I held the door open for an older lady at the store, and she said "thank you, you're such a gentleman." When I thanked her, she startled and asked "oh- gentleman or gentle lady?" "Either works." "Oh! I know what you mean, I have a granddaughter who is "either works" too!" Still makes me smile

one time i was eating lunch with a guy and he turned to our friend and said “when i saw her i thought she was a guy” and i said “i am a guy” and so he asked “whats with your voice” and i made a sort of offended face and said “i have a testosterone deficiency” and he started apologizing

Here's my funny story: Early on in my transition, I had cut my hair. For reference I have black curly hair, green eyes and round glasses. I went to get some food from a shop, and a kid came up to me and started asking why I was cosplaying as Harry Potter-

I'm trans masc, at this point I hadn't realised I was and was not trying to pass, I was just dressed how I was comfy. I went into the women's bathroom at college, and this girl gave me such a glare I was taken aback. To the point I told my then-girlfriend about it. That outfit is one of my most masculine outfits now. I wasn't trying to pass, I must emphasise I DID NOT KNOW I WAS TRANS AT THE TIME.

Okay I missed this so I'll drop my story here: MtF, at my old job, not out but very feminine hair and clothes, but also not on hrt yet so I still had a bigger gut than boobs. I was talking to a customer about her family (she was shopping for gifts) and she pauses awkwardly, stares at me, then goes "OH MY GOD ARE YOU PREGNANT?!" all excitedly. She got really embarrassed when I told her I wasn't but it was so affirming. 😂

I’m not trans but something I often say to my trans friends is: “If it seems like people are staring at you, just assume it’s that they are blown away by how gorgeous you are.” I do this and it honestly helps.

back when I was in school I (ftm but at the time pre transition, though I’ve always had short hair and dressed very masculine) tried to avoid using the bathrooms as much as possible. but sometimes you just gotta go. every time I went in the girls room random girls tried to kick me out. I’d usually correct them and go on. but one time the girls literally physically kicked me out and blocked the door so I went to the boys room instead. one of my classmates was in there and stared at me. “this is the boys toilet” me: “yeah I know, got kicked out of the girls though” him: “oh ok, well hope you don’t mind the mess”. went to the boys toilet from that day on, no one ever complained or even cared.

At my uni's orientation, which happened before we moved in dorms, they had lines to sign up for a dorm for the night, boy and girl. They had signs saying "trans friendly! this is for gender identity!" however, they seemed to have forgot non-binary people exist l o l. I asked one attendant what I should do, and they all panicked and then just gave me a room for myself. Win win honestly, as I really wanted to go to bed early that night and was too tired to deal with strangers.

My funny story: I went to a public bathroom where you had to pay to go to the toilet, and so I did and started following this random lady to the womens bathroom (I’m ftm btw) because I was waaaay to scared to go to the mens bathroom. After a few seconds the person collecting the fee called me back and pointed to the mens bathroom. I was like „oh ok“ because i was so startled and walked in. But after I entered I saw that there was only one stall (which was locked) so I stood there for a looong time waiting for it to open and getting very very nervous because I didn’t know what to do. In the end the door opened and I could step in. Very awkward but very gender confirming.

To give another trans (well technically enby) story, my parents were on a call with my grandma, and while she mostly isn’t transphobic, she doesn’t think they/them can be used to refer to a singular person. This causes issues because my parents are used to referring to me exclusively with they/them pronouns. While my mom just complied with my grandma’s wishes of not using they/them (I believe this is because she didn’t want to argue with my grandma about this. Both are stubborn after all), my dad kept referring to me by name instead of using pronouns during the call, saying things like “[Name] is doing well in all of [name]’s classes” and stuff like that I feel very lucky to have him as a dad

A funny story from me: In my Arabic class, a classmate accidentally called me “he” (I’m AFAB) and she felt so bad and started apologizing, but I felt very euphoric and told her not to worry, I use all pronouns and actually preferred “he” to “she” and it was a very sweet and fun moment. :D

My horrible drug-addicted teacher (long story) put the attendance up on the board and then went to go do do something else, so it was just a class full of kids staring at this attendance sheet, with everyone's pictures and names. Everyone was talking about the attendance, about how people's pictures turned out, etc. Now, this was the beginning of the semester so I didn't know people yet, and someone asked "Hey, who's [deadname]?" Other people started asking too, and someone looked at me and asked, "Are you [deadname]?" I didn't know how to respond, but then one of my classmates, a trans girl, said "Hey [chosen name], when do you think the teacher's gonna be back?" really loudly.

I went to a doctor who was going to do pain injections under X-ray. The nurse was doing the intake at the front desk and asked me if I could be pregnant. She was very insistent that I needed to take a test. This was early in my transition before I was able to think of things to say like “I was born without a uterus”.

I'm a transmasc enby and present fluidly. I was dressed up fem to go to the bar with friends, and this is the only time I still use the women's. A woman walked in, looked at me and said "oops" and walked back out. Seeing she was in fact in the women's she just came back in and laughed, "nope, had it right." The fact that she saw me in a little goth skirt but still saw me as man and thought she was in the men's was one of the most affirming moments in my early transition.

It’s not a fail, but shortly before my GRS (I’m a trans woman) my surgery date was postponed briefly. I was crying to my mom, and she said “Don’t worry, somehow we’ll pull this thing off”. We both started laughing.

(Kinda wholesome story) One time I was shopping at Target and reeeeeally needed to go to the restroom. They had a gender-neutral bathroom near the others (I'm nonbinary) and I got really exited but realized someone was in there already so I slowly and awkwardly started heading towards the womens'. Right as I was about to enter that one, though, I could hear the gender-neutral bathroom unlock and quickly turned around and acted like I *hadn't* just been about to go into the womens'. The person (an employee) stepped out and had queer pins on their shirt, so as I passed them I went 'thank god I did *not* want to have to go in there perfect timing.' And they said something in exchange and we had a nice little laugh. Made my day at the time edit (and different story): a couple years ago I was going to the movie theater and had a bunch of candy I wanted to bring in, but obviously couldn't just walk in with it so I ended up putting it all in a bag and wrapping it up before putting it in my pants. Yes, I used candy as a temporary packer to sneak candy into the theater. And it worked hella well.

I’m trans femme for reference. One day Someone stepped on foot and said “sorry ma’am” accidentally confirming my gender. Wasn’t even trying to pass as a girl, but it worked .

This is delightful. At Disneyland once, while I was femme-presenting, but still using men's bathrooms, a boy was loudly whispering to his dad, "there's a girl in the boys room!" and his dad's response was, "that's ok. I used to have long hair too. Then I lost it all." Still cracks me up.

My funny story is that I went to see some old coworkers at a get together lunch who are mostly baby boomers and my old boss knew I transitioned but no one else did. So I showed up with my buff arms, receding hairline, and full beard, and they're all just like awkwardly helloing and one of them holds out her hand and is finally like "I don't think we've met, I'm-" and then I was like "oh you know me, I just go by -name- now". I specifically just said my new name and let them all put together the pieces and eventually it clicked and it was just fun to see the mixture of delight and horror. Horror because a few of them were either really conservative or had been that kind of middle of the road person where they're not going to harrass a gay or lesbian couple, but they'll also say things like "men should be men! Back in my day...." And now horror of horrors! One of THOSE people was in their midst. Despite that they'd ABSOLUTELY said transphobic things in front of me in the past. (I like to think maybe finding out someone they got along well with turned out to be trans changed their minds a little though. Sometimes people are just like that because all they know is propaganda straw men). Of course a couple coworkers were completely lovely and normal about it (and had, unsurprisingly, not been particularly transphobic back in the day either)

I've got a story that happened around a month ago. I'm a trans woman who's a bit over a year on HRT. I was helping run sound for a show at my local community theater. One night, my parents had come to see the show and were chatting with some friends in the cast after the performance. My dad mentioned me by name, and the cast member looked rather confused. My dad gestured towards me to indicate who he was talking about, and I mentioned that I was the sound operator. The cast member went on to say "Oh. I thought "Deadname" was running sound. Huh. This show has a huge crew." Not only did he think we were two separate people, he thought we were both running sound and I guess that one of us was just really bad about not showing up. I never did tell him the truth.

My best friend (a trans woman) was working the drive-through window when someone she knew in high school (i.e. a long time before she transitioned) came through. At first she perked up and was like, "Oh, hi!" because she knew the customer, but then realized they wouldn't recognize her now and tried to casually slip into normal customer service mode. The customer didn't seem to notice but afterward my friend giggled and was like, "Oops, that was almost really confusing for them."

My small funny story: Came out to my physics teacher (who i didn't have that year) by signing an email with my name, forgetting he didn't know. Was awkward for me after I realised but the next time we met he called me that and he hasn't slipped up since

My best trans fail (and also kinda win?) was when I was going through airport security and the detector thingy beeped and they needed to do a pat-down. I thought I would immediatelly get clocked as a woman (I'm nonbinary), because I wasn't particularly trying (wasn't even binding cause I didnt want to suffer in a binder on the plane), but the security guy just kinda stared at me for a bit and then was like "is this a guy or a girl" and I was internally like "yes! they can't tell! androgyny achieved!!" but then I realized I had to answer and I have social anxiety so my face just went red and I blurted out "i dont know, i guess a girl is fine" and they looked mad confused as the security lady gave me the pat-down and let me through

My story: I changed my name and my hair, got glasses, and started wearing men's clothes, all while not going to church for like 4 years. Went back for an event and had a woman I have known since infancy introduce herself to me... I had to be like um ok? It's me? (My dad)'s kid? 😂

This was great😂. I’m not trans, but I’ve helped some friends socially transition when they were debating their own gender identity… We were buying her dresses and a tranphob yelled at me for trying to pass as female and that my boob-job was overdone… then at my friend for betraying her sex by helping me… We didn’t bother to correct her. We just laughed out asses off lol FYI: I’ve never had any plastic surgery either

Here's my story: I'm very paranoid about my laundry. My roommates I'm the last place I lived at, I had come out to them but was still very private about what i was doing, cause I was still kind of shy and uncomfortable about being out and was working through being more comfortable with myself. Laundry day arrives, and I wash all my girl clothes in a load. In that mix were my girl underwear, which have extra padding on the front so trans women can "keep things in check down there." I pull out all my laundry from the dryer, and I make it back to my room with no one around. A bit later I hear my roommate shout to the entirety of the house "EEEEW! WHO'S GOT DIAPER PANTIES? LOL!" and I had to go explain to him who's they were and what they were designed to do. I hope I made it a even a fraction as awkward to him as the whole situation was for me. Then I went to my room and died a little on the inside 🤣 Thanks to my former roommate for accidentally reinforcing my literal fricken nightmare.

Not trans, but my friends (cisfem and transmasc) got married this summer in a super cute ceremony, and when I showed a coworker pictures she sort of paused at the bride and groom and asked something about the groom's feminine features (you know that "I'm implying a question for you to fill in" kind of thing). So I just replied, "Nope, that's just his face!" and moved on. Seriously, my friends looked perfect and I cried so much, and it was one of the nicest wedding I've ever been in. When my friend referred to her "husband" for the first time, I lost it, because I'm so happy for them both but also I've been here throughout his transition and he's so much happier now.

Im a cis woman and had to pee SO BAD when the women's washroom was closed for cleaning. I just used the men's. Ive never had much of an issue, but being older and more aware of my trans friends' struggles, I gotta say, using a gendered bathroom that doesn't match yours is kinda weird, but I also now kinda wanna be like a bathroom anarchist and just use whichever is closest. 🤣

Something I've noticed with my trans friends going on hormones. The change is quite gradual so it's often overlooked. But if they leave for a month or 2 and come back, we expect them to be like they were before they started hormones. Our memory resets to the older memory. So when they have a marginal change in that time, it's kind of shocking to see it.

Elderly cis woman here. Thank you so much for your channel. I try really hard to be an ally and you help me understand a lot of the difficulties trans folk face. And who couldn't love that username?

FtM here I went to my grandparents' place and my grandma knows I changed my name, but instead of blowing it and telling my grandad what being transgender is, she put L on the checks sent to me instead of either names, since both started with L. I was so happy she thought of that and it was really smart

Trans story from when I just started to transition. I went snowboarding with my friends at one of the indoor ski slopes. I was doing great and totally bossing the slope pulling off ever trick I was attempting. I was dressed very casually with the very minimum I could get away with. Starting Hormones was giving me hot flashers so going to play in a giant freezer was ideal for me. Anyway about an hour in I went to get on the button lift to get back to the top of the slope and the jerk from the lift,,,, well one of my breast forms fell out. I was wearing a very good sports bra (or so I thought) with an anti bounce top bit and a normal bra underneath. I wanted to keep those puppies in place and everything had been going great so far. No adjustment had been needed so far. But that jolt was a bit much and out one popped. Some how I managed to catch it in my left hand glove and keep up right on the button lift. Unfortunately the button lift then went past the window into the bar and as I slowly got dragged past the window I was now holding my breatform in my teeth while I was trying to take my gloves off to try and get it back in before I reach the top of the slope. The look of the 4 guys faces was priceless. I still see the funny side of it and I think if I can get thought that without feeling embarrassed then I can get thought anything without feeling embarrassed.

Here’s another trans story. For context, I’m not out at school. My class was doing a Kahoot, and most people weren’t putting their name, so I felt safe to put my preferred name, Axel, without other people realizing it was me. I proceeded to get 1st place, but throughout the game, there were 2 or 3 people going “Who’s Axel?” I didn’t respond to those. After the game had finished, my teacher and the other teacher in the room (it was her planning period. I also had her as my teacher in another hour) asked who Axel was, since I had gotten first place. For a good thirty seconds everyone was silent, looking around the room to see who was raising their hand. Somehow, my teacher must have noticed that I was the only one not doing that, and she goes “oh, is it you (deadname)?” I died inside. Literally everyone was staring at me.

The idea of a falling packer still makes me giggle at the mental image of it poking out of a trouser leg by your foot and having to explain.

My best (and most recent) trans story was a few months ago. Im transmasc enby, im closeted to my parents but not to the theater teachers. My high school is doing The Little Mermaid and I auditioned and was kind of afraid to get a female or more feminine role, but I ended up getting Grimsby! Best gender affirming moment ever

Hi Jamie! AFAB NB here :) Mini story, maybe for the next video...? I am not sure if this is the case for every packer, but mine you can use to pee standing up. I was super nervous about using it in public even though I'd been "practicing" at home, but one night I was wearing it out drinking with a very supportive friend. The first time I tried, I only kinda had to go and I was in one of the two stalls; as soon as I unbuttoned my pants someone walked into the stall next to me, and my body went NOPE! About an hour later at the next bar, I felt like I was going to burst - literally one wrong move and I was going to pee my pants. My friend came with me to the bathroom, and even though another cis guy came in and was obviously confused bc my friend and I were standing atadjacent urinals (which I was learning was weird in some cases) between my lowered inhibitions and my desperate need to empty my bladder due to the alcohol (and of course the support of my friend) I FINALLY achieved my goal! The guy in the bathroom looked SO confused - to him it must've looked like someone who was just drunk and super proud of finding a urinal instead of a corner or street lol! TL;DR had to get pissed drunk the first time (pun fully intended) but I did the Thing!

I generally try to hurry my bathroom trips so these don't happen but one was inevitable. A couple of months ago, I was washing my hands and this old lady came in, saw me in the mirror, and yelled "OH GOD IM IN--" and looked at the sign on the door and calmed down. I've never been more embarrassed in my life 💀

I have a few stories 1 my nana guessed I was nonbinary and said "well you should have told me earlier, by the time I got your pronouns right I might of been dead." (This one is the fun one) 2 I was using the bathroom at my school and wearing a skirt I was using the girls bathroom, I heard some people outside talking about my transmasc friend, and they were talking about peeping on him when he used the bathroom to see what he had, I figured out they thought I wad him when they leaned against the door and saw nothing cause I was wearing a skirt. So I warned him about it before they could be pervs. (That one is less fun)

Yes to a part 2!!! I'm 3 years into my transition now (ftm) and I've got quite the catalogue I'd like to share. lol That said, I have to give a hard praise to my sister. I grew up in a rural town in America. It was not safe to be anything other than cis-het-white. I moved away and broke off contact with my family there because it wasn't healthy for me to keep. Several years later, my sister reached out to me just before I changed my name on my socials. She wanted to reconnect. I told her I was all for it but that she needed to square with the fact that she doesn't have an older sister, she has an older brother. I didn't expect her to be perfect, but if she in any way wanted contact with me, she needed to be cool with it. I'd answer her questions and give her the grace I could if she was sincere. I expected her to stop all contact in that moment. The text I got back, after about 20 minutes, was "Okay. Not what I expected but I get it. I don't know what you went through growing up and it's gonna be weird for me, but I'm gonna try." And she has, for nearly a year now, done her absolute best to love and support me. Mad props to her for being willing to try.

Some funny trans stories I got from working at a grocery store while starting to transition (but having to buy things at the same store while masc presenting) I've done physical labor most of my life and due to it I have a fairly large build (I'm MTF) and I needed a lufa cuz mine just broke so I'm in the make up aisle getting one and this older couple whisper "a man like that shouldn't be buying such a feminine product" and I was genuinely dumbfounded that I stood there so long a co worker (who's also trans and new and still my friend) came up to me and asked if everything was okay apparently I stood there for almost 20 minutes in the aisle. Trans story number 2 I started work as a groundskeeper and I needed to pick up some medicine and some other stuff I don't remember the specifics from the same store now my usual pharmacist is a guy I met back in school but he was off this day so another lady was taking care of me I'm covered in mud sweat presenting fully masc and look generally exhausted a line of 5 people behind me and she loudly goes "MISS YOUR ESTROGEN IS READY IN THE BACK" I was 2 feet in front of her face

This was a small but affirming moment when I had first come out (I was 17 in Germany) and I was about to walk into a public restroom, and considering it was at a train station w a bunch of creepy dudes around I opted for the women’s restroom. As I pushed the door open, an old German lady came up to me and told me I was walking into the wrong restroom. It was affirming, but also I was very scared to use the men’s restroom but I did what I needed to 😂

One time I went to the public restroom and a waitress came up to me and was like, "You know that's the men's restroom?" yes im fully aware bruh 🤣

Part 2! Part 2! I’m a more masculine expressing woman and have people do the bathroom door thing all the time. Move along, there is nothing to see here. In my head I’m like, do you need to pee? Then pee who cares who else is in hear needing to pee.

Something similar to the story at 9:30 happened to me…I am ftm but I haven’t started T yet, and one time I was using the men’s restroom. I was in a stall when someone else came in and used the urinal. Then when I came out of the stall he was washing his hands, but when he saw me he did a double take, went to the door and opened it to check the sign, then looked at me again all confused. Meanwhile I’m standing there thinking “dude…you JUST used a urinal…did you really think you were in the women’s restroom????” Honestly looking back it’s kind of funny but at the time I wanted to die 🥲

This was near the very beginning of me transitioning, (I’d only just cut my hair short, but am lucky enough to have a masculine face) and I was trying to enter a woman’s bathroom, and failing miserably. A woman near by told me the door in fact opened the other way, and asked if I was looking for the men’s. Both a compliment and an insult, I’m glad I passed, but woman I’ve been struggling with this door for a solid 15 seconds, I know which bathroom I’m trying to enter.

Back when I was a teenager in the 1980s I had (what I guess was) a validating experience. When entering a men's public toilet, an older guy stopped me, & said "excuse me miss, this is the gents" I guess that might have been a clue to me, sadly, my egg didn't crack until my early 40s (ten years ago) I've never had any hassles using the women's bathroom in the past 10years. It's still pretty nerve wracking though!

here’s my mildly funny and really awkward trans story: i fully socially transitioned (i’m AFAB enby, but thought i might be ftm at the time) between yr11 and sixth form (i was sticking with my school but it felt like the right time). i also did NCS over summer - when i had fully started using my new name, compared to only using it amongst friends in yr11, and i did NCS through my school). this was my first time introducing myself to a group as my name - my deadname not being involved. so the first night we were all sat in this common room playing truth or dare, and it came round to me. i picked truth, as i always do, and then realised my mistake. someone from my school asked me why i changed my name. fuck. i had NOT been planning on coming out to this group, as i’d heard from somebody that one of the schools was full of homophobes. i ended up kinda explaining without really explaining (oh, yeah, *deadname* just doesn’t feel like me, so i changed it!) because i couldn’t think of a lie fast enough. it went fine tho! and actually, when i got back to school for yr12, i ran into my english teacher from the year before (so before i was out or used a different name), and she’d made the effort to learn my new name in case she ran into me! well, except for the time the week after when i just wanted some damn lunch and a group from that school were saying a bunch of transphobic and homophobic shit right behind me, clearly trying to drag me into the conversation. but i managed to grab food and sit down pretty quick and get away from them. one of them did actually end up coming over and apologising and explaining that she doesn’t agree with what they were saying but didn’t know what to do oh, and i just remembered another one! i’m at uni in the city i went to primary school but not secondary school in (basically we had to move for my stepdad’s job, and i REALLY wanted to come back and am now so glad i did!). this city has a bookshop owned by the parents of someone i went to primary school with. i was out with my mum and my gran (my mum had come up and brought my gran over for lunch), and decided to drop in. i had not seen almost everyone i knew in this city for about 10 years at this point, so obviously i looked wildly different anyway, but obvs i’d also socially transitioned as well. whilst i wouldn’t say i pass as anything, i can cause the old double glance and my voice is pretty low for someone who’s not been through a testosterone puberty (yet). so i went in, they did the “hang on….i know that face” thing and i introduced myself (hi, yeah, i used to be *deadname* i went to primary school with your kid, but now i’m *actual name!*). they were really lovely and told me to tell my mum hello from them 😂 i then also went back the day i got out of hospital from appendicitis because i wanted stuff to read as i recovered

I'm nonbinary, and my best friend from childhood recently came out as genderfluid! she's currently living in the uk and I really hope they can come back to finland in june so we can attend helsinki pride together^^ this would be the first year we both go after coming out as not cis

Once, when I went to a boarding school. I had already changed my name before starting, but I didn’t get to transition yet. Everyone knew me as my current name, but my voice was to high pitch. There was a few assholes, but most of the students weren’t questioning me. I had this one teacher who would constantly misgender me, I would correct him. Nothing in my files said anything about me being trans. In their files I was just a guy. It was my voice. With time I stopped correcting him. I got embarrassed, correcting him out loud all the time. A few months later, into the school year. A friend told me. Apparently people had noticed and saw how uncomfortable I was. Students brought it up in the student council, to talk to the teacher. Apparently other students got uncomfortable on my behalf. I never asked anyone for help. But many students, people who didn’t even know me stood up for me and decided to do something about it. I wasn’t the only one getting uncomfortable with being misgendered, but other students got uncomfortable seeing it. I’ve honestly never experienced something like that.

The moment in my transition when I realized I was starting to pass was when I went to the women's room and a woman followed me and asked, point-blank, "is this the women's room?" three times before I replied (I was already in a cubicle). Thankfully, my voice hadn't changed yet, so my reply satisfied her, and she left. 😅

One time a teacher said something like quiet down boys and girls. So I just started humming really loud. And he was obviously getting pissed. So my friend just raised her hand, stared him in the eye and said “what about non binary students?”. Glad to know she has my back.

I’m not trans, but I like to keep my hair pretty short. There are times when I like being more androgynous but I do like to dress and feel girly. During one of those times where I wanted to be more girly, I.e. wearing makeup and a nice blouse, someone walked up to me and said “excuse me,sir?” I turned around and he and his GF burst out laughing and walked away. Not super funny then, but now I know they were probably just embarrassed, but I know how to more properly dress to get the point across of what I’m feeling that day haha!

My latest funny trans story happened only a few days ago. I was taking some old toys and books to the charity shop for a donation. Loe and behold, an old friend of mine from college was working there who I'd last seen long before I started transitioning (MtF). He gave me the kinda look you have when you think you recognise someone but not sure from where or when or even if it's that person anyway. After filling out all the gift aid stuff he then said that I reminded him of my old friend [deadname]. I just said that I didn't recognise that name. I was too flustered to even say that it was me, should I go back and say? Ahhhhh 🤣

This was years before I actually came out but one time when I was still presenting as a female and use the women's bathrooms this one girl was following me toward the bathrooms and when I went in the women's she accidentally went into the men's. She didn't even look. She just saw me going one and went into the opposite. 😂 I'm actually not a man, I'm non-binary but it was still a good feeling to know that someone didn't immediately clock me as a woman.

I'm NB and don't really are much about pronouns so long as they are respectful. It's always interesting to see what people assume my pronouns are depending on my look. I got a lot of "Are you a young lady or a young gentleman?" type questions when I had my hair in a pixie cut and was around elderly people which was cute. But anyway, I'm also a cosplayer and one time I was cosplaying a character with long hair (Who canonly is genderqueer and highly debated on exactly where they identify on the gender spectrum) and walking through a convention space with some friends. A staff member called me out to make sure my prop had gone through proper prop check and they called out, "Excuse me, sir!" When I turned and responded they suddenly thought they had misgendered me and apologized due to my more feminine sounding voice. I of course reassured them that they had been fine either way and I just thought it was amusing that someone saw me in a long wig and thought "Ah yes, a sir" which was entirely new as usually long hair, wig or not, would get me a "she" pronoun.

I once made a girl double check which toilet she was currently going in because she saw me wash my hands. Another time a woman came out of the toilet saw me and a male cleaner and got really confused. I had to stop myself from smiling because I knew exactly what was going on but the cleaner didn't and continued asking her what happened. I honestly hate gendered public toilets but these moments are honestly pretty fun and gender affirming.

About the "look at me, look at the sign" thing, i'm ashamed to say I would do the same. Not because of thinking the other person shouldn't be there, or is doing something wrong ofc. Id do it because i'm completely unaware of my surroundings at all times, and id think "oh fuck this isn't my bathroom" then leave in embarrasment (i've entered the wrong batshrooms multiple times)

For me, its been a long time since I transitioned and I'm full of confidence, except for speaking. So I was at a restaurant in NYC and what caught me off guard was the presence of a restroom attendant, the ones with the trays of products who holds the towels hostage. The sink area wasn't large and I knew it was going to be awkward AF. So I sat in my stall and prepped for how I was going to interact with her when I was done, prepared my gratuity, and such. In the end, it wasn't even half as bad as I imagined and I'm guessing I escaped unread.

My most awkward trans moment was when I went into the men’s bathroom (I pass fairly well) and while I was in there a cis guy I knew came in and when I came out I didn’t know what to do so I gave him the nod and went to wash my hands 😂

Early! But I love your trans content, You’re the first Transgender KZfaqr that I’m actually interested in! And, I’m a Transgender guy who’s struggling to pass all the time- and your content makes me feel safe out in the internet :) Keep doing what you do! ❤️🏳️‍⚧️

Another one. I forgot my name once 😂. It was in the beginning of getting used to my new name. I felt so embarrassed. I was in a school meeting with a lot of people. I got a new contact, it was my first time meeting her. She reached her hand out to greet me, I took and shook it. She said “My name is “Beth” I’m your new “contact””. I was about to say my name when it suddenly went blank. I said “Hey… I forgot my name, but you probably know it… since you’re here for me” 😂

Went to a New Years party this year of friends of a friend who had always referred to these friends as 'a lesbian couple'. We'd never met, but I'd known about them for many years. Different social circle, but still part of 'the tribe'. On arrival, we said our hellos and I went to the bar for a drink, where another old friend (I hadn't seen in years) informed me that one of the 'lesbians' identified as 'they'. I said "I'm so glad you told me..... I would have gone with 'he/him' if it had come up in conversation". My old friend replied "I so wish I hadn't told you! They would have been thrilled to be gendered as masculine......." Anyway, upside is I got a new year's kiss from a lovely bloke I was told was a lesbian who identifies as 'they/them' and their lovely wife. Almost as brilliant as the fireworks!

I'm transmasc and not out yet (sadge) but one time I went to a renaissance festival in a plague doctor outfit. This was before the egg cracked and a lady running a food stand called me "sir" when I was ordering! It made me rlly happy and I finally realized why a few years later, haha.

Me and my friend are both trans, and funnily enough we had the same deadname too. Once when I still wasn't out with my new name my girlfriend's dad was trying to call me, but accidentally chose my friend's number that he had saved a looong time ago, and called him. Obviously my friend was quite annoyed for being deadnamed, and the dad was confused that a man had answered. It took a while for them to realise where the confusion was, but we had a good laugh afterwards XD

Ah, yes, the awkward bathroom experiences. They seem to be universal. I'm transmasc, transitioning for about 3.5 years now. I don't have a lot of facial hair, haven't had top surgery, but I still pass as cis male way better than I'd ever expect (according to friends). I present fairly androgynous to traditionally masculine but I have long hair right now, to between my shoulder blades. Being transmasc, naturally, I use the mens bathroom if there is not an all-gender bathroom available. I was at a geoscience conference late 2022, with my hair braided one day, and I was washing my hands in the bathroom and this man came in, saw me, said "oh, wrong bathroom," turned around and left. 🤣 Pretty funny both at the time and after the fact. No one else has said anything to me or given me a strange look in the mens room for ages.

Thank you for making the content you do. As a teen who has been going through an identity crisis about my sexuality , you make me feel valid. Love you man!

My second semester in college, my mom decided to surprise me by changing the name on the registrar from my deadname to the name I use. It caught me off guard and startled me. It would've been a nice gesture, but she knows I hate surprises, so when I heard it at the beginning of class, I was startled. I go by my first initial, so of course the professor/instructor/coach (it was a PE/health class) asked what it was short for, and I can't remember the rest of the interaction (thankfully) because I blocked it out of my memory. 😂

I am a cis women, but I was at a conference and was going from a panel I had attended to one I was going to present at and had 5 mins and really needed to pee (I was 3 months postpartum, so it was urgent!). The women's restroom had a line stretching across the lobby and the men's had no line, so I asked a guy coming at of the men's if there was anyone at the urinals in the men's. He looked at me odd and said no, so I walked in and took an empty stall. When I got out after peeing and walked up to the sink a guy who was standing by the urial about to unzip walked but out to check the door! I was like, it has urinals, yep is the men's!

So, I’m trans masc and I’ve only just realized that myself in recent years, but when I was in middle school people would refer to me in masculine ways (pronouns, titles, etc) and there were a few times that girls tried to kick me out of the girl’s bathroom. In hindsight, this is really funny, if not a bit frustrating because I apparently passed better then than I did now, but at the time I was really confused.

I love these! It’s so nice to hear stories from trans people, especially since they seem to all be remembered in a positive light, despite perhaps being awkward at the time ❤

I’m nonbinary and when the only unisex bathroom in my university is too far away, I go to the men’s (according to my AGAB), and I obviously feel uncomfortable with that, especially if there are other people in it. But once, there was a man who asked me if I was in the wrong toilet. It was an awkward situation and I just said ‘excuse me?’ as though I hadn’t understood him, and my voice is pretty telling, unfortunately, and he said ‘never mind’. But when I locked myself in the stall, I had to smile. ^-^

My absolute favorite story was I was afraid to come out to my dad, but we never saw each other so I just didnt say anything. Dec 2021, he came over to reprimand me for leaving my wallet in my car (my car got broken into) and saw my facial hair and buzzed sides. He talked for a little bit though he was clearly distracted and finally said "Okay, what is all this? Like, what, are you a lesbian now?" I laughed in the moment and explained. It took him a while to come around, but last December, he wrote my proper name on my birthday card!

Ooh! At my school, nobody cares about the gendering in the bathrooms, I love it! Like really. One time I was going to the men's bathroom (I'm a cis man) and a male-looking professor walked out of the women's bathroom. Even better, another time I was about to get out of one and another student was washing his hands when a teacher opened the door, saw us two inside (I was about to leave, like drying my hands), he hesitated then went to the women's empty bathroom. I must mention that the two stalls were empty. This man prefered going to the bathroom for the other gender just so he wouldn't be inconvenienced by passing us. And both times, no reaction. It was just, oh okay. Nobody cares about genders for the bathroom.

Thank you for making me feel accepted for being trans and being comfortable with being me

not even trans but that look at me look at the bathroom sign thing has happened so many times. it's especially funny when we lock eyes and they know i know what they thought. still better than the times where i've straight up been harassed in bathrooms.

The trolls thinking anyone gives a crap about their opinions, all their comments do is boost Jamie's channel. Aww thanks 😁

SO. regarding public bathrooms. Here's something i learned long ago. (don't remember where, doesn't matter) If you walk into a place and act like you know what you are doing, people will assume you belong there. Pick up an empty briefcase, walk into any office, and they'll expect that you know what you are doing. (don't try this buuuuuut) if you have a business casual attire and a briefcase, you can walk into a car dealership and call yourself IT, they'll let you in. Same goes with bathrooms. You belong there. everybody poops. If you go into a bathroom, do your business, and walk out, nobody says anything, because they assume you belong there. If you are afraid of public bathrooms, walk in like you've been there a thousand times. Do your business, wash your hands, maybe check your hair in the mirror, walk out. The only times i've had issues in a public bathroom were when i wasn't confident in myself. And whoever you are, you are better than me. You are valid, you kick ass, and you are 100% better than whoever thinks -they- own whatever bathroom it is. Don't stoop to their level. be awesome. be you (same thing) And poop like the monarch you are.

My favorite trans story of mine is when I (afab genderfluid) and my best friend (trans woman at the time, but has now detransitioned and is back to using he/him pronons) where going out together, to but groceries or whatever, and when people would refer to me as ''miss'' he would be the one ansewring, and when people would refer to him as ''sir'' I would be the one ansewring, and honestly people confuses faces was fust SO funny ! Also : really nice jumper !

Here is my awkward but funny story (I'm a transmen) : So i had to go to a sex shop to buy a packer and pump , my friends was accompanied me , it was my first time so i was so SO shy. As i check around the store with the kind woman (she knew i am trans) , my friend touched a squeezable egg and he squeezed it so hard that the egg flew away from the package and fall right in front of my feet , we only saw that egg flying and my only reaction was : Oh yay free balls ! I Don't need to go to surgery ! The woman was laughing so hard and my friend quickly ran away from the store.

I have a story: A few days ago, I was in school with my coat (the only somewhat feminine piece of clothing that I own) talking to my best friends (one of which is a trans boy). Then, a girl I know bumps into me and almost makes me fall on one of my friends. She apologized and said: "Sorry! I thought you were a girl!" And I just blushed. My trans friend just smiled and we both went: "Yay! Gender euphoria!"

I recently cracked the egg and came out as a transman and started taking steps to socially transition. No binder yet, but some very nice sports bras meant for running that flatten things to a comfortable level for me, and I cut my hair short. I've been working on the voice, but my natural voice is kind of a slightly feminine leaning neutral, so so long as I don't get nervous and pitch it up most people don't really ask too many questions. I was going to my first checkup after the change, and my husband and I had discussed previously to save talking about my transition for the next appointment since my migraines needed to be the priority for this one, and I was chill with that. Except one of the first things the nurse practitioner did was ask what my preferred name was, what my pronouns were and how I identified, and I almost burst into tears then and there. Even though I only recently came out I've had a preferred name for over half of my life, and having to deal with hearing my deadname for doctors appointments has always made me want to climb out of my own skin, so it was such a relief!

I'm transmasc and my name is Felix :) I'm white but I have an aunt who's Latina (we're related by marriage). When I came out to her this summer, she was very affirming, but she called me Felipe at least once. 😂 Also- being called mijo by her was one of my most euphoric gender moments (so far!!) She's amazing and I love her so much 🥰

i have one from last year: when i was walking to the toilet in school, my packer had fallen down my pant leg into my sock/shoe, and onto the floor. honestly, im glad that no-one was behind me to see that.. that would have been very uncomfortable and awkward. edit: im a transgender male, nonbinary at times, and is going by he/they

A great video as always. Some of those stories must have been so stressful at the time. I am a cis man but I have long, past my shoulders, long straight hair. A number of times at work I have been washing my hands in the bathroom when someone has walked in, seen me and opened the door again to check the door sign. It makes me giggle inside and it's hard not to smile when I leave.

When I was 10 and everyone thought I was a tomboy, I flew overseas with my family. One of the people seated behind my brother and I thought we were brothers, and then after being told I was a girl, called me the "girl brother" because they didn't know much English. Happy memory. (Now ftm)

Hi, I’ve not long come out as trans ( MtF ) to my family/ friends and work. Just want to say loving your videos and this one was brilliant. Thank you and keep them coming 😊

I have two good trans stories. Only is the way I actually worked out I wasn’t cis. I was having this long conversation with a friend at uni about gender and we got just really indepth into a bunch of things. It obviously hit a note with me and I kept thinking on the topic on the way home and back to uni the next day, where I came out to that friend when I saw them. Turns out the whole point of that conversation was them trying to gain the courage to come out to me as genderfluid. And I not only worked out I wasn’t cis during the conversation but also still managed to come out before they did. The other story is less wholesome, because it starts with the fact that my at the time partners friends were refusing to use my pronouns because the one time they saw me they decided I was too feminine to be NB. I ended up sending my partner some of my more masc selfies to put inconspicuously into their group chat as like a “hey look at this cute guy from one of my classes” and apparently one of them ended up asking if my partner could set her up on a date with me.

My kid is nonbinary and recently told the local librarian their preferred name. When we checked their account with the library recently we noticed the librarian added their preferred name to their account! This is the same library where I helped fight homophobic church groups who were trying to get all the lgbt+ books removed from our library several years ago.

Not trans but I have an embarrassing story. I was going at length about how I used to be transphobic because I didn't understand it at all, but now I understood it more and I was still working on it because I just don't know what it's like. Then my coworker came out to me as trans as soon as I finished talking about it. I was mortified and apologized profusely, hoping he knew I'd respect him and all that. He just laughed and basically said, "yeah, that's why I knew I could tell you." I know I turned beet red from embarrassment though. But it felt good that i was one of the first people he told and he teased me about it from time to time

I’ve got one, it’s not really funny (kinda is to me) but it’s more sweet. Ok so back in 2022, I was dating someone (we are still together) I am Afab and a couple months into the relationship I realised I was ftm. The person I was dating identified as lesbian and for months before I came out to them I was in full on panic. Anxiety levels skyrocketed, I would constantly cry, overthink etc when I finally decided to come out. I was expecting the worst that she might hate me but it wasn’t like that at all. Here’s what the conversation looked like Me: I have something to tell you Them: yeah? Me: *awkward silence for like 2 minutes* I’m trans. Them: ok :) pronouns? Me: what? Them: what are your pronouns? Me: he/him Them: cool :) So yeah in short I panicked for months on end about coming out to my friends and partner only for them to be the most supportive people ever. Sorry if it’s not funny I just find it funny and want to know if others do too

That person who looked at the bathroom sign three times probably didn't not trust that the trans person was in the right spot, but questioned whether they themselves were in the right spot.

I do my best to follow safe binding rules.... but my job is 8hrs long and my binder is like a safety blanket at a shit home situation (not parents but partner I'm trying to lose). Great video as always!

This happened when I first went out to college. I was religious at the time and got in nicely with the local branch of my church. I was 100% out at school but not in my church, but that's another story. There was a guy at my church who worked so hard on remembering my name, I believe he introduced himself as Tony. Anyway, I left for the summer to go back home, and when I came back, I was 100% in never forgive trans mode. Everyone I told my deadname to, I told my proper name to and most of them went along, until Tony. He said that he'd spent so much time trying to remember my deadname, and if I wanted him to call me by my proper name, I'd have to call him by his. I can't remember it right now because it's been years, but I believe it's Pardeep. Anyway, I immediately switched what I called him and never missed a beat, always using his name, never once stumbling to remember it. We weren't great friends, and once covid hit, I didn't go back to classes in-person and haven't spoken with them again. Anyway, feed the algorithm and the excuse people use that your name is hard to remember is total BS

Dude when I first came out and I hadn’t told many people yet, I decided to use the men’s restroom for the first time. I passed pretty well, and it was just to wash my hands (Oh yeah COVID) but I was pretty nervous. I stood outside of the bathroom for like 5 or 10 minutes and finally got the courage to step in, only to be FACE TO FACE TO ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS WHO I WAS STILL CLOSETED TO. We made eye contact as I walked in and he walked out and he gave me this confused look and then one of recognition, as it all came to him. My heart almost stopped in that moment. I’ve been able to go in the men’s restroom with absolute confidence since then (I mean how could it get more stressful than that) and we still laugh about it today

Multiple people have miskated my name for a ton of things such as -Alec -Aris -Eric -Erin -Alex My name is Arix.

My mum thought I was going to come out as a lesbian when I came out but then I told her about my gender and she went "ah yeah that actually makes more sense" 😂

“Like a good bit of revenge😈” is probably one of the most British things I’ve ever see. 😂❤

Part 2 definitely! And I'll share one of mine from a recent trip. So I was coming home from a wedding in the UK and had several layovers and was COMPLETELY exhausted by the time I got to the second layover in Detroit. I was just walking around in the airport and decided I needed to use the bathroom, saw the big signs for the bathrooms, but was on my phone as I THOUGHT I was walking into the men's restroom. From like 10-15 feet away I just hear a woman yell, "sir! That's the women's room!" I look up and sure as heck she's right. I thank her, and never felt more gender euphoric while also being so exhausted.

I’m not trans, but I have used the mens restroom many many times when the women’s was too long. Especially if it’s a single stall bathroom. The confusion on some faces were hilarious- but a good chunk of guys just kinda shrugged it off ~ progress! Also when cleaning the men’s for work I kinda lived for the confused faces. Imagine a tired sweaty girl looking up from wiping down the urinals and just gesturing to them saying “go ahead”

My kind of crazy trans story: I'm a trans guy. I was going home from a party early in the morning, heading the subway. A group of women, specially one approached me. They were apparently prostitutes. The woman was very close to me, said I looked nice and asked if I was a man or a woman. I said I was a guy while trying to run/scape the situation. Then she gives me my phone, that was in my pocket (it was a deep pocket) saying it fell off. I think I scaped being robbed because both me and the woman were trans so she didn't want to rob from the community (I have the trans flag as wallpaper and I think she saw it). As a brazilian I appreciate the brazilian meme (the confused woman with the equations).