R E J E C T I O N (and how I deal with it)

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5 жыл бұрын

How do you pick yourself up after rejection, after failure? When you’ve poured your heart into something, almost by definition you’re going to be heartbroken if it doesn’t work out. This video is advice I wrote for myself when down about persistent rejection - and how its only cure is persistent “keeping going”. Whatever rejection you’re dealing with right now, I hope you keep going.
(It’s so easy to vlog about a PhD when it’s going well, especially when I promised myself I would always be honest on here. It's not so easy when it’s not been great. This video is as close to oversharing as you’ll see me get, but if I signed up for vlogging a PhD then it was never going to be all smiles in lab coats.)
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My name is Lucy Kissick, I’m a third-year PhD student at the University of Oxford (or DPhil as they call it, to be contrary). I research the surface of Mars, but, damn, I would much rather it was Pluto.

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@1991jwp 5 жыл бұрын

I edit scholarly journals for a living and from an editor’s standpoint, it is very easy to forget that somebody has put their blood, sweat and tears into every manuscript that comes across your desk. This is why at my company, we try to make a point of personalising each decision email we send with the reasons behind it, especially when it is a rejection. Not only do we owe some measure of explanation to the authors, constructive feedback will also help them improve their work next time they submit it.

@ThePhDiaries 4 жыл бұрын

This is really kind of you and it's refreshing to hear about journals like this. Thank you

@meghanoneill7430 5 жыл бұрын

“One persons favourite book is another persons firewood” - a great reminder and wonderful motivation. Just what I needed to hear today half way through my first year as a PhD distance student (being remote can be so difficult!). Thanks for sharing 🤗.

@ThePhDiaries 4 жыл бұрын

Good luck with your PhD, distance must be really tough, it's hard enough just doing a standard PhD without that!

@muddasirkhan648 5 жыл бұрын

I am saving that vedio to my motivation playlist. In our country Pakistan there is a phrase is our national language urdu translation " if the person who is telling the story has actually gone through that event no matter how hard you try to ignore it, that talk of his will cut your chest and reach the core of heart". I have heard dozens od motivational speeches since my phd paper was rejected in feb 2019. And it appeared to me how can i get motovated when they dnt know what failure i am experiencing but you my dear nailed it. I have no words to thank you.

@adamtaylor2142 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this Lucy! I really needed it.

@IssaSabla 5 жыл бұрын

Those rejections and failures I have experienced before were extremely discourging to the extent to feel depressed and hopeless. However I am Kind of seeing as a source for continuety and nearby success. I am now on my final year of Phd

@Elysian_s 5 жыл бұрын

I was feeling low, your video came right on time, thank you for sharing!

@daniellecrowley9671 5 жыл бұрын

Love the positivity and resilience

@songbird8778 4 жыл бұрын

This is the second time I'm watching this video. Thank you so much Lucy for great content.

@nijheer1 5 жыл бұрын

Needed it today so desperately.

@dhlwilson82 5 жыл бұрын

The nature of academia is that you constantly receive and seek out feedback and criticism, constructive or otherwise. It can be a bit of an eye opener but the best advice i received on the subject was to simply "toughen the f&#k up". Of course, you managed to say this in a far more eloquent fashion!

@Zm54321 5 жыл бұрын

David Wilson Or “grow a thick skin”, all of which are easier said than done of course but it takes some practice and we’re good.

@dhlwilson82 5 жыл бұрын

@@Zm54321 it's most definitely easier said than done but some degree of resilience is essential in any career or walk of life.

@Zm54321 5 жыл бұрын

David Wilson I was one of the lucky few whose 1st research paper got accepted with the 1st journal I submitted my work to, but I had my share of severe rejection in academia, and like you said, resilience is essential to keep you going.

@sofiadanai204 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Lucy!!

@AniaMeteor 5 жыл бұрын

Lucy, THANK YOU for all the work you do on this channel. Especially this video. I needed this.

@ThePhDiaries 4 жыл бұрын

thank you and I'm really glad you find them helpful :)

@JacquelineBeaulieu 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Lucy! I just discovered your channel this week and am loving watching your videos! This video was so good (very inspiring and positive), it inspired me to make my own version/video on the topic this week. Looking forward to continuing to watch!

@samanshahi 3 жыл бұрын

You have no idea how much this helped. As a freelance musician rejections from various opportunities are dime in a dozen and tonight a tough one came through for me and I am so happy I ran across your video. Thank you!

@maxbarillas9993 4 жыл бұрын

Finding this piece of advice at this moment is quite useful. It is hard for someone to get into a PhD position, and even more when your background doesn't help you because the country you live in. Thanks a lot for a piece of your time!

@PlanetXeddex 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your video. It really helped me for my gear right now. 😊

@farhantanvir8838 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Those words are priceless. It means a lot.

@anastasia_um 5 жыл бұрын

I recently got rejected from a job I applied for and really wanted. So I can say I can totally relate. Shortly after I got another job I wasn't so excited about starting but I am loving. Hold on and you will definitely get what is best for you. Thank you so much.

@ThePhDiaries 4 жыл бұрын

Hope the job is working out for you!

@afrench4683 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I was shattered by rejection. I hope I will see light in the Tunnel

@gerry5336 3 жыл бұрын

We can all make it.

@nicomcmahon2491 Жыл бұрын

Oh man I'm gonna be coming back to this one a lot 😅

@amilliaalsebe1029 5 жыл бұрын

:) great advice, thanks

@user-xn2hf9re8r 5 жыл бұрын

you are such a beautiful person Lucy, inside and out.

@ruchisrish 4 жыл бұрын

30 secs and I loved your video 😘

@rigeleisenheim8860 3 жыл бұрын

people are getting rejection from the schools in the top 50. I am getting rejection from the schools ranked between 300-400. what a shame!

@TYPE_1_V 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Lucy! Thank you for making this video. Can you make a video on writing thesis using latex for social science master's? That would really help me! ❤❤

@ayomikunsamuel7743 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@mzicpol 5 жыл бұрын

wow... you got rejected from 5 universities but got into Oxford!

@dztech205 4 жыл бұрын

I got rejected yesterday but it is ok because I was well prepared for that scenario.

@susu4u9 5 жыл бұрын

I understand what you’re saying, intellectually... but after three years of PhD applications; writing about five different proposals and doing endless revisions with no acceptances and about a dozen rejections, it does make you wonder if you’re meant for a life in academia...

@alaachok8334 3 жыл бұрын

Did you got what you want now ?

@susu4u9 3 жыл бұрын

alaa chok nope, almost five years applying and nothing yet...

@alaachok8334 3 жыл бұрын

Fuck that is sooo bad , I am 2 years 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ What you think the problem is ?

@susu4u9 3 жыл бұрын

alaa chok Honestly, at this point I don’t know... but I think it may have something to do with the fact that I’m a foreign applicant, therefore, I will require more funding than a national... But really, it could be anything...

@alaachok8334 3 жыл бұрын

I hope all the best for you

@augustus6106 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you. It was super helpful because Im applying for a bunch of PhD positions right now and Im experiencing rejection, which is inevitable in this process I think. BTW I have a question to anyone who has already been accepted in a PhD program. Should you necessarily have published papers when applying for a PhD?

@nwaforobiclothing 5 жыл бұрын

I am in the same boat. the honest answer is it depends on who you applied to. Have you tried working in a professor's research lab before applying to the program ? I wish you all the best in your endeavor