Pillowtalkderm: My fertility journey

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4 жыл бұрын

Part 1: My struggles with fertility.
A more personal side to Pillowtalkderm... and yes, its long! But it's 20 years of my life condensed into 2 parts. From my personal struggles starting a family, to what it took to become a dermatologist, I'm putting this out there in hopes of it helping someone who might need to hear it. ⁣
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For those who just happened to stumble upon my page or this IGTV, this was originally an Instagram Live. So, there's no editing, no special effects, no filters... just me. ⁣
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Consider this a pseudo-podcast. ⁣
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@miltoncat 4 жыл бұрын

Also... folks, never never NEVER ask a woman when she is going to have a baby!! There is a reason, and whether they don’t want to or haven’t been able to... it’s not your business and if they want to talk about it, they will. It was so heartbreaking to put on a brave face when people asked me that!

@ye23. 3 жыл бұрын

So much pressure on us as women its crazy. Its questions like “when are you going to get married” and then after that happens “when are you going to have kids”. Shereen is middle eastern so its a constant thing in our cultures the pressure is x10

@MissBaghira 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@sarahthomas6956 3 жыл бұрын

That is so true. I love my kids. I just wish I would have waited. I applaud all women out there. I know a lot of men try to understand, but the monthly rollercoaster that is hormones is so hard to decipher and deal with. Also just because a woman has one child doesn't mean there will be more whether by choice or not.

@Shady.Lady. 3 жыл бұрын

I completely understand. I felt forced to share with people my private pain. It’s something that unless personally experienced, can’t comprehend. Secondary infertility affects not only the parents but the child who longs for a sibling and shares the family’s struggle. It’s heartbreaking to have a child ask for a sibling and not be able to give them that most precious gift. Love, prayers and peace🙏🏻❤️🌷

@s6352 3 жыл бұрын

PLEASE Career First Ladies….Freeze Your Eggs!🙂

@monicabroniecki7624 3 жыл бұрын

I had IVF at 42 after losing one of my two children. 33 eggs harvested. Two embryos implanted. One took. I had him at 43. He’s my angel from heaven and is 18 now. Miracle.

@artsyhyd 3 жыл бұрын

Omg thanks for sharing, ur story is inspiring. I’m 36 this year and haven’t met mr right, I still hope I would be able to get pregnant and have children in the future.

@monicabroniecki7624 3 жыл бұрын

@@artsyhyd Good luck. I hope you’re wishes come true and that you find someone amazing. ❤️

@artsyhyd 3 жыл бұрын

@@monicabroniecki7624 thank you for ur encouragement 💗

@soniavasquez1081 2 жыл бұрын

Wow thank you for sharing. I am turning 43 and thinking of trying IVF.

@MaeRae901 4 жыл бұрын

“I don’t do lash extensions!! “😂😂 that was cute!

@pinaydiva13 3 жыл бұрын

BEST QUOTE EVER!

@Cheri94 3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Aris-Darling 3 жыл бұрын

I found this doctor’s page through Harper’s Bazaar but I have a woman-crush. What a REAL, intelligent, beautiful, vivacious, accomplished woman! Side note: when she started to say she was 31 and then 33, 34, I was SURPRISED because I literally did not think she was over 30.

@lorijohnson2817 3 жыл бұрын

same!

@alana6806 3 жыл бұрын

U made me cry too, I’m a physician, I got my first child at 36; while also diagnosed with fibroids, and guess what, my first and only child is a girl and a true miracle and a blessing

@martinexxxxxxx 3 жыл бұрын

As an IVF nurse and IVF patient, I can only thank you for sharing your story. There is still too much stigma around infertility and ART treatments. Merci.

@sona7444 3 жыл бұрын

holy cow-she talks about fertility. I come from a culture that doesn't talk about fertility so I've been OVERLY sharing my infertility journey with any/every one just so that I can break stereotypes: so grateful the Doc is doing this.

@juancharry8308 4 жыл бұрын

I cried a little watching this 😭. Thanks for sharing your experience this really helped me understand that miscarriages are normal and hard to go through. I learned so much from this and I am so happy you were able to get through this ❤️.

@shereeneidriss 4 жыл бұрын

Juan Charry thank you so much

@genefaye6795 3 жыл бұрын

It took me 8 years to fall pregnant. Three was the lucky number after two failed IVF trials and I gave birth to a healthy little boy in 2018, honestly I am still not over the miracle. :D Any woman who has gone through IVF I salute you it's not easy. Dr. Idriss I am a new subscriber thank you for all your wonderful content. I am a licensed esthetician working in Norway and find your videos to be very helpful.

@ems_h.eartnotes 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I had a miscarriage aged 33, my first and only pregnancy. We tried and tried again. I have a history of endometriosis and then found out I have PCOS. I'm 38 now and I've never taken again, and honestly never had the mental strength to go for IVF. I've made peace with it now. I have so much awe and admiration for those who go through IVF. I'm so happy you got your babies ❤💙

@ncwest1984 3 жыл бұрын

I know someone who got pregnant naturally and they have the same ailments you did

@samiahamid9468 3 жыл бұрын

This is so relatable. Thank you for sharing your story. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 7 years now. I had my first IVF cycle last September which didn't work. I recently went through my 2nd and by the grace of God it worked, I have my early 6 week scan next week and I am nervous. This is the closest I've gotten to having a child and I'm praying the scan goes well. Congratulations on having your babies. I havn't had mine yet but every now and then I daydream about holding him/her and it makes me emotional. I understand your tears, it's a roller coaster of a journey to go through. God bless.

@inathompson8293 3 жыл бұрын

Came across this randomly. I really like the girl, she is great and fun. I am 44 and my IVF miracle is nearly 2. he is the best boy in the world even though I wanted a girl. Cried with You. it is tough,the journey, the decisions. It is the best when he says Mama. Little angelsxxx

@calamityjenn 3 жыл бұрын

Such a beautiful story, and perfectly highlights the reason why you must never, no matter what, ask a woman the insensitive question of, "So, when are you going to start your family?"

@Julia-tk1kg 4 жыл бұрын

my heart explodes from all the love for this AMAZING WOMAN omg

@shereeneidriss 4 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@M.IK92 6 ай бұрын

@@shereeneidrissyou’re truly inspiring and everything you said felt a sharp reality and motherhood is never an easy journey. Either way it’s meant to be tough. 🥲 We often have different ideas in mind but nature has its own way of revealing us the best. Perhaps if you had kids easily it wouldn’t have felt the same as after going through all the trials and appreciating even more. It does take a fair share of sacrifice from our lives but definitely worth it.❤

@cindyklein890 3 жыл бұрын

I am 27, soon to be 28, and have always been scared about having waited "too long." I'm so relieved to hear you didn't start until early/mid 30s.

@luckyDancer100 2 жыл бұрын

You’re still very young. I read that fertility doesn’t significantly decline until your 40’s.

@oh_ze 7 ай бұрын

The decline begins at 35 according to my OBGYN. Up until 35 you have a fair chance...after this, fertility declines rapidly @@luckyDancer100

@sarahthomas6956 3 жыл бұрын

Such a beautiful story. The persistent of wanting children and the heartache that comes with trying for children. You cried because you love your children and they are precious.

@elizabethruch3681 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable. I went through IVF and had 3 embryos, none took. So many failed treatments before and after and I have my rainbow baby now. Blessings to all the people struggling with fertility and losses.

@fatyne10 3 жыл бұрын

Je n’ai pas du tout l’habitude de commenter les vidéos KZfaq mais je me sens obligée de vous dire à quelle point je vous trouve extraordinaire. Je vous aime sans vraiment vous connaître, vous êtes tellement belle, drôle, sensible et généreuse. J’ai commencé par regarder vos vidéos skincare qui sont très pédagogiques, ludiques et gratuites au passage, et puis j’ai finis par voir toutes vos vidéos et elles me font beaucoup de bien. J’en profite pour vous remercier et vous souhaiter le meilleur possible à vous et à votre famille. ❤️

@jayniestanley4730 3 жыл бұрын

Boy u have that right!!!! I have been down that road. We ended up adopting. I luv my son so much. I always wanted to adopt so I was so happy. He's the best thing I ever had. So, I know how u feel. Thank u for sharing ur story.

@dianamccarthy2377 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve been trying for over 2 years, I’m not sure that I want to try IVF at this point, but I am really thankful for you and other women that talk about infertility and their own struggles with having a baby. Thank you!

@Fizshah1 3 жыл бұрын

What a lovely and emotional narration. It’s crazy that I had the exact same experience from start to end - not wanting kids, miscarriage in 30s, IVF cycles failing and the sentiments with it.

@anacarolinavieira8333 3 жыл бұрын

From another doc with her own fertility journey: thank you for sharing and for the honesty! ❤️

@miltoncat 4 жыл бұрын

I have PCOS. Married at 35 (didn’t meet Mr Right until I was 33!). Couldn’t afford IVF. Twelve years later, still no kids. Some days it’s okay. Some not. It’s rough. 😞 My friends with kids kind of drifted away over time... play dates, school things, etc and I couldn’t be part of them or relate. I’m almost 48 now and it’s too late. I had ruptured cysts and the pill kept that from happening, but also kept babies from happening. I know I am not a failure but can’t help it... I wanted to give husband a kid so badly. He’d have been a great dad. Now I’m stuck with PCOS weight gain and prediabetes. Only Victoza has helped but Aetna won’t cover it, and I can’t pay $1000+ a month and up OOP. Medical costs kept me from parenthood and now keeps me from getting well. It isn’t fair.

@appellationsobriquet6205 4 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. I hope you find peace through all this heartache. Would you consider adopting?

@hanagreg 4 жыл бұрын

Appellation Sobriquet adoption is incredibly expensive as well

@dr.dermixgirlmd7479 4 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry to hear...

@deutschlandfan14 4 жыл бұрын

Kids are overrated enjoy your life

@ye23. 3 жыл бұрын

Adoption is an option. Dont lose hope

@valm.5243 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your IVF story with us! I am a doctor too. I put off having kids because I don't think I wanted to have any and I hadn't met Mr. Right. Now, I have 3 embryos waiting for me. I'm 47 years old now and plan to be ahead with it. Better late than never if you really want something in life. God bless you for being so open and vulnerable with us. It's still helping so many of us years later! 🙏

@leslievalenciano-lopez8887 4 жыл бұрын

❤️ Thank You for sharing your experience! This will empower other women to explore options when they have difficulty becoming pregnant. My daughter in law went through IVF and we have a beautiful grandson.

@shereeneidriss 4 жыл бұрын

Leslie Valenciano-Lopez 🙏🙏🙏

@thatsittho 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! as an endo girl, I am so grateful a female doctor can speak to how painful laparoscopic surgery is. After the 2nd one I said hell to the no, the recovery is just as painful as the disease and it comes back anyway.

@tangomango5360 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing ❤️ I had my 2 boys at age 35 & 38 (wow, so late lol) after college, work, grad school. Just couldn’t imagine having children during school, grateful they are healthy. Would love to see a pic of your family someday (I know, it’s private. Totally understand)🥰 (I also shed happy tears while watching 😆)

@artsyhyd 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing, I’m 36 this yr and haven’t even met mr right. Im terrified tbh bcos I would love to get pregnant before it’s too late 😢

@shhh2121 3 жыл бұрын

I turned 30 recently and I'm only now planning to have a kid and didn't even realize I needed this so much. Thank you ❤️

@melzabes 3 жыл бұрын

I freaking love you! The fact you talked about this is so amazing. I had my daughter at 21 from a previous relationship, at 32 I met my soulmate, got married at 34 and it took me a whole year of trying to get pregnant which I don’t think I was mentally prepared for. Throw in a fibroid issue, the genuine fear not staying pregnant was crippling honestly, so grateful to be nearly 30 weeks with our son 💙

@VeronikaBarakina 3 жыл бұрын

I cried too))) so now u have 2 kids) you are so great, hugs and support from Moscow, Russia

@sharonscott1776 3 ай бұрын

Hi Dr Idriss, you had me crying watching this. I’m 47 and tried so many times to fall pregnant and it never happened. I no always wanted a baby, wasn’t meant to be. U are so down to earth and such a delight. I’m so glad you ended up having babies.

@cynthiatsai6914 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I wish there were more frank discussions about our biological clocks. I was lucky enough to have both of my children in law school. Both accidents but looking back, what a blessing. It sucked then because it was SOOO difficult juggling children, law school, internships/work and of course finances. That being said, I also have many girlfriends who later had difficulty getting pregnant because it was career first and no one talked about our biology. Most if not all were not mentally prepared for the challenges when it was the “right time” to have children. Some managed to have children, some didn’t. I believe it’s time we start having very frank discussions and education about fertility.

@shereeneidriss 4 жыл бұрын

I couldn’t agree more

@elliebelly456 3 жыл бұрын

I know I'm late to joining your team, but I commend you for sharing your story. Thank you for being vulnerable for us 💜

@missionbestlife4859 3 жыл бұрын

This is so brave of you to share your story, I really appreciate it! Sending lots of love and positivity your way! 💕

@alessandrabalci9564 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I also had difficulty getting pregnant, had to wait 3 years and 3 IVFs until I finally had my girl. Then 1,5 years later I got pregnant naturally to my boy 😊

@camilletb3978 4 жыл бұрын

Amen! Every point you made was so beyond on point. We started trying and after 7 months finally started down that path of medically trying to figure out what was going on. We started IVF in April 2018 and after 13 eggs ended up with 10 embryos and then 6 viable embryos. We implanted two each time and became pregnant after the second round, but it ended in miscarriage. We ended up stopping after those 6 were complete and started down the path to adoption. It is such a roller-coaster and emotionally draining. I wouldn't do again if given the opportunity. Thank you for sharing your story!!!!!!!!

@shereeneidriss 4 жыл бұрын

I hope it all works out for you -- no matter the path, we are lucky that there are many ways to become parents. ❤️

@ReginaM 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I know this has been uploaded 4 years ago but I’ve been watching your videos for skincare tips. Hearing your stories made me grateful that it doesn’t take awhile for me and my husband on trying. We got married when I was 30 years old. For the last 5 years of our marriage we did not try to conceive. This January of 2024 I just remember I will turn 36 in the next month February. So I talked to my husband that maybe we should start trying. And we both agreed. I got pregnant in February and now currently 15 weeks. Every two weeks I have OB appointments and bloodwork done. So far me and the baby are both healthy.

@greciasandoval4460 4 жыл бұрын

sending you love and a big hug! You beautiful, strong woman! I’m only 22 but I plan on starting veterinary school within the next two years, so I don’t plan on having children until my early 30s. I constantly worry about not being able to have a family. This video was a great reminder of the struggle women everywhere go through with fertility & that it is possible to put your career first and still start a family(:

@patpatmoomoo5524 Жыл бұрын

Retrieve your eggs as soon as you have the right insurance

@margaretmartine9430 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing in such an honest way. We had a very similar experience, the loss, D&C, 2 IVFs, and more in-between. Except, I was 35 when we started and it took us 5 years, 2 doctors, and ended up with 2 beautiful fraternal twin boys, and I wanted a girl! We didn't go as far as to test for gender though. And, I agree, trying IS NOT FUN! I welled up just listening to you. Enjoy your kiddos. Love!

@sunimunni 3 жыл бұрын

You’re so funny! Hahahaah “Did the fibroid eat the baby?” I loled at this. “I don’t do eyelash extensions.” 😂

@victorialorenzo9856 3 жыл бұрын

I never comment on a video until now. Been your subscriber for a month but only came across this one today. I'm only 26 and a legal practitioner in my home country (Indonesia) - so i resonate a lot w/u on being career driven & deciding to hv a family later in my 30s. After watching this video, I never felt 'at peace' with my decision knowing that everything will fall into place if life's willing. I'm not one to care for critics on this subject (esp in a country rooted on religious & conservative beliefs, though i believe our society's becoming modernised) but as all women we still worry about time and ppl constantly reminding us of aging. Truly, thank you Dr. for sharing! You hv encouraged me (and hopefully many others) to continue my journey as is and believing in the process🍃💙

@artsyhyd 3 жыл бұрын

“Honestly whenever it’s ur time to have kids it’s gonna happen, just don’t question it.” 15:00 This quote made my day.

@jeanite26 4 жыл бұрын

Such a beautiful story ❤️❤️❤️ I completely feel you about feeling biologically inadequate when getting pregnant is difficult. I have tried in the past and that did not go well. We start trying next year (I’ll be 31!) Hopefully it will go better 🤞🏽thank you for sharing

@shereeneidriss 4 жыл бұрын

Katherine Guzman it’s a marathon, it’s not a race ... and in the end, it will work out, and if ur dream is to be a mommy you will. Ivf, adoption, surrogates- we are lucky we live in the time we live in

@desertrose89 3 жыл бұрын

This was very personal. I'm happy it all worked out for you. Congratulations on having two healthy children.

@InfinitelyASMR 3 жыл бұрын

After going through IVF myself, I am not surprised you’re crying. We have a lot of emotions we have to just deal with during the process and sometimes they creep back up.

@blackbird6491 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story and for offering encouraging words to others who are also struggling 🙏❤️. Your story brought me to tears. You are so right-it is ironic that we spend so many years trying not to get pregnant and putting career and life experiences first. Then, when we are ready, we are presented with challenges. You are an inspiration. 🙏

@samuko1122 11 ай бұрын

Lots of hugs, love and warmth to you doc. You are my hero and ya this video made me feel some serious invisible universal connections between you, me and all people who’ve commented here. Peace and healing to all! ❤

@maygold96 4 жыл бұрын

First of all you’re the most beautiful girl naturally I have ever seen who isn’t even trying! And second thank you for sharing your very intimate story. ❤️

@sabreen45 3 жыл бұрын

Girl I cried with you. We’ve been trying for 10 months and now are looking into IVF and IUI. This has been the hardest thing to go through. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️❤️.

@myluvforuisblind 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I have endometriosis and whenever I talk about having babies with my fiance, I also cry, it's weird because you don't think you're emotional but then it just hits.

@dioradri 4 жыл бұрын

I also work in the high stress field and am going to be well into my 30s by the time I will be able to try :( so scared out of my mind but hearing your story gave me some hope! Your story would not be real without tears :) thanks for opening up to us!

@SRfive2O 3 жыл бұрын

Hugs to all my mighty warriors out here! I’m scrolling and reading these comments that are so heart warming and brought tears. Keep sharing bc U.S.A. families need so much more financial support, child care, flexible time off, and fertility support, let alone education on nutrition than what is out there.

@sarahc6299 2 жыл бұрын

I love that you share your story so candidly! I'm so happy that you talked about this

@pallavibhattacharjee4958 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Dr. Shereene! I totally agree, god knows why nobody talks about pregnancy related issues and especially fibroid. My situation is pretty similar to yours, just got diagnosed with multiple fibroid and holy moly this is f##$$$ tough. Thank you so so much for sharing your experience with us.

@jelton52 5 ай бұрын

I have always said to my pregnant friends, "When you have that baby in your arms, what you feel is so powerful, a love that is beyond words. It's going to be OK".

@21972012145525 Жыл бұрын

I got married at 23. I waited to have kids because my husband and I weren’t financially stable and he was in school. Then I got laid off my job. Then I found out about the cheating. Forgave him. Started advanced degree. Then Divorced at 30. I just turned 34 and I hope I can get married and be a mom. My older sibling has three and my younger one has 2. I’m not sure what life and god has in store for me. I never thought I would’ve gotten divorced and still don’t know how to rebuild my life without my husband. It makes me sad that I worked so hard in my 20s but have nothing to show for it.

@21972012145525 Жыл бұрын

Right now my daily battle isskin and psychology

@jennyshostak7093 3 жыл бұрын

You are so honest! Wishing you all joy and happiness the motherhood has to offer!

@kathleensauer3394 4 жыл бұрын

BEAUTIFUL STORY! Thank you SO much for telling it! XOXOXO

@shereeneidriss 4 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@mumoffour6860 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your journey. I had 7 miscarriages over the course of 10 years. But I still came out with twins and two singletons. None of my miscarriages were ever tested and I was told “unexplained recurrent miscarriage”… apparently I’m one of the 1%. Nonso grateful for the babies I have and definitely finished with the baby-making journey. I think stress plays a huge part. I am a veterinarian and a partner in a clinic.

@aracelicernas5808 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I too in the beginning did not want a girl but a boy. However now that I look back and am so thankful and grateful that I had my daughter first. 💕

@Mariciella Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your frankness and thus, highlighting the difficulties that go hand in hand with this topic. After almost 20 months of "trying", we are going to start IVF treatment soon. I am also a medical specialist and by "avoiding getting pregnant" at all costs during my twenties, I never considered, that it might be difficult to get pregnant in my early to mid-thirties. I know it's more of a niche population, but what would help me a lot would be skincare advice on PCOS and hormonal treatment before and during IVF. At first I thought, 'No problem, I'll just take a break from my beloved retinol products for 3 to 4 months - until I'm pregnant", not knowing it would take this long...

@user-ey4wp8sm8y 3 жыл бұрын

I loved the way you are honest and bold about this topic. May your family be heathy and happy forever🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽love you

@canna_nymph 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’m 33 and we’re about to start trying and I’m genuinely nervous but knowing that there is hope thru IVF gives me so much relief. It’s stressful as a woman feeling like time is eating away at your chance of having a family.

@seematiwari2583 2 жыл бұрын

God bless you dear.. I accidentally found you, and you are such a beautiful human being. I cried with you..me too have gone through a miscarriage recently. your story resonates and that irony is so true.. infact you just put every word out there that does rounds in my head. Thanks. It's great to your effort to break the stigma that is attached with every aspect of fertility🙏❤️

@leebreviews9217 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Shireen ,I was so angry at world since few days then I realised after listening to you that no one had it easy

@lucidity_world Жыл бұрын

Relatable and cathartic. Very brave of your to upload this. My first pregnancy was also a miscarriage. After my first son I must have miscarried for months on end for 3 years. Towards the end I was a different person. I did not spend any time looking at baby stuff until a couple of weeks before giving birth. I did not tell anyone or even admit to myself out loud that I was pregnant when I carried one through into the 2nd trimester. I tried not to dwell and freak out on the 'what ifs' and the 'it won't remain viable' tho not stressing about it was impossible. When in that state where I felt engulfed and scared that I would kill it (yes, after two years I literally felt like my body was the enemy and I was a traitor to myself and to my baby) I cradled my belly and heart and focused on the fact that I was pregnant NOW, my baby was with me, and my body was looking after it. I also only took that first pregnancy test and not the millions I did with the other pregnancies. I also did not go to the first ultrasound. Given they can't do anything at that stage anyway I wanted no interference from it. Trying when it won't work becomes a repetitive mechanistic act. It's no fun. Thank you for sharing your story. I have not revisited my story for a long time. ❤

@adi4ka3011 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! It can help people and more importantly - it helps you just sharing ☺️ Stay healthy and stay as real as you are 🥰

@divyasweety787 3 жыл бұрын

Shereene!......girl!.....that was one hell of an awesome....and I mean it....aaaaaaaasssssssome advice....I love the way you put it...like how non judgemental you were...need more people like you☺

@lindaclement9921 3 жыл бұрын

I just saw this.just like you im a late preggers too at 31 years old.when i discovered i was pregnant with twins the feeling was overhelming.however i was bleeding and during my gynae appoitnment we saw there was only one egg left in my womb.that moment everything crushed and he told us even if i had to continue with the remaining egg wont survive.long story short after 6 months trying i was pregnant again with a girl who weighs 8.3lbs when she got out.blessed.best feeling ever. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.from Borneo with love.

@maryphan9036 3 жыл бұрын

This really resonated with me. Going through the same thing and it’s so hard. Thanks for sharing x

@deisymanzo3400 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, you can't imagine the peace I felt when you said "when ever is your time" We have a handsome, smart and healthy 12yr old boy and have been trying to give him a sibling since he was 7... I dream of having a daughter and every year that passes, I convince myself that it's not meant to be... but I am extremely grateful for our son. I totally agree, it's so unfair we have a dam biological clock... 😔

@Liliesparadise03 4 жыл бұрын

I’m crying with you😢 thank you for always being so open and real about anything you talk about.

@carocorminboeuf5124 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I myself had two boys thanks to IVF, after struggling during almost 3 years to get pregnant. In Switzerland we don't get to know if the embryos are boys or girls and actually I'm glad because I wouldn't have been able to choose. Also... so true what you said about not wanting to get pregnant and when you're finally ready nothing is happening. Same thing happened to me. So I'm so glad and thankful that we, in 2020, get to have medical support in getting pregnant and in fulfilling our desire of having a family, we're really lucky! (sorry for my approximate English)

@shaimarashadurrahman736 3 жыл бұрын

“Did the fibroids eat the baby” that just killed me 🤣

@roroh9818 3 жыл бұрын

You are the best! Love your honesty!!! You are the most ‘natural’ KZfaqr!!! Please don’t change!

@Anu-pf4wi 3 жыл бұрын

I needed to see this! Thank you! Ive been trying for over 1.5 years. And now done 3 IUI’s. We have a IVF consultation comming up end of may, and we will do one more IUI while we wait for that. Right now i feel more excited than nervous ❤️

@spm4391 3 жыл бұрын

And here I thought you were below 30. That retinoid really works. Before retinoid people thought I was sixteen maybe because I have very oily skin so I am not prone to wrinkles.

@LeelooDallasMultipasss 3 жыл бұрын

we can't forget about genetics :) in the 1st place.. and then retinoids & co.

@rosamoreno4794 3 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful story and I too cried 🤷🏻‍♀️ I am 43 and have not gotten married or had a child and I regret waiting. Now, all I want is one child and still hope to get pregnant one dat. I did me first in all of my 20s until age 35, and after 35 could not find a good consistent man.

@loreleilee5934 2 жыл бұрын

I’m SO SORRY about the loss of your babies. I know the feeling. I did everything early. I started Kindergarten at 3, Secondary School at 12, Johns Hopkins at 12 and had my undergrad in mathematics at 14, started Harvard at 14, and was finished medical school at 17. My birthday is at the beginning of the year, so I started school early. I was married at 18, and at 6 months gestation, I went into early labor. He lived for 2 weeks but died due to a cerebral hemorrhage, which is common for a 2lb, 3oz baby. I was SO sad and angry. I don’t smoke, have never tasted alcohol in my life, and I’m a vegan but eat plenty of protein and drink a lot of water. From the moment I learned I was pregnant, all I ever cared about was having a healthy baby. I see so many babies born with problems or they’re stillborn, the sex of my children never mattered. I knew it would be easier to get pregnant when I was younger, and we now have 3 sons; 2 of which are identical twins. Again, I’m sorry about your struggles. P.S.- A few years back a 7 year-old started Harvard and President Obama awarded her a medal. Her mum said she could have started Harvard earlier, but was worried about emotional maturity. I thought I was young. GEESH!

@marthak0701 3 жыл бұрын

So emotional and real and honest! Thank you! ❤️

@rummiii7877 3 жыл бұрын

I feel that IVF is something I might have to do but God knows best... thank you for being so transparent... you’re very strong !!! And I’m very proud of you. Kay that’s all.

@yvettefavela1173 3 жыл бұрын

I am glad I went back to your older videos, a lot of what you said really resonated with me. I do not have kids and have not tried, but for a long time was not sure if I wanted kids. But I realized I do, just am not ready. Thank you for sharing!!

@cupidxxxloves 3 жыл бұрын

thank you so much for sharing your personal experience and hardship. It was really heartwarming to hear about your story, especially the ending

@knightalgia_x2013 4 жыл бұрын

This was so Heroic and so Beautiful, your tears are a clear sign of the love in your family. I'm so happy for you and your husband. I hope you post more on KZfaq❤️❤️

@Kristtal 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your experience

@atiajanssens5654 3 жыл бұрын

thanks for talking about this. i've done ivf and had 5 early miscarriages. the miscarriage association online has helped me a lot. i've just gone through the last one last month. it's so difficult, such a rollecoaster. first you have to wait wait wait. then you get a positive result and then you have to wait wait wait. and for me it always happens in this waiting period after the positive result, that i start bleeding. and it's so f*cking heart breaking. especially when you then hear people around you are getting pregnant and having babys at the same time that it didn't work out for you or it would've been around your own due date. it's just so difficult.

@atiajanssens5654 3 жыл бұрын

@@ye23. you write that as if: - I said that I won't adopt or that I'm too dense to get that idea myself. Adoption and having biological children are two different things. Maybe I want both. - it's so easy to adopt. Maybe I can't adopt a child for a myriad of reasons. - you know better in any way shape or form Try this thing called empathy, it helps understand other people

@atiajanssens5654 3 жыл бұрын

@@ye23. I wrote a comment about one of the most painful things that has ever happened to me. And you think you'd better sit on your high horse and look down on me. Just as an info: adoption IS different. No one controls who has biological children. But adoption is highly regulated AS IT SHOULD BE. I live in the Netherlands where all foreign adoption has been put on halt, because some of the scandals that came out. Adoption within the Netherlands is near impossible, because there are almost no children getting into the system to be adopted. So factually I CAN'T adopt. I would love to, but I'm not able to. This is also the case for many many many other couples, they would love to adopt but it is difficult or impossible to do. It's not like walking into a Walmart and choosing a baby. You're talking about having biological children like it's a crime. Do you say that also to parents? Or do you reserve your judgement for people who've had a traumatic experience to pour salt in their wounds? I see a biological child and an adopted child as the same. But it is different because the process is different. And I wanted to have a biological child before adopting because 1. Age plays a role in having children 2. I wanted to experience pregnancy and childbirth So go on talking about things you obviously understand next to nothing about

@cristalstart 3 жыл бұрын

How can I love you more? Thank you for opening your heart to us. I had some issues to get pregnant, I didn’t need IVF and always a wanted a girl, but I have 3 awesome sweet boys. God is good. God bless your family and your brave momma heart 💜

@snadrap 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I am also focusing on my career and worry about my fertility so am so grateful hearing your story. Thank you so so much. I really appreciate your candor and willingness to be vulnerable. Thank you.

@cinderchey 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. I cried. I’m 30 and just got accepted into nursing school and I cry because I worry when I graduate, 33-34, I’m not going to be able to have children. I feel I have to either give up my dream of nursing school or give up my dream of children

@tomcruisemiddleteeth 4 жыл бұрын

tons of people have kids during school. my cousin finished med school at 35 and had a son right after. it'll be fine.

@Stradbally 4 жыл бұрын

Don't despair! I started nursing school at 32 and had my first baby at 35, just three weeks before I passed my boards. It was difficult but worth it in the end.

@shereeneidriss 4 жыл бұрын

You’re still young- and when there is a will there is a way, wether you conceive naturally, or with help, or even via surrogacy or adoption. Being a mom can come through many différents paths

@tracygaren1465 3 жыл бұрын

@@shereeneidriss how old are/were you when you had your son, 35??

@kimmmy86 5 ай бұрын

I’m an IVF mum too. I had a large 25cm ovarian cyst at 30. Had it and one ovary removed , found stage 4 endometriosis and then met my now husband. Started trying the next year. Took 2 years but luckily got pregnant on your first IVF round. No embryos left. I wasn’t ready to have another yet so we waited til last year at 36 to started trying again. Had 28 eggs out of my one ovary and was left with 5 chromosonally normal embryos. 1st transfer ending in a very early loss, but I’m now 7 weeks pregnant with baby #2,

@jam6web84 4 жыл бұрын

Finally you're back in KZfaq! We missed you!

@marygoodson4920 3 жыл бұрын

I had a similar experience, but I was in the 4th month. The ultrasound technician turned the monitor away from me, went out and got the Head Radiologist...she came in, looked at the monitor, and coldly said "No heartbeat." Left the room. I was devastated. No one suggested a chromosomal test of the fetus after the D and C. I was 36.

@katiek1979 3 жыл бұрын

You are just the best. You are helping so many people by sharing your story.

@salmael-khouly2120 4 жыл бұрын

I am not even married and i felt that rollercoaster of emotions however i really appreciate you opening up like this and sharing your experience so thank you ♥

@tilabel2284 3 жыл бұрын

I really wish I ran into this video earlier. Thank you for sharing, it really is ironic and scary when you go through such experience. People don’t really talk and share, so you feel like you are the only one failing. Thank you really.

@butterflygirl3359 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Shereen. I also struggled with infertility and IVF and I remember how heartbreaking and stressful it is to go through this.

@sonyacolomer 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, it's very brave of you and so many out there like you indeed... I totally agree and understand since I'm going through a fertility journey myself, but at 42...didn't think of children until I turned 40, life happened, I wasn't ready, all the things you mentioned... plus a mix of ignorance and a bit of arrogance, I thought it would just happen, one feels young but the bio clock hasn't adapted to our current social times, reality is, it's hard to get pregnant at my age. Fertility issues come with an array of emotions. Crying is normal and healthy. I'm happy you have such a successful and happy end of your journey.

@Sigurjon543 3 жыл бұрын

Women in my family are prone to infertility and misscarriage. I wish talking about it was normalized because it is surprisingly common. I'm a molecular geneticist now and my work focuses on how stress contributes to infertility.

@vannymirkovic 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. My husband and I are still in our journey and I had two miscarriages, and I totally understand these fears, but we know is soon to happen to us.