Ranking Women by Weight? Jubilee We Need to Talk (I Have THOUGHTS)

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@AbbeysKitchen 3 ай бұрын

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@lejladruskic8943 3 ай бұрын

As a person living with type 1 diabetes I try and explain people that health is wealth and should be the main focus of any diet changes. I want to lose weight to increase my insulin sensitivity and just feel better. So many women get chronic health issues because of body shaming and wellness culture and it's absolutely not worth it. We need a systematic change where we will teach women about their bodies without any shame so they can be happy and healthy ❤️

@AbbeysKitchen 3 ай бұрын

This is so true

@carolineleblanc972 3 ай бұрын

Hello from a fellow t1d! 👋🏻☺️

@CalindaSharisse 3 ай бұрын

I recently started drinking this tea bc I saw studies suggesting it increases insulin sensitivity in individuals with insulin resistant diabetes and my doctors have told me I'm pre-diabetic. It's called palo azul or kidneywood. The really cool thing is it's made from boiling wood chips for 30-60 minutes and you can just keep reusing the same wood chips again and again. Or maybe the cool thing is how it refracts light and makes it look blue in sunlight. Only downside I've noticed after drinking 2-3 cups a day for two weeks is my sweat smells kinda like wood.. which I don't really mind personally but I have a sensitive nose and the woody scent keeps catching me off guard. But yeah, if you're interested in increasing insulin sensitivity, I'd definitely suggest looking into the studies around palo azul (kidneywood) and discussing it with your physician

@uniquechallenges2478 3 ай бұрын

@@AbbeysKitchenNow I have to disagree with you saying that black and Hispanic people have more anorexic eating disorders from my experience as being an black women that always grew up in the black culture! In black culture women are celebrated in the black community for being thick or an bit fat even sometimes bigger than that! In my experience it has been white and Asian women that have greatly struggled with this because in their culture being super thin is the norm!😮

@maddiethebaddie00 3 ай бұрын

As a fellow T1D I am struggling with the opposite. I am SO sensitive to insulin! I’ve been dealing with anorexia for a while now and I’m on the path to recovery, but it doesn’t seem to be working yet 😞 please people, be nice to your bodies, you only get one!

@jennwilliams7415 3 ай бұрын

My 17 year old daughter’s almost 19 year old boyfriend of a year now showed signs of having an eating disorder, he was also seeing spots and blacking out, getting dizzy and we rarely saw him eat or he would eat very little etc... We are very familiar with eating disorders because my sister has battled it her whole life. Alarm bells were going off when she spoke to me and then I advised her she can’t fix it for him, he needs to get help, but she can support him. She sat with him with his parents to talk about it and he admitted feeling guilt around food and eating etc… he has been bullied horribly in school over his weight and it led him spiraling, the conversation led to further conversations and he is now in treatment and getting better. I was so proud my daughter and how she saw it, was gentle bringing it up and supported him helping him not feel shame asking for help. And I’m proud of him for getting the help he needs.

@abbigailcarr2725 2 ай бұрын

Boys and men with eating disorders are all too often left out of the conversation. Thanks for this. If just one person sees this who might not have previously considered that it doesn’t just affect feminine identifying people

@sarahneubert3377 3 ай бұрын

My mom will always proudly exclaim that she never talked about calories or body image to me and my sister. But then do things like refuse to eat lunch until she’s walks 5000 steps. I’ve tried to help her break out of this mindset but I think it’s too engrained in her now. 😢 hopefully I’ve broken the cycle for my own kids.

@evolili4245 3 ай бұрын

It was similar with my mom, no calorie talk, but she would tease me whenever I ate something sugary and sometimes she would go on a fast for weeks to lose weight. I don't think she realized how damaging that mindset was. Let's be more aware and do better!❤

@Lady.Fern. 3 ай бұрын

Yea my mom has no recollection of telling me things like girls with tree trunk legs can’t wear basket ball short and chubby girls can’t wear stripes or patterns etc even though it’s a vivid clear memory for me down to where we were standing etc the human mind is wild when it’s deep in delusion.

@Lady.Fern. 3 ай бұрын

@@evolili4245my dad would say “ one Twinkie away” whenever I ate a treat, implying I was one Twinkie away from being fat in his eyes. I know a lot of the issue can come from media, but it seems to be even more prominent to hear and see from parents which is way harder to cope with.

@makinka0cp 3 ай бұрын

Honestly, this has such an impact. My mom never fat shamed me (grated, I wasn't fat, but my BMI was never below 20 and I was the millenium teenager, bones were in style), she always supported me, told me I was beautiful. But she had troubled relationship with het own body and with food. She lead by example although she didn't want to. This is the greates challenge as a parent. You can't just say things, you have to live them. It took her two cancers and alkoholism to get there, but she finally found herself. And she told me not to wait till 55 to be happy like she did ❤

@Oderoderuchte 3 ай бұрын

My mum complained a Bit About her Look:now Not at all and was(maybe luckily ) Not consistent to introduce fasting/exzessive movement or so(I am so secretly,don‘t Show it to my friends etc) But I Want to move a lot Even If I caught a cold and am sick and eat a Little as possible, I‘ m consistent…

@Diana-qp2rw 3 ай бұрын

Hey Abbey, could you maybe do a video for those of us who always feel like they need to finish their plate, no matter how full they are? Seems to be a very common thing, at least in my experience, and I’d love to hear some tips on how to learn to stop eating when full, even if the plate isn’t empty.

@Alyssa684 3 ай бұрын

Hey friend! I believe this comes from our parents perpetuating their food insecurity and telling you that you have to finish your plate when you were young. At least from my understanding, it’s more common in less well off households, or in children whose parents are from poorer upbringings. I still have a mental block with food waste, but something that has really helped me is getting a bunch of containers to be able to put leftovers in to eat later. Another trick is that people usually have a sign that their body is pretty done eating. Might just be a change of pace eating, leaning back in your seat away from your food, I tend to sigh really hard. You just have to start being aware of your cue. Or try putting less on your plate to begin with but not being scared of getting seconds!

@Lady.Fern. 3 ай бұрын

I just figured out this is a main struggle for me and noticed I can get the same satisfaction on “cleaning my plate” or hitting the bottom of a chip bag by buy single serving chips and ordering kids meals if I go out etc. I’m still getting full and satisfied, but not so full I need to lay down after because I feel ill. Maybe it’s something that’ll help you too. I would love a video on this as well.

@heistube9556 3 ай бұрын

@@Alyssa684 I really agree with everything you said. I think a lot of people of my generation (I'm 50 years old) grew up being told to not waste food and finish all the food on our plate because our parents grew up in the period just after the Second World War when food was scarce and rationed. My Dad in particular whose close family were holocaust survivors really didn't like to see food not finished/wasted. I have dealt with this as an adult by simply packing up left overs to eat later, whether at home, work or in a restaurant, it completely eliminates any guilt of wasting food. I also try to take less and then go back for seconds if I'm still hungry.

@oriongemini5663 3 ай бұрын

My grandmother grew up during the Depression and she would tell me that if I didn’t finish our plate German mercenaries would come and chop my head off. Needless to say it’s a learned behavior and takes years to unlearn.

@Diana-qp2rw 3 ай бұрын

⁠@@Alyssa684Nope, my parents weren’t like this, in fact, mom mom used to throw away food almost daily. There was never too little food. But the “tricks” sound good, I still really hope Abbey makes a video on it, though, because so many people seem to have that mindset and it would be unfortunate if we kept passing it on to our kids…

@Shria9 3 ай бұрын

Okay. Wading in, here. It's too late for me but I hope my voice added to the chorus of voices singing, 'don't waste your life worrying about how you look' might be the one to push someone to actually listen to that. At 61, I spent my whole life worrying about how fat I was. It started when I was 12 and started to develop curves. Looking back, I realize I wasn't overweight or at an unhealthy level of fat on my body but all I could see were my hips spreading and my breasts growing. I desperately wanted it to stop. Over the years, through the weight fluctuations, pregnancies, health crises and traumatic events I still had that voice screaming in my head that I was too fat to go anywhere or do anything. I sat in the car while my husband took the kids swimming. I stayed home from Christmas parties and other social events. It began for me at the age of 12 when my mom decided to go on a diet (not her first but the first one I jumped in on). I joined her and haven't got off the roller coaster since. My daughter also joined us and now, at the age of 23, she's been fighting anorexia for about a decade. I hate what I did to her with my selfish desire for an unrealistically, unhealthy body size and my mom, at 82, still watches what she eats but much more for healthy eating than for weight loss. Her mother also told her she was too fat to find a good husband when my mom was a strong, capable young woman. It's generational and cultural as well as societal and very, very sad. I recognize the things the bigger women in that video said about appreciating their bodies. That's where my daughter's counsellor started with her. It's true and helpful to realize you have power in your body and to find joy in doing things with it. All my self-consciousness melts away when I'm gliding across the water in my kayak or walking through the woods. When I get home, I feel invigorated and honestly tired. I feel satisfied in my own skin. It's a rare and beautiful thing. I can't get all the experiences I've missed out on back but I can and will have new ones to enjoy with abandon for as long as I can. Hopefully, my daughter will be able to join me in those, too, and carry on after I am gone.

@collectingscars 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this perspective. My mom is a couple of years older than you and going through a serious health crisis of excess cortisol in her body, which has made her gain weight around her face and stomach. She still comments regularly about how she wants to lose weight and fit into her old clothes again. Her mom, my grandma, constantly talks about weight and appearance (her's and other people's). I see this and think about how I don't want to look back on my life only to realize how many things I missed out on because of how I perceive that I look to others. I've had a number of health problems over the years and going through that just made me so thankful for my body and how it can move me through however much life I have to live. I love your rumination of walking in the woods or using your kayak and feeling satisfied and invigorated, and even tired. These are the things that help us feel alive, and it's a shame to miss out on that.

@TheCatWitch63 3 ай бұрын

I relate to your story so much! I’m 60 y/o and grew up hearing I was the chubby one, the fatty one in the family. I was taken to my pediatrician at 13 so he could put me on a diet, and he gave me amphetamines. I almost got addicted to them. It was very hard for me to stop taking them two years later. Looking back at my photos, I can see I was not thin, especially between 10 and 13 y/o, but I was never fat during my teenage years and early youth. I did have an hourglass figure (which I now wish I still had). Pregnancy and menopause did me dirty and I got very fat. Then a serious illness made me lose lots of weight and now I’m very thin, but I still hear the voices calling me fatty and see myself in the mirror and think I’m huge. I wish someone would have taught me back then to love my body, and eat healthy and balanced meals.

@ShawtyCity 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your comment, I am a women in my twenties and I wish that someone had told me this when I was a teenager. I think it's amazing that you've realized the cycle you've been stuck in/perpetuated, and that you are actively working to break it!! Best of luck to you on your journey

@heatherpomerenke8684 3 ай бұрын

Inspirational ❤

@sainsworth42 3 ай бұрын

this is a phenomenal share and i'm so grateful you did. i was also heavily influenced after actually seeing my mom engaging in ED behaviors and it was one fo the triggers for my lifelong struggle as well. i'm 44 now and still recovering from my own diagnosed ED but doing so much better. so much of it is actually just coming to terms with and embracing our bodies as they are and appreciating them for doing all that they do for us.

@stephanieangela4407 2 ай бұрын

I have diagnosed binge eating disorder. I eat extremely healthy foods, but I can't keep myself from binging on them at night. I finally got my prescription for Wegovy and the disordered eating is gone. It's been two weeks today and I'm down twelve pounds. It solidified in my mind that eating disorders may be due to a hormonal balance or something else medically related. It's not because I lack willpower. I quit drinking soda ten years ago and quit fast food 5 years ago and only gained weight since then. It really hurts when I see women who do not have these issues getting so much more respect and social currency. I'm thankful of your approach to eating because it is so non judgmental.

@jemimahgertrude590 3 ай бұрын

This is the first I've heard of the term "atypical anorexia" and I'm absolutely blown away. I once told a psychiatrist I had achieved my initial goal clothing size and wanted to go further, but was scared of developing anorexic habits. She straight up told me "You don't have anorexia, you're too big." And years later, I'm still so scared of developing anorexic habits that, guess what, I'm still "too big" 😤😠

@mayanovak2497 3 ай бұрын

You don't have anorexia. Do you want to have it or something? I

@Diana-qp2rw 3 ай бұрын

If you’re just scared of developing anorexic habits and that stopped you from losing more weight, you might have a somewhat problematic relationship with your body and food, which you could talk about to a therapist. But you don’t have anorexia because you’re scared of developing anorexic habits. Do you want to have anorexia or a diagnosed ED? Because tbh, your comment sounds a bit like you try to be seen an anorexic, which you should probably seek help for because that’s an issue. People normally want to be healthy and that should be your goal as well.

@flowerspolkadots6025 3 ай бұрын

My mom was always talking about needing to lose weight or being on a diet when I was growing up and that heavily impacted my issues around food and weight (I binged and purged for a while and struggled with my body image since I can remember). When I was home last summer to visit she made a remark about needing to lose weight again, I told her I don’t wanna talk about it and that her diet talk had a really bad influence on my body image. She was severely offended by that and I guess it affected our already rocky relationship negatively but I’m kind of relieved to have said it out loud at least once

@jackiehammerton 3 ай бұрын

I still haven’t found the guts to directly say to my mom, “Stop talking about dieting.” All I’ve managed to do is say things lightheartedly like, “All food is good food!” and “It’s all about balance and listening to your body.” But it’s not enough. I’ve got to work up the courage like you did and say point blank: I don’t want to talk about dieting.

@AbbeysKitchen 3 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry, it's so hard with parents and family

@user-pn6fs4lc3x 3 ай бұрын

I went to lunch with my Mom recently and she made a comment that eating 3 meals and 2 snacks a day is the reason “everyone is obese.” She has been saying this to me since I was a child. I never said anything until now, I shut her down and said that I’m not engaging in that conversation and maybe she should think about what that idea perpetuates - disordered eating. She didn’t say much after that. But it is true that parental influence is HUGE when it comes to how we view food and our own bodies. I’m still working on my own issues but I’m happy I’ve broken the cycle of food and body shaming.

@ItsKindryte 3 ай бұрын

As a person who's fat and struggled with disordered eating in the past, I can actually relate to what the heavier women said. Sure, I wanna lose weight and be healthier, but also I'm not really... mad at my body for being large? I mean I'm not going to deprive my body of what it needs anymore, and if that means it'll take a little longer to reach a healthy weight, so be it. Either way, my body is still able to do a lot of cool things.

@jillianwickham31 3 ай бұрын

Yes yes yes yes yes❣️

@AbbeysKitchen 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing this!

@imaans1397 3 ай бұрын

Yes!! Building sustainable habits over a period of time that yield weight loss as a byproduct is so much healthier than crash dieting. I have learnt this the hard way. Crash dieting just makes you feel shit and you're likely to gain it back anyway. Health should always be the first priority

@raylynludwick5613 3 ай бұрын

I had ED when I was younger with extreme anorexia for years and that carried over to my adult years. It wasn’t until I had chemo and gaining weight that I was truly over weight. I have a daughter and I always was very kind and never said the things I heard about food. I am now back on slimming down again but my daughter sees the thin people on social media and thinks she needs to fit that ideal when it’s not possible with how she is shaped with her curves she has. It’s not good for women to think that is the only option like my daughter who has a beautiful hourglass shape like my mom had

@raylynludwick5613 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

@Taywanee 3 ай бұрын

I developed anorexia in my senior years of high school. When I recovered, I went way too far the other way, but once I realized, I didn’t know how to approach exercise/food/intentional weight loss without falling back into anorexia. It has taken me a DECADE to finally feel like I’ve got a healthy relationship with food and exercise. It is so hard and no one really talks about those who recover from anorexia but then become obese.

@ANDREAGONZALEZ-jk6vy 3 ай бұрын

THIS! It’s so true!

@bougieeneshia 3 ай бұрын

Great video! Great points! Well and respectfully said

@beachgirl6305 3 ай бұрын

I thought it was great hearing the women that weighed over 200 were happier with themselves! I wouldn't have thought so! I'm truly happy for them!

@emilysmith19 3 ай бұрын

Ugh Abbey you're so right that parents restricting, commenting or trying to make their kids lose weight just causes them to have unhealthy relationships with food and makes them unhappy. My very well meaning mom and dad sat me down one day as a teen and told me that my weight was unhealthy and I needed to lose weight. At that time in my life I was young and active with sports and wasn't even overweight! Maybe a bit thicker than my peers. Fast forward to 20 years and two kids later and I am now VERY overweight. I also have a 3 year old daughter. I am on a journey to try to lose weight but I'm also trying my absolute best to not let her see my weight loss attempts because I don't want her to be traumatized by diet culture. It's so hard. Your tips are helping me though. I'm trying to heal my relationship with food and think of it as fuel. And I'm finding making sure to keep a balance of protein, fibre and healthy fat is helping. Hunger crushing combo ftw 💪. Thank you Abbey!

@emilymunday6212 3 ай бұрын

It’s amazing how many contradictions there are in duet culture. I love the freedom we face once we conclude we can be free to live in the body we’ve been given.

@Plantmum90 3 ай бұрын

As a person with PCOS and other chronic illness I explain health is wealth is the main focus with diet and exercise. My twin had the perfect body and I was the big one. I felt pressure to lose weight and developed a eating disorder but I got compliments and it fed my desire. I was unhapier at my smaller size than I am now and eat to fuel my body but I had a PCOS flare up and gained weight and it was hard to accept my body's changes but I did because it's just a number ❤

@madelyn-dearing 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your perspective and including the research. I am on my journey to recovery from anorexia and I committed to all in recovery and it has to be one of the hardest experiences I have ever endured. I am now at my highest weigh I have ever been at and as much as I am really struggling with my body right now I was struggling just as much when I was at my lowest which is teaching me that my body is not the problem. My appetite has finally regulated and I am working on learning to intuitively eat enough and trying to trust the process that my body will eventually settle to wherever its happy weight is and working on accepting that I can't ever do anything to try to control that number. I am currently in school to become an eating disorder therapist and for one of my classes I have to facilitate a group for the class and I am going to do it on how eating disorder affect a persons ability to interpersonally connect. I am planning to use the Minnesota starvation experiment and I am going to look at the links you have provided below for more imperially validated information. I am a long time fan and your Chanel has been an instrumental part of your recovery. I love how you always include the research to back up what you are saying! thank you for all you do.

@AbbeysKitchen 3 ай бұрын

So glad my channel has been helpful in your journey❤

@CobwebsRoblox 2 ай бұрын

I’m a 16 y/o female and have always struggled with being overweight, even as a baby. I have two younger siblings who binge eat on the couch while watching TV, and I’m just up in my room thinking to myself, “how the hell are they thin?” I grew up doing sports (soccer & softball) and never snacked between my meals, but I was still overweight, and it hurts me so much how my siblings can eat anything and not gain weight when I grew up eating relatively healthy, yet overweight. I’ve started cooking my own healthy meals while cutting out a lot of sugary drinks (I drink *a lot* of iced tea, my mom has said that could play a big part in my weight) and junk food. 🙃

@katiekilgore6319 2 ай бұрын

My mom has been overweight or obese for my entire life and it's definitely shaped how i look at myself and food, i desperately don't want to get to that point with my weight and as soon as the scale says I'm overweight i fight to lose pounds even if it means missing a meal. I've fought so hard to break this stigma and just try to add better foods to my diet instead of taking away the foods i love but it's still so hard to balance.

@EleriOnline 3 ай бұрын

Type 1 diabetic here too and disordered eating behaviours are really required, constant weighing and tracking of food, looking up menus in advance, manipulating meal timing and macros, walking after each meal etc. Worried about passing these behaviours onto my future children because I have to be so fixated and concerned about my own food intake.

@Steph.Ranae26 28 күн бұрын

I am 200 pounds currently and am on a weight loss journey and taking Contrave to lose weight. I gained weight in adulthood and a lot of it was due to hormonal medication treatments for my endometriosis. For a long time I felt so much shame in the fact I “let myself” gain the weight. I have anorexia and went through lot of treatment and therapy for it when I was younger. I remember telling myself as a teen I would never let myself get “fat”. Now that I am I at first struggled so much with the fact I didn’t fight back. During a doctor’s appointment my doctor really put things in to perspective for me. She said that my body is currently fighting incredibly hard day to day and worrying about my weight is not helping. She said that just because I am 5’2 doesn’t necessarily mean I am obese like the BMI says. She said that because of my genetics and my fat distribution I am still relatively healthy weight wise. That really made me think about all of the things my body does now that I am heavier, I always was so hyper focused on the bad that I didn’t notice the other changes. My hair became much thicker and softer and could stand to be bleached much better than before, and my skin cleared and I rarely break out now. She said that when we enter adulthood (early to mid 20’s) most people see a jump in body weight and that it is normal. While some of my weight is due to hormones and stress eating in times of pain. Some of it is just normal weight gain. She told me to not expect to go back to being 150 again like I was when I was 19. She said that my body will likely settle at 180 to 160 and she’s definitely right as the last time I lost weight I got to 180 and then no matter what I did it would not go lower. She made me realize that my body does so much for me especially with my day to day chronic pain. I am grateful for my body even if it’s not my ideal, I know it works so hard for me everyday and I need to appreciate that. While I am losing weight I can still appreciate the things being 200 pounds gave me and I will miss the soft hair and smooth skin. I’m 18 pounds down and already seeing a noticeable difference in my hair and skin and it makes me sad but I am also able to breath better and my heart rate is slowing so you have to pick and chose what is more important to you. Overall what I am trying to say is no matter what I will always have some type of problem with my current outward appearance but it really doesn’t matter in the long run, when I am dead whether I was 120 pounds or 200 pounds it’s not going to matter.

@mirjazentgraf5896 3 ай бұрын

My narcissistic grandmother (who lived with us) started criticising my body from childhood on and later compared me (then 17) with my sisters body (then 11) praising hers of course. still struggling with body dismorphia (I'm 40 now) and a bit too much fixation on food and bodies but at least I didn't develop a "proper" ED. Most of the time I feel pretty comfortable around food and am able to eat mostly intuitively. But there are times I am still triggered for example I have Hashimotos and there are so many information how to eat with an auto immune disease. wich is kind of restrictive.

@user-ky7pt8pp9i 3 ай бұрын

I definitely have had an undiagnosed ED since I was about 12. I’m 57 now. My weight has been up and down like a yo yo I have over excercised have binged,starved and yo yo dieted. I joined a slimming group 2 years ago which are more about healthy eating than not eating. I have lost a lot of weight and got to a healthy weight now. I just want to stay at this healthy weight and stop the madness of thinking of losing weight all the time. My Grandma constantly told me I was fat when I was only 7 stone !!!!!!! That was in my teenage life and I still hear her voice in the back of my head telling me I’m fat. Messed up or what !!!

@missknight9 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for making this Abbey. I remember watching this and thinking there were some important messages throughout this video, but the overall way it was done was just awful. It’s obviously that many of the women were trying to appear positive, but that the interview was negatively affecting them. Jubilee recently released a new video which in my opinion is even worst than this one. They changed the title because it was so controversial. I think it’s now the “how body image affects these 100 women”. They basically rank women by how beautiful they were.

@falyssamayhew7285 3 ай бұрын

I gave up trying to get 'skinny' in my 20s. I was living in a very rural area where there wasnt much in the way of gyms and eating fairly healthy. I walked so much I gave myself osteoarthritis in both knees AND SI joint dysfunction. I wasnt cheaping out on shoes, either. I found out later that I have PCOS. I'm 37 now, and have accepted that I am a bigger bodied taller gal going into a mostly male industry. 5'9 and 260-280. PCOS is something I will ALWAYS struggle with despite having a hysterectomy.

@lynncrf 3 ай бұрын

Have you ever had your insulin resistance treated? It's such a pity the focus is often on weight. IR causes a ton of health issues independent of a person's size.

@falyssamayhew7285 3 ай бұрын

@@lynncrfYes. No sign of even pre-diabetes. If anything I have low blood sugar.

@lynncrf 2 ай бұрын

@@falyssamayhew7285 Low blood sugar can be caused by IR as over production of insulin can result in reactive hypoglycemia. A glucose test doesn't show that though. Fasting insulin is the important test.

@Lady.Fern. 3 ай бұрын

I’ve lived on both ends of the spectrum which gave me a unique outlook on size. I did not feel any better about myself while on the thin end of the spectrum, contrary I felt worse than ever. I couldn’t even recognize myself, food thoughts and body checking was all consuming. It was never enough always needed to drop another 5lbs etc even though I was a size small and lost my period I thought I needed to lose another 5 before I was okay to start dating etc. now I’m back to over 200 and finally figured out it’s has nothing to do with size or shape, absolutely nothing. It is in fact all a in our heads and once we start putting the work into those like we do our size then we will finally start seeing the results we’re looking for. I was fat and sad then thin and sad now I’m fat and working on mental stability lol I think the natural next step after that is mental stability and weight stability. Fingers crossed lol

@theatrechick4ever 2 ай бұрын

I can relate to this a lot. I have an ED and I fluctuate between normal and sometimes even underweight to obese every few years. Basically, putting my body through hell. I've never been happy at any size and can't really see the difference in the mirror even at 100 pounds difference. My clothes just get smaller or larger. And I get a ton of unwanted attention from men when I'm smaller, which I don't like at all. I'm never happy with my weight, but I'm probably happier bigger because I get less unwanted attention from creepy guys all the time. I think being fat makes me feel safer.

@arrobanackrova 3 ай бұрын

I could say that in this time of my life I'm not interested in how much I weight and how much I should lose. I just think that I'm able to do a lot of things with my body and that's important. I'm still more in the lighter side of the scale but I remember used to be pretty concern of keeping me there.

@rachelmckitterick 3 ай бұрын

I've had an Eating Disorder for over 30 years. I am SO SO sick of the stereotype. 😡

@megan-1600 3 ай бұрын

Would you ever make a video about the app Yuka? I’d look to know what you think about it

@KaylaKempers 3 ай бұрын

I would love it if she reviewed this!

@DivaPWI Ай бұрын

I'm a 350lb+ obese woman who suffers from an ED. I am not sure what one and I have not really talked to anyone about it openly. But food and I have a toxic relationship and everyone everywhere telling me "just eat less and you'll lose weight" has led to years and years of self-hate, and just... not eating at all for days at a time until I have to literally nurse my way back to eating and it takes DAYS. The only way I can eat consistently is if I use weed. I am getting help, but it's a long slow process. Also, I didn't know why I never menstruated normally... yeah EDs apparently can mess that all up. Our language around food and feeding our bodies really needs to change.

@di56 3 ай бұрын

I know that it’s just an adjective and a correct one at that the word “fat” makes me cringe so hard because of my own struggle with being large.

@sheriwal1514 3 ай бұрын

How do most people get help with EDs?? What is the treatments today. ?

@user-il9tx9di4b 3 ай бұрын

Can you review Cooking for Peanuts?

@mica4977 2 ай бұрын

Would be curious if Claire's take was more so in terms of health. Whether they'd be able to be happy while suffering through weight related issues, as apposed to their general happiness in life. I can't imagine many people being happy to be disabled (in terms of actively wishing for disability) as apposed to being neutral towards their happenstance and being happy with what they've made of their life/how they're handling it.

@Leo-mr1qz Ай бұрын

My mother was an alcoholic. She got most of her calories from alcohol. She wouldn't eat breakfast, have a soda for lunch, and a few bites of dinner. I overate junk food to compensate for the lack of parental attention. I was overweight in middle school and lost 65 pounds before high school because I wanted to be on the basketball team. By the time I was a senior in high school, I was 5 ft. 11" at 120 lbs. I had a boyfriend at the time that threw my ceral on the floor one morning because he said I was "too fat to be eating." I've struggled with my weight all of my life. To this day, no matter what size I am, I am never the right size. I've ranged from a size 0 to a 16. It doesn't matter which one it was, I have never been happy in my own skin. 😢

@AyaTheTyga 3 ай бұрын

I find it to be a difficult conversation to have when the topic of counting calories and weight loss comes up from a little sibling. I myself have experience with disordered eating patterns which Im working on getting help for but its difficult to identify whether they are also exhibiting this based off of my own struggles with whats normal and what is extreme. Could you make a video on approaching body image, weight loss and ED discussions with a child?

@AbbeysKitchen 3 ай бұрын

I have a video on raising intuitive eaters but I can look at a more specific video if that's of interest kzfaq.info/get/bejne/b5mKeMuU15emgHk.html

@SewardWriter 3 ай бұрын

I hate my body, but because of all the things wrong with it (multiple crippling chronic disorders, most of which were diagnosed VERY late). When all that is a factor, the flaws become less and less of a factor. I hover around 100kg, and that's fine.

@colleenag1 3 ай бұрын

Having struggled with weight all my life, and now maintaining a healthy weight.. I can say this.. yes I loved my body even when I was fat, but I was sad that I put my body through everything I did, it broke my heart that my body which worked soo hard for me despite how I was treating it, still kept me alive, my heart kept beating despite my BP being 170/112, my joints held up even though I had a full 105kgs on them, my liver worked hard even though I had NHFL… it broke my heart.. and I’m tearing up now when I think about how I abused my God given body. HENCE I lost the weight, today my BP is normal, my sugar is normal, my knees and feet don’t hurt anymore, I reversed fatty liver.. but yes, all this took a lot of work to control my diet - I don’t consider that disordered eating. I think what’s disordered is treating your body badly, you don’t become obese by truly loving your body!

@mockingbirdnightingale7169 3 ай бұрын

Wow!! I could have written this ENTIRE comment, every line of it applies to me as well! I felt and still feel tremendous gratitude for what my body endured and persevered through until I was ready and able to shed all the weight, which I did, and now I treat my body to gobs of healthy exercise, healthy food, etc. We're still working on getting enough sleep lol. I'm so grateful that it held on through the worst of it and we got to the other side. It took so much work but it was GOOD work.

@melissaysitall7703 3 ай бұрын

You need to watch the video they put “the one” who fits the ideal body type out of 100 women. they basically have to rank themselves! So crazy tbh🙄

@giuliamassi3933 2 ай бұрын

HI Abbey did you get rid of your sibo? :)

@mayanovak2497 3 ай бұрын

Pretty disgusting to promote a cleaning service that's $19 an hour. Imagine what the cleaner earns from that. $10? $12? So privileged and out of touch as usual

@mayanovak2497 3 ай бұрын

@@user-fc4xg5ym1t correct!

@mariannewm26 3 ай бұрын

The cleaner gets 100% of cleaning costs and tips. Quick Google search clears that up

@LeComplice Ай бұрын

damn those transition sounds are brutal lol

@Second2LastPioneer 3 ай бұрын

Well, my comment doesn't necessarily align with the video, but I was really thin through most of my childhood. I mean really low body fat that the school nurse would observe me eating breakfast and lunch. Now, my mom had psychological problems and what they could never observe was that I wasn't eating regularly at home because of her depression. And they used to be obsessed with my behavior and feelings and I would just reject their concerns and also protect my mom. And my mom was overweight and the doctors put her on all kinds of crazy diets. Actual doctors putting her on the grapefruit diet and keto and other BS that only made her depression worse. As I've grown up I'm always weighed in at the doctor's office and questioned about my weight. As a first concern, not depression, not anxiety, not PTSD, fuck not even cancer or cardiovascular disease... weight. I really think it's society that is obsessed with weight and it saddens me greatly. My mom can be really intelligent and kind and interesting and funny, but none of that matters if people don't want to look at her. It's just that it's society that is unhealthy and these young women are just trying to navigate this sick world. IMO

@user-xl9bz3gz1j 3 ай бұрын

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@catopie4635 3 ай бұрын

I've spent most of my life on a diet, worked out, and lived an active lifestyle. I'm generally plus sized but only at my waist, and when I am weighed by someone new at the hospital, I am reweighed over and over. The person weighing me will weigh themselves, look confused and weigh me again, find another scale, and repeat this process again and again despite my weight in my records, reported to them and the scale matching. Because despite being large, I'm not even overweight, let alone obese as assumed. I didn't know until a few years ago why. So I would over exercise and battle anorexia that even now whispers in the back of my mind. I have a very aggressive form of endometriosis and all of my pelvic organs are swollen 14-19%. Where do people expect your intestines / bowel etc to go? Add endo belly to this or the more than 40 cysts swelling up to 8x the size of an ovary and again my insides need to go somewhere! If I had this swelling anywhere else it would be obvious that something is medically wrong but in your stomach area? And even doctors who have just discussed this massive unusual swelling with you start talking about weight loss and obesity that they just said you don't have. You cannot tell someone's weight by looking at them. You cannot see someone's journey by looking at them and you don't know their health by looking at them. Even when that person is the one in the mirror looking back.

@cryinheart4235 3 ай бұрын

I'm losing weight right now for health issues. Counting calories, doing sport, eating healthy, .... How can I provide my kids of risks get eds because of the fact they witness my weightloss? 😢

@TheSnuffy1994 3 ай бұрын

I think emphasize to your kids that you are doing it for health reasons and that it's completely okay to be larger, that you would still be beautiful and worthy. And try to make sure that your kids don't feel like they have to avoid certain foods etc

@marszz333 3 ай бұрын

I tell them I’m trying to be healthy and strong. I tell them health risks behind not eating healthy. I don’t weigh myself in front of them. I don’t speak poorly about my size or weight in front of them either. I am very conscious of this because my mother did the opposite and was very open about her ED with us. So not only did she disclose it freely but she also would speak poorly about herself and to us as well about our bodies. That led to me and my sisters having body dysmorphia, ED and disordered eating habits that we still suffer from today. So I say all that to say is keep the focus on being healthy and strong, and not so much about weight.

@jillianwickham31 3 ай бұрын

Hi. I know you weren’t asking me, and I of course do not know you personally, but I would really encourage you to not make a big deal of your weight loss. If other people “compliment you” on your weight loss, especially in front of your children, don’t act like you’re enjoying that praise, since we shouldn’t do it for others anyway. Your children will notice how YOU feel about your weight loss and how YOU feel about food even more than they will notice your weight loss or changes in eating. They will absorb your feelings and beliefs about yourself throughout this change (even the silent, nonverbal energy you might unconsciously be putting out into your home) and they will adopt/internalize these same beliefs towards themselves. The best place to start with not passing down body image issues to your children is for you, Mom, to pursue and highly value a sense of neutrality and unconditional love towards food and your body. Also, Abbey has some good videos for this topic.

@madeline_dg 3 ай бұрын

I'm no expert on child development, but I have struggled with disordered eating most of my life from a very young age. One of the biggest driving factors for my ED was that my parents were extremely overweight and I was afraid I'd grow up to be like them. There was a period where my mom was morbidly obese and she is now underweight and very restrictive on what she will eat. She's been at both ends of the spectrum. If I were to give any advice to parents on how to help your kids develop a healthy relationship with food and exercise is to stay neutral. Food is fuel - there are no inherently good or bad foods. Exercise is functional - not a punishment or a means to an aesthetic end. Movement is healthy and enjoyable - you don't have to force yourself to do types of movement you don't like bc you feel like they will be more effective. The movement and dietary pattern you enjoy is the one you will stick with. Balance is everything. Appreciating your body for what it can do rather than what it looks like is huge. You said in your comment that you're losing weight for health reasons, and that is amazing! I'm so proud of you for taking your health into your own hands so you can be around for your kids for a long time. Them witnessing your weight loss isn't damaging in and of itself. If you get too focused on numbers (scale + calories), that's damaging. If you focus on "these foods make me feel great" "exercising makes me feel strong and powerful" then your kids will be more likely to view it that way. I hope this helps 💖 I really admire you worrying about your influence on your children, I wish I could've had that.

@keycreations1096 3 ай бұрын

I relate to this so much!! Watching Abbey has made me so stressed about developing an eating disorder, or being worried I have one, and when I’ve had to lose weight for health reasons postpartum, and will likely have to again as I have more children, I worry what an effect that will have on my kids SO often! My daughter is still very young, but I SO want to have a healthy relationship with food and my body image for her!

@tereclemmer7923 3 ай бұрын

As a Mexican " brown woman", I find it offensive and demeaning to see a white woman demeaning herself to not offend other ethnicities or color women. I believe that every culture and socioeconomic group has different values in beauty and self worth. I really appreciate your knowledge and your advice as a whole but I find that a bit of respect and respect is lost when white people think they have to lessen their values to show respect for non-white people. Culture is powerful and so is diet and cultural expectations are different. Respect doesn't mean asking for forgiveness from others for being who/what you are.

@stephaniemarie3036 3 ай бұрын

Blaire is correct. Your body is not healthy when you are overweight or obese from fat (muscle is different). You are much more likely to be affected by sickness and diseases. When I am overweight, it is usually because I am feeling depressed. I think if you actually listened to Blaire, you would understand her.

@ericaca88 3 ай бұрын

Its disappointing that Blair who is trans feels like she has the right to tell people how they feel about their bodies.

@LuxLisbon32 3 ай бұрын

Men often do like to criticise women’s bodies.

@mockingbirdnightingale7169 3 ай бұрын

Eh... I don't know about this. I love my body size, in large part because I used to be huge and now I'm slim. I know what it's like to be very overweight and how physically painful, exhausting, and damaging it is, not to mention the social factors, and I know what it's lke to be the ideal weight for me, and I would have to be braindead not to appreciate the difference. The idea that none of us is happy with our weight is just wrong. I wasn't happy about my weight when it constituted a serious problem. Now it constitutes an excellent health metric so I'm thrilled with it. Which is logical. And my mother has nothing to do with it. (I'm so glad I'm not a mother. They get blamed for absolutely everything.)

@dainasworldnumbers88 3 ай бұрын

This is weird!

@growwithkersi 3 ай бұрын

Does every single video need to be sponsored? I get it, people wanna make money, but jeez

@ComaLies225 3 ай бұрын

Nothing wrong with continuing your grind

@sarahneubert3377 3 ай бұрын

It’s how she makes money.

@cecenaomi320 3 ай бұрын

Why not? Everybody needs to work to support themselves and their family, I don't see anything wrong with it. You don't have to spend your money if you don't want to but maybe others might be looking for service like this when they are sick or recovering from something and they can't do it themselves. So don't be jealous!

@Diana-qp2rw 3 ай бұрын

Just skip the part then, but this is her job, of course he videos ate sponsored.

@missyjordan909 3 ай бұрын

Does every work shift need to get paid? I get it people need to pay rent but…