"he didn't want to be a stepfather", MA'AM WHY TF DID YOU MARRY THAT ONE?

Story 3: Insulting a grieving person? Yeah, no wonder he was banned from the Easter Dinner. OP IS enabling him. It's not overreacting to ban someone that is literally the opposite of sympathetic and empathetic when you're grieving.

Story 5: OP being jealous of a 9 year old girl isn't the flex she thinks it is

Hint : "Didn't treat the best" is generally a roundabout way of saying "I let my kid get absed".

"The registry is just straight punishment!" Well... yes, yes in fact it is.

I cannot for the life of me tolerate this. “Oh, he has a nice side that only exclusive to me.” If it’s a genuine nice side, everyone should see it

Story 5: I remember this post from another person covering it, and it's really icky that OP did not mention the sister's age at the start. She pretty much accused Mike of being an incestuous P-word without actually saying that. It makes me wonder if OP is an only child and does not understand sibling bonds, or she is just that jealous and has serious beef with a 9 year old, calling her "competition." That actually reminds me of when a father, was posting some giant-a$$ rant about how his wife isn't giving him 100% attention anymore, because it's being shared with a literal baby, calling the baby competition (I might have some details wrong on that post tho, I only saw it once)

Story 3: Let's be real: humans will emotionally bond to a toaster with googly eyes; we will absolutely grieve a cat. My cat Snickers passed in my arms late last year at the age of 16. I couldn't stop crying for an hour straight and kept crying for months afterwards. I was finally ready to pass on his brushes to my mom to use for her cat just last week (her brush was in rough condition but my brushes looked almost new) and I almost started crying when I handed them to her. I'm tearing up right now. All this to say, OP, your bf is an AH; if you stay with him, you'll be seen as an AH too.

Story 5: There's being jealous (already pretty bad) and then there's "She's nine and in love with her BROTHER" jealous

"Is there a *murder registry?*" Yes. There is. It's called prison.

The boyfriend isn't awkward with her family he's just a jerk...

Story 3: yet another case of people excusing abusive behavior because the abuser was abused.

I find it funny that Rslash changed his voices tone when he doesn't like the OP

Story 5: I initially thought the sister was a teenager or early 20s or otherwise close in age to her brother, and while they were very lovey dovey, I can only smile at siblings who have genuine love and affection for each other (obviously steering clear of actual incest)... what is called companionate love. Then when the revelation came that she was only 9 years old, that made it so much worse when it comes to the girlfriend... and the sibling relationship all the more adorable!

Story 3: As an autistic person, when OP said that his boyfriend comes off as rude sometimes but doesn’t mean it, I really thought that maybe the boyfriend was autistic and would possibly say things that didn’t match the mood or conversation, focus on himself, etc., things that really aren’t intentional but come off badly sometimes to neurotypical people. But I was so wrong, wtf… The things the boyfriend said are so nasty and mean, meant to hurt, they cannot be excused by any of that. He’s so bold with it because he knows OP will defend him. I also think with his sexist comment he has some deep insecurities that seem to have made him meaner to her to begin with. Insecurity is always a driving factor in that-but with him, I mean specifically in a non-het context where internalized bigotry can also do damage. Also, honestly, 19 is so young. That’s not an excuse and I know OP isn’t that much older-I’m just saying this kid has a lot to figure out and he’s being enabled far too much for him to end up well-adjusted… OP is doing so much wrong by allowing him to be that horrible to people/his own family. The way OP talks about him is kind of alarming, with how soft he makes the problem sound at the beginning. The truth peeks out in the cruel words that dude said.

Last story: well the differences between your new neighbors and you is that you don’t know if any of that is true, but we all know what you did and that’s why you are being forced to let people know that you are a threat to all children.

the “so i can keep an eye on her” is actually insane??? does she really think his 9 yr old sister will make advances on him???

The jealous girlfriend is an absolute nuts. Being that jealous is bad enough, but being jealous to the 9 yo sister of her boyfriend is just bonkers. Her boyfriend sound so sweet and what does she do? . She’s being an a*s. I’m 44 and my brother is 34. We love each other to death!. We hug, we hang out together as much as possible, we are always there for each other. Last weekend we had a barbecue; He was feeling down so I bought him a Bugatti Lego set ‘cause he likes Lego. There’s nothing wrong with being close to your siblings. In fact it’s awesome!.

Story 5: A 9 year old. She's jealous of a nine year old. OP, check yourself

You never tell a person with the pet just get another one after one had passed away. It won't be the same thing even if you get another pet. And no it is never embarrassing to grieve the loss of your pet.

Last story reminds me of the monster who hurt me when I was little. As soon as I went into the hospital with a nervous breakdown (I was deemed unfit to testify) he decided to finish his degree... In CHILD phsychology. Then he was seriously pissed off because he couldn't find a job using his degree. I may or may not have talked to a couple people here and there. He finally gave up after he went to jail a second time after his daughter spoke up, more than a decade after I did.

The final story, i don't think he realises there is a record for everything, it is called a criminal record.

Easter dinner story: Oh hell no. One of my cats had to be put down last year because of kidney failure. I had him since I was 7 and he was a kitten. I ended up getting the worst migraine of my LIFE because of how much I was crying, and I _still_ get teary-eyed sometimes when I think about him too much. OP's boyfriend can mind his own business.

"The registry is straight punishment." I know, it's almost like there's consequences for your actions or something.

How can you misconstrue a brother/sister bond as 'romantic' unless you don't understand that love, affection, and quality time DOES NOT have to end in s3x? Family members spend time together enjoying shared interests alone whether they have significant others or not. If you're not interested in those activities why on earth would they force you to join?

I feel like the first story is a meta post in reply to another AITA post from the daughter's point of view.

Story 3: "no one knows him like I do." Do you know how many abuse victims have used that exact line about their abusive partner? He abuses OP, I can almost guarantee it. He just love bombs him when he's about to leave. Edit: proper genderization

Story 5 - damn I was sitting here like, yeah I get why he might be upset if his GF implied he was going sweet home alabama with his sister... Then the bombshell dropped that the sister is 9. This woman just accused her BF of both incest and pedophilia... That relationship would be over INSTANTLY if that happened to me.

13:43 i was expecting a 19-22 year old woman but A 9 YEAR OLD ?!?!?

The o p in The Last Story is absolutely correct that there should be Registries for all of those types of criminals

Story 6: Uhhh there IS a registry for everything you mention, OP. It’s called a criminal record. Except that what you did surpasses everything else. “The registry is a cruel punishment!” No shit? Be lucky you didn’t even go to jail. THEN you’d be grateful you’re still even breathing.

I was like "cuddling up on the sofa? Okay yeah that might be odd if she's in her 20s or something but it's not THAT weird at all." And then she's only NINE???

Story 4: imagine trying to paint yourself out to be a good person by lying that your there for your kids, and your wife publicly calling you out, wild. 😂

"She knows he is stand-offish but doesn't mean any harm..." uh...does OP know what "stand-offish" means? Cause her crappy bf is not "stand-offish", he's an ass.

All the things the PDF complained about "is there a list for?!". YES and most of those crimes would also get flagged by the background check!

Last story: bro’s rant is so good 😂😂😂 “I don’t want people committing all these crimes on me; where’s their registry?” My man, it’s called prison, rehab, and a cemetery.

Story 3: I lost my cat April 2024 after loving him for 13 years... I still cry when I think about my sweet Tazz. He had a large mass on his lungs (later found to be lung cancer) and had suddenly lost so much weight that he only weighed 3 and a half pounds in the end. I'm so thankful that I could atleast hold him as the vet helped ease his pain for the last time.

That story regarding the guy suffering because he's on a certain list...he's technically right. There should be registries for those as well.

To be fair to the OP of story 2, I would also not offer to foot the whole bill, however, the way he brought his message across was definitly the wrong way to do it.

i'll be honest it's honestly refreshing that a family member has an issue with queer op's significant other that has nothing to do with their sexuality. usually, when an op has a significant other of the same sex and they have issues with a family member it's because that family member is homophobic but in this store op's sister did nothing wrong and was just grieving her cat and his boyfriend decided to be a jerk about it and then decided to be misogynist for grieving over her pets even though men grieve over their dead pets too it's not a gender thing

I love how in the last story OP “really” feels sorry. I remember when I was 20 and got on a random chatroom (you know, old times, chatting with random people) and just few minutes chatting someone sent me a picture of child P. After the shock passed, I checked more carefully the chatroom and talked to another couple of persons there and then is when I realized that they all were sharing stuff about child P. My reaction? Close the program, delete any pictures they sent me and f* go straight to the police web page to report what was happening in that in that chat. I still remember that f* picture and it haunts me… FUCK YOU, OP, FUCK YOU!

Story 1: Wow so OP was basically neglected by all 3 of her parents and then regrets it. Then thinks they’re entitled to try to establish contact again (all because OP is rich now?) Anyone else looking for/forward to an update where OP will cry for sympathy because “my daughter doesn’t’ want a relationship with me because she told me that she doesn’t consider me or my husband or her step-siblings family because we ‘abandoned her’! She’s so cruel for that! I’m her mother~” -_- Story 2: Sooooo OP seemed to basically mooch off his girlfriend’s family since they’re rich. But when he’s suggested to pay for brunch, it’s suddenly an issue??? I mean I’m all for separate checks (if it’s discussed ahead of time) but outright refusing to pay for a 4 person bill (because of financial disparity) is so wrong in some ways. That’s snubbing your future in-laws and definitely a way to ruin your relationship. Story 3: I get being awkward in social situations but the BF was kinda out of line for his comment regarding the cat and insulting OP’s sister. So OP is in the wrong for defending him (as sometimes this kind of behavior isn’t just about being awkward, but also just being a jerk) and should really re-evaluate her relationship. She’s enabling his horrid behavior and it will take losing her family and friends for her to see it. Story 4: I see this more as the wife wanting to keep the family safe from getting infected. I definitely didn’t believe the husband but it’s hilarious how the wife came with receipts as to how her (hopefully ex) husband got covid. This man-child doesn’t deserve pity. I just pity his wife. Story 5: this level of sibling dependency is highly concerning (hopefully not in “Sweet Home Alabama territory). If the boyfriend’s family didn’t have like a father figure around except him, I can see why the sister is so attached (or the fact he’s her only brother so she looks up to him or something). But other than any rational reasonings, OP seems possessively jealous to be so upset at a close sibling bond. Hope the boyfriend eventually got away from OP. (After hearing update: WAIT SHE’S ONLY 9?! OP IS JEALOUS OF A FRIGGIN 9 YEAR OLD!!! OP NEEDS THERAPY!!!) Story 6: Immediately hating this story from the title alone. OF COURSE YOU’D NEVER GET HIRED AFTER A BACKGROUND CHECK AND EXPOSING YOUR REGISTRY STATUS!!! NO ONE WOULD WANT TO WORK WITH SOMEONE LIKE THIS!!! How does OP not see this?! He’s not the victim, he’s the problem!!

Story 2: he shouldn't have to be forced to say he'll get the bill. It is really disingenuous to fake wanting to pay the bill. OP knows that it is better to live within your means instead of putting on an act. Definitely not a gold digger.

That last story: I wouldn't be opposed to having an animal abuse registry. 🤔

Jealous and Threatened by a 9 year old!!! MAJOR red flag waving there

Wow. The sister being 9 years old was a plot twist for sure. Of course she looks up to, and wants to hang out with her brother. I hope OP's boyfriend recognises her red flags and breaks up with her.

Story 3: OP IS AN ENABLER, plain and simple! OP’s sister just lost her beloved furbaby, and is grieving. I feel so sorry for OP’s sister. She is well within her right to ban OP’s jerk of a boyfriend! He insulted a grieving person, and OP is allowing him to insult her sister! OP, you are a massive enabler! I hope OP’s sister is doing better 😭🙏🏻🐱

Story 3 - Okay, OP needs to take off the rose-tinted glasses. His BF is NOT awkward, nor is their family taking things the wrong way. He's an a-hole and the fam's got him pegged and he knows it. I doubt he's even that sweet to OP, OP is just caught in a honeymoon phase and is willfully ignoring the red flags.

Wait being on the SA registry is a punishment? can you imagine a criminal getting punished?

I wonder if the daughter in the first story wasnt as successful, would OP still have tried to reconcile with her?

The bill: don't offer to do something unless you are actually prepared to do it. I'm with OP, he was willing to pay for himself and his partner, and if the dad said yes he would have done that.

Story 2 is wild. Can you imagine getting your way paid for all the time from meals to vacations (including, at times by your own girlfriend), but straight up laughing at the idea of paying a $150 bill?

Story 6 - As somebody who has done a lot of hiring throughout my career, I can assure OP that companies aren't hiring murderers either.

My dad always says, "If someone is mean to everyone but you, then it's just not your turn yet"

For the last one….. there are actually registries for all of the things listed.

For the boyfriend-sister story, my first question was “what is the true nature of the relationship between the boyfriend and his sister?” Then I heard that the sister was 9. This girl is jealous, uncaring, and-quite frankly-not ready for a relationship if a much younger sibling will get to her like this.

Story 2: My parents usually paid the bill when we ate out. Now since I'm working I've actually handed my parents my card to pay and they have been greatful for it.

Story 2: People like this are sooo disgusting. There's no excuse for such stingy behavior; the way the boyfriend doubled down to refuse to offer to cover brunch even when the girlfriend said she'd pay him back is so awful. I've had the misfortune of knowing several people like this...utter 🗑️

Me while listening to Story 5: Okay that does sound a little weird… maybe OP has a point. rSlash: BTW the boyfriend’s sister is only 9. Me: NEVERMIND, OP IS FREAKING NUTS.

Story 2: she’s asking you to play dad politics.

Story 5: All I wanted to know was the age of the sister and had my suspicions confirmed. It’s so sad how some people view familia affection as perverted.

Story 1: Yeah, if unrelated people actually manage to get legal guardianship over a living, "involved" parent, you know that abuse is happening. I hope OP withers with bitterness while warching her daughter's success from faaaar away.

I'm a 35 year old dude, we had to have our cat put down at the beginning of the year and it destroyed me, I balled my eyes out. even a month after, I got up in the middle of the night to get a drink, saw a black cushion on the couch and for a split second I thought it was him, but then reality hit and I remembered that it could not be. safe to say I could not get back to sleep that night. My partner wants to get another cat but I just can't do it.

I only half-listened to the jealous girlfriend story, wondering why she's the devil because her boyfriend being touchy feely with another girl sounds kinda reasonable to be upset about... Then I focused in and -it's his sister -she's NINE?? Lmao what whiplash 😂

Man, story 3 hit me hard. I'm a 30-something adult, we lost our elderly dog right after the holidays, and I'm still getting emotional over it. Sometimes I think I'll hear her wandering around and then realize it can't be her. We were inseperable, I didn’t realize just how much until I had to look around and couldn't find her in her usual spots 5 feet away from me. My parents have since gotten a new dog, and she's sweet, but she's not my Molly. I also know I'm going to be in shambles whenever the cat that I've had since he was 12 weeks old goes. OP, your boyfriend is a jerk.

I live alone, when I had covid, I made my own dinner, took care of my cats, luckily my mom ran to the store for me but when she had her surgery I did the same for her. unless you're stuck in your bed, covid still sucks but you can get by. Also put on a mask, go to the kitchen and put your own sandwich together...

What is a preemie baby? Never mind, I just googled it. I feel terriable for that mom that has to take care of thoes 2 kids while her husband goes on "business trips".

Yeah I think the right term for that bf is SOCIOPATH

Story 1: tell me you're a gold digger without telling me that you're a gold digger...

The girlfriend getting jealous over his 9 year old sister is insane. Shouldn’t she be calling the police if she thinks something is going on?

i have to disagree a little on the second story. To me he sounds less like a gold digger and more like someone used to being frugal. I too am of a mindset that if someone offers to pay the bill I'm not going to try and insist I pay it. Then the girlfriend trying to push him to prove himself by offering to pay even though she invited him. kind of messed up to invite someone out then insist they offer to pay for everyone just to prove a point rather than just sitting down together and having an adult conversation about the matter and learning to understand each other.

I have a core deep loathing for the phrase “it’s just a dog” or “it’s just a cat”. Pets aren’t possessions, they’re beloved family members.

Lol. Is there a theft registry? Is there a murder registry? Yes. Those are all crimes that he mentioned, and there are records and jail time associated with them. What a doofus.

That Easter dinner story. He’s not awkward in social settings, he’s just an asshole.

Kinda feel like this is a very breakup/divorce ep.

Story 2: Boyfriend definitely reacted like an idiot, but offering to pay the bill, when you fully expect to be rejected is also very crappy.

Story 5: Regardless of the little sister's age, there isn't an issue here. Siblings can be close and affectionate without it being incestuous. It's not like any male/female relationship has to be romantic. I'm so tired of sibling who are close being treated like they're two seconds away from smashing tongues. That's just not how relationships work. And asking him to change travel plans that have been made months if not years in advance? Nope, it doesn't work that way. OP needs to chill the hell out.

The sister obsessed with the brother story reminds me of one of my favourite books from primary school - The Turbulent Term of Tyke Tyler. It really started my love of tales with a twist.

Covid mom: I was definitely on OP’s side until I heard she was a SAHM. Seriously? Gentlemen, another cautionary tale: These days, being a SAHM is the hardest job in the world. It doesn’t matter what YOU do - your SAHM wife will always have it harder.

The comment where OP says “our hometown is 70 miles away, as we can’t visit because it’s so far” in the jealous GF story is crazy. That’s like a 1-hour drive, wtf is she on about? I drive that distance from my current location to my hometown all the time. Europeans really have no concept of how small that distance is lmao

Covid story: Husband should have been locked into a room and yes he should have had food brought to him specifically to keep him from contaminating anyone else. If he had to make himself food, anything he touched or came near could be contaminated with covid, putting wife and children as risk. Then when released from quarantine, serve him with divorce papers~ I understand she was spread thin, my mom had this problem when my ENTIRE household came down with covid because of my sisters boyfriend. Everyone was locked into their rooms and given lysol, if we had to use the bathroom we were to lysol our way there and back to make sure we didn't contaminate anything. Our food was dropped at our doors.

Last story. Bruh…he made the conscious decision to possess CP. College educated, motivated, facing homelessness, owning a pet, or not…he directly involved himself into the process of child abuse, and he has the GALL to be upset about it? Here’s a marvelous idea…DON’T OWN CP!

I can understand OP's perspective, I woudnt want to risk turning my $40 portion of lunch into $150

Story 4: sounds to me like its that very same job that allows her to be a SAHM in the first place. All the things she mentioned leading up to and following her pregnancy are expensive af. There is alot of context that seems to be missing anout their whole relationship, they equally sound exasperated with each other.

Story 3: dude sounds like my uncle. About 2yrs ago lost 2 cats within a week of each other. One expected(20yr old kitty died of old age) and one extremely unexpected (vet said it was some heart issue). The unexpected one was basically my little sister's cat. That cat loved her more than anyone, they were very close. And when my lil sis and parents were hanging out with my aunt one weekend(I had work) my uncle was all "the only thing a cat is good for is being eaten" and went on and on about how useless and awful cats are. My family left pretty quickly cause it was only like 2wks later..and my lil sister was very distraught, tbh her and I(she's 24 now and I'm 26 almost 27) still cry over both those cats cause we loved them and treated them like family. Telling someone grieving over a pet to just get over it, is cruel. Just because you may not love or care about animals the way the grieving person does, doesn't mean you gotta be a dick simple as.

Story 3: OP is enabling his boyfriend's disgusting behaviour. Also telling someone to get another pet is insane, most people don't want replace their beloved pet. My cat of 12 years passed away on 16th February, I am still heartbroken.

Second story op is using his upbringing as excuse. You don't have to be from well off family to offer paying for brunch when the family paid for his vacation

Last story: he could always start a new career as catholic priest. They won't mind...

The last story is a unhinged rant. Wanna bet that he hasn't tried to apply to retail, food service, or even delivering apps.

Story 5: one time my current boyfriend thanked me for not being jealous….of his biological little sister. Because his exes were jealous of her. I was convinced women like this didn’t exist until now.

I have no sympathy for parents who care more about their new partners than the well-being of their children.

Story 2: well her family only paid for your vacation and all the other times you went out to eat with them, how could she possibly think you should ever try to make an effort by paying for four people? I bet you don’t even got that much money to take care of, and never mind you wouldn’t even be paying for anything because your GF would still going to pay for it. It’s the principle of the thing. When she dumped you because she realize she could do better don’t you dare come back here crying about it.

Jealous GF: at first I was against OP, but snuggling up to him on the couch? Isn't that kind of strange? I've never met siblings who do that unless they are like 6 years old. *edit* the sister is 9, this is completely normal. I thought both siblings were adults.

Story 5: Maybe you shouldn't have kids. If you're jealous that your boyfriend is spending time with his NINE-year-old sister, I dread what will happen if he becomes your husband and it's not about you anymore when you have a child.

The “no comments in 8 or less seconds, bro fell off” crew fell off

In the second story when she said sometimes her boyfriend says things that come off as rude I was thinking "Oh, maybe he's autistic or something, I know I sometimes say something that unintentionally comes off as rude" but no, he comes off as rude because HE'S BEING RUDE.

2nd story reminds me of saying I heard, "being poor is more than a financial situation, it's a mindset"

Story 5: girlfriend is nuts My brother is 16 years older then me and I was obsessed with him for years. Of course he woukd do brother things like tease me, pull small pranks, scary stories. However he was also really nice and would spend as much time as he could with me. Every Halloween for years we did matching Halloween Pokemon costumes. He did get a few girlfriends who would act weird when he would babysit me and just hang out, one was mad he said no to Halloween plans because it was our thing, even offered to have her join. I don't remember the whole argument but she said it was childish to keep doing it, and I started to cry. My brother saw red and told her they were done for what she did. Even now in my 30s he still calls me his pokemon team partner no matter what. Girlfriend is off her rocker if she thinks that anything is going on between the siblings and should really reflect why she made that conclusion. Would she do the same if they had a daughter?

“Our next Reddit post comes from r/sexoffendersupport” I’m sorry what? Sadly, it’s not the worst subreddit name I’ve heard of. There were some really messed up ones back in the early days of Reddit.

Story 2: while the BF may not have handled it the best. Being invited out and the being prodded to pay for it all. I can see how that may rub someone wrong. Especially if it's a expensive place you didn't get a decision in choosing.