I wouldve start yelling "WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU?! YOU THINK BABIES ARE SEXY???!!!" then see what happens
@ChontsАй бұрын
I was thinking that exact same thing lmao. Shit would have gone south real fast
@DewyAppsАй бұрын
I would too, nothing better than bringing up beef at family events lmaooo
@bluestreaker9242Ай бұрын
Heh, that reminds me of something someone said that the best way to fight childish bullying is to be as awkward as humanly possible. That would DEFINITELY do it. >;)
@bigjalapeno7061Ай бұрын
That would've been funny
@Shipnot_NonindustriesАй бұрын
Same thought process
@dylanwhite6539Ай бұрын
“Dress your age” she’s 27. She can wear whatever the hell she feels like.
@bibigamer502Ай бұрын
Unless your the person who’s somehow offended by a grown adult
@eredaane4656Ай бұрын
I have a short gf who got some shit for it. "fat bitch" is usually the main argument of my answer/comment since, whoever it is, they would usually have 20+ kg on my girlfriend, sicne she has a smaller frame. That usually shuts up whoever felt like commenting
@ShimonotokiАй бұрын
OP needs to press SIL for clarification. She started with it but than stopped. That was her mistake. SIL pulls this stuff over and over again because she gets away with it. Hold her accountable, let her explain, what exactly she means. Than she will stop.
@kurotsuki7427Ай бұрын
Also it sounds like she is dressing like an adult
@IflieАй бұрын
Yeah, sometimes adults are short, they still wear whatever, my mom was short I'm short. i live in the country of the tallest people. No one bullies you for being a short female. In fact I think it would be more jealousy from the SIL.
@prismmakeupartistry8675Ай бұрын
As a woman under 5', I can confirm that people definitely percieve petite women as young or trying to be young. When people ask me how old I am, they either get very surprised at my answer or tell me that I'm "just a baby!!!" and act like I'm the most adorable thing they've ever seen (I'm 27). It can be very condescending and weird
@spidrscared84Ай бұрын
I agree. I’m almost 40 and I still get carded at the liquor store which is flattering, but in general people won’t take me seriously and o think I must be inexperienced in all things. Being called cute and treated as such is very condescending
@LLandS18Ай бұрын
I'm a very petite tiny woman and no one has ever called me a baby. That's awful. I'm sorry that you've gone through that. I can't imagine. I'm going to say it's probably because I have a pretty commanding personality. I was the I was one of two girls in a family full of very loud, very boisterous, very large men. Like my cousins. So no one's ever said that to me. Plus with the work I do no one would ever consider me a tiny woman because I've put myself in some pretty dangerous situations. I work with victims of human trafficking and domestic violence and I've stood in front of clients and their abusers. I'm not tiny. Not afraid. Maybe I should be but I'm not.
@drwboy07Ай бұрын
I have a condition that makes me look young and I constantly either get talked down to or treated like a child. At times its annoying other times its hilarious when people try and guess my age. Others are straight up disrespectful.
@Beena2020Ай бұрын
I'm a 40 year old 4'10" woman. I go out with my children (16,14, and 4) to doctors visits etc, and get, "we can't accept siblings as a guardian unless they're 18." Then when I show them ID the daggers come out. You can't be serious. You look like a TEENAGER! This is all said with malice, not sincere surprise. I don't get taken seriously by anyone. I'm just some sort of novelty. The fact of the matter is, finding clothing in my size is SO incredibly hard. I shop in the juniors section, I try to find modest, plain clothes for the most part. I don't dress like a teenager, I don't think. Jeans, tees, maxi or midi dresses, maxi skirts... nothing short or revealing. I don't know if it's jealousy or what, but it's incredibly insulting.
@prismmakeupartistry8675Ай бұрын
@LLandS18 yeah, I definitely think the environment you're in will affect it. I'm in a customer service field and I definitely have a young looking face. I definitely am not a shrinking violet though lol
@CaffeinatedwifeАй бұрын
I used to wax people professionally, you have to be properly trained to wax male genitals. If you aren't you can cause massive bruises and other issues.
@FireBird7766Ай бұрын
I think OP should have just explained this. I'm surprised that aestheticians are that bothered about whose genitals they're touching; I thought it'd be really mundane really quickly. If she'd just explained that she can't safely work on it, no personal feeling mentioned, this might have been avoided.
@thehaveninthehandАй бұрын
An old classmate of mine told us all the story about the time when he tried to wax his genitals. Long story short, he went to the hospital and is now permanently bald on half the pouch, which is also covered in a gnarly scar. Seriously, you want training for this.
@hydemeАй бұрын
How much was the pay for that?
@thehaveninthehandАй бұрын
@@hydeme if you mean my classmate, he didn't pay anything, it was a home waxing kit his bestie bought xD
@Tustin2121Ай бұрын
Yes, OP should have stuck with that. But she kept repeating phrases like “biological female” and “I have an understanding with my husband”, which are red flags to those who are regularly on the receiving end of hate. So if she is actually sincere, she should apologize and maybe give a referral.
@Valkier_KatoАй бұрын
Okey, so let me get this straight. KZfaq will allow you to say "molestation" but not "abortion"? What the hell is this website anymore???
@IsYitzachАй бұрын
I'm pretty sure that "abortion" is allowed, but it will probably pull up some note or another. There will probably also be a change in the kinds of adverts shown.
@Valkier_KatoАй бұрын
@@IsYitzach It's just the babyfication of KZfaq that annoys me. I've heard multiple creators say things like "unalived" instead of "murdered", even a few true crime channels and that's the entire point of those channels is to talk about that kinda shit!
@Freezinggreece2Ай бұрын
@@Valkier_Katoseriously, KZfaq is trying to make the whole platform KZfaq kids
@FlopNonStopАй бұрын
@@Freezinggreece2 Clearly not because if you go to any popular youtuber's comment section, there are bots in the replies saying they love raping children and racial slurs
@notevenlistening6072Ай бұрын
Remember the way they talked in 'Demolition Man'?
@uhohspaghettios3801Ай бұрын
So, dressing in a manor that is perceived as sexual is apparently childish? The cousin is weird, to say the least. The fact that she is apparently constantly thinking about "sexy babies" is insanely creepy
@lorilancaster5917Ай бұрын
And what’s worse is that no one is telling Cassie to shut up. OP dresses as an adult, Cassie mocks her. Cassie needs help and a time out.
@MrGorillafistАй бұрын
10000% And they way she said that dressing a certain way opened OP up to ridicule is disgusting. Childish fucking bullying.
@fool4343Ай бұрын
the fact that it is both "childish" and "sexy" says so much. does she think children are sexy? is dating adults that are small pedophilia apparently?
@LilChuunosukeАй бұрын
Tbh its usually more the other way around. People who are into cutesy & childish fashion like kidcore, decora, fairy kei, lolita, etc are regularly accused of sexualizing children's clothing. Some people genuinely cannot fathom the fact that an adult may just want to wear cute clothing and that it doesn't need to be sexual.
@StarfloofleАй бұрын
@@LilChuunosuke You can always tell those are the sorts of people deeply insecure in their adulthood, and it's extremely pathetic.
@davidharshman7645Ай бұрын
Story 2: How did rSlash fail to mention that the husband decided he couldn't be a stay at home dad because it is too much work for 1 person...only to immediately suggest that OP should take on exactly that role?!? The hypocrisy is strong with that one.
@Enki1013Ай бұрын
Dude goes stir crazy and feels trapped all day but expects her to do the same, from an "unexpected" pregnancy from a condom that broke "by accident." No suspicious behavior to see here from that guy. 🙄
@IkajoАй бұрын
Especially when the solution could be to just divide the week. They both work 50% the first couple of years. Alternating days.
@jp-fk5keАй бұрын
Also did the condom really break?
@adamb89Ай бұрын
@@jp-fk5ke Seems pretty flimsy for a literal doctor to put her trust entirely in a condom, you'd expect that there would be some primary form of birth control on top of that.
@howsmart007Ай бұрын
it sound like the husband tough it would be easy allowing him to be lazy at home as ((i only point to people who never had experience with child and dont know how it is to have a baby at home)) and the "break condom" oddly happen right when he wanted a kid so my guess is he expected being a stay at home dad to be a slacking job not demanding much effort wich is my impression from how fast he beg OP to be the stay at home parents regardless of the rest
@Rj-ij6koАй бұрын
Idk man…i think if someone nearly burns your house down because they forget that plastic is flammable, you’re allowed to call them a dumbass. NTA Op
@lorilancaster5917Ай бұрын
And prior to the fire, she apparently thinks the strong smell of plastic fumes is okay. Even though OP got his key back I would still recommend he gets the locks changed.
@bigjalapeno7061Ай бұрын
You're allowed to say it because it's true. Nothing wrong with telling the truth even if it's not nice
@galacticangel5262Ай бұрын
She even accused OP it was all his fault ! Dumb and impertinent.
@Robin93k10 күн бұрын
That's such a retarded conclusion! Wait... It's not a conclusion, you obviously don't think for yourself, just parrot what you heard. Which only works until you listen to the wrong person. Because not every plastic is flammable! Plastics can be anything from flame resistant, non-flammable or even self-extinguishing! You're literally as stupid as this girl, because you don't think, check or confirm. You just act... But at least your choice to just don't do something instead of thinking about it, is still better than just doing it.
@MartyndeАй бұрын
as a non-American, i'm more shocked by the fact that a homeowner can be charged if firemen stay over an hour fighting a fire.
@fretfultrout2788Ай бұрын
As an American I’m also surprised although I’ve never had to call
@RavenofthewoodАй бұрын
Unfortunately even paid departments are horribly under funded so we have to charge to keep the trucks running, and our gear and training up to date. For context it's over 10k to outfit not train just safety gear per firefighter. And that stuff only lasts a few years before it's required to be replaced. And the 10k price is pre inflation spike.
@williambragg6171Ай бұрын
I am not surprised, when I had to call 911 for my grandmother they charged me 1600 dollars for a basic emergency service.
@ScorpiusZA.Ай бұрын
Never heard of it either - but this is the US - the corporatocracy
@Fauntleroy.Ай бұрын
Land of the free, ha!
@starryairАй бұрын
Remember kids: Plastic and heat do not mix! Please don't put plastic in your oven and stop others from doing just that
@hollytheanimalcrossingfanАй бұрын
I thought everyone knew that
@bluestreaker9242Ай бұрын
@@hollytheanimalcrossingfan Just remember, "If the sign telling you to never ever EVER eat the candy-looking soap sounds stupid, like it should have never been made, then congrats: you possess common sense that others lack." >;)
@natetheavali784Ай бұрын
@@hollytheanimalcrossingfanyea, but shampoo has instructions, probably the same people are the cause of both
@Sam-ob4ofАй бұрын
The plastic which generates that toxic gas could have been PVC (phosgene/hydrogen chloride can be released when burned) or PTFE ( teflon; that could release hydrogen fluoride or something else). Main point is, ALWAYS beware of halogenated plastic fires!!!
@condorboss3339Ай бұрын
@@hollytheanimalcrossingfan 90% of engineering and design is to keep 1% of the population from killing us all. My personal favorite is the note on windshield sunscreens saying 'Unsafe to drive with sunscreen in place.'
@dylanwhite6539Ай бұрын
“A mistake that anyone could make” yea, it is a mistake anyone could make. Anyone that’s simultaneously piss drunk and blazed so hard they’re on a planet simultaneously maybe.
@lahlybird895Ай бұрын
Want to play that depends on whether or not you the cutting board with plastic it could have been one of those plastic fake wood things
@secondairyАй бұрын
@lahlybird895 Who would put a wooden cutting board in the oven? That's even more obviously flammable.
@lahlybird895Ай бұрын
@@secondairy flammable yes, but not melty Play some plastics are actually safe to burn think like TV dinners, my mom cooks TV dinners in the oven and they've never melted
@francescaperron2003Ай бұрын
I made that mistake ONCE. When I was 10. And I have ADHD so that's the reason I even made it. Not because I didn't know plastic melts, but because I forgot the board was plastic. I'm not hating on lower IQ people, IQ isn't something you decide. But this girl is just stupid. Not really even because she put plastic in an oven, but because she didn't understand why OP was mad
@sakura1701Ай бұрын
As an Open trans man, who has not have bottom surgery. 110% She's in the right here. I would NOT be comfortable knowing that my waxer had no experience in waxing the parts I do have. And to help find someone who is, 110% support there!
@piecebypiece2028Ай бұрын
My thoughts. If I had balls, I do not want newbies around them 😤
@fool4343Ай бұрын
the only problem is the language, i think, but shes totally in clear
@e.vasileva5891Ай бұрын
@@fool4343 The language?
@user-hf8yi9fk1mАй бұрын
@@fool4343what language?
@WiseWordsbyWikiАй бұрын
@@e.vasileva5891 Biological women is not the correct term, for one thing it doesn't actually really mean anything as women is not a biological category and the concept of a "biological female" is not narrowingbthings down. Cis women is more appropriate and does mix up biological and social terminology. Also kinda side eyeing the fake name being alex tbh. But that's because im pretty sure this is rage bait or a transphobe making something up.
@insu_naАй бұрын
the fact that SIL in story 4 keeps bringing up pedo-shit is kind of a red flag.
@lorilancaster5917Ай бұрын
And deliberately chases down OP to mock her. Lady get a life!
@truthseeker9249Ай бұрын
OP outta slap her the next time she says it because yes she is not only being disrespectful but creepy and borderline inappropriate. Overly sexualizing her family member and thinking with a P3d0 mindset. Someone should take a look at her computer...
@giraffegiraffe8702Ай бұрын
"Confession through Projection" perhaps? 🙂
@JamesDavy2009Ай бұрын
@@giraffegiraffe8702 Phrase of the day, peeps!
@giraffegiraffe8702Ай бұрын
@@JamesDavy2009 I can't claim ownership - that honor goes to @VivaFrei 🙂
@asherscottLАй бұрын
Hey. I'm transmale, and not transfemale. So take my thoughts with a grain of salt. The moment OP said they offered to help their client find someone who specializes in trans people to do their wax, I knew they were not the a-hole. A trans phobe would tell her to leave and not provide help.
@olingeckoАй бұрын
So much this. I was grateful the OP was willing to figure out how to find their client the right services. And the fact that she stated she didn't have the experience with the client's anatomy to be able to provide a good quality service.
@13thMaidenАй бұрын
Not to mention the hair and skin is a little different, male hair is thicker and longer and roots deeper, and for some reason male skin bleeds more due to the slightly deeper rooting. Depending on how long the person has been taking hormones the hair might have changed, but still, even then, the physiology of the genitalia hasn't changed and there's different shapes and planes to consider with different skin depths and textures. Alex would definitely need someone who either has done male genitalia regularly or specializes on trans clients, otherwise she could get REALLY hurt!! ~sincerely someone who waxes and likes to bug her estheticians with questions about the profession constantly.
@ancientsociety79Ай бұрын
If she had simply refused, she still wouldn't be an a-hole. It's not her job to find alternatives
@SkunkApe407Ай бұрын
@@13thMaiden 40 year old cis dude here. I couldn't fathom asking someone to deal with that particular region, especially a woman. I groom myself, because I know male tackle can be daunting, for anyone. Between Manscaped and at-home waxing kits, I can keep my garden in check. There's no reason for anyone to demand that someone deal with their bits, period.
@jessicarichards6796Ай бұрын
Yeah I agree. Also I don’t have testicles, but if I did, I think I would want someone who has experience waxing them to wax them. Having heard people express how painful stuff can be toward their balIs you would think a ball having person would not want to chance injury.
@Arob4343Ай бұрын
‘Don’t call me dumb, any reasonable adult could think it’s ok to bake some plastic and nearly destroy your home….’ I think I’d break up with her
@lorilancaster5917Ай бұрын
And sue her for damages.
@filipe.sm3114 күн бұрын
I honestly think I couldn't stay with a person this stupid. Not only she almost burned the house down, but she didn't even turn the oven off. If I can't trust her to heat over a pizza, how could I trust her with my baby in the future??
@SteviiLoveАй бұрын
Yes. It is 1000% jealousy. As a petite woman myself, I can't tell you how gross it is to have people infantilize me and try to insinuate my partner is a creep for being attracted to me even though besides being short and skinny, I'm a fully developed woman. It says way more about the ones infantilizing us for simply existing than it does us.
@francescaperron2003Ай бұрын
I can relate to petite women in the height sense. I'm 5'4, and I live in Sweden so here I am considered very short. I've had too many people try to pick me up or take my things and hold them up over their heads. The problem for those people is that I'm not petite in size, I'm naturally very muscular and curvy, so not only am I way heavier than I look ( because for some reason people forget muscle weighs more than fat) but I'm also very strong. So chances are, you can't pick me up but I can pick you up. And I can definetly climb on you, not only because of my strength but also because short people are skilled climbers😂
@thegameplayer125Ай бұрын
op 2: unexpected pregnancy a good chunk of us listening: "unexpected" pregnancy
@lovelynight1Ай бұрын
Glad I'm not the only one thinking this
@DoctorOaksАй бұрын
@@lovelynight1 Same
@CanyonALynnАй бұрын
Yup, that was planned.
@jaydeeee668Ай бұрын
@@CanyonALynncondoms break… it happens
@CanyonALynnАй бұрын
@jaydeeee668 Normally I'd agree with you... but there's too many coincidences for this point to not be a coincidence. I don't buy it in this instance.
@milja476Ай бұрын
Anyone else take notice of how the husband started to want to get a kid and not long after the condom broke and OP became pregnant? Might just be a coincidence but you never know.
@myopinion69420Ай бұрын
yeah, I have never actually had a condom brake from normal use, only ever from doing stupid shit with them as a teenager. the only condom 'failure' I have had during sex was one slipping off due to it having way to much lube on the inside, never touched that brand again. seems way to convenient that as soon as he starts wanting a kid, the condom breaks. I guess it also happened to be a brand without spermicidal lube.
@piecebypiece2028Ай бұрын
I got the feeling he baby trapped her.
@Starhawke_GamingАй бұрын
@@piecebypiece2028- same
@JadeelmaoАй бұрын
Was thinking that
@mushroommagic1697Ай бұрын
@@piecebypiece2028 Yup, and he's using pity play to coerce her into giving up her career to be a stay at home mom.
@e.c.sherman4749Ай бұрын
Story Two: Why do I get the feeling that the husband has been playing OP the whole time? Maybe it's just me being paranoid, but he was so fine with this agreement until he spent two days alone with the baby, and NOW all of a sudden he wants to go back on the agreement? Something seems very fishy to me.
@bigjalapeno7061Ай бұрын
I doubt it's just you being paranoid. There's definitely something up
@thepaininpaint4551Ай бұрын
for the last story, as a trans man if i was going for a genital piercing or tattoo or waxing and who i went to said "im sorry i dont have the experience or materials to make this go well" or "im not comfortable doing this on female genitalia" id understand and talk to them about who i could go to that would fit me better, not have a fit that the person i just met with didnt have the right excperience or wasnt comfortable. i understand her frustration but just like therapy, not everyone is gonna be a good fit for you and you have to find the perfect person to ensure both your and their safety and comfort.
@seekeroftruth6728Ай бұрын
You're a les that likes to dress comfortable. Just stop.
@jplayzowАй бұрын
I just don't get why she even went into how she feels about those parts or what her husband's relationship with her is like. You don't have the experience to properly do this job, you referred her to a person who does. That's the end of your professional courtesy. It's a communication problem not a boundary or relationship problem at all. Maybe the boundary could affect your learning about those parts but it's very plainly an issue of your work experience here.
@jayleaf201Ай бұрын
@@jplayzowI read that as trying to flip the 'blame' onto herself, like it's not a problem with you, but rather a problem with me.
@dagnytheartistАй бұрын
@@jayleaf201 Yes, putting the "blame" on herself is the professional thing to do (if anyone needs to be "blamed" here it is OP, there is an entire section of women that OP's refusing to provide service to, she needs to take more responsibility here). Similarly, if the client had a disability that OP couldn't accommodate for, she would have to admit that she can't accommodate for that disability and refer the client to another specialist. It would be in poor taste for OP to whine directly to her client about how accommodating for her disability is just too hard and too expensive and those accommodations make OP personally uncomfortable and she promised her husband that she wouldn't make any changes to the building (i.e. buying lights you can adjust the brightness of, or adding a wheelchair ramp or something) so it would also make HIM uncomfortable too, so now the client is told that she's making everybody uncomfortable. But of course, OP put the emotional burden on the client, acted like the client's feelings came out of nowhere, and made herself look like the victim in this story. It's the gay wedding cake thing all over again.
@mariposa9506Ай бұрын
@@dagnytheartist op waxes vaginas. If you hide that you are trans and show up to a woman's facility with non woman body parts, there's a chance you won't be able to get help. If Alex was being waxed for the first time maybe they don't know that it's a different process, but if they did research and didn't check on services offered, then that's on Alex.
@justozzy5559Ай бұрын
When it comes to the waxing story, there was a court case in Canada where it was determined that if a professional waxer denied someone due to lack of experience, it was in the best interest of the client. So basically, the last woman is NTA. She tried to help the client find someone who did have the experience necessary to perform the service, but the client denied that help. There's really nothing to be done about that.
@LeviOArtsАй бұрын
Except to hire someone who IS experienced so that your salon is more inclusive? I mean, she says she WANTS to be inclusive so why not take steps to do that?
@trinitysway5849Ай бұрын
@@LeviOArtsMaybe she doesn't have the funds to hire staff. Maybe she has someone in training. Maybe she knows someone who does specialize and can send the person there so that her friend can also make money.
@trinitysway5849Ай бұрын
@@LeviOArtsAnd it also takes TIME. It's not just a single 30min online course.
@Livin-life111Ай бұрын
@@LeviOArtsyour comment makes zero sense. The client had an appointment for that day. Was she supposed to tell the client to come back in a couple weeks after she finds, hires and trains someone who specializes in male genitals?? 🤦♀️That's ridiculous!!
@susami_Ай бұрын
Yeah because that fella literally only wanted to get off on the fact that he's pressuring a woman to touch him. He's a known case for that. He did it multiple times. Just another case of a male who thinks that women's boundaries are there only to be stomped upon and that sexual assault is his right.
@PowerStruggle555Ай бұрын
1st story: NTA. Niece will believe everyone will believe her. Next she'll be telling people op or someone at party were touching her badly. Or something real bad. Unlike the first accusation where police might not do anything as no proof. theyll take any child abuse very seriously even with 0 evidence. because better safe than sorry (whats worst believing a child liar....or not believing one telling the truth...a liar...an investigation, reprimands, etc will happen. but ignoring will make things worst potentially)
@InsongWhangАй бұрын
Only 5k at 12 minutes. Is he even trying anymore?
@alexistaylor-butler8319Ай бұрын
I think another channel did an update where it’s discovered. The daughter has an issue with pathological lying. This was just the latest and worst incident. The daughter could basically ensure she was believed by her mom if she accused them of talking behind her back.
@VicGeorge2K6Ай бұрын
If a parent's not going to shut down their child spreading rumors, then you shouldn't invite her and her family to anymore of your parties.
@stevenandcarminabeedle9089Ай бұрын
And she appears to have a history of troubled behavior. And her parents have a history of not parenting and calling on OP to do it for them. They’re probably neglectful and she wants their attention. And they keep pushing her on OP to handle so who wants to bet she’s trying to get OP “out of the way” in hopes her parents will be parents? In any case absolutely NTA. Unfortunately OP has to protect himself at this point, and I can’t blame him if he doesn’t wanna be around people who enable this behavior.
@bigjalapeno7061Ай бұрын
I wonder why she even did that to begin with
@d.phantomfan1216Ай бұрын
Story 4: woman will criticize other women for literally anything, if a girl is too short She’s a child that can’t be taken seriously, if she too tall, she’s a tomboy giant. But God help you if you ever insult them back for literally anything, you’re a terrible person picking on someone for just being honest, or joking, or you’re doing something to make them say that. Keep in mind SIL actually have any real suggestions on how you’re supposed to dress, because she’ll say that no matter what you wear. You could wear jeans in T-shirt and she still call you that. And given how she is constantly doing this in front of everyone for literally no reason all the time I don’t think her idea maturity really means anything. She’s more upset that the family found out she’s been bullying you.
@rebeccajesse4604Ай бұрын
100% true. I once was told I dress sluty when wearing a loose fitting tshirt and jeans. I was also 12 years old. People will find anyway to criticize someone if they want to.
@robcubed9557Ай бұрын
Regarding the “sexy baby” story, I can sympathize as a short man. People don’t take us short men seriously either.
@frosted_glaceon5513Ай бұрын
They're just jealous us short people are fun sized.
@mariposa9506Ай бұрын
@@robcubed9557 my husband and I are the same height at 5'3". He's the perfect height for me 🥰
@silverflight01Ай бұрын
Story 4: I don't know why that happens either. Like, Cassie clearly knows that she's poking a bear with that comment, because why else would she be getting all defensive and calling OP childish when OP calls her out. If I was OP, I don't know what I would've done
@lacko623Ай бұрын
And Cassie having the audacity saying that OP keeps starting for opening herself to be judged...but Cassie keeps bringing the topic up. I would've countered, that she's just not right in the head and needs serious help...
@truthseeker9249Ай бұрын
I'd have tackled her after the 3rd time she said. Show her exactly what a tiny "sexy baby" is capable of. Though I'm not even that short. I'm 5'2 and actually overweight for my size but do I look overweight? Not really. Body fats just really good at storing itself.
@ohnosmoarlulcatzАй бұрын
I have a friend who is 4'10" and under 100 lbs. She literally has to shop in the kids sections for clothes because of how small she is even though she's 35. The one thing that you can always do to shut up people like her is to tell them to stop being a PDF.
@Annie_Annie__Ай бұрын
I’m 6’1 and these are the same people that every time they see a friend or family member that’s my size, they make comments about the “Amazon” or about how giants shouldn’t have babies with giants because then their kids will be freakishly tall. Some people aren’t confident in themselves, so they have to tear everyone else down as if they’re still in middle school.
@truthseeker9249Ай бұрын
YT you will not silence me. I would have tackled her the first time she said it. Cause that is not only disrespectful but creepy and borderline inappropriate.
@kiraragner6049Ай бұрын
Just the same as it’s not transphobic to not want to sleep with a trans person because of genitalia, it’s okay not wax someone because of genitalia. Also male genitalia is completely different to wax so it can be unsafe to ‘just wax it’. Even then, the comfort of the stylist is paramount. If they don’t wax male genitalia, whether on a man or a woman, then that’s their choice. It doesn’t make them transphobic. If it was eyebrows or underarms or legs, absolutely you’d have a case to argue transphobia, but in a case where genitals are the subject, and just as it’s not sexist to not wax certain genitals, it’s not transphobic!
@hollytheanimalcrossingfanАй бұрын
I'm glad someone said it. I was afraid everyone and r/slash would be roasting op in the comments for not waxing the other woman. I'm sorry but I just got out of a group and assumed everyone agreed that doing this was wrong and I was the only one who didn't see this as transphobic. I even was called that for not dating someone. I just wasn't attracted to him.
@sugarfrosted2005Ай бұрын
The framing is transphobic though. Transwomen can have vaginaplasty. However I consider a bizarre hang up in a work setting. Transwomen or cismen.
@riahlexingtonАй бұрын
@@hollytheanimalcrossingfanbased on some other comments it sounds like not being properly trained to wax certain genetals is bad because it can cause injury if you’re not trained. So op did the right thing and even tried to help her find someone who was qualified
@Tustin2121Ай бұрын
@@hollytheanimalcrossingfan- Yeah, the situation isn’t transphobic, especially if OP isn’t trained or isn’t comfortable doing it. But the wording she used is suspect, in a “well meaning outsider” kind of way, and I can see how that might have raised red flags for the client, who unfortunately has to always be on the defensive for that sort of thing. OP offering a referral is a good idea.
@quantumAnarchistАй бұрын
@@Tustin2121i thought the same thing, like i dont even know why she had to bring up the husband and make it a sexual thing, couldve left it at inexperience and not sexualised her like that
@TheDaydreamer777Ай бұрын
Last story: So I'm a transgender man and I just wanted to say that the OP's reasoning for not wanting to wax Alex is totally understandable and justified. I always get so sad when I see fellow transgender people act entitled and claim transphobia at the drop of a hat because it just thickens the stigma around transgender people and the stereotype that transgender people are all very overly sensitive and stuff🥲 Also since we're on the topic, it's not transphobic to not want to date a transgender person for not having the genitalia you're attracted to! People don't get upset if you prefer blondes over brunettes, so if you prefer dating cisgender women or fully transitioned transgender women, that's not transphobic and totally fine, it's just a preference. Thank you for your time👍
@dragon_ash6078Ай бұрын
another trans man here and I fully agree with you on both points!! If OP was actually transphobic (slurs, saying stuff like "You're not a woman" and/or denying service just on the fact she is trans (if op had the training to work on male genitalia)) Alex's response would be reasonable, but sending your friends to attack someone no matter what helps no one. Even if OP was the biggest bigot ever, attacking people gets nothing done and only worsens the view of trans people. :(
@KonekoPurrrfectionАй бұрын
Good TED talk lol
@NaishiYT22 күн бұрын
I 100% agree with your comment. I feel this exact same way but get called transphobic for these statements. It’s nice to see someone on this channel with some common sense about the topic!
@nahnottodayfam787917 күн бұрын
what a wonderful take!! thank you for taking the time to write this out. I really appreciated reading it!
@SkottiKimbleАй бұрын
Dude, the "sexy baby" story hits home. My wife, who is 30, is 4'11" and likes cute things, and holy shit, social media goes after her for dressing cute or sexy. They come after me, who's a 6'1" trans woman, and allege nefarious reasons for my marrying her. Also, the esthetician is, in my opinion, not in the wrong. She's allowed to have her own limits on something as personal as another person's genitals. I really appreciate that she tried to give Alex information on trans catering waxing techs, I would have loved that when I was in her shoes.
@thechickenlord4000Ай бұрын
Story 2: Let's be clear OP. You did not overreact. You didn't even want to have a biological child, but he agreed to stay home to have a kid. The deal was logical as well with your better income. Him backing out seems a bit controlling, though I could be wrong. It kinda makes me think that he might have sabotaged the condom, though.
@lorilancaster5917Ай бұрын
And for him to think you can try parenthood like it’s Thai food. No dude. A baby isn’t curry and can’t take it back if you don’t like it. Also how can OP work from home if she’s a neurologist with her own practice? I’m with the majority that this was all one big trap. First the “accidental” pregnancy and now instead of him being overwhelmed and alone, he wants OP to experience it. I’m betting next step would be to push OP to be a SAHM. I hope OP leaves this guy
@IFBBProYeoАй бұрын
And men think new moms are crazy... They need to see this guy! The pressure is legit! I think the dad is allowed to be overwhelmed but he CAN NOT back out. It's not possible. HE'S A DAD. Moms can't quit! He can't quit! He needs therapy to handle it. But nanny isn't possible till the child can talk. He made his bed... He just needs a community of support like moms do!
@angelae6896Ай бұрын
@@lorilancaster5917 oh, I believe that was his plan all along was to back out and manipulate OP to be a SAHM
@jplayzowАй бұрын
A commenter above mentioned that she was gonna talk to him about the very strange coincidence of him suddenly needing a kid because his friends had one and the condom breaking and him not pulling out quick enough.
@codyjohnson6427Ай бұрын
Idk I feel like this is one of those cases where we are seeing it from a very very biased pov, and even with her biased narration you kind of see some cracks in her story, like the fact that she didn't want the baby and still insists on calling her his baby rather than both their baby, as if she completely disowned the child if she has to put in actual parent work. I would love to see the husband's pov of that same story to see exactly how this "logical deal" came to be and what their relationship is like as parents
@TriforceWolf93Ай бұрын
Girlfriend who nearly burned down the house out of (lack of) critical thinking reminds me of a friend I had growing up. She was super sweet, and funny, and protective, but man.. The hamster wheel in her brain was rusted, and immobile. She pulled a lot of stupid shit, but my personal favorite was her burning ramen. Specifically, the cupped chicken Maruchan ramen. She was hungry after school one day, and I told her she was welcome to make one if she wanted (this was established previously, we basically spent every minute together) and went outside to say hi to the other kids living a couple of doors down. I come back, and the entire living room is FILLED with a horrid, scorching scented smoke. I start panicking and run to find her. She made the Styrofoam cup in the microwave, which isn't the best to begin with because plastic absorption, but this girl just ripped the top part off and threw it in the microwave, WITHOUT WATER. For clarification, she was 15. I was 12. WHERE DID SHE THINK THE RAMEN BROTH WOULD COME FROM?! 😫
@QuietChaos1996Ай бұрын
That reminds me of my coworkers, they'd put water in the cup. Then they'd STICK IT IN THE MICROWAVE!!! It's not MEANT to be in there. Plus, in the break room, there's a KEURIG that was there that they could've used for their hot water! And *I* got looked at funky when I used the Keurig for the cup of ramen.
@ChrisLeighАй бұрын
What's worse is that some of these people make it to college and pull this shit in their dorm room at THREE O'CLOCK IN THE MORNING.
@godofthunder6613Ай бұрын
I did the same thing when I was 9 years old 😂
@QuietChaos1996Ай бұрын
@@godofthunder6613 I think doing that stuff at 9 years old is acceptable because you're still learning what you can.
@Dsac1441Ай бұрын
Anyone else find the timing of this unplanned pregnancy in story 2 wildly convenient for the husband. There is definitely a version of that story where the husband always planned to go back to work
@BunnyQueen97Ай бұрын
I used to work for a popular chain waxing salon, and it’s VERY true that waxing every part of the body required a different, very important kind of training. Lots of was specialists don’t have the training to safely wax male parts, it’s something they have to elect for while studying and most don’t see the need.
@jayleaf201Ай бұрын
And even the places that can do it charge almost double the price, I can imagine it takes far more time and concentration to avoid injury
@icelord7Ай бұрын
Story two, did the condom really break? Or was ops husband sabotaging things to try and make her a housewife.
@seekeroftruth6728Ай бұрын
Thank you for posing it as a question, as opposed to everybody else in these comments acting as if they know.
@russellcaldwell5704Ай бұрын
Hire a nanny, but use the husband's full salary to pay them
@user-np5ke3wr2wАй бұрын
AGREED!
@lorilancaster5917Ай бұрын
Don’t think OP can force spouse to contribute his entire salary for childcare. However I’m with those who feel like OP should divorce spouse, file for primary custody, and he pay child support. He already got the job so he can’t say he doesn’t have income. Or he’s shown what his salary is capable of being.
@lucasstevenart3735Ай бұрын
So no to the company building with security and probably videotape surveillance but yes to 1 person alone in your house with your kid ?
@davidharshman7645Ай бұрын
Yeah....that doesn't solve the fear of strangers caring for your baby without supervision...
@amalieshelbyАй бұрын
@@lucasstevenart3735 for all we know they could have cameras in the house and never mention it. Also, they can get to know the nany before actually hiring the nanny. There have been several stories I listen to that do have cameras but don't mention them till they have to or they want to. But in my opinion I think it's more the husband wants op to be a traditional wife and lashing out because she is being very serious about her job and he doesn't know how to properly communicate let alone if he lashes out like this ONE time who knows what he can do more if he doesn't get what he wants.
@evelinephillips945Ай бұрын
As a transwoman myself, I understand Alex’s frustration, but OP explained herself very well and I would rather have someone who was experienced in waxing what I have and putting my comfort first. NTA
@desireeloveros1055Ай бұрын
Honestly I'm kinda leaning towards NAH Of course Alex is upset but OP is right she's not experienced enough to help her. And going through with the appointment would make It uncomfortable for everyone involved. The mention of her relationship with her husband affecting her clientele was kinda weird tho NGL
@destinedtogameАй бұрын
@@desireeloveros1055how Alex reacted was not okay. She should stop her friends from acting out and not attacking op
@YourPal1Ай бұрын
@@desireeloveros1055I wouldn't say NAH. Alex is very much an asshole here. Going around and saying that OP is discrimatory is an absolute douchebag thing to do when OP had a very understandable reason of refusal.
@agroteraaaaАй бұрын
@@seekeroftruth6728 "Get a life." - Abraham Lincoln
@WhtAbtBob10Ай бұрын
I gave OP 1/5. There was no need to tell Alex about the agreement with her husband. Keep it professional.
@myopinion69420Ай бұрын
Story 4: unless the one piece bathing suite had frilly bits or the dresses were like dolls dresses, what the hell is OP meant to wear? even then, she should still be able to wear them, the only problem I could foresee is if she was also acting babylike, particularly with a boyfriend/husband. Story 5: OP can refuse service for any reason, if she was a biological woman and as soon as she disrobed she had warts all over her genitals, same thing she can refuse service. she could refuse service purely for not feeling comfortable with the person, no matter what the biological sex is. you should not be FORCED to touch another persons genitals.
@d.phantomfan1216Ай бұрын
Story 1: I’m having a hard time believing your niece was is the one saying all of that. I’m going to ask all the parents on this video. If your kid called and told you all the adults at the party was drinking and smoking weed, even offering her some, wouldn’t you pick them up? She was told everyone was drinking and getting high, but her daughter to go find someone sober to drive? It’s not like the mom couldn’t go get them, and if you don’t even trust your own sis to drop them off, why would you leave out to any random person there even if you know them because apparently everyone is doing something wrong according to you. It’s a party filled with people you know, children, and you just believe the 17-year-old with no questions asked?
@StupidCatLadyАй бұрын
There is a lot more context that OP had provided that R/Slash didn't cover. OP is always called to deal with the niece because she is basically being used as a threat since she is in law enforcement. Basically "you better listen or aunty OP is gonna have to take you in" so it makes sense that the niece would have a grudge against OP. The sister called OP several days later trying to get OP to go get the niece again, and OP declined. Basically saying that, since OP made her niece "so uncomfortable" she shouldn't be asking for OPs help and for them to sort it out themselves.
@stevenandcarminabeedle9089Ай бұрын
Exactly. They always call OP when they have problems with her. She wants attention from them, probably because they don’t bother trying to be parents. And she’s trying to get it in all the wrong ways.
@stevenandcarminabeedle9089Ай бұрын
@@StupidCatLadymaybe they should try being parents. OP is well within her rights to keep them at a distance.
@StupidCatLadyАй бұрын
@@stevenandcarminabeedle9089 I agree with you.
@melrobertson2743Ай бұрын
Mom left them at the party because she needed to leave to GO TO WORK, it's why op offered the kids to sleep over because kids were having fun
@antnation747Ай бұрын
Second story, not buying that the condom broke aaaat all. I bet if she presses him, he did it in purpose. What a coincidence after his friend had a kid and him saying he wanted one so badly despite knowing she didn’t want one, and then ooopsie the condom broke. Let’s keep it. Then promising to take care of it and only lasting 2 days??? OP run dude.
@idkkkk7588Ай бұрын
Story 5: I'm LGBTQ+ myself and I don't think she was being discriminitory. Even tho I can understand Alex being frustrated businesses have a right to refuse to provide services to clients. I also think it's especially valid if they know they're not equipped to provide a service a particular client needs.
@KonekoPurrrfectionАй бұрын
No shirt no shoes no vajayjay no waxy. But seriously there are places that specifically say they cater to the t4ans community so I don't understand why someone like Alex wouldn't think to call around and ask those questions before springing the goose on someone. Clearly they would have to know it was a potential issue right?
@mariposa9506Ай бұрын
@@KonekoPurrrfection I'm sure Alex was counting on an issue.
@Robin93k10 күн бұрын
Alex is NOT part of the LGBTQ+ They are a transphobe that actively tries to steer hatred against actual trans people! No Women would ever demand someone to touch their penis and testicles! Real AMABs want to get rid of these parts, not force them onto other women!
@denisebaldwin9292Ай бұрын
Child care story: the fact that the dad freaked out after 2 whole days tells me that he hasn’t done any of baby’s care since she was born. If he had, he would have had a better idea of what he was doing.
@ashleythecommenter7112Ай бұрын
For the first story It feels to me like either A) The niece felt uncomfortable or just didn't want to stay for whatever reason so she made up this lie in order to go home B) The niece was mad at OP for something they did and they became petty in order to "Get Back At Them" There could be other reasons why the niece is like this but that's what I could think of. I can't tell if the niece legit didn't realize what her lies would've caused (She is 17 after all) But it does sound super weird she'd just lie for no reason. There has to be something more that's causing this.
@Emeraldwitch30Ай бұрын
I wonder if she tried to sneak a drink and was caught by an adult and told no. It's not a huge deal. Happens at bigger parties especially with older teens and instead of just sucking it up and thinking Oops busted that she would preemptively strike out and tell mum and dad that it was offered to her so she didn't get in trouble. But instead of just alcohol she embellished a bit to make herself sound better. Sorry, I have 5 older sisters, and we often tried to figure out ways to sneak alcohol as teens at family parties, lol. Once we turned 17/18, our folks allowed one wine cooler or one beer, lol. But we had to drink it with them and not go anywhere after. Better to give them a taste and keep them home rather than they sneak off and get into trouble. Edited to fix the new AI autocorrect crap. Geez I know I don't spell well but I know what words I want to use autocorrect! Lol
@christinacartter9784Ай бұрын
Was covered on another channel, girl is a known lier. Lied about OPs brother to the point he's no contact with sister, had so many incidents at school she's had to transfer twice, and is in therapy where the Dr wants her medicated for pathology at least but parents refuse
@stevenandcarminabeedle9089Ай бұрын
Then OP said they call him every time she runs away or they have a fight with her. They’re not being parents and putting it on OP. She has a history of this type of behavior and they’re enabling it. Plus this type of lie that includes the friends as well? Yeah I don’t see any indicators for that kind of lie when she could have just said she didn’t feel like staying or being over there if she had other reasons.
@user-hf8yi9fk1mАй бұрын
Supposedly, there’s an update. The niece is a pathological liar and wants attention
@crazeeazАй бұрын
OP is a cop and the one the parents call when she's in trouble. She doesn't want to be on a cops leash so she made a lie that would cause him to step away.
@ismae-rienne4991Ай бұрын
Wax story: woah woah woah. What if she did it anyway, and hurt Alex unintentionally? I'm on OP's side
@bigjalapeno7061Ай бұрын
Yep
@laura-lynndeline6966Ай бұрын
I am also a trained esthetician license in Canada. I have been trained in both male and female waxing. They are completely different. The skin on some more dangling areas on men are very sensitive and also sometimes very hairy and requires a different kind of wax entirely. Biological men here also tends to be thicker. I also don't want to service male clients in that way. So sadly I made my practice shorts on services meaning I will not do anything bikini line or genitalia area at all
@d.phantomfan1216Ай бұрын
Story 2: One weekend and he wants to completely go against the agreement and make you a SAHM, knowing your stance on the situation. He wanted this, he knew your stance on this. He can’t just go against it now that it’s time that actually put in the work. Welcome to parenthood, he wanted that he’s getting it. You can work out getting him some help , trying to find a way for you to be more included in parenting, maybe see if their family member are willing to help get him on some sort of schedule. But know you will not be ending your career because he didn’t expected to be as hard as it was for those two damn days.
@user-qf2el3xj9rАй бұрын
Story 2: I would bet my hand that the "accident" with the broken condom was NOT an accident... And I am pretty sure that I would win the bet. What a coincidence, don't you think?
@MrGorillafistАй бұрын
Was about to say the same. Dude wanted to baby trap his wife so she'd become a stay at home trad wife. Do I have proof that was his motivation? No but if someone messes with birth control to get their wife pregnant I can only assume they're that kind of scumbag.
@seangleeson8073Ай бұрын
Came here to say exactly this
@AzulakayesАй бұрын
Exactly. That man thought he could baby trap a doctor.
@drivevengefulАй бұрын
Oh for sure
@seekeroftruth6728Ай бұрын
Condoms break.
@bdizzle5359Ай бұрын
With the Trans Woman: You're allowed to have boundaries, and it's not transphobic! Alex, needs to put herself in your shoes. What if you messed up during the waxing? That's a very sensitive area.
@dudeorduuude5211Ай бұрын
Alex may actually be a pervert and it is autogynophelia, not transgenderism. Look up "Jessica Yaniv", who targeted immigrant women with at-home waxing services. They all said no, and this person took it to thr human rights tribunal. Thankfully they lost.
@lanychabot-laroche135Ай бұрын
I just found it weird that the husband was setting those boundaries though. Saying no because you don't have experience is one thing. Saying no because your husband decides that you can't take certain clients sounds a bit unhealthy.
@seekeroftruth6728Ай бұрын
@@lanychabot-laroche135Men aren't allowed to have boundaries? Let me guess... you're a male feminist. 🙄
@seekeroftruth6728Ай бұрын
@@lanychabot-laroche135 Go join a feminism march and take that garbage somewhere else. Men are allowed to have boundaries.
@seekeroftruth6728Ай бұрын
@@lanychabot-laroche135Forgive me if I don't respect the opinions of a male feminist (aka weak man).
@xxTC-96xxАй бұрын
this woman in the second last story is legit like terminally online twitter users who think short people = children and infantilize them
@OnyxRains_Ай бұрын
I’d rather someone tell me they’re uncomfortable and not do it than be uncomfortable and proceed. Please don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with.
@edalynclawthorne5877Ай бұрын
“It’s a mistake anyone could make”… Honey, sweetheart, baby cakes. No
@lorilancaster5917Ай бұрын
Maybe if that anyone was an arsonist
@DaBaseBallZАй бұрын
Story 5:If i was Alex,I would've wanted someone with proper experience,Which OP doesn't have,NTA
@d.phantomfan1216Ай бұрын
Last story: thank you R/, transgender or not if someone is uncomfortable going near a certain area on certain people that’s all that matters. Not everything is a damn hate crime, yes, you are not a man mentally but physically you have the parts and that just does not magically disappear. For the sake of the customer you should want someone who knows how to handle that to do it anyway.
@melrobertson2743Ай бұрын
And she runs that waxing business SOLO, so another risk people aren't thinking about
@alderblanco2362Ай бұрын
@@melrobertson2743No. You stop right there. I know you are NOT implying that OP would be in more danger around a trans client than a cis one. How dare you. You sit down and think a little more about why you think a trans woman is more dangerous than a cis woman. If you're embarrassed, think about why. You know better.
@magicalgalaxylavenderАй бұрын
@@alderblanco2362I think they are talking about the risk and blame falls solely on her if something happens so she has everything to lose doing waxes she is not certified to provide they never said anything about anyone being dangerous
@mariposa9506Ай бұрын
@@alderblanco2362ugh people must avoid you like the plague
@maxshep2829Ай бұрын
@@alderblanco2362wow, chill out... Pretty sure that was coming from a "if i injure a client or if a client claims injury then i don't have any witnesses or anyone to support me so i might get screwed over" point of view rather than a "OMG TRANS ARE DANERGOUS!" point of view! 😂
@randomthoughts6680Ай бұрын
5th story: I have a trans woman (pre op) friend and she had wax once after transition and she described in VIVID detail that it hurt TOO MUCH specially because the hormones make the skin more sensitive. After that, she gladly just waxed with professionals who are trained to deal with male genitalia on hormones because it's way more delicate than the outer labia. If the procedure is done the same, it can tear the skin of the testes off. NTA, if the OP isn't trained and proceeded, she could have hurt Alex VERY BADLY and Alex should understand it.
@ToolaDrakeАй бұрын
Regarding the last story, As a trans person myself. I have no problem with the fact she refused. In fact i think it was a bit bad that the client didn't inform her that she was trans while taking her appointement. I mean. it's not like an appointement to the hairdresser where no one care if you're trans or not, here, we are speaking of genitalia. it's clearly a more sensitive matter. and i think it's fair to ask if they are ok with it before taking an appointement. Sure it can feel bad to be rejected from multiple places, but you also easily can find places that will do it without problem. So yeah, i really don't see any transphobique stuff here. just someone that lacked a bit of common sense by not warning the person who gonna have to take care of their genitals. A bit sad that it always endup as "discrimination" and "transphobic" and ruin people reputation instead of just being taken as logical..
@caydenparker4946Ай бұрын
15:05 even without the personal restrictions for not being able to assist Alex, aestheticians can’t wax male presenting anatomy in the same that they would female presenting, ripping is too high risk. I’m glad that she gave her options and treated her respectfully. Source: I’m a trans man who has dated an aesthetician 😂
@rDunfeeАй бұрын
PVC will release chlorine gas when burned. Wouldn't surprise me if that is what the guy after the fire story inhaled
@PhantomSt21Ай бұрын
The moment I heard "plastic pizza cutting board", I paused the video for a solid minute with my head in my hands in disappointment
@partypantz7546Ай бұрын
*Sees AITA video* "Awh shit, here we go again"
@ZzplysАй бұрын
Sounds like the niece is a pathological liar
@blackhagalazАй бұрын
If my cousin would keep referring to me as "S**y Baby", I would simply reply to her: "Well good thing there is diversity in bodies, we can not all look old and used up, can we"?
@winterfire567Ай бұрын
Oof. Brutal as fuck but effective.
@CurttehmurtАй бұрын
One issue in the last story is that "biological Woman" is considered a bit of a dog whistle amongst the TERF crowd. So if OP used that exact term I can see why Alex got really upset
@mariposa9506Ай бұрын
Too bad for Alex. We don't need to let someone else name us.
@LotuswalkerАй бұрын
Last story: OP could only lose, unfortunately. No matter what she did, someone would have been angry. NTA
@lorilancaster5917Ай бұрын
And unfortunately no matter how much damage control OP tries to do, the moment Alex accuses OP of discrimination, OPs career is in jeopardy.
@dudeorduuude5211Ай бұрын
@@lorilancaster5917a lot of women hating going on, in this topic. On the back of the me too movement. It is very sad and infuriating.
@lorilancaster5917Ай бұрын
@@dudeorduuude5211 and I think if Alex fully transitioned, OP would’ve waxed her. I’m kind of wondering why Alex would want to get waxed in the first place? Why now and OP?
@ScorpiusZA.Ай бұрын
Story 1 Edits: Edit; thank you all for your comments, we DO have cameras in our pool area and I will be showing and sending footage to both my sister and brother in law. Also they both work in law enforcement as well and do know what these type of accusations can do to mine and my husband’s careers. Another detail to add is that they themselves have been contacted by the school for accusations my niece has said about them and vice versa where they had to contact teachers for something my niece accused them of as well. I understand being a parent and standing by your child’s side but when they’ve had to deal with this situation before.. Last edit: My niece is in therapy and has been for a couple of years. It was suggested by her school counselor and her parents found a therapist and she sees them like once or twice a month. She has a really bad perception of therapy as her parents say therapy does not work and is only for “crazy” people and now she seems to have the same perception. Not everyone in law enforcement is a cop lol I work more in the clerical side of my department, I’m finishing up school to be more in the psychology side of things. Whereas my sister and BIL work more hands on with inmates. I told my sister about the cameras and emailed her any and all footage from the backyard and front. She then told me that I was being over dramatic with the whole situation and that we all know her daughter lies. I reiterated how lies like that could cost me my job or my friends jobs and she said “it’s not like you have a real law enforcement job”. She that she doesn’t feel like an apology is necessary. I didn’t feel like fighting anymore and decided that NC would be best for now. Throwing this in here since it’s on the same topic: I spoke with my brother (26M) about the situation. Growing up with three older sisters, he always knew how to stay out of the drama and always be neutral with all of us. He lives a state away and we don’t have much contact besides the occasional “how are you” texts. I told him about the situation and asked how he would handle it. COME TO FIND OUT, she did the same to him at my wedding about 8 months ago. My brother works with kids and that could have cost him his job as well! My niece told her parents my brother was sneaking her drinks and they believed her, even though they were AT my wedding as well. He said he went NC after that since he didn’t think the drama was worth it as he lives a whole state away and doesn’t really come visit unless it’s for Christmas. Which he didn’t this past year but we all thought it was because he had just been in town for my wedding.
@destinedtogameАй бұрын
Thanks for doing Dabs job. No idea how he missed this
@Leslie58Ай бұрын
Sounds like niece’s parents enable her. Thanks for sharing the update. 🙂
@truthseeker9249Ай бұрын
Well now we know that little brat is a freaking psycho.
@sweetkairysweetkairy3952Ай бұрын
Thanks
@truthseeker9249Ай бұрын
YT you will not silence me. She is mentally damaged no matter how many times you delete my comment.
@coppercornАй бұрын
Rslash, I have to be honest. I have a 21yo daughter, and I'm not 100% confident that she wouldn't try to cook plastic by mistake. Some people, just struggle with common sense.
@hollytheanimalcrossingfanАй бұрын
With the pizza story, I feel like she would be the type that puts aluminum in the microwave. Also with that short story, that is so annoying. How op's cousin was calling op childish when she's being childish
@memeweirdo957Ай бұрын
Id honestly start refering to the lady as a creep to everyone. Calling someone a sexy baby when they tell you to stop probably consititutes sexual harrassment.
@Mr_Timi1Ай бұрын
So I probably wouldn't call my girlfriend a dumbass but if she put a plastic cutting board in the oven it's a fairly dumbass thing to do.
@Robin93k10 күн бұрын
Then you're a terrible partner! Lying to a girl just to fuck her, doesn't make you empathetic, it makes you an abuser! Coddling dumb people like this only results in them actually killing someone, only partially themselves...
@Dog_in_treeАй бұрын
"She was understandably upset" no. That is not understandable. She was looking for a confrontation so she could play the victim. I'm so sick if those cry bullies. They love to manipulate people and try to gain power over them by playing the victim.
@nikitatavernitilitvynovaАй бұрын
One day my mom used the oven. We keep all sorts of things in there when it's off. Things like trays and a million of wooden cutting boars. That day there was also a container with toasted sesame seeds. My brother called my mom angrily and told her she left the container in the oven! Luckily it was made out of glass but the plastic lid was gone. We threw what was left of it away and wrapped the container in cling film instead to save the seeds.
@M0CH4_CUPАй бұрын
As a young adult who is 4’9, I’ve had older men be creepy towards me and look at me like a bag of meat simply because I was petite. I live in a state where pdf files are common, and I once almost got kidnapped because of how vulnerable I look. I can’t go to a store by myself without a wrinkly man staring at me. I’ve had peers my age say that “loving me would be akin to pdf ilia.” It gets tiring, but I try to never be ashamed of my height. As I say, the smaller the perfume, the more expensive it is.
@jennteal5265Ай бұрын
Last Story: NTA. This is so predatory to NOT discuss this up front with the esthetician and to expect her to do something like that when _she doesn't want to_ and calling her phobic because she won't do it is manipulative AF. She even offered to help that person find someone who could/would do the work!
@susami_Ай бұрын
That's the whole point, to be a predator and then scream phobia. It's a modus operandi.
@sdfghjasdfghjk8175Ай бұрын
A woman goes to a women's esthetician for waxing services, not seeing the predatory here. Are ciswomen with atypical vulvas expected to explain whether their labias are "innies or outies?" No, they're not. I'm not saying the esthetician had to continue the job even, but the client did nothing wrong.
@seekeroftruth6728Ай бұрын
@@sdfghjasdfghjk8175Women don't have dongs. Something you should have learned in elementary school.
@primrosevale1995Ай бұрын
@@seekeroftruth6728 Ironic coming from a person whose gender education ended at 3rd grade.
@seekeroftruth6728Ай бұрын
@@primrosevale1995 I'm uneducated because I don't want to play make-believe with you? Lol. Ok.
@stevenjackson_theblueeyegunguyАй бұрын
No no no. They're so heavy on others respecting their feelings, but they SECOND your feelings don't align perfectly all the sudden you're 'phobic' and discriminatory.. Just because you don't feel comfortable with touching another man's genitals. Not even out of disrespect, but in respect of your husband! Nah that's insane 😂
@BratBabiiReАй бұрын
I may get some hate for this. But for the last story, I think OP needs to have something in their booking policy that specifies "Biological Woman". Because if that wasnt clear when booking I understand the frustration of Alex. OP is not the AH for the interaction or her boundaries, but may be a small AH for not having a clear definition of what they can offer. You can't say 'serves all women' then not serve a subset group of women. If the reverse happened, FtM and the genitals were still bio women, but the rest was male, how would they have acted? It's just that a clear set policy that's well established and easily found before hand may've saved this from happening.
@d.phantomfan1216Ай бұрын
Story 3: she’s right it can be a common mistake,, my cousin once made this mistake once, didn’t cause that much damage though. Of course he was 6, and did it after he was told to wait a minute because everyone was preoccupied. Then again he was the only person that ever made that mistake, you know because it doesn’t take genius to explain that plastic melts.
@DarkEinherjarАй бұрын
Story 2: we call this bait and switch. He always intended for OP to be the SAH parent.
@RepellentJeffАй бұрын
Do you know how hot you have to get an oven to use a pizza stone?? It’s like 500 degrees! And she seriously thought a plastic cutting board would not be affected!? How is this woman still alive!?
@brendans9434Ай бұрын
Fun fire fact, burning refrigerant will kill you quick, stay away from AC units, fridges and similar items on fire unless you want to liquids your lungs
@slimjames1917Ай бұрын
Local man feels exactly what millions of women feel when they are forced to have a kid if they’re not 100% ready for AFTER TWO DAYS
@wakeangel2001Ай бұрын
13:40 there is body shaming for short people all the time, for men it's mostly just being generally undesirable since "women are into tall guys" but it's worse for women because they get told that the only men who will be attracted to them are pedophiles, which is REALLY fucked up
@KonekoPurrrfectionАй бұрын
Its also not "ok" for guys to be upset by it because that makes them "too sensitive" Short people just can't win. I speak as a shorty myself and I happen to Love wearing cute clothes and some of the ones that fit me best are in the teens section. Id dress my age but there's no clothes my size in the adults section so what exactly am I supposed to do? I actually found that if I buy from China the clothes actually fit me but its a gamble if the quality will be up to snuff
@HexisVonSpadeАй бұрын
@@KonekoPurrrfection i'm in a similar boat. short dude, but with a tall partner. when we went shopping for wedding clothing, found out my shirt size for a suit was XS. the good news, when you dress from the teen section, you'll always be "up to date" with the style trends! but, it can be an absolute pita sometimes.
@Robin93k10 күн бұрын
@@KonekoPurrrfectionAs tall dude, I can inform you, the majority give a wet fart about male height, at least in body size~ The majority of Size Queens want big dicks, some Size Princesses want Tall men, because they didn't get the metaphor, but the majority of women doesn't care! But women love to use the excuse "I only date tall guys" to get shorter guys to leave them alone. While in Reality, your height wasn't the reason, it's your personality, they're either trying to be nice or save their lives, because they're afraid of you.
@BeanManoloАй бұрын
Last story: NTA. Genitals are a sensitive area overall, and not only OP wasn't familiar with shaving male genitalia, she had a boundary for it for the same reason she wouldn't shave a biological male or even a post-OP trans man; Also another sign OP wasn't transphobic is that she not only suggested to Alex she could very well find someone who could attend her better, she also was still going with the procedure after finding out Alex was trans, but before finding out she was a pre-op one, showing OP would very well still accept shaving a pre-op trans man or even a post-op trans woman; Also the people saying to OP "you should've just done the wax": yeah so instead of getting mixed feedback, OP would get a horrible reputation because Alex would walk out of the session with her skin down there in pretty bad condition and damaged, all because OP lacked knowledge on how to wax male genitalia, and open for a malpractice lawsuit depending on how bad OP screwed up.
@royal-wolfАй бұрын
Last story: Transfem here. I always make sure places like those are okay with working with me first. Op did everything right and even went beyond trying to help a trans frie dlt location, Alex overreacted
@IkajoАй бұрын
I read the original thread, and the biggest issue wasn't that OP was uncomfortable. It was that she felt the need to bring up her husband. Making the whole thing oddly sexual. Instead she could have left it at her not feeling comfortable due to a lack of skill and her own comfort. Not her agreement with her husband.
@royal-wolfАй бұрын
@Ikajo I can fully understand that, too. It does make it come across as being more sexual than it needs to be. Any time I have anything like that done, I view it as a professional thing. I suppose some would make it spund more sexual than it could be.
@beeppbooppАй бұрын
@@Ikajo This exactly. Not being comfortable with male genitalia, not being experienced with it, etc. are both completely fine things. But "My husband is uncomfortable when I touch male genitalia" is just weird, and strangely sexual. It's sexualizing a completely SFW professional service. As a queer person I always get just, kind of sad when I see cishet people sexualizing interactions between the sexes so, so much. It's just so uncomfortable.
@niyakii6205Ай бұрын
last story: i argue op is only slightly the asshole. but not because she refused service. rather, because she put her weird agreement with her husband first before mentioning alexs safety and her inexperience with penises. that comes across to alex as she has more concern about not touching penises than the safety of her client. op should have just left her reasoning as “hey, im not experienced in this, so i cannot guarantee your safety. because of that, im not comfortable performing this service due to the high potential i will cause you harm.” her offering to help alex find someone who was experienced was a very generous move as she is not obligated to do so.
@KadeStringer2.0Ай бұрын
Last story : NTA in my opinion
@Graves933Ай бұрын
Last story: NTA. Regardless of how you identify, if you go to someone who is trained in waxing vaginas with a penis you will more than likely be turned away...not out of malice or transphobia, but because more than likely they dont have the training to wax you and could hurt you. That is a lawsuit waiting to happen. It is also worth being said that the waxer might also just be uncomfortable waxing the opposite genatalia, we are all human and have our boundaries.
@eileenheath1968Ай бұрын
Last one - I had to explain to my husband that "wax" is more like tape and you can lose skin if this procedure isn't done correctly.
@MartyndeАй бұрын
you can say molestation but you can't say abortion?
@your_local_questerianАй бұрын
The double standards are unreal right now.
@opalowlstowels7888Ай бұрын
KZfaq is weird
@SkunkApe407Ай бұрын
@@your_local_questerian it isn't even a double standard. It's a total lack thereof. YT censorship and enforcement is an absolute joke.
@lornaginetteharrison7168Ай бұрын
Story 2: Does anyone else think the husband engineered the condom "breaking" as a way of forcing OP to have a child, as he always wanted? Now he’s trying to trap her in domesticity, after just two days of not even trying to fulfil his end of the deal. NEVER let yourself get talked into having kids/not having kids by your partner. If the two of you have different wants then the relationship is totally incompatible and destined for disaster. OP honestly should’ve taken the morning after pill or gone ahead with the termination after her husband’s "accident"; if she stays with him, I wonder how long it’ll be before he "accidentally" knocks her up again with another kid?
@kstriclАй бұрын
Thank you for the PSA on smoke Dabney. Not a fire fighter, but have family that were, and awareness of how deadly smoke can be is vital to know. Thankfully for OP, food safe plastic also doesn't out gas anything that will insta kill you, but it's best to be aware.
@doodlemaster4897Ай бұрын
For the last story, and a trans nonbinary person I agree NTA. It's not like she said she only provides services to real women and kicked Alex out. She just explained that she not equipped, experienced or comfortable handling male genitalia and offered to help Alex find a new place. OP feels very respectful about the whole situation
@finndemoncat9379Ай бұрын
That last women was just pushing other people's boundaries.
@bcatbb2896Ай бұрын
I’m honestly not surprised the pizza girl didn’t know how to cook Most people nowadays have 0 knowledge when it comes to the kitchen
@Emeraldwitch30Ай бұрын
The first thing I did with my kids is teach them cooking basics. My son loved breakfast and could make almost any breakfast you like. So i knew he wouldn't starve out on his own lol I've been helping teach my grandkiddos too now that I'm older. When I first moved out of my parents home I was shocked at the kids who had no clue how to cook at all.
@bcatbb2896Ай бұрын
@@Emeraldwitch30 unfortunately most family's nowadays just dont, especially in certain racial communities. I still remember back in middle school 14 years ago, a certain group of black folks in my cooking class had no idea how to even mix cake batter by simply stirring the spatula, the brain cells just went out of their heads in that moment
@DarkusZarvixАй бұрын
The trans-woman client story: I am a transman so I understand this feeling of possible discrimination well through experience. OP of the story is NOT being discriminatory. Taking personal feelings/agreements out of it, if OP does not have the experience in waxing clients with male genitalia, it is entirely reasonable that she defers to someone else who does. Why should OP possibly get in trouble or sued if something goes wrong during the waxing due to inexperience? At that point, it has nothing to do with the client being trans as a cis gender man would be rejected in the same fashion and for the same reason. Frankly, while it is uncomfortable for the trans person, the client should have made the point known when booking that they are trans, especially when it comes to intimate areas... that's a policy I go by anyway and I try to be transparent about this when necessary just to save everyone time. Taking OP's personal feelings into account, she is the one who determines who she takes on as clients. She could reject someone for any or no reason at all. She'd need to deal with the consequences of rejecting someone, of course, like lost income or the possible rumors about discrimination but, I think OP assisting in finding the client someone who can meet their need says enough that it isn't based on prejudice against the person, it was based on inexperience with waxing male genitalia. I'd make the same decision in their shoes. Why would anyone risk their entire livelihood on that when there are people who can do it more safely? Maybe OP could consider training for this situation in the future if the agreement with the husband could be discussed. IMO, society is becoming a bit too overly sensitive on some groups of people to a point where those groups can leverage it to get what they want or cry discrimination... It's becoming concerning and I think that pendulum is swinging too far now. For Trans people, we just want to live our lives normally as possible. We don't want to make a big deal about the fact we're trans, as much as we can anyway... Complaining about every little fault is making trans people sound like fragile babies that need to be coddled and the world being bubble wrapped for us. While standing up for rights is absolutely necessary when it treads on human rights, this is too small of an issue to cry discrimination about, especially when there's logical reasons as to why someone decides to turn you away and you are being given assistance to find what you want done. Why would I ask someone who isn't trained or experienced to do something to me? I don't ask a random person to do surgery on me then cry discrimination if they say no because they don't know what they are doing. So, OP's issue is the genitalia that the body has and not having the experience of working with it, not the gender the person goes by so the discrimination claim is BS in my opinion based on the info given. NTA.
@alexkobold5073Ай бұрын
16:00 - So I’m a trans dude so my experience is a bit different- but as for the last story, I understand Alex’s frustration with being told she wasn’t able to get her wax done but I dont agree with her then blasting the shop. The way op said it could be interpreted as discrimination in the emotional sense (“I can’t do it based on my boundaries”) but logically speaking OP wasn’t qualified and did everything she could to provide the service Alex needed including going above and beyond by offering to find a trans friendly waxing salon. OP definitely is not the A-hole, and honestly Alex deserves a score.
@allisonvaughnАй бұрын
I think it’s jealousy regarding the short woman. My daughter is a teen and is the same height and has no issue with boys being interested her. Short girls can have literally their entire pick of available boys and it’s not the same for taller girls.
@jakubrogacz6829Ай бұрын
Taller girls have their pick too. Guys dont complain about tall women
@dudeorduuude5211Ай бұрын
@@jakubrogacz6829as a tall woman... you are wrong. They may not always say it out loud, but it is a given that your dating pool is smaller. The small women are the ones typically with the tall men. So you have to become really comfortable with yourself because you are dating short guys.
@jakubrogacz6829Ай бұрын
@@dudeorduuude5211 but this is your guys choice to limit yourself. You have your pick of men - just dont want to pick them
@Ozzman6662Ай бұрын
Sorry rslash but I will not be googling "sexy baby" it ain't happening
@akaisha0000Ай бұрын
So...OP is allowed to not want to be a stay at home parent, but the husband isn't...right..
@ErzsabetJonesАй бұрын
For the story about the dad not being able to handle the baby over a weekend… He said he felt trapped, so I’m betting he felt a little overwhelmed and lonely, since he was likely used to socializing a bit. And the baby is still young, both parents still need a lot of adjusting.
@karikur0Ай бұрын
OP in the last story isn't wrong for refusing but she shouldn't have brought up her personal comfort or her arrangement with her husband. she should have stuck with "I'm not trained or experienced with waxing trans women, so I cannot perform this procedure. The way the outer labia is waxed is very different from how the scrotal area is, so i can't safely do this procedure, blah blah blah."
@kpopninjaАй бұрын
Story 5: As part of the LGBTQ community, OP was NTA. I understand the client's frustrations, but that doesn't mean that cis people can't have their own boundaries. And she wasn't even denying the swrvice because the person was trans she just not comfortable with male genetalia other than her husband's in general. That's normal that's not transphobic.
@dudeorduuude5211Ай бұрын
Her husband was her excuse. To me, not wanting to touch penises is enough of a justification.
@onyxdragon1179Ай бұрын
Story 3: Yeah, literally one of the first things adults taught me before using a microwave or oven was not to put any kind of plastic or cookware inside without knowing if it was microwave/oven safe. How could she make such a mistake? I mean, sure, I understand her thinking the stone thing was dirty, but come on!
@erin8050Ай бұрын
Last story: One of OP's concerns was safety. She was concerned about hurting the client on accident becuase she'd never waxed male genetalia. This is a very reasonable point of concern because if she'd done the wax and hurt the client that's potential grounds for a lawsuit; OP was protecting herself, her business, and possibly her marriage by refusing the client and offering to find an alternative beautician who specializes in trans clients.