I don’t know, if they still can’t walk or use the toilet at 18 or 21 years old, I think it may be a problem

I found a mother's day card one year that I thought was the best: On the front it was syrupy-sweet, about how a mother teaches their child how to go through life, and these lessons are invaluable, etc... On the inside: The potty-training has been especially useful, I can't thank you enough!

Yes, only not all kids do that and when people say things like that to you when you have a special needs child it can be very hurtful. Eventually you learn to grow a thick skin because the truth is unless you have been the parent or sibling of a disabled child, you don't know and can't know. Still, comments like that can be very unhelpful, however well-meaning. A comment that says something along the lines of 'you're a great parent and you have a wonderful child' is more reassuring.

@@yippee8570 Thank you for this reminder. I appreciate you bringing this up here. I always try to be a considerate to everyone evidently sometimes I need that reminder.

This was my parent😂

Yep! The recent 2 year olds at daycare have all started adding more words and it’s starting to sound like the market scene in Aladdin when all four are playing. Daycare is Lindsey, they call her Linny. I am Lanie, or “B’s mom!” Linny picked up one little man and he went “No, LANIE!” Cracked me up and he came right over for some snuggles. My brother didn’t talk until almost 3 and self-soothed by rocking back and forth in a chair, letting his head whack the back. It was 1989, so no one was too worried. Nowadays everyone would be on high alert for autism. Turns out a sister who is 13 months older did all his talking for him, and he’s now a polyglot so I think he’s fine. Still twitchy, though.

@@melindaunknown113 this is true. It also didn’t help that I was comparing her to my son who walked at 10 months.

My son didn’t get his first tooth until he 12 months old. He didn’t start walking until he was 14 months old. My granddaughter q didn’t start walking until she was 18 month old too. She only did that Waldo’s walk for 1 more month and started crawling. Right after she learned to crawl up and down the stairs (2 mo ago) she started climbing up and down on everything. My son finally went and screwed al the dressers (anything big and heavy)down. I had been nagging him. His wife told me the first my son saw his daughter climb up the first big shelf unit it scared him so bad that when the baby went to take her nap he went and got the stuff to screw everything down. When we went to visit I pretended that I didn’t know. The first piece of furniture she climbed up on I pretended that I had had been scared to death🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

She Really didn’t want PT 🤣🤣🤣

My youngest was that age one day when we had an appointment for an older kid, but since he was there the paediatrician asked how he was doing and if he were walking yet. I said, "Nearly," and then he walked his first unaided steps right in front of her!

Funny, I feel like after reading the comments I'm one of the few who didn't worry about when they started walking. I'm a grandmother now of 6. What did bother me is that my second boy figured out how to ride his tiny bike with no training wheels and started riding it in my neighbors yards. He was only three. I've heard of babies scooting on their buttons instead of crawling. My oldest brother fell trying to walk at around 7 or 8 months. He didn't attempt it again until 10 months. Baby's are all over the place about when and how they reach a mile stone.

Fair. I’m peds. Know nothing about old people.

My mom experienced the opposite. My sis needed a day of testing when she was 6 or 7 years old. They wanted to put a catheter in to prevent accidents. My mom protested thinking it was unnecessary to do because sis has some kidney issues and pain etc. Docs agreed with her. But also made a note in the medical records: parents are against testing. Which was absolutely not true.. sometimes it is the docs overreacting and not the parents ;)

@@marielle7133 Those kinds of doctors deserve be sued. They're literally creating a prejudice against those parents that could have disastrous results for the health of their child.

@@marielle7133 that’s a very poor form of documentation on the docs part. I’m not familiar to which test you speak of, but it sounds like the catheter was to assist with the test but not part of it? (unless it was some sort of urine collection). In that way I don’t see how refusal of a catheter should be documented as “against testing,” and that was a mistake on the doctors part. Regardless of what the test was, the documentation should have been something along the lines of “pt parent declined urinary catheter for *test* on *date of test*”. Short and specific, including what was refused and when. The only reason that would even need to be documented is to prepare staff in case a similar situation happened in the future with the same patient. Even with a previous refusal documented, the catheter should still be suggested first (assuming that’s the standard procedure), but the staff should be prepared with a plan B if the parents said no again. I’m sorry your mom and sister had to experience that. I agree that doctors can overreact too, and it can be harmful.

@@limiv5272 agreed. The one who suffers the most in those cases is the child. While it is good to document treatment refusals, that must not impact future care of the pt.

Very well stated 💜 cherish every moment and milestone you get the privilege to experience with your children because nothing in life is permanent or certain.

Or they become a math genius who gets accepted to University at age 16 Has their first psychotic break at 18 And then spends the rest of their life in a psychiatric hospital You just never know.....

Bless you! I can't IMAGINE being a NICU nurse. I'm not even all that keen on babies, lol. But I worked in animal sheltering for decades, and people were always saying it's got to be the hardest job. Yeah, I've gotten compassion fatigue, but still.... I think what you do has to be the toughest. I know as professionals, we have to have a sort of detachment to be able to perform up to high standards and not fall apart. Maybe that's what those people meant, they didn't believe they'd have the emotional fortitude.🤔 Anyway, thank you for doing what you do.♥️

I had two preemies 2yrs apart. We joke the first 31wk 2lb prepared us for the 2nd- 29wk and just over a pound. He watched his big sister constantly. They developed a sibling rivalry with developmental stages. Both were stuck at 12-18 months until she was nearly 5. Then it took off and they each packed 6months of stages into every 10 days one summer. The developmental dr was thrilled and I was exhausted by the end.

Didn't you feel any symptoms all those years, or did you think it was nothing to worry about and didn't go to the doctor? I'm just asking because if it was bad enough to stunt your growth, you'd think it would be bad enough to bother you enough to get to a doctor

@@limiv5272 I grew up on a reservation and there wasn't a ton of medical care for specialized care. But, yeah, my nickname was barfy with the kids and teeny with the adults. Although, a doctor off of the rez diagnosed me with peptic ulcers at 14, I was considered a fragile child. I also have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome which was undiagnosed until I was 30. This caused me to be extremely flexible but super prone to joint dislocations. There simply wasn't any health care. But, I made it to NYC and now a Psychotherapist and once I finish my Nurse Practitioner degree I am heading back to the rez to offer a full scope if practice that includes mental health, and primary care services.

@@tmm6884 Good luck with all your plans, sounds like this is exactly what that community needs

@@tmm6884 Wow! That's fantastic. What a wonderful life you are living - giving back to your community. You'll be such an inspiration for the young people 💚

Wait I’m 5’2, is 5’2 really that short?

"Oh, go on then. But only 1, don't want the spoil the kid('s neurotic parent)" 🤣

If it’s taking a year to sit up, I would have been concerned before then

Like in those Luvs commercials

This is TRUE!

We always joked about our daughter (first born) getting "third kid treatment" because we wanted to not freak out like most new parents. I read somewhere "First kid drops their pacifier, you wash and sterilize it before handing it back. Second kid you rinse it in the sink and wipe it off on your shirt. Third kid you kick it back across the floor to them."

Well? Are you?

@@Doc_Schmidt I’m sure, Doc.