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K-max That's something I thought of recently when trying to explain to an attorney what had been going on in his finances. I found she was treating me like I wasn't making sense. If you try to explain the things that a psychopath does, other people think you are crazy. Surely no one in their right mind could be the person we describing, but I'm glad to hear you say this because I was worrying that maybe I was succumbing to his gaslighting. Now his new wife is perplexed because she looked at him through Rose Colored Glasses. She couldn't believe I would divorce him after 25 years,

@@GS-st9ns when dealing with a psychopath and trying to explain their behavior to others, it seems very bizarre and unreal to them. It's difficult for the victim to comprehend what is happening to them, and trying to bring others onboard is like speaking a foreign language to them. It's very pathological, and most people lack awareness and skills to provide support to deter psychopaths. Right, some psychopaths aren't physically violent, but they have a psychological hold on their victims. In my opinion, psychological abuse is far more devastating than physical abuse. Psychological abuse stays with you for a lifetime

BINGO! My family all turned against me because they believed my mom's lies.

Everyone thinks we're CRAZY. No one believes us.

+Cara Sim very true!

+Cara Sim True, i am one myself and have 2 sociopathic friends.

sad is 95% ppl still know shit about psychopathy...one rly has to experience it to know

Aleaiactaest Mixedmartialarts Yet i have, multiple times.

:( Everyone including sociopaths should practise Vipassana meditation for a better life.

Remember Lucifer is the prince of air. They like to hook you mentally that way they keep you connected to them so they can feed on you. They are vampires 💀👽👻 I live with on he gives all women the creeps . Some people say he doesn't even seem really Hallow like he's just dead. A Vampire 👻👽💀

It is horrific. I just ended a 3 year “relationship” with a psychopath which was nothing more than a fraud from the very beginning

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Yeah, usually when I've seen this claim the person is either a sadist or a narcissist, not a psychopath.

@@mesozoicperiodvlogs8323 Are you a psychiatrist? If not, you cannot ethically, legally, or medically diagnose someone.

medjugorje85 nothing to do with psychopathy, but what does the "N" in your profile picture stand for? yes I know arab letters

vicious streak if you fuck with them. Anyone can do that though. They just go the distance and aren't afraid as much as others.

That's my two bosses and nobody will address the issue! I'm the only one in the whole department brave enough to go to Human Resources and that was totally useless. Leaders and persons in power positions back each other whether or not they believe they are being unfair.

What is emotional blackmail?

Even if you spot them early doesn't mean you can shake them off when they're out to get you.

I am soo empty, soo low right now. I am where you were. I cannot believe it, but i realize I am not now, nor will I ever be, the same person I was the day he asked me out. The fateful day that I said yes. I MUST completely reinvent myself and my life. I MUST learn how to live again. Baby steps. I feel I am a recovering addict. I suppose I actually am. I have been soo alone. Soo frightened. Terrorized. Terrified. I am still trying to escape the fog of the worst nightmare of my existence

@@lauralee8025 I'm really sorry your having a tough time , my husband is one , I have told him I knew he usually gets upset but yes they will suck the life at out you . remember to take care of yourself also don't challenge them

Very informative. Bless you!

@lauramoyabeauty I had the same thing. I was actually in a leadership position at work and ended up having to step down. My memory failed, diagnosed with major depressive disorder. It took my workmates of over 10 years to point out my decline. 😞

Same here, you are not alone. I’m a very powerful woman, over everything I want my brain back. I wish I never answered his call. One thing that helps the cognitive dissonance is the statement ‘I choose’. I choose to make today amazing, I choose to release the influence of x-person, I choose to understand that I was not in a real relationship with x-person. I choose to trust myself and my instincts, I choose to think peaceful thoughts. I’m struggling with severe PTSD symptoms in where I have memory loss and involuntary obsessive thinking (the trying to figure out what happened), disassociation and major depressive episodes. I’m holding light for all of you out there who encountered or where energetically mauled by these primates - calling up healing energy ♥️

Lawsuit

My sister is like that with her partner she always calls the cops with false reports she tried it on me even i cant comprehend her thought process. The cops are on to her though they almost took her kids. Poor things living a life of mental abuse

+Johnny Wayne Well, I'd say slightly more than half our population is psycho --- at least once a month.

Yes. There are many, many female psychopaths.

+Johnny Wayne yes, many are male (seems like majority according to statistics) but yes female as well. good for you for jumping ship in time; stay safe. having experienced this as well (mine was male, began collecting other things, but will not get into it) believe the truth that you know and dont expect anyone else to, stay strong. and I pray for her next victim ugh- that the y have same wisdom as you did

+Sherbe Lee I think the studies currently indicate that psychopathy affects about 1 or 2 % of the population, and that male psychopathy is more prevalent and severe than female psychopathy.

Indi Genius my favorite response is “move on with your life” Lolol..

THIS!

He’s got me all sorts of confused. It’s at the point where he gets me overthinking myself to death and now I wonder if I really AM the bad guy. I know I don’t set out to purposely hurt anyone but my mind is tripping. I lose sleep. Part of my brain thinks he’s not so bad but the other part remembers how he gets when he’s upset. Calling me names or grouching at me, then when I defend myself... I’m the one starting a fight with him. The fight stops being about anything of substance and ends up being about how I said something accusingly. Omg I can’t. My brain hurts. My body hurts. Is all of that part of the cognitive dissonance?

@@bluedawning22 yes, unfortunately.

Me too .I am dealing with so much depression and self doubt that I don’t trust anyone and don’t know who am I.

Stephanie Fouts, you are too precious to be with a narcissist 😈!

@@lioydwilliams1850 bruh

Yes, exactly the same for me too on that

They can't face us cos we know their lies.

@George V A lazy or highly effective one would mr George V😆

George V “1 in 25” is baseless

Wandering Free yes my husband too. And once they know you are onto them they quickly replace you for some other trusting or naive person.

They con professionals. There's no winning.

Kathy Venne yes con artists! They had us fooled to begin with

That's why they can pass a polygraph... they have no conscience or fear

Is it true that some Psychopaths never kill?

Just like Jada I’d doing will

When everything is supposedly "your fault"...you start to believe it must be. A psychopath destroys their "partner". My husband ended up taking his own life. He is still destroying me because not only do I not trust men, I don't trust my own judgement.

Having taken 22yrs for mine I am so with you on this Rob. Hope by now you are further forward on your recovery. Perhaps like me a very small win was learning what she is enabled me to understand everything that had happened in the previous two decades. Plus, I no longer had to try to get her to change. She won't as she can't. Meanwhile I know why she has behaved as she had over all that time. I can never get back the wasted time but at least knowing she has ASPD/sociopathy explains it all. I don't want to hide behind her diagnosis, though her difficult and loveless behaviour certainly triggered me to behave unfaithfully but, it sure explains where the real root cause of our problems lay. In that sense I can hold my head high. I am sure you can too.

@@Set5087 totally get the lack of trust in others and ur own judgment x

Just like Cain blamed Abel for murdering him. These people are serpent seeds. Offspring of Cain.

Reese Daniel my god yes they are.

Maybe you are an INFJ

Why do people get back in bad relationships? It's an insane concept. People need to just move on.

Trauma bond. ^

Please, be kind to yourself, as you would to any other vulnerable person. They are attracted to us because of how we were taught to live, think, etc. when we were young. It takes time to heal all the layers 💙🙏🏻🙏🏻

and self love is the key ;-)

Linda Reid,I admire your lovely smile

Dear Linda, your words have helped me. Thank you. Bless you!!

Assault and battery

Relationshit. Good one!

Like minds travel together. They are attracted to other abusers.

Everyone fall's for them.

@Jen farmer Exactly, i was just about to say that. She noticed, but still got married to him. Says A Lot...

Generally they are covert narcissist, and these people can be dangerous, sneaky, conniving, and viscous. And they have the outside fooled for the most part.

+Juanita Richards. Hi again Juanita, your ex told you he would chop your head off...!!, how crazy is that your more likely to leave someone who tells you that.., however it took me years to discover that my mother was a psychopath (political in nature) and that my two older sibling sisters carried the same trait eventually attempted to murder my father and possibly murdered my brother in law...

+keith kelly I got locked out of my google page and couldn't get nack in so had to open a new one. yes, I was trapped in a foeign country though with no money and two small children, and no supportive family back home. So getting out was very difficult and took a long time, and I had to be very very careful. He knew I wanted out for a long time, so I had to lull him into a false sense of security. And I got help from an unexpected source to get out

Doesn't have anything to do with psychopathy unless he was diagnosed or actually had real signs

@Tiny Tina Oh, I figured out the game long before I was able to escape. I knew he was projecting his own crazed behaviour and traits onto me. I knew he was gaslighting me. I knew he was a potential family annihilator and it wasn't only my life in danger but our 2 kids as well. He was cold and detached from them. Nothing like a real father. It was a shocking revelation to me but realize it I did.

@@emiliagustafssonchuah7472 He is a psychopath and narcissist in one. You have no idea. The things he did to us........a potential family annihilator who did not care about his children at all except in ways he could use them to hurt me.....and he hurt them in every way you can imagine. Beaten, bashed and starved for days at a time. Left alone at night time in an isolated house with no phone, and a gang of strange men coming to the house at midnight wanting me to let them in for a drink of water, knowing I was alone there with a newborn and a 3 year old, and they were unsmiling and unfriendly.......one of them holding a length of rope in his hands twisting it around in his hands........I was terrified. If not for the bars on the inside of the windows and doors they could easily have broken the glass and gotten in. I know he sent them to scare me........and when we moved to a basement flat and the landlady upstairs had a phone and I got calls from an anonymous "admirer" who wanted to meet with me in secret.........what stranger would have my married with children's land lady's phone number? My husband had it.........These dangerous mind games........only a psychopath would even think them up.

Lauralyn Lee,hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!

@@lioydwilliams1850 I WAS with a narcissist. It was the BEST and the WORST time of my life. I'm lucky I got out alive

@@lauralee8025 you deserve better my dear.I am Lioyd from the States.You?

@@lioydwilliams1850 I'm from texas

@@lauralee8025 wow!,are you on hangouts or Gmail so we can always talk?

Nobody said women are the only victims. She is talking about women victims. Find the videos taking about how all women are psychopaths and all psychopaths are women if that's what you're looking for. There are TONS them. Search "men are horrible" and the vast majority are videos about how horrible women are. Search "women are horrible" and you'll get all videos about how horrible women are. Have a nice day.

Get away from him, adapt a 'couldn't care less attitude, don't look for apology they are meaningless anyway, find a new social outlet, were he has never been. Be glad you discovered truth before you got too emessed. Listen to your gut feelings, don't brush under carpet. There's a new safe world out there go to it, good luck!

I had these problems with my husband also. But he had changed so much i took him to a neurologist for a brain scan, suggested by a marriage counselor. Turns out he had a rare firm of dementia, bvFTD or Frontotemporal Degeneration with Behavioral Varient. Causes them to lose empathy, they lose their sense of right and wrong, no impulse control, due to the destruction of certain areas of the brain. It's a genetic disease and ends in death, due to ALS type symptoms. It strikes people at young ages. My husband exhibited symptoms at least from age 50. He passed away when he was 65. It can begin even younger. Might be worth looking into. Don't waste your time with any doctor other than a neurologist, no one else knows much about it and it will take forever to get a diagnosis.

Oh no, this is 3 years late, but I hope you were able to stay away from him. He sounds not only unstable but he engages in gaslighting. This seems to be happening soon into the relationship, and even though early enough, you were able to catch it. Cut your losses early and move on, I hope you did or you still can. Whether you left him or not, keep strong and be wise to their tactics. There are many many other videos and books that explain and describe devoid people like this. Good thing you stumbled onto this one channel. I hope it's not too late. It gets worse not better to be in a relationship with these Cluster Bs, as time goes on. Stay strong and safe!

Yes, and I completely agree with the previous poster - the incident with your car is a huge red flag of him displaying no empathy! Imagine if it was worse, or you broke down on a deserted road in the middle of nowhere in the cold. Or worse! This is dangerous. Run.

@S Robin yes! Happy to hear you knew too listen to the red flags, leave him at the curb and run the other way!

No more. Democrat governors released them

No, politicians are and lawyers

The industry and countries are run by them.

+Stasik C. I am deeply sorry to hear that you have met pure evil like me. If life puts in our life such a Monster I have no doubt that we will meet our soul mate one day. I wish you a very Happy and Prosperous New Year, take care :)

Really? So if someone is very sweet and charming..could be faking it?

cristine punla It’s called love bombing. They create a fake, kind persona to tru k you into falling for them. But it is just a lie, a “mask” as the narrator says.

cristine punla They lay on the charm to get something out of you. They pretend to be nice and care so you give or do something for them. S*x, financial aid/a place to live, maybe you have a nice car they can "borrow" one day, maybe they just like to see you get "scared" at their pranks, maybe you are rich enough to take them on vacation to France every summer? Either way, they keep you around not because they like YOU, they keep you around because you have something they want and when you find out about them or they get bored, they drop you. They find somebody new, because they never cared, they just used you.

@@cristinepunla419 duh

been there, lost my job too. had been good at it. couldn't function. couldn't sleep. panic attacks. auditory hallucinations. diagnosed PTSD. my system has changed because of my relationship with this man. and all those years, he said the bad part of us, the problem, completely and entirely, was me. and it was sad because I would never change. why couldn't I just be a normal girlfriend? I bought it all because cognitive dissonance is so, so powerful. my psychiatrist and therapist don't mention it much but I think it helps me process a lot of trying to understand that blur whirlwind of why I put up with that such such utter horribleness and numbness and loss of self and identity and job and intellectual gifts and cheerfulness and desire to help others and hope for the future and goals. I'm a shell of who I was, he discarded me 3 years ago and quickly...married after dumping me (had her lined up I'm sure). Cog dissonance is so powerful and fitting for me, though. I knew being with him that though he was so attractive and tall and wanted and smart and rich and admired, and he said everything that was the opposite of who I am directly to my face, I did an internal laugh and eye roll. I was present in the relationship but never fully there. Humor left me and that's my top trait. We never joked. He wouldn't have gotten my humor. Why waste my talent on an inhuman spiritual vampire like him? He told me I don't really get along well with others, I'm socially awkward and weird. High conflict. Pictures from college on Facebook and my many lifelong friends would say the opposite. I had one fight with a roommate that he knew of. I lived with the other girls for years. Despite being the "Tom Brady" of our professional field--law--he is the most insecure person I know. Not sure if tied to his psychopathy, but he may be a narcissist as well. He yelled at me for being socially awkward because ONE party we went to over the course of our second year together was stocked and fun and a birthday party for my friend. I had some drinks, it was kind of early, lights were still on with a handful of people there. I laughed with someone else about the cabinets in the kitchen then stood by the fridge surveying the room. That night he laid into me when we were home because I had "slammed his toilet seat," (not really....I needed the seat because I'm a peeing female) and am an angry and weird person at my core because I stood in the kitchen corner for a few seconds not talking to anyone...before I moved to the couch and played video games with another cute male law student who sat too close and smiled a lot. Don't date psychopaths!

Absolutely

tRUMP is a classic example of Narcissistic Personality Disorder...not psychopathy.

+le th Every single celebrity, athelete, public figure, reporter, writer, famous person, fits the criteria. So, add Leonardo D., George Clooney, Obama, Hillary and Bill Clinton to your list as well. They love themselves very much.

le th how the fuck do you know trump isn't a physcopath you don't know him!!!!

Annette Gillham don't talk so stupid n dumb!!!

absolutely

Lisa Maturo, hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!

Alison Davis, you got a lovely smile

Having an unhealthy obsession IS the proof.

The fact you are searching what the. Hell happened, means you have been abused by a master manipulator

Germana Rovinelli The word he is part of the information is it not? Just because we all know,( whoever we all are) does not mean others will not be influenced by the fact she stated he, all through the interview. Which gives the impression that males are the predators and not females.

Germana Rovinelli,your lovely smile can make the news

The reason she primarily uses 'he' for a psychopath, because statistically there are more men psychopaths.

@@ningirsu9606 nobody knows what gender has more psychopaths than the other, stats don't cut it. Everybody should be aware these people are out there in both the male and female sexes. Its very foolish to think because its a woman she must be ok, most men don't report these things, because it deflates their masculinity to be manipulated and dominated by a woman. Also today's capitalist society is a breeding ground for psychopath's and their ilk.

@@spirgtudsrubec7776 If I would argue for your case, I'd rather say the stats are the way they are because women are innately more social,more understanding of subtleties, and are regarded as more emotionally unstable thus easier for them to hide. Or simply there are more men psychopaths, that's all. It does not negate your experience of perhaps suffering at the hands of a female psychopath. :)

Ningirsu 9 All you have stated in your reply are more stats, plus one other thing, you made an assumption about me perhaps suffering at the hands of a female psychopath. In my opinion we can not presume whether man or woman is the worst predator, what we can do is be on the lookout for the signs that let us know when we are dealing with one.

@@spirgtudsrubec7776 Yeah. A completely uneccessary conversation.

Capable ? Its part of their genes. Women only know how to use one tool ... men.

susan mather maybe she doesn't want to say he/she 50 times

Certain Woman are fucking horrible just like certain men are !!!

He also exaggerates a shit load. & he's said before that it would be fun to kill people. I'm honestly not comfortable being around him. It he keeps cuming around me. He lives only one street away from me, & it's a fucking nightmare. None of my other friends even have a clue of what he's really like. I've figured him out along time ago. He things he's smart but little does he know I'm WAY smarter & I can see right through his fakeness.

BrAnDoN062694420 why do you think sociopath and not psychopath or even narcissist? I don't know how you go about dissentangling from such a person especially if they decide that you are useful to them. It is my understanding that they are vengeful when they perceive injustice against them, which they are very likely to do if you try to pull away without a sound strategy. So be careful. If I were you I would visit some legit websites on sociopathy, psychopathy and narcissism and try to get advice that way. Also try talking to your doctor and get them to refer you to a relevant specialist for advice.

***** yeah thanks for your help man, you really got me thinking thanks again for your reply

BrAnDoN062694420 You call him "friend" the problem starts with you. Say this is your enemy to your self. Then the next step is RUNNING away!!!

+BrAnDoN062694420 My friend does the same, I'm psychopathic but have dealt with it very well, I'm also an INFJ (google it if you don't know what it is) and he sometimes triggers me intensely to the extent I go to hurt him and then he gives up, he isses me off extremely sometimes and I severely hurt him with no regret.

I've been diagnosed with PTSD from long term childhood trauma and the subsequent abuse pattern I've suffered ... with no effective treatment or even finding a Dr that understands...

Scott Carter Me either. In more cases than not, I was blamed and asked to "change" myself FOR my abusers. I don't think the counselor's meant how that came across, but that's how it came across. I didn't need to "change," I needed to know what was going on, then go away! There's no other way when you're dealing with a narc.

agreed, only that I sometimes feel I have a bullseye on my back and attract abusive types and I grow so tired of always being on the lookout

Scott Carter You name I got it... bulls eye, kick me sign, target, and doormat tattooed on my forehead... that's called a "professional victim". Looking into that, gave me a bit of insight. But you'll find, there's way more predator's out there than you thought - they come in all different flavors.

I think you are confusing "professional victim". That is a passive aggressive tactic for control and avoiding responsibility for ones own actions... That is not in anyway shape or form what I was referring to as "having a bullseye" ... In short, I tend to be kind and friendly and also open... Kindeness in todays world is often perceived as weakness, openness is seen as foolishness and being friendly to strangers is seen as desperation... Allot of my behavior is just how I was raised to be, and just doesn't fit into todays urban society's ... what you see is what you get with me and I pride myself for taking responsibility for my actions good or bad..and that above all makes me a target to those that actively blame others for their screw ups, ineptitude and incompetence... that's what I mean by "bullseye" ..Being an Honest person is a severe handicap is todays world... I refuse to give up and cave in to an amoral society...

YES! That's a more accurate term/definition. I hope you are well and that your life is free of deranged/toxic/evil people.

anjali grover , Thank you for your personal comment. I too have recently awakened and left a highly successful man. Overcoming the fear has been my greatest challenge. I found your words inspiring. Every morning I will remind myself that, “I do not care, it is his karma, he is trapped, not I.” I will say a pray for grace. I will promise that, “today I will work towards the life I always wanted and deserve, I am becoming the person I always was but could not be.”

My ex threatened to kill himself. I asked how I could help.

44JesusIsLord44 thank you for your useless prayer.

Bess McGaughey what do you mean the police and abuse centers refuse to help you? what are they good for if they don' t?

Let some psychopath kick my dog and i will end that mother f...... lol. Does that make me a psychopath? Im sorry you went through that, i was with a woman that had anti social personality disorder which is what a "psychopath " would be diagnosed as. With her 4 years and it was a total nightmare

Rossana Alvarado, you deserve better

Years? What would the messages say?

That's called an extinction burst, when you don't react. I'm sorry, but you did the right thing.

Mine got more mad when I didn't react. He'd sleep in another room..Then come in and yell at me with cold eyes..no blinking..Then be mad at me for not caring that he slept in the other room. Then it would escalate. I'm out now..but very disturbing. The yelling, slamming doors, or blowing up my cell phone of I went out the day after...my brain still hurts. I hope to get over this.

They think that he is normal until he isn't. Probably the children run into problems with Dad when they are teenagers. The dad is very jealous and controlling, talks about the mom, etc. When the kids get tired of that and want more, the father can feel mortally wounded, and then they can be triggered into violence or verbal abuse.

In case you are still curious... It depends, but I wouldn't say there's much grey area for long. Some who buy into a psychopathic father's mask and BS may grow up to be like him or his idealized delusion of himself, so far as naming a child after him. Those who realize what he is and challenge him or even just his BS publicly, without complete understanding, could have their lives repeatedly destroyed over decades for his amusement through: 1. A consistent pattern of friends, family, school/university officials, doctors, and colleagues contacted and fed ludicrous stories unlikely/unable to be investigated for validity in a contrived, "concerned" manner; 2. direct gaslighting with Opposite Advice presented with falsely portrayed helpful, best intentions to ensure any important decision made reflects poorly on the child/adult; 3. creating financial catastophies through these methods in order to regain financial control when the child/adult inevitably exhausts all other options; 4. loss of mother and other family; 5. human trafficking of the child and later adult without their knowledge or consent; 6. using drugs (such as methamphetamine or scapalomine) slipped to the person to make all of the previous issues less obvious or believable in extreme cases; Expect resulting Complex PTSD with no desire for human interaction if he succeeds in burning down the adult child's life enough times to ensure no one can reasonably be trusted. Proofreading, I notice this can mostly apply to at least his wives as well. Thanks

They can stick together with the psychopath because he is the stronger part. Then you havetwo psychos at home until you realize the mechanism. They us their children against you. The outcome can be parental alienation. Very sad and sickening.

Children do not question the wrongs of adults - children suffer them!!!

Once you correct your sociopath dad (in a normal and healthy way) he will lose his mind and beat the crap out of you. You are not smarter then him, ever. Ten minutes later he wil Joke around and you kinda forget about it

Lol INXS devil inside devil inside every single one of us the devil inside

"The wicked are estranged FROM THE WOMB: (serpent genetics) they go astray as SOON AS THEY BE BORN, speaking lies. Their poison is like the poison of a serpent: they are like the deaf adder that stoppeth her ear; Which will not hearken to the voice of charmers,(truth tellers) charming never so wisely." Psalm 58:3-5

Tige9999 you... You are not quite the tipical psychopath. first off, a psychopath would not tell people he is a psychopath, because that would damage his reputation. secondly, can psychopathy actually be cured? I know it can' t be cured, like autism

@@sergiom3988 Nah some psychopaths will admit they're a psychopath.

Julie Stremfel charge him with stalking, have you? I see the comment is 2 years old, has the situation changed?

Julie Stremfel Block him no contact is the only way.

Julie Stremfel, you don't deserve to be with a narcissist 😈!

Airline Robertson, you got a lovely smile

midnight rider i discribe it like a split personality, go blank and then well...for the other guy... Better hope the ambulances arrive quickly

+Adrian Weston psychopaths are narcissist too. Every psychopath is a narcissist, but not all narcissist are psychopaths.

+Some_KZfaqr That's not true. not every psychopath is a narcissist, Just like not every sociopath is a narcissist. You should get your facts straight and get in touch with some real psychopaths and/or sociopaths. This woman is a diagnosed psychopath and answers hundreds of questions each month on the "psychopath" topic: www.quora.com/Are-all-psychopaths-narcissists/answer/Athena-Walker?srid=VtoX

Adrian Weston Not every narcissist is a psychopath, but every pyschopath is a narcissist.

banaantjexx164 You sent a link from Athena Walker as fact? You know you can be wrong right?

C0TK22 Gr8 you said a sweeping statement as fact? You know you can be wrong right?

Most are nowadays but you’re 5 years ago

Barnes466 instagram and Snapchat turned them all narcissistic over night. Entitled and delusional

and I just got fired by my therapist because I am not getting better, she refuses to recognize that I am CPTSD, never checked me for it (or the ACE for example) but claims she did, and refused to treat me for complex trauma. Endless mindfulness and grounding, and I need something more aggressive after being utterly destroyed by a psychopath. So be careful with whom you hire for a therapist. If they don't get narcs/psychopaths (Plus I have a long history of childhood trauma) - find another therapist - don't waste your time. I cannot get back the time I fully wasted with this therapist - as I kept saying and asking and she kept almost gaslighting me and telling me No I don't have that thing or you didn't have that when you first came to me. My therapist strung me along from Feb to almost June, telling me that she was getting re-certified in EMDR and then would offer the treatment. When I finally started to press her on it about three weeks ago - the sessions became adversarial. Then the last and final session, she said I would fail at EMDR, that I should have presented as PTSD sooner and that she is not in a position to treat me BUT she can now (in June) start me on grounding exercises to prepare me for EMDR (that she predicts will be a failure) when she damned well knew she could have and should have started doing preparatory exercises back in Feb. 4 months wasted on nothingness with a bait and switch therapeutic approach. Fortunately, I had already starting calling other practitioners who specialize in EMDR and will be seeing one next week - but talk about even your therapist manipulates you. My brain remains like someone has taken an egg beater to it. I cannot handle any stress whatsoever. I jump at every tiny thing, I'm irritable, I cannot sleep - wake up dozens of times in one night, have emotional flashbacks where I realize something is triggering an experience from my husband or my childhood, and as a result, I am highly self-isolating. I don't go out much and rarely talk on the phone - the social interaction is exhausting. I cannot cope with being out and dealing with other people for longer than a few hours a day - max. Some days I don't go out at all - because who feels like dealing with other people's shit all the time. It's truly never ending. And my psychopath was the KING of gaslighting - so much so that he called me squirrel brained because I was always looking for my keys when I lived with him. Now, funny, I have no problem finding my keys. I suspect he was hiding/moving them on me. The divorce is atrocious - since I filed. He wanted to continue torturing me for the rest of his natural life. He has hid money overseas, 7 figures woth of money, manipulated the courts in two countries to do his bidding, and has not paid any interim support. A real scumbag. I say a prayer of thanks every day we never had kids - the worst is having to co-parent with a psychopath. Most therapists are just not geared to handle relationships this toxic and complicated. My therapist, every time I said he was a psychopath, she made a facial tick that clearly indicated to me that she was in disagreement but just HUMORING me. UGH. I feel betrayed yet again; after hearing my whole story within the first few weeks, she should have realized she in no way can handle my situation and helped me find a therapist who is more experienced with severe trauma. Nope, ring through my nose and lead me on and along. I feel scammed. This was someone I told everything to and I thought I could trust. The Montgomery Country PA USA court forced me to reveal my address to my husband not even 2 weeks after I moved out. I was shouted at like a two year old for not wanting to reveal my street address for the 1 room flop house I have been living in the past nearly 6 months - as he lives in the house. He has chased me around the globe and even would fly 8000 miles and stalk me/lie low outside that residence to see what I was doing - he did that four times in 2014. Never contacted me to let me know he was there in that country - how are you, what's up, let's meet - NOTHING. Rather, he stayed at upscale hotels while spying. He hacked my email-- hundreds of emails - the police refuse to charge him in Cheltenham Township. He has the neighbors all spying for him at our residence overseas. He has told everyone I am suicidal in the USA - I was so embarrassed of the situation, I ran from the car to the back door to go in and out of the marital residence in the USA because I was sooooo ashamed to show my face in public. What kind of person goes around and lies and tells everyone that his wife is suicidal? He spent the last six months we were speaking primarily being so kind and sweet, then exploding in a narcissistic rage when his attempts at extorting and blackmailing me failed, stating if I did not sign over the property overseas, he will reveal all kinds of things about me that will embarrass me. Then he'd drop names or facts about things I NEVER shared with him - and when I'd ask him how he knew that, he'd claim my Mother and/or Sister told him and both want to testify in Court against me they hate my guts so much. All his information was from illegally hacking my email. I cannot even step foot on my own property overseas without the downstairs neighbor aka flying monkeys coming out and harassing me endlessly - a retired judge, I might add, he has convinced that guy too that it's me. My psychopath has filed suits against me overseas stating joint marital property is really all his - he is trying to cut me out of all joint marital assets and has hidden them all over the place - open accounts/close accounts - good luck following the paper trail. He has filed contempt of court against me here in the USA. He refuses to give me any of the assets. He knows I am living on peanuts and a credit card with a 2000 limit where he then monitors everything I buy and where I go. It's creepy nuts!!!! And he has tied all this up in the court for one full year. I cannot work. My brain in scrambled. Anyway, my therapist knew all this before or as it unfolded - but then suddenly did an about face the more I pressed that I wanted EMDR and PTSD based therapy and basically out of the blue fired me and told me that normally she does an exit interview/session, but in my case, it's not necessary. Preyed upon time and time again - and it really sucks when it's supposed to be a mental health professional. The gaslighting and abuse is neverending. You live it over and over again - in the neighbors, in the police, in the courts, in mental health professionals, in lack of caring for domestic violence. IT'S DISGUSTING.

hmmm so im wondering do I take a chance with this guy my kids called one shady mo-fo and a sociopath or cut m loses now, its like cutting off my breasts to save myself from getting cancer? It have been anything or it just may save my life

It's funny. If more psychopaths tend to be men, how come so many men are commenting here about abuse. We have to stop this gender thing and look at things on a person to person basis. We can't make up facts. Bad parenting is bad parenting whether our children are boys or girls.

+T Brenneman I think you are trying to be helpful, but ultimately, you're not.

+Antony Raymond We can't just make up facts to suit the defensiveness of some men either. If there actually are more male psychopaths, then we can't ignore that and say there are just as many female psychopaths. There's certainly a lot of psychopaths in the community of prisoners, and around the world, about 95% of all prisoners are male. Do you want people to put aside the gender thing and say, falsely, that there are just as many female prisoners?How would that be fair or reasonable or properly informative?

+Alex vladz Because society treats women like a mentally deficient protected species. Laws and standards come harder upon men, because, well, we are supposed to be able to take it.

+subversive775 Yes, the unmasking of Feminism ?

Facts!!

I noticed that too..,

Osychopats are totally incapable of love. They can t love themselves or others. Trump is a sociopathic personality thst is worse than this subject being discussed here.