Not having money is stressful alone. Having kids is stressful alone. IMAGINE BOTH 😩

I will never bring a child into this world without having myself together

Some people be focusing too much on having a baby instead of being a parent. You do not have the child, the child has you. And YOU need to be the best you can be for that child..

Adrienne done got married and been speaking nothing but facts 😂😍 YOU GO GIRL!

Yes Lonnie! Yes Adrienne! Ladies protect yourselves and it is an honor and we should ALL earn it. Everyone should not have children.

Here’s the thing though ladies, most people don’t plan on having kids. People who can afford and who want kids mostly cannot have kids. And people who didn’t plan on getting kids they r the ones to get pregnant. But even if you aren’t financially stable, I still see a lot of people being motivated to go out their and work harder to support their family. Let’s be real, not everyone will be financially stable. Some people aren’t as fortunate to have stable incomes due to whatever reasons but having a kid even out of poverty shouldn’t be so judgemental. People will grow and often times a lot of poor family’s come out magnificent. Look at all my black people out here. We aren’t born rich. We have to struggle to be who we r today.

I am a 21 year old virgin, in college, building a business, I will wait on God, my husband and THEN we'll see about kids. Everyone's switch doesn't turn on about the true responsibility of a child and in this day and age, people are working so hard for much less than they used to. My mom did better than her parents to provide for and so on, I will do the same and more. I want the opportunity to decide to continue working at 36 , because I don't believe in the traditional retirement timeline and I'd like some energy, time and money to truly enjoy my life. Anything can happen yes, but we do have control over the most important part: ourselves.

"Once you are a mother, you are a mother FOREVER" Well spoken Tamera 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

We waited 5 yrs. We were living in a studio apartment and finishing up college. During that time we were able to save enough to buy a home. It was in a new development and had to be built. So it took a little time. But it’s still a beautiful home, with three beautiful children.🙌🌈🌤💛

I agree with Loni!!!! Don’t have kids if you are not financially stable!!! I know folks that will depend on their parents to take care of those kids when they come into this world. The grandparents should not have to worry about providing for the grandchildren!!!

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This is why I didn’t want to have kids until I graduated college and was solid in my career. Mostly everyone around me was having kids right out of high school. Mostly all of my cousins have multiple children, are currently pregnant, or have gotten women pregnant. I don’t judge them for that. I just knew that I didn’t want that for my life. My Mom would tell me how it made her sad to see the women she grew up with have their grandkids, see them pictured with them, see them bring them to Church, and she didn’t have any yet. I can understand her feelings, but I wasn’t about to bring children into this world and struggle the way my family struggled. Now, I’m waiting to get married. My twenties were devoted to my career. I’ll get married and have children in my thirties.

The world forgets about single dads as if they don't exist please drop a like for those great single dads.

Normally I don't agree with Adrianne, but she is spot on!

I had a an accident and I wouldn’t change that for the world. I had to move back in with my family because I had lost support from my child’s father and was super sick. I didn’t have a ton of money but I made 👏🏽 it 👏🏽 work👏🏽. God has amazing timing for everything and if a baby is part of that plan then he’s going to take care of that baby. I have been busting my a** for my kid and made sure always that he is LOVED, SAFE, TAKEN CARE OF, HEALTHY. I love you ladies and I appreciate he honest replies. Once a mother always a mother. Abel and I have so much fun on a low budget right now but I will continue to try and do my best as a mother.

Gosh I did it the right way I swear I proceeded to marry my husband after only one year of knowing him although that was so silly, it ended up great, now considering I married him so quick I have 3 years until our first child arrived so now we have been married for 5 years known each other for 6 and have a beautiful little girl, and it’s really worked out for us

I agree with Adrienne So much ! My mom only has 2 kids my brother and I and she really wanted a third one but she was like we don’t have the money for it, she needed to work because my dad wasn’t making enough alone and she said daycare is pricey and I need baby sitters but obviously that’s expensive as well ! Although she really wanted to expand her family she knew they didn’t have enough money to provide to the baby !

What Adrienne said at

"Things do happen" , is not how a child should come into the world.

Tam is so real... that's what I kept my focus on during my engagement. The wedding day is a nice day, but its really about the marriage you are starting. Same with babies and pregnancy.