C Swank WHAT IF THERE IS CHILD WHO HAS TROUBLE WITH THEIR SIGHT THEY DEPEND ON THEIR HANDS AS AN EXTENSION OF THE EYE OR EYES HANDS IN THE LAP IS NOT A GOOD IDEA

@@lindathrall5133 I think it's a good idea though that they learn to get themselves into a settled position at the table and then use their hands to do the sensory work. There is a big things at the start about hands in lap but once they have learned to settle themselves at the table that will fade away - hands in lap is a physical action to signal the wanted behaviour i.e. settling.

More excellent points.

I was HORRIFIED -he did NOT look wilful. I'm sure he didn't understand quite WHY he was being punished -children forget the simplest instructions almost immediately.

@@KuiWagacha I WAS NOT HORRIFIED**

Kui Wagacha Children are not fragile glass that will break if they learn consequences for their actions. These parents give up too quickly and don’t follow through.

@@sarcasticallyrearranged thank you! Finally someone that doesn't cave with a sad face , if he didn't understand why he was being punished , then he DEFINITELY needs to learn!!!!

Babra Domenic Thank you for knowing how to be a mother. You're kids will turn out amazing by the sounds of it!! Am sick of people letting their children behave how they want to.

Babra Domenic same

Your an excellent mother.

You had a "look" huh? My mom had a look that could freeze stampeding buffalo. It was like disgust, anger, dissapointment, sadness, a guilt trip, and a threat of punishment to come, all in one. Very effective, lol. I never actually ever really got punished per say, the look was enough. I'm 31 and I still get it every once in a great while. Except now I think she's removed the punishment to come aspect, and a bit of the disgust and anger and doubled down on sadness, dissapointment, and especially the guilt trip parts. It still works.

And like you and your children, my mom is also one of my best friends. I enjoy her company very much. I still fear the look though.

Dean's was a success story and it didn't hurt that he was so dang cute! But I'm wondering if I missed if they tried anything similar for Dean's brother?

that is so true. i keep telling my son, i expect you to do well, because you are a good kid, smart and because you are my son. he loves it when i tell him that, now he is constantly achieving.

Kudos to you for your efforts with the children others found difficult... Every child deserves to have their needs met and sometimes, I think it may just be that one teacher who looks past the label and tries to connect. Dean was adorable- my heart went out to him and I was really rooting for him! Just curious- what are your thoughts about physically forcing the child with the art smock (not my field- but very curious) ?

Excellent points made, C Swank.

I think most of the problems can be fixed with structure, consistency and discipline!!! Yes, really bad disorders isn't what I mean!

I don't want to be an angry adult either.

oh no nephew’s neices are fun

Absolutely not. There have been many studies on this and the whole Montessori movement has been proven to produce balance adults who are SELF MOTIVATED AND INDEPENDENT.

Lol

I was the same way due to having apraxia of speech at ages 1 to 4. It was difficult after learning to talk to go to daycare. Because I was bounced around from place to place. Then showing and being diagnosed with high functioning autism. Not aspergers. So yes it can be difficult but my mom said early intervention is the only way to get nonverbal and special needs in check or to act functional without the labels.

It's probably all of the above, depending on the level of the scream. Google translate?

Exactly. He's scared to go home.

It’s obvious that is a perfect example for her lazy parenting which all of the parents on here practice.

But she isn't willing to use any new techniques.

Work? Likely end up in and out of prison.

I agree, I saw that, and was wondering why the boys and their mother were not using seatbelts.

That's how it was in the 80s. And they did have their lap belts on! Doesn't help keep a kid from sliding all over.

LaDonna Briggs They need to be placed in a residential school

Rebecca Mace I think the mother favours the baby instead of working with Dean

Such a mean behemoth of a woman.

The Dad is the best.

@@lindathrall5133 completely. Poor boy. It’s so sad 😢

The key is not to give in to the behaviour

I was wondering about that---

Sometimes you need to show children what is expected of them. When no one has ever taught them to sit in a chair and listen for a short time, they have to be taught because this is how they must function in school.

I have to say: Thank you for recognizing that you don't want to raise children. So many "parents" have kids because they want to have a baby, not taking into account that the "cute and fun" phase lasts such a short time and all of a sudden you have a little person you don't know how to raise. Too many people don't think about what kind of parent they would be. Anyway, I appreciate your decision, not that it's any of my business and I sure did not mean to offend anyone. Parenting isn't for everyone as we see in the news ( and Supernanny lol) all too often.

Poor, birthday, poor, boy,, abuse, boy😭😢😞😟🎂.😢.

I could NOT agree more, I was HORRIFIED. He looked utterly puzzled!!! And then of course he reacted because the grown-up was being "totally unfair"... and also putting her hands on him, for which I would certainly teach MY children to bite to the bone.

Kui Wagacha Parenting like yours, is the #1 reason why teachers are quitting in droves! Teach your brat to bite? Don’t be surprised when no one wants to be around either one of you. No wonder so many children are disgustingly entitled and feral nowadays and it’s all thanks to idiots like you.

He said "juice please" she praised him then poured the juice, but he didn't say thank you after she poured it. She had said thank you waiting for him to say it. He said "I put my hands in my lap" she promoted "thank you" again for the drink but he wasn't catching on. Obviously he was confused but he didn't say thank you

@@robbinsnest6163 exactly I was confused as that as well and your comment clarified what I was thinking. He’s a good boy but he didn’t say thank you ♥️💔🙏

There is an awkwardness in how this program is run. There is a certain amount of force being used by the workers that is causing resentment in the children instead of winning their cooperation.

I’m sorry for your loss 🙏

Dear Hazel we do the best we can in a given moment of time and with the knowledge of that time. We know more now than we did when we were younger. Only hindsight is 20/20 vision as someone once said to me. There comes a time when we grow up that we have to learn personal responsibility and believe me we all live with regrets, I should have, I could have... and now you are a proud grandma of 4... Wonderful....

It's not your fault and these methods are always dependent on praise and reward...INTO ADULTHOOD. They are outdated and proven only to be temporary. The Montessori method has been proven true and into adulthood created children and adults who are self motivated and don't look for outside approval. In the US we have whole states who adopted this prise reward system and it created whole states of children who so fowl and entitled and easily manipulated that those states have collapsed. The states who use corporal punishment and not this rubbish are the only ones who have not imploded.

Enough with the mother blame. It doesn't solve the problem. He screams too much and she loses her patience. So what? She's working on it. I wish you a child just like Dean one day.

Jessica R~I've worked with children for nearly 30 years + raised 3 of my own & therefore have much experience to draw upon. In my opinion, this mother is absolutely the root cause of the problem. Your retort demonstrates an inability or unwillingness to acknowledge it, & that is certainly your choice, but to "wish a child just like Dean" on me is a rather childish response. I will say this.... I hope, for the child's sake, YOU NEVER have one like him if you approve of her parenting. JMHO

SweetDreams706 , why cause she spanked them? Not everyone feels badly about corporal punishment. And, she didnt hit them in anyway that actually physically hurt them. So I dont agree

Lola Lopez Without getting into too many details abt this particular show, I'd just like to respond to your question with 2 facts about CP in general. You are the role model for your children. CP teaches children that if they are not happy with something another person does, or says, or whatever...it is okay to strike that person. I can't tell you how many times I've witnessed this behavior at the kindergarten/grade school level where I worked. I'm talking child to parent + child to child, mainly on the playground, the latter being quite dangerous at times i.e. scratched eyes, painful cuts & a concussion. Secondly, I've seen firsthand, parents get carried away with their CP when tired & frustrated...& the child left with ugly bruises & some even requiring medical care. IMO CP is the easy way out for parents who don't want to make the extra effort to properly teach their children right from wrong....& crave a quick physical release for their own anger. Believe me, I've seen it entirely too often. The physically abusive kids at school, including bullies, ALWAYS came from households where CP was implemented. JMHO

SweetDreams706 spare the rod, spoil the child. You dont know better than the bible, you arent God.

If only companies believed in feeding there golden gooses.

Hysterical! I worked in HR for 20+yrs and I was thinking the same!!!

100%. I CRINGED.

This is old and now it’s gone the complete opposite and teachers can’t touch or even verbally reprimand the destructive children, and everyone else has to leave the room. You think that the US is having a massive teacher shortage for no reason?

And then she wonders where her kid gets such a crappy attitude…

My very first thought!

@@joeymarie72 yeah , i think Dwayne and Dean do need supernanny

Mom REALLY needs Jo to teach them how to behave!

If only kids these days would be taught that life wasn't all Lollypops and gumdrops at a young age and were taught that life in fact sucks at a young age then we wouldn't have these problems

I am sorry but with the winning and the crying. Thumbs down. A good smack will do

I can definitely agree with you. Unfortunately, passive-aggressive behaviour is all too common in Asian nations - even in the daycare centre I work in inexperienced. I may be tensed and nervous for reasons, but being aware of just how stressed the teachers were in trying to deal with unhappy & undisciplined kids just made me all the more determined to pursue psychology & mental health. This generational curse needs to be broken in the name of LORD Jesus! 🔥

Gina Cable agree. Sorry but the moment I was pregnant with my second (and my first wasn’t “difficult”) I said that was it bc I knew what I could handle. It’s madness and not fair to the kids especially if one or more needs extra attention and care.

I think he's too young to have an earring.

That's what I thought. "I'm the bad kid."

Matt in a box. Wow Sherlock. Why didn't they think of that? They probably would have neighbors calling DHS with kids who scream like that.

I agree!

I definitely agree

Not naughth, they all have a reason for their behaviour. What is happening at home to make a child unhappy, anxious, scared etc. That is what you need to find out before labelling children. I am the eldest of 4, i years older than the next, and somehow we ended up labelled:Tessa the eldest, Richard the boy, Katharine the pretty one and Jane the sick one. It is awful and still at 68 I feel how bad it was.

Someone other than you obviously has to teach your “precious, crotch demon” how to keep their hands to themselves! Have fun visiting your brat in prison and don’t forget to start saving now for a good attorney, you’ll need it!

Your child is going to be in jail later in life.

ikr they look like they are so overwhelmed with their situation and they don't know what to do other than have a breakdown. this is so sad. i'm sure the parents are sad and frustrated very much too.

callalilly1988 I AGREE

Katrina LeeBaldwin I hope you never have children.

TOTALLY with you, as in I have NO idea where the idea CAME from that you can so much as talk back to your mum (at least, at this age) but I think it has something to do with modern parents becoming more and more afraid (for WHATEVER reason) that Discipline is NO form of love, and will probably beget hatred. That's COMPLETELY ridiculous, of course: children love their parents (good or bad or even HORRENDOUS) almost more blindly than good parents love their children -perhaps because they are totally dependent on them. Or maybe there's also the GUILT of spending so much time away from them at work, and instinctively spoiling them as a way to "prove" their love and sort of "buy back" that time...

I comepltley judge these parents . They let their kids become this despicable

kelseys reborns , doesn't that say somethibg though? That the minuted he got popped they stopped? And you are right, nowadays misbehavior is quickly labelled some sort of disorder rather than just simply a behavioral problem. I think we live in a time where society wants to let children run things when they have no busy doing so!

kelseys reborns, what have noticed is that a lot of the boys with behavioral issues are missing fathers or strong male role models.

yes i have noticed that as well. more and more single mothers

This programme was filmed well before Supernanny debuted on TV

I felt that in my ruptured eardrums 🙉

FilmerOfBobcats Not if they're being taught to regulate their emotions like they should be.

not a nerd at all Probably none. Put the blame where it's deserved - on the parents.

There was this other show where they looked at kids sorta like this : Born Naughty? I think........ and some of them were autistic, but others were definitely not. One lady thought her son was autistic and they figured out he just did not get enough sleep and exercise.

I have a child with severe sensory processing disorder and a few other issues and she was not allowed to behave like that. Sensory children are smart and they know the difference between right and wrong. They call all learn to behave and not have fits like that.

@Alice and Rachel’s Angel Forever I agree there

Exclusion means you are not allowed to go to school/nursery

@@chantellem6457 I recently learned of this- exclusion in the UK...What provisions/resources do these children get? Are they simply sent home with no further intruction?

@@donnadee1966 if you are temporarily excluded you basically stay home for a few days and get on with homework. If you are permanently excluded from school you need to find another school that will take you, if no where will take you then your parents are kind of forced to home school you or get you into a special school if you have diagnosed learning difficulties or mental problems