Childhood emotional neglect can also be root cause of people pleasing.

What if you have become a people pleaser for too long and you forgot about your true self ....

You described my situation perfectly - and that illustration was spot on - you have clearly been through a lot in life to learn these valuable lessons - and you have done really well for yourself - I am thrilled for your liberation and i wish you the best !

You said it right. Uncovered the fear of abandoment! Good job, Sir.

I was abandoned by my x partner when I started being my true self. I dont need them. They went off with someone else to distract themselves from their own feelings. You are so right here. What a great message you are sharing. x

This is exactly what I needed! thank you so much! I felt brought back by the ideas I had about the past when I truly needed to move on IN THE MOMENT, and feel the feelings. Feeling the feelings is moving on! People who hurt us are not fulfilled, and when we hurt others we are not fulfilled. It's a cycle!

"Let people be wrong about you. You don't need to defend yourself." Elliot Hulse So, it doesn't matter if a narcissist believes that you are a jerk because you refuse to help them on something that they can do for themselves, but they are lazy to take action. People with disabilities, children, poor people are the ones who need help the most. There is a big difference between really needing help and taking advantage of someone else.

This video perfectly describes the life I've lived. It makes so much sense and seems so simple, you so difficult to overcome (everything is fear-based for me). Thank you for putting this together - the visuals were great!

This is your best video yet!! I will need to watch this over n over again. Then actually put these lessons and discoveries into practice. Thank you so much my friend. You might be saving my life. ! God bless you.

you're so true because i try to please my sister a lot and sometimes she never appreciates what i do for her by saying thankyou

Great speech and an education for all of us to learn how find ourselves again in this world!!! Stay true to yourself and do not give up and you will overcome all obstacles in your life!!!

For me I think it's about the need for external validation and approval from others, but I've also experienced a lot of bullying in life so I think it's an attempt to avoid that (not that it works).

Thank you for your response. It would seem I have allowed other people dictate how to live, what to think, even from a young boy. Unfortunately I wanted to please too many people from opposing sides and failing dreadfully. I am now living on my own and it feels great.

Amazing way of illustrating this! Thank you!

This video was so, so very helpful. I have a freind of over 30 years who years ago opened a business in the west indies and after it didnt work out she came back to the states displaced... over the past 8 years shes moved from city to city with family- alternating with my apartment sometimes for a year or more at a time... needless to say my friend is back and has been here over a year and I allowed her to be so comfortable that she's taken over my room and bed and I'm sleeping on the couch in my own home because of her severe phobic fear of mice (I live in NYC and yes I sometimes get mice. I know she's in desperate need and shes found it hard (or hardly looking) to find work. I want to ask her to leave so I can have my home back to myself but I can't seem to find the right words to say and I fear she'll have no place to go. I suffer from neurotic people pleasing due to early childhood trauma and often times find any form.of confrontation unbearable and I'm looking for anything to help me formulate what to say and deal with the anxiety of the confrontation after aaking her to leave. This behavior has not served me well but I cant seem to change. No judgements please.

Culture and stupid traditions and differences between men and women caused my pain, hopefully I can create my own kind of culture with only positive things. Filter out the negatives in my life. I have to learn that I'm not perfect and it's normal, even if I have the feeling of guilt.

Thank you SO much for this! This was sent to me today! 🙏🏼💕🌸

Learn to say no when your heart feels not to do.. Your life depends on your decision... Not everyone will love no matter what you do for them... It's good to be alone then to be dependent on others to show what we really are...

Great video and info! Thank you for the work you do! 🙏🏾

I am definitely NOT a People pleaser... Although, I have s a intense feeling for Humanity, and Caring for others have been confused with people pleasing. I am a man who Cares about many People... I am a man is Concerned with many things that pertain to Humanity, Safety, Advocacy, Wellness, Wellbeing, Prevention of Harm... I am not ashamed to say what is on my mind... I am Not afraid to say or Speak what is on my mind, Especially when it involves the Welfare, Well-being, and Safety of Women, Children, and Men. I am Not afraid to Speak up against unjustice, injustices ot unfair treatment treatment of or towards others. I am Not ashamed to Help others... I am Not ashamed to Be Caring, Concerned, or Kind... However, my kindness and Caring has also been confused and mistaken for weakness, and I am NOT... I have Always been this way all my Life... I was not trained to be this way, or coached, to be the way that I am, I just am this way. Yes, it is nice to have people like me, however, this is NOT, and has NEVER been my Motivation for Caring for others... In Fact if someone doesn’t like me, it is their Problem and I don’t really Care... What I Do Care about is Humanity, Living Breathing Human Beings... I Care if People are Being innocently killed, harmed, attacked etc. I Care if Others could Be Living Happier, and more fuller, Vibrant Lives... I Love People, Human Beings, Human Life... Therefore my fight is for Humanity...Life... and Love for Humanity... Author Advocate for Humanity, Jason Sandifer, Michigan, 10/13/2022

I really needed this video and it’s so well put together

My utmost appreciation Tom. Through your breathing technique I am able to overcome my anxiety and obsessive thinking pattern. I understand that running away from emotional pain causes mental illness, but I have always overlooked my childhood trauma. Please let me know how I can get your course and you are saving my life at the moment thank you again.

The real cause of all these terrible things is the abuse. Therefore recognizing that all these abusive things existed in the past and more likely they’re still taking place it’s a good start. Recognizing the ppl who are abusers and removing oneself from the abusive situations.

Do you realize that every word you have spoken in this video is actually the most profound truth that is very easy to relate to.

Being a people pleaser brings disrespect and disloyalty. You are used and discarded PERIOD! I used to be one and when i picked it up and gradually stopped my users were unhappy and threw tantrums

Your main Page says No content. Help by explaining! Your presentation feels right to me. Dont Go away because I havent started yet and I’m having a panic attack right now, just writing to you!! Cant breathe. Gotta Go So I can just watch and learn!!!Thank you!

This video is very valuable! Thank you for this

Oh my goodness you are so beautiful! Thank you for the video

Perfect! Thank you❤😥 I needed this.

You seem like a wonderful human being thank you

I love the examples and how simply you explain it!

Thank you! Subscribed immidiatly listening to you. I SO NEEDED TO HEAR THIS RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE 🙈thank you! I want to take control of my fears and reconise them so I can heal and grow 💜

U need to make more videos bro enjoy them very much thanks for sharing man

You are joy you are love you are power you are here for your UNIQUE reason !

Thank u man! I was looking for this answer!

Solving sounds so easy

Thanks for your videos.

Awesome video thank you

Thank you!! Very helpful ❤ much Love from Germany

Exactly what I needed to hear.

Yes but how to resolve the root of pain? We know why we do it but what should we do

Your videos are so helpful

You have Hit the nail on the head.

Great video. Thank you! ♥️

Choose the TRUTH. BE OUR TRUE WONDERFUL SELF. JOY WIN OVER FEAR : unsolved pain/FEAR OF CHANGE. TURN ON OUR LIGHT OURSELVES. THANK YOU. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR SELF. 🙌

True words of wisdom...And good looking too!

Subscribed. Great videos

This is confirmation to the revelation I recently received.

KZfaq is a people pleaser by taking away the dislike count.

This is great but all your videos are using the same clip for once and for all..

What if I am a monster without the distraction? Who am I? 49 years being a people please and feeling alienated forever. What if I am worse off not being a people please?

I just can’t get a breakthrough, no matter what I do or what I try. I don’t know what to do anymore. I want to give up, but I can’t just check out. I hate myself and my life so much. And I think the healing has to come from inside, by itself, you can’t force it or provoke it, it has to happen naturally and spontaneously. So I am sentenced to wait in uncertainty.

Having been raised by multiple narcissists and catering to them all my life, it feels so selfish to take care of me and to say No to them. They guilt trip me. When do you consider someone as actually being selfish when they say no? Is it when they have alternate motives? Please share. This is so new to me

Very good!!

Thank you soo much for this!!!!!

Perfect timing for me to hear thank You God

Thanks alot for that now I am highly interested in psychology

what is the plan of action to fix this. Its not a matter of why we have the pain or what that pain is...what is the one size fits all plan of action? Please tell us the solution plan of action

I find the power to liberate myself from myself from the Spirit of the Living God.

good video man!

What if you like being alone?

Its called being human. Anybody can feel like this about anything if it money or drugs, a blanket, a chocolate bar, anything. Were all human.

Preach brother!!

Im going to sub this channel for once and for all

You can watch the same video with different titles on this channel.

Is being polite consider people pleasing? I'm polite to people in order to avoid any unnecessary drama.

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Hello I have not received the videos in my email?

This one person likes for your to do things HER way, but I ignore her. She wants you to shop where she shops, drive what she drives, and do everything her way. I tell her to leave people alone and do her own thing. She thinks that I need to tell her where I am going, etc. I refuse to do it and she seems to be bitter.

Love GOD❤

my extremely compassionate and loyal nature really isn't doing me good in this situation XD

Could you please contact me about the cost for a consultation

My ex is like this he thinks it is all about him.

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and headaches?????

I don't want to please

And ringing in the ears????

WOW! so basically in ALL your videos this basic visualisation should be the solution to ALL kinds of depression/ dependency even without considering one‘s insividual context of life??? nothing said about how to actually implement any strategies in real life. or is this just a scam after all? psychology is not that simple my friends.

Wtf every video has the same drawing hahahaha all the problems are solved uniformly