People Who Only Talk About Themselves (🙄sigh)

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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Help for Toxic Relationships

2 жыл бұрын

This is an episode of Transform Your Relationships, a video podcast by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler and Laura Rubinstein, CHt. Originally recorded on: November 10, 2020
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@Socialmediablastoff 2 жыл бұрын

It's hard to have a close relationship with someone when all they talk about is themselves and always trying to one-up you. So I choose friends who ask me questions and seem to have a genuine concern as I do the same for them. Gotta have a dynamic exchange of energy.

@ForRelationshipHelp 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's very difficult to create equality, reciprocity, and mutuality with someone who continually takes focus in conversations and relationships.

@FruityHachi Жыл бұрын

my therapist disapproves of this and thinks it's completely normal when people only talk about themselves because humans are naturally selfish is what she said

@debrasmith915 Жыл бұрын

I met a man who talks of himself it is all about him. Never met a man so into himself and I noticed he tells me my feelings he tells me what i think he takes words and forms sentances for me. Well that is annoying I asked him if he has had a mental assessment if not he should he told me I was so insulting and I told him if you can throw it you better learn to take it and I felt great.😅

@susanparker9877 4 ай бұрын

@@FruityHachiA horrible misunderstanding of communication and empathy.

@sephiroth1234 4 ай бұрын

@@FruityHachiSounds like a great therapist

@SilentTrip 4 ай бұрын

I don't mind people who talk about themselves, I enjoy learning about them... ... as long as they are willing to let me talk too and give me the same grace.

@ryandeffley7652 9 ай бұрын

We're living in a very narcissistic and self involved society largely driven by social media. Everyone wants attn/validation instead of true connections. 💯 On dating apps I do pretty well at getting likes and matches. But one reason why I unmatch a lot of them is due to lack of social reciprocity. I mean, I'll ask women questions, make observations about details from their pics, talk about the prompts on their profile, etc..My goal is to actually get an initial read on who they are. But after 5-10 messages, i haven't been asked a single thing about myself. 😂

@sephiroth1234 4 ай бұрын

Exactly my experience.. they don't even bother asking a single question. And then they complain they have no success on dating apps 🤨

@futureofmoney3527 8 ай бұрын

True that these types always seems to have an urgent talking point that requires us to lean in and constantly listen without reciprocation in the conversation. There’s always a new thing.

@GingerMarcel Жыл бұрын

My coworker is a conversational narcissist and will leave the room to find someone to talk to if someone comes in to have a conversation with me. It’s like, “well she is having a conversation, so I’m going to have one too!!” It’s childlike. These people also do not catch on to social cues. I’ve seen people keep walking when she talks to them and she doesn’t stop talking.

@monkeybearmax 2 ай бұрын

I know a couple people like this… otherwise a very thoughtful people concerned for others but will talk ur ear off and I can’t get a word in. Are they really narcs? It’s weird and can be exhausting

@alkaiable 11 ай бұрын

my ex GF of 3 yrs. was only capable of talking about herself, there was absolutely no other subject of discussion if it wasn't about her. I realize now how toxic she was..and how unhappy I was in the end.

@MrHydevsDrJekyll 7 ай бұрын

Probably narcissism definitely insecurity

@CaseyWindom 2 жыл бұрын

This is SO on time. I work with people who constantly talk about themselves, one up and interrupt to offer their own stories and braggadociousness. Its very irritating.

@ForRelationshipHelp 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's irritating, frustrating, and most of all, worth observing.

@AFFTFOMSICHTS Жыл бұрын

Do we work at the same place?? This is the majority of my co workers

@mindset_olympics2 3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂 havent heard that word in awhile braggadocious

@tomharvey5466 10 ай бұрын

Overheard from a narcissist....ya wanna know what else makes me great??

@aj5424 Жыл бұрын

Really helped me to explain the personality of my new neighbour/friend. He is an insecure type, suffering from fragile/meism, not a narcissist.

@TYGZus777 2 жыл бұрын

27:38 / "Here's the point at which I'm uncomfortable..." BINGO. This is the moment of enlightenment. When your attempt to have a mature, boundary-setting, problem-resolving conversation is met with contempt and disdain - you realize that you're not dealing with an emotionally mature person.

@ForRelationshipHelp 2 жыл бұрын

Well said!

@futureofmoney3527 8 ай бұрын

The mask slides off at that point.

@terriwhalen3618 Жыл бұрын

Especially on the phone! I agree, thanks!

@daveholte7658 8 ай бұрын

This video helped me understand. I first called these folks as belonging to the “mutual admiration society? Maybe I am incorrect. I find all snot me alot but have removed myself from these folks. In fact one is my wife (on paper) All about her never asks about me my family my health 😢etc. I have acquaintances all about themselves and can’t discuss basically by text email very seldom a real conversation So I just try slowly to remove them from my circle of life,.

@Uberqueenbee 2 жыл бұрын

I am guilty of this. Usually when severely triggered. I tru to become aware and modulate myself while encouraging others to let me know as it happens.

@gregmartin3608 Жыл бұрын

One word. Earbuds

@transitionsnc Жыл бұрын

Agree. Sometimes there's no other choice.

@mindset_olympics2 3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@tragedienne1 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Rhoberta, I really enjoy your content and am learning alot! I was wondering if you perhaps one day would consider making a video about the sadness one can begin to live and breathe, realizing that there are so many, as you call it "hijackals", in our society, and that drains us and leaves us feeling unsafe and that theres hardly any good people left. I know thats a feeling, but sometimes we meet one unsafe person after another and another.. For me, personally, it makes me feel really sad and unsafe, bordering on hopelessness much of the time.

@CaseyWindom 2 жыл бұрын

I am right there with you. Sometimes you wonder if you're the only sane and self-aware person left in the world. Feels like you're the only human in a world of robots 🤖 or the only empath in a field of energy-suckers. You resolve to give and give and make peace with being alone and come to the resolve that you're only meant to give and never get anything in return. It is a discouraging thought; sickening and saddening all the same but it brings some good in that you learn to love yourself more and enjoy your own company, you are a stellar lover, you genuinely care for the pain and well-being of others and you bring a lot to this world. I truly believe that having and maintaining boundaries is like an electric fence around you that scares off the energy suckers as they see that you love yourself and you're not willing to give everything away to their benefit any longer. In loving yourself you begin to hone in on your discernment and you very selectively CHOOSE who you are willing to let in with you. You matter too. You are precious and you are a gift. Your energy is finite and not every soul is deserving of your energy because you have your own soul to maintain. Peace is hard to get, even harder to keep so do your best to maintain your peace and this means avoiding certain types of people who show evident toxic traits. Blessings to you :)

@ForRelationshipHelp 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, it is important to have non-negotiable boundaries, well-expressed, for sure!

@bnol03686 Жыл бұрын

Agreed! I have a theory that those types are usually very broken despite their exterior.

@futureofmoney3527 8 ай бұрын

My neighborhood is like this. There’s a coffee morning every few weeks and there’s a couple of narcissists in the group that spoil it. I hardly socialize now because these people seem to be everywhere and they’re utterly tedious.

@amandaball353 5 ай бұрын

Excellent video. My mother-in-law(MIL) would always talk on the once a week calls that I no longer participate in with my husband. She would talk about herself for over an hour. We’d have to call every Sunday at a specific time. Even if she asked a question she’d over talk us, me or my husband and continue to talk about herself and what she’d did day by day about her entire week. It drove me mad!! April/May ‘21 I decided to go no contact. Best decision I did for myself!!👏🏻👌🏻

@terriwhalen3618 Жыл бұрын

Throw in delusional behavior with hyjackals!

@ace1007 17 күн бұрын

I literally turn the phone on speaker and turn the volume down and do something else...

@mirrormirror444 10 ай бұрын

Then how do you relate to others without taking over the conversation if your experience can help others with a situation they’re dealing with?

@MandiArt 27 күн бұрын

I know this was posted a while ago but here is one way I do that. I listen and then relate my experience without detail, if they want to know more they’ll ask. But something along the lines of “I can understand, I went through something similar and this is what helped me.” Understand they likely won’t take your advice but it might help them think of other ways they can solve their problem. Some people though (believe it or not) don’t want the problem solved, no matter how much they say they do. It’s their normal and they are quite comfortable with their chaos.

@valroze1647 Жыл бұрын

Looking for help not for talking bad about people. This just came across that way for the first 5 minutes.

@missdonner1271 Жыл бұрын

???

@TheB920 9 ай бұрын

I dislike my family whatsapp group. I feel my sister makes everything about herself. Posts so many pictures and videos of herself and she's always about what she's doing and where she's going. My dad can post a simple message wishing everyone a great day and she'll have someone take pictures of her at work and how she's seeking to do something and it's like we always have to congratulate her for something or any small challenge and she needs us to all say some "encouraging words" to her. I want to be supporting to all my relatives and friends but this is just too much. I care a lot about my sister but I'm not going to fill my phone with her videos and pictures. And I'm not going to be sending "encouraging messages" or "congratulatory messages" for every small thing to a person almost every week

@monkeybearmax 2 ай бұрын

Gross! That’s why I quit FB … most of my family members are this way posting new updates and photos of themselves daily while largely ignoring my new business I posted about a handful of times. I do not need daily updates from anyone. It’s obnoxious. I’d delete that chat.

@TheB920 2 ай бұрын

@@monkeybearmax I'm so sorry. I know that feels horrible. I hope your business is doing well. Keep pushing on. I hope you find excitement in your job, I hope customers like your business and you make good profits ❤️🙏🏾

@denniscooper5476 5 ай бұрын

thats narcissim

@zt3951 Жыл бұрын

Why woman select this traits?

@MrHydevsDrJekyll 7 ай бұрын

Women like doing this especially on dating apps and life. Then again they don’t have anything to offer expect problems and selfishness

@mindset_olympics2 3 ай бұрын

You watched two women talk about other ppl than themselves in this video

@irlandaise5631 17 күн бұрын

I tend to agree as a woman but found these women very interesting. I have male friends who have nothing to offer . They make everything about themselves and you can’t discuss anything .