The root cause you need to be aware of to stop pleasing other people forever. How to get past the root of all fear & pain: www.alive-acade...
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@HimanshuSingh-rr4mm4 жыл бұрын
Childhood emotional neglect can also be root cause of people pleasing.
@queenbee70744 жыл бұрын
Himanshu Singh sad part is that sometimes u dont even know if you went through neglect all ur life
@KatyaMorozova4 жыл бұрын
Couldn't agree with you more!
@gaurychaudhari5354 жыл бұрын
That is true and people start to take decision of your life without even asking us....
@JdaPhoeniX93 жыл бұрын
A terrible thing. An under nourished young soul can be detrimental to the individual and society at large! I’ve struggle accepting this reality. Am getting help now...! Himanshu Singh-👑 Never forget you are awesome! 🙏🏾 Thank you
@nokwandajobe10213 жыл бұрын
So much truth in this
@neilliu78666 жыл бұрын
What if you have become a people pleaser for too long and you forgot about your true self ....
@alive-academy6 жыл бұрын
Hi Neil, the whole purpose of being a people pleaser is to distract yourself from yourself, from feeling unsolved pain. After having forgotten about yourself a very exciting journey awaits you: dis-covering your true authentic self again, past all fear, pain and dis-ease. I advice you to watch my 4 free theoretical videos at: www.alive-academy.com, enjoy your dis-covery and liberation process!
@melvyncarrot47415 жыл бұрын
Shake that old shelf off and starts speaking honestly about your own feelings , starts by saying no if you feel comfortable. Pluck the courage and be brave , when you do that , you will see who’s the real and who’s the fake . Because when you are a people pleaser , you turn off the real people and lure the fake shit into your life , I been through it and it’s a vicious cycle . Starting asking yourself, who are you , who’s the real you . Feel it!
@mandya66975 жыл бұрын
@@alive-academy I wish it is that simple. None of the things you mentioned applied to me and yet, I tend to please people, i.e. falls into their manipulation (initially) .. because I don't have the habit of dissecting what some say or do with judgemental view UNTIL the manipulation becomes obvious .. at which point I do put a stop and end up calling a spade a spade which kind of makes me feel like I am mean to them and then wished I saw the intent to manipulate ahead. Unbelievable ways people have unreasonable expectatio .. some obviously, out of their desparation, of the ways people expect me to cater to their wishes made known to me with total disregard to the amount of time it would involve if I were to cater to their expectation.
@sanctusignis97464 жыл бұрын
Shadow Work
@samio17494 жыл бұрын
That's what exacly happened to me. I don't know who I am anymore. I feel lost
@alaawanis3407 жыл бұрын
You described my situation perfectly - and that illustration was spot on - you have clearly been through a lot in life to learn these valuable lessons - and you have done really well for yourself - I am thrilled for your liberation and i wish you the best !
@alive-academy7 жыл бұрын
Hi thanks for your sweet comment. You know what you wish for others will come back to you too ;-) So no worries, there is a door opening that will give you and independent, completely fulfilled and abundant life in every way. It might be counter intuitive, but it is there. Enjoy the rest of the videos and if you haven't subscribed to the more in depth videos yet: www.alive-academy.com
@tomokofliearman94685 жыл бұрын
You said it right. Uncovered the fear of abandoment! Good job, Sir.
@WorldWalker236 жыл бұрын
I was abandoned by my x partner when I started being my true self. I dont need them. They went off with someone else to distract themselves from their own feelings. You are so right here. What a great message you are sharing. x
@gothmaze5 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I needed! thank you so much! I felt brought back by the ideas I had about the past when I truly needed to move on IN THE MOMENT, and feel the feelings. Feeling the feelings is moving on! People who hurt us are not fulfilled, and when we hurt others we are not fulfilled. It's a cycle!
@Valentinfj3 жыл бұрын
"Let people be wrong about you. You don't need to defend yourself." Elliot Hulse So, it doesn't matter if a narcissist believes that you are a jerk because you refuse to help them on something that they can do for themselves, but they are lazy to take action. People with disabilities, children, poor people are the ones who need help the most. There is a big difference between really needing help and taking advantage of someone else.
@androssia17653 жыл бұрын
thank you for this love you!
@Valentinfj3 жыл бұрын
you are very welcome! love you.
@steveheliosone61742 жыл бұрын
This video perfectly describes the life I've lived. It makes so much sense and seems so simple, you so difficult to overcome (everything is fear-based for me). Thank you for putting this together - the visuals were great!
@user-tv6bv4ot1f6 жыл бұрын
This is your best video yet!! I will need to watch this over n over again. Then actually put these lessons and discoveries into practice. Thank you so much my friend. You might be saving my life. ! God bless you.
@alive-academy6 жыл бұрын
You are welcome! Thank you!
@aaronaustrie5 жыл бұрын
you're so true because i try to please my sister a lot and sometimes she never appreciates what i do for her by saying thankyou
@olgap.17184 жыл бұрын
Great speech and an education for all of us to learn how find ourselves again in this world!!! Stay true to yourself and do not give up and you will overcome all obstacles in your life!!!
@selfesteem19425 жыл бұрын
For me I think it's about the need for external validation and approval from others, but I've also experienced a lot of bullying in life so I think it's an attempt to avoid that (not that it works).
@alive-academy4 жыл бұрын
Being radical honest with yourself is the first crucial step. I suggest you to watch my 4 free videos that build upon this video @ www.alive-academy.com Enjoy your liberation!
@peterbthomas42275 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your response. It would seem I have allowed other people dictate how to live, what to think, even from a young boy. Unfortunately I wanted to please too many people from opposing sides and failing dreadfully. I am now living on my own and it feels great.
@wendi2819 Жыл бұрын
Happy for you! Keep growing!❤️
@growto4652 жыл бұрын
Amazing way of illustrating this! Thank you!
@johnbines1834 жыл бұрын
This video was so, so very helpful. I have a freind of over 30 years who years ago opened a business in the west indies and after it didnt work out she came back to the states displaced... over the past 8 years shes moved from city to city with family- alternating with my apartment sometimes for a year or more at a time... needless to say my friend is back and has been here over a year and I allowed her to be so comfortable that she's taken over my room and bed and I'm sleeping on the couch in my own home because of her severe phobic fear of mice (I live in NYC and yes I sometimes get mice. I know she's in desperate need and shes found it hard (or hardly looking) to find work. I want to ask her to leave so I can have my home back to myself but I can't seem to find the right words to say and I fear she'll have no place to go. I suffer from neurotic people pleasing due to early childhood trauma and often times find any form.of confrontation unbearable and I'm looking for anything to help me formulate what to say and deal with the anxiety of the confrontation after aaking her to leave. This behavior has not served me well but I cant seem to change. No judgements please.
@eureka26942 жыл бұрын
I hope you will find the strenght to make her leave. You deserve to have your own home for yourself. At least your bed. Maybe she should go to an humanitarian association to get help.
@niloufarzaimhekmat1606 жыл бұрын
Culture and stupid traditions and differences between men and women caused my pain, hopefully I can create my own kind of culture with only positive things. Filter out the negatives in my life. I have to learn that I'm not perfect and it's normal, even if I have the feeling of guilt.
@jacobjensen66174 жыл бұрын
Thank you SO much for this! This was sent to me today! 🙏🏼💕🌸
@gaurychaudhari5354 жыл бұрын
Learn to say no when your heart feels not to do.. Your life depends on your decision... Not everyone will love no matter what you do for them... It's good to be alone then to be dependent on others to show what we really are...
@JdaPhoeniX93 жыл бұрын
Great video and info! Thank you for the work you do! 🙏🏾
@jasonsandifer3250 Жыл бұрын
I am definitely NOT a People pleaser... Although, I have s a intense feeling for Humanity, and Caring for others have been confused with people pleasing. I am a man who Cares about many People... I am a man is Concerned with many things that pertain to Humanity, Safety, Advocacy, Wellness, Wellbeing, Prevention of Harm... I am not ashamed to say what is on my mind... I am Not afraid to say or Speak what is on my mind, Especially when it involves the Welfare, Well-being, and Safety of Women, Children, and Men. I am Not afraid to Speak up against unjustice, injustices ot unfair treatment treatment of or towards others. I am Not ashamed to Help others... I am Not ashamed to Be Caring, Concerned, or Kind... However, my kindness and Caring has also been confused and mistaken for weakness, and I am NOT... I have Always been this way all my Life... I was not trained to be this way, or coached, to be the way that I am, I just am this way. Yes, it is nice to have people like me, however, this is NOT, and has NEVER been my Motivation for Caring for others... In Fact if someone doesn’t like me, it is their Problem and I don’t really Care... What I Do Care about is Humanity, Living Breathing Human Beings... I Care if People are Being innocently killed, harmed, attacked etc. I Care if Others could Be Living Happier, and more fuller, Vibrant Lives... I Love People, Human Beings, Human Life... Therefore my fight is for Humanity...Life... and Love for Humanity... Author Advocate for Humanity, Jason Sandifer, Michigan, 10/13/2022
@eileen666 жыл бұрын
I really needed this video and it’s so well put together
@alive-academy6 жыл бұрын
Thanks Leena!
@mchai99336 жыл бұрын
My utmost appreciation Tom. Through your breathing technique I am able to overcome my anxiety and obsessive thinking pattern. I understand that running away from emotional pain causes mental illness, but I have always overlooked my childhood trauma. Please let me know how I can get your course and you are saving my life at the moment thank you again.
@alive-academy6 жыл бұрын
Hi M Chai. You are welcome. Hereby I send you the link: alive-academy.com/break-free/
@zarvan7773 жыл бұрын
Hey please let me know how the program was for you
@co49753 жыл бұрын
The real cause of all these terrible things is the abuse. Therefore recognizing that all these abusive things existed in the past and more likely they’re still taking place it’s a good start. Recognizing the ppl who are abusers and removing oneself from the abusive situations.
@abe42144 жыл бұрын
Do you realize that every word you have spoken in this video is actually the most profound truth that is very easy to relate to.
@nokwandajobe10213 жыл бұрын
Being a people pleaser brings disrespect and disloyalty. You are used and discarded PERIOD! I used to be one and when i picked it up and gradually stopped my users were unhappy and threw tantrums
@1bigreddog16 жыл бұрын
Your main Page says No content. Help by explaining! Your presentation feels right to me. Dont Go away because I havent started yet and I’m having a panic attack right now, just writing to you!! Cant breathe. Gotta Go So I can just watch and learn!!!Thank you!
@snezhanafiuortt98595 жыл бұрын
This video is very valuable! Thank you for this
@alive-academy5 жыл бұрын
You are welcome!
@fembot5215 жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness you are so beautiful! Thank you for the video
@JRspeaking3 жыл бұрын
Truly. I know it's a serious subject, but his jawline is amazing.
@lexiemaep79305 жыл бұрын
Perfect! Thank you❤😥 I needed this.
@ronackjain26494 жыл бұрын
You seem like a wonderful human being thank you
@scarletheartmedicine4 жыл бұрын
I love the examples and how simply you explain it!
@amayaelessar6 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Subscribed immidiatly listening to you. I SO NEEDED TO HEAR THIS RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE 🙈thank you! I want to take control of my fears and reconise them so I can heal and grow 💜
@alive-academy6 жыл бұрын
You are welcome! Thank you!
@blackpearl1t6 жыл бұрын
U need to make more videos bro enjoy them very much thanks for sharing man
@alive-academy6 жыл бұрын
Thanks and I will ;-)
@blackpearl1t6 жыл бұрын
Alive Academy great to hear man 👍
@wheretonext1158 Жыл бұрын
You are joy you are love you are power you are here for your UNIQUE reason !
@Matheus-nb5ec6 жыл бұрын
Thank u man! I was looking for this answer!
@alive-academy6 жыл бұрын
You are welcome Matheus!
@eumorphiaartemiou57483 жыл бұрын
Solving sounds so easy
@SunsmileMaria6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your videos.
@alive-academy6 жыл бұрын
You are welcome Mary!
@SunsmileMaria6 жыл бұрын
Alive Academy 😀👍
@LonjeMarie73 жыл бұрын
Awesome video thank you
@animalliberationCLBB8 ай бұрын
Thank you!! Very helpful ❤ much Love from Germany
@alive-academy8 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful! If this video resonated with you, please feel free to watch the 4 additional free ones here alive-academy.com/ They might provide you with new insights 💯 💎🍀
@dee07312 жыл бұрын
Exactly what I needed to hear.
@eumorphiaartemiou57483 жыл бұрын
Yes but how to resolve the root of pain? We know why we do it but what should we do
@rebeccax5927 жыл бұрын
Your videos are so helpful
@tanjowil97434 жыл бұрын
You have Hit the nail on the head.
@alive-academy4 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@annavillalpando48724 жыл бұрын
Great video. Thank you! ♥️
@cjennings61795 жыл бұрын
Choose the TRUTH. BE OUR TRUE WONDERFUL SELF. JOY WIN OVER FEAR : unsolved pain/FEAR OF CHANGE. TURN ON OUR LIGHT OURSELVES. THANK YOU. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR SELF. 🙌
@maneomoleko95664 жыл бұрын
True words of wisdom...And good looking too!
@millsmoore243 жыл бұрын
The words or the person producing them? 😄
@agentfalafel50594 жыл бұрын
Subscribed. Great videos
@dee07312 жыл бұрын
This is confirmation to the revelation I recently received.
@kellyinla2 жыл бұрын
KZfaq is a people pleaser by taking away the dislike count.
@Cuckons4 жыл бұрын
This is great but all your videos are using the same clip for once and for all..
@peterbthomas42275 жыл бұрын
What if I am a monster without the distraction? Who am I? 49 years being a people please and feeling alienated forever. What if I am worse off not being a people please?
@alive-academy5 жыл бұрын
Good question Peter, the distraction of pleasing people, is only necessary as a bandage, when there are unsolved emotions. The good news is, there is a way to flush out the unsolved emotions once and for all, that have been covering us for way too long, so there is no need anymore to please others to distract and cover ourselves, because only the feeling of complete fulfilment is left to be experienced. If you are interested to get clarity and direction to dis-cover your true liberated self and feel like being reborn again, I suggest you to watch my 4 free theoretical videos at: www.alive-academy.com
@sanctusignis97464 жыл бұрын
Shadow Work
@aerozg35075 жыл бұрын
I just can’t get a breakthrough, no matter what I do or what I try. I don’t know what to do anymore. I want to give up, but I can’t just check out. I hate myself and my life so much. And I think the healing has to come from inside, by itself, you can’t force it or provoke it, it has to happen naturally and spontaneously. So I am sentenced to wait in uncertainty.
@alive-academy5 жыл бұрын
It has to come from the inside indeed, but the insight of the inside will set you free. I suggest you to watch my 4 free videos about the insights in the inside at www.alive-academy.com, to set you free. Enjoy your liberation process!
@FransceneJK98 Жыл бұрын
Having been raised by multiple narcissists and catering to them all my life, it feels so selfish to take care of me and to say No to them. They guilt trip me. When do you consider someone as actually being selfish when they say no? Is it when they have alternate motives? Please share. This is so new to me
@sharonmitchell23502 жыл бұрын
Very good!!
@Masterspiececo4 жыл бұрын
Thank you soo much for this!!!!!
@alive-academy4 жыл бұрын
You are welcome Elisabeth! Thanks for sharing your gratitude!
@dee07312 жыл бұрын
Perfect timing for me to hear thank You God
@Selim_Osmanli2 жыл бұрын
Thanks alot for that now I am highly interested in psychology
@jfaithweiss6 жыл бұрын
what is the plan of action to fix this. Its not a matter of why we have the pain or what that pain is...what is the one size fits all plan of action? Please tell us the solution plan of action
@lexiemaep79305 жыл бұрын
The plan is to be alone. Do things for yourself. I thought the video was clear about this. Focus on your wants and needs. Learn to self sooth. Dont overshare. Dont look for validation from others find it in yourself by being alone. Meditate on self love. Give yourself a vacation, a spa day, find what you like.
@mariannebellstedt40702 жыл бұрын
I find the power to liberate myself from myself from the Spirit of the Living God.
@andyhasi61426 жыл бұрын
good video man!
@alive-academy6 жыл бұрын
Thanks Andy!
@V3RITAZ_425 жыл бұрын
What if you like being alone?
@mjparham64305 жыл бұрын
I love it!
@miiissr136 жыл бұрын
Its called being human. Anybody can feel like this about anything if it money or drugs, a blanket, a chocolate bar, anything. Were all human.
@7xvibe4 жыл бұрын
Preach brother!!
@lamanuelcomptonjr.12686 жыл бұрын
Im going to sub this channel for once and for all
@maheshtima13 жыл бұрын
You can watch the same video with different titles on this channel.
@metsrus4 жыл бұрын
Is being polite consider people pleasing? I'm polite to people in order to avoid any unnecessary drama.
@mahnurnaqvi43444 жыл бұрын
I think it is..being kind and polite to avoid conflict or drama fits this category
@prinsessaization3 жыл бұрын
🙏❤🙏
@nancyp6315 жыл бұрын
Hello I have not received the videos in my email?
@vitajay855 жыл бұрын
This one person likes for your to do things HER way, but I ignore her. She wants you to shop where she shops, drive what she drives, and do everything her way. I tell her to leave people alone and do her own thing. She thinks that I need to tell her where I am going, etc. I refuse to do it and she seems to be bitter.
@ani-sv5fh9 ай бұрын
Love GOD❤
@-DumpsterFire3 жыл бұрын
my extremely compassionate and loyal nature really isn't doing me good in this situation XD
@user-wp3yk3ip7o7 жыл бұрын
Could you please contact me about the cost for a consultation
@anthonykaps91744 жыл бұрын
Hello Dragan, I help people get rid of approval seeking behavior and become centered, grounded and confident through trauma release work and subconscious reconditioning, if you're interested DM on Instagram @theboringkaps
@sarahfoster44376 жыл бұрын
My ex is like this he thinks it is all about him.
@SunsmileMaria6 жыл бұрын
Sarah Foster Same with my ex too.
@Creed-lp4wj4 жыл бұрын
You sound so British lmao.
@suzimanipur29834 жыл бұрын
👍
@carmageddon834 жыл бұрын
and headaches?????
@cirtcirt56704 жыл бұрын
I don't want to please
@carmageddon834 жыл бұрын
And ringing in the ears????
@tja98604 жыл бұрын
WOW! so basically in ALL your videos this basic visualisation should be the solution to ALL kinds of depression/ dependency even without considering one‘s insividual context of life??? nothing said about how to actually implement any strategies in real life. or is this just a scam after all? psychology is not that simple my friends.
@ArbiterElegantiaee6 жыл бұрын
Wtf every video has the same drawing hahahaha all the problems are solved uniformly
@alive-academy6 жыл бұрын
Once we solve the root (origin), the different leaves (symptoms) will be solved together too.