Aw, I understand. It's hard to sit through a whole church service, when you are not used to formal occasions and haven't been taught the expected social conventions, though. Fortunately, this is the couple's regular church, so the celebrants were not only used to them, but also looking forward to seeing them getting married: a little tolerance goes a long way.

Unfortunately, traveller children have not been taught the same rules or conventions, Susan, as the rest of society in general. Fortunately, though, this was the couple's regular church, where they were much loved and tolerated for their differences. Yes, it's hard to see when we do things differently and have certain expectations of behaviour, but essentially, it's not their fault, as they don't know any differently.

@Eudi2020 Hi there Eudi! I can't really answer your question for sure - about the bride looking up - but am guessing it's just her sunny personality, so a natural reflex action when smiling. As for the way the wedding guests were behaving inside the church, it wasn't a problem for any of the clergy, as this is the couple's regular church, so they were all well known. If you notice, they were actually looking forward to this wedding and said so as such, so no-one was offended. Travellers have their own ways of doing things. They don't mean to be disrespectful, but simply haven't ever learned to follow those particular social conventions. It requires a lot of self-discipline to stay seated quietly for over an hour anyway, doesn't it!

Thank you, Maria. I understand what you mean, but travellers simply haven't learned to follow the same rules of society as everyone else, so in general, this is normal behaviour at traveller weddings. If you haven't learned to behave in a certain way, then it's not going to come naturally, is it.. Fortunately, this is the bride's regular church, so the church leaders there know their families and are happy to welcome them into their flock. They were quite excited actually to see them married, so not at all judgmental.

Yes, sorry! I captured the bride and groom from the front, but the priest's sermon was recorded on a second camera that I set upon a tripod, at the back of the church, so naturally its captured all the guests talking too.

Thank you so much Angie! Yes, I also adored her beautifully feminine, lacy dress, which she did well to wear. She changed until a shorter one for the evening wedding reception, as do most brides as it must be quite tiring negotiating dance move with a long train.

Thanks for your sweet wishes, too, Angie. I'm very hopeful that this strong couple will do well in life together.

@ReelLifePhotos indeed. Changing outfits is the sensible thing to do. Also, much as the dress was stunning, I know (from experience) that there comes a time when you have had enough of its restrictions (going to the bathroom, for a start!! Lol!) Long life, happiness, and everything they wish for together!

@angietunstall2555 Exactly! That's always fun and games, often needing a helpful bridesmaid on hand!

It's a difficult situation. Self-discipline is not something travellers have been taught, so they have not been socialised the same way or have the same social expectations that other people have. It's hard to sit still and listen, anyway, isn't it.... I think the bride and groom did really well to sit still so long, though even they couldn't wait to ring outside, at the end. Did you watch that bit, Claire?

More fool the vicar for agreeing to hold the service for them.

Yes, it's hard to keep quiet during a long church service, particularly as they haven't learned otherwise. Sorry I didn't manage to cut the noise out.

Thank you, Fenrir, yes indeed! She also has a lovely personality.

@lynnreynolds4776 Absolutely! The bride and all her family were really lovely; great sense of fun, too!

@@lynnreynolds4776 Did you watch their wedding reception as well, Lynn?

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@@ReelLifePhotos I will do

@lynnreynolds4776 Great! Hope you enjoy it! There's also a little sequence when the cake was cut: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/aLCJhbKE2d6bn4U.html

No, you are mistaken. it's a genuine marriage. This is normal behaviour at traveller weddings. We went to the groom's brother's grave in the nearby cemetery for family photos afterwards, before going to their wedding reception. All the girls enjoyed dancing, but then one annoying little kid did something that you will see when I upload the wedding ceremony, once I've finished editing it.

You will find that they get embarrassed by attention especially the girls, they don’t even like a peck on the cheek by their husbands in public.

Exactly! It's just a pity that no-one else realises this, so they keep comparing their behaviour with what, in their own experience is "normal behaviour' at weddings.

It wasn't a Catholic Church, but I get your point. However, the vicar and the lady officiant were all very tolerant, and full of love fir their congregation, so let's not be so judgemental as travellers are simply differently socialised.

There not catholics

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Was that comment aimed at travellers or all people who choose to believe or follow a religion, Davey, or was it a personal insult at people expressing themselves here?

Have you seen many traveller weddings?

What was odd about it, please?

Not sure, Rosaleen, as I was using two cameras, so I would only have been looking closely at one, and it's a while since I edited it.

Good question, though!

Travellers are not allowed to be alone with a boy before their wedding, Cheryl. Church ceremonies are long, and even though they are Christians and regularly attend this church, they are young and eager to get to their wedding reception. Many of them are smokers too, and weddings are stressful. Cut them some slack, please.

Glad you liked her wedding dress, though! It was gorgeous, wasn't it! She's really beautiful too, bless her!

@@ReelLifePhotos oh wow! Well, I’m sorry to have been so judgmental! I should’ve read up on their ways before I said anything. Hopefully they will have a happy marriage

@@ReelLifePhotos yes she is, very stunning young lady

Thank you. That really makes a difference, Cheryl, bless you! xx

True, but they all had a good day once they got to the wedding reception. Travellers live by different social rules than the rest of us, so just ho with the flow.

True, but then theirs is a different way of life, with different social norms, and life would be boring if we were all the same, wouldn't it?

@@ReelLifePhotos totally agree👍. That's their culture and each to his own I always say,🤗

Exactly. Thank you! x

Maybe, maybe not. This was their regular church, and they are all much loved by the church officiants, as you might have noticed in the beginning when one mentions how much she was looking forward to see the bride getting married there, as were two old ladies who came on spec just to see the bride arrive wearing her wedding dress.

No good words of no bad words, Anne?

That's great to hear. Thank you so much, @missunderstood7830! It makes a change to receive a positive comment. xx

Really? I never noticed anyway...

It's hard for them, though, as they haven't been brought up to show self-discipline. They at least bring their children with them to weddings and spend time with them, in general.

@@ReelLifePhotos Stop making excuses for them, their not feral animals

Oh , Wow! That's amazing, Felicity! I had no idea that you were local! Thank you for you positive comment! xx

@@ReelLifePhotos aye I’m local. I’m surprised you don’t remember me from a while ago when I binged watched all your videos and I told you you didn’t need to reply to them all! I have some lovely memories from interactions with the travelling community. I wish other people would welcome them as I do they would be rewarded well with love, friendship and many tales! 🤍

@Felicity2121 Of course I remember you! Sorry if I missed some of your replies, though. I've only just discovered how to find replies to replies!

Well, yes, it's a Hummer/ limo, so that's the whole idea! It's great fun for the kids, too!

La gente simplemente no está acostumbrada a asistir a un servicio largo y formal. No es su culpa que no hayan aprendido las reglas esperadas de la sociedad en general.

kzfaq.info/get/bejne/fLCHpa6J3K7FfnU.html ¿Has visto la recepción de su boda?

True. They like to chatter...

It's hard for them to sit still through a long, formal occasion, basically because it's not something they have been taught or have it expected of them, I think.

@Madigan-gh4jg It takes young men time to work out when help is needed and when to stay quiet. I guess he was as keen as she was just get on with the party afterwards! He is a good man, though, as first they went to a nearby cemetery to pay their respects to his late brother.

Hi Joe, Don't worry. Travellers always do things a little differently. from what you might expect.. They are not allowed to be alone together before marriage, so it's perfectly normal for the bride and groom not to get emotional in public during their wedding ceremony. .

Thank you. Yes, she is one of my favourite traveller brides, as she has the most amazing smile! xx @kathlinmcdonagh5624

Thanks Amanda! I hope you manage to watch the last bit at the end, too. I've left most of the priest's sermon in, out of respect to the church, but it's also interesting to people watch...

Oh that's so funny! I must have missed that... Well he was certainly starting out how he meant to go on! My daughter did the opposite on her wedding day, so that her husband would know that he'd have to think for himself, and not expect her to mother him at all. (She brought provisions just for herself on their wedding night, so he was left hungry!)

Hi Debbie, that's probably because I had a second camera capturing the view from the back. Even in schools, the bored/ disruptive pupils tend to sit at the back, don't they. It was a long day for everyone. They all couldn't wait to get to the party afterwards, which is normal.

True, but then how many people have the patience to sit through long speeches/ sermons?

@@ellenlyons4090 I think they were both just really keen to get out of there to have a smoke! They'll mature together of time, though!

@@ellenlyons4090 Thanks for your kind wishes, of course!

Really? They were a very genuine and happy family, so I didn't see anything like that while I was with them, and it was certainly not my intention either.

Of course!! 100% agree!

I'll be uploading that part in a month or so, though.

They both run out really quickly, as are desperate for a smoke! They are a lively, and independent couple who don't do anything the traditional way!

Travellers love to pout, in common with many young people their age!

So don't worry, Rose. They are one of a kind!

PS, the vicar was lovely, so I think they are used to the travelling community being a bit lively and behaving differently from mainstream people.

@kathyminassian1375 Yes, that's normal, as they have their own relaxed ways of doing things. It's a day out , away from home, a chance to dress up, so they want to enjoy themselves.

Thanks. Some people only see people's lives in comparison to their own, and fail to be tolerant of differences, unfortunately. I love traveller weddings, for their uncomplicated, genuine actions and sense of colourful exuberance! Long may they continue their independently unique way of living!

Oh, some on! Her whole family were lovely! You must know by now that travellers don't follow the same social etiquette as other people in the wider community.. The rest of your comment is actually very rude, as making public personal comments about someone's appearance can be seen as being very hurtful.

@ReelLifePhotos too bad I things how they are. We don't have gypsies where I live, so nothing I say is rude so shove that where the sun don't shine

Sadly, your reply shows more about you than the participants of this wedding. They had better manners!

You are the “bloody rude” one. Look into the traveller background before passing a comment like that!😡

@Felicity2121 Well said, Felicity. I think they don't understand that you can't expect travellers to behave the same as you do, as they simply haven't been taught to be like us. They are like themselves, so have different ways of doing things, different expectations of life too.

@Whitedove6 Yes she was a really fun bride, too. Travellers tend to be exhuberant and not to have learned the same social skills, so it's understandable that the guests didn't behave thd same was as you would have expected from mainstream cultures..

Now, that is an excellent point, Michelle. I can't say for certain, but I guess that weddings are more of a wonan's thing. They also sit separately at wedding receptions anyway. Some of the men just go to the reception, instead, as they only enjoy the drinking a socialising part!

Not many men dressed up.

@josephhetherington7318 Yes, you are right. Its just not the men's tradition - unless they are part of the wedding party. The woman, though, all love the opportunity to dress up!

Well there's no need to be. "Each to their own", as the saying goes, and this is their own way of doing things. Always expect the unexpected!

Probably red bull, but not sure...

Aw, well, almost. (Coral-Anne)

Thanks for your comment, anyway, Christine.

I'm sure they knew it, but chose not to say ot outloud

Well, it's her wedding day, so just for one day, why not allow her to feel like a princess? That's what many little traveller girls dream of from a young child onwards... She did change out of it pretty quickly, though, during the reception, so check that out too, if you like? kzfaq.info/get/bejne/fLCHpa6J3K7FfnU.html

It hard for them to keep quiet as they are not used to that.

I think, from your style of writing, that you are from the US, Cheryl, so very outspoken?

@@ReelLifePhotosit’s the geez that gives it away😂

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@@ReelLifePhotos yes I am, Texas! Yea, I am very outspoken, to a fault I suppose but I just don’t understand how they even got married, they literally looked miserable up there at the altar, didn’t even look at one another and if they are gonna spend so much money on the wedding they at least could’ve pretended to be happy and spare alittle for a pedi! One more thing….. the bride is absolutely gorgeous though, her eyes are beautiful

​@@cherylmiller1970you don't understand their customs or their lifestyle, and griping about someones moles and lack of pedicure is just plain gutteral.

Well, maybe by a certain code of conduct, but definitely not by the ways they have themselves. If they don't know your codes of conduct, how can they be expected to adhere to them?

Why? They have a different way of doing things. Look at the two lovely old ladies for inspiration. They are not travellers, but actually know these people, so turned up outside the church , just to see them and to wish them well. The bride and groom are a delightful couple, and I, for one, wish them a long and happy life together

Well, Angel, no-ones perfect, and at least they had a church wedding, and in the eyes of God, all are equal, aren't they? They are just exuberant, colourful people! The thumb symbol also has a different meaning for Travellers, so please don't be offended, as its very much part of their traditions.

@@ReelLifePhotos My apologies. I didn't mean to offend. I was raised in a Christian church that's very demure and I'm clearly not used to this. But, I thank you for pointing out the differences and explaining a little bit about their culture and lifestyle. I'm sure they had a fun filled day. Have a nice afternoon. 🤍🪽

@angeltears2586 Ah, bless you! Yes, I realised that your feedback was from a very personal point of view. Travellers can shock some people, but although no one culture is perfect, I always love gypsy weddings! My next one is on 3 August 24, so am really looking forward to that one too! Thank you @angeltears2568

@@ReelLifePhotos May I ask if you are the photographer of these events ór may I follow your work and views somehow?

Yes, I usually do both the video and the photos.. You can follow me on instagram, Facebook, and here on KZfaq so @ReelLifePhotos . The exact FB address is facebook.com/destination.wedding.photographer.uk . Look for the same logo as you see here on Facebook, but on Instagram is a photo of my face taken by my husband!

That's how traveller grooms usually stand, so I wouldn't let it worry you.

Thank you. Yes, they always dress up really well, but also on general, the men less so, as weddings are not their thing. I know it's a pity they haven't learned to be quiet, but formal occasions again are not something they treat the same as we'd expect. Travellers are different, and that's why all those watching this found something of interest to see or to comment on.