It is much easier to be secure by yourself. It is the relation with an intimate partner that brings out the demons.

The thing is when I am not involved with someone, I am really confident about myself and I'm very happy and content with myself. But when I am in a relationship, I become a little clingy unlike the person I really am. It is rather confusing and exhausting.

being in love with the "idea of being in love"

i don’t enjoy humans anymore. they just come around to spew their troubled thoughts and feelings needing validation and compassion needing you to touch them and understand them, it’s so boring and leaves you drained and i don’t have enough boundaries for all the crap people throw at me so instead i now focus on doing things that bring me joy and just being happy with myself.

True self love is the most wonderful thing anyone can discover.

Yes loneliness can be tough, especially if it is thrust upon you suddenly and unexpectedly, but one day, in the future, you shall feel the exhilarating emancipation that comes with being alone. You shall discover who you really are, whom you have become and you shall be better equipped to enter into another relationship if and when you desire.

I feel more alone around people.

The truth is : a person playing pushy pully with you do not care for you. All you need to know.

I wish I had a friend like you that I could actually talk with that understands.

Getting attached to non attachment is also attachment. This has nothing to do with relationships per se. It is about separation. The person will always find something to be insecure about. Liberation is being free of the personal wants. If you can appreciate life, it makes no difference where you live or with whom. if you are romantically involved or not. This will only be the surface of your daily happenings, one of the many wonders of being. That is not to say it is not a nice experience. Life is easier when supported. It is wonderful to share the same non-personalness together. But it doesn't need the relationship as a vehicle. You can share life with life itself. And a good friendship is just as worthy. Being "only" friends doesn't exist. It is not less than any other form of relationship. Important is the underlying current: appreciating everything as a the miracle you are yourself. This compares to nothing.

'Desire of romantic relationship' means that there is no love but neediness. * I was so much in despair because I never felt this need to be in a romantic relationship and I thought I ought to be like the others. Especially I didn't want to disappoint oneones expectations of me. But now I am glad to be independent. I only needed to accept my peculiarity. And I had to realize that I am not responsible for other people and their feelings. They want romance and I want sincerity. Both don't go together very well because romantic love is selfish. True love is not romantic but objectless.

I am a 53 year old woman and I can truly relate with you. I always felt incomplete alone. I was in love with the thought of being in love. I realized that I needed to start completing MYSELF. I am so grateful for the time that I have with ME. WE truly need to complete ourselves ❤️ Unless the person who you are with, completely respects who you are and adds to who you are, it's better to be ALONE 🤗

The trick is to find someone who is as attached to you as you are to the other. The idea that one person in a relationship is less interested than the other is the death knell. We get infatuated with qualities that are unique in the other person that are often opposite as in artist vs. engineer, tall vs. short, brown vs. blue eyes, etc. Opposites attract. However, too much game playing goes on because games have become such a part of culture, and I for one hate games. I play for endurance and keeps. I choose to love, the other doesn't, and that is why I get hurt.

Guys, let me tell you something he doesn't talk about. Humans are wired for connection and attachment. We just need to find a person who hasn't got negative believes regarding love, attachment and interdependence. And yes, he's right too. Feeling the need to being with someone else, may brings us to attaching to the wrong people.

I am more confident when alone. I have been celibate for 5 years by choice and working on my inner healing, however I still lonely yet afraid of love and untrusting of it. I still struggle with self loathing. Ive come so far yet have so far to go...by the time I reach a sense of wholeness and self love, it will be time to release my spirit from the meat suit...

Yes after being pushed away, pulled in, over and over and over again, each time you learn to let go of attachment a little more each time, until eventually you release attachment completely. It takes much time, and much strength to let go. My advice is to also not allow the person to push and pull that way. No matter how much you think you love someone that behavior is toxic to your self esteem and self worth. My problem is the person excepts me to play their push and pull but doesn’t want me to fully go. When I do finally “let go” of this person, I will have learned to love myself enough to have the strength to walk away and never look back. That will be my freedom

I was deeply insecure most of my life, and I readily attached to women I was in relationship with, believing that is what I needed to feel good. 3 marriages later, nothing had changed much. Then I met a woman who respected and accepted me, although she never accepted my clinginess, or my "falling in love" with her. It took 4 years of disappointment on my part to finally realize that she was perhaps the most important teacher of my life. We continue to be friends and after resolving most of my attachment disorder by way of her steady love and unwavering kindness and support, we have found some ease, and enjoy each other's company without any expectations that we will ever be in a romantic relationship with each other. It was a hard climb for me, but well worth it, and I am so thankful for her presence in my life. Knowing her has given me a glimpse of what true love really is. Thank you.

Music is beautiful, background is beautiful, he is beautiful.

I found out that when I lost the fascination for the physical side of a relationship I discovered not one single woman in the world can control me.

This spoke volumes to me. I had a relationship similar to yours. He strung me along. Needless to say he went off to school and I left him alone. I decided to stay single and work on my attachment issues. Content like this help me tremendously. I'm learning to love myself. I've been single for a while now I have no desire of getting into a relationship because I know I'm not ready. Thank you.

I have come across many videos on KZfaq talking about letting go of attachment. This is the most insightful. It's perfectly explained. I feel much calmer. This is my first comment on any KZfaq channel. Thank you so much!

The story of the woman you were with is a classic definition of being with a narcissist. The push pull demeaning behavior, it’s unhealthy and not based on your attachment only but also being empathic which attracts these ppl. Loving yourself valuing yourself is a repellent to bad intentioned ppl.

This is how I feel after all! I feel more peace and comfortable when I’m single than to be in a relationship. 🙏

This is my biggest lesson, I want the freedom of letting go. But I am afraid of what letting go means, I don't want to feel "less" in love if makes sense. And I also don't know how to let go. But I know I'm tired of being needy, jealous, and insecure.

I had to find it in myself as well. I’m content to be alone ... I enjoy my own company. But once in a while the old pattern of loneliness tries to pull my heart but I use the tools I have learned to get through that quickly

Just found this channel and i am loving it! Thank you for this❤🌺

So much said in such a short time! That's mastery. Thank you!

I absolutely loved your raw honesty. I greatly appreciated your journey. Thank you for this today.

So glad to have stumbled across this video. you have shared valuable insights about personal insecurities. Even though i have no interest in romantic relationship and did not seek out answers related to that, i still found the topic applicable in terms of inadequacy one feels in general when taking up some new responsibility or travel down a new road. Your guidance has provided clarity and a deep sense of relief for people like me who are clouded by doubts, frustration and confusion in handling our personal insecurities. Thank you and keep it coming !

Straight truth ✌️😊 Thank you 🙏 This was good for assisting my reflection of what I have learned through this year about love and attachement! And reminded me to keep up the self-love for it is as constant as we live life 🌈 Shared this with a friend 😁

Loving oneself is the beginning of a lifetime of romance. - Oscar Wilde

I have just found your channel and watched several of your videos; they are what I needed to hear today. You should have soooooooo many more views and subscribers! Thank-you so much for your valued teachings. Your videos will serve for project: Self.

YES! This is exactly me! Thank you 🙏 I needed this advice 🙌

PS. Thank you for your wisdom! down-to-earth & beautiful words . I love all your videos, the only ones I can watch to the end. I have difficulty concentrating but your videos are one of the few I can listen to the end. 🙏🏾

Thank you for this! I'm not one to leave comments but what you have described is exactly what I am going through with someone at the moment. Like one of your other comments I've read I've had a darkish week and this is exactly the right thing to hear at the right time...I can let my relationship teach me to let go :)

This is so beautiful! Thank you!

Your delivery and honesty is very refreshing. This is exactly what i need to hear now.

Thank you for this guidance, as I learn to be ok with being alone and learn to love and understand myself more fully. I appreciate your insight. It resonates. 💗

That was truly beautiful. You build a calm little corner of the internet where I can come and just listen. Thank you for taking the time to make this and share it.

Man, your words are incredible. I'm stuck right now and I've just been looking for some sort of wisdom to move me past this. Thousands of hours of therapy have not helped me as much as your videos. Thank you so much for what you're doing.

I’m just finding your channel, but I think I speak for everyone when I say I truly appreciate your stories and insight. It’s been more than helpful on my journey to love myself. Namaste friend 🖤🙏🏽

just had a kindof epiphany while watching your content so i want to thank you for making these videos and i also want to thank the universe for this synchronicity ahhh i am excited!!!!!!

This is so brave and authentic. Thank you.

Oh, Thank you so much for your teachings, this particullary was so appropriate, came in the right moment to help me and helped me a lot. God bless your life for this work you are doing.

Listening to these videos feels like my destiny !! Thanks you so much !! ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

I'm so blessed to have found your channel. Thank you

I was smiling throughout the video as I could resonate with it on so many levels as someone who has struggled with low self esteem throughout his life and who has been on his own for quite a long time learning to love and respect himself. Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful journey with us.

I feel the love man oozing out of your words and demeanor, thanks 🙏

Appreciate your wisdom and vulnerability. You’re a beautiful soul ✨

Thank you so much brother for this video. This is something I needed to hear. I have always been seeking validation and a relationship with women which has caused me suffering. I've learned to focus on finding happiness within myself and to remove this need of wanting a relationship.

Everything about this. I have recognized the pattern within and am practicing to release. Thank you for your guidance ✨

I find your vids so insightful when im stuggling with attachment or accepting self i listen to you and the way you talk is without judgement so i can then stop being hard on myself Thankyou

You described overcoming a trauma bond so well without even naming it!!

I'm glad you transcended the struggle with insecurity/jealousy. Well done. Thanks for sharing this.

This fine tuned so much for me having gone through sweeeeeeeet transformation!!

Dealing with other people's unconsciousness can help us see our unconsciousness. You really evolved in that connection with that person.

You're a godsend messenger to me. I can't tell you how much I'm grateful for your words of experience and hence wisdom.

Great message, I appreciate this! People like to convey what you need to have to be happy. House, truck, girlfriend, children.... As if I am not enough. I'm ok without these.

I so appreciate you talking about these feelings that is hard to put words to- thank you for your enlightening content! :D

I Love this channel!!! There is Great value and truth in all of your videos, thank you so much

I'm only 5 minutes into the video and I had to stop and send a comment because I am relating to every single word that is being spoken. This is the most helpful video I have watched in the over 7 years of going in and out of an unhealthy relationship that I finally completed 5 months ago. I've been observing the thought of him popping up in my mind several times a day and just wanting those thoughts to stop and the attachment feelings to stop. I feel like I am giving all my power away to him and I don't want to do that. I am forever grateful for this video and it is inspiring me to do all the work I need to do to be a healthy, secure individual. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Thank you for these beautiful words. Your voice is soothing.

So so true!! Thank you for this great video!

I am starting the journey to heal old patterns and re-encounter my inner peace to clear any attachments. Excited to be single again! This is the path I am choosing now . Your message really resonates. Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom.

we look in others what we cannot find in ourselves.. great video!

Thank you Nada. I love being on my own too. I have all the love I need from my two gorgeous dogs. 🐶🥰🐶

This resonates completely. Thank you. 💕

Brilliant video!!!! Much gratitude to you xxx

I'm in tears, thank you for opening my eyes.

I listened to this not too long ago. Finally i feel content to not be in a relationship. I am currently in a relationship with me, learning about myself. Im learning to love me for the first time while i slowly peel away my attachment issues. Im not ready yet. The journey is just as beautiful as the destination 💗

Wow. Exactly. I will treasure this. Thank you. 🙏🏻🍀

I’ve done the push and pull in a relationship. I’m not proud of the walls is put up when someone got so close, even though I wanted to be close, I had fears due to past traumas. Really good video, it was in my recommended and I’m glad I watched it. Definitely something I’ve been thinking about and going through.

You just described my past or present romantic situation. I am glad I came across your video. Be blessed!

Wow! What an incredible video. I'm so happy to have stumbled across it. This is life changing, Thank you

Thank you for the clarity you give. I allowed myself to be drawn into a manipulative relationship due to sexual desires when I should have remained within myself. I have no attachment to this any longer, but unfortunately circumstance does not allow me to be alone which is necessary for my growth within. Your words are by far the most authentic I have been guided to. I am grateful for our connection. Namaste

Thank you for this powerful message. I am grateful

Hi, Patrick here from Mind Life Flow. Interesting video on attachment - thank you! Many people struggle with attachment and insecurity.

Love that I got to watch this 😍

This video found me when I needed it the most. Thank you!

Thank you dear one, beautiful insights 🙏🤍🌹☀️

What a blessing you are to the world. Such basic common sense, no bullshit, spirtual crap utube is full of. You teach me how to live in my humanness. Ireland.

It took ten years to understand it.I feel the liberation.

Thankyou. I needed to hear this. 🙏♥️🌟

What you said about not being the usual spiritual teacher really hit on my current experience. It’s the same pull away and come back when I draw away. I’ve gotten better slowly being ok on my own. I even met a lot of friend while not seeing her for 3 months. I’m still in the process but I’m letting go slowly. I’m able to see the insecurity.

Wow thank you for this, I've been doing the work and didn't even see I've been doing this

Thank you this kind of anxiety was eating my away Now i understand it better

Thank you for this. I can relate very much

I REALLY NEEDED TO hear this in this very moment ..much gratitude✨💗🌿💗✨thank you💘

wow!!! I'm going through this exact same experience with someone. This has been a very dark week for me and I feel a lot of anger for the way he keeps toying with my feelings for him. I'm not normally an angry person

The best video on relationship...

Indeed the content was valuable.keep passing such wisdom.

Beautifully said.

Very well explained. I appreciate this and hope to learn from it.

Thank you This came to me when I most needed it

This is so true. I have walked a very similar road. I know today the underlying reason was my attachment style, insecure anxious. Working on letting go and meeting my shadows.

Thank You MASTER, this is what i realy seeking..i was in my world till i met someone and everything is gone..YOUR video really helps me overcome it to LOVE ME BACK!

I identify myself totally with this...I enjoy my own company 💜

I needed this. Thank you!

Thank you, I know I've a long way to go and a lot to learn from by going inwards 🙏🏻

Thank you .I'm slowly getting use of detachment💜