Overcoming Anxiety - The 3 Things That Got Me Past It

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Here I share my 30-year struggle with anxiety starting in adolescence and finally ending in my forties. I talk about the three things that finally allowed me to find anxiety relief and share the insights that helped me see how to get past anxiety and put this behind me. I also dive into why circumstances like chronic illness (my ME/CFS - Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) didn't matter!
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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 My sugar addiction (Stay with me - it’s relevant!)
02:23 My history of anxiety
06:45 The 2 things that I misunderstood about anxiety
08:10 The 2 gurus that taught me was anxiety was
08:53 Understanding the first source of anxiety
11:03 The second source of anxiety
13:19 Building feelings of self-worth
15:23 Expanding the ‘circle of normalness’
19:10 Why circumstances (such as illness) don’t have to matter
21:28 Outtakes
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@myfamily7001 3 жыл бұрын

Them bullies were clearly jealous of you Raelan, you were beautiful (still are) .... jealousy definitely jealousy!

@jessicahayward-smith3469 3 жыл бұрын

Raelan you have been my guiding light in recovery from ME/CFS! Without you I don't know where I would be today. I still have a long way to go but you have given me hope that no one else did. And because of the pandemic, the support I was referred for never materialised. So I would have been lost. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ♥️

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Jessica! Wow, I'm so touched to hear that I could be helpful on your journey in some way. This is such a kind and beautiful comment to leave, thank you! Sending you love and hugs for your own recovery journey ❤️

@jonathanjames3964 3 жыл бұрын

This is so fascinating to watch. I’m 99% sure you won’t remember me, but we actually went to high school together, and-granted, it was 29473728 years ago-but I always remembered you in a way that was entirely unlike how you described your high school experience. I think that’s an amazing indication of how we, especially those of us who came from the generation in which we grew up, had to pretend we were okay even when we weren’t. And sometimes, it’s so dangerously convincing that nobody ever asks if you’re actually okay-it definitely never occurred to me that you were dealing with things that that were bubbling below the surface. I ran across this channel because an ex of mine found your work so helpful and so comforting for dealing with what she battled. And I haven’t seen or even spoken to you since the early 90s, but I’m so weirdly glad that you not just got past your own struggles, but you’re also providing your time and energy towards helping others who are dealing with the same difficulties. For what it’s worth, I was always left with the impression that you were incredibly kind, and I’m unexpectedly happy to see that you still are.

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Jonathan! Wow, I need a year book so I can put the name to the face! What a nice surprise to find your message here and how nice of you to take the time to share this. It's fascinating to hear how I seemed to others back then (or at least to you!) because looking back I remember myself pretty much as a low functioning insecure mess. And what a small world that you were dating someone who ran across my channel. I hope that whatever health challenges she's facing she's doing ok. And I hope that you are doing great also! Thanks again for the kind message, I very much appreciate it ☺️

@jonathanjames3964 3 жыл бұрын

Perception is so weird, isn’t it? I can say that I categorically remember you as being so smart, so funny, so kind, and so capable. But looking back, growing up in the time that we both did, especially going to high school on the north side, I think we had to sort of perform that level of healthiness because there just was no conversation to be had about mental health. I’m sorry that you were actually dealing with much more than you let on, but I’m also glad to find out, decades later, that you were able to address it in a healthy way. It really is a small world. My ex and I are still friends, and she’s doing much better now, thanks in no small part to being able to watch your videos and find strategies for dealing with CFS at a time when very few of the medical professionals she was consulting had any idea how to address her symptoms. She mentioned how helpful she found your channel, and it took me a minute (okay, more like a few days) to realize why your name was so familiar. I have a feeling we probably still have at least a small handful of mutual friends on Facebook, so I’ll send you a message sometime. In the meantime, thanks for all that you do. At a time when everything can seem utterly awful and hopeless, I think the world needs more of the positive energy and love that you put into it.

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

@@jonathanjames3964 I'm so glad to hear that she's doing better! And that's so nice to hear that my videos were helpful in some way. And perception is really strange, I agree! It's fascinating how we can feel one way on the inside and appear so different on the outside. Thanks so much for sharing your perception of me back then, it was really nice to hear (and so kind of you to say!) And I'd love to hear from you on FB - please reach out! Thanks again for taking the time to share all of this 🌟

@Bitachon 3 жыл бұрын

*Sugar addiction is def hard to kick*

@bobbiev7062 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, we have all been there! Let me just say that I'm enjoying your book and getting lots of great ideas. Although it's challenging, I am beginning to experience a small change. I'm beginning to let my body dictate the pace rather than my mind. And most importantly, I am beginning to dream of a brighter future! Over the years I have tried to live within my limits, without believing that I could reach beyond my present state because of the messaging around ME/CFS. Raelan, your vulnerability and story of recovery is an important one, and such a gift to others! I think anyone battling this disease is courageous. I am grateful that you take the time out of your very busy life to share your story with us. I don't understand why people are negative. I just don't get it. 🙏

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

Bobbie, I'm so happy to hear about your progress and insight. This makes me very happy! And thanks for always sending so much kindness my way, your messages always bring me a huge smile 😁

@calebpoirier751 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being frank, real and self-revelatory. Brutal honesty with compassion is the breath of life.

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

Nicely said Caleb 😊

@beverleylewis469 20 сағат бұрын

You make me feel better just by listening to you, thank you, this was helpful as always

@B3l0v3d05 Жыл бұрын

Feelings of low self-worth. Oof that hit the spot. That bachelor's/master's degree example is literally me the last 5 years. But! Let us also not forget that trauma (what I like to call "injuries") also cause stuck survival energy that manifests as MAJOR anxiety in the body. Releasing that is hugely important

@Jade-bf5we 2 жыл бұрын

I suffered with heightened anxiety and panic attacks back in the mid 90's are two life changing events very close together. Looking back now I don't think it's ever left me as I still get quite anxious now over simple tasks like attending medical appointments. Suffering with ME/CFS hasn't helped as I can get anxious over outside influences such as world events. I'm working on this daily and daily meditation is helping a lot.as is restorative light movements like stretching.

@RaelanAgle 2 жыл бұрын

Jade, I'm so sorry to hear that you've been dealing with this for so long. I hope you find all your puzzles pieces and can finally put this all behind you soon ❤️

@juliaobrien8707 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Raelan. I can totally understand your anxiety as that’s what is keeping me stuck with CFS but I found your ways of letting it go really helpful. I’ll give them a try this week. Julia x

@wendyfleming1762 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve dealt with anxiety for years, getting a handle on it finally! I love your channel and find you to be lovely, real and very informative. I’ve used many of your tips and tools for my ME/ CFS recovery. Keep up the good work 👍

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

That's so great to hear Wendy!

@saintejeannedarc9460 10 ай бұрын

Can you say how you're got a handle on it? I'm getting worse w/ depression and anxiety. Never had such a long spell of it and it's crippling. I've tried tapping lately and I don't think it's helping.

@dazed_and_amazed1296 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for opening up - your right, you are not alone in your feelings.

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate that :)

@sakurahochegger7001 3 жыл бұрын

Always great videos, thank you 🙏 we are all very inspired by you Raelan!

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate that!

@danw32 3 жыл бұрын

Oooh I loved that vid. The last point is super important to expose yourself to difficult situations and get out of your comfort zone. I found that helps greatly. It's just actually doing it that sometimes is a challenge! Also, the outtakes were hilarious! I wasn't expecting that 😂 Sirens!! 😅 Dan x

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

It is super helpful isn't it! Glad you've found that too Daniel. And that you enjoyed my silly outtakes 😂

@revelation1215 3 ай бұрын

Eleanor Roosevelt said do something you fear every day.

@annahellmer5766 Жыл бұрын

Realan, I just love your videos giving so much advise and hope, I am happy having found you here. Your are so authentic and inspiring, I really appreciate that. Thanks for sharing your story, for your interviews and your compassion for us suffering. One question as I am not an English speaker: what is the difference between anxiety and fear? I thougt it is mainly the same, but on a spectrum...

@saintejeannedarc9460 10 ай бұрын

Fear is from some specific trigger. An animal can make you fearful or a sudden startle. Anxiety is nebulous and there doesn't seem to be an apparent source. It just crops up and makes you feel all adrenaline charged and tense. At least w/ fear, you know what you're dealing w/.

@elw4632 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story. So happy you are feeling so much more comfortable now! Could you please link to books/talk if you still remember where you got your insights from? Just like recovering from CFS I think there are so many ways to overcome anxiety and inner stress, and I always love getting new perspectives on this 😊

@EvolverWellness 3 жыл бұрын

School is rough on a lot of people. I was bullied by two guys in elementary and then in high school. I chewed my nails off then and I still do. And its no different in private schools. Schools today are not good for anyone... we think a lot of children are being impoverished by being kept out of school due to covid, but I think it's not true. I've heard that all of what we learn in high school could be taught in 2 years!

@movewithdonna 3 жыл бұрын

Brilliant 👌 can definitely relate

@Music-jj2em 3 жыл бұрын

You are awesome!

@sandylewis20 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Raelan!! I needed to hear this today. I really appreciate all that you do for all of us. Your work is such an incredible gift. Thank you for being so real and so supportive to so many!!!!

@RaelanAgle 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Sandy! I appreciate that a lot ❤️❤️❤️

@boxerdogmum583 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this video Raelan. Very interesting. I also used to wake up hungry at 03:00. Intermittent fasting / restricted feeding window has relieved me of my constant sugar cravings. I’m sure it has decreased my cortisol levels too, so also good for stress / anxiety.

@cheriwidman8874 3 жыл бұрын

Very helpful! Thank you so much! 💜💜💜

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@sophiaalila555 3 жыл бұрын

A great video, Raelan😊Thank you🌸

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@jessicahayward-smith3469 3 жыл бұрын

Oh and - the sirens! 😂😂

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@Amunology 3 жыл бұрын

Insightful video, thank you. Do you have plans to release the siren song in full? It's great! 😂🤣

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@RaelanAgle 3 жыл бұрын

TIMESTAMPS 00:00 My sugar addiction (Stay with me - it’s relevant!) 02:23 My history with anxiety 06:45 The 2 things that I misunderstood about anxiety 08:10 The 2 gurus that taught me was anxiety was 08:53 Understanding the first source of anxiety 11:03 The second source of anxiety 13:19 Building feelings of self worth 15:23 Expanding the ‘circle of normalness’ 19:10 Why circumstances (such as illness) don’t have to matter 21:28 Outtakes