This is an important conversation. This type of parenting has been replaced by cell phones and social media, and kids have become detached from reality. Interpersonal communication is important. The way we speak to each other is important, and the words we choose to use matter significantly.

Man this is beautiful. I literally started crying after his response at 6:45. Fathers take it from me I’m a 32 year old man thats taking care of my family with a son that just turned 1. Haven’t spoke to my dad in 6 years and have no intention to. He abandoned me at least a dozen times growing up and was 600 miles away chasing money and ass during my childhood. The closest man I’ve had to a real father passed away 7 yrs ago from fentanyl but he was the only person that truly loved me unconditionally and the only person I think of now and I KNOW he is proud of me. That means the world even though he’s gone. Everything I’ve learned was the hard way, and now the dreams I used to have most nights of talking to my dad are gone, I still long for a father figure to ask basic life questions and to get some support, but I have no one. I’m trying my best and feel like I’m not good enough in any way but my son is getting the best I’m possible of giving. Last thing he said to me was I am and always will be worthless, I’ll never own anything or be anyone. He chased money his whole life and I made more than him last year while taking a total of 2 months off. Still I’m a 32 year old man with daddy issues and I’m telling you guys, your better off living in a tent with your son and no money compared to living in another state so your kid can have a nicer pair of shoes. All I wanted was my dad

As a young girl, it was my DAD who I called when I was at a place where drinking was going on & the cops showed up. I was underage but I had to call a parent. He never lectured me but was real with me. He let me know he cared. My home is going through major remodeling right now. I'm back living with my Dad & my son who is 1 years old, my dad's first & only grandchild. He spoils my son so much. It is wonderful giving my family a baby to love & spoil. It won't be like this forever but I'm cherishing the here & now every day.

Blown away. Dude is 100% winning at trying to be the best dad for his kids. Respect.

Thank you for this one! I'm a 30 year investigator with two daughters from a broken home. This was similar to the way I raised my girls, not exact by any means, but very similar, which explains a lot of things now and looking back, now that my girls are grown, successful and living their adult lives. I can say from life experience that Larry's advice are excellent words to raise your children by. The first time one of my girls called me to come get her from a party during time she was at her mother's house came to mind the first time I watched this. Especially given the work I did then, working a lot of undercover drug cases, and to have my daughter call me and say "Daddy, I need you to come pick me up and don't tell mom" speaks volumes to the different parenting styles we had. Mine was strict, but loving and open about life because I wanted my girls to know they could call me anytime, day or night, and what was between us stayed between us, unless of course it was of a serious nature their mother needed to know and then I told them before I told their mother. Thanks again!

My mom constantly blamed, shamed and guilted and instilled FEAR in me for standing up for myself. I didn't realize how controlling she was until she died.

John seems like a really down to earth sincere regular dude

My son is 23 and my daughter is 18. They have busy lives but always want to take time to spend a day together. Some people I know ask how I get my kids to want to be around me. They have always known they can come to me for anything. He is exactly right that it takes a lot of work on the parents part to create that compassionate and open minded relationship with your kids and they will feel comfortable sharing their successes and failures with you. When you are there for those darker days you You will earn your spot at their triumphs and celebrations.

Thank you Jon for bringing Larry onto your show and for also joining Dad Edge. Being a member of the Alliance, it brings me great joy to see Larry on a larger platform and sharing the same messages that have saved my life, my marriage, and provided a better future for my son. Thank you!

I gotta say how much I appreciate that it's a free video. You know, parenting can be challenging, and not everyone can afford to shell out big bucks for advice. So having access to valuable content like this without breaking the bank is a total win-win!

New Dad here. Thank you for sharing. This was awesome

Just discovered you guys. Great intro and parenting share ❤️ greetings and gratitude from Switzerland

This is amazing! Thanks for sharing this. I honestly needed to hear this so much! Specially after my kids skipping classes via CoVid19, and just playing games when they were supposed to be listening too the teacher.

Amazing conversation! ❤

A very interesting and helpful episode!

Amazing conversation ❤

Damn! This conversation just opened my mind so much... I've been legit trying to find ways to connect and become more active in my kids life... I fucking love this podcast and I just started to watch it...

Thank you for this conversation. It has soothed my soul.

This really touched my heart. Thank you.

I am a 50 yo woman, my parents divorced when I was 6 or 7. I moved in with my dad and his wife the day after 6th grade ended. It was supposed to be for the summer and ended up being 5 years. My dad was such a HUGE influence on my life. He still is. But those teenage years, my dad taught me about integrity, he taught me about being independent, he taught me about the importance of my word. There is so much my dad taught me. My dad was always supportive of me, I could tell him ANYTHING! I could talk to my dad about sex, about drugs, about when i was confused and hurting and when I was happy and excited. The best thing is now I am 50 years old he is 73. We have a yearly tradition of going to a specific concert together. We dance the whole time and enjoy the music and we talk. We just went to this concert for 3 days in a row in Boulder, CO. My dad tells me how proud he is of how turned out and I told my dad how much he influenced and inspired me and how fortunate I am to have the relationship I do with him.

I am so glad I found this. I totally agree on what he said that when you asked the kids how's your day. they answered super generic and it feels like nothing happens to them. I will try that method 'What is the best part of your day' and 'What is the lease part of your day'. I'm trying my best to be a better father so I am happy to see this.Thank you so much!

THANK YOU FOR THIS ONE

Loved this. So important. I really enjoyed watching Jon's physical responses too. He was truly listening. Great podcast. Great actor.

Such a brilliant conversation.

Why does this video have less than 1k views?! So many parents need to learn these communication strategies!

2:34 all facts. I both wing it and pay attention to the old generational cycles. Great info. #dadapproved #gooddadgang

Wow....this was amazing!

Love the content Jon!

That's something i will improve. I am always asking my 6 years old son "How was your school" - And to be honest: At some point i was quite annoyed to always get the same answer: "Good", "Was ok" etc. But realizing now: That's my fault because I as a father didn't asked the right question.

I came here after seeing the short video where I was not only intrigued by the topic of the missing father but also of Jon's intensity of listening to Larry.

That was an amazing podcast

This is gold bro

Wheres the full interview?

Really good information. Wow.

Jon you’re becoming my favorite actor, you’re such a good guy, keep doing good things

When we were younger my sister and her friends went to a house party and one of her friends had strict parents who were away that weekend. This friend got so drunk she got alcohol poisoning. All of their friends were freaking out about how much trouble they would be in if they called anyone. My sister said "F*ck this" and called my Mom who took her to the hospital. My sister's friend ended up having to get her stomach pumped and in the end, the relief that my Mom felt that she was going to be okay far outweighed any anger/disappointment - in fact my Mom was glad that my sister knew to call home no matter how much trouble she would be in for drinking.

As a single father I really appreciated this segment

This guy is a g. Im gana stat that patreon up again

This is beautiful and so accurate

Hey Jon dont know if your ever gonna see this but would like to say your one of my favorite actors. One of the few I try to learn off. I really want to get into acting but have no idea and no connections. Anywhu cheers

Hopefully, this great recommendation will help me to navigate better as a grandparent than I did as a parent. ❤ Thanks.

That was awesome to listen to brother 🇺🇸

I think it’s so powerful that his response to the seven assignments was what did you do before because that becomes the sons inner voice which I think leads to more success in life

I popped in an airpod to listen to this episode. I don't know what my 5yo daughter or wife wanted, but it can wait.

As one who is raising a teenager, i got alot out of this conversation ❤

Geez!!!! My WWII era dad NEVER got the truth from me! The bullies that I navigated my entire high school years weighed on me, which led to negativity, self-loathing and failing schoolwork I hid from him, out of fear of getting in trouble, shame and guilt.

Jon you are a great father and friend and actor. And brother

That was fucking amazing.

Chris Voss energy in the family. I love it.

I always ask that question, the best part of their day also from a scale one to ten, I ask my kids to describe the worst part and the best part of their day, it's really important to me to connect with my kids.

God damnit this guy has become my fucking spirit animal great work John

Well said Larry - connection is key to emotional security. Shame, guilt, blame, pain is so harmful for kids. For over 36 years, I've worked with men and women who experienced abandonment, abuse and neglect as children and as adults they carry this burden into EVERY aspect of their life - especially when they enter marriage and have children of their own as the cycle of chaos passes from one generation to the next.

We must see on podcast with Andrew Lincoln ❤

I paused this around 2:20 because I felt the drop of were you actually are able to "influence" your kids as a father, or any parent. And it's a scary truth. I have three kids and one of my main rules have allways been to be their father first. I myself grew up with a strict father figure in both of my divorced parents households and what I learnead was that as a kid around the ages of 11-12 you are perfectly able to make the decision to distance yourself from your parents. That is not to say that anyone made any particular mistakes but we are all winging it.. truth! I am too, I've goot three kids. Two girls and a boy and I cant wait for the rollercoaster. But my belief is that if you teach love and understanding.. and dont forget to be a little transparent yourself.. around the kids. They will know/experience and learn through life but will be able to relate to it if you dont hide it from them when it matters. By the way Jon, you've earned another sub. Keep the work up. And know that it makes a difference.(From sweden)

Would like to find out the rest of the story about him seeing his father.

This is a brutal topic. And the scariest video I’ve watched on KZfaq. I know I have work to do

This is exactly my worst fear, so I made sure my two daughters felt they could phone me if they were in trouble when they got that age of drinking. They both felt comfortable enough to phone me. Our kids will have things they keep from us, but the most important stuff they will come to us when they need help. I think what you said here was incredibly important for parents and children. I can't relate with sons, but I'm sure it's similar to daughters. 😊❤

Where’s the rest of the interview?!

This part hit hard. 9:34

So true..

empathy, everybody can learn it

Where is the full episode published?

The best advice that I have ever been given about fatherhood was "be the father that you wish that your father had been."

I am the father I was deprived of.

Hey Jon.🤎✝️

I went and watched the interview and they didn’t include this clip in it 🤦‍♀️

Telling Jon something isn’t something you hear. It’s usually him telling you somethin

Where is the link to full video?

Being a first-time father with no real idea of what a father is has been tough. I just try my best everyday..just hoping that is enough

Hes a truth teller.

How do you listen to the full interviews?

This is wise man

Pro put the link to this video in the short you’ve got people thirsty for the link over there

8:45 is the real shit

Love what he has to say but I have to disagree that not all kids will act in this manner. How they deal with being in the dark is sometimes influenced by what they experience in their own time. Who they hangout with and what they get into. No matter how good you parent, our children view things in their own way. Bottomline line is, you can do everything right and not get the results you are going for. With this being said, what he says still has value. It’s still worth trying regardless of outcome. It is just easier sometimes to know all outcomes.

👏🏾💖💖💖💖💖💐

Dude looks just like Teddy McDonald from Snowfall

I’m gonna disagree with the safe place parental mentality…kids don’t have the knowledge that we have to give them wisdom to help. Sometimes that wisdom is harsh and straight forward. Sometimes wisdom is loving them through their screw ups, but they have to understand that mistakes cause consequences…but here’s how we work through it.

Episode link??

Interesting

I wish I could watch the full video Jon

Did he really crank out 62 push ups!!?! 😂😂😂😂

8:42

Can we get Andrew Lincoln on here

John -> I got a real one you should interview. I don’t know him personally but follow what he does with demining in Ukraine. Ryan Hendrickson. His buddy just stepped on a mine over there while they were working. Thankfully he survived and is in recovery but they are doing great work and definitely should be on!

Legit thought this dude was Michael Burnett from thrasher

The very second you put a person in a defensive mindset, it's over. Now they are going to double down with spite, they'll ignore you, and have a hard time confiding in you in the future. "How could you do that?" is such a reductive and ridiculous thing to say. If you're a living human you know exactly how that person made an unwise decision that lead them to face unpleasant consequences... Every single human does that or has been through that situation a thousand times a year. You know exactly "How" it happened and so what are you offering the other person but your anger and judgment? It's so unhelpful and toxic. You have as much right to take your anger out on your kids as they do to do the same to you. It's amazing how every "good parent" says the same thing in different ways, "Treat them like humans or adults with less experience than you, and they'll respect you, your opinions, and your advice a lot quicker." "My kid is useless, disrespectful, disobedient, rude, lazy... and I can't get through to them!" Well, you just insulted them to a stranger, how respectful is that? Would you appreciate it if they went around talking to people about how you constantly fall short of their expectations as a parent? Of course not. You'd be hurt and heartbroken to know they are shit-talking you behind your back. Yet, if you're doing that to other parents, how are they supposed to feel? There is this mindset with parents that I see so, so, so often that says every moment with your child is an opportunity to teach, correct, control, manipulate, and change your child into the person you want them to be. So, about that, there are two options when you do that. Either you succeed and mold a person into a slave to your expectations, completely separate from their own feelings, desires, or personality or you don't. I gotta say, the "you don't" is the better option. If you are disappointed in your child there is exactly ONE reason for it. Your expectations. You have planned that kid's life for them before they ever walked out of the womb. You decided who they were, what they were going to be, and how proud you were gonna be when that happened. Your child's input rarely, if ever, came into any of that. How could it, you'd never met them before you decided all that. So, they come out a little different than your expectations and suddenly that's the child's fault? What the fuck are you on? You should absolutely establish boundaries and consequences for actions, especially general rules about behaviors in social settings and anything to do with safety. They should be expected to figure out a way to do well academically if they are capable. The rest, however, is up to them to decide. I mean that literally. They will decide who they are with or without your input. The only choice you get to make is if you're going to be a decent enough parent to them that they still value your opinion when it's time for them to make those choices. If you lecture them about every hiccup in their life as if they've failed you, then most of the time, you'll be lucky to see them at Christmas. All you're doing is making that kid loathe talking to you. If you can speak to them in a way that they feel respected and human, they will often come to you and ask for help finding solutions to their problems. Instead of hiding them from you. Anyway, I didn't mean to write this book but this is a topic that really bugs me. Kids are not aliens or a different species. They are adults who lack context and experience. Treat them as such, and you'll most likely retain a much healthier relationship.

This for dealing with teenagers for sure!

Is that Mikey?

I want to see the whole interview and I don't even have the name of the guy he is talking to. Jon is getting a big thumbs down because of this.

Shia Jon soprano bernthal, how you doing. In Jesus Christs name we pray amen.

I’m a better father than you Rick

I'm a better father than you Rick!

I'm a better father than you, Rick. I'm better for Lori than you, man. It's 'cause I'm a better man than you, Rick. 'Cause I can be here and I'll fight for it. You come back here and you just destroy everything!

Bernthal is the best, coolest, down to earth actor

does this guy have a youtube channel

Dont listen to the full podcast. The amount of times this guy says "I'll never forget" is staggering.

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