The fear of rape comes with just being a woman not my independent travel. Unfortunately I have been raped by someone I knew in what I thought was the safety of my own house.

Just have a plan and always know your surroundings. Also you can be raped even when traveling with a companion.

@@allwhatilove914 Last semester at uni, I was followed several times while I went through the city. I have been spat on and yelled at. People notice me. The majority don't care about me which is fantastic, but enough men have harassed me in public that I do not feel as free as you suggest I should. My parents did not raise a victim but this society did raise abusers. I hope it is a challenge of language that you come off so harshly dismissive of those who have been abused.

@@allwhatilove914 you really took this way to far way to quick. There was no need to get down someones throat like that over them admitting they are afraid of something. That togheter with shoehorning every accomplishment you have into an unrelated youtube comment makes you seem pretty insecure, pathetic and obnoxious.

@@allwhatilove914 I mean I get what you’re saying, but it’s also common sense to be aware of human trafficking/ rape stuff as a woman, especially with solo travel. Women are targeted more then men for human trafficking, and in some countries (not all) tourists are targeted since they are in a new/ unfamiliar place and it’s going to take longer for people to realize you’re missing. Also, I don’t think she’s necessarily saying she’s constantly leaving in extreme fear or anything like that, just that when she considers traveling alone, or doing things alone, she’s more scared of what might happen to her, rather then being judged for being alone. Which is accurate, you’re more likely to be targeted if you are alone. There’s still a big chance it won’t happen at all, but why risk it? The answer isn’t to not do it of course, but to learning how to safely do solo travel. Since you’ve traveled a lot, these are probably things you don’t think about, since it’s probably common sense to you by now. For someone who has never left the country, or has never been the organizer of a trip like that, it may be more difficult to see the warning signs and travel safely.

Brilliant

Damn

6 days total per person

That sounds amazing.

Bc Partner can give you advice on stuff to do when you’re on your own.

N it's difficult to dissect that from real concerns

Straight facts

Watching this video just now it's a little bit of both from my perspective. Traveling in groups is much safer and if something bad happens like someone steals your wallet, passport then the group can help you. Also Dang it, I am jealous. I want to go to Italy as well.

Meehhh I’d say no. Cuz being alone and a woman is dangerous. That’s facts and not everyone wants to travel..

@@rosabscura yeah I have seen countless videos of women traveling alone who are attacked and harassed. It’s sad but it is a real issue and traveling alone as a woman is actually very risky. She clearly hasn’t seen Taken haha

You have an interesting circle of people. Most people i know and have talked to would probably say why don't you tell your husband to stop going into war zones.

But how do you hug

@Allison Hunter how do u hug in da adult wae

Like being a military wife. Other people can't wrap their minds around 6 mos or more absence.

@Allison Hunter i did.

How do you join an archeology expedition? I've always wanted to do this!

Like Steph, I would also like to know how to join an archeology expedition! xD On a side note, I hate what u had to go through with those who have such closed minds.

I’m so glad that i saw your comment! I am in that same boat! In a happy relationship but sometimes miss very much having my alone time and trying new things on my own. I feel guilty that my partner doesn’t always have the money or time to go- going on a trip alone I would feel bad that I get the privilege to do things he can’t. And he tells me to not even worry and go enjoy myself! We have taken trips together, but sometimes I just don’t want to have to wait or miss opportunities because he can’t. I’m sure I’ll get mean comments or tons of questions, but now I feel more confident that it’s not wrong, I’m not mean and I’m not the only one that does it!! ❤️

Georgian culture is strong in that regard of "male leadership" in families heh. It's quite antiquated at best but that sort of thinking is still kicking even in modern society.

Yeah they expect you to be joined at the hip to your husband forever. No self anymore.

Yep. Travelling solo is the best way to explore.

I feel the same about relationship... ;-)

The trips i take with friends or family, we plan around our preferred sites or group activities, so everyone gets to do something they want. Then we all have a few days to explore solo or in 2s. Like my dad does street photography so he'll sometimes just wander on his own and we all meet up at a specific time. If i need to travel with a group it's soooo important we all have the same mindset. Travelling solo is fun cuz you're free to make decisions alone without having to consider other opinions haha

@@mmmgoes Although when things go bad like the airport loses your luggage or that time when a taxi driver stole my passport and all my cash, being in a group certainly helps. Sometimes local law enforcement is dependable, usually not.

@@alaljarensi6990 that's a good point. It can be very stressful if you have to figure out everything yourself and you lose your phone or passport

You learn a lot from doing such things. And it's fun! It's good you don't let others hold you down. :)

I only did a solo driving trip to Vermont but it was still so great and exciting to be exploring all on my own :)

I know that this things can happen anywhere anytime , BUT as a Spaniard let me tell you that Spain is far less dangerous than US or other countries so you can't compare ( with this I'm not saying that It can't happen, just is less probable)

​@@isabelantolin8339 Maria L merely stated that, even though people advised against it, she took the step to go abroad, see other places, do everything on her own. It made her feel good about herself. I don't see her say anything about Spain being dangerous. :)

I love this!!!! Work taught me to navigate traveling alone... i usually would have 3 days before a conference or something , so would have sometime on my hands... and explore the country 💃🏾

SAME LMAO-

Same! ❤❤❤👑👑👑

same

I first saw her on Chelsea Lately.

She is good. Watch Liz Miele and tell me what you think.

Same here. Have traveled to over 100 countries in 20 years of solo female traveling. People who never went out of their state alone is so stupidly afraid of getting raped by anyone like if they were the main target on earth. We gotta be careful and there are dangers but fear would never stop me to do something I love. WTF is going on with this “main character victim” mentality??? As a black woman from a third world country I find it funny that the same people that call themselves “anti-racist” and “anti-xenophobic” are exactly the same ones that are thinking they will immediately get rap*d as soon as they step out of their countries.

And all the same dangers still exist right here at home too!

In conclusion, don't take your husband to Paris. Apparently XD

@@Sigart Never take your husband to Paris!

Agree! And the funny thing for me, a northen European woman, is that I feel more unsafe about visiting American suburbs than, say, Asia.

You can lose the "I have become convinced that" part. It's real The female body is a battleground You need it for the reproduction, it's a resource

I have no fear. I am a woman and I like going outside in the dark, I like being alone there where I want to be. I was never raped. And if thing happen then things will happen. Why should I keep myelf inside when I like to be outside?

You're not wrong.

Totally conforms to my impression that people in their 20s, early 30s sometimes, are pathologically afraid of ... the world, the existential nature injustice even, and allow that to restrict how they think of themselves and to assume that they have been born into a hostile world where the best option is safeguarding, not exploring. To me it seems that sometimes, this existential fear is anthropomorphized as rapists, sometimes as the capital, sometimes as professors. So my honest advice is: please, don't get distracted by the commonplace assumption that this affects women any more than men. In my comparably substantial experience, this is incorrect. I had more students I supervised calling me late at night because of an general, existential panic attack (unrelated to any event) than students asking for hints on exam problems by mail. The female students voiced different concerns than men: Typical male: "I am not capable of becoming competent in *anything* meaningful at, I can never have a wife and kids the kind of whimp I am". Typical female: "I can never become such a beautiful, tough, loving person as my mother is, and never become a women someone like my father would fall in love with." Yes, the vast majority said they had loving, perfect parents who would never do them any harm. Their perception of oneself in a hostile world is exactly like from young people with a long history of abuse, and I find this highly alerting as nobody seems to notice. I hope you can find the energy to question and overcome your conviction that men are the oppressors and women the oppressed. We are all facing the same world, and with selective / self-affirming perception of the other gender as the root of the problem, we would lose our most essential allies. My wife definitely is mine, since we met at age 17. I hope you can relate, someday.

@@tobiasfuchs7016 I have never read anything more pompous, incorrect, and dumb in my entire life.

Men have certain relationships with women so some of them think women don’t exist outside those relationships

Very true

I wouldn’t want to compromise or worry about someone else’s budget, either. You’re probably never going to be there again.

I love traveling alone. I love being alone! I raised 4 kids so alone time for like 40 years almost has been rare 😁. I will agree with you though...my youngest son and I are so simpatico we have a great time when we travel together.

I travel to an Asian city pretty much annually. I know a lot of people there. I will occasionally do something with one of them, for a short period of time, own rooms, etc. Any more than that, I'd have a big problem.

Agreed...also enjoy traveling with my only son...

And traveling with others can be tough. It’s definitely a relationship barometer. Not even just romantic relationships. Post trip, you might end up realizing you weren’t such good pals with a friend after all.

I travel by myself as well. It’s as if I am a different species to my friends.

Well, I don’t travel bc I have a severe panic disorder and am poor, but if I had a desire to travel, it would definitely be alone. And I still get the “I don’t know how you do that” question from people when I say I haven’t spoken aloud in days, and I’m just like….um, I guess I just like me more than other people? I don’t have an answer for that. My imagination alone is more entertaining than any human I’ve ever met. lol

@@ascent8487 I am no longer friends with someone because of a trip we went on together. Quickly realized how incompatible we were and couldn’t unsee what I saw. Sometimes it’s a great test to travel with someone to see whether your relationship is what you think it is.

@@Sammy-nj3io Truth, that happened to me as well. They say that one of the best indicators of a good relationship are being able to travel together.

But then Japan is super safe :) I had best time of my life there :D

Japan would be up my speed, with the non-loitering and lack of germspreading. Paradise.

Has nothing to do with small town. I say this being from a small town and having traveled solo several times.

They don't get it either.

No one freaks out in NYC. The whole city is full of people doing what they want when they want

think you might have both of those statements slightly wrong ........... being afraid of plain old men..... men make up 50% of every person you see, every day. are you afraid of ' every ' man you see? really ? then i would advise you to leave america and move somewhere safe, like europe. . the next one . obvious not every man goes around raping every woman he sees. so we can narrow it down to that small percentage of men who do commit rape. so when your statement is 99% more accurate, i'll agree with you . when your statement includes ME, then i get annoyed. have a nice day.

@@richard6440 Hey Dick, I was quoting a joke, so take a breath alright? I know not all men are bad. But, in all honesty, there are far more bad men than bad women. Just google serial killer or school shooter & let me know how that plays out for you....

Yes, and all women should stop abandoning their newborns in dumpsters. How does it sounds?

Have fun!

@@sisuguillam5109 Thank you!! 🤗💕

Take some self-defense classes if possible! It can help a lot to know how to defend yourself, at any age

@@DeathnoteBB That is the worst advice you can give a woman! It is straight up using women's fear of men for profit, while providing a dangerously inflated sense of safety and ego. 99/100 times an untrained man will beat a trained woman in a fight. If you want to be safe either A: buy a handgun and get a concealed carry permit, or B: get a bottle of bear/pepper spray.

@@TheRealTaco You have a source for that…?

Same here! I’m already 19 but I really relate and I can’t leave the house after dark cause it gives me anxiety. (Even during the day I’ll get anxiety but it’s worse at night). But that’s because I’m afraid of being harassed, this type of rape (where a stranger approaches you in the street) isn’t as common as people make it out to be.

@@TheRealTaco I don’t think that’s good advice either. I’m a child, having committed murder or wounding a person (even if it was in self defence) will screw me up. Guns are a violence I don’t wish to commit to, also it’s not legal in my country to carry guns (or own them without a permit). And I have actually taken taekwondo lessons which have helped boost my confidence AND increased my muscle/technique. In class I can easily take older boys than myself. I’d rather give capitalism a hand than do something I will regret 10 out of 10 times.

I’m surprised it happens to men much. maybe it’s the location.

EXACTLY! Now it’s literally my job 😂, but even before that, I LOVED going to theme parks by myself!!!! You don’t have to compromise with other people on ANYTHING!!!! Literally just do whatever TF you want!!! It’s GLORIOUS!!! 😍😍😍😍😍

I think they’re just projecting what they would do if they decided to take the leap and travel like you’re doing. As in, they want to reevaluate life

Yeah, not everybody needs to reevaluate life when they travel alone, they probably did it already at home way before traveling, long time ago. LOL

If you sit at the bar and eat, it’s less weird. Evidently.

Lol where do you live that you have such weird waiters.?

@@ksy4747 Let's just say countries where steak dinners were for special occasions only 😋😋

I've found when i go to fancy restaurants alone they assume i must be a food critic or something and treat me REALLY well.

It’s because they are losing money. They only get so many tables per hour.

Totally, this is an awesome comment

@@RenataKleinRK And someone will continue to hound you, often loudly in a voice directed to everyone around you. I've had that happen to me. On one occasion, a jerk in the row in front of me announced loudly "I"VE GOT THIS" after I said no, and then proceeded to harass me for quite some time.

Those are all the good points of travelling alone. And sometimes it’s better to take a tour if the language barrier is a problem or you have dangerously bad sense of direction and get lost a lot like me. I have travelled alone in big cities but once there’s no more subway I’m lost quick