Me too in 5% people. Explored and earned dollars for 8 years but loneliness was hitting me hard plus I was exhausted with culture. Came back to India and happy

Spent 10 yrs abroad US/UK..saved a lot...came back and living like king... Bharat jindabad...

Short absence sharpens love.. long absence kills it!

One of my friends moved to Canada few years back, with a single goal in mind, to give his kids better upbringing and opportunities than he himself had. Although I didn't think he had it tough here as comes from a fairly privileged background, but that was his choice. This made me realise that many people move to another country because of their future generations and not for themselves. I myself have never been able to convince myself to move even to another city, away from people I know. I am of the view kam kha lenge, magar sabke sath khayenge.

All great points ! I have been living in the USA for last 14 years and I am around 48Y old so I am in the "3rd stage" in your timeline. Here are my thoughts: 1. Work Culture: I personally have worked in top-notch Indian IT companies for like 10Y before coming here and I have seen both sides of work culture ! To be blunt, the work culture in India is nothing less than slavery and I am not even considering the workplace politics due to cut throat competition. Once you work here (in developed countries like the USA) even for a few months, you see this difference and wonder why not live this life instead of back in India? I recently visited India and I saw that the work culture there is still the same i.e. go early to beat the traffic, come home late again due to the extra work pressure (due to cut throat competition) as well as traffic and I realized that there is no way I can willingly accept it instead of my current relaxed life style here in the USA. If the American managers see the employees working after 4 PM during weekdays or see you online on weekends, those managers will insist employees to stop working and spend time with family (they are even willing to extend the deadlines). You can't even imagine that happening in the Indian IT work culture ! Again, these issues are mostly related to too much population and cut throat competition (like they say in India, "there is always someone standing behind you to take your job if you show some slack") !! 2. The quality of life: There is no debate in this area that life in the western countries is much more smooth and upscale compared to back in India (even if you are making good money in India) e.g. air pollution, traffic issues, infrastructure issues like water/power/roads etc, Gov offices corruption, and a lot of other social issues like safety for women/kids etc. 3. Social Life: This is something where everyone has their own version ! I lived in Mumbai and then Pune for total 10 years combined and my parents live in Kolhapur (actually not even in the Kolhapur city, but in a small town near Kolhapur). Visiting parents and relatives in your home town from Mumbai/Pune may sound like very easy on paper (false feeling of being "very close") but practically once your kids start growing up, the frequency drops to like max twice a year (unless some special event comes up), which is basically same as if you are living in the USA (we also visit India once a year). Folks from UK visit India even more frequently than us (my friends from Dubai and UK used to visit my home town more frequently than how I used to visit from Mumbai...lol) ! As far as neighbors/friends are concerned, we have more close and genuine friends here in the USA than we had in Mumbai or Pune (again depends on individual case) and the reason being now a days in the USA if you live in a big city, there is a huge Indian population unlike if you live in rural areas within the USA. In Mumbai we rarely used to see our neighbors since we all used to leave at 6 AM and come back after 8 PM (you know the local/bus/cab/auto travel in big cities like Mumbai/Pune/Bangalore etc) while here in the USA 95% of the folks reach home max by 5 PM (in fact more than half work from home anyway) and spend time with family, go to gym, play sports with friends etc (imagine doing that during weekdays if you work in Mumbai/Bangalore/Pune/Hyderabad etc). The life in Indian cities is very robotic and machine like compared to the life in western big cities ! So the social life now a days here in the USA is much better (than what used to be say 20Y ago) due to a lot of Indians around you. In spite of being in the USA, we communicate more in Hindi and Marathi compared to in English...lol. We celebrate Diwali/Dasara/Holi/Gudi Padwa etc in much larger way and without fail every year while I don't have any such unique memories from my Mumbai days (obviously due to very busy life style and work culture as I mentioned above). 4. Parents: Now, this is the only sensitive topic where there is no easy way to overcome the problem that old parents can't (or won't) come to the USA while you still want to meet them ! Of course many parents (especially from big Indian cities) come here and live very happily permanently but if your parents are from small town then the culture difference is huge and they get bored easily so start missing their small-town-life (where they have a huge company of their age or visiting relative all the time). But remember, the same thing happens if your parents come from their small home-town to live with you in Mumbai/Bangalore/Pune/Hyderabad etc big cities! They get bored there too if they have to live the robotic life in Mumbai/Bangalore etc (I have seen this). 5. Our retired life: Well, if we compare apples to apples, you can live really happy and peaceful retired life in the USA if you plan properly and also "re-size" your quality of life e.g. instead of a 5 bedroom house you can move to a flat (apartment) or a small 1 or 2 bedroom house since kids won't be with you anyway. Again, before you think "kids wont be there?", remember, even in India kids leave small towns for education/career etc so let's be realistic ! Unless you have a family business to run in India, the "loneliness" in the old age people talk about is similar in both India as well as in the USA, so no matter what the issues are in the old age, those are similar in both India as well as here. Point being, please don't compare the old age life in India which used to be like 20 Y ago, compare the "current" issues of old people in India with those in the USA ! 6. Cultural values in Kids: Again, if you think about how we used to behave with parents/elders when we were small kids, then those days are gone ! Compare the cultural values in the "today's" Indian big-city kids (e.g. Mumbai, Bangalore, Noida, Hyderabad, Pune etc) and those of Indian kids in big US cities and you will be shocked... trust me ! Please go and listen to the language or see the behavior of kids in the convent schools/colleges in Indian big cities and then listen to our kids here in the USA and you might think that our kids are more cultured in spite of being born and brought up so far away from India ! I am not bragging about my own kids but you can visit any Indian function/event here in the USA and see how the Indian kids (I mean kids of Indian parents) behave with us (elders). 7. Weather : This is a wide topic/range based on where you are. Some folks have serious issues with the cold weather while others get adjusted very easily. Also, even within the USA, northern cities are very cold (e.g. Chicago, NY etc), while the southern cities (e.g. Houston, LA, San Diego etc) are much warmer and closer to Indian weather so a lot of Indians (Desis) prefer to settle in the southern states if possible and hence the social/outdoor life is also much better (e.g. playing cricket/soccer/tennis outdoor even in winter is common here in Houston) compared to snowy cities in the north (I have lived in NJ as well as Houston so I have seen this difference). So comparing life in Stockholm/Oslo/Edinburgh/Chicago/NY etc with life in Austin/Houston/LA/San Diego/Miami is like comparing life in Srinagar with life in Kanyakumari 😉. Point being, it's wrong to assume that "USA means snow" or "overseas means depressing/snowy life" 😉. All in all, like you said, it's a subjective decision, and your personality as well as your specific situation (e.g. handling your family business in hometown Vs working in IT in a big city away from your parents/relatives) will decide your happiness ! Similarly, if you are a very "spiritual" person then you will enjoy India more but if you are a regular "materialistic" person (you know what I mean 😉) then a developed country is the best bet for you. Same like you (Hemant), I have seen life on both sides and even in this age (48Y) I am still not willing to come back to India for good ! As a tourist, to meet parents/relatives/friends is perfectly fine but not for a working/regular/daily life !!! The day-to-day challenges are just way too much there in India compared to here in the USA. I mean we all love India as a country but there is nothing wrong in choosing a better quality life elsewhere and still love India, correct? 😉 And, in the end, please remember, "it always looks greener on the other side !" 😛 If you are working in the USA (or in any other developed country) then before you take any drastic decision after hearing fancy stories from others who went back to India, please go visit India, even stay for a few months and get a job and work there, see how you like that life and then take the permanent decision ! Not everyone has same priorities and the definition of "good" life changes from person to person ! Just because someone else is very happy after going back to India doesn't mean that you will be too !!! Also, I was in the UK as well for 9 months and my honest opinion is, there is a huge difference in the USA life Vs the UK life (probably other European cities are same). I felt the USA has become like a mini-India, plus USA being an immigrant's country, the "reservation" in their mind is minimum i.e. they (Americans) are more accepting compared to folks in other countries. You mix with them within no time and even your kids quickly make American friends (although Indians are everywhere now a days). But even within the USA, there might be some folks living lonely/depressing life in a corner so it all depends upon where you live and what kind of friends you have around you (which is basically the same rule in India too). Saying "you should live in India" is equally wrong as saying "you should live overseas" ! The correct suggestion should be "you get one life, so live wherever you like and do whatever job that makes you happy" !! Like you said, there is no "one size fits all" definition for "Happiness" and "Good Quality Life", is it?😊🙏

I read many years ago that emigrating means you become a stranger in 2 countries: the country you emigrate TO, and the country you emigrate FROM. Think hard BEFORE emigrating!

The Golden words are "it depends on your personality ".....less emotional people would overlook these matters and accept it as it is ..but for emotional people, its a trauma that will haunt them in later years...

I am a single child, and i had decided at the start of my carrier only, that i will not go to foreign, since i cannot compromise on leaving my parents alone. And today, after 13 years of my professional life, at many stages i have realized that, it was a very good decision.

Excellent! I am a doctor. My husband is engineer. We both had lot of opportunities to settle in abroad. Somehow we understood in very young age what you said here… we never settled outside india. I love my roots, my country. We are so happy here

Staying here In India Deal with Competition - Coaching system No minimum salary bracket Private Schools - hefty fees Private Hospitals - Long Bills Low Quality of Life Growing Population - Traffic and Pollution Work Pressure - No Work-Life Balance No respect for Individual Toxic Political Culture Huge money is spent on Education + Health in India The benefit is Staying close to your Parents and enjoying Street Food and celebrating festivals with them. Share your feeling

Very well said and you bring out the key points. I have been living in the US for 28 years and about to enter the 4th phase. And I do not feel any regret about my decisions. Reflecting back on my life, based on what you said, a few points you said are very very true. 1. Keep your connection to your family/roots. We visit India at least every 2 years, with kids, now early 20s 2. Always, people first, then money, then things. So be ready to take up sacrifice. 3. Make deeper connections to the native (US) community, thru the means you have. For me, it was thru the local church. Beyond the initial facade, most ppl are good ppl like us. 4. Accept the fact, one will not get everything in life. If I had stayed back, I would have gotten other experiences, some good and some not so. 5. Enjoy each day, from morning to evening. Do not be too harsh on yourself. It is ok to be kind to one self ! Casually happened to watch this video and the other comments :)

This is a lovely video. Thank you sir for summarizing points so well. I am 26 years old female. going back to India for good after masters in US and 2 years of working in US. Loneliness is too hard here in US😭. My dad was not happy with my decision but i feel over time he would be okay with me being in India. Thankfully my mom supports me.

Very good perspective. I had a chance to go to Europe but decided not to go, as all my relatives live in India. Parents are from UP (rural background, who cant be settled in cities, let alone abroad). I am settled in Noida just about 100 km away from my parents. Visit them almost every week or they do. Lost my father couple of months back sadly. Me along with my brothers and sister are so proud they we took of care my father until his last breath. Now we are taking good care of our mother. So, I dont regret my decision to not go abroad. Now, working in a Singapore based company but remotely, keep visiting these countries regulary. One of my collegue shared recently that he feel so sad that when his father passed away, nither of he and his brother (one is settled in Singapore and other in the US) was there with his father. IMO, at the end, relations matter more than money. Plus, instead of thinking in binary terms, we can have middle path (like suggested in the video) that we can live in nearby cities and plus now working remotely provides the opportunities to work from there and visit abroad to expereince of different cultures. 🙏

Lot of respect to you Hemant. Very honest converstion straight from heart!

Interesting to hear about your experience. I would say a person should always understand the inside/out before moving abroad. Some will love it and some might hate it!

My father says these golden words..never forget your roots.. go explore the world ... but maintain the connection .. otherwise life is halffull

I am speechless at how eloquently you defined this complete life cycle. I am probably at the second stage. My parents and family have moved on so much with their life, without me, they don't even call on my birthday and anniversary..only a simple text! They are more involved with my siblings and the grandkids they have there. I felt bad initially but I also realized that when they really need someone there only my siblings would be able to help. It will take me at least week or two just to reach there as I have a small kid too now. It is a very hard life in many ways. Not to say that there are no positives. But you have to accept that relationships will start fading no matter how hard you try.

The Most IMPORTANT point is that the kids will stop speaking URDU and HINDI .... So , not only we've got ourselves confused, but now our kids are like Coconut 🥥 (brown i.e. desi, from their outside looks, but white mentality from inside).

Hemant, I am 56 years old now. Wow, that sounds old! I went to the U.S. when I was 24 and returned home at the age of 34. I do not have any regret for returning back. I was able to look after my parents and in-laws as well. My daughter, having been born there, is a US citizen. She is moving back there next Friday for her masters. As you can guess, as I know, it is very difficult to say and / or guess whether she will come back. But, it is gonna be her decision again, just I took mine couple of decades ago. I just found this video of yours. Well said. It’s a complex and difficult situation and decision, indeed.

Thankyou from bottom of my heart for making this video, you changed my perspective upside down related to this topic

Very well summarized. Great post! You forgot to include recessions every 5-7 years, lay-offs and age related professional discrimination etc. in the last stage, that plays a big role. You may not also have saved enough to survive in US for another 20 years. You need millions for retirement whereas your dollars will stretch longer in India. You can’t leave US as you want to be around to help them and unless you have connection s in India, you can’t go back as you are now a misfit in your own native country.

I just turned 38 and allready going to the face you have mentioned it’s 1000% correct I am thinking the same and trying to convince my wife who is more concern for the kids future . In that case I have to say that kids will have great experiences knowing the Indian side face and they might don’t want to go back to usa once they give their 2/3 years to india. And in future if they want to go back and pursue for higher studies or degrees they can since they will have us passport . One more thing to let all know in am here since 2006 and got my GC in 2018 had just traveled twice to india. I will have little tough time to understand india for a year or two but eventually I will be settled quickly, I am here is us for allmost 17 years but still not happy and cannot see my self here in future or my kids. My 4 friends and their family are feeling the same . We Indians here in usa are just a working puppet for paying taxes left and right more money you make more bills you pay 😅 India 🇮🇳 I am coming C u in couple years

Good thing about this video is that it initiates a thought process. And, this is applicable not just for people living in other countries but also to people living in different states away from their native. But, in the end it limits itself only certain aspects of life. People who continue to stay at their native also face certain challenges in different parts of their life. I think the important thing is that today our lifestyle has become more materialistic and unless we move behind that these issues will come no matter where we are.

“Our kids will have better lives” , but at what cost ? You have accepted that your life is over in your early 30s or late 20s and you are okay with forever being an alien in a different country , leaving your language , culture and art behind , ready to forever struggle with new cultural zeitgeist for rest of your life .You will be discussing desi politics more than the host country’s after years of even being a citizen there. This is just unacceptable for me and a symptom we subconsciously got from our Indian parents . This habit of “sacrificing one’s life” for kids need to freaking stop . Live for yourself first dude . No one knows and you have sometimes little control over whether your kid of going to be next Sunder Pichai in SF or a drug addict in some deserted lane after 30 years .

Some good points here but we are all different. My take/situation: 1) In UK for 20 years and I am 41. I made sure my parents visited me every year and stayed with us for few months(2-6). I still regret not being with extended family but I have some family in UK as well. 2) Distant family now disconnected. I find humans are all very selfish. 3) Because I came to UK I got to travel the world, stay in luxury hotels, great experiences. I also helped family and friends financially. 4) I come from small village in Punjab. If I stayed in India I would need to relocate to Delhi, Bangalore etc as I have no land. So couldn’t have stayed in my village. 5) I lost my Indian friends and cousins which I regret. 6) we can’t have everything in life no matter where we are.

Thanks for sharing your valuable insights about NRI.it’s been 4 years in canada,going through the worse time in my life.feeling depressed,missing relatives..working 9 to 5 eating most of my valuable waking hours.felt like living a scripted life without any sort of purpose

Nice video 😊 I have seen life on both sides of it .. working in India and then moving abroad in late 20. Again in 10 years of so felt home sick and returned India to try it out again. Honestly in india we are more close to food, movies, language, cricket and politics. Feeling of belonging is real, Making new friends is easy but Meeting with old friends is on luck ( if you are in same town or not etc). Meeting with parents was possible once or twice a year but somehow living in India gave a feeling as if we are nearby. Biggest problem was cooperate culture and unnecessary politics at workplace. It gave me immense stress and couldn’t survive. So I choose to leave again but keeping my connection ON with my friends ❤. I like to travel and live a peaceful life without unrealistic ambitions.

So to the point. Fully agree as someone out of India from last 18 yrs and going through this dilemma everyday.

You explained all the phases very well. It is very relatable to my journey in USA. Thanks

I realised all these stages in my first job, so never tried to go to US 😅😅. Now working remotely from my village for a US company, will buy some more land and leave corportate 😅

I am in the same boat. Been in the US for 7 years and was completely flustered with homesickness this year. Made up my mind to move in a few years. This video really helped putting things into perspective. Thank you, Sir ❤

Felt like living a tale as told by you. What observations Hemant. I understand situations can be a bit different for everyone but more or less they are as described in your video. ❤

Brother if you leave country then you have to make adjustments in life , you have to leave comfort zone . Life is good everywhere in world & you can’t get everything in world . Be optimistic 👍🏽

I would say where you live in US also matters. If you live in major cities where there is Indian population, you can make good friends and enjoy life as you live in India.

Thanks Hemant for sharing the video. I am proud to be an Indian.We have everything in India and a great country to live.

Bhai duniya selfish ho Chuki hai. Most Relationships are superficial. Your understanding of the situation is good. Apna comfort or money is more important nowadays. I’m in UK over 30 years and I have seen it all. Even in India relationships are not same 🙏🏽

Great Brother. I agree where ever you live, never get disconnect with your roots, culture and how you can be associated with it, is entirely depend on person. Life should be looked from different aspects and people do realize that a very late stage of their cycle.

hello uncle, all these issues happen in India also. people do not live in their villages, they move out to various metro and life is s.h.i.t n Indian metros. in India ppl leave their relatives and friends and family also. ONLY thing is: you see ppl around you: who look like you, talk lke you and think like you. therefore it gets hidden. but still, in the end. people are equally detached in India.

Your video resonated with me from the start as I too have experienced a similar journey. I moved to Chandigarh from a small town in UP 12 years ago at the age of 24, feeling proud and excited about my new life. The first three years were wonderful, but after that, I began to feel disconnected from my roots. I encountered racism and a sense of being seen as "backward" by some people in Chandigarh and Punjab. While this may just be my personal experience, it has taken a toll on me. Now, at 36, I am moving back to Noida to be closer to my hometown and reconnect with my family and culture. Thank you for sharing your story and allowing me to relate.

Very true!! You explained very precisely and exactly the problems of NRI, specially with their feelings related to parents. Even though some one wanted to go back to take care of their parents, their children education point will come to into mind and it becomes dilemma, what is to be prioritized. At this point, their children will be habitual to local education system.

Hello Dubeyji.. The analysis is spot on. I can attest to the first 1.5 phases per this video. Always wondered about what I left behind whenever I and this video has given me a framework to think about the same. Many thanks for sharing the same

Salaries in India are pretty good these days. It’s not same as how it was 10 years back. I think the main reason people live outside is good infrastructure and clean air

Thanks for sharing, very well put, these things always running in my mind.

That is so true and to the point, that is exactly how it is. First you think it’s going to be an easy ride, unless you realize the harsh reality of borders, visas, family and so on and on ……

When someone go out of the country one should set some strict timeline and goals as when to come back. People keep shifting their timeline. First they wana travel then they wana save some money then want PR then they want citizenship. In this process sab kuchh chhut jata hai. The peer pressure and ego and pride attached to living aborad is high too. Thanks for making this video i feel i am stuck in this dielema too.

We have been living in Mexico from last 10 years . Good things - climate, ppl (warm, accepting , helpful), learning different language, medical facilities. Drawback- language barrier ( for adults) , food ( esp. for vegetarians) , Indian community ( concentrated only in the capital, in the where we live there are hardly any Indians means no Indian restaurant, no Indian grocery mart etc). My son 2.5 when we moved here, though there were no Indians here still he grew very well here , local lots of friends, playing in each other house n all but as now he’s approaching teens he has been withdrawing, faced bullying, feels odd - culture, food , broken families. Too much comfort, lack of competition, distractions,lack of social boundaries are some other drawbacks too. So, last year made decision to shift back to India, relocating this summer ✌🏼🤞.

bahut sahi observation hai bhaiya.... Thanks for sharing !

Thanks a lot Hemant. You touched the exact same subject that is lingering on my mind.

I'm in 2nd phase of my life and I can tell you, he is absolutely correct. Man!!!

Like stocks, one should have exit strategy when you go to abroad. 10 years tax less saving invested in stocks/MF is enough for better retirement. Come back and again start fresh in India. Keep visiting your city, relatives, friends once in a year is must !

Very detailed and thoughtful video for everybody. Thank you

Direct dil se….. very honestly put!

Very well explained. Same happened to many relatives and friends

Very well explained. All have to decide. After one generation, there will not be any contact with family in India. Are we ready for this.

that's why they say experience matters, “Learn from the perspective/mistakes of others. You can't live long enough to make them all yourself.” sir thank you for your valuable lessons.

I watched your video and found that you have correctly discribed the plight of those who move abroad early in their careers. Our children moved to the US in late nineties and then they helped two of us, both parents also to migrate here, taking all responsibility including separate accomodation. We being free and retired visit India every year and are maintaining our home in India. That way they are also connected to India through us. They don't miss India since we are also here. Most important is having your family physically with you. Then there is no regret later. One should try to be happy anywhere no matter where they are. For that some spiritual interest is required. Then life becomes not only easy but also very enjoyable.

Great explanation based on experience..really appreciate

I am a researcher (PhD). Many people in my profession comes to USA. Believe me researchers are very cutoff to the society and we are not here coz we want to follow crowd or we want success for our kids or anything. Maximum of us wants to be back but truth is there is NO OPPORTUNITIES for us in India. Not less, as in NO OPPORTUNITIES at all. There are no R and D for Pharma in India, not even minimum packages, ofcourse no govt. Jobs. As a researcher we are paid way less and the journey is direction less. Other issues I highly feel about India: 1. High pollution 2. No quality of life, even if u r rich. 3. Education opportunities 4. Job opportunities 5. Peace of mind. I highly feel about the last one. High competition, communalism and other factors used to effect me a lot. Now USA has their own political issues but I am not bothered by it. At the end, i am someone who never ever wanted to go out. Sometimes, it's the need. Most importantly, my family is with me in this. They travel here all the time. We talk regularly. I try to plan all major events altogether once a year, when i go there for 1 month.

this video is an eye opener for many....thank you so much hemant sir....wonderful video

Very very wise discussion... was speechless!

That was an excellent analysis. I totally agree with you about many things you have said here. I lost my father recently and I have so many regrets that I could not be with him when he died - perhaps he would have lived longer had I been there to give my parents company. Unmein bhi unmesh rehta jeene ke liye agar mera atleast 2-3 mahine main ana jana hota unke ghar. I am in the 3rd phase right now and my personality/social attitude is quite different and I have not really acheived all the things you have mentioned by this phase but, I really fear being old and having no one to for company. I am used to living alone - even then I dont know how things will play out when I am old.

Very well explained. I think there are different types of personalities, some people are just happy to be abroad. They think everything in India is worse, for them emotional connection to their family is a waste of time. For such people it is better for them to stay abroad. Some value family and friends back home but get tied by family responsibilities. Also, it is difficult to switch jobs especially in a different country when they are somewhat mid career. So they hope to return one day but that day never comes. Finally, there are people who know what that want and act accordingly, be it staying abroad or returning back home. Those people will have sort of inner peace and happiness. While returning is a big decision, family support back can be very helpful.

I was looking for some videos and by God's grace I got your video... We are in the same dilemma...you explained 💯 correct

I feel we learn to balance the things … as you mentioned priorities change therefore we learn to adjust the mindset, manage relationships based on time and energy. If someone feel that they will luxurious life back in India then discuss within the family before deciding to go back.

Oh My God 😱 Your analysis is 💯 true for Age Bracket 40 - 50 ..... It's unbelievable. I'm going through EXACT same phase !!!

You hit the nail . I’ve been living in USA for 22 years came here when my mom bring me here when I was 16 I finished 10th grade in India then came USA my life completely changed from a lot of friends to no friends different language atmosphere , culture i still tell My mom sometimes why did you bring me here . Feel stuck distance from friends, family, relatives most important missing the street food .. my daughter is born here she don’t like India whenever we go there now waiting for her to grow up so we can go that’s what my mom did she left USA 11 years ago soon as I was settled never came back ..

Having gone thru 3 phases of life in US, returned to India. One thing that is missed while living abroad is adhyatmic Bhavanas which help you grounded in life. I had to do catching up for the years lost abroad.

Such a honest video. Thank you ❤️

Thanks, Hemanth, for detailing the life cycle of an NRI which is true and real.

No doubt not even a single down vote.. thank you for sharing authentic experience and thoughts.

Thanks for the great video.

Awesome video man, never seen anyone capture our situation the way you did

Hi Hemant, this vlog is just like an other side of a coin. I agree most of the people do not consider all the facts discussed and follow the path blindly consequently repenting on their decisions in the later stage of their life. But, i think the world is shaping itself in order to comply with globalisation. Lack of professional jobs, organisational politics and economic unstability are the factors which cannot be ignored.

wise words , i am in sweden from past one month and i have realized that i might not stay for long and will move back soon

Thank you so much for giving such a nice information.

Hemantjee, all great and valid points. In the 4th stage we are returning 🙂

Couple of things which I think is very important in the context : 1. Keeping contact with friends or families in India is very challenging as there is clear financial expectations. 2. People who are well off think NRI wants to keep contacts for taking help whenever there is a need. 3. NRI normally has friends wherever they are living and those friends become part of there life. This is possible because there are so many migrated people in the past 2 decades. If they can build that group early on in your life then they become your family and friends.

bahot badiya video, Hemant .. you have covered many aspects of NRI life...very well covered. its been 3+ years for me living in Europe.....and already started feeling to move back to India.

Golden words. You have put it extremely well.

Nice topic and conversation…good to know these early in your life

Girl point of view: my situation is even worse , my husband don’t want to go back India bcouz his parents and few of his relatives stay here in the country we stay . But my parents are alone in India with zero help , but this fellow doesn’t want to go back or even never discuss about how to deal with my parents situation, I am feeling I ll go to depression or deep guilt later

I'm an overseas Pakistani 🇵🇰💚, well settled in USA 🇺🇸 and I've been trying to make this journey back .... (Things are a bit challenging in Pakistan as well all know) ... But, I've just found your channel, and hopefully it'll motivate me further ... 🙏 Thanks for putting up this type of serious content !

Thank you so much for summarising. I am 28 years old. Living and working in Germany. Let’s see what I decide

All these gyaan this guy is giving is based on the assumption that u will have lots of money in india...and remember tha struggle everyone faces in india is same....ppl are working in Bangalore and parents pass away in northern villages.....

Some true words spoken here. I had opportunity to stay in the states twice in last 12 years. But every time came back as I was always homesick. True money wise Western countries are always lucrative. But none can Match the moment with loved ones specially parents. Even in India people are moving back to their native places or Planning to. I also plan to spend my retirement in my native place. Working on that final phase hopefully will get it done.

So factual.

Wow ...u hit the nail on the head ..spot on

Again a nice one.. Keep up the great work

My take on this subject is - If one migrates he or she will think of present and future more than past. I am not saying to neglect parents and relatives but migrating to a different country is a bold and tough decision. Not everyone can do it. It is also important to note a smart migration is not only about money (which most of the ppl think). it is about standard of life, basic things such as clean roads, environment, safety, openness, educational opportunities, career etc etc. Now the points you mentioned is mostly about migrating to US. Here the PR or greencard issue doesnt apply to other countries such as in Europe, where it is more smarter than US. You mentioned this correctly in last 2 mins about same issues in internal India migration which is so true. So my summary here is - one should migrate thinking more of future, their kids future, opportunity to embrace different culture, see India from far away (which sometimes make you more clear than in India), chance to learn diff language, make new friends (non Indian), enjoy diff food, lifestyle etc. We have huge population of NRI in the world and foreigners learn alot by NRIs. Return to India also is a bold decision, however tackling questions like kyun nhi ho paya waha? kya hua nikal diya? well some off questions but that also puts doubt in yourself. In d end, Home is where Heart is.

I have been living in USA for many years n trust me friends that's true Sanskrit slogan motherland is better than heaven. India is best place to live. I guide to all Hindus Sikhs especially never to leave India. Here money is on an average higher but expenses are higher too. You will miss ur family and after coming here there is no U turn you can't go back. India is great place for earning money even and best Saving you can have.

You nailed it my friend ❤ 👍👍 Absolutely Right

Absolutely spot on.

Cause of most misery here are expectations. Humble request to new or would be parents to put a stop to this cycle of unreasonable expectations from kids. You had kids because you wanted to feel the joy of parenthood or were forced by your parents to give them grandchildren, you had a choice. Now if you had kids, its your duty to provide for and educate your child. They don't owe you anything, you did not do them a favour. If they do it it should come out of love, not compulsion.

Personally I think your comments are applicable for North America but may not be held true if you move within Asia for ex countries like Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, Indonesia, HK etc.. reason being the proximity with India, affordable flight tickets.

What a Gem of information you shared ❤

Thanx a lot this video cleared so much confusion 🥂

Excellent insights...truth is to stay connected with your roots... Parents.. matrubhoomi... Bahar jao... paise kamao... but at the end of the day for us Indians... India is best... (we do have many issues here... no denying that... but still .. for Indians ... India is Best)

Thanks a lot Hemant bhai, very well explained! The vacuum that comes when you don't have anyone around to talk with you and share things is really bad. Life is not just earning money and enjoying what money gives you. Real life is staying and sharing happiness & sorrow with your family and friends. Never forget the place where you belong. If staying abroad is such a good thing then why are the Super Rich and Celebrities not settling there, why are they prefer to stay in their Home Country??

Hii Hemant ji , aaj Yun hi apki video dikh gyi. Apki baten sun kar dil baithne lgaa, B Coz my son is also living abroad and we both miss togetherness. Your observations are really heart touching and true. I will share it to my son. Thanks for showing a ray of hope .

💯 real facts 👍 ..very clearly put across. Eye opener. And the discussion topic around 5.14 is bigger than Global Economic Summit 😂