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@the good rules me too bro.

So true and very accurate feelings 😅😢😂

@the good rules love you bro.🥹❤️❤️ Btw, are you from India?

@the good rules oh ok bro. Have a nice day🤗

Probably? nah, its a guarantee.

Ikr..😢

Not with this mindset.

Naw don't think that, I'm autistic and slowly adulting And guess what, I used to say I'll never like Kissing and in december that has just passed, I got to explore my first kiss ever. Didn't feel much during but days later, I started to love and miss it. Now I crave it. However I gotta find someone who doesn't wanna just use me and loves me no matter what and is there for me I wish you all the best and when you are ready, you'll experience all this yourself. Everyone used to tell me something similar, so I hope you have a lovely day and if you wanna explore it, in time you will, or if you don't, don't fret, give yourself praise and keep being you ❤

How about when it does? Are you prepared? :D

You're mom

@@Labycant-ut4sb what's mean？😂

@@user-jw7gz3ph5c mighty omnipotent mortal.

I mean if singing Hellfire counts as #9…😅

i met someone and all the signs are clearly between us! they asked me out on a date and i am so so happy!!

Solidarity, friend. Best to take our time with those decisions.

Thank you for your feedback. If you were to change the parts of the video for people with ASD, what would be some of the things you add or change in the video?

Im also autistic. Thats excacly what i thought. These signs are something i can easily misinterpret or others misinterpret it in me. Its such a struggle, because im always awkward, no matter with who

I'm not autistic, but sometimes I wonder if I do have a little bit of it, especially more within the past 2 years then when I first was wondering, also the stories I hear from others who do have Autism, sound so similar that it's hard to believe that I wouldn't have just a small percent of it. I'm really not kidding when I say, your comment has described me to a T. These symptoms really collided with myself, and my psyche, which made senior year extremely difficult - academically, socially, and on top of it all, in the dating world, basically dating world is my most fearful nightmare out of the few things I'm truly afraid of. Not until I was 18 was I official diagnoses due to the psychiatry protocols, I ended up having BPD, and would after HS in combination with, OCD, and PTSD, at least these are the bigger ones that affect me daily, along with a couple of others. While they're completely different diagnoses it's still so strange to me how much the Autism and my disorders overlap so much. I've done a bunch of research on it, and have even a folder in my notes section for taking and bookmarking links I find. I mentioned this to my therapist, that with all the stuff I have, I'm slightly surprised I wasn't mistakenly diagnosed for this one. For instance, aside from my learning disabilities dating back to pre school, BPD caused me to have lots of learning issues. This is HUGE when it comes to being social and interacting, primarily focused in dating. I was on a bit of learning/researching hiatus for a long time, and decided to dive into how I best learned things. I was asked my therapist her thoughts on what I was doing, and maybe combining what they and how they teach people/kids with Autism, and how BPD people best learn, among ADHD as well. I will also mention, BPD specifically - the number one tell tale sign, is that you struggle on a deep level with any relationships, but mainly the romantic ones. I've not only learned this through years of therapy, but even after watching some of the videos on here, ( I find a great deal in value for me to review those things every once in a while!)I have realized some things to this day, which I still hadn't realized that even happened, and most of it is from 4/5 years ago. Briefly, from what I know/knew back then, in total, I've had 5 exes - most except one, I've dumped. I started dating at 17, I'm now 22. It was so hard - not to mention studying to graduate which almost didn't happen - all but one, were some of the most brutal, and abusive relationships I've ever had. This I didn't realize until after reflecting on last year: the first 2, both were one sided in "faults" wise." The other 3 I did contribute to that, and I still find it kind of insane that as unfortunate as it was, during the whole ordeal, I was so mentally f*** even I never realized that I also contributed to it. However, what I for sure know, it for SURE wasn't a 50/50....There was a couple, that just no matter what I did, how hard I tried, he wasn't a good partner, friend, or person and became unsafe, almost violently dangerous towards me. With the above said, when it comes to the topic of this video, it was the absolute worst. I was always told, of course, coming from a good place of those very close to me "don't have sex on the first date!!" then later after high school, they switched to "ok, well now that your 18, lets try not to and then work on this." Of course, never worked. Only did about once, and then didn't really talk to that person after that first date.... at one point after high school, had up to 6 dating apps on my phone, because situations like these, would correspond to my symptoms from my disorders, and it would be the most awful, depressive, heartbreaking and wrenching things sometimes. Sometimes I'd be on the opposite end where I would do those things you've mentioned above, and the other guy might've been on the same page, but then after a bit of a few dates, I'd bring up dating, but they'd always either find a loop hole, find my behavior off, mainly due to my disorder, and back then, I didn't come out with my disorder immediately, so it was always after we decided to stick to friends is when I'd say that. I know this is a wall of texts, but I share these stories so others don't feel alone. This isn't just to the person that posted the comment, but for anyone that feels free to read!

Those are some fabulous points. My own bf is on the spectrum and I am making sure that we're taking it slowly per his request, as I heavily respect his boundaries. We have a very strong mutual connection and attraction, but initially (and now as well) it was all about making sure we communicated and understood each other. Our growing relationship naturally developed from there, and I've never been happier. I hope you have or find that person for you too!

I have Autism as well, so I can relate.

Thank you for your insight. We also believe that open communication is absolutely critical in a relationship. In your experience, what is the best way to start a difficult conversation with your partner? Do you have any personal favorite tips?

@@Psych2go timing is everything: make time for conversations about intimacy away from the bedroom, at a time when neither of you are rushed.

I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone. Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind-hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man.

@@icysnow57cold64 Thank you for your insight. Your question touched on a very important topic: Where do gender expectations come from? Where do gender stereotypes come from? Gender stereotypes are complex and originate from local culture and traditions. Children learn what constitutes female and male behavior from their family and friends, the media, and institutions including schools and religious bodies. If we think one gender is "more" or less" it's our bias. We are all human.

@@brain_respect_and_freedom Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do. Most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father. Most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers. A big reason why many women hope to have a daughter instead of a son when they are trying to get pregnant is for the experiences one doesn't get with a son, like shopping for her prom dress together or going for mother/daughter manicures. In many cases as a girl grows up, she becomes closer to her mother whereas boys aren't generally as close with their parents. And also, it's also harder for females to bond with their brothers than it is with their sisters for the exact same reasons. The bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist. The friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view. How can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other?

i too feel the same😂

You may have heard it before, but even if only 0.05% (1/20th of a Percent) of the Human Population found you attractive (and it's likely much larger than that), it means there are at least 4,016,000 people who would find you interesting. By the math, this would mean roughly every 38km (~23 miles) anywhere in the World someone would find you handsome/pretty if we spread humanity evenly across all the land on the Earth and all you could attain was 0.05%. Realistically it is more closer to 10-40% with averaging and outliers removed.

Same happened to me! Wasn’t attracted to him at first, but then we started talking and I was like woah😳

I'm happy you've had this experience! I hope I can feel it one day too!

@@johntaylor4810 thank you! You will! It's crazy how life can surprise you! I'm am trusting it day by day ❤️

You're welcome and thank you for appreciating our work!

Where’s your surveillance blimp?

@@Ibloop surveillance blimp? Sorry I'm very very dumb so I'm a bit of a slow understander at times

Ayo

Same, like it just grosses me out tbh. And I’m not asexual or whatever, it’s just that it’s not needed, and I try blocking it out because I wanna stay true to my religious beliefs and wait til marriage.

I know you are online

​@@Shreya...1 okay

Thanks homie

You are a time saver, I love you

​@@RandomKowa thanks

Don't feel insecure about your natural beauty. I don't mean this in a creepy way but men love to see the little girl in the woman they pursue. Things like bedhead or not wearing makeup can actually make you appear more confident and make him feel more natural and comfortable in your presence.

@@publicserviceannouncement4777 i understand. Its was just a situation where I was very much physically attracted to him from the jump and I felt like I wasn't looking all the great. But I have realize as im getting older that the natural look is something men like a lot. I only have that awkward feeling when im super physically attracted to someone. I been like that since I was a teenager and years later it still happens.

Definitely not me😐

In your opinion, how do you tell the difference between sexual tension and a toxic dynamic?

@@Psych2go For me, they can be impossible to tell apart experientially, especially in the past when I was attracted to toxic men and didn't realize it. You might feel the excitement or attraction to someone when you're in their presence, and you can't control those feelings. The feelings by themselves aren't enough to tell them apart. You have to look at the *person* - their character, how they treat you, how they treat others, their philosophy on life - to see if this is a safe person to get close to and *only then* give your attraction some space to grow. I'm thankful and happy to be in a healthy relationship now, but it really took some doozies for me to realize I needed to slow down and really get to know someone's character before I could let myself give feelings of attraction any level of influence at all on my choices with that person.

​​@@Psych2go with sexual tension, there is a high, which is normal, but if it frequently alternates with lows (confusion, disappointment, insecurity, mixed signals, etc,) it might be a toxic dynamic. Steady mutual excitement = good. Extreme highs/lows moving quickly = toxic.

I couldn’t agree more. Every human being deserves to feel this feeling, mutually. It should be a requirement to live life. It honestly really breaks my heart that there are people that don’t get to experience this. It also makes me mad, actually. Why do I get to experience this multiple times in my life, while ‘X’ doesn’t get to at all. It’s not fair.

No truer words spoken

Tysm

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I don't know what that even means

@@Labycant-ut4sb lol me neither but it sounded super inspirational

That is such good wisdom. It takes time to build anything meaningful and worthwhile.

I needed this thank you

Reciprocation does increase the feelings of attraction.

When you say girls..what age are you referring to?

Didn't ask I CANT do this

@@nadia4985 18 to 25 range 😅

@@loveki5369 I won't raid your cloud then 😄

Well.. same is going on here with me and my colleague 😅

Updates? 👀 I’m in the same boat

@@shohanashobnam3157 Updates? 👀 I’m in the same boat

@@enyonamagbemadzo8684 my update is he left Australia and moved out to Canada.. sexual tension has also gone along with him 🥴😂

We have several videos on how to tell someone is attracted to you! Maybe you can start here: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/rdakf7SnldbTaGw.html

What happened after?

@@Artsu1993 Nothing happened, sorry to disappoint 😂🤣. Moments were heating up and I just backed up 🗿

Oh wow! Good luck just in case.

Ngl that's way better than simply just saying *first-*

​@@Lol_Chanz fr lol

But you're not.

You're so welcome!

Awww. So cute! I wish you both good luck.

Thank you for watching! :)

Second comment

More like 3 Hours 😂

@@purplepikmin3533 👁️👄👁️

More like 18 hours

HAHA :)

Was that A joke?

Hi there. I also paniced, coz IT felt Odd and New. Do U also fear those Odd Body reactions of yours. IT feels Like U "lose Ur Body or as If U are Out of Control"

@@SeelenTaucher yes, my body temperature drops, sometimes my hands n limbs start shaking, heart starts racing and if I’m talking, the stammering comes along n I end up saying something stupid.

@@trusha_tungare Oh gosh dear. I feel U. IT feels as If mind can Not Form an normal sentence anymore, that feels Odd meanwhile She seemed soooo chill and cool, while I tried to cool my head and hands in bathroom with cool Waters. 😆😅👍🏻

What?

Certainly! 🥰

Quite observant

😂

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Did I ask😊

​@@Labycant-ut4sb why would you ask anyway? He is a stranger

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Because we are hardworking chibis.

Approach him if you can. Me and my crush are both stuck in the exact same dilemma cause we are both psychoanalysing the soul out of each other and giving each other obvious signs (no one else seems to notice these) but we are both too scared to talk. I’d feel so relieved if he just got over it and talked to me because OH HELL NAW I’m NOT approaching him. Nothing on earth could make me… so best advice is you should probably approach him directly or look him in the eyes and make a bold introduction. Maybe say something like “hey can I talk to you for a second”? I don’t have any experience …but I have an imagination

@@LilacMeme life is short, why don’t you approach him if u really desire him? Unless there will be major repercussions I suggest u talk with him, invite him to eat lunch with you or something similar

Same. But for me i don't want him as my life partner. It's may sounds wiered. But i don't found peace with in him

@@bunch3008 no really the same goes for me. He’s a really really good looking dude, and a known player. I knew that nothing serious could ever happen between us. Idk if you care, but i’ll give you an uptade anyways. We went on a school trip together and ended up kissing both when we were drunk and sober, he even asked me to follow him into his room but i refused. After that we both knew we were more than friends, we basically snuck out of school al the time in order to spend time together and kiss for a bit. After school ended however, i made it clear that i would not do anything sexual with him bc i didn’t trust him enough (i knew he had plenty of other girls) so he just disappeared. I’m a lil heartbroken but i already knew that this was how it was supposed to end, so i guess it is what it is

And that guy was me

And that me who was the person who lost in a Mr beast competition

Lab.y can can't be here so I'm here

1st

Am pro and my user name for roblox (I didn't ask)

How big is the age gap?

@@hotpink3459 I'm 24 and she's 43

@@C_98. i think the age gap isn't the issue here. Somehow you both do not dare to give in to your feelings because somehow you think of eachother that it feels wrong. Giving in, or starting to talk, will clear the air. Just tell her you like her more than average. She won;t kill or attack you. At most she will blush but i hope she tells you the same thing....

Sure! 😂

@@Psych2go now I know!

"young woman" this could be taken out of context

@@TheBuilderPro2024 uuhh - thanks for that ,,very not needed" comment - she's 23 but alright then.

@@jonasrauchfu6935 oh, sorry.

@@TheBuilderPro2024 no worries XD i get your point man ;)

I am actually curious how old you are now 😂

Glad you like them!

Hey I'm also ace! I do understand sexual tension and also experience it even though I don't have sexual attraction.

I'm no professional but I've been through a bit of what you mentioned here. Separation and be very hard, and be hard to cope with. Especially if you became fully fledged in love with them, you can feel like a big punch in the heart. Depending on how close she felt them prior, am I hate you just as hard as a death loss. Hopefully is not that big though, but either way, what I found helped me, if it was on the Moor feeling melancholy and sad side and I have trouble not thinking about the person, then meditation and finding other connections help, having friends to be close to talk to you about your feelings is always good. If it feels like having a mental breakdown from it, it might be time to start therapy.

That's a great question. We'll share the idea with the team! In the meanwhile, what are some ways that you're dealing with trying to let go of attraction toward someone after a break up?

One bit of advice I want to share is to avoid being around that person or interacting with them at all. Instead, focus on other things in your life, and keep yourself busy doing things you love. Find a new hobby, join a new club, do some volunteering. Just fill your days with other things for a while, and it might really help get your mind off the person you're trying to get over. Best of luck to you, we've all been there... it'll get better!