and a survivor. Stay strong 💜

And that’s in the rare case where they remove a child outta the house at all ☹️

I've been looking into it cause I've been curious, and the stories I hear and see are horrible and have made me realize the whole thing is a massive waste of tax money and actively making things worse and just not doing their jobs.

Makes you wonder who RUNS CPS 🤔

Yup, and they are fcking racist. They are more likely to dismiss the experiences of non white children and chalk the child being abused by the parents up to "it being the childs fault". (In my case they even told me that I should be lucky to have as much freedome as I have for a girl with my ethnicity)

Fr! I’ve heard horror stories and lots of people family and teachers and the parents family friends reporting it and CPS doesn’t even check. But if it’s an immigrant family they are more than ready to deprecate them from their parents forever while if they get these kids out of this type of situation they always try “rehabilitation” which never works. You can’t rehabilitate a sick f*ck who *buses their child in any way! They will play along until they have the kids again! They always do!

Real

Literally. like watching his videos feel like just gossiping with my other ADHD friends

Facts and we are all there for it tho

Reallll

I love him too 😍

"WAY TOO COMMON"? This is only the 2nd or 3rd time ever that I've heard of an adoptive father professing their love to their adoptive child so I wouldn't say this is common... Fortunately

@@Naturefan354that youve heard. exactly

@alexiiconner Sorry but to whom is this behavior "common"? Seriously... because once again it's not everyday that a "father" professes he's in love with his daughter? Let alone an adopted father... And I'm really grateful it isn't 🙏

@@Naturefan354 I think they're saying that sexual abuse and weird dynamics among family members and inappropriate behavior towards children by family is common. That's why the "creepy uncle" trope in pop culture and movies even exists. Most people I know, including myself, at minimum have experienced creepiness from family members.

It’s way too common for people to prey on children, including their own. Yes. It’s common, to whomever is trying to debate this.

your stepbrother did WHAT

What the hellll!

My cousin used to come into my room at night and take photos of me and try to touch me. I’d choose bear.

Jesus Christ I’m so sorry

Thats so fucked up

I hope you will get justice :(

So sorry this happened and it makes me sick thinking how tf is anyone going to have any proof of certain things. I don't understand what we're suppose to do esp when these things happen out of nowhere and take u off guard clearly.

I'm so so sorry

I wish you the best fellow cerebral pasly haver. You got this!

I'm so happy you're still here with us. I'm sorry for all the pain you've endured. I hope your mother sees the light and leaves :(

what the fuck…

why the fuck would you ask your daughter if she's "sure" whether she was doing porn or not??? "Why did he see you" idk because he was projecting or smthn??? because he's a creep???? glad you have him out of your and your mother's lives, as well as having your enabler mother out of your life too.

For real that was gross

That's why young women divorce DIVORCE DIVORCE. Those boomer women for some sad sad reason would tolerate these horrendous, evil men and I DONT KNOW WHY?? But ladies nowadays, nope we are OUT!

Oh yeah! That’s that show they took off the air after like 1 episode right?

Wtf????

THATS EXACTLY WHAT I THOUGHT OFFF

I am so sorry, that you had to go through that ❤

you will be the perfect parent

You are already an amazing mom. ❤

I am so sorry you went though that it I am glad you are determined to protect your kids not matter who it is because most often it’s someone close to or part of the family. I plan to tell my kids if anything happens between you and anyone that you feel it off or you are uncomfortable around them tell me and we will deal with it. That I will pick them over whoever it is every time. I can get new friends and if they I’d something to my kid I want neither my kid nor I to be nowhere near them.

You deserved to be protected I’m sorry the people you were supposed to trust failed you so horrifically

this is why we choose the bear

What an arse 'ole of an aunt! 🤢 My family was the same and tried the gaslight technique. The reason those creeps are allowed to do as they please so far, is because of their wives allow them to do so (in a lot of cases)

Oh my god. How low is someone’s self worth to knowingly be with a predator? An offender? That’s so sad and dangerous- hard to understand how common it really is.

@@Bella-br1ez Her self esteem is so low it’s insane - she turned her back on all of us to stay with him, I’ll never understand it but it will always hurt a little i guess. Thank you for your comment btw xx

How disgusting

I really hope somebody else is checking on and being there for that daughter.

Wait I don’t know anything about Keanu Reeves what has he been through? 😨

@@AmyHoldaway27he lost his wife

@@AmyHoldaway27his wife n him was supposed to have a child back in 1999 I believe, but the child was a stillborn (died in his wife’s womb at 8 months), his wife suffered from depression so they separated but they still remained good friends. she died in 2001 after a car crash not shortly after her and keanu got back together, his father left out his life by 3, his very close bestfriend (river phoenix) died when Keanu was only 23 and so so so much more.

Why do people always want to bring up Keanu Reeves' tragedies when discussing him online? If he wasn't so opposed to social media and he saw all the conversations around him I'm not sure he'd love how often people bring up all the deaths he's dealt with.

​@@billbill6094Honestly, this is the first time I'm hearing about it, personally.

Bruh, my dad thought I was trying to fuck EVERYONE! Even my brothers 🤢. Like, who thinks that way!? Turns out he wanted to fuck me and was jealous of every guy in my life. He thought that since he was secretly turned on by normal things I did that my brother's or everyone else would be too 😳. He outed himself as soon as I turned 13......

I’m very sorry that you had to go through something so disgusting… I hope you are well and surrounded by people who actually love you and are sane and not fckin creeps.

Some mothers are their children's biggest enemies. Sending you so much love and healing.

I can’t even fathom the thought process of anyone who thinks their twelve year old child is trying to sleep with their husband. I’m so disgusted I hope you have the resources and the people in your life to help heal from this. ❤️

My mom went through a similar experience 😢

yeah, my mom was the same way, she didn't date seriously until we were adults, my sister and i were very beautiful and men used to leer at us

Same. promised my 15 year old I will not bring anyone into our lives. It’s what our parents should have done for us, breaking the cycle of hidden abuse.

Good job! You're right to do this. Protect your children😊

My mom is the same. Sometimes I thought she was being overly protective, but there are a lot of weirdos out there, so...

that’s good. my mom never cared and brought so many men around

another downside to people enabling abusers - it gives enough victims horror stories to share that make other victims scared to tell people out of fear they'll be treated the same. Just so we're clear, I'm not blaming the victims. I'm blaming the people who blame them. The victims are only sharing their stories. The victims are never to blame.

Omg did he go to prison??

What does PA and EA stand for if you don’t mind me asking?

Is PA physical assault? and is EA emotional assault or no?

@@efirosegallardo7 you got it. Sexual, physical, emotional.

@@amandakorbe3773 im truly sorry..

I'm so fucking sorry. I hate that this is so exploitable, we should be protecting children no matter where they come from

I went through the same. I was 14

​@JanicePhelps-g1u I am so sorry you guys went through this. Abuse in any form is disgusting and having to endure this from a young age is heartbreaking. This comment section is just💔 so many kids were failed by adults in their lives. I wish you peace and healing my love🫂❤

Sorry you had to go through that and continue to suffer. It’s been over fifty years for me and I still feel broken.

Same here. It's...violating whenever he stares at me. I can't even wear 'pretty' clothes without him saying some weird shit

​@@deviantpanda1206 i am so, so sorry you are going through this. please stay safe, however you can.

i was thinking the same thing. it’s so tragically common. if you see your fucking CHILD as competition for your partner, you’re just as fucked in the head as the predator themself.

Bro I hate this world, what the actual fuck???

It’s so weird. People like that shouldn’t have kids.

Not step mom, adoptive mom, which to me makes it worse. She doesn’t have other parents, and she lived with them full time since age 6 which is basically life. A step mom could fit this description too but yeah the adoptive parents in this case

Yeah, I also think this. It baffles me that people can somehow manage to justify this behavior in their mind. Especially after being straight up, called out, or confided into.

and he went to sing in his church band the next day! god bless!

@@Pseudocrow im so sorry! its always some weird shit in the church (no hate to religious people, hate to the church itself yk?)

I hope you call CPS, that man shouldn't be around kids

It’s always the pedos that act worse than toddlers, so fucking disgusting.

​@@Pseudocrow Eww, that's so nasty. I'm so sorry that you went through that.

Because people love defending pedos

I grew up watching 1980's TV, seeing the child Soon Yi being carried around by her father-figure Woody Allen, I was a teenager when it was outed that they had sexual relations with each other when SHE was a teenager. When people stan for Woody Allen it makes my damn skin crawl.

Yeah, that's a cope. The fact of the matter is that he came into her life when she was a child, and he functioned as essentially a father figure for a long time. Going from that to dating her, especially so soon after ending a relationship with her mother, says that boundaries were majorly crossed while they should have been operating as essentially father and daughter. It's like how people say that Mary Kay Letourneau was totally cool because she and Vili Fualaau later married and were married for a long time, or that Celine Dion's relationship with her husband manager who met her when she was 12 and he was in his 30s and married with children her own age was cool because they were married until his death. In all three cases, not only were there massive age gaps, but also huge power imbalances that the older party took advantage of. Just because the grooming took hold really well or even potentially shifted into actual love doesn't change the fact that the relationship started with grooming and inappropriate s3xual behavior towards someone who was in a massive position of vulnerability. Trying to excuse any of that is disgusting.

yeah i definitely remember seeing pictures of woody with a CHILD a LITTLE ASS BABY GIRL when it came out he was getting married so idk about that i think he just legally adopted her when she was a teen ??? idk but i don't even wanna search it up im already nauseous 🤢

It's less talked about that Morgan Freeman has done the same thing but with his step/adopted (one of the two) GRANDDAUGHTER

I will never understand this. It makes no sense, biologically, mentally, psychologically... A mother should have a natural instinct to protect their young, psychologically that should be the most precious thing on earth, mentally it shouldn't be hard to think "huh, that's bad." Like WTF! Do better world!

​@@sipi2009this. Like what?!

It really is too common. Idk why, Uncle Touchy is no way that good in the sack to justify letting him abuse your kid.

@@wolvie1618 honestly it's a cycle innit. These mothers must have thought it was "normal", because that's what they had 😭

If anyone wants a really honest answer, there are two levels to this - if not more, actually, and I speak both as a survivor and someone with a reasonable knowledge of psychology. The thing about a mother or father who is a survivor allowing their own kids to visit Uncle Creepy is often this: they have been brainwashed to believe they were the only one and that only they are bad enough to deserve it; that Uncle Creepy had never felt that way before (about a minor,) and they therefore live in a world where they’ve been forced to dissociate from the fact it happened at all - sometimes due to being in fear of their life. Therefore, they genuinely don’t believe it will happen to other kids, and it’s very hard for a non-abused person to understand or believe that. But they do grow up believing other kids are “good” and deserve to have a normal life, happy home, and that they are intrinsically bad, or special/different, and therefore have brought this on themselves. We blame ourselves for just about everything as kids because we don’t have much of an external frame of reference, and some of us stay stuck there unfortunately. Sadly, parents like this, who have never dealt with their own trauma, and are therefore viewing the world through the lens of someone who is partly still a little girl or boy mentally and emotionally, will very often attract partners with the same predilections. One of the best pieces of advice for survivors I ever heard was “if someone doesn’t cause your central nervous system to react and you feel if not comfortable, normal, around them - run.” We often don’t get the heart pounding, gut churning, visceral reaction a “normal” person would get around a dangerous person, sadly, until having done some form of therapy or healing modality for CPTSD. When it comes to mothers actually watching something like this happen and doing nothing, that’s something really beyond anything anyone can excuse - it means they’re as messed up as their abuser(s) and have basically been brainwashed to have no normal boundaries or autonomous beliefs about what’s right and wrong- so they can’t successfully parent and would need to go to something not dissimilar to a de-brainwashing programme, with their kids hopefully far away in a safe environment. The realisation of what some people are able to hide from themselves can cause total self destruction, unsurprisingly. Sometimes our non-abusive, (yet still partly colluding parent if they don’t believe us,) basically goes through their stages of emotional development far later than someone who hasn’t been abused , and in those cases it can be possible to completely forgive them for failing to protect you while in a dissociative state, especially if they were under 26 (it’s normally when a person’s cerebral cortex goes through its final growth spurt at this age that they suddenly start to reframe everything they’ve been through through the lens of a more adult mind,) They can very sharply gain horrific clarity about what the motives of adults around them were as a kid, and realise that they themselves were abused - and also that if any of their friends or the same age group were “just good friends” with a 12 year old, for example, they’d rather die than have anything to do with them. Some people actually never get there, or the horror of all the PTSD/CPTSD flashbacks they start getting around 25/26 cause them to spiral into life threatening addiction or severe mental health issues that again, make them a totally inadequate and unsafe person to be a parent, even if inside they are a beautiful soul who just can’t grasp wtf normal even is. Abusers cause cycles of abuse, and many parents of young kids end up being blind to what’s going on, and listening to apologies or protestations of innocence with the same ears they had as an abused child listening to and trying to justify/be gaslit out of believing the reality of what their own abusers did. This is where the vast disconnect is between a well adjusted person’s mind and the mind of someone for whom abuse is all they’ve ever known. It’s also worth mentioning here that CSA is a fairly common cause of narcissism - where a person despises their victim self so much that they literally create a new, fake person in place of the old one and may well be unlikely to ever accept the reality that they were an absolutely shocking parent. TL:DR, age appropriate education about boundaries both in person and online that doesn’t wreck kids’ innocence, and the existence of trusted adults in schools that victims can talk to and be believed by, needs to start from the moment kids are in any kind of education setting outside the home. I chose not to have kids, not because I don’t love children, but because I ended up with Harm OCD, and I was so convinced I’d be a terrible parent, I just chickened out really.

Yeah no hate but he can't Say something so insensitive. She is not a story, shes a human beign wtf

I’m glad he wasn’t able to groom her. Just horrifying.

Please let’s go back to the wedding drama videos 😢

​@@KariIzumi1right, these are triggering 😢

GRANDMA COOPER ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

popular cheerleader ???

Agnes, the dance team/cheerleader fill in that also played clarinet, knew everyone’s tea, but unironically filled out the hand me down dresses from her aunts and casually wears grandma’s shoes to school that you cant buy anymore. Nice sneakers. Full figure. Goes thrifting without having to announce it.

Yes! Teachers can and will help you! Heck even family friends will help you! I’m sure once they know what is happening they will support you! Though tell only those you trust some horrible people surround themselves with other horrible people.

@@lilianaledesma7254 is not always that easy, especially when your family is well known in the community. I tried telling people. They went to my parents who denied everything rather than going to the police or cps...

@lilianaledesma7254 kids don't always have the right words and when you grow up in that environment it's seen as 'normal'. What? Your brother didn't come in and SA or abuse you as a kid?? Mind blown... that's honest to God how I felt when I was a teen. I told everyone I could after that, no one listened.

@@amandakorbe3773 So true.

I’m gonna be so honestly unless you specifically explain what is going on to teachers I never had any luck with getting them to help me at all which is so hard when your parents abuse you because you don’t trust adults already

I agree with all of your reactions. Because this hurts my heart. No one believes us. Legal systems don't work even with the worst offenses. "This can't be" it's happening all the time.

yeah and homosexual couples can't just bcs of sexuality

@@norazulkifli2517fr! And stats show they are actually smoking he best for adopting because they really want those kids because bio kids is not possible to have both their dna and is really really expensive and depending on them being able to carry the IVF or having a friend willing to do so for them.

the entire us government would be gone

@@scarw320 probably most governments globally

And Indian men disappearing like boom

they are everywhere, there are many wolves dressed up as sheep

I'm sorry ❤ never talk to them again!

Glad you are away from them ❤️ My mom and brother had the same idea of me trying to 'ruin the family' by telling everyone abt my creep uncle (moms brother) She may have been abused by her brother too when she was younger, (he is 15 years older than her, and was always a rowdy and pervy guy) but we're not too sure...

your mother was getting it absolutely twisted in saying it was your fault. The only person ruining the family was the very person she was trying to defend. You did nothing wrong. Your dad was the problem and your mom didn't help by enabling him.

This

My stepmum did what their adoptive mum did too, brought him into my room, sat him on my bed (I was also on my bed) where he'd been when he did it, and made me tell him over and over what he'd done. That was just as traumatizing to be honest. This poor girl

So sorry that happened 😢

I'm so sorry ❤ I hope you're in a better place because you didn't deserve that

Good on you for getting the fuck out of there! Hope you're doing well nowadays.

You deserved to be protected I’m sorry the people you were supposed to trust failed you so horrifically

You. Brave. Hero. You may not need to hear this, but: you absolutely, 100%, did not deserve to be abused, in any way. You absolutely had every right to protect yourself--and did wonderfully with protecting yourself and your little siblings, too. I'm so happy you have a safe place to lay your head now. I don't blame you for feeling the weight of what happened. Just remember: your body is YOURS. Your life is YOURS. Something that helped me, personally, was getting a tattoo. I didn't actually know it would help me so much--and when I was a teen and in my early twenties, I never thought I'd be someone who would want a tattoo. They are so permanent, and I am not a person who commits to anything easily. Then, over a period of years, I kept thinking about it, researching, and finally drew up a design for myself. The minute I got home after getting tattoo and looked at it, I felt...powerful. It was like I was claiming my body as my own. It filled me with a sense of self-ownership and made me feel as if I am worth fighting for. I don't know how else to explain it. I still feel that way to this day--some four years after getting my tattoo. I never knew I could feel like this, but it has helped me heal a lot from my own sexual abuse/ assault experiences as a kid and throughout other years in my life. I also recommend taking karate or some other martial art. I hate fighting--even verbally--but spending years taking martial arts allowed me to hone reflexes that actually helped me fight off men who assaulted me in my adulthood. It was always in public and always felt as if it came out of no where--someone trying to drag me to their waiting car; someone bashing my head into a wall to immobilize me; someone humping me on a train; someone groping me at a dinner, etc. Even though I was never much of a fighter personality (I am now, but only since I got my tattoo), I was able to respond by muscle memory, which ended up saving me--every time. It sucks--in fact, it was a whole different kind of trauma for me to have to physically fight someone off of me--but I'm glad I have those skills. They made a huge difference and let me fight for myself when I might otherwise have just taken the abuse/ been assaulted--maybe even murdered--just because my general personality was more timid/ hates hurting people. Also, bag-work is awesome and feels really good when you feel as if you will just fly apart from all the pain/ sorry/ anger, etc. you might be feeling. I hope you can find a healthy outlet for the weight you carry or any other feelings you might have.

I remember that! Awesome vid

Yeah. Danny was so terrible that the show "Adults Adopting Adults" was canceled.

And he expected her to live in a shipping container.....

@@yeet1066 Yikes. He just went from bad to worse.

Oh gods, I remember that story. I hope the “adoptive daughter” and her kid are somewhere safe now

Yeah classic enabler, it’s gross

absolutely right! People who enable abusers are vile.

100% agree

It sucks, but yeah.

Not just the baggage but the predator showing attention and interest in the child specifically which they could see as normal paternal instincts

They don't just go after single mother's. Often she's a single mother because of a predatory man. Even husbands can be predatory. Yes, we know it's not all men, but most men are seriously disturbed and disturbing.

@@susanplatt5331 Child predators do specifically seek out single mothers, yes. The rest may be true but has nothing to do with the point lol

@@susanplatt5331 Wdym by disturbed?

Then the ones that do get to adopt turn out to be complete pos :-)

.......please be serious, Adoption is only out of reach if you are poor there are no roadblocks to adoption unless you're poor or queer. Pedos with money are aloud to shop for foster kids

Right? CPS and all the gkverment systems are so corrupt in the world rn, like what we have in most places in better than nothing, but in places like America currently and some other places nothing would be better cause then at least civilians could take matters into their own hands. I'm starting to believe it was better in older days, you had community, and that community would step up and stone to death, kill and let victims kill their abusers etc. Obviously, that's probably hopeful thinking and the best case scenario. Child marriage has been normalized so much throughout human history, but I have hope normal people have condemned it long before our modern justice system. We really need to find a governing system that works solely in favor of the people and isn't easily corrupted by the loud, power-hungry, self-distructive maniacs that we've let in power time and time again. God help us all if he exists.

Yeah I’ve heard so many horrendous adopted parent stories both online and in real life it’s almost impossible to trust this system. People act like adopting is the most noble thing you can do, and it is really noble, but it definitely is not ALWAYS noble in fact it often can be horrific. My own grandma treated her adopted daughter like Cinderella, starving her and making her do all the chores and chopping her hair off and on and on. But the whole family looks at her like she’s a saint! It’s just wild.

I feel like the system is so broken, I've heard way more horror stories then happy yet there's so many people who would make amazing parents who are denied. Personally if I were better financially I'd love to adopt but idk if they'd allow me to since I'm single.

Agreed.

Agreed, although I usually think it's meant not to be taken seriously, and probably a symptom of his ADHD. But yeah, could be more delicate about it, or just not say it/edit it out if that's an option.

@@sipi2009 tbh as a neurodivergent person myself, I get it: things slip out. I try not to use that as an excuse for saying something shitty, though. If I say something shitty, I say something shitty-and that’s that. We all do.

yeah i definitely thought that was odd too but his wording made it clear that he didn’t really think of it like that

This is not the first time he's done that and it always pisses me off. Even if it is something like ADHD, there's no reason why he can't edit out the bits where he's extremely insensitive before he uploads the video. I wonder if anyone has tried to point this issue out to him.

Its not really incest... More like step-incest... Since its the adoptive father... Doesnt make it better though... Its still pedophelia...

Sadly it’s way more common than you think, people need to open their eyes cus it’s an actual problem

@@Evan-ow1hdespecially when children are involved and parents… like um…

Unfortunately incest abuse is more common than anyone would like to believe. You might want to take more care in how you talk about it. When you say "ewww" and "disgusting" in regard to incest rather than the abuse specifically, victims of incest abuse are likely to internalize that. Survivors of incest abuse feel that "ewww" and "disgusting" might be directed at them and not solely at their abusers. The taboo does a lot of harm to survivors, it fills them with shame and silences them. I wish the taboo were about the abuse rather than the scenario in which the abuse occurs.

@@JustAHorrorShow this is perfectly said, as someone who has went through something similar thank you for this comment

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Bruh 😭😭😭😭 I heard this after just leaving the shower

It’s weird and the preverlance of step-relative porn kinda makes it weirder. 😢

I suspect that this is the cause ​@@PlayerTenji95

I honestly think the rise of Step-relative porn has normalised this to way too many people and has damaged their mind into crossing the wires.

I think it might be the ⚫️🟠

I’ve thought about this a little bit, and I think it’s societal. I think how we sexualize and objectify female…presenting? Identifying? People is a lot of it. Another weird aspect may be how little we seem to expect of fathers (you know, how they’re lauded for basically doing normal parent things?). Unfortunately the category of prn shows that we don’t condemn or view such things the way we should. And there are other factors. Those are just a couple that I’ve been pondering