Red flags. -50/50 financial responsibilities -Abusive physically and mentally -Signs of always supporting the parents irrespective of your own opinion(taking side with parents) -If he ask you to change something about yourself before he marries you. -If he disrespects your family -If he earns haraam income(Haraam sustainance) Maa Shaa Allah you got a subscriber today(sister)

May Allah grant us all righteous spouses and children who are the coolness of our eyes and give us and our families an excellent end and resurrect us with the righteous. Ameen.

I cancelled my wedding last moment cause I was putting up with all these until I couldn’t care what will people say in my desi culture- I’m happy being single than be in a wrong marriage only so people can be quiet

its sad how normalized controlling/possessive behaviours are. people who do that say it is out of love but the actual reason is insecurity. love is supposed to make others feel safe, not anxious

Somebody rejected me becoz I told him that I have tinea versicolor and vit deficiency.. May Allah swt make it easy for everyone to find good spouse who becomes peace for them.

I kept being told about Asiah and how she was patient after my husband had choked me, throw pots at me multiple times, thrown a wood dresser and screamed at me all the time. Now i did all that and am now feeling more spiritually weak than i ever have in my life. Ive been gone for a year now and am waiting for a divorce but ppl still make me feel like i made the wrong decision. Please make dua that i can find a good man soon insha'Allah i dont know what i did to deserve a husband like that and feel like allah ta'ala's wrath is on me

thank you for giving us such great content regularly even with your 5 month baby!

Sis!! I nearly lost it when the Naija accent popped out 😭 lovely video as always! 💕

Jazakallahu khaira sister ♥️… One suggestion: at the end Please sum up all the points which you discussed in the whole video, that would be even more easier for us to keep those points in our mind.. 😊 People who want this, like this comment.❤

TabarakALLĀH,sister Nafisa ,one can hear and see that you wish good for your muslim brothers and sisters

Thank you Nafisa for your high value content! Alhamdulillah for people like you and the knowledge you share with us FOR FREE! May Allah bless you ❤

Honestly even if its not 50/50 ,dont expect a woman to pick after you, and also men have to be involved in raisng their children, this is common sense, you both made the baby, so you both have to take care of the child from birth, men say only a man can raise a boy into a man,yet i berrely see men praising their fathers, and actually speaking of them,i normally hear them talking about their mothers , what the heck were their fathers doing?. Marriage is union where both people have to work together with balance,one can't up the other by default just based on their gender, even if the man is the one working while the woman is doing the domestic duty while taking care of the child, she's still doing more than him, because he can take a break at work,she cant take a break at home until the baby is alseep, so communication still has to be present regarding the responsibilities

This is sooooo sweet. Many thanks dear Nafisa. I'm a muslimah too and hearing all these come from a sister makes all the learnings sink and sit in easily without much thought. So so apt and authentic ❤🎉.

You never miss Nafisa, SubhanAllah! You are a true blessing. Keep it coming, may Allah reward you

Assalaamulaikum sister! Shukran!!!!! Yes! Please continue with these videos consistently. Your videos are extremely helpful and informative. I sincerely look forward to your videos weekly and enjoy them

keep it coming sis. my love for u for the sake of ALLAH swt increased. ALHAMDULILLAH I FOUND UR CHANNEL FEW YEARS AGO. ( RESULT OF MY DUA SUMA ALHAMDULILLAH )

I absolutely love your confidence and certainty MashaAllaah ❤

Just started watching you and everything that you say is just amazing!! You are a very smart lady and so glad I came across your channel. Constantly nodding my head. Thank you for being the role model and reminder of Allah c.c. all us girlies need.

Beautiful discussion! Allahumma Barik!

Allahu baarik, I love this! To add on: any man who does not use any of these magic words( sorry, please, thank you) , is not appreciative, uses harsh and commanding words,.. for me, I Reject..

Allahuma bareek. Sister Nafisa loving the glow and Nigerian accent. 😂❤. Genuinely love you for the sake of Allah sis.

Thank you sis, I enjoyed watching your video❤ You're absolutely right. If we notice something that is wrong or makes us feel a certain way, we shouldn't ignore. Because ignoring red flags lead to an unhealthy or even abusive relationship and left us steeped in regret. You know sis, words can hurt more and have the power to pierce the body and damage the soul. By the way, red flags can be in any close relationship, family members, partners, friends, colleagues...etc

Thank you very sis on your insight. Jazakallah. I was actually waiting to hear about brothers who constantly missed prayers on the list. ❤❤❤. Love your program.

Mashallah amazing advice sister May Allah grant you more knowledge and understanding

Another great video with great advice!❤❤❤

Allahuma barik lak...🙏🏽...Great content!

Assalam alaycum Masha Allah, my sister thank you, jazakAllah khair, I look forward to your videos. I thank Allah for putting you on my path. I understand things around me better

Loved the content 🎉 and the West African vibes 😂

Thank you so much for giving us women what we need .

Thank u so mch Sister Nafisa, May Allahu Subhanahu wata'ala grant y'all yr wishes to come true

May Allah bless you sister, please make more content like this and may Allah reward you for your work - Ameen ❤

I like the last point you signed out on. Facts!!!!!! You don't want anything to do with tgat haram money, fearAllahand then you just augned out. 😅😢😢😢😅 Nice!! Ma sha Allah

As Salamu alaikum Sista I love you for the sake of Allah my Allah continue to bless you with keeping real and factual.. so much relationship content on YT however Alhamduillah for your channel ❤😂

SubhanaAllah!!! Sis so on point with this one I so enjoyed watching this, you had the funny side and your serious side and I liked how you switched it up in your other accent🤗🤗😄 Ma shaa Allah TabarakAllah In shaa Allah keep them coming 🤲🏾🤲🏾❤️🫶🏾

I love you my sister Nafisa, you always speak the truth. It’s a blessing to have you in our community!

SELAM...Marshallah Nafisa...you are on point ! I like your videos,trust me I have a hard time liking videos from others,but Marshallah your videos are one of a kind..Please keep doing what you are doing Inshallah and thanks a million. MAY THE ALMIGHTY LORD BLESS YOU!

Spend within your means and lifes far easier. Jazak Allahu khairan 💜 8.14 That's a big problem thinking he will change and they don't and the sisters stay put.

Thank you Sister, always looking forward for more of your videos ❤, and always an inspiration 🥰🥺. Allahumma Barik

Sister I must say thank so much for teaching all of these things🙏 I know a lot at the age of 16. Thanks a lot

Great advice sister Nafisa 👏🏽

U r a gem ma sha Allah thank you Jaz Khairan sister

Thank you so much sis looking beautiful with black hijab 🧕 thanks again for your good job 👏 ❤❤❤❤❤❤watching from Germany 🇩🇪 ❤

Very very well said sister.. may Allah bless u bless n ur entire family in both worlds . Ameen

I'm really enjoying watching yr videos, keep it up

sister Nafisa! I love your videos and i love you for the sake of Allah 💗

Thank you for helping us out sister❤❤❤❤

Assalaamu alaykum. Great video. Another red flag, when he says he wants a modern wife

Asiya RA was literally forcibly married to the worst man in history pharaoh so other people using her story as an example of being 'patient' is wild. She was in a very scary very forced situation especially considering how powerful pharaoh was long ago.

Loved the video, loved the mood ❤

Thank you Nafisa.

Aww you have a girrl!, Congratulations , i get excited when i hear someone havign a baby girl ,you can dress them up and put ribbons in their hair😊

Nice topic ❤

Shukran for keeping it real

Asalamualykom sis, I just watched your amazing video. My daughter is going through something in your video. May Allah reward you for the videos you're doing. You have pointed out a lot of things in your video. Most of these girls are going through what you have mentioned. And inshallah keep up your hard work.

Am happy to get this message

JazakaAllah nafeesa

I will also add his dealings with the opposite gender and if he has many female friends , and low in haya 😂

I can’t deny that this video gave me chills and the vibe was lit 🔥😝😂 While on the other hand, I see that many sisters here are at a phase…and I sincerely pray that Allah SWT makes it an easy one and that the wait is worth your chance In Sha Allah, please continue to trust Allah, surely you’ll be where you need to be. And so reminds me to ask “are you making the best use of this time as you’re supposed to?? “ PS: I don’t intend to offend anyone but just a reminder to hopefully work on yourself for it’ll count and make a huge difference right from choosing the spouse down to building your home In Sha Allah. Indeed Allah is with the patients✨ Love to you all❤

Hi sis Nasifat. Totally agree 💯

I loved your lecture!❤❤❤❤

Lovely nafisa make a video what come under physical abuse and specially mental abuse in marriage. And how to understand emotional health & mindset of a person prior to marriage.

Today Nafisa made my morning, the way you made me laugh, get the Africa in you out 😂❤. However, all you said I absolutely agree with. In the end, stay true to yourself and know that we have value and are worthy of goodness.

Great job sis

We appreciate your advice sissy

Thank you sis I learnt alot Allah bless you richly

please put headings for each topic, makes it easier to navigate

وَعَلَيْكُمْ السَّلاَمُ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

May Allah continue to bless your beautiful heart

Tell me ur from Africa without telling me ur from Africa sis yaa so funny 😂Allah reward you goodnesses i benefit a lot frm u barakalAllah fik ❤

This is exactly why a prenuptial agreement with stipulations is critical before doing the Nikaah!

❤❤❤❤ love these

I love how you turn on your African accent Ooh!

AsSalamu Alaikum. Do you have a video for us Muslim brothers, giving advice on which sisters to avoid marrying?

That's my situation right now where my husband sides with his mom and we always end arguing. Thank u soo much for this

JazakAllah Khair for wonderful content. I've really been exhausted in this entire process. 11 years of trying to find someone and still counting... please make du'a for me.

Masha Alla working inside home and children are exesting as well.

Lately you have been spending to me my dear jazakhallahu kheir. I realised am doing so much and now when I said he start taking his responsibility he has gone silent on me

Mash Allah good one. I reject someone exactly because of that - (a 50 year old gujrati emotionally unstable, insecure weak man) plus I believe this is against Islam - anyways.... He said to pay half the bills and even council tax and in was placing me in a shed! Despite the fact he was working full time! He wasn't even a man despite the fact he had been here over 20 years he died even a good job, car or even a good place to stay?? Useless, wasn't even a man. This 50 50 is against islam it is oppressive towards the woman and double the work inside and outside work - and no the man will not help you out with the housework, cooking, taking care of the children! Men who say 50 50 is not really a man. If he is getting married he should by now have everything enough provisions to provide for the wife to stay at home - if he wants a traditional housewife he should be willing to provide and yes a woman can keep a housemaid to avoid exhaustion - whether it's from the mans money or hers! Get a cleaner most woman have a maid in muslim countries! Trust me we are juggling to much in the UK! We have the right to demand a cleaner if he wants intimacy every day - like it or not.

Pray for me Allah give us children

I subscribed 😍, love your good energy and your methodology mashallah, it really cleared up my mind on what kind of man I should look for in the future inshallah, Allahouma Barik 🤲🏻🫶🏻

Everything you say about this video.. feel like you look into my story. I say something about my lifestyle... I am ready in.. before I find out who the man I married you really.. I don't really know what to do about my life Please read my children grow up I have something to tell. Story. Good advice..

Barakallah fiki sister, love you for the sake of Allah❤..Here in this part of the world where I belong from..proposals are usually seen and finalized by the parents while the girl & the boy never meet eachother...I myself have witnessed this situation..so in this case how could we get to know all this stuff & personality of the guy, especially that if he is only going to take his parents side and not support you in any matter?? Plz reply or make a video on this topic soon.

Love it ❤❤❤❤

Thank You❤

I love you sister Nafeesah for the sake of Allah

Friendship is one thing. Marriage is another thing. Patience respectfulness is key to continue a marriage

this is so difficult. finding the right person seems like winning the lottery. makes me question why i should even be putting myself through this distress..

I overlooked this signs and it cost me a lot....I'm out now and inshaAllah praying for a man that would be the coolness of my eyes...thank you sis❤

Love the video so very much. You are so supposed.🌹 Alhamdulillah

Terjemahan dalam Bahasa Melayu: Ciri-ciri lelaki untuk di'reject' oleh wanita 1.Lelaki yang menganggap 50% kewangan perlu disumbangkan oleh wanita dalam menguruskan perbelanjaan rumah. 2. Mendera wanita secara fizikal, mental . Walaupun hanya sekali. 3. Lelaki yang sentiasa mengikut kata dan pendapat ibubapa dalam semua keadaan, tidak kira salah atau betul. 4. Meminta diri anda mengubah sesuatu perkara pada diri anda, jika tidak lelaki tersebut tidak mahu mengahwininya. Menunjukkan leaki tersebut suka mengawal wanita. 5. Lelaki yang tidak menghormati ahli keluarga/ ibubapa wanita. 6. Lelaki yang bekerja tetapi daripada sumber pekerjaan yang tidak halal walaupun sumber pendapatannya lumayan. Semoga bermanfaat.

I like the African vibes on this video 😂 you showed us another side of your personality ❤

A random stranger abused me at university once while fighting with someone else my brother physically came to my uni and beat his ass

Masha'Allah!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Let us remember whatever you put up with YOUR CHILDREN also have to put up with. It is ALL For them not for us we can't let them grow up in an abusive household.

Iye like your Philosophical views and your laughter too😂😊

What makes you go to Jannah is having the courage to walk away from an abuser.

Please can you do a video for sisters about getting an education. Today, many sisters are accepting weak men because the man is educated or what they consider as “rich”. Our sisters need to level up and we need them in every sector ❤

As salamou enleykum warhmatullah my sister nafissa I divorced about 4 months ago. I confirm all your statements, I lived with a man who was as you describe in the video. The worst he choosed his sister and his mother also over me knowing that they were unfair to me.

What if we are getting older and pressure is on. Do we compromise on some of what you advised?

This was very interesting. I'm in 2 minds....on one hand it's really good to marry young, in fact, it's preferred & I believe it's the best for a society as a whole. But thing is...when u are young, u don't really understand what red flags are, u'r so naive that u'r vulnerable, idk how to explain but thank God for mehrams who vet well