Obsessive Compulsive About Relationship Conflict

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Obsessive Compulsive About Relationship Conflict

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Do you find that when it comes to conflict and relationships, you tend to obsess over them and compulsively try to over "fix" any sense of disturbance you feel in the relationship. Today I want to address a question that was sent in on this subject and share with you some very honest struggles I have had in this area.
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@leahguesman4294 7 ай бұрын

This is like listening to someone who has been living in my mind 😭 I needed this… especially today. Thank you Mark, once again.

@tonypino5415 Жыл бұрын

Mark your teachings are blessing me a lot. The problem is not the problem. I realized all these manifestations of anxiety, bitterness, spinning etc were from very deep wounds in my heart. The Lord has blessed this ministry and now I'm ministering to others with these truths.

@winniecash1654 2 жыл бұрын

This is so me. Yay, God is using our brother Mark for the good of the rest of us who need healing. ! ❤

@jpadkins1988 2 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness I have been wondering about this scripture. We read it out loud in Celebrate Recovery every week. My former BFF dumped me and I didn’t say anything unkind to her (she was literally offended by a compliment). I always worry that I’m supposed to go apologize even though I didn’t do anything wrong.

@winniecash1654 2 жыл бұрын

@@jpadkins1988 I wish I could give you some kind of encouraging words. Sounds like there's more to the story, at least in her mind, which would cause her to behave this way. Are you able to flat out ask her what happened?

@learningpeace9788 2 жыл бұрын

I laughed so hard at the Kermit impression! 😂🐸That was great, haha. This topic boils down to the "fear of being misunderstood" for me. Rejection for sure. Thank you for this!

@KeketsoN01 2 жыл бұрын

Yessssssss, fear of being misunderstood!!!

@LL-lj1kq 2 жыл бұрын

I’m 70, and I couldn’t stop laughing at PREPARING YOUR HEART. Because that is me ! Thank you Mark, and thank you to the questioner. ♥️

@karlenebehlen15 2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I deal with. Praising God for leading me to this.

@Pepperfam 6 ай бұрын

I have relationship OCD. I always have to come back to this video. This is a god send message. My marriage has been almost destroyed from my ocd and trauma. I was abused at my church and the toxic people I would spin out for months. Thank you mark!

@Jesusandmentalhealth 2 жыл бұрын

Dude, you are the male version of me 😂😂 Great and encouraging show. So thankful for you and others in my life (including the Holy Spirit and His leading) who have taught and encouraged me in my OCD recovery journey ❤

@Cathereena Жыл бұрын

Same! ❤

@tiff1622 2 жыл бұрын

I had to say this real quick, and let you know that you helped me stop with the scrupulosity just as it was solidifying within me. It was a hellish time, but your videos helped me calm down and realize that it didn't have to be that way. I Thank you, so much.

@melissadejesus4958 2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@MaddiKepley 17 күн бұрын

I received a passive aggressive text from someone who makes me “spin out” - what’s funny is that before your videos, Mark, I didn’t know it was relationship OCD! I thought it was just me feeling bad for something maybe “I did.” I thought, “hmmmm maybe Mark has a video about this…” SURE ENOUGH!!! Thank you so so so much!!! 🙏🏻 everything you said was spot on!!!

@richwilson3767 2 жыл бұрын

Mark. Listening to this in my car on way to work. Laughing out loud. Walking in the room, do they like me. Then we answer ourselves. No they don’t. It’s not funny. It was just the way you said it. You have a really good sense of humor. And the muppets. Your something. Spot on the voices. So funny.

@julietreagus7043 Жыл бұрын

Halleluyah...Its just so freeing to know that we're not alone in our quirks and personalities.... Rejection is at the core of a lot of things... So appreciate you pastor Mark... Can relate so well ..thankyou

@amygoff4127 2 жыл бұрын

This is for me

@VoiceAndPianoByChristaFord 3 ай бұрын

Hi brother mark, this is literally my experience with relationships since I was a young married military wife with young children, this exact same scenario would play out over and over again! Thank you so much for sharing how to avoid repeating this it is such a joy to learn all these skills

@patricknolin2936 Жыл бұрын

Thank you mark. You are a godsend doing God's work with real people with real issues. Keep talking WE'RE LISTENING!!♥️🙏

@lindacarr7721 Жыл бұрын

Thankyou for being willing to me talk about these things. It’s not popular in The church yet soooooo important. God has used you to help me on sooo many dark times. Thankyou

@Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын

I can't believe you have summarized my childhood church experience in one video.

@olympia.i_rea 2 жыл бұрын

This is very relatable!

@coconut_juice 2 жыл бұрын

ew i think i just did this yesterday - and also all of my life

@iw9338 Жыл бұрын

Yes i hear you on this. Yet, most people don't want to discuss things Thanks Mark👍👍

@lorisullivan327 2 жыл бұрын

Ohhhh yeah… the queen of codependency… the process is slow to unravel… 🧡 I loved the old guys 😂😂🤣

@BonBonHassan 9 ай бұрын

So relatable, I especially struggle with "waiting on the Lord" because I get decision paralysis from perfectionism and feel I'm using it as an excuse

@propheticwarrior 2 жыл бұрын

Really enjoyed this video. You hit the nail on the head concerning many things. I really like what you said about treating God like santa. Isn't that the truth. It's amazing how much mixture has happened within the church. I was encouraged by this video to see just how far God has brought me through some of the struggles you spoke of. Right now I am in the midst of trying to make a decision concerning a pastor who is a friend of mine. I say friend but perhaps it's more less like a really good acquaintance (not sure). I really do sense some things that are off but I am really trying to, like you said, "wait on the Lord". I definitely was milling over whether or not I should ask him if everything was ok but I believe the Lord led me to this video to hear what you said and my final decision is to leave it alone. Believing for the Lord to move my wife and family in a new direction this season of our lives. Her and I both watch your videos regularly. God bless you and yours.

@tylerortagus931 2 жыл бұрын

Oh man thanks mark this is spot on for me! Some good stuff to look at. Lord convict me when I’m looking for validation and acceptance through others!

@sharonspender6431 2 жыл бұрын

Mark thank you SO much for answering my question. Sending high fives back to you. By the way, if coaching/podcasting ever stops working out for you, I'm sure you could get a job as a Muppet; you sound just like them!

@rondawallis957 2 жыл бұрын

So good and funny! I love how you help us laugh at ourselves!

@iw9338 Жыл бұрын

Yes, growing up nothing was discussed. Great job Mark❤😂

@SketchybrainD Жыл бұрын

So far this is exactly what I’m dealing with. Thought i was the only one I’m being so fair and was honest about this from the beginning. She is just using it against me and I can’t understand why. She pursued me. I told her I can’t handle a relationship yet. Told her my problems. She kept pushing and guilting me She promised she would help I trusted her Told her I get if I’m too much just don’t leave my head all messed up. Just be honest. I told her I couldn’t and said I don’t do well in relationships. Six years she swore she would help That she loved me. As soon as I dropped my guard and let myself believe her and it could work. I fell in love and she used everything I told her against me. My mom died and she ghosted me right after I can’t believe anyone could be this cruel after six years of making me think I could trust her.

@jpadkins1988 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I can’t stand conflict. People being mad at me. When Jesus sets me free of this finally (he has been working on me for several years and has brought me a long way), I will truly be “free indeed.” I do see where you are saying it’s really just following compulsion instead of doing it for the right reason. The Bible college im attending right now teaches that all suffering is the result of self-centeredness. So I can see where the true motive should actually be love.

@Cathereena Жыл бұрын

Yes! Loved the Muppet Show! Don't forget the Swedish chef! This video is me! So much in this video that I needed to hear and apply! Thank you! God bless you!

@jessicalove143 2 жыл бұрын

It sucks when the one you love is a DismissiveAvoidant. I just want to love him and help him where I get compulsive and anxious. I have to tell myself to just let go and let God and not take it personally.

@ammiebrooks6011 Жыл бұрын

Mark, everything you speak about is so relatable to me. Thank you for your videos.

@beckybarber7969 2 жыл бұрын

Great stuff. Really appreciate it. Your word and ministry is helping me as we minister to others here in Belize 🇧🇿. Thank you and to God be all glory.

@julietreagus7043 Жыл бұрын

Spot on Mark.....so thankful for yr ministry.....bkess Abba

@TomDutch 2 жыл бұрын

Statler and Waldorf

@taylorplayer50 2 жыл бұрын

Thankful for what you shared, I can relate!

@KeketsoN01 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, I almost texted his exes because of how compulsive I was getting

@darcyd2680 7 ай бұрын

Ahaha, Mark 😂 it makes me lough out loud how you explain things "Hmm, I got to prepare my heart for church?"...🤔😂

@jessicalove143 2 жыл бұрын

I felt this 🥺

@SketchybrainD Жыл бұрын

Yeah. I find myself in that now. Sounds just like what I’m dealing with.

@annasupyo 6 ай бұрын

Cant believe ive found you man

@carolobrien242 2 жыл бұрын

I absolutely relate to this. Thank you so much!

@deynaundomiel8402 Жыл бұрын

Oh wow! 8:34 hit hard ! This is very helpful!

@danab398 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for all you do! Your videos and insights have helped me see the truth of spiritual and narcissistic abuse that I experienced and start to finally truly heal. What would you say about a Pastor who encourages “wronged” people to come to him first, instead of going to the person who wronged them face to face first?

@CC-ze2ky 2 жыл бұрын

😆 Awesome! Good Stuff!

@roccofelder1551 Ай бұрын

As I rest I feel anxiety while laying down

@dja192 2 ай бұрын

Mark, for the Happy Days Song, it’s just sung with the days of the week in order. 😃 But wow what an amazing rendition of the Muppets! I couldn’t even remember the words! How’d you do that? And I used to watch it a lot too. Was I OCD zoning out then too? 😂

@Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын

I gotta be careful of mockery but man, prepare my heart. I just gott very rigid as a kid!!!

@roozbeh1253 2 жыл бұрын

Today I had a dream about God, it was kind, I will not let something this kind and good turn sour by ocd, I have to be strong, like you guys

@Nightwalker25-m3u 8 ай бұрын

When you said you dealt with the last church. I heard "lost church."

@Nightwalker25-m3u 8 ай бұрын

The Apostle Paul thing was really interesting. Maybe he will say something like that.❤

@thejanellelive1755 2 жыл бұрын

Professor Bunson

@winniecash1654 2 жыл бұрын

Someone close to me cut me out of a business contract which cost me loss of income. (They are a family member). Before this they had given me a loan. Because of the loss of income I was not able to pay them back. Cutting me out of the business agreement took me over 10 years to recover, if I ever recovered at all, since the yeaes after this the market crash of '08 happened. Now what? I really need perspective.

@julietreagus7043 Жыл бұрын

Lol lol muppet show impersonations very good..

@roccofelder1551 Ай бұрын

I want to grow in the love of God

@Nightwalker25-m3u 8 ай бұрын

Yes, pandas, Zeebras, Penguins, and Toucans, and oreos! Lots of white and black.😅

@SketchybrainD Жыл бұрын

Man I hope this has to do with what I’m dealing with. I don’t like to assume things about god and don’t really think anyone can speak for god. But. I respect peoples beliefs. I just hope I can get something from this that can help

@Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын

So, the other day.