Dude are you for real? U are uploading videos for 3 or more years with so few views. I cant believe your persistence. You are a beast hope your channel takes of soon

I never came across a better dissection of the deep roots of procrastination like you did Doctor, thank you so much

4 years I've been trying to watch this

As a chronic procrastinator,I cried watching this. When u talk about self respect , self trust I literally cried

"Respest your future self"...🙏🙏🙏

I didn’t want to procrastinate further by “researching” and watching lots of videos. I picked your video… you looked friendly and sincere. I listened to you while doing dishes (procrastinating, LOL). Your message of self respect really resonated with me. At age 62 time seems to go by so quickly! I certainly don’t want to disappoint my future self, or continue to break promises to my current self! Thank you!

along with this anxiety of not trusting we will follow thru, comes intense guilt, anguish, pressure to do it..... these are all the things we are trying to shove away, delay or put off...not the actual task, but these unpleasant emotions we associate with its execution and completion

Thank you so much for sharing this with us! I started reading a book by Walter Riso called, The Right to say No. In this book it says people who are not assertive tend to procrastinate. And that has opened my eyes about why I’m procrastinating! I’ve been lacking confidence to stand up even agains myself. Self-respect will definitely be key in this process. Greetings from Cancun, Mexico 🇲🇽

This is gold!!!! This comes up in mind everytime I start something new. “ I will fail to follow through”

This is gold! Respect is so fundamental in any relationship. Usually procrastination is explained at such a shallow level, but this really hits home. Great insight Dr.!

This is brilliant. I always procrastinate but never thought of it as a consequence of letting myself down.

love how low self esteem is incrimental.... but hi self esteem can be almost instantaneous, depending on how we process the info imo... thats some of the best news of this stuff

Thanks. This was a very insightful video. I think the most profound thing you said was that if you trust yourself, the fear will go away. Much of my problem with procrastination lies with uncertainty, fear, self doubt, and not being able to trust myself that I can do what I think I should be able to do. I think I understand now that if I can be honest with myself and trust myself, I can be in a much better place to do things without the fear of failure. Thank you again.

Fear: I will fail to follow through Voice: I can do it later Promise: I only make promises to my future self that I know 100% that I'm going to keep and I intend to keep. Consequence: I will not follow through TODAY. Problem: Failing to follow through AND making another plan. Important: Realise the goal/deadline/work isn't the important thing, the important thing is the self-trust and self-respect I give my future self.

This video is ABSOLUTE GOLD. The thing about self esteem is SO true - because we all have an inner compass of self integrity, and if we violate it we feel guilty, and guilt leads to a lack of self belief which leads to further procrastination. SO bloidt brilliant!

Most psychotherapist don't have the insight and understanding that you have on this problem. Your explanation is the best I've heard and the most helpful to me. You are awesome! Thank you!

This is an incredible explanation of procrastination, thank you. The anxiety of uncertainty and disappointment in breaking promises wears you down.

by far this is one of the best videos I saw about procrastinations. this is quite detailed in term of dissecting the root cause of the problem proposing a serious solution and also a roadmap that is based on responsibility of the individual to take action in addition to the way you simplified. this was totally different than all other videos I've been watching for a couple of years now about this topic. thank you for the enlightenment. thank you for the time and thank you for the sensitive explanation for this for everyone.

after watching this I felt so sorry for myself so glad i found this before its too late

❤I can't thank you enough

This message and understanding of procrastination is phenomenal. I’ve only ever read and heard very superficial ways to explain it and how to resolve but this got straight to the route of the problem and the genuine raw pain it causes. This will sound utterly ridiculous but since moving into my new home I’ve talked about and wanted to bake but I always find excuses and reasons not to. I want to have delicious cakes for myself and my friends but I almost haven’t felt I could be that person or deserved the homely feel that baking gives. It got to the point where I’d buy all the ingredients and they’d slowly go off as I promised myself I’d make the cake in a day or in another day or when I had more time. It was such a vicious cycle that I stopped even buying the ingredients as the physical proof that I couldn’t even follow through on baking a cake was so guilt inducing and shameful. It was ridiculous and I almost gave up as I felt like I could never be that person. My feedback loop was so strong that I didn’t respect my future self. This week, I bought ingredients and this morning I set a time to start the recipe at 8:30am. Do you know what, with the knowledge that I COULDN’T do it today if I didn’t start at 8:30am actually made me turn up early!!! I started baking at 8:20am as I was so conscious of the consequences! This kiwi cake may taste rubbish or be underbaked or over but I could not be happier!!! I did it and it’s all thanks to you ❤️ thank you. #respectyourfutureself

Thank you! I’m going to try that for the next few days and report back. This seems like a fantastic system for dealing with procrastination.

Using this to procrastinate finishing my short story entry rn? LMFAOOOO i hope this video resonates truly

Very good.

I love u!!!! "I believe and I trust my self! I'm committed to show up for my future self" ♥️

Amazing video

So many videos focus on what procrastination is, where it comes from, and how it affects us. While those are informative, we chronic procrastinators need a _strategy_ to overcome it. I think this video may have provided that strategy, at least for me. I know I procrastinate. I know I'm a perfectionist. I know I have low self-esteem because of those characteristics. However, I never really looked at my situation like a relationship with myself. I would never stand up someone I truly care about, so why should I fail to show up for my future self? I'll try the technique in the video and, hopefully, remember to post a follow-up comment.

This is so smart -- thanks for the video. For me, I get addicted to the euphoric moment after I miss a deadline and make ambitious plans for the next day. When I know I don't have to work on something for the rest of the day, and the deadline isn't until tomorrow, I feel good about myself, which is so counter-productive. In university years ago, every paper I wrote was written the night before. I would do research and so on for weeks before, but the act of writing the paper would only take place the night before, in an all-nighter fuelled by cigarettes and listening to music. I found it impossible to do a first draft weeks before. And yet, I would always get good marks, so I tolerated this state of affairs. Part of me always felt sad that if I had really applied myself, I would have done so much better for myself. Your tip about respecting yourself would have helped me so much. Will try it out today. Definitely sounds like a smart thing to do.

Thank you for helping me understand myself better. I really appreciate your videos.

Dissected it like a boss. Well done. Thanks.

loved this video David! really made me aware of how I completely distrust myself when I make a commitment. AND you gave a practical way to break the cycle. Will try this, thanks so much

💯 Sir

this is amazing, thank you!

Thank you for this video!

thank you.

This video is fantastic thank you so much for making it :)

It does make sense! Thanks for your video!

wow. I really enjoyed this video.

This is great. I get it. Thanks

This video soo good that I liked it and subbed instantly

Thank You sooooooooo much. You helped me so much. Your videos are awesome 👌

This is so useful and unique explanation thanks ❤

I belive you 100% yet I do exactly this by nature. I don't "do it" and i don't "do it later". But instead i just get apathetic. I don't "do" at all. I refrain from even scheduling.

So glad to have found your channel!!!

Guess this is me, im chronically procrastinating and i dont trust myself, i can’t stand it anymore

This was super helpful! Thank you so much!

I'm gonna start trying this technique today

Thankyou so much

Great video thank you man

Watching this in Jan 2024! Great video. My future self thanks you 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Very helpful. I have This issue now and it’s very difficult really

Wow! You blow my mind!❤❤❤❤

so the ultimate life goal is this relationship with urself. and the only way to have a good relationship with yourself is to make and keep commitments. and the bigger the commitment, the better the self esteem. i think the best commitments which most turn u into an adult are the ones which make u financially indepdent of ur parents..not of ur spouse if u have kids, but of ur parents for sure

Thank you, absolutely brilliant insight.

Thank you! I loved the book tooo

This is good! You should do animations and show us a few examples. Thanks

Interesting. Really interesting!

thank you for this video. this explanation is amazing.

thank you for your sharing i have never thought of it in this way~ this is very helpful it's exactly what i need!!

Thank you very much for the clear explanation... this really sounds very logic

thanks for this valuable video, I hope this video would be more on seen, thank you thank you

What a great explanation! Very clear and effective, as it should be. I am sure you will help so many more people with your content. Greetings from Brazil!

I'm only halfway through this video and you already spoke so much truth... it's like you're in my head. wow

Such realistic and valuable content. Very enlightening, thank you for sharing!

Amazing video ! I will start implementing this today !

great content thank you man u bec anx do it later show up serv oth keep promi to fut self aware

Thanks for your video. What happens if the things i am procrastinating on are difficult because of self worth and doing the things I am procrastinating about will dissolve my self defeating narrative? Thid is my conundrum!!! If i sold the 3 cars collecting dust for example, i would have over 100K to transform my life for the better but my deep seated self loathing doesn't want me to succeed or transform/change! Change equals terror in some ways. I would love your help if you could do online sessions as i live in Australia. I thought punishment would be better if i didn't honour my word to put that ad up for selling items, well then i couldn't watch Netflix that night???

Thank you again Dr David, talking about future self if you are having a great experience. It won't hurt to send some positive energy to your future self.you might enjoy Atomic Habits James Clear. And The magic of thinking big Dr David Schwartz.

not me watching a video about procrastination while procrastinating

Hey thanks for creating this I love it. But how about with mental block? Is this relate with procrastination as well? Coz when I wanna learn or study anything but I feel lazy and procrastinate that. I'm still confused why I'm like this. And a few days ago I'm curious to search in the internet about this problem and I found that maybe I'm experiencing mental block with that., In the site mentioned that maybe I'm in the past or the first time try to learn that and fail and I can't deserve my failure and that's why I become to feel lazy and procastinating when the next time to learn that again. Is it true can u help me to solve my problem pls?

when i was younger they had something called tv...pre-cable. a program i liked would come on and every 15 minutes were commercial breaks. my mom taught me how to "commercial clean". Watch my show and when commercials came on start cleaning up or vacuum or do some dishes and when Bewitched or Hogans Heroes came back on, sit and enjoy it guilt free and when commercials came on I'd start again. I put stuff off till an undefined LATER then rush to finish on time. any tips?

12:56 woah. I really needed to hear that

I am definitely going to implement this. I have 1 question though You said that when you fail to keep your promise to your future self, you don't do anything related to that goal on that day and hence you don't make any more false promises to yourself. My question is, if i do start the next day, won't it be as if i procrastinated the entire previous day just because i couldn't start at one point of time?

Thank you Doctor! Thanks for letting me know the root cause of Procrastination and how to overcome it, I am definitely going to follow it from today and will contact you again when I start getting results out of it or when I have some question. Thank you so much. God bless :)

What if due to some important work I don't show up to future self then this technique can be less effective otherwise this is so wonderful technique. Like in my case my family member or anyone else call me or ask me for some kind of help. I haven't seen your all videos may be in those videos have solution to this problem.

I don't really understand the concept. If I don't really trust myself to respect my future self, how does it help me follow through tmr if I don't let myself do what I planned for today just a bit later than planned? If I skip tmr as well then what?

Out of interest, do you find that people tend to procrastinate on specific things or does it spill into their whole life? In my day to day job, I work very hard and I think I can do my job very well. I am also expected to do research which is difficult to find time for, is very new skill for me, and which I have very little confidence in. I will often do everything in my power to procrastinate and find excuses to not knuckle down and just do it. Other things such as chores around the house, exercise etc I generally don't have an issue with, but writing and doing presentations are usually reserved for the early hours of the morning when panic sets in and sheer willpower is required.

very good, very useful. I actually started to apply the method today - without procrastinating! :)

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My fear is not I won't follow through, it is a fear of experiencing pain, this is painful to go through it, fear of pain and want to avoid it.

so this is about implementing a consequence. is there a way to implement a unique reward ?

so we need to understand "i cant do it later"

what if im procrastinating getting out of bed?

Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’

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I don't know if I've been doing this right. what if you have multiple things you want to do on a list? If you fail to follow through on one of them, you can't work on the rest of the different things for the rest of the day? Or do you recommend being able to still do the others but you just can't do that one activity you failed to follow through on? For example suppose I wanted to go to the gym first and then study but I failed to follow through on the gym... Do I then not go to study as well? Also, how should you plan your day with this method? Do you recommend just scheduling one thing at a time?

I sometimes notice a brief moment of indirect, vague little gleeful vicious contentment of having failed and lost myself. Is that self-hate or the adversary of man (Devil) showing up? Or the Pain-body? The shadow? I want to sometime have energy and ´time enough to examine that bastard, because it is BAD and maybe not as small as it seems. Maybe it is just the top of an ice-berg of grounds for my self-sabótage.

After wasting most of the day, I'm using faster playback so this guy doesn't waste my time!? 😆😒

How would this technique work when the problem is that you're procrastinating on STOPPING an activity? For example, let's say I promise my future self I will stop browsing KZfaq in 2 hours. I fail to keep the promise to my future self, and after 2 hours, I haven't stopped browsing KZfaq. If I then stop browsing KZfaq at 2.5 hours, I would have made a future plan and disrespected the promise to my future self - the one thing this video says NOT to do - and the cycle will continue. Is the solution that I must keep on browsing KZfaq until the next day?

I have a question: Say, I'm procrastinating on my assignment. Like I said I would start at 8PM, but I failed to show up. In reality, I would just tell myself, oh nvm, I'll just do it tomorrow. So, how can I implement something like this, if I'm already thinking that I'm gonna do it tomorrow? If I just tell myself that I'm not going to do anything related to the important task for that day, as the consequence for my failure to show up, then I'm never ever going to get that task done because I know I will keep telling myself "I'll do it the next day"

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I’m lost sorry... so I’m meant to not work on say the work I need to do after a time?

procrastination can be a trauma response stuck in freeze mode😪

I'm sorry but this is not what causes my procrastination. I believe I will be successful and follow through. I just have negative feelings around doing the thing or think that doing it won't be rewarded which causes me not to do it.

Dude you should write a book.

I’m at 2:06 and probably my greatest fear to sum it up is failing.

i dont understand this in full. if i procrastinate to make cold calls and loose the right to do them i feel better because i hate to do them.

I love procrastinating hahahah but I need to not lol

Are you Joey's brother?

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