You are correct, I am one of them.

Me too!

Beautifully stated ❤

Amen

43, virgin. I'm with a very understanding man right now, he know he can't get the cookies until wedding night.

amen

Exactly a general

She's half warm. She supports the gay relationships of her friends. Credit: MTV's The Challenge.

@@georgina4874 100%.

Freezing eggs does not align with Christian teachings, but I do wish her the best

I think it's more of it being bc she is 40 so it'll be hard to get pregnant.

Rightly so

@@jclyntoledo There are a lot of 40 year old women still dating without kids right now. People respond by saying things like "You'll meet the right one, it'll happen, and you'll have kids before you know it so don't give up". What sets her apart is her virginity. Because she's a virgin people see her at fault for not having the family and kids she desires. People see her as a woman that isn't actually "trying".

@@jclyntoledo that data is from the 1600s btw. There is no age cap lol

Yes you’re catching on. It’s the men. They need to mature as headship

God's time is the best Brit there is no rush I waited until I got married at 33 yrs. ❤❤❤❤

Same here at 33 and I'm proud of the commitment I made to God. Thank you for sharing your story!

Your right if better to wait until Married i regret i didn wait i lost my at 25

@@vanda3393 it is! You actually did really good, in terms of how long you held out! People are losing theirs at MUCH earlier ages, so that says a lot about your individuality.

@@getupwithzandim2673 Indeed! 🤗 That’s great! Kudos to you!

I am 49 and we have to stay positive 😁

Of course, you will find your future husband ; and you have your unborn babies waiting for you, so you have nothing to worry about.

I’m 41 and believe that I will find my person also. God has not forgotten about us. ❤️

I got married at 47 years. Love is always possible!

Amen and amen in Jesus name Amen. He'll come, GOD is working on it, and there won't be any regrets. Amen.

That line made me crack up too.she so right.Quality is always better than quantity!!!

Powerful statement Belonce❤

@Susel OMG!!! Your comment made me laugh out loud!!! 💀

Exactly. People think it’s hard getting a man or getting married. It isn’t. I know men looking for papers that marry very quickly and the women they marry think it’s for genuine reasons. Going around screaming ‘my husband’. And then years down the line they break up and she’s soo shocked even though family or friends told her. Btw break up always happens once he gets the papers of course. But I digress. It’s not hard to get a man/ husband. It’s the quality. I know many women just end up desperate. Settle and are miserable. Women no longer want that nor have to put up with it.

Hey I was 32 had a baby at 34had my tubes at 35my husband was not helping me at all long story short he died with cancer after 15 yes of marriage 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Was the experience different? Between 34 and later on at 38. I always have this fear that it would be super hard😣 and I'm 28

God's time is the best Caren I had my first son at 34 as well❤

@anonymous Exactly...

Why are you ladies so obsessed with having a baby and falling in love with some goon. Priority should be your finances... Car, 🏠 house,travel,save 💰 save money.. not that..blinded by the light 🚨 nonese.. SMH 🤔

Exactly i wish i wait much longer. I was 25 when i lost my but it didn work out with my ex boyfriend hou i lost my virgin to. I wish i wait until i got married but to late

how? waiting does not mean you will have a great relationship. but to each their own.

Well, I’m 44 and I’m still a virgin.

@@teresaautreyexperience Exactly, and she could be a 40 year old virgin due to the fact that she passed up many good men because her standards were way too high. This is typical.

a lot of virgins doesn't have a choice but to be virgins.

The thing is, yes, sometimes it is too late.

@Kaydee who said giving birth she said having a family.

Were you a virgin when you got married?

Who was you fxcking? 😂 I love my sex life

Girl. Most these guys don’t even know what their doing anyway and studies back this up.

@@gailainsley6939 exactly! Heterosexual women have the least orgasms. It's not even that great. Better to atleast learn with a life partner

I’m praying that you guys have a lot of kids that are healthy and joyful! Don’t lose hope, it’s coming ❤️

You have no idea that is coming for them. Yes, we can pray for them but the reality is that it’s not 100% possible. In fact it’s around 3-6% per IVF round - if the article I read an hour ago is right. I am glad we are positive for each other but ridiculous statements like this are false and misguided and misguiding. Don’t be positive to a dishonest fault, please. It’s not good for the reader/original poster and maybe you feel good about yourself when you type it but it’s absurd and laughable when other read it and are able to see the big picture and the full truth. I do pray that this couples dreams come true - of COURSE- but I’m also a realist.

Forget the babies. We don’t need more humans destroying the planet. Do you orgasm? Does your sex with your long-awaited one and only lover- does it satisfy and please you as you deserve? I’m genuinely curious.

@@mariametheexplorer Yes, encourage more selfish people to breed new humans into an overpopulated world full of suffering and adversity. No big deal, right? There are hundreds of thousands of children who need homes, but y’all would rather spend that same money putting your body through hell, praying to get knocked up and experience a miserable, high risk pregnancy for a baby, when there a children who need that love and a home.

🙏🏾🙏🏾

A.men.❤️.🙂

Yup. When it's this extreme it's called being a basket case.

I do too. She’s walking her own path. Not being desperate to settle down just because it’s what’s expected of her. She knows what she wants and is willing to hold out for it even if it means she ends up with nothing at all. That’s some real self discipline, courage and determination and I can see more women doing this in the future. Choosing themselves and happiness over all else. ☺️

She’s a victim of feminism. It’s sad not something. We should be praising

society doesn't really care to be honest.

I'm appreciate you

Do you mind sharing how you pray over your womb? Sometimes I think about praying about my future husband but then I think to myself "if God wanted you to be be married with kids, you would be by now. There must be something wrong with you and that's why you're still alone" 😢 I'm also 38, single and a virgin and I worry that when I finally find someone it will be too late for children ☹️

@@fruitytarian Whenever I am praying, I place my hand on my lower stomach/abdomen area and I declare LIFE over my womb. I pray in the shower touching my stomach too. That the kids in my womb and around me will be leaders and not followers and I'll raise them in the ways of God. I come against sickness and disease, etc. Hope this helps but if you're interested in my work and how I support women, inbox me on Instagram and my channel

God's time is the best Dr Lorneka❤

@@fruitytarian To all the women: Let's stop this negative talk RIGHT NOW beautiful, talented and loving women. My eldest sibling has a son who is 46 years old. Our mother got pregnant at 40 and 44. My 46 year old nephew has an uncle that is 42 and one that is 38 years old. Sister pregnant at 43, child preparing for collge. It's all in HIS Hands and HIS Plans for his precious children that are walking upright. Sarah was childless until she was 90 years old. God promised Abraham that she would be “a mother of nations” (Genesis 17:16) and that she would conceive and bear a son, but Sarah did not believe. Genesis 17:17 Abraham fell facedown. Then he laughed and said to himself, "Can a child be born to a man who is a hundred years old? Can Sarah give birth at the age of ninety?" Genesis 17:18 And Abraham said to God, "O that Ishmael might live under Your blessing!" Genesis 21:5 Abraham was a hundred years old when his son Isaac was born to him.

Please stop over thinking it, I lost it going into my 30s it’s not a big deal. Maybe develop a relationship with someone you trust and go from there. You can’t ever get anywhere if you don’t go beyond the dating phase. Test your limit, set your boundaries, and do some exploring. Of course not everyone deserves access to your body but don’t be afraid of going for it if something develops.

@@AImaniaX dude, thanks for the legitimate life advice! I’ve been dating someone I like lately and we’re actually vibing pretty well so yeah. I’m not gonna overthink it.

take it from a gay guy who came out at 16 and is 41 now. I've had plenty of sex. But never met anyone who liked me for me and wanted to be my boyfriend. Sex is overrated. You do you and wait for someone who values you for that

Lol 😆. It's delusion. A girl can catch a fish a good one it may be a whale before 30. After 35 only thing u find in sea is crap or dead fish that too rotten one

@@lonewarrior8245 Nope.

@@kaoutermouslimhaliba7145 ok catch a whale when you are 40+

Morals and values or being extremely picky to the point no one will meet her standards? No man is perfect or THE ONE. You can't go decades not being able to find someone or else it's totally you.

I'm a 35 year old virgin as well and I approve this message ☺

absolutely 💛Yes.✨🙂

God is faithful

Did you freeze your eggs????

I have been celibate for 15 yrs. I am almost and have been celibate since I was 21

True only my close family know not the whole world

I understand your comment really, but I think that people should be ashamed that they are NOT a virgin especially women ; sex before marriage IS a filthy act. How would a man know if you didn't have multiple abortions when you're not a virgin ? People will not wear second hand clothes, why take a woman that other men has chewed & spit ? Your point of you is upside down just like the world.

I get it. She has a platform and chose to share so that others will know they aren't alone in this.

I would say this though, I would love to hear and see more Virgin stories (Even those who reached their goal and waited til Marriage) more on public platforms AND in today's music rotation! It seems as everyone else gets their turn to be widely publicized and regarded, but Virgins!

I applaud her. Some folks publicize that they are THOT. All different in opinions.

Me too I’m 31

Amen

Me 3 lol I think we’ve found our tribe in the comments of this video love to see it!

@@jennifere9031 yay! Im so happy to see this..my sister its not easy oh..but God will strengthen us and not let our wait be in vain

People will always talk, who cares???Be you. Be you. Be you.Stay true to yourself and stand firm on your faith!!!🙏

...But first, GOD will bless her with the sacred knowledge of being Whole (content without a Man or own family) first! #AMEN

When she drops the anxiety. When you lose faith, you chase your blessings away.

That part Bumblebee, THAT Part! 👊 #JustFlowLoLo #JustFlow 🙏

@@bumblebee4280 absolutely 💯I have learned this myself .

Waiting for a prince that doesn't exist

That "it will happen" advice has gotten her to this point. Maybe when she was 23 she should have been a little more concerned about how it might not happen.

@@jonathanfarley2023 Concerned? What do you think she could have done different? Men don't like to be chased.

@@jonathanfarley2023 Well at least she's still alive to have a chance to meet Mr Right unlike so many others who are unalive because they picked a maniac to be with.

@@jonathanfarley2023 because woman's lives only revolve around this while men up until whatever age can continue impregnating woman that allow it and then get left to fend for themselves and that child. In her 40 years of life she has done more than a lot of us can only imagine. Its very sad that you would even have this mindset let alone speak on it. I really hope whatever your going through or have gone through, you stop deflecting on others and focus more on yourself and how you can be empowering to everyone and not just pick and choose. Peace and blessings!

🦁

The biggest issue is knowing if the man would want a child. If she is looking for candidates around her age, the older she gets, the harder it will be. Hopefully, she will be able to maintain happiness regardless of the outcome of her choice.

delusional 🦁

Shame.

Shame and regret

Who knows. I've waited and I'm 41... Don't see the problem.

I lost my virginity at 23 and definitely wish it occurred with someone else. I regret my selection, but being sexually active thought me so much I never knew about sex and myself. I wish her the best on her journey.

Girl, I’m married but I’ll tell yah, if I could turn back time, I wouldn’t do this now or at 40. I don’t care. I would be single my entire life. It’s not all its all that. It’s not for me. I feel Bad for my husband. I definitely could go the rest of my life. I do have moments where I wonder if I would be more open and up for this life if I had more experience but I’m not sure. Anyway, God bless you all. Keep strong.

@@norahelaine6041 I'm single and so grateful for your perspective. I sometimes feel weird because I feel like I enjoy my time alone and think about what a crappy wife I'd be because I'm tired all the time. Sometimes I feel like weirdly, I know I won't enjoy married life but I feel like I can't have that opinion because I've never been married. Is the intimacy really not that great? I worry about things like that too 😕

@@hustlemami8732 I understand, dear. Life on a whole is just really hard in many facets. Remember, marriage is bringing two people together and trying to operate in unison as one. It is very difficult. Anytime you involve someone other than yourself in any capacity it gets difficult and require work to ensure feelings are considered, mutual respect, etc. Doesn’t matter the relationship. It could be friends, student-teacher, employee-boss, it doesn’t matter. They require different level of effort and care but the gist of what I mean is that anytime you have to consider someone outside yourself, and this is almost 100% of the time as nobody is an island, it’s not easy whether personal or professional. People have different principles, values, ideas, strengths, desires, etc. so you’re trying to blend two things so it function seamlessly and that’s not always easy, naturally. I believe men and women are clearly designed to work (biologically) with each other. That’s the very foundation of humanity. Yet at the same time I feel they are inherently and ironically designed not to work/they clash. I don’t know how to put it but I’ve observed and I saw that men are generally happiest with men and same for women. I don’t mean homosexuals, I mean men being in the platonic/friendship company of men. Same with women. The two sexes understand each other and are happiest with each other in general terms. For example, my best friend is a female and I love her so much. Again, as a sister and friend (nothing I say here is in reference to anything homosexual). She would be the perfect man for me if she were a man based on her mindset, principles, attitude, etc. I could live with her without any complaints etc., just a perfect match and i could see us being happy the rest of our entire lives. I’m sure a man and his best friend feels the same way except they would likely need sex from a woman. My friend and I could go the teddy of our lives without sex and we are only 31. Speaking in general terms: I’ve also come to understand that women are much more emotional beings. We do not value sex. We value emotional connection which for us will pave the way for sex/intimacy and make it enjoyable. Men seem to not grasp this idea effectively. Men don’t require intimacy for them to want and enjoy sex. They can do it on the fly if the desire arise. This is typically not so for women. We need that emotional stimulation for literally the vagina cavity and all our sex/reproductive members to be activated and open for pleasure. The emotional connection comes when the brain is stimulated and that part is activated triggering the response from these members and it all works in unison and we’re happy. I would guess that except for pornography, this doesn’t happen for women without the emotional component being fulfilled. This doesn’t need to be something elaborate like buying flowers and a whole show. It could be just something simple. For instance, in marriage, most of the household duties still fall solely on the women, which is one of the number one reasons women are always tired and complaining, some divorcing. Because most today in America at least, they still work 40hr week and still have to manage childcare and house. These women are dealing with so much over and over everyday and still expected to be hot and ready for sex. It doesn’t work that way and although some women may be able to cope and look past that emotional connection just so their husband’s needs can be met, it doesn’t mean they’re happy. Believe me. One way to stimulate the emotional process for women in this scenario would be if for example the husband cleans up after the child, helps around the house, wash dishes after dinner, I don’t know…anything to let the woman feel valued, helped and appreciated. She would be more inclined for intimacy come night or whatever. If the family has no children, same thing. If husband can respect things that matter to her, be a bit more helpful around the house, make her feel good during the day and not just at night when he wants sex. There’s a lot to say on this great matter but from my perspective, that’s my belief and assessment. Some men have a high sex drive and have that desire many times per week. I have found that most women are the opposite. So again, nature showing us how opposite we are yet design to work. Seems like a losing battle from the start of you ask me. In closing, I would say if you have doubts and it’s greater than your desire to marry, absolutely 100% do not do it. It’s not fair to the man to suffer. I really wish I felt the other way for my husband because he is a good man. The best man, but I just can’t force myself or my body to feel that drive. I have tried but I 100% love him. Just not that into intimacy which is very sad. I am and was a Christian at the time so we never slept around and got to know this until we were already married. That’s what I meant by my original reply on this comment. That I have periods where I wonder if I had done so prior, if my sex life would be better now. I am not sure but I trust God to help us here. I’ve said a lot but I wanted to be honest and truthful from my perspective. I wish someone had been candid with me before.

@@hustlemami8732 Now more than ever I understand that scripture where Paul stated if you’re single and can bear it, do it. I think some of my values changed with age and unfortunately, opposite from my husband’s so it makes the union more difficult now. Marriage I would say is not the worst of it all because you can obviously divorce (not good and not something that God likes) but it’s possible. The bigger issue is if you have children. That is the worst part about a failed marriage. Something you can’t “take back” without causing irreparable damages. FINAL NOTE: Marriage can truly be a blessing, still hard work with all I’ve mentioned. With the right person, it definitely is a benefit. I think if I were single I’d want to experience marriage. Now that I am, I’d want to experience living life as a single although that only lasts a short time in thought. I really do love my husband and our child. They’ve given me a deeper meaning me purpose. I definitely don’t feel like I am missing anything in the world. I was boring and a loner anyway so it’s nice now. I have fun, do things, etc. They give me joy but I still get upset sometimes. I was always clean now I have to pickup after people. It’s not easy again going back to what I said: blending of more than one. Overall, I don’t regret them. I truly don’t but if I get another chance at life of picking again, I wouldn’t do neither marriage nor motherhood. I would take easy way out because it’s just so much easier being alone and not having to consult anyone. The reason I say this is because I like simplicity and I could live in a tent in the woods to avoid working to pay mortgage etc. my husband is not. Kinda typical of most men with that built in drive to work and establish. We just have different core values. I wish you all the best in life. ❤️

I'm 23 and waiting now. Everytime I get on KZfaq and see so many women my age or older waiting, it really encourages me.

I am so glad to read this. I am on the otherside now and can tell you that it pays. The trust, love, commitment and peace from having none or one body count is priceless.

@@anissa2361 yes! I’m 27 and I feel encouraged by Lolo and you all. God has a plan and we cannot rush Him.

@@tyreebrownart at all, you rush you lose. Waiting pays

This is so true. Love built without sex is solid. People will tell you different. But the bond is so much more because you have gotten to know intimacy on a much deeper level with someone when sex is not involved. I pray young girls or even women know they are worth the wait.

Latreese, she is rich , careful , she should not be emulated

Yes, me too!

@ComeliteKang please freeze this year! Most doctors will let connect you to a payment plan if you need it- and depending on the doctor-they will NOT freeze eggs after you turn 42 or once you turn 43. AFTER 42 you you have to make embryos- not a lot if people know that. I think I’ll make a video about that. The needles are tiny I’m not sure why they’re saying that it’s painful it may be because they don’t have any fat on their stomach but when it goes into the fat they are so tiny you barely feel it… the pain comes from the bloating once the eggs - - and multiple eggs start growing inside of you

Yes don't count yourself out about having viable eggs . My friend also had more than expected at 40. Best wishes

@@softblackwoman This is great info for those thinking women of doing it; I hope she gets cracking👍

I hope u have started as the process looks long and painful

I can tell u incase u change your mind.. if you’re female and straight , it’s going to hurt so much your first time Anyway and it sort of continues depending on how elastic you are he he , it honestly is like another job occasionally, or it has been when experienced with the incorrect people . I commend you ! Truly

How does someone actually be asexual ? You don’t get turned on or yearn physical touch at all ?

@@melissamartinez3593 Thank you! Yes I've heard that from others and there's so many things I dislike about the idea of "the act",besides the pain, including that it becomes like a chore eventually, especially if they're selfish and I've heard many of them are. Then some women end up faking it to protect their egos and stuff. Just so many potentially situations I'd like to avoid related to IT.

@@malcolmxpanther I do; there's different types of asexuality. In my case, I can feel attracted to someone but I don't want to do the "deed", it just seems so repulsive to me on different levels and there's so many downsides and risks I'd like to avoid. And I hate the idea of touching someone else in their private areas and I like the idea of being touched, but also what I don't like about everything is the potential to turn into a freak. Never want to feel out of control over my body or constantly controlled by urges and I'm repulsed by what happens physically when you're in that "mood", I even get grossed out with myself and I feel like an animal, just not who I want to be. I probably sound crazy lol, but yeahh that's how I feel.

A lot of women don’t sexually peak until their 30s. I had zero sexual desire until my 30s also. It’s actually quite normal.

She’s a Christian - one who follows Christ - she’s not religious! Haven’t you seen religions that enact and encourage sexual acts, multiple partners e.t.c? Anything that is contrary to worldliness and mirrors Christ is always tagged as being “religious” to people who don’t know their left from right.

@@N...213 well, religious Nor christian I ain't. And I also respect others whom have an active sexual life. That's cool too.

Lolo didn't make becoming a wife/mother a priority in her prime child bearing years... now she is complaining about the outcome. If I were to do a Gnatt chart analysis of how much time and effort she put into her Olympic training vs how much time and effort she invested in trying to attract the attention of the type of husband she wanted, there would be a huge deficit favoring her athletic training. Lolo is a cautionary tale for young women. You don't have as much time as you think. Be strategic with your time and date accordingly.

This is not true. Many women are choosing IVF and surrogacy because their careers come first.

Amen!!!

AMEN🙏🏽💖

Amen.

Just look at the reality to understand your thoughts are fictional. Billions of bad people procreate, date, and marry.

Are you a Christian?

@@sadraolaedo4733 yes I am

Go for it, woman! As for your doubts of being a good mother, maybe it would be a good idea to work with a psychologist too.

U don't need a psychologist..smh. Nothing's wrong w/ you. Everyone has their own path, just do what's right for u. A lot of women are having kids later in life. A lot of these celebrities like Tamron, Halle were well in their 40's so it can still happen for you! :)

Yeah that part is crazy . Rather have a lazy man who works out 🤔 she should never say that out loud

Same girl, same. I hope that she does not lower her standards in that area

She ain't missing nothing when it comes to sex...the kind of slackness and nastiness going on is unbelievable...even when you think you find someone you can trust, they do selfish shit and may put your health in jeopardy...I wish I had never had sex...I never cared to have sex and it still isn't a big deal to me...I've also had lots of men ask me, how do you do it or I'll end up alone...men will make you feel bad and gaslight you when they want you, but you show no interest!!!...unless one really wants a family, then yes, do it, but never feel pressured by members of society who are unhappy doing what they're telling you to do...all the relationships I know are dysfunctional...a lot of them wish they hadn't gotten married or waited to have kids....most people feel the need to "play house" at some point, but if you don't listen to your actual needs, trouble usually awaits!!!

She is a high wage earner. I believe she meant that she would not expect a man to earn what she earns......that she would be the breadwinner. There are many financially strong women who earn more than their partners and ultimately "take care of" their partner and the family. She was just saying she doesn't mind if that happens.

@@elizabethbrandon677 men have done that fr decades or even a millenia

Amen

Amen!!!

Shooooo well said my sister❤

That's what I want to know lol.

@@DH-uw3us Girl!!! 🤣🤣🤣😂

Hhhmmmmm, am wondering the same thing!!!😁

@@candyb9463 there’s so many of us out here like, weh deh at?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@@tishainnis fuh real.True thing that!!!.....🙂🙏

God's time is the best sisi❤

@@getupwithzandim2673 yes 🛐

Agree. You would think she has come across another Christian athlete that has the same interest and values .

Right. I'm very surprised that at 40 years old and as pretty as she is, she hasn't found someone that could live up to her standards. You would think she has the pick of the litter looking the way she does.

@@DH-uw3us Most likely she is easily annoyed by people and looking for someone who believes and behaves just like her in all aspects of living.

That's true freedom. To choose whatever fits your needs.