I wouldve start yelling "WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU?! YOU THINK BABIES ARE SEXY???!!!" then see what happens

“Dress your age” she’s 27. She can wear whatever the hell she feels like.

As a woman under 5', I can confirm that people definitely percieve petite women as young or trying to be young. When people ask me how old I am, they either get very surprised at my answer or tell me that I'm "just a baby!!!" and act like I'm the most adorable thing they've ever seen (I'm 27). It can be very condescending and weird

I used to wax people professionally, you have to be properly trained to wax male genitals. If you aren't you can cause massive bruises and other issues.

Okey, so let me get this straight. KZfaq will allow you to say "molestation" but not "abortion"? What the hell is this website anymore???

So, dressing in a manor that is perceived as sexual is apparently childish? The cousin is weird, to say the least. The fact that she is apparently constantly thinking about "sexy babies" is insanely creepy

Story 2: How did rSlash fail to mention that the husband decided he couldn't be a stay at home dad because it is too much work for 1 person...only to immediately suggest that OP should take on exactly that role?!? The hypocrisy is strong with that one.

Idk man…i think if someone nearly burns your house down because they forget that plastic is flammable, you’re allowed to call them a dumbass. NTA Op

as a non-American, i'm more shocked by the fact that a homeowner can be charged if firemen stay over an hour fighting a fire.

Remember kids: Plastic and heat do not mix! Please don't put plastic in your oven and stop others from doing just that

“A mistake that anyone could make” yea, it is a mistake anyone could make. Anyone that’s simultaneously piss drunk and blazed so hard they’re on a planet simultaneously maybe.

As an Open trans man, who has not have bottom surgery. 110% She's in the right here. I would NOT be comfortable knowing that my waxer had no experience in waxing the parts I do have. And to help find someone who is, 110% support there!

the fact that SIL in story 4 keeps bringing up pedo-shit is kind of a red flag.

Hey. I'm transmale, and not transfemale. So take my thoughts with a grain of salt. The moment OP said they offered to help their client find someone who specializes in trans people to do their wax, I knew they were not the a-hole. A trans phobe would tell her to leave and not provide help.

‘Don’t call me dumb, any reasonable adult could think it’s ok to bake some plastic and nearly destroy your home….’ I think I’d break up with her

Yes. It is 1000% jealousy. As a petite woman myself, I can't tell you how gross it is to have people infantilize me and try to insinuate my partner is a creep for being attracted to me even though besides being short and skinny, I'm a fully developed woman. It says way more about the ones infantilizing us for simply existing than it does us.

op 2: unexpected pregnancy a good chunk of us listening: "unexpected" pregnancy

Anyone else take notice of how the husband started to want to get a kid and not long after the condom broke and OP became pregnant? Might just be a coincidence but you never know.

Story Two: Why do I get the feeling that the husband has been playing OP the whole time? Maybe it's just me being paranoid, but he was so fine with this agreement until he spent two days alone with the baby, and NOW all of a sudden he wants to go back on the agreement? Something seems very fishy to me.

for the last story, as a trans man if i was going for a genital piercing or tattoo or waxing and who i went to said "im sorry i dont have the experience or materials to make this go well" or "im not comfortable doing this on female genitalia" id understand and talk to them about who i could go to that would fit me better, not have a fit that the person i just met with didnt have the right excperience or wasnt comfortable. i understand her frustration but just like therapy, not everyone is gonna be a good fit for you and you have to find the perfect person to ensure both your and their safety and comfort.

When it comes to the waxing story, there was a court case in Canada where it was determined that if a professional waxer denied someone due to lack of experience, it was in the best interest of the client. So basically, the last woman is NTA. She tried to help the client find someone who did have the experience necessary to perform the service, but the client denied that help. There's really nothing to be done about that.

1st story: NTA. Niece will believe everyone will believe her. Next she'll be telling people op or someone at party were touching her badly. Or something real bad. Unlike the first accusation where police might not do anything as no proof. theyll take any child abuse very seriously even with 0 evidence. because better safe than sorry (whats worst believing a child liar....or not believing one telling the truth...a liar...an investigation, reprimands, etc will happen. but ignoring will make things worst potentially)

Story 4: woman will criticize other women for literally anything, if a girl is too short She’s a child that can’t be taken seriously, if she too tall, she’s a tomboy giant. But God help you if you ever insult them back for literally anything, you’re a terrible person picking on someone for just being honest, or joking, or you’re doing something to make them say that. Keep in mind SIL actually have any real suggestions on how you’re supposed to dress, because she’ll say that no matter what you wear. You could wear jeans in T-shirt and she still call you that. And given how she is constantly doing this in front of everyone for literally no reason all the time I don’t think her idea maturity really means anything. She’s more upset that the family found out she’s been bullying you.

Regarding the “sexy baby” story, I can sympathize as a short man. People don’t take us short men seriously either.

Story 4: I don't know why that happens either. Like, Cassie clearly knows that she's poking a bear with that comment, because why else would she be getting all defensive and calling OP childish when OP calls her out. If I was OP, I don't know what I would've done

Just the same as it’s not transphobic to not want to sleep with a trans person because of genitalia, it’s okay not wax someone because of genitalia. Also male genitalia is completely different to wax so it can be unsafe to ‘just wax it’. Even then, the comfort of the stylist is paramount. If they don’t wax male genitalia, whether on a man or a woman, then that’s their choice. It doesn’t make them transphobic. If it was eyebrows or underarms or legs, absolutely you’d have a case to argue transphobia, but in a case where genitals are the subject, and just as it’s not sexist to not wax certain genitals, it’s not transphobic!

Last story: So I'm a transgender man and I just wanted to say that the OP's reasoning for not wanting to wax Alex is totally understandable and justified. I always get so sad when I see fellow transgender people act entitled and claim transphobia at the drop of a hat because it just thickens the stigma around transgender people and the stereotype that transgender people are all very overly sensitive and stuff🥲 Also since we're on the topic, it's not transphobic to not want to date a transgender person for not having the genitalia you're attracted to! People don't get upset if you prefer blondes over brunettes, so if you prefer dating cisgender women or fully transitioned transgender women, that's not transphobic and totally fine, it's just a preference. Thank you for your time👍

Dude, the "sexy baby" story hits home. My wife, who is 30, is 4'11" and likes cute things, and holy shit, social media goes after her for dressing cute or sexy. They come after me, who's a 6'1" trans woman, and allege nefarious reasons for my marrying her. Also, the esthetician is, in my opinion, not in the wrong. She's allowed to have her own limits on something as personal as another person's genitals. I really appreciate that she tried to give Alex information on trans catering waxing techs, I would have loved that when I was in her shoes.

Story 2: Let's be clear OP. You did not overreact. You didn't even want to have a biological child, but he agreed to stay home to have a kid. The deal was logical as well with your better income. Him backing out seems a bit controlling, though I could be wrong. It kinda makes me think that he might have sabotaged the condom, though.

Girlfriend who nearly burned down the house out of (lack of) critical thinking reminds me of a friend I had growing up. She was super sweet, and funny, and protective, but man.. The hamster wheel in her brain was rusted, and immobile. She pulled a lot of stupid shit, but my personal favorite was her burning ramen. Specifically, the cupped chicken Maruchan ramen. She was hungry after school one day, and I told her she was welcome to make one if she wanted (this was established previously, we basically spent every minute together) and went outside to say hi to the other kids living a couple of doors down. I come back, and the entire living room is FILLED with a horrid, scorching scented smoke. I start panicking and run to find her. She made the Styrofoam cup in the microwave, which isn't the best to begin with because plastic absorption, but this girl just ripped the top part off and threw it in the microwave, WITHOUT WATER. For clarification, she was 15. I was 12. WHERE DID SHE THINK THE RAMEN BROTH WOULD COME FROM?! 😫

Anyone else find the timing of this unplanned pregnancy in story 2 wildly convenient for the husband. There is definitely a version of that story where the husband always planned to go back to work

I used to work for a popular chain waxing salon, and it’s VERY true that waxing every part of the body required a different, very important kind of training. Lots of was specialists don’t have the training to safely wax male parts, it’s something they have to elect for while studying and most don’t see the need.

Story two, did the condom really break? Or was ops husband sabotaging things to try and make her a housewife.

Hire a nanny, but use the husband's full salary to pay them

As a transwoman myself, I understand Alex’s frustration, but OP explained herself very well and I would rather have someone who was experienced in waxing what I have and putting my comfort first. NTA

Story 4: unless the one piece bathing suite had frilly bits or the dresses were like dolls dresses, what the hell is OP meant to wear? even then, she should still be able to wear them, the only problem I could foresee is if she was also acting babylike, particularly with a boyfriend/husband. Story 5: OP can refuse service for any reason, if she was a biological woman and as soon as she disrobed she had warts all over her genitals, same thing she can refuse service. she could refuse service purely for not feeling comfortable with the person, no matter what the biological sex is. you should not be FORCED to touch another persons genitals.

Story 1: I’m having a hard time believing your niece was is the one saying all of that. I’m going to ask all the parents on this video. If your kid called and told you all the adults at the party was drinking and smoking weed, even offering her some, wouldn’t you pick them up? She was told everyone was drinking and getting high, but her daughter to go find someone sober to drive? It’s not like the mom couldn’t go get them, and if you don’t even trust your own sis to drop them off, why would you leave out to any random person there even if you know them because apparently everyone is doing something wrong according to you. It’s a party filled with people you know, children, and you just believe the 17-year-old with no questions asked?

Second story, not buying that the condom broke aaaat all. I bet if she presses him, he did it in purpose. What a coincidence after his friend had a kid and him saying he wanted one so badly despite knowing she didn’t want one, and then ooopsie the condom broke. Let’s keep it. Then promising to take care of it and only lasting 2 days??? OP run dude.

Story 5: I'm LGBTQ+ myself and I don't think she was being discriminitory. Even tho I can understand Alex being frustrated businesses have a right to refuse to provide services to clients. I also think it's especially valid if they know they're not equipped to provide a service a particular client needs.

Child care story: the fact that the dad freaked out after 2 whole days tells me that he hasn’t done any of baby’s care since she was born. If he had, he would have had a better idea of what he was doing.

For the first story It feels to me like either A) The niece felt uncomfortable or just didn't want to stay for whatever reason so she made up this lie in order to go home B) The niece was mad at OP for something they did and they became petty in order to "Get Back At Them" There could be other reasons why the niece is like this but that's what I could think of. I can't tell if the niece legit didn't realize what her lies would've caused (She is 17 after all) But it does sound super weird she'd just lie for no reason. There has to be something more that's causing this.

Wax story: woah woah woah. What if she did it anyway, and hurt Alex unintentionally? I'm on OP's side

I am also a trained esthetician license in Canada. I have been trained in both male and female waxing. They are completely different. The skin on some more dangling areas on men are very sensitive and also sometimes very hairy and requires a different kind of wax entirely. Biological men here also tends to be thicker. I also don't want to service male clients in that way. So sadly I made my practice shorts on services meaning I will not do anything bikini line or genitalia area at all

Story 2: One weekend and he wants to completely go against the agreement and make you a SAHM, knowing your stance on the situation. He wanted this, he knew your stance on this. He can’t just go against it now that it’s time that actually put in the work. Welcome to parenthood, he wanted that he’s getting it. You can work out getting him some help , trying to find a way for you to be more included in parenting, maybe see if their family member are willing to help get him on some sort of schedule. But know you will not be ending your career because he didn’t expected to be as hard as it was for those two damn days.

Story 2: I would bet my hand that the "accident" with the broken condom was NOT an accident... And I am pretty sure that I would win the bet. What a coincidence, don't you think?

With the Trans Woman: You're allowed to have boundaries, and it's not transphobic! Alex, needs to put herself in your shoes. What if you messed up during the waxing? That's a very sensitive area.

this woman in the second last story is legit like terminally online twitter users who think short people = children and infantilize them

I’d rather someone tell me they’re uncomfortable and not do it than be uncomfortable and proceed. Please don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with.

“It’s a mistake anyone could make”… Honey, sweetheart, baby cakes. No

Story 5:If i was Alex,I would've wanted someone with proper experience,Which OP doesn't have,NTA

Last story: thank you R/, transgender or not if someone is uncomfortable going near a certain area on certain people that’s all that matters. Not everything is a damn hate crime, yes, you are not a man mentally but physically you have the parts and that just does not magically disappear. For the sake of the customer you should want someone who knows how to handle that to do it anyway.

5th story: I have a trans woman (pre op) friend and she had wax once after transition and she described in VIVID detail that it hurt TOO MUCH specially because the hormones make the skin more sensitive. After that, she gladly just waxed with professionals who are trained to deal with male genitalia on hormones because it's way more delicate than the outer labia. If the procedure is done the same, it can tear the skin of the testes off. NTA, if the OP isn't trained and proceeded, she could have hurt Alex VERY BADLY and Alex should understand it.

Regarding the last story, As a trans person myself. I have no problem with the fact she refused. In fact i think it was a bit bad that the client didn't inform her that she was trans while taking her appointement. I mean. it's not like an appointement to the hairdresser where no one care if you're trans or not, here, we are speaking of genitalia. it's clearly a more sensitive matter. and i think it's fair to ask if they are ok with it before taking an appointement. Sure it can feel bad to be rejected from multiple places, but you also easily can find places that will do it without problem. So yeah, i really don't see any transphobique stuff here. just someone that lacked a bit of common sense by not warning the person who gonna have to take care of their genitals. A bit sad that it always endup as "discrimination" and "transphobic" and ruin people reputation instead of just being taken as logical..

15:05 even without the personal restrictions for not being able to assist Alex, aestheticians can’t wax male presenting anatomy in the same that they would female presenting, ripping is too high risk. I’m glad that she gave her options and treated her respectfully. Source: I’m a trans man who has dated an aesthetician 😂

PVC will release chlorine gas when burned. Wouldn't surprise me if that is what the guy after the fire story inhaled

The moment I heard "plastic pizza cutting board", I paused the video for a solid minute with my head in my hands in disappointment

*Sees AITA video* "Awh shit, here we go again"

Sounds like the niece is a pathological liar

If my cousin would keep referring to me as "S**y Baby", I would simply reply to her: "Well good thing there is diversity in bodies, we can not all look old and used up, can we"?

One issue in the last story is that "biological Woman" is considered a bit of a dog whistle amongst the TERF crowd. So if OP used that exact term I can see why Alex got really upset

Last story: OP could only lose, unfortunately. No matter what she did, someone would have been angry. NTA

Story 1 Edits: Edit; thank you all for your comments, we DO have cameras in our pool area and I will be showing and sending footage to both my sister and brother in law. Also they both work in law enforcement as well and do know what these type of accusations can do to mine and my husband’s careers. Another detail to add is that they themselves have been contacted by the school for accusations my niece has said about them and vice versa where they had to contact teachers for something my niece accused them of as well. I understand being a parent and standing by your child’s side but when they’ve had to deal with this situation before.. Last edit: My niece is in therapy and has been for a couple of years. It was suggested by her school counselor and her parents found a therapist and she sees them like once or twice a month. She has a really bad perception of therapy as her parents say therapy does not work and is only for “crazy” people and now she seems to have the same perception. Not everyone in law enforcement is a cop lol I work more in the clerical side of my department, I’m finishing up school to be more in the psychology side of things. Whereas my sister and BIL work more hands on with inmates. I told my sister about the cameras and emailed her any and all footage from the backyard and front. She then told me that I was being over dramatic with the whole situation and that we all know her daughter lies. I reiterated how lies like that could cost me my job or my friends jobs and she said “it’s not like you have a real law enforcement job”. She that she doesn’t feel like an apology is necessary. I didn’t feel like fighting anymore and decided that NC would be best for now. Throwing this in here since it’s on the same topic: I spoke with my brother (26M) about the situation. Growing up with three older sisters, he always knew how to stay out of the drama and always be neutral with all of us. He lives a state away and we don’t have much contact besides the occasional “how are you” texts. I told him about the situation and asked how he would handle it. COME TO FIND OUT, she did the same to him at my wedding about 8 months ago. My brother works with kids and that could have cost him his job as well! My niece told her parents my brother was sneaking her drinks and they believed her, even though they were AT my wedding as well. He said he went NC after that since he didn’t think the drama was worth it as he lives a whole state away and doesn’t really come visit unless it’s for Christmas. Which he didn’t this past year but we all thought it was because he had just been in town for my wedding.

Rslash, I have to be honest. I have a 21yo daughter, and I'm not 100% confident that she wouldn't try to cook plastic by mistake. Some people, just struggle with common sense.

With the pizza story, I feel like she would be the type that puts aluminum in the microwave. Also with that short story, that is so annoying. How op's cousin was calling op childish when she's being childish

Id honestly start refering to the lady as a creep to everyone. Calling someone a sexy baby when they tell you to stop probably consititutes sexual harrassment.

So I probably wouldn't call my girlfriend a dumbass but if she put a plastic cutting board in the oven it's a fairly dumbass thing to do.

"She was understandably upset" no. That is not understandable. She was looking for a confrontation so she could play the victim. I'm so sick if those cry bullies. They love to manipulate people and try to gain power over them by playing the victim.

One day my mom used the oven. We keep all sorts of things in there when it's off. Things like trays and a million of wooden cutting boars. That day there was also a container with toasted sesame seeds. My brother called my mom angrily and told her she left the container in the oven! Luckily it was made out of glass but the plastic lid was gone. We threw what was left of it away and wrapped the container in cling film instead to save the seeds.

As a young adult who is 4’9, I’ve had older men be creepy towards me and look at me like a bag of meat simply because I was petite. I live in a state where pdf files are common, and I once almost got kidnapped because of how vulnerable I look. I can’t go to a store by myself without a wrinkly man staring at me. I’ve had peers my age say that “loving me would be akin to pdf ilia.” It gets tiring, but I try to never be ashamed of my height. As I say, the smaller the perfume, the more expensive it is.

Last Story: NTA. This is so predatory to NOT discuss this up front with the esthetician and to expect her to do something like that when _she doesn't want to_ and calling her phobic because she won't do it is manipulative AF. She even offered to help that person find someone who could/would do the work!

No no no. They're so heavy on others respecting their feelings, but they SECOND your feelings don't align perfectly all the sudden you're 'phobic' and discriminatory.. Just because you don't feel comfortable with touching another man's genitals. Not even out of disrespect, but in respect of your husband! Nah that's insane 😂

I may get some hate for this. But for the last story, I think OP needs to have something in their booking policy that specifies "Biological Woman". Because if that wasnt clear when booking I understand the frustration of Alex. OP is not the AH for the interaction or her boundaries, but may be a small AH for not having a clear definition of what they can offer. You can't say 'serves all women' then not serve a subset group of women. If the reverse happened, FtM and the genitals were still bio women, but the rest was male, how would they have acted? It's just that a clear set policy that's well established and easily found before hand may've saved this from happening.

Story 3: she’s right it can be a common mistake,, my cousin once made this mistake once, didn’t cause that much damage though. Of course he was 6, and did it after he was told to wait a minute because everyone was preoccupied. Then again he was the only person that ever made that mistake, you know because it doesn’t take genius to explain that plastic melts.

Story 2: we call this bait and switch. He always intended for OP to be the SAH parent.

Do you know how hot you have to get an oven to use a pizza stone?? It’s like 500 degrees! And she seriously thought a plastic cutting board would not be affected!? How is this woman still alive!?

Fun fire fact, burning refrigerant will kill you quick, stay away from AC units, fridges and similar items on fire unless you want to liquids your lungs

Local man feels exactly what millions of women feel when they are forced to have a kid if they’re not 100% ready for AFTER TWO DAYS

13:40 there is body shaming for short people all the time, for men it's mostly just being generally undesirable since "women are into tall guys" but it's worse for women because they get told that the only men who will be attracted to them are pedophiles, which is REALLY fucked up

Last story: NTA. Genitals are a sensitive area overall, and not only OP wasn't familiar with shaving male genitalia, she had a boundary for it for the same reason she wouldn't shave a biological male or even a post-OP trans man; Also another sign OP wasn't transphobic is that she not only suggested to Alex she could very well find someone who could attend her better, she also was still going with the procedure after finding out Alex was trans, but before finding out she was a pre-op one, showing OP would very well still accept shaving a pre-op trans man or even a post-op trans woman; Also the people saying to OP "you should've just done the wax": yeah so instead of getting mixed feedback, OP would get a horrible reputation because Alex would walk out of the session with her skin down there in pretty bad condition and damaged, all because OP lacked knowledge on how to wax male genitalia, and open for a malpractice lawsuit depending on how bad OP screwed up.

Last story: Transfem here. I always make sure places like those are okay with working with me first. Op did everything right and even went beyond trying to help a trans frie dlt location, Alex overreacted

last story: i argue op is only slightly the asshole. but not because she refused service. rather, because she put her weird agreement with her husband first before mentioning alexs safety and her inexperience with penises. that comes across to alex as she has more concern about not touching penises than the safety of her client. op should have just left her reasoning as “hey, im not experienced in this, so i cannot guarantee your safety. because of that, im not comfortable performing this service due to the high potential i will cause you harm.” her offering to help alex find someone who was experienced was a very generous move as she is not obligated to do so.

Last story : NTA in my opinion

Last story: NTA. Regardless of how you identify, if you go to someone who is trained in waxing vaginas with a penis you will more than likely be turned away...not out of malice or transphobia, but because more than likely they dont have the training to wax you and could hurt you. That is a lawsuit waiting to happen. It is also worth being said that the waxer might also just be uncomfortable waxing the opposite genatalia, we are all human and have our boundaries.

Last one - I had to explain to my husband that "wax" is more like tape and you can lose skin if this procedure isn't done correctly.

you can say molestation but you can't say abortion?

Story 2: Does anyone else think the husband engineered the condom "breaking" as a way of forcing OP to have a child, as he always wanted? Now he’s trying to trap her in domesticity, after just two days of not even trying to fulfil his end of the deal. NEVER let yourself get talked into having kids/not having kids by your partner. If the two of you have different wants then the relationship is totally incompatible and destined for disaster. OP honestly should’ve taken the morning after pill or gone ahead with the termination after her husband’s "accident"; if she stays with him, I wonder how long it’ll be before he "accidentally" knocks her up again with another kid?

Thank you for the PSA on smoke Dabney. Not a fire fighter, but have family that were, and awareness of how deadly smoke can be is vital to know. Thankfully for OP, food safe plastic also doesn't out gas anything that will insta kill you, but it's best to be aware.

For the last story, and a trans nonbinary person I agree NTA. It's not like she said she only provides services to real women and kicked Alex out. She just explained that she not equipped, experienced or comfortable handling male genitalia and offered to help Alex find a new place. OP feels very respectful about the whole situation

That last women was just pushing other people's boundaries.

I’m honestly not surprised the pizza girl didn’t know how to cook Most people nowadays have 0 knowledge when it comes to the kitchen

The trans-woman client story: I am a transman so I understand this feeling of possible discrimination well through experience. OP of the story is NOT being discriminatory. Taking personal feelings/agreements out of it, if OP does not have the experience in waxing clients with male genitalia, it is entirely reasonable that she defers to someone else who does. Why should OP possibly get in trouble or sued if something goes wrong during the waxing due to inexperience? At that point, it has nothing to do with the client being trans as a cis gender man would be rejected in the same fashion and for the same reason. Frankly, while it is uncomfortable for the trans person, the client should have made the point known when booking that they are trans, especially when it comes to intimate areas... that's a policy I go by anyway and I try to be transparent about this when necessary just to save everyone time. Taking OP's personal feelings into account, she is the one who determines who she takes on as clients. She could reject someone for any or no reason at all. She'd need to deal with the consequences of rejecting someone, of course, like lost income or the possible rumors about discrimination but, I think OP assisting in finding the client someone who can meet their need says enough that it isn't based on prejudice against the person, it was based on inexperience with waxing male genitalia. I'd make the same decision in their shoes. Why would anyone risk their entire livelihood on that when there are people who can do it more safely? Maybe OP could consider training for this situation in the future if the agreement with the husband could be discussed. IMO, society is becoming a bit too overly sensitive on some groups of people to a point where those groups can leverage it to get what they want or cry discrimination... It's becoming concerning and I think that pendulum is swinging too far now. For Trans people, we just want to live our lives normally as possible. We don't want to make a big deal about the fact we're trans, as much as we can anyway... Complaining about every little fault is making trans people sound like fragile babies that need to be coddled and the world being bubble wrapped for us. While standing up for rights is absolutely necessary when it treads on human rights, this is too small of an issue to cry discrimination about, especially when there's logical reasons as to why someone decides to turn you away and you are being given assistance to find what you want done. Why would I ask someone who isn't trained or experienced to do something to me? I don't ask a random person to do surgery on me then cry discrimination if they say no because they don't know what they are doing. So, OP's issue is the genitalia that the body has and not having the experience of working with it, not the gender the person goes by so the discrimination claim is BS in my opinion based on the info given. NTA.

16:00 - So I’m a trans dude so my experience is a bit different- but as for the last story, I understand Alex’s frustration with being told she wasn’t able to get her wax done but I dont agree with her then blasting the shop. The way op said it could be interpreted as discrimination in the emotional sense (“I can’t do it based on my boundaries”) but logically speaking OP wasn’t qualified and did everything she could to provide the service Alex needed including going above and beyond by offering to find a trans friendly waxing salon. OP definitely is not the A-hole, and honestly Alex deserves a score.

I think it’s jealousy regarding the short woman. My daughter is a teen and is the same height and has no issue with boys being interested her. Short girls can have literally their entire pick of available boys and it’s not the same for taller girls.

Sorry rslash but I will not be googling "sexy baby" it ain't happening

So...OP is allowed to not want to be a stay at home parent, but the husband isn't...right..

For the story about the dad not being able to handle the baby over a weekend… He said he felt trapped, so I’m betting he felt a little overwhelmed and lonely, since he was likely used to socializing a bit. And the baby is still young, both parents still need a lot of adjusting.

OP in the last story isn't wrong for refusing but she shouldn't have brought up her personal comfort or her arrangement with her husband. she should have stuck with "I'm not trained or experienced with waxing trans women, so I cannot perform this procedure. The way the outer labia is waxed is very different from how the scrotal area is, so i can't safely do this procedure, blah blah blah."

Story 5: As part of the LGBTQ community, OP was NTA. I understand the client's frustrations, but that doesn't mean that cis people can't have their own boundaries. And she wasn't even denying the swrvice because the person was trans she just not comfortable with male genetalia other than her husband's in general. That's normal that's not transphobic.

Story 3: Yeah, literally one of the first things adults taught me before using a microwave or oven was not to put any kind of plastic or cookware inside without knowing if it was microwave/oven safe. How could she make such a mistake? I mean, sure, I understand her thinking the stone thing was dirty, but come on!

Last story: One of OP's concerns was safety. She was concerned about hurting the client on accident becuase she'd never waxed male genetalia. This is a very reasonable point of concern because if she'd done the wax and hurt the client that's potential grounds for a lawsuit; OP was protecting herself, her business, and possibly her marriage by refusing the client and offering to find an alternative beautician who specializes in trans clients.