Fifth story: The husband showed abuser behavior there. He lied to both OP and his wife to make his wife break her friendship with OP. That's how it usually begins, first isolate the abused from friends, then from family, then get rid of all the abused's social media or ways to communicate with the outside world so the only thing they know and think is normal is the abuse and won't try to escape. I say OP's friend needs to tread with caution and at the next sign of him trying to break another relation she has run as fast as possible before he can tie his chain on her.

Story four: That poor child will need a lifetime of therapy to recover from his militant evangelical mother.

"You are too young to be disabled!" Says the mother who claims her young child has autism, which is in fact a disability.

Story 3 - That’s pure poetic justice! Karen can dish it but she couldn’t take it. I applaud the old woman and the college girls for defending OP.

The costume party one, HE ONLY KNEW IT WAS A COSTUME PARTY. It was up to the groom AND bride of the SURPRISE wedding to have informed him it was actually a wedding, too, the moment he showed up in his Corpse Bride costume. If either had done that right away (and we know why the groom didn't), then he could've gone and changed in time. NTA, at all, whatsoever, and I hope the real bride dumps the very real jerk of a groom.

Story 5: So the husband caused all of this to happen because he hated OP and wanted to get rid of him. Instead of trying to work things out with OP, he waited for 5 years and pulled this whole stunt. Are people becoming allergic to simply talking to other people, because I swear based on news articles and internet posts, people are doing everything EXCEPT having a simple conversation

The moment karen said i was to young to be disabled then i would say "so your lieing about your kid she is obviously to young to be disabled according to you"

If Karen's daughter has a fear of dogs, it's Karen's job to stay away from dogs.

Story 1: Ugh!!! LEAVE SERVICE DOGS AND DISABLED PEOPLE ALONE, KAREN! ANYBODY CAN HAVE A DISABILITY- visible or not! 😡

The older lady defending op,in the back acne story, is marvelous!! Love this woman!! She's amazing!! Such a lovely person!!

I'm certainly old enough to have a disability, and I do - a few years ago, I herniated 3 discs in my back, which pinched a nerve, resulting in bilateral leg weakness. That being said, I bought my darling husband a t-shirt that says "SERVICE HUMAN. DO NOT PET", which has garnered huge laughs from both disabled and able folks alike. THAT being said, woe betide anyone who says I'm not disabled, as they may or may not end up disabled themselves.

Cane Corso's are BEAUTIFUL dogs and very strong - perfect for mobility as well as other assistance.

Story four.... That Karen committed theft of an official document, a criminal offense. I'd be calling the cops on her. 😡 And to believe SHE has any power to "shut down" any business, or have someone fired. 🤨

Story 1: Is Karen's daughter too young to be disabled? Story 2: Karen should've been sent straight home. In the end she paid the "arsehole tax". Story 3: Karen really needs to mind her own business and keep her opinions to herself. Her punishment was well deserved. Story 4: Karen was compensated. Right out of the door. I hope she was banned too. Story 5: OP is NTA. He wasn't to know it was a wedding. Hubby basically threw OP under the bus.

Story #4: No matter how much you try to shield your child, they're eventually going to learn about LGBTQ+ things.

Story 5 - No OP is NTA, the Groom is TA.

Last Story: A blind man on a street corner in Calcutta can see the divorce coming from five miles away!

Story 2: Seriously?! WTH is wrong with that Karen's husband that he can't "handle" his own kid?! 🙄🙄🙄

Story 5: When your partner is being manipulative about who you get to be friends with, that is a full bouquet of red flags. Like, Husband and OP don't have to get along, OP's friend is allowed to maintain her respective relationships with both of them. Her husband didn't even give her the ultimatum to choose, just straight up went behind her back. Now, she was smart and decided she should get to the bottom of things rather than just stay angry and end the friendship. So I hope she also smart enough to really evaluate her marriage, and let her husband know that he can either start making an effort or it's over.

Story 2 - I love this story! Not only did Karen’s Free babysitter plan backfire on her but the staff member gave her daughter a fun time. At least her daughter was not an Entitled Brat like her mother.

I'm on the autism spectrum myself, so I can sympathize with the young girl being scared by the sight of a large dog; at that age, any form of discomfort can feel like the biggest problem ever (I myself was disgusted by the scent of coffee to the point where I had to hold my nose while going down the coffee aisle with Mom). That being said, there were far better ways for that mother to handle the situation, namely by focusing on the girl (i.e. comforting her) and *not* the dog or its owner and suggesting that *they* were the problem. The world's full of big dogs, ladies, so you better get used to it quickly. Also, regarding the mother who went off on the smoker, if you need to pay for prayer circles (since that's how she made it sound), you're not part of a church, you're part of a cult.

Story 1, that Karen's poor daughter. It's always a tragedy when one disability crosses another, I hope she has better guidance in the future.

That costume party turned wedding was a complete fiasco. The first lie was the one told by the bride, who then blew up causing a complete scene. OP is not the one at fault.

Banned for a year? Make it 5! Hell, make it 10!

Last story: the friend needs to divorce that lying dirtbag husband, because she doesn’t need someone like that in her life, plus he sounds like the type of guy that is very controlling and jealous which could lead to him becoming an abusive husband. OP’s friend needs to get rid of that liar.

Story 1: Classic Karen Double Standard. "My kid can be 'disabled', but NO OTHER YOUNG PEOPLE!!" Story 5: That woman is going to need to rethink her marriage. Her husband is going to certainly push away all the rest of her friends and family HE doesn't like. This is just the first step in him doing so.

In the fourth story. The Karen had absolutely *NO* authority to demand to see the OP's ID.

Story 4: Her child is ruined. I guess she wants compensation because a ruined child won't have a good trade-in value.

"Rules for thee, not for me" so true.

So... By the Karen logic in story 1 she should also stay at home and keep the child there where he/she belongs to be considerate?

As someone with autism it’s completely unreasonable to demand that someone else with the service animal leave because you’re afraid of the animal just go somewhere else if the dog bothers you. Also, you think the mother of the autistic child would know that disability doesn’t discriminate based on age and that some disabilities are things people are born with, and are invisible, like autism or a heart condition.

Story 1 - Yeah that’s a Karen for ya. They ‘enforce’ rules onto others but those same rules don’t apply to them. The cops should’ve done more than issue a warning to Karen.

Story 5: Sometimes, as an adult, it can be necessary to take the hit to your pride and ego to preserve the peace (it varies by situation, of course). Apologizing to his friend for hurting her feelings on her wedding day isn't necessarily the same as accepting blame and fault for the situation. The husband is obviously still the asshole here, but showing his friend that he's willing to meet her halfway over a situation like that likely went a long way towards mending their friendship.

I totally vote the husband the a hole in the last story. Especially as some of the most popular costumes are zombie bride, Frankensteins bride, and of course corpse bride op is not the a hole.

I love how in the third story, Karen literally got destroyed by that entire changing room of people 😂 How did I know that the Karen with the "traumatized" son would be yelling at someone who was involved in the LGBTQ+ community

So, the Karen in the first story doesn’t consider her AUTISTIC child to be disabled? Really? Even I’m autistic and know this is considered a disability! What the heck lady? And if your kid is scared of dogs, move away from it.

Karen: Its not my problem Me: Its YOUR KID!!

I became disabled from an “invisible illness” when I was 17. I hate the people that say you can’t be disabled that young. Oh yes, you can, and it generally will be there for the rest of our lives. Have some compassion

I agree with Dark fluff on the wedding one. Common sense should not be a factor when the friend was told it was a costume party. And shame on the husband for saying it was okay and then lying to his wife.

A friend of mine had acne rosacea severely on his back. He looked like he’d been scourged with a cat of nine tails.

Fluff don't try to make sense of it. I've gotten it since I was 17 when my lyme disease triggered chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia. That was more then two decades ago.

If Karen's autistic kid is afraid of dogs, then it is Karens job to take her kid and leave the area where the dog is. The world is not required to hide all dogs so Karen and her kid can go everywhere without worry that mini Karen will have a tantrum.

Story 5: OP is not the A-Hole as he was not aware it was a wedding until the he was already at the party. He even ask the groom if he should go home and change which the groom said his costume is fine. The real A-Hole is OP's friend's now husband for lying to her. now wife.

I've had people say that there disabilities and higher ranking then mine and I would say it's not a grading system

Last story - Wow, what a way to start a marriage - by lying and driving a wedge between your bride and her friend. All kinds of toxic red flag there - if I were the friend, I'd be seriously considering an annulment.

My BIL's service dog is a great dane. She alerts him when he's about to have a seizure, and helps get him into a safe position. A big dog is definitely an asset in situations like that. Side note- I've always been nervous around dogs. Apparently, a big dog jumped on me when I was a toddler, and that's when it started. I've found that being around my BIL and his service dog has actually helped me get past my fear of dogs. I still don't love them, but I find them much easier to be around. Sadly, BIL's service dog is getting old, and I suspect she won't be around much longer. I'm going to miss her when she's gone.

Smoking Karen: Hell, SHE's smoking around her kid--probably constantly at home! She came in there looking for a complaint to try to make money. Watch out, though--people like that very often cannot handle defeat and will try to get back at you--maybe even violently.

Who throws a *_surprise wedding!?_* Honestly! 🤪

Prayers from a congregation should not cost money and if they do, leave that church

Kid's gonna need therapy alright, but mostly as a result of having that Karen for a mother.

A 100 bucks for a whole day doing everything and eating everything is not that bad really. When we have the fair in town it's so expensive for each ride. Though at least you do not have the lines like in an amusement park.

Story 1, imagine if someone told Karen that her autistic child needs to stay home. If she’d hate it if someone handed it to her why say it to someone else

I'm glad that the epilogue of the last story has the bride getting an annulment and leaving him. Apparently, the bride heard from 3 friends that confirmed OP's side and had an argument with the husband. The final straw was an argument at a restaurant where the husband told the bride to walk home that night. She ended it then and has stayed with a friend for the time being. The husband has been blaming OP and friends, meanwhile OP and friends all have him blocked. Now she is enjoying single life for the first time. The sources of these posts are from OP and a BestofRedditorUpdates post. The OP did delete the second/final update from his profile, but it is still there in the BoRU post.

It is odd that a woman with a child with a disability would claim that a young person cannot possibly have a disability....

Cane Corsos are HUGE. OP might as well have a pony. OP still has as much rights to be there as the Karen and her kid. There's more than one bride in the CORPSE BRIDE.

I'm a 35yoF who's been disabled 2 months before i turned 21. I now have a giant boerboel, named Bjorn Ironside (who's in fact the goodest boy!). On the occasion i see people afraid of him, mostly black people(not that color ever matters) and small kids, i offer a smile and will MOVE AWAY FROM THEM! We try to respect everyone and the kids enjoy learning that my cute giant pupper has a job! He's 2 years old and probably close to 150 pounds, bigger then most cane corsos, German shepherds, and closer to great Danes.

Story 1: I certainly would have pointed out that based on her logic Karen's own daughter is "too young" to have a disability. Right, Karen? Glad that the manager & cops put Karen out! Story 2: Honestly it would have been more fitting to issue Karen her paycheck as $5...for the $15/hour times the 7 hours she actually worked. You know...proper accounting and all :) Story 4: I would never had put the ID in the waiter's hand...but assuming I did, I would have immediately called the police the moment she committed Felony Theft of a Government ID. Story 5: OP is NTA. OP did nothing wrong as they were not told of the wedding before arriving and was told not to change when they asked if they should. Those 2 are NOT friends. The fact that both the bride & groom hid the wedding from OP and blaming OP for not knowing any weddings etiquette is screwed up. The husband outright lying on OP is unforgivable.

That last one the husband was the a-hole and he knew what he was doing in the first place. His jealousy got the best of him and now he’s gonna end up divorced. And that was not a wedding it was a costume party so the wife had no reason to be thoroughly angry over it.

20:31 There's literally no room for them to be. This is entirely on the once happy couple for not telling their guests about the wedding (especially the groom who even said it wasn't a problem. After that was said, all blame directed at the OP bounces off like Mario on a note block).

“You’ve ruined my son” wow, that’s huge

I hope the karen mom of Story 2 didn't take it out on her kid. It sounds like she already doesn't want to deal with her - and honestly, what she said about her kid not being her problem but the other coworkers' makes me suspicious of how neglectful she is outside of work, too. People who are unafraid to complain about how "hard it is" being a mom in public (and in front of her kid) like that are definitely going to go home and tell their kid how much work they are, how she ruined her day's pay, and how she shouldn't have been so selfish at the fair. I'm seriously hoping that kid didn't get her wonderful memory ruined by her mom's foul mood.

Cane Corso is type of Mastiff breed

Last Story: That marriage is over. OP was invited to a costume party and when asked if there was a theme or anything of note was told no. Friend could have easily said to avoid anything bridal as it's serving as an engagement party and could have avoided the entire faux pas from the surprise wedding. OP had witnesses backing up him asking if he should go change before things started so (hopefully ex-)Hubby should have known the truth would have come out one way or another. He lied to her about her friend and had started a fight just to get rid of OP. That's controlling AH behavior and if she's smart then she'll divorce him.

Hahaha holy smokes a cane corso as a service dog.... thats novel. No wonder that kid was scared... handful of a doggo, but beautiful.

🤔🤦🤔 *Story 1* *Hey "mom"! If YOUR daughter has a fear of dogs, it is YOUR responsibility to get your child help to overcome HER fear!* *Or leave her home with her dad!*

Story 5: So the friend is a drama queen and her new husband is a liar. No loss if OP doesn't hear from them ever again.

I used to get the "too young to be disabled" rant from people all the time. I'm approaching my 50's now so it doesn't happen nearly as often anymore. People have these rose-colored glasses on when it comes to illness and disabilities. It distressingly common for a lot of people to think that young people just don't get sick that bad etc. When i was in my early 20's, i had my cane kicked out from under me by one of these people who insisted that I didn't need it and I was faking as i was far too young to need a cane. It happened again when I was in my 30's. I've also been yelled at for using a mobility scooter, for parking in handicap with my placard, etc. Had one guy roll up on me in his wheelchair screaming that I took the last handicap spot and I clearly didn't need it as I was hobbling slowly with my cane into the store. He had had to pull down to the very end of the parking lot where there were empty spaces to have room to unload is wheelchair. My friend, who as with me at the time, was sick of it. This kind of thing had happened several times when she was with me. She turned and pointed out that i had a hard time walking while he had wheels to ride. Now...I don't like that she said that because wheelchairs need space to load and unload, but also he didn't have to come at me like that. Those spaces are for ANYONE who is disabled, not just wheelchair users. These days I just don't leave the house any more. Dealing with constant pain is enough to deal with without having to defend myself from every busybody who thinks they can tell me what I do or do not have the right to.

Story 1: Maybe Karen should take her own advice and stay home, keeping her attitude where it belongs. Story 2: You don’t get special treatment just because you gave birth. Were it up to me, Karen would have gotten a written warning for being late and a (unofficial) verbal warning for demanding special treatment on the grounds of being a mother.

Service dog vs autistic child story: I do feel sorry for the child, having a mother like that. I suspect the mother doesn't like dogs and this translates to the kid being terrified of them. But no one is too young to have a disability and many are, as OP said, invisible. Given a part of OP's dog's training is deep pressure therapy, having such a large dog as a Cane Corso is a good thing. She is a good girl! I wonder how many other places Karen has been banned from over the years? Given how many small towns I've been thru where the local Walmart is the only big store around for miles (no Targets, Kohls, J.C, Penny's and so on) being banned from one is a big deal. Carnival story: In all honesty I would have sent Karen home the moment she showed up with her kid. I suspect she really didn't do much to earn her pay, so it wouldn't have been a loss. But it did serve to provide a lesson, though one I doubt she learned. Acne story: Great job little old lady telling off Karen!!! And to you as well, OP, for not allowing Karen to belittle you. If Karen doesn't like what she sees, she doesn't have to look, let alone comment on it to anyone, including OP. Smoking area story: What a pain! It reminds me of a story a friend told me when I was still driving semis. This was long enough ago many places still allowed smoking in designated smoking areas, even indoors. My friend was an owner operator and a smoker. He went into a big truck stop, bought about 120+ gallons of diesel fuel, parked his truck and went inside to eat. He went into the restaurant and sat in the smoking area (which was in the back of the restaurant (important), ordered and then ate his meal when it came out. While he was eating an older couple came into the smoking area, sat down and ordered coffee, ONLY coffee. Well, after the driver finished eating, he lit up a cigar. The older couple demanded he put it out, the driver refused. They called the manager demanding the driver put out his cigar. Remember, he's IN THE DESIGNATED SMOKING AREA. The driver told the manager (for the truck stop, not just the restaurant) that he had just bought over 120 gallons of fuel, ordered a big steak dinner, he was in the smoking area and when he finished his smoke and coffee, had plans to go into the truck stop store and buy around $50 worth of stuff. He then pointed out that the couple had walked thru the nearly empty non-smoking and much larger part of the restaurant to get to the smoking area of the restaurant and only ordered coffee. He then asked the manager who his more valuable customer was. The manager told the couple to either stop bothering the trucker and to move to the non-smoking area or to leave the premises. Some people. Wedding story: OP, you did the responsible thing and asked the groom if you should change. He said no. I might have done so anyway, just to be safe, but you were given an okay. THEN HE LIED TO HIS NEW WIFE that he didn't say you were okay as is and he's upset at you now. Hopefully, they will both come to their senses over time. But given they didn't tell anyone, it's a surprise many people didn't come in white. They have no reason to be upset as they wanted a surprise wedding. UPDATE: What a hateful way to start a marriage! It is possible for men and women to just be friends with no romantic intent. One of mine happens to be an ex-girlfriend. She, my wife and I are still good friends after my wife's and I's 49 years of marriage. And no, we were never intimate beyond some kissing.

I had heard story 5 on another channel, but I hadn't heard the update. After hearing that the husband chose the wedding to get rid of OP, that tells me right then he not only lied to his wife about giving the O.K. on the Corpse Bride costume, but he knew it would upset the bride and used that to try and separate them. I'll be surprised if that wedding lasts very long.

The wedding dress to the costume party is a hillarious idea xD

Gym story: If something like that ever happens again tell them that you're not going to make your skin condition worse just to satisfy your sensibilities. Covering body acne during exercise can make the acne spread under and along the line of the garment, depending on the fabric, how tight/loose it is, how long you work out for, etc. I'm not gonna make myself miserable with physical alterations because you're not comfortable seeing my condition. How about you keep your eyes on your own work and leave me to my sets.

Story 5: The Bride and Groom are the A-holes in this setting. OP had no clue and said that he thought it was a costume party, so there was no clue about it.

"My husband can't handle the kid" is the biggest cop out ever.i love my kids and when we go out (without their mom), I'm not "babysitting", I'm spending time with my kids. I mean, damn

Story 2: When the Karen said she wasn’t paying for it I wish I was there to laugh and say: “That’s true, you aren’t paying for it, it’s just coming out of salary instead.”

She has to PAY for her prayers? And yet op is the freak?? He's not the one playing make believe!

Fair enough it sounds OP lived close enough to go home to change However, that now husband of hers said "it's OK" Also what if OP would have lived hours away. There would have been no possibility to go & change anyway. You do a stupid surprise wedding then don't be surprised if somone wears something that's not "appropriate" Also, why should OP lie that the idiot now husband said that it's OK. OP should thank his lucky stars that those people are now out of his life Those were not friends

Srry to say so, but the kid is already ruined, That happens if you have such a karen as a parent.

Last story as soon as we get to the hubby denying saying the costume was fine, I knew he was jealous of her having a male best friend, I'm guessing he knows OP enough, to guess what kind of costume he would pick, and unfortunately he played right into his hands, on the plus side it's early days, so she should be able to get an annulment!

for those with acne, try this tip. get a small bottle, then 1/3 white vinegar (the cheaper the better) and 2/3 water. apply to effected areas when you enter the shower, then wash normally (with a moisurizer bar of soap) then rinse thoroughly. the acid from the vinegar will dig out the dirt from the pores.

If that Karen thinks her son is now ‘ruined’, and ruined things usually go in the bin, then I suggest that SHE is sent to the loony bin !

I had the back acne when I was a teen. I was so self conscious that I would wear a shirt in the pool. Then I got a girlfriend who liked popping zits. She would go to work on my back every time before and after passionately hugging. That pretty much got me over it, and eventually it cleared up. ❤ people that help you accept your flaws. ❤

Last story: 2 petty and immature people getting married. What could go wrong??!!!

Her child is ruined? I wonder what the returns policy is like with her hoo-ha.

Story 3: Karen getting chewed out has me thinking of Scar’s death scene from Lion King

Rule #1, never lie. Once the trust is broken it can never be recovered. Even if you lied to a person that you only just met and you don't expect ever meet again... If people that you work with everyday find out that you lied it now opens the door to have them wonder if you've ever lied to them.

You ruined my child, you ruined my wedding. What does that say about their child or their spouse? What could ruin your wedding when you're marrying the love of your life, your best friend. The fact that that would ruin a wedding means that marriage is already over before it started.

The last story, your new husband thought about doing this for the last five years. That is one evil man leave him now.

Autism is more of a neurological disability vs a physical or health related like the heart. That daughter is never gonna learn with Karen as her mom and I say that as an Autistic woman. The daughter eventually needs to learn coping mechanism and if needed therapy.

I looked up the Cane corso breed... Dude, that dog looks terrifying! I want one!

The corpse bride/surprise wedding thing is actually low key awesome. I would have made him be in every picture cause that is pure comedy gold! Extra points if he was wearing heals. Why were none of my friends this cool?

I would have told Karen her son wouldn’t have asked about transgender if she hadn’t made such a fuss about it. Too bad the church will only get her explanation cuz that behavior would have her prayed over or banned. 😂

They should get an annulment. If he lied to her about that, what else is he lying about?

That 10 mins conversation had definitely ruin the kid, his image of his mother is now a Karen

If a chid is traumatized in a coffee shop in just a few minutes, what about what kids are exposed to in schools?

Whether there's a dedicated smoking area or not doesn't change the incredible level of entitlement it takes to smoke INDOORS, subjecting staff and othet patrons to second-hand smoke. Most people who work at restaurants can't afford to just quit their jobs because you're turning their worksite into a health hazard, but that doesn't mean they deserve to develop lung cancer.

"They wouldnt punish her, so i had to do it" God damn old lady is the literal Punisher

Older 50’s? I’m starting to feel old!😳

Heck even my ALLERGIST office let me bring my service dog. I just discussed it with them ahead of time and they made sure I wasn’t scheduled the same day as anyone with deadly dog allergies and had me enter a side entrance to keep me away from anyone in the lobby. I was very grateful as the dog helped me with PTSD and panic attacks.

Last story. The recently married woman might want to seriously rethink marriage to this ABUSER!!! She needs to se a divorce lawyer!! Or she is going to live a life of mental and probably physical abuse!! Get out while the getting is good!! As a marriage counselor, I have seen my share of these people!!!