Re-Parenting - Part 31 - Deconstruction

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Re-parenting ourselves involves deconstructing our past - carefully evaluating what we were taught so that we can discover any lies or any unhealthy tools were given to us. It is discovering why we have problems in our lives right now. It is examining the foundation and building materials of the house of our lives that is now falling apart. This is necessary so that we can get healthy, but it can be a difficult process.
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@lieslbestbier9271 5 ай бұрын

All I can say a watching most of the material in this series is, thankyou, thankyou, thankyou! I wish I knew this 25 years ago😢.

@katiemiller676 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. The house illustration gave me a new perspective. Often I think I am “complaining” when trying to understand and address the issues of childhood in order to heal. Hats off Mr. Fletcher!!

@melissaayres6347 Ай бұрын

Tim’s ability to communicate deep layers upon layers upon layers of negative life experiences and poor mechanisms to deal with and process/manage, and this piece here is the final piece I feel I am finally at in my healing journey! And then the next content will be the next level healing layer! I am forever grateful to connect to ALL of his content!!!❤

@amberterrazas1500 Жыл бұрын

Wow wow wow… the grace, beauty and poignant divine love pouring from this man and his instruction… We are blessed to receive such useful messages at this time in our transitional experience on Earth 💗🙏🏽

@rebeccaconn389 3 ай бұрын

So powerful! I can totally relate to the “religious box 📦” … was raised that everything was evil and if you dressed or liked anything popular … you were on your way to “hell in a hand basket”! So much guilt and shame heaped on by those oppressive beliefs. I haven’t attended church in over 12 years (cause my daughter is autistic and can’t handle the environment) BUT, since I’ve been out of that nonsense … I’ve grown so much spiritually. Now I need to continue my healing with dealing with specific issues based in shame.

@user-lo1jd2tg1v 9 ай бұрын

The re parenting videos have been so helpful to me and for trying to be a better mother to my kids. Thank you Tim.

@lawrenceleclerc6664 Жыл бұрын

The big trick is find out what the destructive things are, hard to do, identifying what thats are not healthy. Without it being negative like Tims says. I found its hard to do even with others help. Very hard to identify and find out why, very hard, without it come across as picking at my character. Reparenting with out me poking at everything i ever do! What is the truth, and even with others help is VERY TRICKY

@alexandrugheorghe5610 Жыл бұрын

Great lecture, Tim. As always. 👌🏻🙌🏻👍🏻💜☀️

@danitajminer3279 Жыл бұрын

WOW! I'm balling my eyes out.😭😭😭

@tamstams3815 Жыл бұрын

Friday nights being my favorite nights 😊. Thank you Tim Fletcher!

@catherinewilson1079 Жыл бұрын

The BOX metaphor is genius, that is exactly how your family impacts you. Your family is your world, just like the goldfish only knows his bowl as the world. When you really think about it, family can become a truly scary concept. Especially for someone who was adopted and has many types of cues indicating how they don’t really feel like a part of that family.

@punyashloka4946 5 ай бұрын

Family is important but yes it can be abusive as well.

@williamjohn7909 3 ай бұрын

I think Tim's knowledge and insights are incredibly good, helpful, and powerful. However, when he talks about bias, while he is right, all cultures have bias it is those cultural biases that give people both shared identity, and cultural norms. This is not a bad thing. I have lived in many different cultures and speak languages other than English. The trap many English speakers, especially white Middle class liberals, fall into is that it is/was only white cultures that were ever dominant. If you look around the world many people from different ethnic and religious backgrounds have dominated other people. The Mongols, Turks, Arabs, and Persians are all examples. The human condition throughout history is very tribal where one group seeks to dominate others based on economic, cultural, and religious reasons. The breakdown of shared cultural values in the West and the loss of communities is possibly the biggest component of mental health issues in the West. Not the fact that that society is far from perfect. The problem with deconstruction is having something to replace it with. You should always be wary of "throwing the baby out with the bath water."

@Klip.Steenkamp 10 күн бұрын

I think you have a valid point, my own interpretation of this is, to at least be aware that some social imperfections have serious consequences on a individual level. It's not to judge those who parent you, is to discover the "why" of my "do's" and "do nots".

@meb3153 3 ай бұрын

What a fantastic series. Tim, you and your team are a blessing. Thanks!

@ChrisOgunlowo 22 күн бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏽

@shannonarcher7874 3 ай бұрын

This is so powerful. It hits home 💯 percent.

@melissaayres6347 Ай бұрын

😮‍💨I am there!!! It is horrible!!!😢💔

@kirsten838 Ай бұрын

Hello, I am Kirsten from China. I love your videos very much, I think they are extremely helpful. May I share them on the platform in China? Looking forward to your reply.

@avertingapathy3052 Жыл бұрын

This is kinda niticky but you said take unhealthy tools and the lies and replace them with healthy tools and the lies. Was that intentional? @0:50 Appreciate the videos and the work you're doing.

@ebbyc1817 Жыл бұрын

What do you think? 😊

@alexandrugheorghe5610 Жыл бұрын

Probably a confusion. Good catch.

@katiemiller676 Жыл бұрын

Proves you are a good listener 💕😊

@avertingapathy3052 Жыл бұрын

@@ebbyc1817 Likely not intentional and just confused the word. However Freudian slips are a thing, and we all have our shadows.

@avertingapathy3052 Жыл бұрын

@Lavinia Blajovan Good to hear it's helping. I think the bulk of mine are self fulfilling prophecies, mostly self defeating through severe criticism and shame. My thoughts are kind of blank to me. I don't have much of an internal dialog after recent stress. Kind of this survival mode pattern of routinized behavior, with occasional flashes of panic. Unhealthy coping but maybe with enough work I can get back out of this huddled up state.

@stern4141 2 ай бұрын

The real deconstructed positions are realizing that racial and ethnic biases are generally correct, most women really are happier at home, and taboos against drinking and tattoos and gender crap are solid.

@faster55100 4 ай бұрын

So disappointed with the commercials too....I feel like after watching so much He hooked me in and Im being used again just like everyone does...... This was so helpful.......I feel so much shame

@ebbyc1817 Жыл бұрын

That bomb shelter test really had me think. The only two i would save without a doubt are the nurse, and the mother/baby The rest were all even. I don't know what that says about me.

@faster55100 4 ай бұрын

Im just trying to get my head around being mentally physically and sexually abused....all the horrible memories.....this doesnt feel safe......biases about race and culture, really.......we survivors have alot in common with each other that superceedes all that woke nonsense. Pain is universal