Duh

Poor kid :(

DO SOME TIFU NOW!!!!

I refuse to answer until we see more r/PuppyBloopers

love ya

I agree. Especially after they say she made Matt look bad right after he made fun of her

I came to the comments to say exactly that. Why does it matter that he was a guest? He was the one of that started it.

Honestly agreed. OP didn't wanna bring the mood down entirely, so they said something else. Matt then had the audacity to say what he did, so OP stood up for themselves.

I agree

I agree. The host was trying their best to make the night fun, I hope they are feeling better

yeah not to mention, bras r that expensive if their good bras, and at that price im guessing they were big cup sizes which means they were back support bras. freaking man not trying to even understand the importance of boob cages

@@redclover8387 Boob cages. Lol. I'm using that from now on.

@@redclover8387 size is so important when it comes to bra prices. Department/clothing stores only have the most common sizes and you get what you pay for. If it's $15-20, that's what you're getting. Lingerie/bra stores have a much wider variety of sizes and way better quality. They're around $50 a bra. They still don't have all the sizes though which is when you have to go to higher end places where bras cost $75+. My mom has always had to spend $100-200 on a single bra because department stores and lingerie stores like Victoria's secret simply don't have her size. Now they're good bras, they're high quality and usually those stores will adjust the elastics for you and give you some perks, but that's still a lot of money for a single bra.

@@AngelWingsTVdavcs got it from my cousin xD

@@abbyrudy167 mmmhm. its a pain in the lower back

Yeah, I don’t know why rslash gave OP a butthole score. Matt was the one who ruined the vibe, OP was just matching his energy. If Matt didn’t try to act like he was better than OP for “living a harder life” OP would’ve never brought up his sisters death.

Agreed OP did nothing wrong and doesn't deserve a butthole score, it seems like according to Rslash if he invited me over I could rag on him as much as I want and he shouldn't respond because he invited me? (Obviously I wouldn't) but that's what I got from his statement

I agree Matt is the butthole op is not the butthole at all I really don’t under stand why he said op was the butthole smh

Basically two wrongs don't make a right. And just because your clapback is justified, it doesn't mean that you aren't ignoring the consequences of clapping back. He knew it would make things more awkward and uncomfortable for everyone. But he didn't want anyone to believe Matt and think he was privileged. So gets at least 1/2 of an asshole because clapping back was selfish Continued drama and spoiled everyone's night. He could have told a joke to break the tension and been confident that his friends wouldn't give a shit.

Don’t know why OP couldn’t have said something like “Look, I don’t want to bring the mood down, so I’ll just say this instead of talking about the hardest thing. That’s too personal.”

Karen alert

She's not even his mother she's his stepmother she's probably one of those creeps that tell kids she's their " new mommy"

Imagine the implications. "I killed him and dismembered his body for my Satanic ritual since as his mother I am pretty sure I can do whatever I want!"

@Sumitha Jetty I hope you're being sarcastic. This woman came into the life of this kid, and is telling him "YOU WILL OBEY ME!" As a stepkid myself, I can tell you that having another person come into your life and control aspects of it, is infuriating to no end. Respect from kids is earned, not given.

I was mad at her when she said the two kids celebrate their birthday on the same day.

I was thinking the same thing. I have a D cup and back problems including a crooked spine so I need bras that cost about $80 since they are fitted and have wide straps. That story is just an example of men who don't understand that having boobs is an actual problem sometimes

Yeah, and unless you cough up some extra money, the ones with the most support won’t even look as pretty.

Yeah , same . My bras cost more than my outerwear. There are many women like me. We can't afford to have shoulder pain , breast pain and breathing distress .

Not every set of bosoms are the same

Yeah, ditto. I didn't ask to be HH. I'd rather be a C (or something else easier to find, C would just be ideal), but it's either expensive bras or plastic surgery. I think the bras are less expense and little if any pain.

Ikr does he and his dad not know how much bras are? lmao

bras are expensive as hell. A good bra with good support that doesn’t feel miserable is pricey. Some people really just have no idea how crazy bras are...

I’m lucky to find affordable bras that are comfortable. (Sports bras!) But still, what the stepson did was disrespectful and his dad didn’t help matters. If he didn’t want his son to pay the full amount, the least he can do is pay out of his own pocket for the rest.

I rolled my eyes when he said, “That’s a crazy price for a bra,” because.... no, it’s not. Good bras, like many other quality products, are expensive. And it doesn’t matter how you feel about it, if you think it’s too expensive or if your wife has cheaper bras, that’s still damaged property. If someone purposefully busted the window of your car for a video, do you expect them to less than half the price of that window?

Also the comment about his wife’s bras being cheaper *facepalm*. As if all Moms and daughters had the same boobs! Before I gained weight due to hypothyroidism, I was lucky that a Cheap brands model of bras fit me perfectly. Now they don’t because my boobs are bigger and I simply cannot find a bra that is helpful. Moral of the story? Whilst some years ago I could wear cheap bras, now I can‘t. Still the same woman. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Shall we bring my Mom‘s boobs into it now? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Same here. Speaking as a kid whose biological father essentially yeeted out of the maternity ward the minute I was born because "I didn't want to be a dad at the time." F*** that guy.

They better feel sorry when their child is starving on the streets and dies by overdosing on meth. But then again they probably won’t and claim that they deserved it.

I feel bad for the kid. No kid deserves to be told by a parent that they're the reason for their parents divorce. Op and his ex sound like terrible parents. It's not the kid's fault he has behavior problems.

If i see that guy i would mime the WHY YOU LITTLE- where he could see it

@@Toaster-draws And the kid could be doing this out of neglect too, maybe he just wanted his parents' attention.

Same, it hurts my wallet a bit when I buy a new one but I gotta be assured that it will last and that something I have to wear for the majority of my day almost everyday is comfortable and accommodates my back issues.

Right!!! It's terrible when you're big chested as well and I understand that the stepfather wouldn't pay attention to something like that either... it just goes to show what some men know about women's bodies 🤦‍♀️

I’m a b-cup and I would have been VERY mad if someone ruined my good bras

WELL IT WAS HIS FUCKING FAULT WASN'T IT?! He's a brat that needed to be taught the world doesn't revolve around his ass and his actions have consequences.

@@charlottenoli4179 are you serious?

What most of you have probably neglect is that OP knows he's the A-hole;He just needed to know if he truly was! Calling him a negligent parent is pretty biased,considering they tried their best to be alright with him.They should've taught him how to maintain his temper,but how would they have known that if they're tunnel-visioned? Yes,OP is still the A-hole,but we can't be too harsh on him! To be honest,I think the child would get 1/5 A-holes for emotionally draining their parents' mental health,thus turning them into what you claim to be "Emotionally abusive and negligent parents".All of them need therapy.

@@Dr.rexus_here Yes. I . Am

@@vloggerbonakid6178 We can absolutely be harsh on him--blaming the child for divorce is like the #1 thing NOT to do, it's in every children's book about divorce "just remember it's not your fault!". Kids already blame themselves for everything, and it's clear the kid wasn't taking the news well at all. Even after things calmed down the father reiterated that blame and feels GOOD that the kid is quiet due to incredible guilt. You're saying children should be shamed for the choices the adults made. If the parents disagreed on whether to vaccinate or not, to indoctrinate the kid into their religion or not, and divorced as a result, it would be asinine to blame the child for their divorce. But because the kid was having trouble regulating his emotions, or because his needs weren't being met, you defend emotional abuse. Yes, all of them need therapy, especially that child who has been rejected by both parents. But perhaps you need it too my dude.

Thank you for the update! All the other stories has pretty clear conclusions to me, but I had to know if the Dad in the last story realized would make it up to the daughter.

While I agree that the daughter deserves to get her money back for the damaged property, i also agree that those bras were grossly overpriced. There is no way in hell those bras should cost $80+ unless they were stitched in solid gold thread and bedazzled in princess cut diamonds as if they were sequins. A decent bra should only be $15-$20. And a "good" bra that is made of better material, tailored to perfectly fit the individual woman's needs, etc etc should only be about $40-$50. That market is highway robbery and she is almost certainly paying for "brand name" at dollar store quality. Also the car argument is kinda invalid. When some Lambo sell for a solid $1M and a decent Ford could be bought as low as the $20K. Plus it completely ignores the issue of depreciation. Drive off the lot and that $1M Lambo suddenly drops to $200K. $20K Ford becomes $2K. That doesn't happen with bras. (Edit: Alot of people misunderstood this original post and commented without reading further to see clarification. Summary is: Pay the girl back. Prices are ridiculous. Overthrow the bra industry for their overpriced low quality bullshit.)

Navy89SEALs bruh. i don’t want to fight you on this but you are wrong

@@Navy89SEALs as someone heavy chested, I have NEVER found a bra that fits me under about $70 unless it was on dale - and those are considered cheap for my particular measurements (I basically have to stock up once a year on sale days). They certainly aren't high end (just chain retail) and don't last a full year. I absolutely believe the daughter's price tag is reasonable. I have friends who have to have them custom made because their measurements aren't standard in stores as well. Not everyone can find a $20 or $40 bra that fits, let alone in a decent quality.

@@Navy89SEALs there's a reason a lot of poor people literally can't afford bras - if they were affordable for all sizes that wouldn't be an issue.

Huh, sounds like my bio dad. He's a narcissistic a hole too. Holy crap this so called "dad" is a pos too. I hope that kid gets a better life away from his crappy excuses for parents. 😡

Cue drug abuse in a few years...

Honestly this boy’s mother and father sucks beyond imagination

Like straight up if they couldn’t handle him, just put up for adoption or something

@@Kalossupremacy3356 exactly honestly if you too irresponsible to take care of your child than just don’t have any children and most importantly NEVER BLAME A CHILD for a divorce it’s not their fault I hope those parents will burn in hell for treating their child like that

I agree I'd have chided back with a similar comment if someone I was hosting started getting snippy with me, either that or I'd tell him to get the fuck out.

@@PeterCaptainObvious i agree to i mean i have hearing loss and one time we were playing i think truth or dare and a new guy in the circle read it to me then when i said "can you repeat that?" That happened one more time until he lost it and yelled calling me deaf and everyone was quiet i dont like sharing my hearing loss but i promptly said. I have hearing loss... and we ended our game a minute later

Yes

@@Yeezyisms yeah some people fucking suck, I'm sorry you went through that

@@Yeezyisms Oh man, I can feel your pain. I used to have partial hearing loss as a kid and the most hurtful things about it was something that heppened in the 2nd grade of primary school. I was at the very back of the class (but I should've been placed in the very front due to my condition) and when I misheard my teacher's question, I gave some stupid answer and everyone INCLUDING my teacher started laughing at me. I've never felt so embarrassed in my entire life because I didn't know I did something wrong. Luckily, my mum confronted the teacher after that situation.

Agreed youth consoling and therapy are both very good options that don't involve ruining his life.

You can't call them parents if they don't raise you. That's not parenting

And then that guy had the nerve to get offended in the replies because he got called a "garbage father" - complete human failures like that one is why there should be a license and a test before you're allowed to get kids.

"And that's how I cut contact with my kid" Probably what they said in the future.

If a child has behaviour issues, it's something to analyse and deal with. It could be a condition, or bad parenting, but if the child's behaviour gets worse, you're probably doing something awfully wrong. To then blame the child, who just wants a stable home life, for your choices and failures is horrible. Go to frick.

This all the way

Exactly. The two adults need to sit down and have a conversation about parenting powers and responsibilities. And after they both understand the other's position, they need to invite the son into the conversation and let him be heard.

step monsters like this make me puke

If she's going to be in a house raising a child then yes she does have a say

@Chris George no, she is just stuck with a disrespectful child and stupid, pathetic, sensitive people like you commenting

@@justicemartinez3478 not when it comes to being a parent! what a joke!

I feel like she should have sent him to his room for thirty minutes for being disrespectful, then called him back down and explained even if he's frustrated, he doesn't have the right to speak to her that way. After that, she should ask for a sincere apology, and if he refused then send him to his room until he decides he's ready to apologize. After he apologizes, she should go on to remind him that even though they aren't biologically related, she still sees him as her son and she's always going to love him and look out for him, even if she doesn't tolerate him having a bad attitude. That would be addressing and dealing with his attitude in a way that's appropriate for what he did, it would probably have even given them a better understanding of each other. Canceling his birthday is going WAY too far. You're depriving him of a priceless moment in his life. Birthdays aren't special anymore when you're an adult, hell, they stop being special after you're fourteen or so for most people. That was probably going to be his last meaningful birthday, and she took it away from him over something so petty and un-worth it. Plus, it was probably really inconsiderate to his friends' parents and all the other people who moved their schedules around so that they could attend.

@@vanessadiviak6201 she keeps calling herself his mother likely he's reacting to her over stepping she's only been married to his dad for two years and expected him to immediately accept her as a mother without being to do the work

@@krism8335 ikr she's really overstepping her boundary you can't just expect a child to just accept you after 2 years. She never said what happen to his mother either so he could still be upset since his parent aren't together anymore, and processing those feelings into anger. He most likely just sees her as a woman who married his dad. They need therapy, and I know he will he will resent her for canceling his birthday but still celebrating the 7 y/o birthday the same day.

@Sumitha Jetty Okay? This was just my opinion, and he's a not demon he's a child. He should not be treated like a demon. They should talk it out and get therapy. Another thing don't expect a child to be "oh I'm so sorry" or "I'll stop" or just listen to you in general if you have been giving them empty threats. Doesn't work like that.

@Sumitha Jetty Honestly Children can be bratty he is LITERALLY A CHILD And they didn't discipline him so its their fault

A)He’s 13. He’s a teen and teens also act like this(I have also occasionally done the thing he has done) B)OP already asked him that question, why not note it somewhere C)Birthdays happen once a year, and are a reminder that he’s 13, not 12, I literally can’t get used to the fact I’m already 13 since my last 2 birthdays were cancelled(COVID)

I also love how she was like my step son the whole time until like one of the last sentences was like "As his mother I'm pretty sure I can do what I want though..." I am a child who's parents got a divorce and obviously I can only speak for me but if my step dad like said that I would be so pissed idk. To me the story seems super weird I also feel like they maybe should try and sit down together to talk because she can't expect a child who isn't hers to just see her as a mother figure it can often easily feel like step parents are trying to take the place of your Actual ones which can be irritating but like his behaviour is obviously also not the best (I'm sorry for my English and I hope this wasn't too all over the place)

@@rockingamingwiththesahit2145 you assume the little ahole already gave the info. Kids need to learn to act respectful. If he is acting like this at 12 almost 13, he needs to learn to act respectful.

She sounds like the “I’ve tried nothing and I’m all out of options” type. I also guarantee he didn’t want to share his birthday but step Karen wants it.

The step son was rude!

@@ruthhadfield9726 Still canceling a birthday like that is one the cruelest things someone could do.

@@Mario87456 ok maybe what she should have done is cancell the party or not have a party...but why should she put up being spoken too like that? We wouldn't tolerate it so why should we except too!! Also its not like he was 5 he was 13

@@ruthhadfield9726 She could have made him do more chores or something.

@@Mario87456 what if she had tried everything? Sounds like this is an ongoing thing.....when you are at the end of your tether you may do something extreme (obviously within reason!) And this comment was the last straw!

Ye

That’s because when someone isn’t offended it’s usually because they know it’s a joke so it doesn’t need to be said

@@justsomerandombananawithin3705 you look RIPE

EK: I was racist on purpose and posted it online and then it was sent to my football team. I'm ObViOuSlY tHe ViCtIm SiNcE iT wAs JuSt A rAcIsT jOkE.

Yep

Seriously, though, I don't have any brothers, but I have a cousin who has a brother and my cousin is very busty, and of her brother ever did something like that with one of her expensive bras, she normally paid over 100, my cousin would get his ass beat so quick and made repay it, but they're also both adults so that might change something

This comment! Yes! I have friends who are very well endowed in the chest department and have no choice but to spend a lot on bras. There's a lot of red flags in this story and I couldn't agree more with you.

PREACH!

I think you're reaching in the first paragraph. That's just siblings doing sibling things. He turned them into slingshots. Stop trying to paint it into something creepy.

@@guywholikesgoodmusic I don't think they were saying it was creepy, just that it is a violation of privacy. Which it is.

She tried to rip an article of clothing off another person. That's assault, plain and simple, and the school needs to be under investigation for covering it up. If they are willing to cover something like this up, what other things might they be hiding?

Not borderline harassment. It was straight-up harassment and assault

Obviously if the friends knew about his sister passing then obviously they should've told Matt that don't bring it up

I don't even know why Rslash gave him 1/5 buttholes he should have 0/5 when you enter someone home you should be respectful and OP didn't even know Matt but still invite him into his home but is still disrespected like that just make my blood boil

Thank you, exactly my thoughts

Reaper Rogue Agent The other friends didn’t know him either. The only one who knew him was one friend and she didn’t know either. So no one could really give a warning or anything to him. And that’s not something you tell strangers about. It wouldn’t be their place to tell such personal information about someone. Regardless, Matt was still a jerk and shouldn’t have said that. He was dense for sure. That question, of course some people don’t want to answer it with the truth. I would have caught on they were probably holding back and I have aspergers. It just seems pretty obvious. You don’t pressure people with a question like that. I told a friend about the hardest thing in my life. It was the first time I talked about it to anyone in my life after 14years from when it happened. It felt good to get it off my chest. After a while I told another friend. These were my 2 best friends I had. Well the second one I told about it decided to tell someone else. It was another friend of mine, but it really pissed me off. It wasn’t up to them to tell. Maybe there were only certain people I felt comfortable with them knowing. The person they told I was also close with and I didn’t have a problem with them knowing, but it was the fact they went and told someone else something so personal about me. It wasn’t their place and it made me wonder if I could trust them with any of my secrets if they go and tell others immediately. It really caught me off guard when this other friend brought it up and I never told them. So no, I don’t think it was anyone’s responsibility to tell Matt about the host’s past. That would be a violation of trust. You could tell the host withholds the info from people and probably for the reason it hurts to think about. It’s up to them who they want to know about it, not the friends. The friends didn’t do anything wrong by not telling a stranger personal hurt of the host’s past. That’s crossing a line

Yo we have the same last name

Exactly. And finding a good bra, that fits and is comfortable? It can be a REAL pain in the boobs. Some people are weird sizes, or have more sensitive breasts... I myself have a mole in JUST the wrong place, so underwire is horrifically painful. Sometimes, you just need to pay for quality, and people should respect that.

I think both the dad and son should pay, the dad is clearly dismissing the fact his son invaded his step sister's privacy!

That kid should pay every single penny back

What did the sun do 🌞? He was just minding his own business

Agreed that kids life is ruined (or at least his childhood) someone needs to find this kid call CPS and send him to therapy so he can work on his mental problems (both the ones he was born with and the ones that have been inflicted by his horrible parents) in a safe productive way so that he can grow and lead a normal life without the thought of his parent's divorce haunting him.

@Goat The Kids not at fault for the divorce. The dad admits to other problems like being unable to compromise and drinking to escape the problem. Sounds like an incompatibility issue to me. The kid didn't cause the divorce his behavorial issues simply exposed the problems with the marriage. If the parents really wanted to stay together they would have gotten counseling and find ways to workout there issues. Blaming the kid is just the father's way of avoiding responsibility.

@Goat He posted it to be judged. He made that conscious decision and no one is required to give them help. However as the two "adults" in this situation they could have tried therapy or anything with the son. Seeing the description of his behavior he could have a mental disorder that's gone undiagnosed. The dad never said why the kid is acting, just that he does. If they took the time to figure out the problem then they'd have a solution. I feel like they're just using the kid as an excuse for their sh*tty actions and in ability to healthily communicate. Plus the kid seeing his parents argue and fight might be where he gets his aggression from. Seeing how they handled this one can only imagine what the home environment is like. They have no excuse for their actions. They're adults, not children. They know better.

not like the story is even real, chill

@Goat given they never bothered to help their child not be a terror they have zero sympathy from me

Agreed. The parent is the first to be held responsible for anything the kid does. That guy is going to die alone.

It was perfect example of parents who were not ready to (or shouldn't) be parents. Seems like the idea of having a kid didn't meet the reality.

Yea

I saw the title and thought to my self HMMMMMMM nO oP yOu ArE nOt ‘bruh hell yes you are’

@@sunhoteclipse4742 mine are getting a divorce and I hownstly don't care, im a fully grown woman who's had to watch her parenrs fight all the time and deal with my jerk dad my whole life I've been hoping for a divorce since I first found out what it was

exactly!! He's 15 too- he should know better!

*breathe* R

Sounds like caregiver fatigue, it’s a real thing and tbh some parents react a lot worse. He’s an ass but he’s also human and has feelings.

I love this 😂

Best one yet 😂

I don't like racist, but your "joke" fell flat on its face.

Or mortal ears would never be able to process it

why? did something happen?

@@forecastjanna1906 he's a father, he had a child about a year ago.

PREACH! My shoulder suffered permanent damage because of (among other things) bad bras. This guy should have to wear a jock strap made of haircloth. That’s the equivalent.

was about to give the car example xD

"Would you pay that much for a pair of shoes?" "Well, shoes are different because they support your--" "Bail." "--okay." •-•

Not that far in the video yet, but I have to say that it can be size dependent. I hate expensive bra's most of the time because they give way more support than I need (thus making the thing less comfortable) and it is hard to find one without push-up etc in small sizes 😅. Furthermore I think you are 100% right!

I mean, 80-95 is pretty expensive.. I know I am a boy, but my sister has a fine back and shoulders and she has never spent any more than 40-50 on her ones

Just imagine if she has big breast, than for her cheap bras who actually support the weight don't exist. Even for good quality, 80$ for a bra is cheap. Cheap bra doesn't hold and they are useless in 6 month.

What kind of video was he making though???

@@helenemuscagorry244 Bro, exactly. You have to look for your size, find good support that isn't going to screw you over in six months, like- Bras aren't just, grab the first one and you're fine. I bet if it was his bio son's shit, he would make her pay for all of it.

wife probably has a smaller bust and well-fitting bras are expensive, maybe he should check what health issues ladies can get from wearing an ill-fitting bra also if the son wanted to use bra's why did he only use his sisters and not the wives or did he ask if they had old ones lay around that they were not using anymore.

@@helenemuscagorry244 I had to buy my on clothes since I'm fourteen and I have large breasts (and a small frame). I never owned more than three bras at once because they are so expensive and also very hard to find. Out of 10 bras I try maybe one will fit even when they are all the same size - and mostly it's in a colour I don't like. I still envy women who can buy cheaper bras because they actually don't need one. Most men are shocked when I tell them about this and how expensive bras can be. They just assume that large cups costs the same as smaller cups and that we have the same range and variety to choose from. I would love to have more than white, tan and black to choose from!

No need to be rude though....so the dad is never allowed to be with someone again? Even if you are unhappy she is planning a birthday for him and spenind her own money and he was disrecptful and rude!

@@ruthhadfield9726 still, op was overreacting it was a face palm not anything else

@@jogn5425 True, just a face palm and the kid loses the moment he becomes a teen...

@@ruthhadfield9726 lmao I think I found the mother from that story guys

@@ReaperPeeper ah yes you have found me out well done you. Sorry to upset you but I am not the mother in the story I just see where the mother is coming from. Imagine you are spending your hard earned money on a party for your stepson who has been rude to you from day one and you then asked him a simple question and he responds in actually a really rude way wouldn't you have had enough. Ok maybe she shoukd have just cancelled the party not his whole birthday but still he needs to know you can't talk to people like shit.

It’s a schrodinger’s douchebag. They change the meaning of their statements depending on how it’s received.

BEHOLD, A Future Karen

jokes don’t always have to be funny for all parties but you should realize what will happen if you joke about certain things

Not always.

Ever heard of someone with no humor? Lol

Damn

Hi honey!

Oh... you

If it is the one ur talking about, the father said flat out that his kid was a burden and the reason for the divorce he has shut down. The kids behaviour did not in any way get better. I am worried for what he might do to himself as well as shutting down. Since he cant let it out he might find other more harmful ways. When you silence the loud kid, shit is gonna build up

Kid : shutting down Awful parents : behaviour improvement Me : you fool you crushed his soul and destroyed his heart , you disgust me

Parents saying things like that to their kids is a pretty good way to get them to be suicidal

Even misbehaved kids trust their parents so much, unconditionally. Even when parents DO have a kids best interests at heart, they can end up destroying them, so imagine how much damage can be done by a parent that actually hates their children.

Seriously! The way this dude talked about his kid. No wonder the behavioral problems. I really hope he has someone good in his life.

yeah a lot of young people are having children unprepared thinking its easy welp that explains a lot of the divorces and bullies nowadays

Oh no

Same here.

Wow, you remember this episode of Sesame Street which talks about divorce and how they state that it's never the child's fault, well, this divorce story and your similar situation begs to differ.

@@spydersoup8447 first off, I don't care about Sesame Street cause it's garbage. Secondly, it wasn't the kid's fault. The parents decided on their own to divorce. He didn't force their hand. You obviously did not read the quote in OP's story where he not only blamed his own flesh and blood for the divorce, he went as far as blaming his son for even existing.

@@warriorsorb1111 OK, OK. I just find this story unbelievable. It's obvious it's not the kid's fault, it's just that the parents think it is is what makes the story unbelievable.

It's honestly nuts how much we have to pay for bras and underwear (particularly fitted stuff for the former)....the only thing justifying the price of bras is that once you've got your hands on some good ones they last years.

@@LILFOC1 Nah, that's not the only reason they are expensive. I have a stupidly thick neck for my shoulder width so I can't buy shirts in normal stores if I intend to button the collar. So I have to pay out of the nose to get tailor made shirts that fit. It's the same with anything. If you can't wear the mass produced stuff, you have to buy specially made stuff that is either made to measurements or in specialty sizes and as that stuff does not come with huge production numbers that drive down the price of an individual item, stuff gets expensive real fast.

"of course I'm not its not like that will haunt him for the rest of his life and look he "looks" fine therefore he is"

Was that the thimbnail?

Hmm not sure dude.

Well, I don't know if it's me, but I don't see that as an a-hole move.

You said it. -_-

Right? I got choked up hearing that story...

I honestly teared up a bit that dad is honestly disgusting

Oh yes, let me tell you how that feels. Now my parents divorced when I was 4. My dad cheated and didn't want to end his relationship with my (now) stepmom. That's what factually happened. Of course you don't tell you kids that, however growing older I started to ask questions and when I was 15, I sat down with my dad and asked why it happened. He basically said that my mum, my sister and me forced him into this relationship because we were so much trouble (me and my sis didn't get along and she and my mum didn't either). I was crushed, completely. My already fragile self-esteem was shattered and my (again already) slightly mental brain went into full blown selfhate. I believed his bs, I felt guilty for his mistakes and I still do sometimes. You know when you're all alone and wondering how much better your life could have been if anything had been any different. Don't ever tell your kids something like that because you will ruin them.

Have you ever seen the movie “We need to talk about Kevin”? It deals with some similar things in that post. Having watched that movie, I think I see both sides of it

My concern is that the kid may end up hurting himself because of what his dad said, they should go on therapy as a family to work things out.

I mean that more his story went on the more I thought wow your just a terrible person. While I'm about as old school as it gets when it comes to parenting the kids behavior sounds like classic neglect

IKR? No mention of ever seeking professional help for the behavioral issues, just "punish him more or do nothing". Sounds like some major denial going on and the poor kid pays the price.

YamiNoSensei13 Professionals can be very expensive and we don’t know their financial situation. I understand not getting professional help for that reason. But they still should have stuck through it for their child. You should never just give up on them and obviously show them how much you don’t like them. A household of arguments only make these things worse. Now this poor kid will forever feel guilty for being the reason his family broke apart and also feel like he isn’t loved. How cause the father have said his own son made his life worse from the moment they were born? That’s hits deep. This trauma will likely never be healed

@@SillyRamen My nephew had behavioral issues (bipolar) and got so bad my sister and bil had to turn him over to State placement for 18 months. I won't go into all the stuff the kid did, but he was in court many times and the placement was court ordered. They helped him get regulated on medication and therapy. He's now getting his masters after he finished law school.

Considering how both parents are apparently handling their child, I wouldn't be at all surprised if his bad behavior is a cry for attention. Like, what were they expecting? Did they think he would parent himself? Did they think he would parent them?!?

Not enough data provided to reach that conclusion. One can only determine he doesn’t want his child, which is worse.

@@alexanderharris5022 Nah, there seems to be enough. He was happy with his spouse until the kid existed. He told the kid to his face that it was the kid's fault and refuses to acknowledge that it's actually his and his spouse's fault. He may have wanted a kid, but he clearly regrets it. The kid didn't turn out to be absolutely perfect in his eyes, so the whole family gets torn apart.

To be fair it can be hard to take care of a child when you are a literal potato. Actually that's an insult to potatoes.

He also sounds like he *is* a child. No way someone with their attitudes is ready for a baby.

Should’ve just used a condom

You said all of that Jesus:I wanna say I'm a huge fan

im glad you think that way. i was fearing i might be the only one.

I concur,a good bra that won't break apart in a 3 month span or lose its support are expensive AF. Used to get mine from Walmart to save money up until last year pre-pandemic where I got two really good supporting bras from Caprique [pricey but worth it,especially as they carry sizes for more endowed women and provide professional fittings so you get the right size.] The last OP definitely was the asshole in that situation as 1. That little shit invaded his step sister's privacy and destroyed her property 2. Letting him get off Scott free will only encourage him to be more obnoxious as he's being enabled 3. Needs to realize sometimes getting pricier articles of clothing such as undergarments last longer in turn gets you more bang for your buck. Not to mention having a good supporting bra is WAY less expensive than having to resort to a breast reduction for those sizeably endowed who suffer back problems. Edit- it's late,on mobile and typing on it while sneezing is a bitch.

I would say 4/5 and 2/5 for the last one bc the kid didnt know the price. Hell, before this, I thought that bras were like 10-15 bucks.

I don't even know why they'd put such a personal question in a game that's supposed to be fun. That's gonna trigger a lot of trauma and drama.

Yep, I’m 13 and even I do the “I told you” when someone asks me something I told them before.

Right? I was going to say "They better hope he doesn't kill himself later on", but who am kidding? Op doesn't appear to care about his son at all. One red flag to me was when Op said "my wife gave birth to a boy 12 years ago ". Not "we had a son 12 years ago" or something that would have aknowlaged that kid ask his. I feel so bad for the son.

Plus, the reason for his behaviour is probably because of their parenting as well. I mean really, if you give up (to a point of hatred) on a kid after just 12 years, how ready were you really to have even tried raising them?

@@gabrielam.7681 It makes me wonder if the son was unexpected. Because with how the parents treated him and how fast they gave up, makes me think they didn't want to have him. I hope this kid has people in his life that actually care for him.

that kid will not end up getting regular appointments, those "parents" clearly dont give an f.

That family should have gotten therapy years ago

Yes, that's a pretty serious violation of privacy. It sounds like the boy's parents (step and/or birth parents) have their work cut out for them. It should be something learned way before age 15 that it's not okay to go through someone else's underwear drawer, but for whatever reason, the boy doesn't seem to have learned that yet. I'm guessing the young man either has a developmental disorder or his parents completely neglected to impose boundaries on him. Either way, someone needs to teach him how to be a responsible member of society.

At the very least, a 15 year old should know not to damage someone else's property like that.

He used bras to make slingshots. As a 14 year old it seems stupid, yet normal

kamenab nah that’s bras and underwear they are hella expensive and for good reason good quality and what 15 year wants to touch their siblings underwear and bra???

The father should have at least payed the girl for her destroyed goods.

Like WHY have a kid if you aren’t going to be prepared for what can possibly happen? They are not fit to be parents by ANY MEANS

@@mistystorm2637 they had a kid because this is what society advices for. I mean to say that alot of people have children for the sake of being preceived as high status and with a head on their shouldres, or serious people by others. Or maybe is the idea that a child will be the peak of their love, like is portrayed in soaps.

"The parents can count themselves lucky if he doesn't commit suicide." Knowing the kind of parents they are, they most likely won't see it that way.

Stories like that make me firmly believe that if a parent can't handle anything but their perfect dream child, they shouldn't have kids. Because what's worse than parenting a "difficult child"? Being that "difficult child" who grows up feeling unloved because they exist in a way their parents don't like.

@@mushroommagic1697 Don't forget 1) parental pressure to have grandkids asap 2) expecting kids to heal their marriage 3) accidental pregnancies

Its like a LOT of Parents these days. Severe lack of parenting when the child is little, & they surprised when it gets bratty as it ages!

person: breaks into bank person get arrested person: to cops: WeLl thEIR SecURItY sHOulDvE beEN BETTer, AnD i exPecT yOu to UNCufF mE!!! it just doesnt make sense

I mean it happened with the Boston Tea Party...

Seriously this was my first iest thought.

So wait, in the birthday story the 13 yr old, who was verbally disrespectful, should have been rewarded with a birthday party, while only the 15 yr old in the bra story deserved a lesson in responsibility? Both of them deserved to be taught lessons, especially the 13 yr old. Birthdays are no exception.

Genius Ell Yeah, if they weren’t being brats, they wouldn’t have had punishments

@@japanpanda2179 you realize statements like that can make a child suicidal? Your parents are your entire world as a kid! Having them fall apart is bad enough, and he was probably already thinking it was his fault without it being said.

@@japanpanda2179 because yes his behavioural issues were causing discontent but it's THEIR fault for not being able to handle it. When you choose to have a child you are going into it KNOWING that things like this are a possibility. It's on you as a parent to deal with it in a mature way and get yourself and/or your child help if you are struggling and NOT blame it on the child. Do you even understand what a statement like that can do to a child? It fucks them up. Makes them feel worthless, like rubbish, makes them feel like they wish they were dead or had never been born. *YOU* are a huge asshole of you ever think it's ok to say anything remotely similar to a child.

@@FeliceJaganshi yes. Just yes. The comment you replied to made me so angry I can't even.

@@japanpanda2179 Because by telling him that thought will linger over his head and haunt him and destroy his mental health and self-worth so no it would have been better to lie (or at least lie to him until he can handle that mentally )

@@japanpanda2179 just say mummy and daddy weren't getting along. It's that simple. It may be sad but saying its their fault regardless is horrible. Nothing can ever be the fault of one person aswell.

Or he's traumatized and trying to process what he's been told

And *even if* she only bought expensive bras just for a fashion statement and could have found cheaper ones that fit, then so what? She still had her personal property destroyed, clothes that she bought with her own money. That would be like crashing someone's expensive luxury car and offering to replace it with an old cheap one. Even if it drives well enough, it's still money lost and property destroyed, and won't be the same.

I have to wonder if the kid was acting out because he wanted/needed their attention. That behavior isn’t acceptable, understandable, just not acceptable. They should have done family consultations on what can change BEFORE the marriage deteriorated that much.

I have a suspicion that OP from birthday story was pushing too hard to be THE Mother. Kid probably wasn't over his parents splitting up (if his mother died than it's even more understandable) and he needed time to accept OP in his life.

@@Aethian This was exactly my thought. The moment I noticed OP's behavior it was the first thing that hit me.

@@whyamihere1563 Yeah, and now, OP has ruined a chance at a relationship with her step-son, for the silliest reason as well.

@@kryptical7315 true, she was on a power trip.. even wrote "I'm his mother, I can cancel his birthday" or something like that. So yeah, she's definitely trying to replace kid's bio-mom.

Completely that's emotional abuse (edited for grammer)

Same

He could just spanked his butt or slap him then he doesnt behave 😶

YES

And yet you didn't listen.. I agree that he should pay and he offered to pay the $200 had saved. getting the rest may take a while, but he never said he didn't want to pay. That was OP talking... But yet again, he is 15 and was he was making a video about it. Ownership laws aren't exactly on the top of your head at that age. At 15 I didn't know how much it cost for a bra and she might be lying about the price she payed for all we know. Regarding her PRIVACY, he invaded it by taking the bras. But OP never stated where he found them, he might have found them in the clean cloths pile and not her underwear drawer. So some leeway is permitted. Sometime (specially around 20-35) boys and girls tend to go brand crazy. Buying brands that cost more, but aren't necessarily better.

@@lordwolfy he was most certainly not going to use them for what their purpose was, besides if I waltz into any pricy shop and destroy items I highly doubt they'd let me go free with just a "sorry take the money I have on me I didn't know the cost" so I fail to see why this should be different

@@joaobarroso9502 No, you will get a "pay-the-rest-as-soon-as-possible" order from the cops/judge. And he was willing to pay.

@@lordwolfy The mental gymnastics you went through in order to defend(?) OP honestly bamboozles me lmao. You're comment is full of assumptions and baseless excuses of what "could have been" instead of focusing on what was actually said. Even so, none of it even matters because it literally just comes down to the fact that OP's son destroyed someone else's property... and what do you do when you destroy something that isn't yours... you pay for it. It doesn't matter for what purpose you THINK it was used, what you THINK about the price or even how irresponsible you THINK a person is with their money because at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what you think. What matters is that the daughters belongings were destroyed, and she is entitled to compensation for that. And if the son can't pay in full, then someone sure as hell has to. If you wreck someone's super expensive car, for example, it doesn't matter if you think that that person is "brand crazy" buying expensive shit for no reason, you now have to pay for the damages in FULL (unless otherwise agreed upon). Same goes for any similar situation. What's truly irresponsible is wrecking someone's shit and not being able to repay them in a justifiable way and expecting to not have to reimburse them just because YOU don't like the price. And for that first point you made, why should she have to wait because the son can't afford to pay for the things he destroyed? How is that in any way on her??? Honestly idk why you're trying so hard to find an excuse for OP but you just shouldn't talk about/try justify things you know nothing about.

Guest have gotta respect their host before the host has to even consider respecting his guests

Sacred hospitality goes both ways. If you’re a douche, you’re not a “guest”, you’re an annoyance.

Respect is earned

I understand the thinking of, “The host should give me respect, as I am a guest” but when you believe you should be above the host is when its just plain wrong

The sad truth about custody battles is that the mother decides the outcome in 99% of the cases. In this case, the mother didn't want full custody, thus the main custody went to the father, that obviously didn'T want it either. If a mother wants full custody she gets it 99.9% of the time. If a mother doesn't want full custody, she's never forced into it. A father doesn't have these options... The dad is fully in the right to complain. As he had most likely no say at all in the custody battle.

It's pretty common for distressed children to act out in some way, don't worry about it :) as long as you're not harming yourself or others and not getting into too much trouble lol You mentioning that your parents drink and drive has me feeling very concerned for your safety and the safety of others around them. I'm hoping this isn't something they do very often?

You can still love your parents and communicate with them even if you are temporarily relocated to a safer place to live. You should never get into a car with a drunk driver, even friends or family. If talking to your parents calmly and honestly doesn't help your situation, talking to another trusted adult at your school or you friends parents might help. Also try kids helpphone 1-800-668-6868. Itss anonymous and thry are great to talk to.

They're just adults and can't handle it. I'm 30, I have a 2 year old, and life is hard. Being an adult is hard. Arguments and alcohol are not the answer. Sometimes people just aren't supposed to be together, and that's ok. Don't let them ever make you think that it's your fault though.

oh gosh I really hope your life will get better

@@forever-dreaming4062 I'm good lol, just felt like it was something interesting

Completely agreed!

Yeah! From the explanation, I get the impression that the kid might not even *have* behavior issues, and that his parents see any negative emotions as being an "issue" because it inconveniences them. Horrid parents. Even if he does have behavior issues, being treated as a burden from day one probably plays a huge factor in that. If his father is willing to say THAT to his kid, I bet he's said things of a similar nature before.

I totally agree with you! If you don't want or can't afford kids or have issuses, bringing a child into that mess will make it worse. My parent's relationship was an emotionally abusive shitshow. Bio dad didn't want kids, mum did. Eventually I came along and my parents are still messed up. Bio dad is a narcissist and mum is an alcoholic who sometimes emotionally abuses me. Fun times. I'm never giving those screw ups grandkids.

@@Phoebe5448 i feel so sorry to hear that, i hope you keep them at arm's length

@@dagnytheartist you are so right about that. And I also feel that they do not speak with the kid, just yell at him, or vent at him, scram at him and blame him all the time. I also think the kid was neglected all the time, because the parents were busy doing soulmates stuff and later drinking. And I find it bugging how at 12 he can't really express him emotions just enter in a state of despair and anger whenever something bad happens to him.

EXACTLY

And on top of that, it's quite reasonable that the OP wouldn't be comfortable sharing something like that with a stranger she just met that night. If I was one of the other guests, after the OP said what the hardest experience really was, and it was dead silent, I'd have looked at the guy and said, "Damn, dude. You screwed up. Apologize so we can get back to having fun, and maybe don't be such an asshole next time you open your mouth."

Coming back to this comment years later I also have to add on that Matt was allowed to disrespect op but op couldn’t disrespect him back? How unfair is that