Come on. This alone cannot cause all of that. Its just jerking off.

❤

If you're of 'weak' and wrong mindedness, apparently so,…. but otherwise no, porn doesn't destroy or takeover your mind unless you let it, or are susceptible to that condition. Others appreciate modest porn (not crazy shit) as a positive supplement on occasion, but not addicted to it.

I’m a recovering porn addict too and I agree with 100% of what you said. Porn is hell. It slowly eats away at your soul and makes you a subservient shell of your past self.

@@bonsummers2657 Sounds like a hell of a cope to me, friend. Weak-mindedness has nothing to do with it. It rewires the sexual reward circuit of the brain away from natural sex and towards artificial sexual pleasure. That’s why Hugh Hefner was able to have sex with all the young pretty girls he wanted, but admitted he could only climax while watching porn. There have been studies on this. Stanford University did one showing that changes to the brains of regular porn watchers was roughly equivalent to those of hardcore drug addicts. You’re addicted yourself and you don’t even know. Don’t believe me? Quit for a month and see how long the cravings and irritability take to kick in. Withdrawal doesn’t exist unless you’re an addict.

Please make it a habit to capitalize God GOD he’s so wonderfully worthy. Bless you ❤

Legally or religiously ,because the road is going to be dark if it's Legally

​@@bacorablethe idea that God lies in the sky will keep you from him, God is love and if you allow your heart to be conquered by it you will be in heaven, forget what any fear lead organization tells you

Which God are you talking about? People have invented literally thousands of them, and they are all equally imaginary.

What great advice to give to other men. 😊🙏💕

Good advice. Jesus help keep us all away from it!

@@Jesus.purple who?

Jesus Christ wants a personal relationship with you through the Holy Spirit, not religion and blind faith. You see, we all have sinned, and have broken God’s law (The Ten Commandments). Wrong doing deserves justice and must be punished (just like how a criminal has to pay for the crime they have committed) but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God in flesh, to pay the penalty for us by dying on the cross and resurrecting, so that we may have everlasting life. Now for you to accept the free gift of grace, you must repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ and Bible says that His Blood will cover all of your sins, you will be forgiven, saved from eternal punishment, and be given everlasting life. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again, know Jesus personally and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Turn away from sin, read the Bible, pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!

True. I once lost a gf because I couldn’t quit.

I had to learn this the hard way.

Congratulations for quitting 👏 🎉

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

and with the ED, is it cured now?

God bless you! It’s awesome you are speaking out to help other people. I pray you will rewarded with many blessings. 🙏

Wow, so wild... it really can mess with your brain in so many ways geez. It definitely prolonged my relationship game from ever happening for real. I'm almost 30 years old and have never had a legit long term relationship, let alone a short term. So let that also sink in for people reading this stuff. Damn glad to get off of it and recover from it. Talking and dating girls now, and just figuring out who I really want in my life.

If they believe me then they act like I’m a weirdo. Then when I refuse to go to the strip club and have a strange woman grind on my crotch for two minutes for $20 I am crazy.

None of us watch porn. It's those perverted guys over there!🤣

What exactly is a “properly integrated sexual life”? And why is it “part of the highest ethical endeavor”? Congratulations on being happily married for 25 years! That’s quite an accomplishment these days.

@@artugert - Thank you. Obviously, I didn't make it here alone. Most of the accomplishment of lifelong marriage can be attributed to the effort of husband and wife...but it takes more. It requires the expectations of two sets of parents. And both husband and wife must work to earn the respect and admiration of their children. These "pressures" are something of a compelling force that pushes us along. A properly integrated sexual life means finding the balance - and let's be clear that we could drop the term "sexual" from that phrase and it still makes sense. Some passions burn too quickly; most flame out cold. Balance allows a smoldering heat that can be fanned over the course of a lifetime. Easier said than done. How is that an ethical pursuit? Family is a generational calling, and like most callings it is felt on an ethical, moral level. YOU are the product of many, many, many families. Your DNA is the stuff of legends - quite literally. What will you do with that knowledge? How will you pass on the legacy of your family?

@@christopherlarsen7788 Well, I definitely do agree that having children and creating a harmonious family life is one of the major ethical pursuits in a person's life. And obviously the act of having sex is part of the process of having children. But I still don't see how sex itself is an ethical pursuit. You could be the most ethical person who has ever lived, and only have had sex once for each child you have. Or you could never get married and never have sex, and you wouldn't be less ethical for it. In fact, a perfectly ethical man wouldn't have any desires at all, including sexual ones, and would only have sex for child-bearing, or to please his wife, if she desires it. I think that "passions burning out" is just a normal part of life, and is a good thing. But that's just my personal opinion. I view sex as being mostly for the purpose of having children, and purposefully keeping alive your desire for sex isn't necessarily a good thing. The desire should naturally decrease as you get older, and that's normal. I think if men in their 60's are still ejaculating three times a week, that's probably not good. It's normal to gradually do it less and less. There's no need to be "passionate" past the beginning stage, in my view. What matters is that you love and respect each other, and fulfill your roles well. I like what you said about pressures providing a compelling force. My wife and I live far away from both my family and hers, so we basically have no pressure from our parents. But we have a son who is going to be two years old soon, and that has motivated me to change in some ways, and become more of a man. Getting married in the first place has already given me quite a lot of pressure! In some ways, it has made me change for the better. I've only been married for 6 years, and I wouldn't say it has always been happy. It's been quite a challenge! Maybe some day I will be able to say that I am "happily married"! It takes a lot of sacrifice. Well, at least for me, it has.

@@artugert - Agreed. It would perhaps be a better world if men did not feel sexual desire. It is difficult to say, because if men did not feel sexual desire towards women... honestly, would men even bother to mate with women? I cannot see why men would mate with anyone under those circumstances. The human species would die off quickly, I'd guess. Is sex an ethical pursuit? If not, then is ANY pursuit ethical - wealth, knowledge, virtue, peace? Sex is only one of many desires. Let's consider money. If you want money, but don't have it, then what you do to obtain money is either ethical or unethical. Would I kill for money? Would I hurt people for sex? These sort of questions expose the ethics of pursuit. What are we willing to do? How will we earn this object of our desire? Not easy questions.

@@christopherlarsen7788 You're right. People in this world are full of desires, and live for nothing other than to fulfill those desires. If a man can give up all desires while living in this world, well... it might sound mystical, depending on your beliefs, but in my view, he would have already transcended the human realm, which I believe is the entire purpose of our living here on this earth. But if all men on earth gave up all desires, then earth would become a paradise, but that could never happen. If you want money, why do you want it? Well, being a human on this earth, we do need to find a way to sustain ourselves and our families, and in most societies today, that normally requires some money. If you do a job that is providing a real service to people, and you try your best to do it well, then that is a virtuous act. But if you make money through crooked means, that's not good. As for sex, any sexual act that is not just normal sex with your wife is unethical. And just as with everything else in life, it should be done with trying to please your wife as the goal, not to please oneself. As for the question you asked of what would you do for sex, well, if you're not married yet, it's more a question of what you would do to get married. Finding a suitable wife and doing what you can to make her your wife, can be a noble pursuit, as long as you don't hurt anyone in the process. That's why there are many tales of brave men fighting monsters and marrying a princess, etc. If you're already married, the only thing that really can be done to obtain sex when you want it, is to make it known to your wife in some way, and see if she is willing to or not. We are still human and still have desires, so I wouldn't count normal sex with your wife as unethical (but of course it can be if it's excessive or against your wife's will). But I wouldn't say it's ethical, either. Going back to the original quote, "A properly integrated sexual life is part of the highest ethical endeavor", I took that to refer to the actual act of having sex itself, rather than the pursuit of having sex, as it seemed you were referring to in the last comment. I think "he highest ethical endeavor" is to be free of desire. And in that case, as I said before, you would only have sex to procreate (which is for the good of mankind) or to please your wife (to keep harmony within the family). But sex seems to matter much less to women than it does to men, and some women (like my wife) don't seem to care about it much at all, and could easily do without it (apparently). Having a wife that isn't interested in sex is quite challenging for most men. Women like that should try to do it more, for the sake of their husbands. I think a large part of a "properly integrated sexual life" is balancing the desires of the man and wife, and communicating openly about them. And each should try to please the other. Sorry, that was kind of long and all over the place.

Then why are you counting time? If you've truly stopped there's no need for that.

@@aleks5405 So anyone who got over an addiction that remembers how long it’s been hasn’t truly stopped? Do you take medication to help your brain function normal? I think you need to up the dose…..

@@deputy_charles2161 dude asked a question. no need to be rude.

cool but if u dont have a partner u just have wet dreams or jerk off with no porn lol

​@SMBShippuden4 true statement, though. Drug users and alcoholics keep track of sobriety. Porn is an addiction. As for myself, 8 months and going porn free.

That's great, treat him with respect and give him all your ❤️ love

Big respect to you and your family 🙂👍

What’s that got to do with anything 😂

But don't you provide for your family too? Why don t you do it as he's partly disabled?

@@sajask5890 thanks for your encouragement. It means a lot.

I dunno, masturbation is participatory.

@@Thagomizer yeah but you’re alone

@@Thagomizerso you can spill your sperm to the ground? Pathetic

And a private, intimate act at that

@@Thagomizer Yeah but.. you still are a spectator watching someone else. It's ALMOST like a cuckhold, except you don't know who the woman is.. except that she does porn or whatever. It's still a problem.

Years ago the fact that Bill Maher used escor ts was an "open secret" in Hollywood. He's never been married. Never had kids. He can't imagine what it's like to have a life like Dr. Peterson's.

Bill Maher enjoys being single because he enjoys dating strippers. He won't deny it

Bill Maher needs to grow up.

@@huko4266 I thought it was just me who found him utterly and insufferably shallow and immature. Maher, not JBP.

@@AFringedGentian Maher strikes me as Peter Pan, man boy, as JP describes.

Not truth... take what he say learn from it. And take your own data and mixes those two togheter. And continu like that until you die.

It is no coincidence he quotes The Holy Bible. For it contains the truth to all of life. Kneel down and confess your sins and love to Jesus.

@@whatdolhavetodo stay in your own lies. When truth make the world better for you, you hypocrite

I'm not sure why any thinking person would give heed to the imperfect opinions of some ignorant psychology professor. There are a handful of EXTREMELY wise sages currently on this planet who can logically and completely answer practically any question that an intelligent soul is likely to ask regarding morals and ethics. The fact that Jordan supports men buggering each other (by which I mean, that he supports homosexuality and other criminal activities, such as the unnecessary consumption of poor innocent animals) is MORE than sufficient proof that he is not as religious as he claims, and that any decent, holy person ought to shun his inane teachings and flee into the loving arms of a teacher of Truth. Furthermore, in a recent interview on Benjamin Shapiro's KZfaq channel, he admitted that his wife figuratively (and I'm sure also LITERALLY) wears the pants in his household. 👖 I would be more than pleased to provide you with links to the KZfaq channels of a few enlightened beings who will quickly set you on the path to perfection, as opposed to the DELUDED moral subjectivism professed by "Doctor" Peterson (pun not intended). Please find below a couple of such ENLIGHTENED masters to which I referred above: Professor Alan Watts (now deceased, so he doesn't have his own KZfaq channel - just search for his videos on numerous extant channels) Swami Sarvapriyananda ( kzfaq.info or search for "Vivekananda Samiti") Jagadguru Svāmī Vegānanda ( www.youtube.com/@TheWorldTeacher )

​@@arekisan5239, kindly repeat that in ENGLISH, Miss.☝️ Incidentally, Slave, are you VEGAN? 🌱

I'm happy for the way you improved your life but I think you get one thing quite wrong. It was YOU that turned your life around, not Jesus, god or anyone or anything else. Good job, you can be proud of yourself!

for my i quit 10 months ago and was watching from age 16 to 30. the moment i injured my knee a second time i though to myself God must be displeased with me and the big sin in my life was porn otherwise i am pretty good sticking to my Catholic faith so i though to myself that's it im done with porn this will not hold power over me anymore and i have watched it 0 times since then . its still difficult sometimes but hopefully in the long run worth it

LOL@@mikesmith-wk7vy

You Said hard

Lmfao “shake the snake” 😂 I’ve never heard that one in my twenty three years on this earth.

“If you really have to snake the snake or flick the bean leave your phone or any screen.” Bro, its a damn cool rhyme. This should be a quote😂

Then who do you masturbate about? A woman you saw in real life?

@brandocommando2970 HOW did you stop watching? Because I find not masturbating or touching anything so difficult. I get the porn part, but when I suppress my maturbation and sexual side, it kind of goes the other way. Its like I need to find balance. So, did you masturbate and not watch porn as recovery?

On the other hand there's plenty of guys that have had their lives ruined after being dragged through the divorce courts that wish they had practiced onanism

Jesus Christ wants a personal relationship with you through the Holy Spirit, not religion and blind faith. You see, we all have sinned, and have broken God’s law (The Ten Commandments). Wrong doing deserves justice and must be punished (just like how a criminal has to pay for the crime they have committed) but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God in flesh, to pay the penalty for us by dying on the cross and resurrecting, so that we may have everlasting life. Now for you to accept the free gift of grace, you must repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ and Bible says that His Blood will cover all of your sins, you will be forgiven, saved from eternal punishment, and be given everlasting life. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again, know Jesus personally and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Turn away from sin, read the Bible, pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!

@@jesusisking3814 That was beautiful ❤️

There are plenty of happy couples who watch porn together, you know. And even some who make porn themselves.

@@Thagomizerwtf

The temptation never goes away. But discipline can be honed. It's a LONG while of practice and progress. Do not give up, we shall grow stronger. I've been off porn for 4 months.. it's not worth it going back. The temptations are daily.. especially since I am home but I do my utmost best to minimise my viewing of content that could drive me to wanting to watch porn again. It's gotten easier to ignore, and now I'm more disgusted by it as the days pass.

So you've been addicted to crack as well???

@@slimstrait780 isn't it so frustrating that the temptations seem to never leave

I'm sorry you had this experience, allowing 12 year old children access to porn is a form of child abuse, and shows our society is choosing evil over good, and for that we bring a terrible judgement upon ourselves.

Guess I'm kind of like your friend, and as I am getting old 71, I wish I had been more like you, as I now live with the regret of having missed one of lifes greatest pleasures. I thought it was going to be an important part of a marriage, but the partner I picked unfortunately did not feel the same. I was always hoping, and eventually turned bitter on life.

So, here's the thing: intimate love/sexual desire and sexual arousal are two separate psychological areas. It's really not that uncommon to be intimate, desire sex, but the arousal doesn't come. This is perfectly normal. You ever hear how foreplay is much more important than actual sexual intercourse? There's plenty of scientific studies done on this. Human psychology is weird. This is also why Viagra became so popular.

I think you may have some other health issues. I have a great sex drive with and without porn.

I'm praying for you, brother.

That last sentence hit the spot, man.

U lost me at “take a walk somewhere with lots os other people?

Can confirm I am battling my porn and masturbation

You can't quit porn, unless you can find a gf or another means we are bottom line animals and there's no way out of what is instinctual or basic to being alive, it's like saying I quit eating desserts

@-RoyBatty- that's like saying you're a monk and you haven't had sex in years, you're referring to complete abstinence, most men have to quench their sexual needs weekly/monthly etc.

@-RoyBatty- it may be a poor analogy but the comment was made to the OP, in essence I'm comparing porn to desserts as in we all need to eat but what is the point in eating if you never have desserts? I'm sure he understands as I guarantee you he eats desserts, only weird people like yourself abstain from pleasure, that's why you can't see the analogy

@@JohnnytNaturalthere is no quiting nutting in this game it will take another decade for main stream men to accept that it’s all like a fuckin curse, What is the problem naked people images or video? Or constantly releasing? Fucking a normal girl and still releasing? It’s seems like relapsing is always the goal, So I assume the problem is watching naked people, then it’s psychological problem, Meaning you weak mentally to be effected by such things But if it’s mastubating a lot then also fucking a lot ain’t good for you so different categories but same poison

Such a great quote

As an 18 y/o male, I thank you for this supportive message

What a beautiful message. I hope I can become that man and bring good to my family and community!

Amen

@katemiller5990 I have some top notch Christ based relationship counselors who have 8 areas of relationship growth in their course: Financial, Emotional, Leadership, Dreams, Spiritual (your walk with GOD), physical, adventure, relationship. end up worse who win the lottery then if they never played. Their course and counseling will get a person married in 6-8 months if you seek the accountability partners for each of the 8areas I mentioned.

They refer to them as victory markers instead of goals because they say the goal mindset leaves room for worst habits to follow once you reach that goal like a new years resolution or the people who win the lottery who only end up worse afterwards.

I remember falling back into it after having been away from it for 4 months. I guarantee you that there is going to be a hurdle on your path. Don’t you dare trip on it. I want you to flourish.

You won’t regret. Such a good book 😊

kzfaq.info/get/bejne/hsqYlpV4sMq7dmw.html (Here's a video that'll help you memorize the book of JP)

Read the second part ! ;)

I wrote out all 12 rules for both books and put them up on my wall.

Glad you stopped drinking and doing drugs.

@@GetAsCloseAsYouCan I stopped drinking 7 years ago, and never even tried drugs.

Well you still fuckin women aren’t you.?

Terrible

You can do it Nick. I’ve through that hell, it’s horrible, but you must pray, have faith, believe in something. Porn addiction was also the absolutely most difficult thing I have managed to get out of my life. We are sex craving creatures, which is a normal thing, but pornography only makes that sexual craving 1000% times worse, don’t become fooled by it. Our natural cravings for sex are actually not that hard to control, but for a mind that is addicted to porn it is hell. That’s why you have to escape that hell, and before you do that you must go through the worst of it. But there is light, believe.

I understand it’s difficult as is any other addiction. However, FOOD addiction is the only one that is in fact a true physical need in that one must eat to survive. Many people-both men and women-go YEARS without having sex or as you put it, a “physical release”. It’s just Not a True Need. No one dies from lack of orgasms and/or lack of sex. (Hello monks, nuns, celibates of all kinds!)

Pray and humbley ask God for self control, and for help keeping wicked desires in check. The enemy comes to steal (your peace, harmony, healthy mind set) kill (your marriages, relationships, mental health etc) and destroy (ANY aspect of our lives). This is a spiritual fight first and foremost. Your weaknesses are catalogued. Stay prayed up. Ask for forgiveness where you allowed the spirit of lust. Pray that God removes any evil spirit in you and that He cleanses your heart mind and soul, as only He can do.

Only thing that broke it for me was going to confession every single time it happened. Eventually it’s been one year since almost 20 years addiction.

With God it's possible.

What to get blue-balled? or charged with rape? Yeah.. okaaaay.

nah,that's just an excuse to be made, you can find time most people work for 8 to 12 hours a day ,let's say you work for 9 hours,sleep for 8 you have 7 hours left let's say eating and toilet takes upto 1 and a half or 2 hourd you have still five hours left let's say you spend the 3 hours of it to yourself (which is a lot of time )you can spend the rest of two hours on your partner ,hell this is without counting the times you have in between stuff,like your breaks etc.

Man thats the saddest story

damm what happened to her ?

@@marvin2678 She had oral cancer and she lost half her tongue. He was upset over not getting oral sex while he watched porn. He told her her body didn't do it for him and he had to watch it--with her--even while she was so sick. She lost faith in life.She wanted to die and in 6 months, she did. I miss her so much and I hate him beyond what I can say.

I'm sorry for what happened to you and your sister. I do not know what other things your brother-in-law did to your sister, but what I can tell you is from experience for your sake and your sisters memory forgive him and move on. Don't allow his story to be apart of your sisters wonderful one. The sooner you forgive and move along with your life, the better you feel and more it gives space for your sisters memory to live on.

@@thejourneyoffaith8116 I agree with you.I know that's the only way. Let me add that his addiction spilled over onto me, in e-mails ,dms,etc. He made sexual remarks about my MOTHER that were so vile, obscene ,distorted and sick. Even the most perverted minds wouldn't go there. He spoke sexually about his own daughters while they were in front of him. He broke my sister's rib in some crazy bondage thing she wouldn't do he and called it "playing". Anyway, thanks for listening. Peace to you.

I wouldn't call that bragging in any form. He was talking about the pursuit of a fulfilling and loving relationship and sex is a large part of that. Sharing yourself with another person that you love and RESPECT is the essence of an intimate sexual relationship.

Conscript sex and legalize rape. There. Porn problem solved!!! Ah... but that ain't gonna ever happen will it?

Thank technology or advancement since 1950 the mind control

Because its not a problem. Masturbation is such a non starter that animals do it in the animal kingdom. Its such a weird and dumb take to demand that one has no control over their own bodies.

huh isnt that how all addiction works ?

Duh? So can any other addiction. You're just naming the neurological reasons for the addiction. That's what makes it so hard to overcome. That's why it's not easy. If people let those things be an excuse there would be no getting over the addiction.

A person on their deathbed from obesity related sickness is surely going to rule out trauma, hormone imbalance, and drug consumption before dealing with the problem at hand.

​@@marvin2678Especially made up addictions.

Porn addition is porn addiction.

I’m sorry to hear about your struggle man. Every man has a crutch - some more harmful than others. So don’t feel like you’re weak because porn is a coping mechanism for you. It sounds to me like you need something in your life that‘s better than what porn currently offers. For me that’s putting my hope in Christ, knowing I’m acting in line with God’s word and in line with my conscience by not giving in to sexual desires, even if that means I never have sex or enjoy sexual intimacy ever again. For me that’s better than the gratification/stress relief porn offers. Find that thing for you and perhaps the feeling of hopelessness might become more manageable or disappear.

@@crashchipfilms I hear what you're saying brother and ol boy I have tried, I've tried to act and live as if a god was watching over me. But that's the thing about belief, you can't fake it, and try as I might I can't make myself believe something I don't. Perhaps there is A god that's put signs and opportunities in front of me, however if they were there it feels like I've missed them all or cowardly let them pass by. If he made me then he made a defective product.

@@learningsimpleton You are fearfully and wonderfully made brother. Make no mistake. Not even a hint of doubt

Faith lightens up reason, so apply this will come in time as you develop your loving relationship with God. Best resource is a Catechism - check out We Believe by Gilbey, terrific book that changes lives of even the smartest of atheists. And importantly, faith is a gift so with prayer, ask for it :) You will overcome porn addiction by God's grace. Prayer and penance do miracles. Temptations will be violent but they ease massively. Be on the lookout for thought processes that tempt and remember they are lies. Be pragmatic - devices away. And replace this desire that receives a skewed response with a replacement - look to gothic and medieval art, listen to a great sonata, paint :)

I appreciate your honesty man. I definitely agree, you can’t fake belief/ faith. And another thing - having faith in Christ doesn’t solve all your problems or take away hardships. But I can certainly attest to how it’s given me strength and belief that I can fight this thing. In relation to feeling defective - we all are brother - me just as much as you. At least you have the humility to admit it and are trying to make amends. I truly hope you find a joy that far surpasses the sexual gratification and comfort that porn brings.

I'm addicted to being awesome that's not damaging me you're addicted to being super cool and that doesn't damage you.

Plus the covenant with God. That makes marriage much more than just tax breaks.

Depends on if you are religious or not you will have a different take on its meaning. @@jacobmasters438

I think it's that mindset of that drives the importance of marriage. It's a new level of commitment. We have to consider, though, that marriage has been secularized in our day. Marriage was historically a religious practice and was an acknowledgement before God or even an agreement so it held much deeper meaning. Modern Government has used it for things like tax breaks. Kind of like how pornography warps your mind and impacts your relationships, marriage has been warped so it's been turned into more of a transaction to be nullified whenever it becomes inconvenient.

This is why the anti-porn argument falls apart: they can't even define what porn is. When you hear some prudish conservative women talk about her previous "porn addiction", half of the time she's talking about erotic fan fiction or Cinemax movies.

Most women I know don't read them. You are grasping at straws.

Of course they are. Because, at the end of the day, all of this anti-pron nonsense is, at its core, about demonizing and controlling *_male_* sexuality. They never discuss women as "pron addicts" for reading Harlequin Romance novels or other smut, or discuss how it could be causing some kind of "inability to perform in the bedroom." It's always about demonizing men and male sexuality, and how it's "preventing men from pursuing women." Zero discussion on its supposed affects on women. Sometimes they might even point out that there's pron for women, or that women watch it, but they never discuss women's use of it like it's a problem or that they might have some kind of "moistile dysfunction" in the bedroom because of it. Women are never considered "defective" or "dysfunctional" for not being able to get in the mood in the bedroom; only men, and it pron often gets blamed for it. You can also see it in the hypocrisy they have concerning "unrealistic expectations" that men supposedly have from pron. Pron -- at least of live actors/actresses -- features real women, and real women have lots of flaws. Women reading smut, however, can imagine whatever they want and imagine men with zero flaws if they wanted to in their fantasies. There's no limitation to how perfect the man can be in their minds, meaning if anyone would have unrealistic expectations, it would be the women reading smut. But, again, no one has any problem with that and only men get accused of it. You can also see it in how it's discussed in the context of relationships. Whenever it's brought up as something "couples" struggle with, it's always that the woman has a problem with the man's use of it, but never the man complaining about his wife reading Harlequin Romance novels. The women want full control over his sexuality and to ban his use of pron, but they often want to be able to read their own Harlequin Romance novels, themselves. You can also see it in how so-called "hard-core/aggressive/extreme/rough" pron is always something men get accused of consuming -- supposedly if they watch enough pron -- but ignore the fact that according to PH's own search data, it's *_overwhelmingly_* women searching for that stuff, not men. People act like the pron women consume is all the gentle, consensual, romantic stuff, but that couldn't be further from the truth. Again, this goes back to the idea that people think women like the "good sex" and men like the "bad sex" because they see female sexuality as inherently good and worth protecting and male sexuality as inherently evil and necessary to control. It also doesn't help that most anti-pron people don't even know what visual pron is like, in the first place. They're so pron illiterate that they often make statements about it to demonize it that don't even make sense or that only highlight how little they know about it. For instance, they might argue that it's bad because it's going to "create voyeuristic impulses" or something because you're "watching strangers have sex", despite the fact that pron of a man and woman shot that way only constitutes a small portion of all pron. Or another is that there's a lot of women supposedly being victimized by it (this is another one that exposes their hatred of male sexuality, because there's never any discussion about the trafficking of young boys in these kinds of conversations, despite a lot of the ones trafficked being boys). There's POV pron, lesbian pron, pron with just a single female getting off, pron of video game characters, pron of anime/cartoon characters, etc. If "watching strangers have sex" is what they take issue with, then there's plenty of other options that don't involve that. If their issue with it is that it *_somehow_* contributes to trafficking, then there's pron that doesn't involve people at all -- and, in the future through the help of AI, it will look just like any other pron with live actors/actresses, despite them complaining about AI for that reason, as well. If they were really concerned about things like trafficking, then they should be celebrating AI pron as it wouldn't require real people to create. I could go on for much longer discussing this, but the point is that this stuff is purely about demonizing male sexuality and attempting to control it, and using very weak arguments -- and sometimes weak scientific data -- in an attempt to back it up. If you dig deep enough into what they believe and why they believe it, you always end up uncovering their dislike of male sexuality and their belief that it needs to be controlled.

What does being an atheist have to do with anything you said?

@@artugert A lot, according to many. Apparently not believing in the existence of a diety is some kind of recipe for marital disaster.

@@sharpenedge I see. I never would have guessed that was what you meant to imply by the statement. Thanks for clearing that up. While I don't hold atheism in high regard, I don't see why holding such a view would prevent one from having a harmonious relationship with one's spouse. But if a lot of people think that way, I can understand why you would want to dispel that notion.

@@artugertMost people who don’t have faith have a lot more time to do things that people with faith never do but think they would. This includes helping homeless, talking about anything else, not being afraid to befriend gay people and getting to support all communities rather than those born with this unrealized knowledge that every bible was man-made and therefore, religion is as well. Once you accept everything is human created, you become a part of every community. You want to know where you’re going when you die? Visit a graveyard. Take back your Sundays and do something productive. While on the subject, porn is strangers sleeping with each other. You trying to watch some other stranger sleep with someone or are you trying to find a lover? The choice is as easy as understanding that religions are man made.

@@GetAsCloseAsYouCanThere is so much wrong with what you said that it's hard to know where to begin. Not a single sentence you said is accurate. By "people who don't have faith", I assume you mean atheists, since that was the subject of discussion. (Actually, everyone, including atheists, have faith.) But most of what you are saying seems to be aimed only at Christians (which I am not), but even that is inaccurate. People who are not atheists have as much time as atheists. They help homeless people as much as atheists do. They talk about as many different things as atheists do. They befriend others (regardless of who they are) just as much, as well. If you don't believe that gods exist, of course you believe that religion is man-made. Becoming atheist doesn't make you "part of every community", and believing in gods doesn't make you not "part of every community". That is just absurd. The question of where a person goes when he dies is obviously not referring to the physical body, which of course ends up in a graveyard, and eventually disintegrates. I don't think anybody disagrees with that.

It is over I have approached over 50 women none of those interaction lead to nothing some men are mean to be alone the whole life

@@emmanuelnaranjo8114 I know what you mean and the pain. We have to heal and grow first, mature and prepare to have competence for true love/relationship. It is tragic that we don't get to learn it mostly and aren't even told that it needs learning.The intro to Erich Fromm's "The art of Loving". I recommend also therapist Barbara de angelis' " Make Love All the Time - How to break up Without Breaking Down". Contains the process of gettng to self-love.

@@emmanuelnaranjo8114 nah bro you need to change your tactics

You blame your parents... Oh damn, get out of the victim role. You are one scared kitty cat. Its not your parents fault. You are a grown ass dude that could be called into war.... Now who you wanna blame for anything in your life. Grow up

Many men and women from intact families wind up addicted to porn. Don't blame your addictions on others, or you'll never overcome them.

If you're watching legally produced porn, everyone involved is a paid, consenting adult, and it's easy to verify this.

The issue is everyone starts with the “harmless” stuff, but a lot of people don’t stop there.

​@@eancola6111that's why it's best not to start at all

The enemy is actually not having a body to enter. Or watching strangers have sex, lame af.

he basically described eating white bread forever... and being thankful you have it... Jordan is also divorced BTW... wonder why?

@@renaissanceman5847 Jordan is not divorced. He talks about his wife Tammy all the time.

@@renaissanceman5847people aren't food. people are the diner. in sex, it's not your job to stimulate yourself and nut, but to arouse the partner. patiently and carefully, woth consent and the person always in mind. outward, not inward.

@@renaissanceman5847 Divorced? Disagree all you want, but dude, his wife is literally sitting next to him.

​@renaissanceman5847 His wife is literally right there lol😂

@@cancelledopinion2158 Yes they do. They’re just not attracted to the men that ask them out.

@@cancelledopinion2158 dating apps are the number 1 way of meeting people now, if you don't attract them within the first 3 seconds of them seeing you they won't even read your witty bio you worked hard on, rendering your amazing personality void. there have been tests done where people have posted photos of extremely attractive men and put the most heinous shit in their bios like getting out of prison for child rape and several women message them without being approached first. even when the guy points out explicitly what his bio said incase they didn't bother to read it they flat out don't care. i think we're starting to learn why throughout all human history women had to have some level of control forced on them. turns out tribal loyalty isn't in their DNA whatsoever. there are many many historical accounts of war brides literally falling in love and having children with the very men that killed their husbands...you can try to explain this away with some bullshit modern philosophy but it boils down to pure evolutionary biology.

Just go betabux a 35 yr old single mom bro. Be a man!

Just clean your room bro. Then the women will come flocking.

@@griffiththechad9483 "Just clean your room. B*tches love clean rooms." - Pordan Jeterson

What would you say about the comic "I Roved Out In Search Of truth And Love"? Or "Alfie"? Beautifully drawn comics with engaging stories, characters, and world-building, that also happen to have hardcore sex.

There is no ethical porn.

Joy is achievable, but evades the seeker. Live your life in service too something worth while my friend.

It's never too late!

If you keep that attitude with you, then there’s a good chance you’ll never find it.

If you're an artist fueled primarily by erotic tensions, then you're part of the problem.

Primarily....no, but you're not going to find many artists, or many human beings who aren't inadvertently motivated by erotic/sexual tensions. I'm not promoting it as a primary means of artistic merit, but merely giving it its due in the life of any imaginative person who isn't castrated by one's own conservatism. @@HistoryNerd8765

Alimoni+child support if you get divorced. Marriage is risky shit

I’m honestly interested how you avoided it, thanks to public school it was impossible to not see it for me and the people I knew

He made a correlation/causation fallacy, he asserted the cause of loneliness, depression and other particulars is porn, but in reality, porn only correlates with these. Same with addiction, people with addictive personalities are more likely to have porn addiction, but also people with porn addiction are far more likely to have addictive personalities in the first place. Peterson has had some interesting remarks and does recommend some interesting philosophers, he also has a vivid vocabulary and is very smart with words, but this doesn't mean his ideas are profound or even correct.

@@Nivexity Jealous much.

@@Nivexity Porn is an addiction, period. Loneliness and depression can cause or fuel it, but they are not required to start the addiction. Anyone can be addicted to porn. You hear married men who are still addicted to porn. JP is good but nothing is a better substitute for being able to think for yourself. It's the most valuable skill you can acquire. Oh and JP does get a lot of things right. It's just sometimes he does get things wrong as well. Don't want to give the impression that all his takes are bad or way off point. He is a thinker, which most people aren't these days.

@@adriant240 Porn is not an addiction no, you can consume porn it not affect your daily life at all. Addictions are disorders that affect people's daily lives, people can have porn addiction, but porn itself is not addictive. You seem to fail to understand my comment, I clearly indicates that this is a causation/correlation fallacy.

@@Nivexity Over time it does negatively impact your physical health and your daily life, especially your mental health. Your comment really strikes me as dumb. Of course it's an addiction. Anything that messes with your dopamine can have a negative impact on your life. It's something that controls you and have a hard time stopping it. You clearly haven't experienced it. People can be addicted to cigarettes and it doesn't affect their daily lives. People can be addicted to caffeine and it doesn't affect their life. Does that mean caffeine and cigarettes are not addictive? What kind of dumb argument is that?

Agreed. Men are financially punished for making children, for divorce, ... That's why western population is on the decline.

There's no reasonable justification for a man to be a coward.

@@apebass2215 what are you talking about?

@@saso-gi9sy I'm talking about cowardice, and how there's no reasonable justification for it.

@@saso-gi9sy do you think men who can't do the right thing because they're scared are decent men, or weak men?

That's because there are demons involved....

​@@Mint-kj9kwGet some help, ok?

​@@Mint-kj9kwglad someone said this. I know people don't believe in demons but they are real. When you engage in lustful acts, it opens your soul to lust demons that makes you to continue in those behaviors and make it extremely difficult to stop

Women who themselves have had the same disgusting treatment like yourself…. Keep themselves quiet….when you get cut so deep and watch society in all its sad ways…. Loneliness is sometimes a much better but sad option to some happiness. Can’t offer any solutions….. just know it’s happens to both sexes in these difficult times of humanity

@Shadenir You need too get some therapy because not all women are as you described and your placing them all in the same bag. I’ve been celibate since end of last committed relationship, dating with no sexual intimacy looking for a man with morals. All I see out their are sex addicts, abusers, & men with severe trauma from past relationships. Im not interested in jaded sick men who refuse to get help and be accountable for their lack of efforts into why their relationships imploded on them. Blame the two involved ONLY, stop projecting your trauma on us innocent women who had nothing to do with it.

Hate will not result in love.

So brainwash yourself with religion to unbrainwash yourself from porn... wow