OUR THOUGHTS ON BABY #3...

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3 жыл бұрын

Since it's the most popular question I'm getting these days, here you go! Here's where we stand on whether or not we're having a third baby. Love you all! xoxox, Kayla
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@blairlittle7854 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing...I recently suffered two miscarriages in a row.. pregnant again now only about 5 weeks and praying for this one to stick 🙏 👶 would love prayers from anyone who does so! Love to all mamas and women! 💘💘

@lydiamhir6543 3 жыл бұрын

Praying for you!

@amandaarmas6353 3 жыл бұрын

Praying for you and baby 💙💗

@Everaftercakery 3 жыл бұрын

Prayers to you sweetie 🥰 🙏🏻

@Issyrc18 3 жыл бұрын

Praying for you 💕🙏🏻

@cindycaraballo5573 3 жыл бұрын

Prayers your way! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@camilya20 3 жыл бұрын

I am 41 and my husband is 43 I had my son at 40. The regret feeling is real. I have a 22 and a 16 year old and my husband and I had that same conversation. He didn't want to at first, but after he thought about it, he was ok, because he understood that we both are getting older and if there was a inkling of a feeling that we were ok with having another baby....well we did. We started over and it was such a blessing. I also did not want to regret not doing it. Just my short story.

@Sarah-qn7fr 3 жыл бұрын

It annoys me when people ask when people are having a/another baby. You don’t know what that person maybe going through. They may not be able to have kids, they may have had a miscarriage. Being asked could really hurt them. I love watching your videos and you have an amazing family.

@carmenh2168 3 жыл бұрын

I honestly understand your reasoning but people are just curious as she’s such a great mom and she’s saved her previous kids things so people are just excited and curious as that comes naturally when watching someone’s life like this. But as Kayla mentioned she’s completely okay with sitting down and talking about this and if she wasn’t she wouldn’t do it :)

@Sarah-qn7fr 3 жыл бұрын

@@carmenh2168 she is ok with it but slot of people arnt. I am talking bigger picture here. Not up for an argument just airing my view and feelings

@carmenh2168 3 жыл бұрын

@@Sarah-qn7fr I understand, I’m just saying as long as she is comfortable since this is her channel and life she’s sharing. I’m happy with that :)

@manehbag732 3 жыл бұрын

I get your point completely. But it's also a normal question and we should alwayssssssss strive not to take others questions so personally and in a hurt way. Life sucks when we approach it that way

@kimberlylott8612 3 жыл бұрын

I agree 100% I hate this question so much. I kept a cancer scare secret from others that ended up being ok but I had a period of time where my fertility may have been taken away. I had surgery and was able to get pregnant a few months later. But before getting pregn people kept freakin asking why I don't have kids and I didn't want to say what was going on. Yes people don't ask this question. You don't know who you may hurt. Now I have questions about when is number 2 coming and I'm done because my cancer could come back unless I have a hysterectomy and now I'm hurt on another level because I did want to have a 2nd kid

@staceyhookins3433 3 жыл бұрын

Such a brave and vulnerable video. Sending you the biggest hug.

@katherinesilva6981 3 жыл бұрын

Ok so because you put it out there, The reality is a newborn takes a toll on a marriage, It’s impossible to not put all your energy into that. Joe probably wants to start focusing on you and you on him now, it’s time to strengthen and rebuild your relationship after the last 2 babies. Your mental health took a hit and you’re still recovering, focusing on yourself is the most important to give you’re family the best of you. I understand that you are very religious and that is beautiful but sometimes the signs god sends can also not be for what you want (I hope that make sense) timing is everything and this might not be the right time. You’re allowed to feel how you feel it will take time before you start to see it from his perspective but yeah I also think realistically I’m pro small families, better chances of setting up your kids financially, easier to give your kid attention and to bond also less to be anxious about.

@meganc3090 3 жыл бұрын

My mom wanted 3 kids, but my dad didnt 😕. I always wanted a younger sibling too. (Im youngest of 2). My mom still regrets not having a 3rd baby. God knows whats in store for you. Pray and ask for His guidance and peace in what He is leading you to do. 💗

@tyharman_ 3 жыл бұрын

There’s no rush for a third and having to have a small age gap. Just because he doesn’t want to now doesn’t mean that’s it. Just give it more time. There’s nothing wrong with having a 4-5 year age gap.

@Kpachm 3 жыл бұрын

I’m just throwing this out there and it’s definitely something that you would want to personally think and pray about and discuss with your husband. My husband and I use natural family planning when we are not trying for a child. With great attention and care it’s very effective and for me it feels less like a door has been shut. When we are being open to life but not really feeling like ttc, we are coming together at times that I cannot conceive in my cycle. To me, this is great because it’s being open to the idea that if God wants another child for us, we aren’t necessarily preventing it, but at the same time if you are not absolutely ready for another child you are putting the odds in favor of not conceiving. I don’t think I did this explanation justice haha but to me and my husband it has been a beautiful way to honor God’s choices for our family while still respecting each other’s wishes for our family. It takes a lot of pressure off the decision too. It’s just up to God and if he wants another child in our family he will provide. Super personal choice though!

@lynn5505 3 жыл бұрын

I do this too! And it works!

@clairesanders1456 3 жыл бұрын

We use NFP too! I have 3 children so far and I have very difficult pregnancies so we are very careful when we need to be spacing children. It works for us as a couple for peace of mind body and spirit 💕

@mylovelydream8828 2 жыл бұрын

This is so beautiful and true 💜 my husband and I practice this too for the most part.

@sammac92 3 жыл бұрын

just putting some thoughts im having out there.... i just dont feel like you would need to try as soon as Jackson turns two. maybe wait an extra year and see how it goes with the two kids... maybe it will get a lot easier on you when hes closer to three to start trying. and maybe your husband at that point would be on board. baby#3's book doesnt need to be closed but maybe put it on the shelf for a little bit. i have three younger siblings and im closest with my brother whos 7 years younger than me. the age gaps dont need to be 2,3 years. maybe just wait it out.

@GoodBadBeautifulLife 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing so honestly. Everything you said was me and our family. When our second started kindergarten we both felt the same way, two and done, super blessed and happy, sold all the baby/toddler gear, and agreed on vasectomy. Then the month before I turned 34 bam, surprise baby #3, who we do not have the space for in our house, or the money for in our budget, but he's sleeping on my chest as I watch your video and........you just never know what life is going to bring from one day to the next. 💕

@lesley8655 3 жыл бұрын

did you have baby #3 with the vasectomy? 🥵

@GoodBadBeautifulLife 3 жыл бұрын

@@lesley8655 I should have clarified - no, we had just made the vasectomy decision but it hadn't been done yet! I hope those stories are super rare!

@hollyiman8931 3 жыл бұрын

Kayla, thank you for your honesty and opening up in this subject. God will give you what is yours, but praying about it is everything!

@lindseygundersen3951 3 жыл бұрын

I completely understand what you’re going through! My husband and I only have 1 and he doesn’t want another one. I’ve accepted it but I’m still mourning it at the same time. It’s hard!

@NicoleStephaniepr 3 жыл бұрын

It's a very hard conversation, but i think it would be a very BIGGER regret to have a 3rd and loose your marriage because one of you can't handle it😔

@NicoleLottLife 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! It’s very hard on a marriage.

@SarahNavarro10 3 жыл бұрын

This is a great point!

@mamababyrn5674 2 жыл бұрын

My husband and I have talked about this also. I desire to have 1 more. My husband is a hard no. We currently have a 4 year old boy and a 2 month old girl. We know it would make it that much harder on our marriage. We both have demanding jobs plus being pregnant I am always higher risk due to having chronic hypertension thats genetically based. Its hard to think about this potentially being the end to this stage of life. Im putting it in the perspective of God that I trust His plans. Im greatful for the healthy children I have because I know not everyone can have that unfortunately. Plus I want our children to have what I did not have growing up. And the more children, the harder it is to give them those things. And not to sound selfish but I always have had a desire to travel to different places and adding more and more would make it impossible to afford traveling. Or even to do fun things. Or go out to eat!

@NicoleStephaniepr 2 жыл бұрын

@@mamababyrn5674 your point is completely valid and i agree❤️ enjoy life mama!

@BriTeaches 3 жыл бұрын

Our 2 girls are 10 years apart. That is how long it took me to recover from the newborn and toddler stage. I will not do it again. Having small children slows you down so much. I can't wait for my 18 month old to turn 3 so life can be more predictable. I love my baby, I just hate this stage and, mentally, I cannot do it again.

@subifuwant9583 3 жыл бұрын

A very powerful talk from a very powerful woman!

@lucaspetshop9143 3 жыл бұрын

I believe your husband is súper down to earth by not wanting to have a third child.

@aprilsummers9930 3 жыл бұрын

I feel for you so much. I had my first son and always dreamed of having another baby. Then I ended up with a partner that was adamant he didn’t want kids. He was happy helping me raise my one son. I spent years regretting not having more. I finally told my partner that I was stopping birth control and that it was on him to prevent pregnancy if he didn’t want it 😬 For seven years we didn’t do anything to prevent pregnancy yet I never got pregnant. I Felt like I had finally accepted that it wouldn’t happen, as I was getting ready for my first to move away to college. Then we got the surprise of a lifetime. Now I have one son that is almost 21 years old and one son that is 16 months old. I wish I could have one more but between my age and a bad back it wouldn’t be a good idea. I am so so thankful that I got a chance to go through all the stages again. I love being a mother. Thank you for being open and honest.

@susanberberian3718 3 жыл бұрын

I have no children by choice and when people ask me about it, I say, "There are regrets either way." If you have doubts, don't choose to be selfish. If you're not all in with kids, don't have more. Enjoy the ones you have.

@adeline5688 3 жыл бұрын

For me 2 is perfect, I have a boy 3 girl 1 and it’s the perfect set. I’m getting my tubes tide. My view is I don’t want to split my attention even more and this world is crazy it’s hard enough having kids in general. Plus I want to be able to travel and have time with my husband not spend our whole married life raising kids. Just another perspective

@safiyas.2546 3 жыл бұрын

Same!!!

@mamababyrn5674 2 жыл бұрын

This! 🙌 I feel the same way even though I desire to have a third. I want to experience the world and travel with my husband and children. The more you have the harder it is to do those things.

@siennawerner98 3 жыл бұрын

I loved this! My heart is with you mama 💛 it’s so hard to make big decisions like this - we’re here for ya!

@TheYghani1 3 жыл бұрын

In my opinion a 3 year gap is still too small. I have 3 kids with 3 years gap between all of them and by far my hardest transition for me was 2 going to 3, by far! You are still very young and have many years ahead so can afford to wait a few more years.

@Ayzlin 3 жыл бұрын

Interesting. I have a 3 year age gap and I love it. My oldest is pretty independent so it's been an easy transition, going from 1 to 2 kids.

@thyrathompson720 3 жыл бұрын

Kayla, when I watched this video, I felt we were sitting on the living room couch with a glass of wine, talking and addressing everything I was going through. I have two kids(boy and girl) and recently one of my cousin had a baby.. I was sad because looking at her newborn being so tiny and cute, it had me thinking if I REALLY wanted more kids. You have touch on every thought and I could have related to you in every aspect. However, reality hit me soooo hard and I realized that both financially and my mental health, I know I had to put those thoughts to rest. THANK YOU for sharing this video. Where I am from in the Caribbean, people would have this mentality... if you have a boy and a girl, you should be done having kids as now you would have your "pair" and having a third would be an injustice as you would need to go for a fourth lol. My grandmother had 13 kids :) but really appreciate you opening up like this.

@lesley-sheena68 3 жыл бұрын

This was a tough one... giving you virtual hugs and letting you know that all your feelings are valid. You've got the right things in place to navigate thus next season; prayer, therapy, friends, family and Joe. Thanks for sharing your heart with us

@MarilennyPina 3 жыл бұрын

Gosh im crying 😭😭 im going through this in my mind right now! Praying for you💕

@sarapnina 3 жыл бұрын

Oh God Kayla, I am almost crying here. I wanted 3 kids as well, but probably will only have two because of financial reasons. So I feel for you! 💔

@Sunflower.Sailing 3 жыл бұрын

Same here! Except I have one. It wouldn’t be wise to have baby #2 :( I want to so bad thoooo

@CWall-tv7gm 3 жыл бұрын

@@Sunflower.Sailing I HATE that women have to sacrifice having children because of money. We had to space our babies every 5 years because of cost of daycare. I hate how finances and cost of daycare dictate our lives

@brigittabottlik7042 3 жыл бұрын

@@CWall-tv7gm Which country are you in? We have the same issue. We need a 5year age gap so my daughter can be in school by the time I have the second. She is only 2 now though still plenty of time until then. She is absolutely enough for me but so much want her to have a forever friend, someone she can trust and adore and talk to through her life even when we get old with hubby. I always wanted small age gap but then covid happened and then financial issues and now we clearly can see we have to wait another 3years ...

@deandraking3751 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your honesty you are one of the few moms on her I’m subscribed to that are sooo transparent and honest even when it hurts and I couldn’t thank you enough❣️ praying for you and your family continue to keep God close.

@MsJdominic 3 жыл бұрын

I literally just had that conversation with my husband. He has a 12 year old son and we have a 10 month old baby girl. From since before we had her he had been saying that he doesn't want any more kids. Now that she is here he is in love with her. So I told him that when she's 2.5years I think it would be good that we have another and he's on the fence about it. So I definitely understand how you feel. It's something we have to pray about and leave it to God. He knows exactly what we need and can or cannot handle. You got this Kayla

@dacebukane1623 3 жыл бұрын

I hope you'll have another baby when Joe is ready! ❤️ You are a great mom, wishing you all the best!!!

@tvil8 3 жыл бұрын

all the other mom vlogs say the same thing, the transition from 2 to 3 is the hardest - theyre outnumbered. also i had my first and only kid at 32 and things get harder as u get older. my body hurts all the time getting up and down with her, lifting her, running around with her.... it would have been easier in my 20s no doubt

@discopumps 3 жыл бұрын

What?! You’re 32 not an OAP!

@meganschutte1674 3 жыл бұрын

@@discopumps what’s an OAP?

@discopumps 3 жыл бұрын

@@meganschutte1674 old age pensioner…..!!

@sarahrayl7569 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Kayla for sharing such raw emotions on a sensitive topic that is so close to your heart and the hearts of many other momma’s. I have never resonated more with a video than this one today. Thank you for validating my feelings and being real.

@7823jennifer 3 жыл бұрын

I totally understand the "roll the dice " thought! I struggle with this when I think about trying for a third.❤️

@mathiog56 3 жыл бұрын

I just wanted to thank you for being so honest about your feelings, even if you don't understand all of them. I lost my first baby 23 weeks into my pregnancy. I'm thankful that I have a healthy child now but I still had a difficult pregnancy. I'm conflicted because I worry about and yet strongly feel I need to have more children so my heart goes out to you. I also wanted to let you know that I've been following your journey as a mom and enjoy your videos because my little girl is a month younger than your darling Jackson. It's been great to see a little preview of what I can expect at each age. I couldn't have a mother's group during Covid so you've been a great inspiration to me as a new mom. Thank you! ❤

@melissapfahl6085 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being vulnerable in this video!

@tiesssa1 3 жыл бұрын

I think its so great that you say you have so much more love to give- and I think there are so many ways for you to use that love in the world. Jackson and Riley will be going out into the world, making a group of friends that you will get to know and love, you can be involved in their classrooms or activities, etc. There are so many ways other than another child that you can take that love and do beautiful things with it in the world!

@farmanimals92 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing! I know this can be a very hard subject. My husband and I have been struggling with this as well. You are not alone!

@NicoleLottLife 3 жыл бұрын

I know exactly how you feel. So I have two, a boy and a girl & my daughter was/is so hard that both my boyfriend and I have basically come to the conclusion we are good with two. We just can’t handle anymore and I need to sleep at some point in my life lol. Even though I knew in my own heart that I can’t mentally handle anymore, when we talked about it, hearing him say he doesn’t want anymore hurt for some reason. It was realizing I will never have another baby again, and I still get sad sometimes, BUT I know if we ignored our good judgement and had another anyway- yes we would love that baby but we would be so stressed out and stretched so thin it just would not be a good situation on either of us mentally. More babies is always a blessing, BUT you have to know what you can mentally handle as individuals and a couple and honor that. Joe saw how much you struggled with Jackson, so he knows a 3rd would not be any easier lol. I know it’s sad, but your two live breathing kids need the best versions of both of you ❤️

@nik5851 3 жыл бұрын

I am literally dealing with this exact same thing with my husband right now in regards to baby we 2. It’s nice to hear that I’m not alone in the ways I’m feeling and thoughts I’m having and not being in that spot where I’m fully ok with the idea of being done. Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable.

@alguiennose6330 3 жыл бұрын

Kayla you are still young! Maybe 3 years down the road Joe will feel prepared for another baby! Time goes by so fast!

@elizabethpascual780 3 жыл бұрын

You are such a strong woman Kayla! I have so much admiration for you! So thankful for your videos and sharing your life with us. 💗

@judithbuchanan9566 3 жыл бұрын

Awwwwww Kayla😭😭😭😭😭😭. I just want to reach through the screen & give you a GIANT hug. You had me in tears😢. Thank you for sharing your heart ❤️ with us. No matter what you & Joe decide to do, know that we your followers LOVE 💗 & support you♥️♥️♥️.

@johnnycanales9569 3 жыл бұрын

This is really powerful- thanks for being so vulnerable. I really identify with your words and I’m certain many others feel the same, so you’re definitely not alone. I turn 40 next month and I have a 10 year old, almost 3 year old, and a 17 month old. As you can see by their ages, I thought for years “one and done” because our first was so easy. But then I got in my mid 30’s and started thinking I need to move forward or I’m going to miss my chance. I did have 2 miscarriages back to back but God is good and we were fortunate to have 2 healthy children after that. I really did “start all over” so yes, it’s challenging but I never regret it. My last pregnancy ran into complications and I had to have a hysterectomy so now obviously I’m done but please take heart. God knows your dreams because He put them there. You are a woman of faith and a fantastic mother. Pray for your husband and for peace in the waiting. You do have time but I totally hear what you’re saying. Thanks again so much for sharing. We think the world of you. ❤️❤️❤️

@jessicaknapp6049 3 жыл бұрын

I just wanted to come and say that you are a rockstar!! Very brave of you to share this. I love your videos, and often my husband is in the room and always asks how you do everything that you do with 2 littles running around. We only have 1, and can barely keep it together sometimes! Whatever decision you and your husband come to in the future will be the right one for your family at that point in time. I also wanted to share with you that my one year old has been stuck home most of his life because of COVID, and he loves seeing your babies on the screen! It's almost like they're his friends and he loves watching them play. I can't be the only one who often has a baby watching also, so in a way you're already impacting so many babies/kids in such a positive way! My little guy hasn't gotten to interact with other babies, and I can tell he's actually learning from Riley and Jackson and loves seeing other humans his age! Thank you for all of the content you work so hard to create, and I think I speak for all of us when I say that we are all rooting for you in whatever will be the very best for you and your family, now and always 🥰

@kayleerae2540 3 жыл бұрын

Hugs mama❤️ I wish your family nothing but the best, things happen for a reason! Maybe one day you guys will be ready for #3 or maybe not but in the meantime enjoy those kiddos you have!

@ashlysanchez2174 3 жыл бұрын

God has everything already planned out in the palm of his hand. Don’t stress if it’s meant to be everything will go as planned with a job opening for joe. You’re in my prayers thanks for always being honest 💗

@sandramorales2831 3 жыл бұрын

That’s exactly how I feel about whether to have another one or not . I’m obsessed with your lipstick, can you link it pleaseeeeeeee!!

@mandysteffan2958 3 жыл бұрын

Girl, this is one of those times I wish I could chat with you for real like actual girlfriends. But I just want to let you know I'm with you.

@sarahnearing1 3 жыл бұрын

I'm right there with you girl. It's so hard to realize that one day we will be done having kids. It's so hard to close that chapter. Thank you for sharing and opening up 💕

@cristydavis9651 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so brave and honest sharing this with us. It’s a lot to think about.

@greenhomestead6305 3 жыл бұрын

You’re still young. You can wait little more to see how comfortable you both are about this topic. Maybe in a few months or year Joe may change his mind or you may. Pray about it. God always answers and guides those who seek His help.

@lotte90 3 жыл бұрын

Sweetie, I just hope that no matter what you’ll be happy and healthy and have each other. ❤️ You never know what happens in life, regardless of whether you end up making one choice or another, you’re doing amazing.

@BriannaWeiler 3 жыл бұрын

Praying for you and Joe! It’s always possible Joe can feel different in a year or two… or you may feel different in that time! Sending you all love! I am having a hard time conceiving our own child so I wish nothing but the best for you!

@karoosten232 3 жыл бұрын

We all have so many “what if this, what if that” I do it alll the time! Time changes everything! If you’re meant to have 3 or 4 or 5 then you will! “Give it to God.” You don’t have to solve this 🙌🏼

@yajairagarcia1617 3 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏🙌

@anaisroque4470 3 жыл бұрын

We’re on the same boat over here! We have two kiddos. A 3 year old boy and an 18 month girl. After I had my daughter I was like we’re DONE! But now I have baby fever! My husband is a no go for baby #3. My emotional side really wants one, however when I logically think about it, having another baby will make life much more difficult for us. Since we have a boy and girl, we’re already going to have to be divided as far as activities for them (baseball/dance/swimming/gymnastics…etc). Both our kids are happy and healthy, so why tempt faith? Hard conversations to have tho. 😢

@olaehlert5703 2 жыл бұрын

I love you girl so much! Your honesty and thoughtfulness is amazing! We are on no3 talk and I can relate so much!! Sending lots of love! ❤️❤️

@tiffanyreign 3 жыл бұрын

Aww Kayla you made me get emotional and want to cry as well 🥺 I can completely relate to exactly how you’re feeling! My son is soon to be 16 months and my husband only wants 2 kids as well & I want more also. Keep your head up & stay strong & positive Kayla! 💜 God willing things will workout for you and your family. Love your vlogs and you and your cute little family keep me going 🙏🏽☺️

@gggirl9630 3 жыл бұрын

Aw Kayla sending big hugs to you 💕 I can imagine not easy to share this with us but I understand why you would want to be transparent about it all. It’s a lot for you and Joe to decide but you’re both so strong and I’m sure you will be led on the right path. You have a beautiful family and being grateful for what you have right in front of you is a really powerful message I want to think more like that myself. Xxx

@nicolezulli160 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your honesty and vulnerability 💕

@maryanne.sanders 3 жыл бұрын

You are both so young, and it’s inspiring to see you follow the lead of your husband. The Lord will change his heart or yours with time and prayer 💕

@aliciafalendysz6231 3 жыл бұрын

Pray about and revisit it in a year! We are all here to support both you and Joe! Praying for your decision and for perspective and peace! We love you!💕

@claudiavillanueva1798 3 жыл бұрын

Hello. I totally understand everything your saying. There’s always the what if when your trying to figure out the right decision.I’m sorry that joe is not in the same page as you. But my advice is to pray about it and god will work with you and your family. Pray for future decisions and God knows what’s perfect for you and your family. God bless you

@Evee101 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for letting us in on your thoughts.

@rachelthornton8692 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing! We are in a similar situation over here and it’s so hard to know what the best option is. I appreciate your honesty!

@casieboynton7822 2 жыл бұрын

You are an AMAZING mama!! You will make the right decision for your family 💗

@maxineatresino2844 3 жыл бұрын

Literally the exact spot in my life right now. I don’t want to be told “no”. I want that decision to be my decision but we have to think about our significant others. You got this mama!

@GivesMelissasABadName 3 жыл бұрын

I am only halfway through your video and I’m sitting here crying because I am in the EXACT same situation, except my kids are one more year apart than yours. My son will be two in February, and I feel like the “you know what” made it difficult to really enjoy the baby stage knowing that it would be my last time with all of that. Maybe it’s just always normal to feel that way regardless. I think people always mean well when they ask questions like this, but it’s really important to remember that these are all the emotions someone can be working through behind that decision. Thanks for a great video. Needed to hear this today. ❤️

@tiffanygreen4524 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Kayla for making this video & for being so honest he may change his mind just pray over it & god will direct you in the right path 🤍❤️

@KatieLogen 3 жыл бұрын

Oh girl you’re not alone in your feelings! We have been talking about the snip snip lol and I keep putting it on pause. It’s so hard to know like you said! Also we are considering homeschool too - I’d love to connect with you more on that because I have no close friends who homeschool or are thinking of it. ❤️ hugs!

@sandralizcardenas33 3 жыл бұрын

I totally get you girl! My husband and I love big families, we both come from 3-4 siblings. We have these talks ALOT a about expanding our family. Trust God, your a WONDERFUL mom!

@nicolezhang6033 3 жыл бұрын

Appreciate your sharing, it’s really touched me❤️

@achristine2195 3 жыл бұрын

Have you ever thought of maybe going through an agency and hiring a part time nanny, just so you can have some relief sometimes? Doesn't even have to be a lot, maybe just twice a week. I totally get being scared to leave your kids with a stranger, but a lot of companies background check and you can call references to check them out and have them come and interact with the kids to see if it's a good fit. It's okay to be scared and to be extra picky and careful when it comes to who watches your kids, but maybe it's worth looking into a part time nanny.

@ccbunn 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so real and raw about what you care so deeply about. Kayla, you have so much to look forward to at your age! I don't think any doors are closing for you. Considering this, it takes two and interpersonal communication is such a skill to have in marriage. I hope you find contentment and know the future is abundant with opportunity.

@brandi6963 3 жыл бұрын

When you said the baby announcement thing, I can totally relate to that! My hubby doesn’t want kids and that’s how I feel with the baby announcements too!

@whitneypea 3 жыл бұрын

Oh Kayla, i went through this with my husband last year. When my daughter turned 2 I was ready and my husband didn’t want anymore at all. It was definitely a hard pill to swallow. Now that she’s getting ready to turn 3, he’s been bringing up baby number three on his end. It might be worth having the conversation again in another year and see where he’s at. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts ❤️

@loves2jump 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your transparency and always being so vulnerable with us. You literally take the words right out of my mouth so often. You are my favorite Chanel to watch and I feel like I’m hanging out with a friend whenever I watch you ❤️ my husband and I are in the same boat after baby #1.. we both wanted 2 kids and now that we’ve had our daughter I want 3 but he’s not sure if he wants any more children now. Praying for your family and for peace with your decision. It’s such a difficult one to make but you are certainly not alone ❤️❤️

@simplymebykas 3 жыл бұрын

It's such a difficult conversation to have especially when one person isn't feeling the same way a out another baby. I am only beginning to think about the possibility of maybe thinking about #3 too so it's very early stages still...but I get what you mean about feeling sad when you think that the newborn phase is over...I think about that too. A lot. And it makes me so sad to think that I may never hold a newborn baby of my own again, or nurse another baby, or introduce another sibling to the kids. It really makes it hard for me to breathe when I think that it could possibly be the end too (although it's not certain yet). Thanks for sharing such a personal and difficult topic to talk about. I know it can't be easy for you. But please know that we respect both you and Joe's decisions in life and only hope for the best! Sending lots of love from Hong Kong as always!

@TheAmyWooo 2 жыл бұрын

Sending you the biggest hug. 💓 Kayla, I feel your heartbreak and confusion and am going though something similar. (For baby #2).You are not alone. Thank you for sharing so that other mama's like yourself don't feel alone either. You're doing a great job 👏

@susalkasarahi 3 жыл бұрын

I can only imagine that Joe comes at this from your own mental health perspective. Like I know when Jackson was a tiny newborn you had shared how it was very difficult on your mental health and not being able to sleep and everything that has to do with like a colicky fussy baby and maybe he's coming at it from that perspective that he doesn't want you to go through that since you mentioned that you would be the primary caregiver and especially being far away from family so you don't have that support system nearby. I personally would be so thrilled in your position to have the set and be done with. It's sad to admit this but I had gender disappointment when I found out I was having a son instead of a daughter and part of me is so terrified that when we try for baby number two I would be devastated if it was another boy because I know in my heart that I couldn't handle more than two children, but I would still have that longing for a daughter. My husband said that after our son turns two that we would be able to start to try for baby number two and so I'm hoping God answers my prayers and that he gives me the daughter that I've always desired.

@lesley8655 3 жыл бұрын

I have 2 boys and people have asked “oh are you going to try for the girl” and i’m like 😅😅 i do want a girl & I love my boys but I don’t know if I can handle another one if it’s not a girl 😩😩

@susalkasarahi 3 жыл бұрын

@@lesley8655 thank you so much for sharing! So glad I'm not the only one feeling that way 🙈

@lilianaperez7969 3 жыл бұрын

You are definitely not alone! I had gender disappointment upon finding out I was having a second girl. It was only when I spoke about it with my best friends that they shared similar feelings but they never told anyone! Very taboo to talk about but helpful knowing you aren’t alone.

@brigittebosshardt 3 жыл бұрын

I am the same as you. Worried that our second baby will be a boy and I’ll always want a girl someday. ❤️

@mollycloverblog7140 3 жыл бұрын

This video from you could not have come at a better time. My husband and I had this conversation pretty much exactly the same only going from 1 kid to 2 kids. Thinking of you. Its kind of a grieving process I think. Grieving for the idea in your head of a big family. Hopefully you'll find peace in the decisions you come to. I don't think in the long run you'll regret any decision you guys come to because you'll always feel blessed for the family you have xxx

@kelseylou2483 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing! You are definitely not alone in these feelings. I’ve always said I wanted to base how many kids we have on what I want our dinner table to look like in 20-30 years. The first few years are hard but are SO short when you think about a lifetime. I didn’t want to let these fleeting years make the decision for us. You’ll have your children much longer as adults than as children (god willing). HOWEVER, this is easier said than done! We are pregnant with #2 and we’re already so freakin’ tired! 🤪 Never say never but I really don’t see us having anymore after this one. We are looking forward to being past the newborn stage and getting to live a little more. Watch our boys grow and have each other to lean on, but not be as hectic as it would with more children. Hang in there, mama! God always has a plan and everything will be fine. ❤️

@maylenetain4572 3 жыл бұрын

I can 100% relate to this Kayla and you are not alone, my daughter is also 19 months old and she is our first. I always dreamed that I would have two kids and my husband knew this even before we started dating. But after we had our first he suddenly shut off and said one was enough, he loves our daughter to the moon and back but felt that it was enough for him. But I didn't go through my pregnancy, labour and all her milestones thinking that it was going to be the last time 🥲 and we are only 29 so to me I feel like I'm still missing part of my life and don't know how to grieve over the "what ifs"

@Jop4214 3 жыл бұрын

I am going through all these same emotions. Our baby boy is a couple months younger than Jackson and I want baby 2 and my husband is saying he doesn’t. It’s hard because I feel for me it’s more than a want. It feels like a need. So what if we can never agree on this? What do we do?

@mackenzienelson6997 3 жыл бұрын

I am there with you and have had all the same conflicting thoughts. Deciding on children and how big your family should be is so so hard. My husband and I have one 2 year old and spent a lot of time talking about do we want to adopt or foster or have another baby. I was wanting to have another baby myself and my husband wanted to adopt so we were on different pages for a while and took a long time going back to it over the past 6 months. There are no easy answers. You are absolutely not alone in having these conversations and having a difficult to time figuring it out. Stay strong, and maybe give yourself a few months to put it out of your mind (if that helps you - I get obsessive about things and need to allow myself to stop thinking about them) then reassess your and Joe's thoughts about it later. You're an amazing mom and person. Virtual hugs!

@marlenevargas1402 3 жыл бұрын

Definitely crying with you in this video as I have the same thoughts, having a pandemic baby my anxiety was at an all time high. A part of me wants another baby but with the world being such a scary place at times I know I have to heal my anxiety before trying again. I had 2 miscarriages before my rainbow pandemic baby who is now 16 months! We can see how much much you love being a mommy and im sure god will give you the peace and love your heart desires❤️

@mixmasterrrrr 3 жыл бұрын

This resonates with me and I really appreciate you sharing this (even though you didn’t have to). In the same place with my husband, though we only have one child, and I really understand how hard it is.

@lulucharlie8683 3 жыл бұрын

I love people like you and I love everyone here! All y’all are great! All of us with all our babies 🥰! This girl is just trying to do the right thing! COME ON NOW!! Let’s give her some claps!! 👏 👏 👏

@sarahfisher3457 3 жыл бұрын

Oh Kayla! My lip was quivering for you through this whole video and you are certainly certainly not alone in this! Your conversation sounds very very very similar to what my husband and I have discussed numerous times. No one talks about the resentment that can happen in these tough conversations with the spouses that we love so incredibly much. No one talks about how ideas of family can change right in the middle (we thought we were 4 kid people too) and that spouses can have a different idea of what that looks like after a kiddo or two. This long ramble of a post is all to say that you aren’t alone.

@aliceabethell8373 3 жыл бұрын

I have been following you and your journey from the moment you announced that you were pregnant with Jackson and haven't missed a post since. And can I just say that you are a great mom!! I can totally relate to everything that you are saying!! I'm only 26 and don't have kids yet, but I desperately want kids and everything you said about baby announcements and things hits so true! Both my sister and sister-in-law just had their first kids and I too was over the moon happy for them and shed tears of joy when I heard the news, but I was also very sad that it wasn't me. I've always wanted kids, but my husband is still on the fence about it. But I'll keep on praying and hopefully one day I'll be able to be a mom too!

@hollypelletier1024 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this. We have two (wanted more) but I had my tubes tied after our second (who are also 2 years apart) because we felt our family is complete. But now I just went through an unexpected pregnancy loss and have had so many feelings about it. I've really appreciated your thoughts back and forth of another child. And I really really deeply thank you for sharing the confliction over it as not being ready to be done. Thank you.

@itswhitt12 3 жыл бұрын

I’m going through the same thing right now Kayla. I have two kids and my husband just isn’t on board with another baby right now or ever. It is definitely very hard to accept, it’s an emotional roller coaster. But maybe one day things will change, and if not it will all still be okay in the long run. Love you, thank you so much for your videos 💖

@_Just_Jess_ 3 жыл бұрын

It is not my place to give you advice, but I want to say thank you for sharing your feelings with us. ❤️

@angang6278 3 жыл бұрын

I think people ask so much about baby number three because you’re such a good mom!

@Ppk0829 3 жыл бұрын

That reasoning is totally stupid

@angang6278 3 жыл бұрын

I think your comment was unnecessary. It is extremely rude. It’s my opinion on why she always gets that question. She is a great mom, I believe a lot of her followers would agree with that. Wondering if she will have more is a valid question. Don’t bring hate to her channel.

@ashleynicole9325 3 жыл бұрын

@@Ppk0829 your a jerk. Why would u even need to say that comment!?! There is alot of us thinking the same thing that she commented.

@aliciafalendysz6231 3 жыл бұрын

All right ladies let's not attack. If Kayla teaches us anything it's to be kind! She's a great mom and as she said she doesn't mind addressing the questions but we can all agree that she has the right to say it's also her business. Love to all!

@angang6278 3 жыл бұрын

Couldn’t agree more! 🥰

@heatherdoyle7903 3 жыл бұрын

Aww Kayla don't cry, I'm a mum of 3 ranging from 19 months old to 16 years old. My older 2 only have 20 months between them and with them both now being teenagers they are harder than the 19 month old. I can't imagine having anymore teenagers at the same time I have aged so much and really miss them being young and lovely. It was also very hard having them so close together and I'm glad that I have my little one and at first I was worried about starting all over again. I would suggest just enjoy Riley and Jackson at the moment and if it's meant to be it will be, the 2 older ones do adore the baby and I'm glad not to have all 3 as babies or teens! Sending hugs ❤️

@michellepfeufer7910 3 жыл бұрын

Kayla, we are so similar in the way that we think when it comes to motherhood…I also know that there is no more important job in this world and it would be the biggest blessing to have more. But I also have the fears and worries of what if something goes wrong, what if it’s far harder than I expected, etc. Keep on praying about it! I’m sure that whether or not God has another little one in store for you, He will eventually bring you and Joe on the same page and you will have peace about it. Keep pushing forward, you are doing an amazing job! I love your little family and your relationship btw, reminds me so much of mine 💕

@Shiharaariel 3 жыл бұрын

You do have plenty of time at least! I had just turned 36 when I fell pregnant easily with my FIRST and I’ve ALWAYS wanted THREE kids! I’m hoping to conceive a second soon! 💕

@thebjm1967 3 жыл бұрын

I was also 36! My little guy is almost 2 now and I wish I would have started sooner. But I’m so thankful for him!

@JH-tv8zg 3 жыл бұрын

I am pregnant with my second and I already know in my heart this is all I want. I am done after this pregnancy and my husband agrees. If he wanted more, I still wouldn't. I'm 32 and I feel old lol.

@jessicaely2521 3 жыл бұрын

Wait until you're 37 😂😂😂😂. I have a daughter and I had her at 35. For me personally kids keep me young.

@cafedulce6545 3 жыл бұрын

2 is enough

@anniegoodwin2412 3 жыл бұрын

I just turned 23 and I have a 4 and 1 year old. I feel old 99% of the time lol

@TheDivineblessin 3 жыл бұрын

Same here on my second pregnancy and I’m done 😂😂 and I’m only 28

@marijamataic4614 3 жыл бұрын

Are you....me? Girl same!!

@pennyeliza 3 жыл бұрын

I feel EXACTLY the same as you. Everything you said I could resonate with, it’s so hard to know what the right decision is 😞❤️

@dolphynlvr4 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Kayla, we know you didn’t have to at all. I just hope that even if Joe remains adamant in his decision, that he will still be willing to talk about it with you and sit with you in your feelings as you work through processing it all. It’s a hard thing to let go of. I pray you both can become content in your decisions. Love watching your videos and family 💗

@Dailymomhoodlife 3 жыл бұрын

I get exactly how you feel, I myself don’t know yet if I am going to have a 3rd, I don’t know if my husband will sign up for it..I still haven’t had that conversation with him in the fear that it goes this way and he tells me is a big no 😳

@cristinabednarz8557 3 жыл бұрын

Aw maybe he will come around and change his mind! I have a girl and a boy the same age as your kids and I do want 1 or 2 more kids but I will probably wait until it 31 or 32 I'm currently 27 I still want a big family I know it will be so much more work at that time but I know down the road it will be worth it! When I'm old and see all my children and grandchildren ❤️

@chloeparis5195 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Kayla for your openness and for sharing ! My heart goes out to you. I'm currently in a similar situation. Pregnant with baby number 2 and I cannot imagine it being my last pregnancy. I know I want another one after but hubby is pretty much set on 2 now! I'm torn so bad and the feeling is really hard thinking we might have regrets the rest of our lifes