Modern women seem to be on the horns of a two-pronged dilemma. On the one hand, they lament the diminishing pool of high-value men with whom they might satisfy their hypergamy. And on the other hand, they reject the distasteful possibility that they might partner with a lower-value man. "If I provide the money and the lifestyle and the responsibility and the competence," they might think, "then why bother with relationships at all? What do I get out of it?" When I hear this complaint, I can't help but smile, because they are on the cusp of understanding. Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: kzfaq.info/love/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Sponsor an episode: oriontarabanpsyd.com/sponsor-an-episode Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #women #relationship #psychology

Women do not care about a man's struggles. They hang out at the finish line and pick the winners -Richard Cooper FACTS

When I met my ex-wife, she was making minimum wage, and I was making three times as much as her. I told her she should quit her job and I’d help her start her own business. So I did all the legal paperwork, to get the business formed, her tax ID, built her webpage for her, basically laid the foundation. In a year she was making five times as much money as me, she began to get resentful and was throwing it in my face. Even though I helped her, it didn’t matter. She ended up asking for a divorce and since I loved her, I gave it to her and didn’t fight for anything . so beware of guys, it doesn’t matter how she gets ahead of you or where she started with you.

As a very successful female I approve this message and have come to love the idea even more of a man who is honest, humorous, easy to talk to, with chemistry... a good man with zero judgment about his status. Ladies if you are competitive you better leave it out of the relationship. You cannot have it both ways.

I am a 40 year old man, 6'1, in shape, make six figures, look young and divorced with no kids. I have had this exact same conversation in my head several times. Every relationship save one that I have been in with a woman has always made my life worse off. Instead of appreciation, respect, admiration and love I received complaints, controlling behavior, jealously and other behaviors that completely destroyed my peace. It's why I've resolved to just stay single with my dog and watch the world burn. In the old days women were the soft spot to land, peaceful, non-combative, supportive and gave you children which made the transaction somewhat worth it. Nowadays they just bring children from other relationships and expect you to bail them out of their poor choices all whilst treating you like shit. No thanks. Great video.

I am so glad you made this video! "Welcome to being a man". Perfectly said. Women have become the men they want to date ~ Rollo Tomassi

I know a woman who has a masters degree in marketing and she has a cool, successful career in marketing. Her earnings are way above average for the area. I also know a guy who puts up fences. She grosses around 8k per month. He nets over $20k per month because he owns the fence business. He drives a pickup truck that is not new or particularly nice. She drives a tesla. That woman is, and should be, proud of herself for her career and money. But I can guarantee if she knew my other friend, the fence guy, she would think she was just too good for him. Maybe it is just where I am at, but when I think about it, I know a lot of guys like that. One guy has a dump truck business, one guy installs concrete tanks, another guy has a tree service. They are all millionaires. I don't even have to go into an office building to find a woman who thinks she is too good for any of those guys. Even the girls working in the Verizon store feel that they are above those men. It is weird snobbery

Man finally reaches success: "Great, I can now provide for my woman and for my family." Woman finally reaches success: Why the f am I even with this guy? I don't need no man.

Women: "We have standards, preferences and deal-breaker terms in mates." Men: "Cool. Good luck finding a guy." Men: "We have standards, preferences and deal-breaker terms in mates." Women: "That's sexist and misogynist, and mean." ?

Push men out of the workplace, then complain how hard it is to find a man who makes more money than you. Smart.

I used to be so confused about the phoenomenon of herbivore men in Asia, and was unable to understand. Now I fully understand why a man would want to spend his life without a woman. Modern society is an absolute nightmare for us.

Historically, a good marriage provided a lot of value to both men and women. We needed each other. That is less true today.

I can’t believe how lucky I got in this racket. Married 35 years next month. We feel like these are the happiest days we’ve ever spent together. Clearly defined roles/partnership. It just works.

I have met so many women who fell out of love with their husbands not because he is a jerk or doesn't listen, but rather she got a promotion or lost weight after lap band surgury and she came home one day and looked at him and thought "Why am I with him? Is he really the best I can do?". He is gone at this point. I do not mean to sound msygonistic but it is like women are still wired like it is 1000 BC to have her husband do everything. What happened to being a team?

As a successful 6 figures income woman, I am just so grateful that I found love young. My husband and I have grown our empire together through our own careers (with him at the helm). Mine has taken a back seat to my role as mother though. This did not alter the course of my success, just changed how fast I got there. Ladies remember the tortoise beat the hare in the race. My advice to ladies is first, never put career success above your families success. No amount of money or fame will make up for the loss of your family. Second, and this is really important pick a man you can trust to be a good "old fashion man". Men are great when they are in their masculine energy and women are great when they are in their feminine energy That doesn't mean a girl has to be uneducated or give up on a career. Just keep your priorities straight. As women we do not have to try to be men in order to be happy. We do not have to compete with our boyfriends or husbands. Third, take advice from older women who have the life you want. Maybe your grandma or great-grandma. They are wiser than you and they probably have been more successful than you in finding and keeping love.

When I was in college, i had professors unsympathetically tell me "you should know the material. Change your major" despite my having to take care of sick family members. I had two women who were classmates that Im still friends with who also struggled with the material, the same professor gave them mentoring even though they were partying a lot.

Martied at 28 for love and kids. She started cheating on me 10 years later while not working and me effectively financially subsidizing her behavior. Divorced her with a monster financial hit of course. Now 60, single, financially independent with peace of mind. Priceless.

Women’s innate solipsism prevents them from seeing the issue and understanding men

Dr. The short answer is no. They believe her money is her money A man's money and resources should be shared between the both of them for the betterment of her life and children. Double standard - cognitive dissonance Thousands of years of social-cultural reinforcement won't go away overnight.

"Welcome to being a man" What a line! Even after I "been there, done that got the t-shirt".. the realization still struck me deep. Great video as always!

I think if all of us stopped thinking about what we get, and started to think what we can give being a partner in a relationship, problems will start solving themselves.

This needs to go on national television

Wow, great insight. I used to watch Kevin Samuels listen to women list off all their accolades and wish he would reply "Sounds like you'd make a great husband" but I never fully put together that women were complaining about being in men's traditional role in such an overt way as you explained here.

Before there was a fair value exchange. The man is a protector and provider and equal or higher status than the female. The female was an EXCLUSIVE sexual partner, a MOTHER and a HOME MAKER. The man and the woman TOGETHER were a family. Now a lot of women "Don't need no man" and a lot of men are responding that they "Don't need no relationship"

“Being the higher status person in the relationship is very expensive. While women traditionally have been trying to secure the best deal, men have resigned themselves to minimizing loss’

Well spoken. This is recurring problem of mine. As a more cerebral male, physical beauty is often not enough to get me interested in a woman. If I notice she has no intellectual ability, I will more than likely lose interest, no matter how intrigued she might be. Sure, I can have a one night stand with them, but that is boring by now (I'm no longer in my 20s). Naturally I look for more intellectual women. Trouble is, they are focused on their careers, believing "there will be a time for a family later". Hate to break it to you, ladies, but biology doesn't care about career choices and I'm not sticking around to find out. If your answer is "No" now, it will also be my answer 10 years from now.

Indeed, as someone who makes six figures but I still do feel like I'm an average guy, I was sooooo tremendously happy to part my ways with my ex who had no respect for me who have had permission to share my resources. Now, I'm the happiest man on Earth with a traditional woman.

Great video. Such truth. I have a 16 year old son and 13 year old daughter. I have told them both, times are exactly the opposite of what they have been for centuries... So... daughter, get ready to go out there and compete against all these high achieving women. Son, workout, be hot and find yourself a rich woman to marry. Good luck.😅

I know I’m not a high-value man yet, so I don’t even bother with dating. I used to hate being alone, but I don’t mind it much anymore. I’m content to work on myself and my career prospects during the rest of my 20s. However, after I’ve put in the work and made myself someone who’s actually attractive, I don’t have any intention of settling down for a long-term relationship-at least, not for a long time. I just don’t see any advantage to it. If I’m unwanted while I’m at the bottom of the hierarchy, why would I stoop to being someone’s provider for the rest of my life after doing all the work? It would be one thing if I was working up the hierarchy WITH someone, in a partnership of sorts. When I was a teenager, that’s what I wanted-to find a genuine life partner; to build a life WITH someone, and not just FOR them. But young women don’t seem interested in that. And why should they be? I know they have better options. It kinda takes all the romance out of relationships, though. My childhood self would be mortified if he’d known I’d eventually come to this conclusion.

After a divorce many years ago, and before it was a thing, I solved the problem by getting my passport. 16 years and 2 girls later, my wife and I are very happy. My wife has 2 degrees and speaks English + 4 dialects. I take care of the big heavy rocks outside the home, she deals with the piles of pebble inside the home. Best decision of my life. I would recommend it to any man.

"the juice isn't worth the squeeze" DAMN! That is ringing in my ears ... could be applied to a lot of situations. Thank you for the video 😄

I'm glad these concepts are finally breaking out into the mainstream. We've been inculcated with the 'happy wife, happy life' ism for decades. Men are finally waking up and the women are a bit lost at what is actually happening. The jig is up ladies.

Well said! Perfectly encompasses the struggles of modern dating, especially for men. Being in IT, I don't see the benefit of courting chicks that see me as a bank.

Matches my experience for women making under a certain amount per year and under about 28. Above that, it gets more complex because if she is making it even if the man provides a lifestyle uptick, the emotional burden and increased chores does not offset it. Sex, better food, nicer car, nicer home, it doesn't offset less alone time, less autonomy, the physicality of pregnancy, lost of income from pregnancy, child rearing expenses, etc. She basically is always interacting with someone unless she is sleeping. The value of peace is immense.

Love your content Doc... I will keep making videos of these amazing lessons and supporting you! hope my supporters been supporting you!

I really enjoyed your post today. You hit the nail on the head. So, so true.

I find it so weird women are still seen as the "prize" in most relationships

It doesn't matter if statistically a high status girl would have to settle with a lower status man. They can still get sex and intimacy from a high value man, but without the long term emotional investment you get from a relationship. Vs as a low status man? Crickets 24/7, there's a reason why women are outperforming men in academics and earning higher wages. You have an entire societal message of women being able to voice their disdain for men and being praised for it. Then you add in all the body positivity movement that being overweight is good and you shouldn't be ashamed for it but praised for being comfortable in your skin. While for men the standards have never changed, it's always been lean muscular men has been seen as attractive and no such thing as body positivity for men will ever come to light in our society. Not to mention if a man ever voices their grievances with the opposite sex or dating, they're labeled as an incel/misogynist. So you have men that need to continue to bottle up their emotions and have society treat them like trash while they have raging hormones craving sex/intimacy but never getting it, which in itself turns a negative loop, as you deem yourself undesirable to the opposite sex. It's no wonder men are doing awful in today's modern world.

This is a very deep episode! I am still processing it. Well done!

Thank you for keeping it real, Orion! I've derived a lot of value from your work.

It's also frustrating how so many only perceive value based on material possessions, bank accounts and status. As someone who values self sufficiency and loves learning yet doesn't want to grind myself to a paste climbing a corporate ladder I've spent years learning trades and how to build, repair and maintain just about anything I need and troubleshoot problems as they arise. Some things can't be solved by simply throwing money at it, and it's harder to quantify money and time saved vs earned. Currently learning to be a better cook too, it's fun, cheaper and definitely healthier. Sadly, I'm usually invisible until my skills are needed.

You're killin it lately. Very well said.

A great job putting this issue in perspective. Thanks!

You are killing it, this explains a lot.

This channel is really good. Everything he says is well thought out and I enjoy his perspective.

Thanks for the hard work, doc. Your vids has helped me view things in a different and more logical way.

Keeping it real is the right word Mr. Psych. You are absolutely right! Thank you so much Taddeo From Durham, North Carolina

Excellent perspective, tone, analysis, organization, and exposition. Very well done.

The old societal model was: A young woman would trade her youth and fertility exclusively to only one man, and he in turn would be the workhorse and take care of her when she gets past her prime. This was a great incentive for men to work, become men, and get married. You got a prize, a young beautiful loyal wife. In theory, as we know life isn't perfect. She does him a favor early on by being a virgin/exclusive and later he does her a favor by staying and supporting her instead of leaving her for a younger woman. They both get a prize. The new societal model is: Women whore around and waste their youth and fertility on Chad/Tyrone, get walled out, get STDs, lose their ability to pair bond, rapidly accelerate their aging process with excessive alcohol and fast food, and have no loyalty to any man. What sensible man would pay top dollar for something 30 other men got for free? The incentive for men is gone. You don't get a prize anymore. You get a parasite with an entitlement mentality that’s looking to take your resources and then some. Before you even say “I do” at the altar, she’s already plotting how to financially grape you’re A$$ in family court after she locks you in with at least one kid, a mortgage, and then divorces your sorry A$$ a few years later. Why do you think she’s smiling as she’s walking down the aisle? Wouldn’t you if you got to keep the house, the kids, all the cash and prizes, and she’s paying for it all? Men get divorced to get rid of something. Women get divorced to get something. A woman’s main reason for getting married is to get a divorce. Most women are cold, cruel, predatory animals with no conscience. A woman who marries for money will complain about love. A woman who marries for love will complain about money. A woman who has both will find something else to complain about. Apparently, the worst thing a woman can experience is being married to a man who loves her. A man's sixual drive is used to lure him into signing a one-sided lifetime contract with a parasitic woman with penalties for leaving. She gets to keep all the cash and prizes and can break the contract at any time, for any reason, lie under oath, and suffer no penalties. In fact, she is rewarded and encouraged to do so. There is no wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it. A man is not going to invest in somebody that at best laughs at him or at worst hates him and blames him for everything. You're expected to pay a premium price for a used up, beaten up, tatted up, parasitic leach. Who is an ungrateful, self-consumed, easily offended, fat, ugly, aggressive b!tch on wheels, with a masculine demeanor, and an entitlement mentality. A soulless woman from the bargain basement bins of some store in the hood with the morals of an alley cat. An in denial, freak of nature, pathologically delusional, self-esteem deficient, morally bankrupt, bottom dwelling, blood sucking, inhuman, creature of the night, spawned from the seed of Satan. A true boil on the buttocks of the world. When she dies, the last living reminder of helll will be gone from the face of the earth. She has kids from Chad/Tyrone or both, personal credit card debt, no assets, school debt for a worthless degree in liberal arts, Greek Mythology, Humanities, or gender studies. No cooking skills and no desire to learn any, no fiscal responsibility, an overly banged vagina, and a pet you’ll be expected to take care of as well. And you're supposed to be happy about this opportunity to lick up the scraps from the floor. The so-called good men she wants and can’t find are out there. They just don’t want her at the table because she has nothing to bring except financial and emotional pain. When women say, "Men are only after one thing". Meaning seex. My question to them is, do you have anything else to offer? Crickets is all I hear. Which means even they don't believe they have anything else to offer. In addition, she also has great expectations you’ll do everything for her, make her feel better, and provide an unrealistic unsustainable lifestyle she feels she deserves because she read about it some feminazi magazine article that hates men. All this while she cheats behind your back with the “bad boys” she’s always really wanted all along, while you’re at work paying all the bills to feed this little parasite. Women don’t “love men”, they love what men can do for them. Where are all the great works of art female artists have created, inspired by their love of men? Men are not afraid of commitment or marriage…. Men are afraid of getting divorce graped in “family court.” It’s just a bad deal all the way around for men and a crap shoot at best. There’s nothing in it for men except the chance to be financially ruined for the rest of your life. If you were thinking of going skydiving and knew that three out of four parachutes failed, and you had already watched your friends jump, some successfully, others not so. Would you be willing to take the chance that you're going to be the exception and get the one parachute out of the four that is going to work?......... I mean they all look so pretty and smell so good and feel so soft to the touch and they are offering you the thrill of a lifetime if you would just let one of them wrap itself around you and make that commitment to attach yourself to it and jump...... would you still take that chance? But… but…. Look how pretty the parachutes are, smell their lovely fragrance, touch and feel how soft they feel, they beckon you to try one of them on, please try me on and let me wrap myself tightly around you and see how good I feel to you, I’ll hold on tight and snug to you, I am not like the others, honest I am different, I’ll work. Well….. would you do it? Would you take that chance for the thrill of a lifetime? Yea, that sounds like a good deal if I were a moron, is this the line I stand in to lose half my sheet? Good luck with that. Men are waking up and realizing this system is defective and toxic. Women's seexual liberation, femiinism and the birth control pill, have ironically dis-empowered women. They are throwaway seexual objects now more than ever. "Femiinism did NOT free women from the chains they thought they had. It freed MEN from the chains they had no idea were there." ~ Arch Stanton ~

Pure quality content really appreciate it

I don't know how your videos keep getting better and better but they do.

Loved this line of thought! Nice work

women can embrace masculine roles, but for a man to embrace a feminine role they get called a loser. exception being the culture of dating.

That "no shit" remark was right to the point 😂😂😂

Great video, thank you. Usually the man, if a decent human, not only looks at the love aspect of the relationship which INCLUDES feelings, but is likely to consider the DUTY that comes from a committed relationship. Alas, it appears the world has gone mad.

Great Analysis!!!!, Your videos always gives me new perspective to these type of situations!!

Great, unique observation that goes both ways. Well thought out dude.

THANK YOU ! It's a problem I've heard several women mention, and I never had any idea what to tell them. But once you "Flip the Script", it becomes 100% obvious. Thanks again !

Love your content! Thanks!

One of my favorite videos, Dr. Taraban! Thank you for your wisdom as always!

The Tribe of Men channel love your message. Surely more of us will come and follow your content. Thank you!

I think this video is a great example of why empathy is so important. We need to value both men and women for what they can uniquely provide to each other. If we deem one "lesser" than the other, we are just asking for resentment and her surprised when things change

That was an incredible video, if the relationship doesn't seem worth it we might not want to do it what a wild concept, especially when as you pointed out in another video, most women have the ability to psychologically "mop the floor with most men." Thanks. 🙏

First time I pay for a super thanks. You put the situation so clear that made it simple to understand my whole last realtionship. Thank you much for the videos!

Very possibly one of your best videos and the best treatment of this topic that I've seen!

In 10 years, men will prefer AI-powered robot girlfriends.

You articulated this perfectly. As a 55yo lifelong bachelor with a doctorate who retired early to travel. I can say this was always my take on 99% of relationships. I like women and I’ve always done ok in that Department. Nevertheless, I knew I could go further and faster without a relationship to shoulder . I have been lonely at times for sure but I always recovered faster and resumed the grind earlier without negotiating the whims of a significant other. Now, that I will soon be ready to settle down, it Will likely include a nurturing and appreciative women that can compliment the stage of my life or nothing. This video should be required viewing for all women of all ages!

Spot on Oryan, beautifully put

I just discovered your channel and it makes me smile and actually laugh out loud.... You say in a very fair, intelligent and clear way what I have been observing for some years. Nickoli Tesla mentioned this generation, starting then and coming this way....

There are two details to consider here: 1. A woman's financial and social status will *ALWAYS* be tertiary to her physical attractiveness and domestic skills. For men, if there's no physical attraction, there's no attraction, period. And nobody wants to live with another human being, male or female, who *REFUSES* to learn and utilize the basic skills necessary to maintain their own domicile and lifestyle. 2. Financial and social status are societal constructs that can, literally, go away or change in the blink of an eye due to factors completely beyond our control. Fitness, attractiveness, domestic skills, empathy, and general altruism are virtues that can not be bought, borrowed, faked, given away, or stolen. This is exactly why modern feminists are so threatened by the "TradWife" movement. It shines a spotlight on all their deficiencies as humans and all their narcissistic psychoses as women.

Excellent Topic!

Thanks for your service and messages of clarity.

Beautifully put! Thank You!

You should go on tour as a stand-up with these observations! Just brilliant! I'm going to start taking notes for future convos with women 🤣

This probably the first non “red pill” platform that’s touched upon MGTOW Men Going Their Own Way scenario from a psychological perspective Many thanks for sharing, sir

*Another* great video!! Keep them coming.

This is the greatest video essay ever. The mental shampoo you are dropping right now is BEYOND DIAMONDS 💎

Women will start sharing the high status men. They would prefer this over pairing up with a lower status man.

What it all gets down to for both men and women: even if I might never get the partner of my dreams, will my fear of being alone overrule my egoic expectations of the other person? Are you most afraid or most entitled?

I love where the recent videos have been going.

You're on fire with these latest vids.

I’m 25 married to my husband for 2 years. We started dating when I was 18 and he was 25. We grew together and stuck it out to help each other become a high value man and woman. I feel like when it comes to modern dating, people do not have the patience or energy to create and manifest the relationship or partner they want. He met me when I was a waitress now I’m an RN going to get my masters. I met him when he got out of the military and was working construction, now he makes an amazing salary. Did it take a few years to get there? YES. We’re we always supportive and motivating partners? YES. Because of his income and his looks I acknowledge he deserves a high value wife. I cook, clean, and maintain my physical appearance and vice versa. When you desire or think you deserve a better mate, you have to self reflect and see if you are putting in the work yourself financially, physically, and spiritually. I look around me and I see the chaos in relationships and the struggle people have. I really hope everyone is able to experience real love.

Saying women are selfish without saying women are selfish 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Great Video Dr.

So spot on! Thank you for your videos!

Dang, that was clear and concise! I wholeheartedly agree. These are some weird times.

"Welcome to being a man" was brilliant. Anyway, I think you've done a good job explaining reality to modern women. I wonder how many will still deny reality, though. 03:40 "if you're liking what you're hearing" I can bet most women hate it 😂

Oh wow, for sure this is an issues collectively we have in our society. Its not going to be easy but most likely we have to reconfigure it all, the world our grandparents and parents grew up and lived in is gone and so are the rules to live by. Thank you Dr. Orion Taraban for all the topics you discuss in this channel of yours.

Brilliant!! So well said and so, so true.

Great insight, excellent delivery

60% of men never reproduced while 80% of women did, men are used to be alone and die alone, on the other hand women dont, for men being along is not "optimal" but is "ok" for women being alone is completely misery, that's why women are nowadays more unhappy on average than men;therefore women have more to lose than men in the current situation.

Relationships require sacrifice on both fronts. Women are unwilling to sacrifice at all.

Wow dude! You use such a clear way of speaking to bring this knowledge !!

Too much knowledges in this video, i really appreciate your content !!

Hey Doc, you had me laughing out loud,remember hope can be a dangerous thing.

Recently I came across a Chinese expression 队友 (which is used when someone is addressing their partner in a casual occasion) . It can be translated in English as "Teammate". My idea of dating or marriage is...you find someone who can make you a better person and you partner for life. Life can be quite tiring when you are single and you are trying you best to date up...then you keep looking down on everybody and complain the dating pool is too small...Life is too short. Meet a good one and partner with them. If that person earns less than you, live with it.

This is the most eloquent and diplomatic way to explain this predicament in the Western modern world. I have watched every video of Dr. Taraban and this is probably the number one. The number two is the three ways that a woman can keep any man she wants. As always, the clarity of thought and presentation is the best on KZfaq right now.

The best video on the subject I have found

We must protect this man at all costs

Pure gold. Well reasoned and rationally articulated. Modern w0men need to wake up to the realities of what it actually means to be a high status man, and the reason most of us now feel that the juice is simply not worth the squeeze with what we're getting in return. And as for w0men's reaction to now being faced with what men have had to deal with by being expected to hand over their resources, and saying "I prefer not to", the perfect response at 6:15: "Well, no s***"

Great ep. Smart points.