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When you're in your late 50's and a 19 year old girl wants to date you. Hint it's going to be for your money.

The worst for a man is when he has no friends to talk with or advise, so thanks Paul for being a friend to John and helping him out off camera.

When Poverty comes in the door........Love goes out the Window !!!

I'm disappointed with the people attacking this guy. He is telling so much about himself and the bad things that can happen to lonely Americans in the Philippines and is giving thousands of men a dose of reality to avoid his mistakes. It's so painful. Be kind.

I'm half Filipino and I used to go to the Philippines to see some of my family members. I see these old white dudes who are creeping on young girls all the time and then cry about being used!!! It's hard to feel bad for these old guys who are also using these poor young girls for their bodies. Sir, you are old enough to know what's going on. If you are broke, it's because you are paying lots of money to be in a fake relationship and also paying for her family. Don't give guys like this money, he'll just be in the same situation all over again.

Here is the problem: even if I would consider trying to help this guy financially for the next 17 month, I’m convinced he would continue to help his girl, and even her mother. He’s been taken advantage of and it will unfortunately never stop. For that reason alone, no money in the world would be enough and it would put me in the poorhouse as well in the end.

I met my wife in Bohol. She never asked me for a thing. She knows I'm not rich by any stretch of the imagination. I've never met anyone who was as sweet and genuine as she is! I feel for this guy, and others who have been in the same situation as him. Not all Filipina are out to take advantage. Some do, yes! But not all!!!

Wow, very telling and I have to commend Paul for doing an excellent job on interviewing him. He is clearly nervous and reluctant to share some of his mistakes but you did a great job of not making him feel bad for sharing his story, which is a good lesson for us all.

I have been traveling to the Philippines for 16 years and lived over there as a young American guy. I tried a few businesses and dated around. BEST advice I can give anyone thinking about going over there... Go with the intention of spending no money or as little money as possible no matter what. Also, do not move in with ANYONE, not with locals, foreigners, girlfriends or anything of the such. Keep your personal life separate. People with little or no money will do what they can to drain your pockets in any part of the world.

1st rule living in the Philippines, NEVER EVER let anyone know how much income you have.

It’s a year later whats the story with him?

Thanks for this. It's really important to share the negative side of what can happen moving to the Philippines as well.

A classic example of "Just because he's old, doesn't mean he's wise."

100% emotional ( and physical) abuse. He has to beg for rice? And he still believes in her? Poor man has lost himself. Very sad. Amazing interview.

Just watched this video and while it’s a year old, it’s timeless. One of your most engaging documentaries, Paul. John needs compassion from some viewers who can give it, but most importantly he needs guidance getting out of this rabbit hole. A year later today, I hope he is in a much better place. Less than a year until he gets his social security benefits. I wish him well. Truly a compelling video .

Great interview and an eye opener for those who plan on moving to the Philippines looking for love and a new life. John is really a nice guy. He loves his family despite the abuse he met from those who were supposed to care about him.

Living proof you can be 58 and have the life skills of a 20 year old!

I’m a Filipino living here in Japan, my advice for many expats or retirees going to the Philippines is don’t date a girl quickly when you arrive there, just chill for a few months enjoy your stay before dating someone. And also if you date someone don’t buy them something expensive or don’t spoiled them.

It's never too late to change your situation, John! Believe in yourself and go for it! I am 73 years old and I speak from experience. You can do it!

Been watching many of these videos, I have no intention of going to the Philipines, just started to binge-watching these videos, see this same exact same story over and over and over again, wow

I get a distinct feeling that this guy will take any money he receives and give it away to the very people that are treating him like trash.

This guy has zero boundaries. He is also pursuing relationships with women decades younger than he is. 🚩

3/19/24 Good interview. Paul -you showed a lot of restraint, caution and compassion in your questions. He’s an easy target. Obviously he made some poor choices but regardless of age , we’ve all had our share of mistakes. (ie marriage in any 1st world country can be much worse than his issues).

Great interview Paul, very compassionate, helpful and understanding!

I was sober for 15 years before I watched this video. From the beginning to the end…. The stress is just too much for me to handle. Men: learn to live alone, and learn to love and respect yourself. Women are a nice addition, but they are not needed. No matter your age, remember that you are a King. All by yourself. Sending a big hug to you all.

I'm a Filipina and some Filipino toxic mentality is that parents think their kids are their retirement plan. So this guy ended up of feeding the whole family. Sorry to hear your story and I hope this is a lesson to some foreigners looking for love. Don't fall with very young age 20 or 30 years age gap. Don't sell everything in your country and move to Philippines without knowing our culture, etc.. We Filipinos think that foreigners are rich full of $$$ in his atm and thru him the whole family will survive and go to his country.

Great interview! I’m a straight female and I’m certain I would get scammed in the Philippines ! Some people can barely afford to eat. Of course they would want your money!

Thanks for sharing your experience John. We need to keep our eyes wide open for all of these matters.

I'm a hematologist, and John appears to have adenopathy in his left posterior cervical lymph node. Given his extreme weight loss, I would strongly suggest that he visits a doctor soon.

This should be required watching for anyone over 30 going to the Philippines.

I have nothing to say I've been watching so many of these videos, from the PI to Thailand, all the same stories, I wonder how these people even survived in their own country?

This guy was so taken advantage of….sorry to hear. I could tell this guy is such a nice guy. His girl and her family will never treat this guy well. Hope he stays ok.. he deserves better

As a Filipino, I feel the need to caution foreigners who plan to marry a Filipina. It's unfortunate, but I believe that the majority of Filipinas from poor to lower-middle-class backgrounds are primarily interested in foreigners for their financial resources. It's important to be aware of red flags, such as frequent requests for money. If you notice this behavior, it's best to distance yourself from her and leave..lol. While there may be some Filipinas who are primarily interested in foreigners for their money, there are also many wonderful and genuine Filipinas out there who are looking for love and companionship. If you do happen to find a legitimate and trustworthy Filipina, it can be like hitting the jackpot. So, while it's important to be cautious and aware, it's also important to keep an open mind and heart.

Reality Check: Don’t be sad John, be mad, mad at yourself and the people that are stringing you along. When your social security checks start to come in, you need to get your own place (by yourself) and help out your twins and no one else, PERIOD! In the meantime you need to not let any of them know this plan. It’s your turn to string them along. I guarantee you’ll be out on the street if they don’t think they’re going to profit from your social security account. She does NOT love you. Sorry dude but it’s for your own good. I’m hoping and praying you see the light.

This video made me sad for John, but I since watched the updates and it seems they’re doing much better thanks to your support. I wish them the very best!

I watched this video when first posted while I was still in the US, I live in Europe now and it literally has helped me to not be stupid and make these same mistakes thru this past year and a half, (not trying to say he is stupid) I come back to it and watch it fully again every time I feel like I am about to make a mistake related to this… it scares me so much that it makes me go back to right path in an instant. 😳

Once his Social Security cheques come in, his gal will love him Big Time once a month

He went into this with a tight budget but yet manageable. The problem was when he agreed to build this house for a woman he knew for 5-7 months. He was paying $240us in rent and handed over $10,000us. Over 4 years of rent. He let lust and love blind him.

Wow! What an incredible interview

Poignant interview, the interviewer handled it commendably. He was patient, empathetic, and kind. Top notch! This was a Masterclass! Thank you

When poverty walks in the door love flies out the window.

Hi Paul, i am thankful for you making this video, because i am learning so much by watching and listening to this video. I feel sorrow 😢 for John and hope that he will pull through the mess. May God help John and strengthen him in this time of his life 🙏❤

Great story. I think many of us can learn a lot from this man’s experience. I am very very careful when it comes to $$. I hope everyone will learn from this. Let’s support him in his foibles. I hope that they can make it!!

Why else would a 19 year old girl go out with a 59 year old man, of course it's for money. That girl is never going back to her old sweetheart self unless you go back to your old self with money in your pocket. Welcome to female nature! One more thing, Never invest or loan out money unless you are willing to lose it! I feel bad for you Paul but a 59 year old man should know better.

BTW Paul, that was professional level interviewing going on there and you did it because you respected his humanity. ❤️

He has provided a great service to many men by sharing his story. I hope and pray that he's alright.

very good interview m and best hope for John.

I am a Clinical Psychologist and this guy is an amazing interviewer. Thoroughly enjoyed this interaction.

Paul, I really admired the way you conducted yourself through this interview with John. You showed empathy and sympathy and a huge amount of respect throughout your interview. You withheld judgment when it was so tempting to judge. I’m so disappointed that John still doesn’t appear to have learned any lessons from his ongoing experiences. I have thought about living in the Philippines for several years but never chose to because I didn’t have an income until my retirement. How does one help a person that shows every indication of going and doing the bad things over and over again. I liking this to giving money to a drug addict while they are still addicted to the drugs.

Very typical story...tnx for this very informative..important lesson here is to care of your heart and lock up your money

Amazing interview

Even if we were to give donations to the guy. I don’t feel confident that he would manage the money well. His love for the mother of his children is stronger than his common sense.

"...ever since I don't I don't have any money, anymore, I don't matter..." That's EXACTLY the situation I found myself in. My brother-in-law went from being best man at my wedding, to, years later, punching my 8-year old daughter in the face and attacking me with bamboo sticks, rocks and a hammer. My mother-in-law went from "loving" me, to telling me not to call her "mum" anymore. Not just thrown out of the family (by this time, my wife was living with a new Filipino boyfriend - and pregnant to him - and her siblings and parents were all singing from the same hymn sheet..."Go back to your country...and don't think that we will allow you to take (my daughter.)" The reason was obvious. If I left my daughter behind, they knew I would send money, every two weeks. The long and short of it was that, at my lowest moment (violent and abusive in-laws, a cheating wife and just 20 pesos to my name,) I made a decision that I WOULD return to my country and, if necessary, would smuggle my daughter out. As I saw it, even the worst life with me, in my country, would be better than the best life my little girl could expect to experience if she stayed with them. I won't bore you with the details but, thanks to the pandemic draining finances of all expats, my country's government FINALLY decided to help the stranded return home. In addition to securing flights, they even threw in a one-off loan for living expenses, being the equivalent of 105,000 pesos. What I can say, 22 months after our escape is that my daughter has never been happier. She loves going to school, now that she doesn't have to share the classroom with 48 other kids (when the room has only 30 desks!) She eats what she wants and, even though we would be considered as being below the poverty line, here - we live like millionaires compared to what we went through, back there. With that said, I am NOT down on the Philippines, or with Filipino people. I love the country and most people are great - helpful, friendly, curious and kind. Indeed, the godmother of my child INSISTED on sending us money, one Friday evening - so we could eat on the weekend - despite me not asking her to help us. Later, I discovered she had wired the money from her hospital bed, where she was because of a heart condition. There were many others, like her, who were impressed that a foreigner was willing to endure hardship, in order to raise a Filipino-born child, that its Filipino mother had, effectively, abandoned. I should say, I also came back to no family. It's me and my young daughter, starting from scratch (and I am older than John.) Never give up hope. Best of luck. And thank you for sharing your story.

Great interview good job Paul

I'm struck by how nice of a guy John is. John, I am very sorry for your struggle, nice guys finish last! Please keep your chin up and I hope the best for you.

"Terrific girl"? Chatting up other dudes your whole time together. Talks you into spending all your money on her and her family. Gives you silent treatment for almost a year...Now near broke in a developing country with 2 children to support.. really illustrates "There's a sucker born every minute." incredible interview....Thank you for this video and cautionary tale, that more often than not the biggest obstacle a person faces is the man in the mirror and our own decisions/delusions.

Watched this video first and then watched the video of John 2 years before. It breaks my heart to see John in such a state. The first video he was happy, upbeat and had a sparkle in his eyes, but 2nd video he seems so defeated. Sending John lots of positive vibes and he's in my prayers. If John is brave enough, please can you do another update video, would like to know how he's getting on. Thank you.

I'm glad he understand that taking care of children/babies is a hard job and that the caretaker will need help.

A few pieces of advice for anyone who's considering moving to the Philippines. Stay single, don't have children, rent an apartment, and be happy.

This dude is the height of naivety. He was doomed to be taken to the cleaners. The only reason they keep him around is because they know he's got social security on the way. They're going to clean him of that too. He really screwed up when he knocked her up, with twins to boot.

Thanks!

Thanks Paul, and sorry for your loss bro John

The family tried to get rid of him. Dude, out of all the red flags…

This is a must watch for anyone thinking about coming over. Just heartbreakingly unbelievable mistakes. This is not the place to be broke. Great job Paul. See you on the next one .

I will pray for you John for your patience and perseverance to remain with your family John. God will take good care of you. You're a strong good person John. And you deserve to be pray. I remember your lifestory, and I hope that I could only render prayers for you but somehow to be of help as well.

Very good channel. Every man should watch this channel before moving to Filipins.

Success is relative. The more successful you are the more relatives you have.

Thanks for sharing. When I had an emergency the last minute flight was under $700 one way and I was home in 24hrs. Back in school I had to volunteer in a homeless shelter. Was a sober shelter, free bed, showers, dinner every night, could get mail there and they'd help you to get a job, ID card, etc . It honestly wasn't too bad, I'd sit and have dinner with everybody staying there. Sounds like 19 months in the US might be the way to go.

This good man represents a part of humanity that gets chewed up by humanity. I wish him well and hope he gets the FCKOUT and finds a new life while he still young.

Poor guy didn't have a clue . Paul seems to be trying to gently open his eyes. Bravo to Paul. ✌️❤️🙏🙏 God bless you and baby mae . Take care and stay safe.

Paul you are the “ Larry King “ of Philippines Vloggers! Great listening and question asking skills . Hoping that John finds happiness .

Paul, this may be the most important (and perhaps the most compassionate) video you've ever done. I hope it reaches a wide audience. We all may think that we are immune to this kind of foolishness (and, yes, it is foolishness), but we aren't. We need reminders like this one.

the man has a pure heart... God always has a place for a people like him..

👍👍👍👍great channel

"I keep hoping she will go back to the girl I fell in love with." Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome is insanity! This is a sad story.

John reminds me of a worst case 19 year old sailor visiting the Philippines for the first time. His wisdom is far behind his age in these matters.

My wife passed away, but I was the ATM for her daughter for 18.5 years. Easily, more than $100K. She actually called me "the money man." This is in US. My wife knew it and she knew that her daughter would only visit 1 or 2 times per year when she wanted money, and it made her feel very bad. I feel bad for this guy. I hope things turn out well for him.

Former Radio guy: Paul is a very good interviewer. Someone needs to say that, props, seriously that was very well done sir.

John is heading towards a self destructing sad story. unbelievable.

Takecare mate NZ will have you..

Nice guys, stay home!!!

When you're a 60 year old man and having sex with a 19 year old, there's a big problem there. It's all his fault that he's broke. He chose to pay for a young woman's affections/sex and lost everything that he had and unfortunately, I don't think he even really understands what happened to him and why and is bound to repeat the same behavior with he same female or another.

thanks for sharing your story, very interesting and insightful. feeling sad for and whish everything works out for you.

This truly a story not to comment on, but to learn from. Thanks Paul.

A soft hearted soul who aimed for the stars and ended up being taken advantage of,

Ok , number one, you are not alone. I've made a mess out of my early years. Take a deep breath, exhale slowly. Take stock of yourself. You have some skills. Focus on yourself and get back to taking care of yourself. I'm sorry this happened to you. But, you are not alone. Hang in there , be tough, be strong. Believe in yourself

Paul its clear this poor guy is needy; the women can see it and they will always clean him out. This guy is on the road to losing, his problems come from within and until he fixes his internal problems there is nothing nobody can do for him that will last long.

An eye opening and simple video, he’s too simple and laid back of a guy, easily taken advantage of, God bless and help him. Paul, your facial expressions during the video says it all.

Wow!!!🤔 This is a very important, and informative video. Definitely need to have your ducks in order, before you move out there. I'm 66. I've been considering a move like this, but i would have waited until i had social security nailed in first, b4 moving out there. Also, one needs to keep in contact with SSI annually, because they'll cut you off, if you dont respond to their letters.....

Poor guy. Looks like he's stuck between a rock and a hard place and seems like a sweet guy. Too nice and nieve. He's like a babe in the woods. I wish him luck.✌️❤️

Dude is a walking talking target. Seems to just be that kind of guy. Good heart, lack of common sense, and naive are a very bad combination, especially in a country where poverty and hard living is a daily reality. If he makes the 1 year and 7 months he will still be in the same situation because their are plenty of people who see him as just another mark. If he does not change he will continue to be eaten alive. Sad story but a very important cautionary note for anyone, any place, Good Luck.

I'm 48 years old...i see a 19 year old girl as a child...no way I could share a bed with her...let alone being 60

This video is almost 2yrs old. Would love to get updated. Praying for his safety both physically and mentally.

Thanks for sharing your story. This could happen to anyone. Always take care of yourself first, finance and health. Even though its much cheaper to start over in Asia, it can be a sadistically cruel place with lots of scammers, honey traps, money pits, people left and right scrambling and manipulating foreigners for their own personal gain. Watch out and err on the side of safety.

I married a Filipina and she moved here to Australia. She pretty much wanted to get a job right off the bat. Works most of the year now packing fruit and sends money home from her own wages. She’s an awesome little lady very determined and a no nonsense personality. At the same time she adorable and very caring. When we met she was a 35 year old widow and I was 49 and divorced.

I never judge anyone especially when they are going through tough times. John definitely needs a hand up and I think this interview will shed light on his situation. Very good interview Paul. Let us know how we can help him out.God Bless!!

Anxiously waiting for the "new tricks" to show up.

John is a great guy and you Paul for doing this ...I can relate to him as I have a similar generous personality very sad what happened to him and I agree totally... "there but for the grace of God go I"

We all have short lives left to live on this planet when we are older than 50. It's your time to live stress free and enjoy what time u have left. Do not let knowone take away your happiness.