Mental illness is unacceptable in functioning society, a tortured character not of his own making, various states of dejection involved, reach out and share your burden, your absence from the community, get involved or perish, isolated from the rest of a humanity as a result🚩✅💲

If you feel like you need another person then you are Goddamned pathetic and that is the truth.

You are not alone. Be well, do good work, and keep in touch.

There is also a school of life app for sharing and connecting with others who also find school of life helpful too! Just a heads up if you want to chat with people more

Sending you lots of love 💞💞💞

@@Slamagotchi But only on iOS? I couldn't find one in Android.

well-worded and very true

It sounds dark but beautiful

... “But I don’t wanna see those tears again. You know Jesus drives an Astrovan.”… For the record, I’m not religious

Please leave me alone.

But still together... We can't live separately..

😣😣😣

Thank you...your words are like a blanket of comfort...you must be a pretty special person if you can make a random human feel comforted without even knowing them...stay safe and well...and you too...don’t forget you’re not alone... 😇🙏🏼❤️

@@rebeccac1447 thank you so much for your words ✌🏽✨❤️ This message circles around KZfaq so it was not mine originally! I just thought this video would be a place where they would be appreciated 😊 feel free to spread the word 😉

Thank you for your kind words ❤️

@@rishikart10 glad it helped 🙏🏽✌🏽✨❤️

... Actually, the Psychopaths in government who control peaceful people by force and fear, need to be severely stigmatized.

@@joedavis4150 Who in the government controls peaceful people through force and fear?

Connections are very hard to form. I haven't had a friend in about 20-30 years.

too much awareness already. Everyone loves to diagnose people.

@@eduardochavacano i have no clue what this is in response to.

I feel like people constantly saying we need social interaction and that it's a huge part of life are actually the biggest part of the problem. There's nothing wrong with living the life of a recluse if it makes you happy. Stop trying to tell people that this is a negative lifestyle when that's just your own interpretation of how to live.

@@notgate2624 seclusion is perfectly fine and great if you are in a state where you can enjoy it - most people need a lot of social interactions til then though

@@notgate2624 I agree, especially when you end up having superficial and unfulfilling interactions just for the sake of it

@@notgate2624 it is a negative lifestyle. There’s a difference between living in solace, & living as a recluse. choosing to avoid social interaction shuts off the valve of any progressive psychological performance because only your perception of what your reality is is the right one. It’s an unintentional bias. it’s not about doing what makes you happy. Being socialized has its physical & mental benefits. There’s been plenty of studies on mammals & the significant defects it causes to baby chimps when isolated.

Introverts and extroverts charge themselves differently. I'm ok with one on one but crowds cause me to get anxiety and feels overwhelming. I think it has something to do with energy and how we handle it personally.

Couldn’t agree with this more.

Sounds like a good idea. I would add that my own experience of building close connections with fellow sufferers and learning to mock our sufferings and our tormentors (real and imagined) in the safety of our own space has really worked wonders for our little group.

you are damn right. Better to be alone than hang out with someone who has gone crazy. But is not even aware.

@@amanullahkariapper2503 same, me and my bestfriend had the same experiences and i was really thankful we were able to help each other out and make each other feel less alone

@@eduardochavacano that's right, the key is "But is not even aware" - perfect rule for deciding which side of the boundary they fall.

Where's the quote from?

@@justintime7577 Pintrest

As an HSP I get it

I feel the exact same way, and over time it is only becoming more extreme for me :( people really don't understand me, which makes me feel alone and insecure and ashamed about myself because they judge me when they don't even actually know me and understand md, it's like no one in this world can or wants to really see ME, i always have to put on a mask and fake my personality but even then people think i'm weird and i can't get the love and connection i'm seeking and never had in my life, and the most difficult thing is, i truly have no idea who i am, i try to be myself, but what is that self, how can i be myself when i don't even know who i am. And this is really distressing and makes me feel really lost

@@badidea6034 You need to love yourself before others can love and understand you for who you truly are. Engaging in activities that you like to do, builds confidence. 💚

I feel the same. Talking is a skill we tend to excel in, but listening, truly listening when someone is sharing their depths seems very difficult for most people to do... I think listening is the key, people might speak more if they felt truly heard, truly accepted

@@mEatToLive yeah, I agree. skills on how to be sensitive aren’t taught to us, but they teach us public speaking and the like. We aren’t taught the basic, crucial things which make us human since “being sensitive” doesn’t sound nice on a resumé. Schools should really be updated, they’re still teaching us industrial-age stuff.

@@louera My opinion, for all its worth, is that we are taught to be silent and we are shown that listening patiently isn’t what our role models do... I once listened to an audio where the speaker said, “The average child in the average school (in the U.S.) … asks 6 questions per month, total, sitting in those classes... The average teacher asks 50 to 100 questions, per hour... I ask the student a question, I give the average student one second to answer it & if you don’t answer it, I’ll give you another question & I’ll give you half a second after that, on average. And if you don’t get it, I go on [to someone else].” He goes on to say that a 3 or 4 year old naturally asks hundreds of questions a day. But when they get to school, “they realise answers & fast answers & right answers are the things that matter.” And at the end of this speech he says something along the lines of, ‘now that you’re out of school, you can fix yourself by learning to ask questions again.’ Asking questions is a crucial step to listening. If people aren’t game to ask a question for fear of being condemned & if we won’t say what we’re thinking for fear of thinking/speaking ‘wrong’, how can we ever understand & accept each other & our selves. We’re taught not to trust ourselves & we’re taught not to listen. And this isn’t just kids woefully giving up on themselves, there’s actually a whole lot of programming going on in the brain & some of the structures will change, some of it is permanent damage. That doesn’t mean we can’t recover from our education, our brains are pretty versatile, but we shouldn’t have to fix what should never have been broken. Imagine the capacity of an unrefrained & encouraged child mind... As far as I’m concerned, we’ve been taught to close up. If we get something wrong in school, we feel condemned, we’re taught that it’s not ok to be wrong & it’s not ok to be curious, basically it’s not ok to be ourselves. And then there’s the literal bullshit they teach us... Our education system is misguided & it teaches us more of the same. I’d dearly love to see it change in my lifetime, I would rather that my grandchildren didn’t have to be ‘put through that wringer’. In the meantime, I’ll just keep trying to encourage curiosity. Curiosity is akin to wonder, & I often wonder what it would be like if people could learn to open up... again

I think so. And I also get to know people, talk about themselves, more and more. Sometimes it seems, this poeple were not able to learn - caus of the failure by the parents, but also by excessive media consumption meanwhile we all don't learn to ask... .

Now i want a fellow HSP empath friend 😭 I always wish i could meet people who write comments like this irl, youtune videos like these are full of people who are more conscious, insinghtful and understanding, but it seems impossible, irl people around me aren't compassionate and understanding of my struggles at all, never once have i received an ounce of love from my parents and family, only dismissiveness and anger and blame

Great quote, I remember hearing it in some previous episode. Do you remember which was? Thanks!

@@juanmaflyer it's from The Best Chat Up Lines

"Watching the video is simply not enough. By adding the text below it, I serve my sinister masters while sabotaging public discourse. This afternoon, it is my home to make out with a chimpanzee." -Nico Joshua

@@solomonreal1977 bruh

@@nicojoshuas I wanted attention :((

Listening not being judgmental

Too bad in my place going to see a therapist is so hard, it’s almost unavailable.

I am willing to listen, and for free

They are paid to listen. That doesn't solve the problem. People need kindred spirits of similar ability in real life, not a paid technician-listener who dispense scientifically correct expertise founded on the erroneous assumption that all humans fundamentally need the same thing, deep down. They don't. If we say "all humans need love" this might fly on face value but this is because the statement is left vague on purpose. If we dig deeper, we realize love means very different things for different people, therefore it is not enough to say "all people need love." What kind? One can only benefit from love offered by someone who understands love in the same way we do. Otherwise, it falls flat. Love, like all other generalized human needs, is not a homogeneous concept.

What you said didn't make any sense.

@@lucasoliveiradejesusjesus6193 it made perfect sense to me.

@@lucasoliveiradejesusjesus6193 it made sense to me too. I had the exact same situation.

it made perfect sense

Yes happened to me too, at first it was comforting but slowly the world started seeming like a awful place, full of misery and depression

Same

Saaamee

I can relate

Not really, you can tell people that you feel lonely and they would not judge you coz everybody is lonely in a way. Give a break to your assumptions and stop caring about what others think of you it's not important.

Yes

@@karlel9663 This is true but it also depends on your social circle. People you know in real life may be busy and occupied with their own lives and see you as annoying or a “negative Nancy”. It’s harder for people who don’t have understanding people around them to express that they’re lonely because they’re taught that loneliness is a sign of weakness and they should just learn to occupy their time.

@@bloodshotview if you irritate them by saying it again and again of course ppl will think xou are suffering from some kind of disease. Just say it once and see what happens, otherwise if the person finds it like you described he's not worth to follow for further friendship.. go find others

Facebook seems so shallow. Theres nothing deep about it, no real connection. When I log on I can feel my vibration dropping.

@@erinsuzy613 log off. Go join a group (in an area of interest) at your local neighbourhood house - similar interests can connect people more easily, or invite your elderly neighbour over for tea. It just takes one first step to start connecting. 💕 Take the leap. Good luck!

No, it’s easy, because we all have burdens are not different at all.

@@kerynl.sanchez9891 Not really, the “feelings” , point of view and life experience can be very different from one another.

especially when you are someone can only relate to people from another continent and culture.

@@kerynl.sanchez9891 It depends on what kind of person you are. If you are part of the vast middle in ability and neurology, it's easy. If you are a highly complex person, it's not. People's burdens are in fact highly different. It's a lot more than saying " we all want to be loved." Love means different things for different people. Getting people of a highly different cut to commiserate about love or other fundamental human needs or even try to offer it to each other, is a disaster waiting to happen. Internal differences overpower superficial human oneness/sameness.

@@eduardochavacano Neurology trumps Sociology, but you need compatibility in both. Psychological, social, cultural, etc. Relationships thrive on similarities of all sorts, not on differences. Hence "irreconcilable differences." Avoid.

Living A Life Of Abundance-- You made me laugh, thank you .I have been having a bad day at work.

🤣🤣👌

Boy, I see you on every channel these days

@David Monreeuz Don’t be jaded. There are many benefits to a long term relationship, at its best. I get how today’s society may be set up for shorter relationships though.

@David Monreeuz You're giving up on the best type of relationship that humans can have if you do that. If you are going into a relationship thinking it will fail, that will contribute to it's failure. If you're too scared to be vulnerable, then you are missing out on the flip side of positive emotions. There is nothing more rich and validating of you as a person than letting your deepest depths be known and accepted by another and likewise. I'm speaking to the part of you that is currently afraid to long for more. Become best friends before dating and the chance that the relationship fails will be far less. Most people start their relationships by banging, thus they have a foundation of sand, which crumbles at any disagreement or surprise.

I like this mindset

Everyone need it ❤️

Now my turn, I am feeling isolated lately, I am shy and I really want to make friends... since the beginning of the year I tried to get out of my comfort zone, but it's being difficult now because of school and it led me to isolate myself. I feel like I shouldn't feel sad for that, but I'm growing up and I really want to find my tribe. I spent most of my teenage years alone and made me feel so depressed, I struggled to find my career path and I think if I had people of my age would be less painful. I don't know why but this is a pertinent thing in my life, and I decided to look for what I want now and act. I don't want to be a victim of my past anymore, I am hopeful and I will get through it. Sending warm energies to you, we will get through it :)

@@natashamatos4823 I feel you Sometimes I look to the social people and feel [inferior] to them My teenage years resonate with yours Maybe my ego was in the way of making friends as I felt [superior] to everyone With this, I think I need to heal from the inside first and start to act and commit to it thank you for opening-up 😇🤝 We will get better and help others in the way🙌💘 smile more be friendly as if they are already your friends And just don't think if they like you or not often they think the same Be nice and friendly and act on that they will be friendly back as well that might help💝have a good day💖💖

I hope it feels like you lifted a burden off your shoulders by sharing.

@@natashamatos4823 sometimes things don’t go as planned. And we need to redirect our path before our path redirects itself (when that happens it usually is not good)

I have the capacity to do anything. when given enough time and discipline. but the real reason to why I stop at any real progress is because of why should I? I am enticed to the idea of self destruction that I sabotage my relationships from my family, friends, and an old flame. Is this just what I'm gonna pine over for a couple of weeks then pine over a new jig? the thought of "I can and I will" somehow cripples me. and now confusion and self loathing gets the best of me. This is how it gets to me. Ruined by the vibe i bring, serving myself.

*Nods* Pros and cons when it comes to the Internet and social media. It can be used well, but it can also be used unproductively. I think this comes don't to the fact that we're still figuring out what it should be for and how it should best be utilized. If I were to give my opinion, I would say that social media and the Internet can at times be a means to supplement human social interaction especially over long distances, but they are no replacement for in-person interaction and connections.

And to you ❤️

Seems you got more to share...I need more

This is a real test of Self Love...the dreaded words we hate to see but know we need.

Deep connection with people seems to be old fashion in such a superficial world. It is so sad the reality.

Bro just chill tf out! This video is about people dealing with loneliness and lack of social interaction. Not chasing girls and all that. Your making comments like this everywhere. Just stop. We get it but it has nothing to do with this video

You are so right

I hear you. I experience the same thing.

This is a big part of the reason why I don’t have friends now. I low key prefer it this way but then I wonder if it’s healthy for me to feel like this.

The reality is that some people are too caught up with their problems to be willing and able to listen to someone else. Is that a fair excuse? Not really, but it's easy to see why it happens so much. Some people may do this unintentionally, while others are plain selfish and don't really care about others and their problems. You have to accept that people are like that sometimes, and also understand that just because you're willing to listen, it doesn't mean they will necessarily truly listen to you in turn. Everyone needs someone to listen to them from time to time, that's not unreasonable. But if you do decide to keep listening to others, don't do it with the expectation that the courtesy will be returned to you. Do it because you can, because you want to. Have a nice day!

@@kmc1994 I often wonder the same, I don’t feel ‘safe’ around people, which is to say I feel better alone. Is this good for my mind though? Sometimes yes, because I get plenty of uninterrupted time for self reflection & reflecting on the nature of humans & the nature of nature & the nature of the universe... it’s all very entertaining at times. But I often wonder if it’s healthy. There’s definitely an urge to be with people, but in the end, I’d just rather not. It’s very conflicting...

@@kayskreed Thank you 🙂 you’re very right. I do it because I want to & not because I expect people to listen to me in turn. But I keep finding myself seeking for someone like me, & to be absolutely honest I get a little disappointed... not at the individual but at my lack of finding a two way connection. I don’t know how else to explain it & I know it’s irrational & nonsensical, I just hope that one day I’ll find someone who feels like a safe & calm harbour. When I hear people blaming others for their feelings, or worse, their actions, I feel that I am not safe with them. I listen & I try to encourage them to hear themselves, but I also give up on them being a someone for me. I do realise this isn’t the best attitude & I’m trying to change the way I feel about my interactions. I know that this comes from a place of expectation & I’m trying to let it go. I know what I need to do but can’t seem to manage it, it’s very frustrating

Sameme

What is discord?

Eh. This isn’t everyone’s experience. Not everyone has the right friends and it’s hard to find the right therapist and/or therapy group depending on your area and resources. Sometimes people really are alone.

Trope. That's not connection. That's self-awareness and self-respect, if anything, but people can't live on that only. They also need to connect with someone else who can "see" and "understand" them. That's connection. Dwelling on the self and imagining relationships with self is neurotic.

@@roses6564 It's both and it works for me. When I lack that inner connection, external relationships are unhealthy for me.

@@toomuchinformation One more time: that's not connection. That is self-awareness and self-esteem if anything, and yes - these are needed to ave good relationships. But you don't "connect" with yourself. People, stop and think before you repeat psycho-babble gibberish.

@@roses6564 One more time: it is for me. That is my lived experience. I know what it feels like and how it manifests itself in my life. You are not me. You are not in my body, so stop being so damn condescending. A random stranger telling me about myself. That's a God complex right there.

Add the pandemic to the mix. Yes, it's a bunch of things.

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Would be expecting from you

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Same here.. buddy

Ohhh I got similar stuffs to...we could talk about it

What a boomer

Either way, they are staying alone in their isolation as opposed to turning towards each other and looking for commonalities